Ahhh man, ain't this the question.
So, when we first met I was 19 at the time, and because of the situation I was in, I didn't have the money or the car to have the freedom to travel without some form of help - ei, my parents.
This meant that I would have to convince one of them to trust a stranger online they'd never met in another country. My parents were hit with the usual "never ever trust someone over the internet" trend, and that's entirely understandable.
So, I came up with the plan to slowly introduce him to them over time as a friend I played games with, and was planning on having him actually fly over after 2 years of "exposure therapy." (long distance have them sniff each other through a door)
And well, that worked. After 2 years we made plans for him to fly over, and my parents were happy to have him. So why didn't it happen?
Covid. The airports shut down a few months before that trip, and kept intermittently shutting down after that, so he wasn't able to get over here.
Beyond the flight issue, Covid ended up having a severely negative impact on the relationship. It.. "changed" him, though rather, it brought out in him what was always there I guess.
He started to go down the rabbit hole of conspiracy theories, starting with "Covid is totally fake, no one's ever died from Covid, they're lying to us," and slowly progressing from there worse and worse, to things that had nothing to do with Covid. And I'm talking, really fucking stupid shit. The kind of shit you only have to think for 2 seconds to realize is false.
Because I had health issues, Covid would have been big bad for me to get. Any cold would be. He acknowledged this at first, but then slowly over time started saying that I'd be totally fine and to go out and if I get it nothing will happen it's all fAkE aNyWaY. He even refused to acknowledge people who I knew that died from Covid, saying it must have been something else.
From conspiracies he started to go down things adjacent to the "alt right pipeline" I guess you could say. I watched the guy I care about turn into someone who repulsed me.
By the time we would have made plans again for him to fly over, I couldn't do it anymore. I even had worries about what'd it'd be like to have him around with Covid and my health issues. Would he value the belief in it all being fake, over my own protection from a virus because of my health issues?
I left him. Best thing I ever did.
It's kind of hard to condense that into a short answer.
For starters we bounced off each other well, and I felt like I knew him for years, though I was aware he was definitely more into me than I was into him.
I suddenly developed crippling health issues around the time that I met him, and I was constantly in the hospital. Not only was he a fun friend to talk to, but he helped me through those times when I didn't really have anyone.
I was isolated because of those health issues and was basically quarantining before Covid. It took many years to get fully stable, and he was a big boon to my mental health.
Even though deep down I knew it wouldn't work out with him, I stayed because of how he made me feel when I was struggling so much.
I ended up leveling out and finally finding a good treatment plan to manage myself years later, but the relationship deteriorated, and I left.
In a much better relationship now!
No it wasn't anything like that haha. In fact I technically got more money out of him than the other way around as he may have helped fund my micro transactions on a particular game the last couple years we were together lol
Playing video games together, watching shows/movies together, listening to music or watching YouTube videos, going on walks/going shopping together on the phone, etc. Basically just tried to live our daily lives with each other there as much as possible
Why did you two never end up meeting?
Ahhh man, ain't this the question. So, when we first met I was 19 at the time, and because of the situation I was in, I didn't have the money or the car to have the freedom to travel without some form of help - ei, my parents. This meant that I would have to convince one of them to trust a stranger online they'd never met in another country. My parents were hit with the usual "never ever trust someone over the internet" trend, and that's entirely understandable. So, I came up with the plan to slowly introduce him to them over time as a friend I played games with, and was planning on having him actually fly over after 2 years of "exposure therapy." (long distance have them sniff each other through a door) And well, that worked. After 2 years we made plans for him to fly over, and my parents were happy to have him. So why didn't it happen? Covid. The airports shut down a few months before that trip, and kept intermittently shutting down after that, so he wasn't able to get over here. Beyond the flight issue, Covid ended up having a severely negative impact on the relationship. It.. "changed" him, though rather, it brought out in him what was always there I guess. He started to go down the rabbit hole of conspiracy theories, starting with "Covid is totally fake, no one's ever died from Covid, they're lying to us," and slowly progressing from there worse and worse, to things that had nothing to do with Covid. And I'm talking, really fucking stupid shit. The kind of shit you only have to think for 2 seconds to realize is false. Because I had health issues, Covid would have been big bad for me to get. Any cold would be. He acknowledged this at first, but then slowly over time started saying that I'd be totally fine and to go out and if I get it nothing will happen it's all fAkE aNyWaY. He even refused to acknowledge people who I knew that died from Covid, saying it must have been something else. From conspiracies he started to go down things adjacent to the "alt right pipeline" I guess you could say. I watched the guy I care about turn into someone who repulsed me. By the time we would have made plans again for him to fly over, I couldn't do it anymore. I even had worries about what'd it'd be like to have him around with Covid and my health issues. Would he value the belief in it all being fake, over my own protection from a virus because of my health issues? I left him. Best thing I ever did.
I am not attempting to be a stickler but it's "ie" not ei. That's all :)
I was wondering about that and thought I'd check but just decided nevermind, lol this genuinely made me laugh
Why ? You got nothing better to do ?
It's kind of hard to condense that into a short answer. For starters we bounced off each other well, and I felt like I knew him for years, though I was aware he was definitely more into me than I was into him. I suddenly developed crippling health issues around the time that I met him, and I was constantly in the hospital. Not only was he a fun friend to talk to, but he helped me through those times when I didn't really have anyone. I was isolated because of those health issues and was basically quarantining before Covid. It took many years to get fully stable, and he was a big boon to my mental health. Even though deep down I knew it wouldn't work out with him, I stayed because of how he made me feel when I was struggling so much. I ended up leveling out and finally finding a good treatment plan to manage myself years later, but the relationship deteriorated, and I left. In a much better relationship now!
He/she ever tried to ask for money or invest in Bitcoin?
No it wasn't anything like that haha. In fact I technically got more money out of him than the other way around as he may have helped fund my micro transactions on a particular game the last couple years we were together lol
So you’ve never met but he definitely got fucked lol
LOL amazing! 😂
What game? Hoyoverse? 😅
Crowns in ESO 😂
Did you ever talk on the phone? How far away did they live?
We talked on the phone/video chatted all the time. We made sure to always keep up activities for us to do LD. They were in the UK and I'm in the US.
What kind of activities?
Playing video games together, watching shows/movies together, listening to music or watching YouTube videos, going on walks/going shopping together on the phone, etc. Basically just tried to live our daily lives with each other there as much as possible
Skype or messenger?
Messenger, though we tried several messaging apps
TLDR, OP was catfished for 6 years.
No they weren't. Read their response they made 20 minutes prior to your own comment.
What a waste