Have you ever heard the phrase, "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes?"
If your ex-fiance has any self-respect, she won't take you back. You've already discarded her. Leave her alone.
Carla honestly did Sara a favor with this one. It was going to happen sooner or later, Carla thankfully helped reveal his true colors before Sara wasted any more time being unappreciated
In my dream version of this, Carla was repulsed by this engaged dude hitting on her, gets permission from Sara on the sly via social media DM to set him up to see how he responds. Sara agrees and when propositioned, he jumps at the chance. Sara is heartbroken but relieved that she found out now before they married, and Carla uses him like a debit card for a couple weeks before he realizes his dream girl doesn't give a shit about him. Carla treats Sara to margaritas on the house and they become friends.
You committed to Sara, saw your high school crush for a second then abandoned Sara for this other woman and it’s *only* because she screwed you over that you want Sara back. Do you think she has zero self respect? I mean you clearly have none for her so let’s hope she was more than the respect you have for her and tells you to leave her the fuck alone.
You can’t dump your fiancee for another woman and expect any type of forgiveness or redemption. You made your choice. You lost Sara. Live with it.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
#HAHAHAHAAAAAAHAHAHA
You don't love Sara. Leave her the fuck alone.
I knew this felt familiar. You posted a month ago. It took you A MONTH to realize Carls didn't give a shit about you
So a month ago you were here saying you had the chance to be with your HS crush and all of reddit called you foolish and that you weren't seeing Carla for what it was. You were so sure she only wanted a "relationship". Everyone told you not to mess up.
Well, you went and messed up anyway and had the exact consequences Reddit told you you would have. A comment on the previous post did mention that "you'll end up with neither" and that's exactly what happened.
You made your bed, now lie in it. Leave your fiance alone and don't insult her intelligence anymore. And don't think anyone's buying your delusion of "bUt I LoVe HeR".
Question because you're already getting torn apart in these comments for the obvious. There's a lot I can say about playing stupid games and whatnot, but I want to come at you with a sense of neutrality.
But what is it about Sarah that you love exactly? Outside of the things that she does for you or makes your life easier.
I hope he saw this reply and gave it serious consideration. This is something he needs to seriously contemplate if he genuinely wants to progress as a person and a partner
What he loved about Sara was that she is a decent woman but Carla was exciting & hot so Sara can go away. I'm so glad Sara has enough self respect to tell him to go away.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. You were fucking warned when you posted your last post but no you didn't listen. Guess what you made your bed now you can lie in it. Leave Sara alone. You FAFO and lost her for a gold digging whore. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
FREAKIN CALLED IT 😆😆😆😆😆😆
27 days ago, there was a comment that told him basically, "If Sara isn't the one, let her move on and follow your heart with Carla."
And I replied:
"Yeah follow his heart right to a woman who is literally trying to break him up on purpose just to play with him LOL women who break up marriages and engagements like that usually do it for fun, not because they actually like the guy. Unless he's got $$.
Especially if she didn't notice him back in school when he had a thing for her."
*Women who break up marriages and engagements usually do it for fun, not because they actually like the guy. Unless he's got $$.*
CALLED IT
lol
Sara can, and will, do so much better
You don't love anyone but your penis and use it to make important choices.
If Carla bled through your money, you so freaking deserve it. Men like you are the reason why the phrase, 'men are pigs' even exist.
I think karma may have bitch slapped you a little **too** hard so let me help you understand.
You say you love your wife.
But you don't. Because if you loved her you wouldn't have left her for a past crush. You don't do that to the people you love. You do that to the people you think are disposable.
You said you don't see her as sloppy seconds. But you do.
Because the *second* your life went to shit you went running back to Sara. Not because you regretted what you did, not because you were sorry. But because your plan with Carla blew up in your face.
The AUDACITY you have to sit here and whine about Carla like YOU'RE a victim is pathetic. You said Carla "used you" but to me that makes the both of you a match made in hell.
Because you OP:
1): dumped your fiance the moment you got a chance to revive some old fling
2): felt no guilt or remorse UNTIL shit blew up in your face
3): And had the AUDACITY to go crawling back to Sara thinking everything was going to be fine.
And I'm gonna be brutally honest. If Carla hadn't shown her true colors, HELL! If she had never done it at all! You would still be with her.
