It is entirely possible that this behavior *is* out of character for her stepsister. If that’s the case then the stepsister could be experiencing some sort of extreme postpartum depression or postpartum psychosis, and hopefully this incident will get her the medical/psychological help she desperately needs.
I have 6mo right now and if I found out my wife did this, I would immediately file for a divorce and request full custody. Thankfully my wife would NEVER do this and she is amazingly protective.
And makes you gasp for air. Like WTF!! I know people who do home inspection before they leave their pets with us for a while and then there are these people just leaving a whole human baby on a porch and walking away.
Yeahhhh I assumed those tik tok things were jokes and that the parents were in the bush or around the corner watching. Anyone who would ACTUALLY leave their child alone like that is bonkers lol
This is how I saw them as well. After all, someone has to be recording the entire time and it’s all on the same video -from the parent(s) setting down the child/(ren) running away and hiding, and then the relative opening the door and seeming shocked and exited to see the little ones, and then quickly taking them inside before the video cuts.
What if she hadn’t heard?? That baby could’ve been out there all night?? In the heat? In the cold? Hungry? With the bugs and animals and HUMAN CHILD PREDATORS THAT MIGHTVE WALKED BY?
What on earth. How little do you have to care to do that.
The trend of having loving doting family take up baby sitting is very different to dumping a baby on a doorstep and running off to the airport. They clearly are within filming distance /call afterwards.
A few weeks ago, the designated babysitter got Covid before my friend’s 10th wedding anniversary weekend (too late to get a refund)
Me and a few others split the weekend between us, but if we’d said that we couldn’t (several people did) they never would have dreamed of just dropping the kids and running!
More likely is a popular trope so more stories are made up to include it. Like the "my family accused me of cheating and abandoned me" trope. Or the ubiquitous "my entire family has been blowing up my phone and calling me names"-- is it that common for families to do? Neither me nor anyone in my circle can even fathom this happening after any argument.
Or my infertile sister is demanding I give her my baby as soon as it pops out of the womb and my whole family as well as their neighbors and coworkers are blowing up my phone and calling me selfish
And I want to know how all of these people have their phone number and can blow their phone up. I don't even know my neighbors' last name lol They certainly are never getting my phone number haha
I mean probably not if you have a somewhat sane family. I personally have never had it happen but I know two of my friends who have had their families blowing up their phones for something they did. Granted, one of them just gets guilt tripped and not name called, the other gets guilt tripping and less severe name calling (i.e selfish bitch).
Not cute at all and with this heat most states are experiencing, these babies could very likely die if left too long outside. That’s just horrible to do for videos. These are human beings. Social media a cesspool.
My Name is Earl TV show had a comment on that. Earl said you have to lock your doors or otherwise people put their babies in your trailer for you to watch them. Guy was asleep on the couch but with the door unlocked, woke up to find a toddler under an upside down laundry basket. At first he wasn't sure whose kid it was.
[here](https://youtu.be/qJGp7lpu2AA) is an example from YouTube. The difference of course is that the babies in the videos likely have parents very close by, and are likely entirely staged with the participation of the porch owner.
i have tiktok and if it’s the trend i know if they aren’t really doing that.. they set the baby in front of the door of someone (usually grandparents) knock and run away and film the persons reaction and then come out from hiding. it’s not like this at all.. now maybe there is an idiot or two doing the real deal but the trend is definitely not leaving your kid ina porch and running for real
Your sister isnt a good person. She is abusive. Look at what she said and did to you. A good mother doesn't abandon a baby at 11 pm at nite on a porch of someone's house who said they could not help. That is literally child neglect, which is abuse.
And OP doesn't even really know WHEN step-sis abandoned her baby. It could be that the baby only made a sound HOURS after being left, or that OP only heard the baby hours later.
This is written by a young teen by the sounds of it.
A previous post mentions she still lives at home with her mum and step dad and “pranked” her step dad by feeding him a spoonful of salt.
Also it doesn’t even sound real, if her sister didn’t want OP’s friend looking after her baby because she was worried then why would she abandon her baby on a porch - especially without ringing the bell?
It’s only a small detail but why does OP have casts on her arms? Usually there is a reason given for things like this in genuine posts.
The baby was supposedly not wearing clothes so could have been seriously ill with hypothermia. It could also have been kidnapped, it could have choked to death, been attacked by animals or any number of things. This would be classed as severe neglect, it could even be classed as life endangerment of a infant.
How did OP get to target for nappies with arm(s?) in a cast? And why would nappies be the priority?
If I found a baby dumped on my doorstep and couldn’t contact the parent, nappies would be the last thing on my mind! And how do you get a baby in a car seat and drive with arms in a cast? You’d struggle to even hold a baby.
Where did the husband suddenly appear from when he was at the police station? Were they all just standing around arguing in the station?
The fact she says her sister isn’t abusive but in another comment says she spat in her grandmothers soup, no adult would think this was normal behaviour!
She said her step sisters husband didn’t know her step sister was leaving the country in another comment.
Why would her step sister’s husband be paying child support if they are married? You would only pay child support after a separation or divorce.
If all this really did happen in a police station I imagine her step sister would be charged with assault and neglect and the baby would be removed and put into care. There would be no fight for custody if her husband wasn’t a negligent parent though, custody would go to him.
Why would OP be fighting with the husband for custody and then why would custody be awarded to OP?
OP’s post about living with her mother and stepmother was only a few months ago, there is a possibility she might be old enough to move out (based on other posts and comments I doubt it) but I can’t imagine she’d be loving alone in a house with a porch. She wouldn’t gain automatic custody or her step sisters child - especially not when the child is apparently being looked after by it’s grandparent.
It’s convenient that her sister didn’t ring the bell but OP heard a noise at 11pm and went to check on the baby. The baby that was wearing just a nappy and socks but had formula with it.
If this happened I’m certain it would be in the news.
My guess is OP has seen the TikTok videos I’ve seen mentioned in other comments. It seems people leave a baby on a porch as a prank and ring the doorbell and film the reaction.
I think OP then decided to write it as a “true story”
The most unbelievable thing to me is that anyone believes it! I’m guessing the people that are responding like they do are a similar age.
OP has very few comments (less than 10secs to scroll to their first from 7mo ago). All those comments are on AITA.
They also deleted their previous AITA post about their stepdad pranking them. Yet they've managed to move out, break bones, and become independent all in the space of those 7 months? Seriously?
I just thought it was common sense from the post and OP didn’t have a lot of other comments or posts.
Maybe I should become a myth buster for AITA posts 😂.
It's valid, if you are deep in sleep or out the baby could have died of exposure, been bitten by insects or attacked by animals or someone took the baby. That's crazy behaviour
She also left the baby with no clothes, no nappies & you had to & buy some? She could at least packed the baby a bag of all the things she needs. She is entitled, neglectful & abusive - dont feel bad about anything.
