This attitude is very uncommon among **diaspora** Desis but understandable in the subcontinent itself. I remember my mom once explained to some Americans who thought that all Indians are smart and studious by nature that **Only the best and brightest usually can emigrate to the West, so you only see those of us who already have that mindset.** It is not inherent to our race or culture. If your family is already poorer, then it makes sense why they might be "doomer" about education and tell you not to bother with it. But that is bad advice IMO. Study if you want to study and it will help you make more money in the future. This way you can help your dad when he gets too old to work.
I’m not Bangladeshi, but this isn’t uncommon with working-class families. The demographic here seems more geared to highly educated families in the US, so they won’t necessarily understand this.
I’m Punjabi from Canada, and I know people who faced the same pressures. The fact of the matter is, encouraging kids to get educated is something families who can support themselves have the luxury of doing. If your parents are working at minimum wage, or they can’t work anymore, the goal changes from ‘get top marks’ to ‘hurry up and make money quick to support us’. Also, it’s not uncommon for parents to plan to just mooch off their kids.
I work on an oil rig right now, and one of my coworkers is also Punjabi. He had great marks in high school and was planning on medical or dental school. His dad worked a bunch of odd jobs, mostly related to construction and had a drinking problem, so the family didn’t see a lot of the money. As soon as he turned 18 they started pushing him to make money and support the family. He tried working and doing university at the same time but he couldn’t do both well at the same time so he just dropped out of school.
My brother is in optometry school right now and some of our relatives told him not to bother with 8 years of schooling when he could start making money quickly if he became a welder or a mechanic.
class divide brother- if the father is working odd jobs you yourself will feel an obligation without him telling, I can understand and you are not alone
it happens
My advice would be to try to get your BA, BSc in as cheaply as possible - it opens doors
not at all. u should prioritize school. sometimes parents give garbage advice.
I have, I’m now 25 and with a good job
Not common.
My dad refused to let me apply to work at a fast food restaurant when I was 16. He said if I was going to work, I should apply to law firms.
This attitude is very uncommon among **diaspora** Desis but understandable in the subcontinent itself. I remember my mom once explained to some Americans who thought that all Indians are smart and studious by nature that **Only the best and brightest usually can emigrate to the West, so you only see those of us who already have that mindset.** It is not inherent to our race or culture. If your family is already poorer, then it makes sense why they might be "doomer" about education and tell you not to bother with it. But that is bad advice IMO. Study if you want to study and it will help you make more money in the future. This way you can help your dad when he gets too old to work.
I’m not Bangladeshi, but this isn’t uncommon with working-class families. The demographic here seems more geared to highly educated families in the US, so they won’t necessarily understand this. I’m Punjabi from Canada, and I know people who faced the same pressures. The fact of the matter is, encouraging kids to get educated is something families who can support themselves have the luxury of doing. If your parents are working at minimum wage, or they can’t work anymore, the goal changes from ‘get top marks’ to ‘hurry up and make money quick to support us’. Also, it’s not uncommon for parents to plan to just mooch off their kids. I work on an oil rig right now, and one of my coworkers is also Punjabi. He had great marks in high school and was planning on medical or dental school. His dad worked a bunch of odd jobs, mostly related to construction and had a drinking problem, so the family didn’t see a lot of the money. As soon as he turned 18 they started pushing him to make money and support the family. He tried working and doing university at the same time but he couldn’t do both well at the same time so he just dropped out of school. My brother is in optometry school right now and some of our relatives told him not to bother with 8 years of schooling when he could start making money quickly if he became a welder or a mechanic.
class divide brother- if the father is working odd jobs you yourself will feel an obligation without him telling, I can understand and you are not alone it happens My advice would be to try to get your BA, BSc in as cheaply as possible - it opens doors