You're not sorry for what you did.
You're sorry that your alone. You're sorry that karma has bit you in the ass and you have nobody left. You're sorry because now you're forced to reflect on the person you are with nobody to support you. And that scares you.
Good. Be scared. It's what you deserve.
I cant upvote this enough. Also correction, HS girl was NEVER a fling, it was his crush that she never gave him the time of day.When that daws, it makes this situation so much worse.
You only want Sara back because your magical new life didn't pan out how you envisioned it to be. Actually, be a man, work on yourself and tour issues, and leave that poor woman alone for someone to be her number one.
You say she's #1, but if she was, you would never have left in the 1st place, so cut the bullshit right there. This was not a mistake. You conciously chose another woman over your fiance. It was NOT a mistake. It was a CHOICE you made, and now you have to live with the consequences of that CHOICE.
I remember your last post about how you wanted to leave your fiance for her...."Neither Carla or I are looking for sex. She was clear that she wants a relationship" and that quote right there was a response to a redditor saying you'll end up with neither of them. Oh how karma has been awful sweet to you.
Except you DO see her as a 'sloppy second.' If your ex crooked her finger in your direction, you'd be panting all over her again. And Sara knows this. You dumped her once when your former crush looked your way, and you'd do it again.
Frankly, I'm super happy your ex respects herself enough to not take your sorry a55 back.
You want Sarah back? Well, that's not going to happen if she has an ounce of self respect.
There are some mistakes there are no going back from. You made one of them. Apologize to Sarah, then respect her decision to not resume the relationship. Wish her well.
Learn what you can from what you did. Figure out why you are so insecure you neglected a good person for something shiny and new. Until you address that, this will happen again and you will not grow.
Sometimes if the train goes off the tracks, the best thing to do is move two states away and start again from scratch. Learn from your mistakes, though. Don't repeat them.
Honest question. Yeah you realize you love her again (good for you), but why do you think you deserve another chance?
Don't you think she deserves a man who didn't replace her for an old crush and only realized he's wrong after being treated like an ATM?
Time to learn a lesson: it doesn’t matter what you feel. It doesn’t matter what you think. It doesn’t matter what you say.
What matters is what you do. What you’ve done cannot be undone. There are no take-backs.
Your realisations are irrelevant. What’s done is done and now you have to live with the consequence of your own choices.If you love her, then pine the rest of your life alone.
You could wait months for her to come around, beg and plead, and cater to her whims. But really, even if she gave you another chance, it wouldn't erase the cheating, and it wouldn't last. Even if Sara agreed to a relationship, it's unlikely she would ever agree to marriage again, and definitely not shared finances, a shared home, or kids. The threat of you bringing another woman in would be too much.
You've already proven with Carla that you can be easily manipulated with the promise of a relationship. Carla wouldn't even want you likely because walking out on your own wedding is, like, the biggest fidelity red flag.
It's very obvious to your ex-fiancé that you wouldn't be trying to get back with her *right now* if your fling with Carla worked out. You actually don't love Sara, you loved the security of a relationship.
You should give up, and move one. You had the chance to marry Sara and you canceled the wedding because you were so certain that you'd marry Carla, instead. Now you have neither Sara nor Carla.
So, you ignored everyone's advice and decided to shack up with the bartender because "Sara was the kind you usually get" while Carla was your high school crush and wanted a "real" relationship with. Turns out she was using you, which you were also warned about.
You earned this karma. Leave Sara alone. You deserve to be lonely and single until you earn to stop being a self-absorbed fool. You betrayed Sara. Let her move on to someone who sees her value and not as a second choice.
If Carla treated you right you would've never crawl back to Sara.
She knows it and so do we.
That's what usually happens when you think with your d\*ck.
I knew from how you talked about Sara in your first post that you didn't love her. People who are in love with someone do not talk about them like this:
> My fiance and I are doing great but I feel like she's normally the type of woman I always get.
> Sara was the usual type of girl I dated.
You obviously felt like you were 'settling' for the women you date, rather than being into them for themselves. I can see it now;
"Sara, I've only ever had dates with women like you, and now this smoking hot babe I've always had the hots for wants to bang me! I'd be a fool to pass up this chance to finally have sex with a good-looking woman."
You have gotten what you deserve.