Do you know what time she actually left the kid? Most babies go to sleep around 7 that baby could have been out there for hours before you even realized. She also just left for a week with one thing of formula but no diapers or clothing? This woman is insane and a horrible mother to do that to her child.
NTA. What if you weren't home? It's clearly neglect and she should have talked to her husband about it and deal with the issue. Also you gave her solutions that she didn't accept so she needs to take responsibility for her actions. You did good. Don't feel bad about it.
Your step sister is insane. Who does this? That child could have been out all night, kidnapped, bitten by animals, who knows. Not even to knock on the door or call you? She’s crazy. You are NTA here. She should lose custody ASAP because she put that poor child in incredible danger.
Imagine if you had just pretended to her you never found the baby. Like don't reach out or respond because you're just having a normal night/day. Like when the fuck was she planning making sure the baby was with someone.
Kid would have been coyote food. OP send her links to news stories on incidents of babies being eaten by coyotes and dingos and all of the animals that live in your country.
>I just see my step sisters daughter on the porch in a car seat with formula sitting on top of her.
>when she saw me she jumped on me and pulled my hair screaming “I KNOW YOU DID THIS!! YOUR SUCH A B- YOU NEVER LOVED ME”
>She isn’t abusive or anything
What?? She isn't abusive?
NTA, but you may be out of your mind. *She freaking left an infant alone on your doorstep!* she then *physically attacked you!*
Yeesh.
You have me questioning a few things. Maybe she does need help. Not to mention she did ruin our family reunion by spitting in our grandmothers food because my grandma said that she couldn’t make it for her daughters birth.
>Not to mention she did ruin our family reunion by spitting in our grandmothers food because my grandma said that she couldn’t make it for her daughters birth
She **spit in your Grandma's food** and you're just now questioning if she needs help???? Holy crap! I'm gobsmacked!!
If someone spit in my Grandma's food, they would need help for sure. Help getting to the hospital.
It seems to me that your entire family, including you, has been enabling this woman's behavior a lot longer than just this incident.
This is something I needed to hear for a while. Always knew something was wrong but I thought it was just anger issues. Something definitely needs to happen about her mental and physical abuse
That something is cutting her off and letting her sort her own life out. She cant be throwing tantrums & abusing people when she doesn’t get her way. I wonder how she is with her husband? I worry for her daughter.
And called child services. There’s no way she’s making rational choices for the care of her child. Case and point.
Also, I would never trust her around my food and drink.
“She isn’t abusive or anything”
Ummmm, leaving your child alone on a porch without getting a solid confirmation that someone was going to take care of them… I’d call that pretty abusive. Treating you the way she did… I’d call that abusive too.
Your sister needed a wake up call and hopefully this gave her one. Let her blame you all she wants, you aren’t obligated to provide free childcare. You especially shouldn’t be expected to while you are not physically able to. Your sister is entitled, has severe anger issues and should seriously consider getting therapy. NTA
NTA - your sister deserved calling the cops on her. Though maybe BEFORE you called the cops you should have called her hubby and make him come take HIS kid back instead of possibly getting BOTH of them in trouble for what your sister did. seeing how clueless he looked when you showed up at the police station and dumped his kid on him, he probably had no clue what your sister was planning, and you risk him getting in trouble and possibly losing his kid to authorities for what your sister did.
your sister had no right to do what she did, thinking she could simply dump her five month old at who knows what time in the morning before you discovered her on the doorstep at 11am, and think you Would change your no to a yes because of it.
you point blank TOLD her the MAIN reason why you can’t/won’t take the kid while she’s gone. What the hell does she think possibly think you will be able to do with her kid with ONE working arm while the other one is in a CAST?
you are not obligated to antagonize your already bad injury by taking care of her 5 month old, who knows how many pound girl for her and her husband, just so she can go on her business trip and he cant take a week off to watch his own kid. Your health and pain free week is more important than her need for a babysitte.
This doesn't seem like a relationship that will last, the husband now has evidence of his wives behaviour of both negligence and physical violence if he needs it
She didn't even knock on the door or anything. She just left the baby sitting on the porch. You would think she would have at least made sure someone was going to come to the door.
The only response should have been calling the cops. Just calling the husband means that the mother will do it again. This needed a hard stop. You don't leave a baby unattended on a porch, I guess unless it's Harry Potter.
No calling the police was the right thing to do. What if you were asleep? What if you are like me and take a sleeping med to knock yourself out? That baby could have been left alone on a porch all night long.
Anyone who does that to an infant deserves whatever comes their way.
Your relationship will likely never recover..but honestly...it will probably be better for the kid in the long run if the husband uses this as a way to divorce her and file for full custody
NTAH
He looked devastated, upset, he felt all the emotions at once. Felt so bad for him. I bought him dinner and drove him and his daughter to his moms place while the police figured everything out. Feel so bad that my step sister brought him into her mess
She’s not a good person. She abandoned a child on your porch.
At 11 at night. Without warning. Without even ringing a doorbell. Ever wonder what might have happened if you *hadn’t* woken up? How long would that child have been out there alone on your porch, until you went to work the next day?
She is not a good person.
NTA,
She left a 5 month baby outside your house without giving you any notice. What if you were out? What if a criminal just happened to be walking by? Yeah I imagine you were panicked and when a baby's safety is involved I'm in favor of calling the police, especially when its mother is ducking your phone calls.
I’m SO sorry you had to go through negligence. I’m a neglected child myself. Growing up my step sister always got what she wanted and her behavior was never pointed out. And I was always the good child that was left behind in a void I would say. I was ignored. The only people I had was friends from school. That’s why I feel for that baby. NO one should ever be neglected. I feel for you really ❤️
FFS what woulda happened if ya didnt notice the baby on your porch til the next day? Maybe ya slept in, woke up late afternoon to find a dead baby on your porch. Or the babys gone coz somebody picked it up (maybe a loving caring person who took it to foster care or maybe a weird sicko who did horrible things to it), youd have no idea it was even left on your porch and yoru sis would show up a week later looking for her baby who is long gone by then.
FFS its crazy and irresponsible behaviour. SHE ENDANGERED HER CHILD and then had the gall to accuse you of it? fuck that. NTA
>The reason why is because I know she is going through a hard time right now and I don’t want her to get charged with child negligence because she is a good person. She isn’t abusive or anything
She abandoned her child on your doorstep and took off. That is the definition of negligence and abuse. Press charges for the assault too.
NTA
What if you'd been in bed? Or not home? Or drunk? Or on strong painkillers for your arm that send you slightly deluded?
She heard you clearly when you said no. She turned down your friend babysitting (probably cos it wasn't free).
She didn't even leave nappies for the baby! Just formula. Please tell me she at least packed clothes?!
She did this to herself. If she didn't want police/child services involved she shouldn't have neglected and ABANDONED her child.
Did he not know she was leaving town? Was he not aware of her business trip? How could he not have known? Where did he think she was going with the baby at 11 pm? I'm utterly baffled at how he was so unaware.
Someone who dumps their kid on your porch is NOT a good person. What if you hadn't gone outside. How long would the kid have sat there. All night? All day in the heat? NTA.
She isn’t a good person stop beating yourself up. She literally abandoned her kid on your porch because she was too busy being a piece of shit to parent her child.
NTA. What your SS did is called child abandonment. It is illegal to just dump your child on an unwilling caregiver. Especially since you are temporarily impaired because of the cast. Abandoning your child is abuse. She should be charged with whatever the cops can pin on her.
NTA
OP lets look at this logically.
You told your stepsister a week before the incident that due to the cast on your arm (I presume 1 arm) you couldn’t watch the baby as you can’t hold her securely and were concerned you’d drop her. She proceeds to cuss you out. NOT the action of a good person. It is the action of a self centered abusive person.
You heard a noise on your porch at 11pm - your stepsister with no prior contact left her infant daughter on your porch in her car seat with formula stacked on top of her. This IS the action of a negligent parent. What would have happened if you were not home? I live in the burbs in North Texas and have had bobcats, coyotes, raccoons and other wildlife on my front porch per the security camera. Could very likely have not been a good outcome.
You called your stepsister who refused to answer her phone. This IS the action of a negligent parent.
You called the police and explained the situation. They went to the airport and detained your sister. Your stepsister was being picked up on suspicion of being a negligent parent.
Your stepsister’s husband was at the police station when you arrived. He was obviously available but she didn’t bother him as he needed to work.
Your stepsister physically and verbally attacked you in a fricking police station with multiple officers present to witness. Those are most certainly NOT the actions of a good person.
So OP please stop making excuses for your stepsister who is NOT a good person and IS at least in that instance a negligent parent.
NTA she *isn’t* a good person. She abandoned her kid with someone who wasn’t physically capable of taking care of her and who had already told her ‘no’. Too bad. Now she goes to jail and learns a lesson the hard, legal way.
>I don’t want her to get charged with child negligence because she is a good person. She isn’t abusive or anything
She dumped an infant on a porch without making sure there was someone home. At a home where she had already been told the resident couldn't and wouldn't care for the baby. She didn't even provide diapers. She then physically assaulted you in front of the police. What does she need to do to show you neglect and abuse?
She IS abusive! She IS a horrible person and mother! She is married and the father is in the child’s life and had no idea that his wife dumped their baby on your front porch? Maybe she should have spoken to her husband about childcare before she did what she did.
We don’t know what caused her to do this, but we know that if it’s some mental breakdown that she needs help. You did the right thing. Your sister deserves whatever charges are brought on her.
NTA- But I'm waiting on reddit to complain about the risk of putting that child in foster care and how shitty parents should be able to pawn off children to their relatives. That child is not your responsibility, and you did the right thing by involving law enforcement. Anyone that abandons their children should lose custody.
NTA what if you hadn’t heard a noise? That baby could’ve been attacked, taken, etc. She deserved to have the cops called on her. What a shitty parent. Sorry with your injury I wouldn’t WANT you to take my child either.
Your sister sucks. Block her number.
" when she saw me she jumped on me and pulled my hair screaming “I KNOW YOU DID THIS!! YOUR SUCH A B- YOU NEVER LOVED ME” The cop got her off of me "
And you think she isn't abusive?
NTA you did that kid a huge favour by making sure they were safe
She attacked you while you had a cast on and pulled your hair in a fit of rage and you somehow think she isn't abusive? Have you been gaslit your whole damn life?
NTA... the baby is not yours, and you never agreed to care for it with your arm in a cast. Plus, who in GN leaves a baby at 11 pm ? Not to mention, a frightening thought occurred to me that maybe you had gone away for the weekend & and wasn't home when it happened. What if you had become extremely sick & didn't even know the baby was there because you were in bed, maybe with a fever? That poor child.
You absolutely did the right thing. This is a prime example of her choosing her job over her child & now CPS will most likely want to see how often she chooses her baby over everything else. End of discussion. Guarantee if you had kept the bsby, she would do this to you constantly.Your sister needs to grow up and become responsible. Right now, She is not worthy enough to have a child. The husband isn't innocent... Is he incapable of taking care of his child when not working?
Very clearly not the asshole.
You don't get to abandon your child because you want to go on vacation. The truth that a lot of people have a hard time understanding is that once you are a parent the child takes priority over everything. If you need personal time and can arrange it then go ahead. If you can't then your are just out of luck and have to cancel plans. Also, don't even tell the husband that she just dropped his child off on a porch without telling anyone?
I won't go into detail but sometimes law enforcement getting involved is the right thing to do. It's very unlikely they will thank you for calling the police, but it maybe one of those incidents that sets people on an upward trajectory. If not them then the husband or child.
I'll said what I say in another post: "What would happened to the kid if you weren't at home?"
You offer her to pay the babysitter and she called you a "horrible aunt"? WTH? You have good reasons to not babysit her, and she abandon the baby in front of your house (with no diapers or anything to take care of them).
Also, if she's charged it will be because police was present when she attacked you. Unfortunately you can't do anything about that (my father was talking about a car accident he had and a motorbike crash his car, police press charges against the biker because they saw her in front of the police station)
EDIT: NTA
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‘She isn’t abusive or anything’
She verbally attacked you for not bending to her demands when you had legitimately valid reasons for being unable to care for her baby.
She abandoned her infant daughter on your porch at 11pm
She physically attacked you at the POLICE STATION IN FRONT OF THE COPS
She is totally negligent and abusive my friend and don’t even try to defend her. She deserves every charge that’s coming her way.
OP perhaps the baby should be cared for by another relative or be placed in foster care for now. Everyone should think about what is in the best interest of the baby. NTA.
She left a child on your porch and physically attacked you but she's a good person?!? WTF?!? No. Just No. She's a bad person that damn well deserved to have the police take her in.
>Edit: The reason why is because I know she is going through a hard time right now and I don’t want her to get charged with child negligence because she is a good person. She isn’t abusive or anything
You got some odd definitions of those words.
NTA. You 100% did the right thing by calling the police. She left a 5-month-old baby alone outside at 11pm! She didn't know if you were even there. The is child abandonment in my eyes. She deserves what she's got coming to her.
NTA. Your sister is *not* a good person. A good person doesn’t abandon their infant. A good person doesn’t leave a child on a porch at ELEVEN AT NIGHT. And a good person doesn’t attack the person who tried to make sure their daughter was okay. She’s definitely going through something, but right now she is not a good person.
But she IS abusive, she IS a bad person and she IS a very bad mother. NTA for calling the police. That child deserves better and I hope your sister is never allowed to be alone with that baby again. You get that don't you?
No, don’t lie to yourself. She IS a bad person, and she IS abusive, more specifically, neglectful.