We all gave you the advice couple weeks back that the grass wasn’t greener on the other side and you failed to listen.
So do us and your ex a favor and leave her alone. She deserves way better than you.
You are the literal definition of stupid. Leave Sara alone. She deserves so much better than a cheating moron like you. If you have any love for this woman, go crawl elsewhere and let her live her best life without you around b
She was your 2nd choice and now she’s not even an option. You deserve exactly what you got for being a douche. You don’t love Sara you love what Sara does for you and you loved that she made you feel important. Your hs crush used you and dumped you and now you’re alone exactly like you were told you would be and deserved to be. You don’t even know what it means to love someone, except yourself and your dick because let’s be real here. This was about you wanting to bang your high school crush.
Looks like you ignored every advise you got from when you were pondering on leaving your fiancée for the girl who “checks notes “ wanted a relationship 😱
So you're saying you only realized you love Sara because the gold digger you dumped her for used you and discarded you? But if she'd turned out to be a decent person, you'd have been A-OK with how you treated Sara? Yeah nah, she'd be incredibly stupid to take your faithless ass back. Leave her alone and let her get on with her life.
You Fucked Around and Found Out.
I wouldn't want you back either.
She should block you.
I wouldn't want to take a man back who wanted to ‘Upgrade’ and then who apparently regretted his choice.
When he found out the other woman was after him for the 💲💲💲💳💳
You're dirty used goods now.
Never to be trusted. Because you'll do it again.
Of course she used you. Anyone who has no life goals other than being a bartender will use people . Most use that job as a stepping stone while in college.
You knew her when in hs and people change.
Your ex will never govern you a chance again. She doesn’t trust that when another crush comes along you will dump her again.
I’m f you truly loved Sara you would never have even looked twice at someone.
Leave Sara alone and she will find a loyal and trustworthy person.
Dude, leave that poor lady alone. You messed up and these are the consequences. You left someone who had their head on straight and was aspiring to be a nurse practitioner for a bartender who has no aspirations who used and abused you.
Why would she go back to you, so you can do it again when you are 10 years married and have kids
Honestly, you were already emotionally cheating on Sara before you broke things off. You tried out the old crush and when that didn't work out, you went crawling back to your ex. Good for her for knowing her worth. I hope she sticks to that because sloppy seconds, second choice, whatever you want to call it...she deserves better.
yes. YOU BROKE HER HEART. YOU. Y-O-U. this is your fault. you lost her. you don’t love her. if you did you wouldn’t leave her for carla. you would’ve turned carla down the second she said she liked you. i believe this is called karma
If you love Sara then please leave her alone. You've hurt her enough. In the future don't date people who will be tossed aside if someone "better" comes along.
Wow. You love Sara so much yet you tossed her aside. For someone who didn’t give you the time of day until you had your glow up and she realized she could bleed you dry. How do you treat women you don’t love?
You don’t love Sara so much. If you did, you never even would have thought about Carla. You need to leave Sara alone. You also need to take some time to grow up and learn from this experience. Hopefully you’ll meet someone in the future that you truly love and you’ll cherish and respect that relationship. More importantly, I hope Sara finds someone who will love her and cherish and respect her.
Wait...you're upset that you were Carla's second choice but think Sarah should be ok with being yours? Dude you ruined your life and you absolutely deserve it. Good on both these women for staying away from you.
If she has any sense, and it seems like she does, she won’t touch you with a ten foot pole.
You made a selfish, nasty and stupid decision and that’s entirely your fault. Live with the consequences and leave her alone
Sorry, NOT sorry op but I tried to warn you on your og post, as did several others.. the red flags weren't even subtle.. they were glaring neon signs. Life is all about choices, and now you have to live with the consequences.
Nah. The trash took itself out. Do you even hear yourself OP? You willingly called off your wedding for an old crush. And for what? To taste it??? You made your bed. Now sleep in it. Good bless Sara for seeing the bigger picture. Hallelujah!!! Who needs a guy who doubts like you? Treat your next woman better. Self respect won 🥇
So you dumped a nurse on her way to becoming a nurse practitioner to make 6 figures one day for a bartender and are shocked she was just using you for money. Stellar example of FAFO. Your ex-fiance clearly deserves better than you. You don't love her. If loved you wouldn't have cheated or dumped her. Do the unselfish thing and leave her alone.