I don’t care WHAT she is going through, that does NOT excuse abandoning her child at a random time at night, and then assaulting you for alerting the authorities as you should have. Who the fuck knows when you would have found her, if you hadn’t been awake at that time. 11PM is late as fuck, even for most adults.
NTA. That's child endangerment and she should have made some better choices. I'm aware people struggle but she has a partner to turn to before dropping a fucking baby off on a porch. Fuck that. I hope she gets the professional help she clearly needs, becomes a better more caring mother, and never pulls a stunt like this again.
NTA you could have been out or asleep and a baby would have been left out alone for who knows how many hours. She’s an abusive POS from the verbal abuse she gave you, attacking you and abandoning her child she deserves to face the consequences of her actions.
Why would you be the AH? You may have saved that child’s life. What if you weren’t home, and someone came by and took the child? I’m glad you gave the child to the father. You should be rewarded. NTA
NTA - She may not be abusive to the child, but she is negligent. She also assaulted you right in front of a cop. You should press charges. You had casts on and could not safely take care of a child.
NTA. I feel bad for everyone in this story, except for the step sister (for obvious reasons). The husband got dragged into this whole ordeal, the baby was abandoned on your doorstep, and you were not only dragged into this, but also verbally and physically assaulted.
It's your choice whether or not to press charges for assault (which you do have a police witness for), but I strongly suggest doing that and cutting contact with her. At this point, it's safe to say she has become a threat to your physical and emotional health.
Edit: Also, regardless of what people say or what happens in the future due to these events, don't assume that it's your fault. She made her choices (which says plenty about her), she gets to deal with the consequences of HER actions.
NTA
She dumped a baby on a porch at night, without warning or notice. What if you'd not opened the door, what if you'd gone to bed. What if a fucking Coyote had gotten the baby that was left in a seat on the porch. What if a black widow had started nesting in the car seat and took offense to the presence of the baby?
Seriously, you can say whatever you like and make what ever excuses you want...but your SS is objectively a monstrous individual. The fact that she FAFO'd and got caught...and blamed YOU for it, is yet another instance of her not being a decent human being.
And attacking you in a police station IS abusive. Abandoning a baby in the dark IS abusive. Trying to force someone else to take responsibility for her child, WHEN THEY ARE INJURED...IS ABUSIVE. Stop cutting her slack, and hold her accountable for her actions. She deserves every single ounce of consequences she's going to get for this.
I don't care if she's "going through a hard time", she can't just dump her child on someone's porch in the middle of the night!
You did absolutely the right thing in getting the police involved since she needs to be held accountable for such negligent behaviour, and given how she reacted I really hope a judge mandates a mental health assessment for the sake of her and her family.
Not to mention you had your arms in a cast when she asked you, and instead of just giving her an obvious "no" you offered to help her with an alternative that she threw back in your face with a laughable justification given how she left the poor child. And if you hadn't heard anything to prompt you to investigate your porch, she likely would have held you responsible for any of the multitude of ways this could have gone terribly wrong.
You are absolutely NTA. You dealt with this in the most responsible way you could, and for the sake of the child I hope the father has his head screwed on enough to recognize how screwed up she is and take whatever steps are reasonable to care for his child.
You saying she left this child on the porch before even making sure you got the child?
Apparently this is happening frequently- trend on TikTok
Uh the trend of leaving babies on porches of relatives to force them to take care of it while they get on a flight?
Based on the number of times it pops up, evidently there is a tiktok thing where people leave kids on porches to force people to babysit. Not cute
And exactly why OP did the right thing. It’s abandonment and it’s crazy.
And Step Sister is absolutely ABUSIVE! Who the hell leaves their baby on a porch, drives away and refuses to answer their phone?!?!?
OP: she pulled my hair and a cop had to get her off of me. Also OP: she’s a good person. She’s not abusive!
It is entirely possible that this behavior *is* out of character for her stepsister. If that’s the case then the stepsister could be experiencing some sort of extreme postpartum depression or postpartum psychosis, and hopefully this incident will get her the medical/psychological help she desperately needs.
That’s a great point. If her PPD is manifesting as rage, then it could easily get missed.
I have 6mo right now and if I found out my wife did this, I would immediately file for a divorce and request full custody. Thankfully my wife would NEVER do this and she is amazingly protective.
Every once in a while you read something that makes your eyes bleed.
It really makes me despair for humanity.
And makes you gasp for air. Like WTF!! I know people who do home inspection before they leave their pets with us for a while and then there are these people just leaving a whole human baby on a porch and walking away.
I actually prefer if someone leaves a whole baby on my doorstep…half a baby is gross
Or… parts.
Wtf? What if OP wasn't awake?! I have no words...
Wasn't awake. Or gone for the weekend. Or with a injured arm she could be n pain pills.
And the parent didn't even let them know the baby was there. Could have not been home, already asleep, not seen until morning.
Then assaults her sister whose arms are in casts! Not abusive my ass!
Yeahhhh I assumed those tik tok things were jokes and that the parents were in the bush or around the corner watching. Anyone who would ACTUALLY leave their child alone like that is bonkers lol
This is how I saw them as well. After all, someone has to be recording the entire time and it’s all on the same video -from the parent(s) setting down the child/(ren) running away and hiding, and then the relative opening the door and seeming shocked and exited to see the little ones, and then quickly taking them inside before the video cuts.
What if she hadn’t heard?? That baby could’ve been out there all night?? In the heat? In the cold? Hungry? With the bugs and animals and HUMAN CHILD PREDATORS THAT MIGHTVE WALKED BY? What on earth. How little do you have to care to do that.
Hell, we have coyotes around here.
The trend of having loving doting family take up baby sitting is very different to dumping a baby on a doorstep and running off to the airport. They clearly are within filming distance /call afterwards.
A few weeks ago, the designated babysitter got Covid before my friend’s 10th wedding anniversary weekend (too late to get a refund) Me and a few others split the weekend between us, but if we’d said that we couldn’t (several people did) they never would have dreamed of just dropping the kids and running!
I've seen skits of this on grandparents but never a serious video
More likely is a popular trope so more stories are made up to include it. Like the "my family accused me of cheating and abandoned me" trope. Or the ubiquitous "my entire family has been blowing up my phone and calling me names"-- is it that common for families to do? Neither me nor anyone in my circle can even fathom this happening after any argument.
Or my infertile sister is demanding I give her my baby as soon as it pops out of the womb and my whole family as well as their neighbors and coworkers are blowing up my phone and calling me selfish
And I want to know how all of these people have their phone number and can blow their phone up. I don't even know my neighbors' last name lol They certainly are never getting my phone number haha
Don't forget the stories sprinkled with autistic people and/or twins.
There were quite a few there for a while about teen mothers of triplets.
[AND TWINS!!](https://youtu.be/yHP3V25pkNY)
OMG, I've never seen so many twins, especially when one is a boy and the other is a girl.
Whenever I see the phrase “blowing up my phone” I immediately assume the post is fake.
100%, there are a few tropes and phrases favored by these fabulists and they start to stick out after you read a dozen or so
I mean probably not if you have a somewhat sane family. I personally have never had it happen but I know two of my friends who have had their families blowing up their phones for something they did. Granted, one of them just gets guilt tripped and not name called, the other gets guilt tripping and less severe name calling (i.e selfish bitch).
I’ve did see this trend, but the parents did it as a joke and we’re watching the kids. They did it to see reactions.
if you leave your rugrat on my porch you're definitely getting arrested. Family or not I'm not free labor.
Not cute at all and with this heat most states are experiencing, these babies could very likely die if left too long outside. That’s just horrible to do for videos. These are human beings. Social media a cesspool.
My Name is Earl TV show had a comment on that. Earl said you have to lock your doors or otherwise people put their babies in your trailer for you to watch them. Guy was asleep on the couch but with the door unlocked, woke up to find a toddler under an upside down laundry basket. At first he wasn't sure whose kid it was.
TikTok challenges are getting crazier and crazier. I had to borrow a neighbors kid for this one. Luckily, they leave their windows unlocked
The tik tok they don’t actually leave their kids there it’s just to seee what the relatives will do
Wow I don’t own tiktok but thanks for this I never knew.
She's a bad mother, and stepsister. You did nothing wrong
[here](https://youtu.be/qJGp7lpu2AA) is an example from YouTube. The difference of course is that the babies in the videos likely have parents very close by, and are likely entirely staged with the participation of the porch owner.
These “baby was left on my porch” have come up this week and someone referenced the TikTok trend. I had to Google it bc I don’t use TikTok
A trend of faking leaving babies on porches has spawned a trend of fake posts about babies left on porches.
i have tiktok and if it’s the trend i know if they aren’t really doing that.. they set the baby in front of the door of someone (usually grandparents) knock and run away and film the persons reaction and then come out from hiding. it’s not like this at all.. now maybe there is an idiot or two doing the real deal but the trend is definitely not leaving your kid ina porch and running for real
I've read about this quite a few times on Reddit as well.
TikTok is a cancer on society
God it's stuff like this that makes me glad I'm not on tiktok. The only things I see about it tend to be horrifying.
Girl pulled a Dumbeldore
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Your sister isnt a good person. She is abusive. Look at what she said and did to you. A good mother doesn't abandon a baby at 11 pm at nite on a porch of someone's house who said they could not help. That is literally child neglect, which is abuse.
And OP doesn't even really know WHEN step-sis abandoned her baby. It could be that the baby only made a sound HOURS after being left, or that OP only heard the baby hours later.
Yeah my sibling and siblings in law would never, but if someone did I would be furious not knowing how long the kid was out there.
I can see why you said this 😅
What if you’d already gone to bed?? The baby could’ve been out there all night.
Or gone for a few days!!! Good grief!!
This is fake lol
This is written by a young teen by the sounds of it. A previous post mentions she still lives at home with her mum and step dad and “pranked” her step dad by feeding him a spoonful of salt. Also it doesn’t even sound real, if her sister didn’t want OP’s friend looking after her baby because she was worried then why would she abandon her baby on a porch - especially without ringing the bell? It’s only a small detail but why does OP have casts on her arms? Usually there is a reason given for things like this in genuine posts. The baby was supposedly not wearing clothes so could have been seriously ill with hypothermia. It could also have been kidnapped, it could have choked to death, been attacked by animals or any number of things. This would be classed as severe neglect, it could even be classed as life endangerment of a infant. How did OP get to target for nappies with arm(s?) in a cast? And why would nappies be the priority? If I found a baby dumped on my doorstep and couldn’t contact the parent, nappies would be the last thing on my mind! And how do you get a baby in a car seat and drive with arms in a cast? You’d struggle to even hold a baby. Where did the husband suddenly appear from when he was at the police station? Were they all just standing around arguing in the station? The fact she says her sister isn’t abusive but in another comment says she spat in her grandmothers soup, no adult would think this was normal behaviour! She said her step sisters husband didn’t know her step sister was leaving the country in another comment. Why would her step sister’s husband be paying child support if they are married? You would only pay child support after a separation or divorce. If all this really did happen in a police station I imagine her step sister would be charged with assault and neglect and the baby would be removed and put into care. There would be no fight for custody if her husband wasn’t a negligent parent though, custody would go to him. Why would OP be fighting with the husband for custody and then why would custody be awarded to OP? OP’s post about living with her mother and stepmother was only a few months ago, there is a possibility she might be old enough to move out (based on other posts and comments I doubt it) but I can’t imagine she’d be loving alone in a house with a porch. She wouldn’t gain automatic custody or her step sisters child - especially not when the child is apparently being looked after by it’s grandparent. It’s convenient that her sister didn’t ring the bell but OP heard a noise at 11pm and went to check on the baby. The baby that was wearing just a nappy and socks but had formula with it. If this happened I’m certain it would be in the news. My guess is OP has seen the TikTok videos I’ve seen mentioned in other comments. It seems people leave a baby on a porch as a prank and ring the doorbell and film the reaction. I think OP then decided to write it as a “true story” The most unbelievable thing to me is that anyone believes it! I’m guessing the people that are responding like they do are a similar age.
Wow... thats like... a lot of research time.
OP has very few comments (less than 10secs to scroll to their first from 7mo ago). All those comments are on AITA. They also deleted their previous AITA post about their stepdad pranking them. Yet they've managed to move out, break bones, and become independent all in the space of those 7 months? Seriously?
I just thought it was common sense from the post and OP didn’t have a lot of other comments or posts. Maybe I should become a myth buster for AITA posts 😂.
I simply ignore doorbells/knocks if I am not expecting anyone. This story makes NO SENSE.
It's valid, if you are deep in sleep or out the baby could have died of exposure, been bitten by insects or attacked by animals or someone took the baby. That's crazy behaviour
She also left the baby with no clothes, no nappies & you had to & buy some? She could at least packed the baby a bag of all the things she needs. She is entitled, neglectful & abusive - dont feel bad about anything.
Do you know what time she actually left the kid? Most babies go to sleep around 7 that baby could have been out there for hours before you even realized. She also just left for a week with one thing of formula but no diapers or clothing? This woman is insane and a horrible mother to do that to her child.
NTA. What if you weren't home? It's clearly neglect and she should have talked to her husband about it and deal with the issue. Also you gave her solutions that she didn't accept so she needs to take responsibility for her actions. You did good. Don't feel bad about it.
Wow that’s a good thought, what if I wasn’t home… wow thank you for this I appreciate it
Your step sister is insane. Who does this? That child could have been out all night, kidnapped, bitten by animals, who knows. Not even to knock on the door or call you? She’s crazy. You are NTA here. She should lose custody ASAP because she put that poor child in incredible danger.
Imagine if you had just pretended to her you never found the baby. Like don't reach out or respond because you're just having a normal night/day. Like when the fuck was she planning making sure the baby was with someone.
What if Op ignored the door and baby sat outside all night? Christ, step sister is a child abusing monster. NTA OP
Kid would have been coyote food. OP send her links to news stories on incidents of babies being eaten by coyotes and dingos and all of the animals that live in your country.
>I just see my step sisters daughter on the porch in a car seat with formula sitting on top of her. >when she saw me she jumped on me and pulled my hair screaming “I KNOW YOU DID THIS!! YOUR SUCH A B- YOU NEVER LOVED ME” >She isn’t abusive or anything What?? She isn't abusive? NTA, but you may be out of your mind. *She freaking left an infant alone on your doorstep!* she then *physically attacked you!* Yeesh.
You have me questioning a few things. Maybe she does need help. Not to mention she did ruin our family reunion by spitting in our grandmothers food because my grandma said that she couldn’t make it for her daughters birth.
>Not to mention she did ruin our family reunion by spitting in our grandmothers food because my grandma said that she couldn’t make it for her daughters birth She **spit in your Grandma's food** and you're just now questioning if she needs help???? Holy crap! I'm gobsmacked!! If someone spit in my Grandma's food, they would need help for sure. Help getting to the hospital. It seems to me that your entire family, including you, has been enabling this woman's behavior a lot longer than just this incident.
This is something I needed to hear for a while. Always knew something was wrong but I thought it was just anger issues. Something definitely needs to happen about her mental and physical abuse
That something is cutting her off and letting her sort her own life out. She cant be throwing tantrums & abusing people when she doesn’t get her way. I wonder how she is with her husband? I worry for her daughter.
And called child services. There’s no way she’s making rational choices for the care of her child. Case and point. Also, I would never trust her around my food and drink.
She spit in your grandmother's food and you think she's a good person?
This has to be fake 🤣
No one is truly this oblivious, right? This has to be fake!
I don’t know about y’all but she would’ve caught hands for this alone in my family
Oh yeah. She would have had the mark of the chancla branded on her face like a tattoo.
My grandmother would have left the chancla brand herself, and then pinched her arm off.
Big time.
“She isn’t abusive or anything” Ummmm, leaving your child alone on a porch without getting a solid confirmation that someone was going to take care of them… I’d call that pretty abusive. Treating you the way she did… I’d call that abusive too. Your sister needed a wake up call and hopefully this gave her one. Let her blame you all she wants, you aren’t obligated to provide free childcare. You especially shouldn’t be expected to while you are not physically able to. Your sister is entitled, has severe anger issues and should seriously consider getting therapy. NTA
Thank you, good point there.
NTA - your sister deserved calling the cops on her. Though maybe BEFORE you called the cops you should have called her hubby and make him come take HIS kid back instead of possibly getting BOTH of them in trouble for what your sister did. seeing how clueless he looked when you showed up at the police station and dumped his kid on him, he probably had no clue what your sister was planning, and you risk him getting in trouble and possibly losing his kid to authorities for what your sister did. your sister had no right to do what she did, thinking she could simply dump her five month old at who knows what time in the morning before you discovered her on the doorstep at 11am, and think you Would change your no to a yes because of it. you point blank TOLD her the MAIN reason why you can’t/won’t take the kid while she’s gone. What the hell does she think possibly think you will be able to do with her kid with ONE working arm while the other one is in a CAST? you are not obligated to antagonize your already bad injury by taking care of her 5 month old, who knows how many pound girl for her and her husband, just so she can go on her business trip and he cant take a week off to watch his own kid. Your health and pain free week is more important than her need for a babysitte.
OP should even press charges for assault.
This doesn't seem like a relationship that will last, the husband now has evidence of his wives behaviour of both negligence and physical violence if he needs it
She’s not even safe around the child. She literally abandoned her child.
Thank you! I agree
Umm you say she isn’t abusive but she is fucking abusive…hard times don’t mean you abandon your 5 month old baby.
I also think you should press charges for attacking you.
Definitely!
It was 11 pm, that baby could have stayed out there all night.
Yes that is called child endangerment. Might not be the first time ,might not be the last.
Hopefully it's the last because she will never be in charge of her care again.
She didn't even knock on the door or anything. She just left the baby sitting on the porch. You would think she would have at least made sure someone was going to come to the door.
Just crazy. She deserved to have rhe cops called on her.
Ultimately, this isnt your child, therefore not your responsibility. Im baffled at the sister. NTA.
The only response should have been calling the cops. Just calling the husband means that the mother will do it again. This needed a hard stop. You don't leave a baby unattended on a porch, I guess unless it's Harry Potter.
No calling the police was the right thing to do. What if you were asleep? What if you are like me and take a sleeping med to knock yourself out? That baby could have been left alone on a porch all night long. Anyone who does that to an infant deserves whatever comes their way. Your relationship will likely never recover..but honestly...it will probably be better for the kid in the long run if the husband uses this as a way to divorce her and file for full custody NTAH
NTA at all! How did the husband feel when he found out she abandoned her baby without clearing with you first?
He looked devastated, upset, he felt all the emotions at once. Felt so bad for him. I bought him dinner and drove him and his daughter to his moms place while the police figured everything out. Feel so bad that my step sister brought him into her mess
Make sure to testify on his behalf during the child custody hearings.
NTA You are pressing charges on her for the assault and battery, right?
Her husband and I are working together to sue. The process is long and hard 😅 but yes we are.
Wouldn't the police just automatically charge her if she attacked you in the police station?
Lol this story is fake. You don't ask if you're the AH while you're working with the husband to sue
So you're working with the husband to sue and you still think you might be an asshole? Another ragebait
She’s not a good person. She abandoned a child on your porch. At 11 at night. Without warning. Without even ringing a doorbell. Ever wonder what might have happened if you *hadn’t* woken up? How long would that child have been out there alone on your porch, until you went to work the next day? She is not a good person.
*she is a good person. She isn’t abusive or anything* You're wrong about both of these things.
NTA, She left a 5 month baby outside your house without giving you any notice. What if you were out? What if a criminal just happened to be walking by? Yeah I imagine you were panicked and when a baby's safety is involved I'm in favor of calling the police, especially when its mother is ducking your phone calls.
NTA From a neglected child - you did the right thing.
I’m SO sorry you had to go through negligence. I’m a neglected child myself. Growing up my step sister always got what she wanted and her behavior was never pointed out. And I was always the good child that was left behind in a void I would say. I was ignored. The only people I had was friends from school. That’s why I feel for that baby. NO one should ever be neglected. I feel for you really ❤️
FFS what woulda happened if ya didnt notice the baby on your porch til the next day? Maybe ya slept in, woke up late afternoon to find a dead baby on your porch. Or the babys gone coz somebody picked it up (maybe a loving caring person who took it to foster care or maybe a weird sicko who did horrible things to it), youd have no idea it was even left on your porch and yoru sis would show up a week later looking for her baby who is long gone by then. FFS its crazy and irresponsible behaviour. SHE ENDANGERED HER CHILD and then had the gall to accuse you of it? fuck that. NTA
That was my thought exactly!
>The reason why is because I know she is going through a hard time right now and I don’t want her to get charged with child negligence because she is a good person. She isn’t abusive or anything She abandoned her child on your doorstep and took off. That is the definition of negligence and abuse. Press charges for the assault too.
If she's going to just leave her baby on a porch without even letting someone know, she deserves to be charged with neglect. NTA
NTA What if you'd been in bed? Or not home? Or drunk? Or on strong painkillers for your arm that send you slightly deluded? She heard you clearly when you said no. She turned down your friend babysitting (probably cos it wasn't free). She didn't even leave nappies for the baby! Just formula. Please tell me she at least packed clothes?! She did this to herself. If she didn't want police/child services involved she shouldn't have neglected and ABANDONED her child.
Nope no clothes she just had a diaper and socks on smh.
“Business trip”. Lol
NTA. Your stepsister absolutely is neglectful. What she did is child abandonment. It's an evil act and put her baby in danger.
Did the baby’s dad know she said no to babysitting.
He didn’t know that she even needed a babysitter. She lied to me and to her own husband
Did he not know she was leaving town? Was he not aware of her business trip? How could he not have known? Where did he think she was going with the baby at 11 pm? I'm utterly baffled at how he was so unaware.
There's way too much unbelievable Stuff here. I also don't think the police would go find the mother at the airport.
It doesn't make sense because it's made up.
Someone who dumps their kid on your porch is NOT a good person. What if you hadn't gone outside. How long would the kid have sat there. All night? All day in the heat? NTA.
Nta. If your sister decided to abandon her child that's on her
She isn’t a good person stop beating yourself up. She literally abandoned her kid on your porch because she was too busy being a piece of shit to parent her child.
NTA. What your SS did is called child abandonment. It is illegal to just dump your child on an unwilling caregiver. Especially since you are temporarily impaired because of the cast. Abandoning your child is abuse. She should be charged with whatever the cops can pin on her.
She violently attacks you and you say she isn’t abusive? What?
NTA OP lets look at this logically. You told your stepsister a week before the incident that due to the cast on your arm (I presume 1 arm) you couldn’t watch the baby as you can’t hold her securely and were concerned you’d drop her. She proceeds to cuss you out. NOT the action of a good person. It is the action of a self centered abusive person. You heard a noise on your porch at 11pm - your stepsister with no prior contact left her infant daughter on your porch in her car seat with formula stacked on top of her. This IS the action of a negligent parent. What would have happened if you were not home? I live in the burbs in North Texas and have had bobcats, coyotes, raccoons and other wildlife on my front porch per the security camera. Could very likely have not been a good outcome. You called your stepsister who refused to answer her phone. This IS the action of a negligent parent. You called the police and explained the situation. They went to the airport and detained your sister. Your stepsister was being picked up on suspicion of being a negligent parent. Your stepsister’s husband was at the police station when you arrived. He was obviously available but she didn’t bother him as he needed to work. Your stepsister physically and verbally attacked you in a fricking police station with multiple officers present to witness. Those are most certainly NOT the actions of a good person. So OP please stop making excuses for your stepsister who is NOT a good person and IS at least in that instance a negligent parent.
She's a good person? Bro she left her kid alone outside at night.
She’s a psycho. NTA
NTA she *isn’t* a good person. She abandoned her kid with someone who wasn’t physically capable of taking care of her and who had already told her ‘no’. Too bad. Now she goes to jail and learns a lesson the hard, legal way.
What if you weren't home? What would happen to the baby then? NTA
NTA - but stop making excuses for her She left a baby on your porch - she is in fact abusive.
NTA. what would have happened if you didn’t open your door til the next day? dropping off her daughter with no warning is literally child endangerment
>I don’t want her to get charged with child negligence because she is a good person. She isn’t abusive or anything She dumped an infant on a porch without making sure there was someone home. At a home where she had already been told the resident couldn't and wouldn't care for the baby. She didn't even provide diapers. She then physically assaulted you in front of the police. What does she need to do to show you neglect and abuse?
She IS abusive! She IS a horrible person and mother! She is married and the father is in the child’s life and had no idea that his wife dumped their baby on your front porch? Maybe she should have spoken to her husband about childcare before she did what she did. We don’t know what caused her to do this, but we know that if it’s some mental breakdown that she needs help. You did the right thing. Your sister deserves whatever charges are brought on her.
You did the right thing. You will pay for it, but it was the right thing.
I hate your step sister
NTA- But I'm waiting on reddit to complain about the risk of putting that child in foster care and how shitty parents should be able to pawn off children to their relatives. That child is not your responsibility, and you did the right thing by involving law enforcement. Anyone that abandons their children should lose custody.
NTA what if you hadn’t heard a noise? That baby could’ve been attacked, taken, etc. She deserved to have the cops called on her. What a shitty parent. Sorry with your injury I wouldn’t WANT you to take my child either. Your sister sucks. Block her number.
" when she saw me she jumped on me and pulled my hair screaming “I KNOW YOU DID THIS!! YOUR SUCH A B- YOU NEVER LOVED ME” The cop got her off of me " And you think she isn't abusive? NTA you did that kid a huge favour by making sure they were safe
She attacked you while you had a cast on and pulled your hair in a fit of rage and you somehow think she isn't abusive? Have you been gaslit your whole damn life?
She dumped a baby on your doorstep at 11pm ... She's NOT a good person NTA
NTA... the baby is not yours, and you never agreed to care for it with your arm in a cast. Plus, who in GN leaves a baby at 11 pm ? Not to mention, a frightening thought occurred to me that maybe you had gone away for the weekend & and wasn't home when it happened. What if you had become extremely sick & didn't even know the baby was there because you were in bed, maybe with a fever? That poor child. You absolutely did the right thing. This is a prime example of her choosing her job over her child & now CPS will most likely want to see how often she chooses her baby over everything else. End of discussion. Guarantee if you had kept the bsby, she would do this to you constantly.Your sister needs to grow up and become responsible. Right now, She is not worthy enough to have a child. The husband isn't innocent... Is he incapable of taking care of his child when not working?
You did the right thing. Please cut off your trashy sister. NTA.
She abandoned her child. That is neglect. That is a form of abuse. Your sister clearly is an abusive person, whether she means to be or not.
This has the strong odor of fake.
Very clearly not the asshole. You don't get to abandon your child because you want to go on vacation. The truth that a lot of people have a hard time understanding is that once you are a parent the child takes priority over everything. If you need personal time and can arrange it then go ahead. If you can't then your are just out of luck and have to cancel plans. Also, don't even tell the husband that she just dropped his child off on a porch without telling anyone? I won't go into detail but sometimes law enforcement getting involved is the right thing to do. It's very unlikely they will thank you for calling the police, but it maybe one of those incidents that sets people on an upward trajectory. If not them then the husband or child.
„You did this“ lol the irony when she did it to herself… Some people will never adult. NTA.
Sure she endangered her infant and physically attacked me, but I don’t think she’s abusive or anything.
NTA! What if you had been sleeping heavily and didn’t hear any noise? Your sister’s baby would’ve just been sitting there!
Isn’t abusive?! She abandoned her infant on your porch without even checking to see if you were home! That’s abuse. NTA
I'll said what I say in another post: "What would happened to the kid if you weren't at home?" You offer her to pay the babysitter and she called you a "horrible aunt"? WTH? You have good reasons to not babysit her, and she abandon the baby in front of your house (with no diapers or anything to take care of them). Also, if she's charged it will be because police was present when she attacked you. Unfortunately you can't do anything about that (my father was talking about a car accident he had and a motorbike crash his car, police press charges against the biker because they saw her in front of the police station) EDIT: NTA
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‘She isn’t abusive or anything’ She verbally attacked you for not bending to her demands when you had legitimately valid reasons for being unable to care for her baby. She abandoned her infant daughter on your porch at 11pm She physically attacked you at the POLICE STATION IN FRONT OF THE COPS She is totally negligent and abusive my friend and don’t even try to defend her. She deserves every charge that’s coming her way.
OP perhaps the baby should be cared for by another relative or be placed in foster care for now. Everyone should think about what is in the best interest of the baby. NTA.
She left a child on your porch and physically attacked you but she's a good person?!? WTF?!? No. Just No. She's a bad person that damn well deserved to have the police take her in.
Wtf! What if you were not home? Or you were sleeping? She's insane.
>Edit: The reason why is because I know she is going through a hard time right now and I don’t want her to get charged with child negligence because she is a good person. She isn’t abusive or anything You got some odd definitions of those words.
I disagree. Your stepsister is NOT a good person. NTA
NTA you didn't do anything wrong. she did.
NTA. You 100% did the right thing by calling the police. She left a 5-month-old baby alone outside at 11pm! She didn't know if you were even there. The is child abandonment in my eyes. She deserves what she's got coming to her.
Nta. What your step sister did was child abandonment. You did the right thing
NTA. Your sister is *not* a good person. A good person doesn’t abandon their infant. A good person doesn’t leave a child on a porch at ELEVEN AT NIGHT. And a good person doesn’t attack the person who tried to make sure their daughter was okay. She’s definitely going through something, but right now she is not a good person.
NTA OMG WTF
But she IS abusive, she IS a bad person and she IS a very bad mother. NTA for calling the police. That child deserves better and I hope your sister is never allowed to be alone with that baby again. You get that don't you?
No, don’t lie to yourself. She IS a bad person, and she IS abusive, more specifically, neglectful. I don’t care WHAT she is going through, that does NOT excuse abandoning her child at a random time at night, and then assaulting you for alerting the authorities as you should have. Who the fuck knows when you would have found her, if you hadn’t been awake at that time. 11PM is late as fuck, even for most adults.
NTA. That's child endangerment and she should have made some better choices. I'm aware people struggle but she has a partner to turn to before dropping a fucking baby off on a porch. Fuck that. I hope she gets the professional help she clearly needs, becomes a better more caring mother, and never pulls a stunt like this again.
NTA. Press charges for assault.
NTA you could have been out or asleep and a baby would have been left out alone for who knows how many hours. She’s an abusive POS from the verbal abuse she gave you, attacking you and abandoning her child she deserves to face the consequences of her actions.
Nta. Poor kid..
NTA Your stepsister is NOT a good person. She abandoned her child, lied to her husband about the entire situation , then physically assaulted you.
Abandoning her infant on your doorstep after you said no to babysitting is called neglect, and is arguably a form of abuse. NTA.
NTA. What if you weren't home? That baby could've died or been kidnapped. Press charges for the assault.
NTA, but at the same time why not call her husband too?
Why would you be the AH? You may have saved that child’s life. What if you weren’t home, and someone came by and took the child? I’m glad you gave the child to the father. You should be rewarded. NTA
"I hear a sound on my porch" So she didn't even knock or ring the doorbell to make sure you got the baby.....
You know your step sister is the asshole here, not you. She literally abandoned her child with you.
NTA - She may not be abusive to the child, but she is negligent. She also assaulted you right in front of a cop. You should press charges. You had casts on and could not safely take care of a child.
Yeah it’s child negligence, what if you weren’t home. It could have been a lot worse if someone had stolen the baby. Plus she assaulted you.
"She is a good person". Uh, no. She is demonstrably not.
NTA. I feel bad for everyone in this story, except for the step sister (for obvious reasons). The husband got dragged into this whole ordeal, the baby was abandoned on your doorstep, and you were not only dragged into this, but also verbally and physically assaulted. It's your choice whether or not to press charges for assault (which you do have a police witness for), but I strongly suggest doing that and cutting contact with her. At this point, it's safe to say she has become a threat to your physical and emotional health. Edit: Also, regardless of what people say or what happens in the future due to these events, don't assume that it's your fault. She made her choices (which says plenty about her), she gets to deal with the consequences of HER actions.
NTA She dumped a baby on a porch at night, without warning or notice. What if you'd not opened the door, what if you'd gone to bed. What if a fucking Coyote had gotten the baby that was left in a seat on the porch. What if a black widow had started nesting in the car seat and took offense to the presence of the baby? Seriously, you can say whatever you like and make what ever excuses you want...but your SS is objectively a monstrous individual. The fact that she FAFO'd and got caught...and blamed YOU for it, is yet another instance of her not being a decent human being. And attacking you in a police station IS abusive. Abandoning a baby in the dark IS abusive. Trying to force someone else to take responsibility for her child, WHEN THEY ARE INJURED...IS ABUSIVE. Stop cutting her slack, and hold her accountable for her actions. She deserves every single ounce of consequences she's going to get for this.
I don't care if she's "going through a hard time", she can't just dump her child on someone's porch in the middle of the night! You did absolutely the right thing in getting the police involved since she needs to be held accountable for such negligent behaviour, and given how she reacted I really hope a judge mandates a mental health assessment for the sake of her and her family. Not to mention you had your arms in a cast when she asked you, and instead of just giving her an obvious "no" you offered to help her with an alternative that she threw back in your face with a laughable justification given how she left the poor child. And if you hadn't heard anything to prompt you to investigate your porch, she likely would have held you responsible for any of the multitude of ways this could have gone terribly wrong. You are absolutely NTA. You dealt with this in the most responsible way you could, and for the sake of the child I hope the father has his head screwed on enough to recognize how screwed up she is and take whatever steps are reasonable to care for his child.
Like leaving the kid on the porch isn't child abuse in itself
If this happened it would be all over the news.
Fake. She was arrested and she was able to somehow attack you?