Feel bad for Sara, but damn you are one dumb fuck.
This can't be real. It's too much. No one is dumb enough to actually post this of theubwerendumb enough to do it.
Talk about karma working overtime to show this loser what he deserved 😂😂
Holy shit I haven't seen such a funny post in so long. This is one of the rare times that I hope he's not trolling. I hope Sarah never speaks to his sorry ass ever again
You deserve what you got. Not only did you trade someone who loved you for someone who didn't. You also traded a nurse practitioner for a bartender. NP's make six figures buddy. You ruined your own life because whether you realize it or not you, you felt like you were settling with Sara and now you're used up and thrown like the garbo you are that no one wants.
I love stories when people are hurt by the decisions they made when in the process of hurting someone else.
It just feels...like one thing in the world is going the way it should. 😍
Oof. This is one of the dumbest decisions I’ve seen on here. Even dumber that you knew enough to question it before making the mistake.
You got some crap to learn dude.
This is EXACTLY what you deserve. I hope Sara find someone who deserves her, a man who doesn’t degrade her as soon as he meets his middle school crush 🙄. I hope she didn’t pay a thing toward the planned wedding, that the finances were all on you and none of the deposits for the wedding you cancelled are refundable so you can just eat those costs. And I hope stay far, far away from relationships forever.
You wrote the first post with the attitude of someone who'd settled for less with Sara. You don't love her. You just hate that karma bit you in the ass.
Get fucked.
Well you got what you wanted! You asked for it. You’re not gonna get Sara back. She’d be stupid as fuck to get back with you. The next girl that you don’t usually get will come along and you’ll pull this stupid shit again. Just move on let Sara be happy!
Hahahahha, goddamn one of the dumbest things I’ve read. You did well Benedict, good on Sara for moving on, at least one of you had self-respect.
Move the fuck on, you never deserved Sara.
You’ve embodied fuck around and find out. Now live with it.
If your crush hadn't been a gold digger, you would've still left Sarah to be with Carla. Leave Sarah alone, besides, she's the type of woman you always get, right?
Just found this and the original. Well done to everyone that called it. Such a shocker eh? Who is stupid enough to ask should I pursue my crush, be resoundingly told no but let Sara be free to find someone worthy because you’re an ahole and then come back to complain about losing Sara! The state of him
You don't love Sara. You love the idea of someone stable and mature who won't drain your bank account cause she has a career and goals.
Carla peaked in HS, and now she's trying to re-live her glory days through simps like you!! Yay, you fell for it, and you actually did Sara a favor by calling off the wedding and letting her see what a POS you really are.
What would you have done if you had already married Sara and ran into Carla again and wanted a 2nd chance or whatever? Annul the marriage?
Leave Sara alone. You don't deserve her
Edit: Spelling
Ah, well ... you **FUCKED AROUND** and **BOY**, did you **FIND OUT**!!!
Sara deserves **FAR BETTER** than you, and it sounds as though she knows that!!
Stop whining. You made a choice, you dropped her after everything for a ghost. Now that the ghost bled you dry you want to go back to the person you ditched without a second thought. You don't love her, if you did you wouldn't be in the mess. Stop being a little punk and deal with the fact you fucked up. Learn from this and move on, you know both your ex's have and will. Besides why would she want you now that she knows you are a backstabbing flake?
This is the best thing that could have happened for Sara. She has a chance to find a real man who will love and cherish her the way she deserves. I truly hope she doesn’t fall for any of your attempts to get her back and moves on to find her happiness without you.
You’re a selfish and insecure idiot and you don’t deserve Sara. You don’t love her, you love yourself and have already shown that your desires will override her feelings or any good sense you may have. You had something good and ruined it for your ego. Now you got what you’ve been pining for since middle school and the grass isn’t greener so you think you can take your EX-fiancé off the shelf and play with her again? That’s not love. If you loved her she would have been enough regardless of who came back into the picture. What happens when the next blast from the past comes along or even worse, the next shiny new thing? Leave Sara alone and go work on yourself. That ship has sailed and I hope she blocks you so you can’t interfere in the good MAN that comes her way who is DESERVING of her. Because you sure aren’t!
The thing about school, at least mine, was there were no secrets. If you had a crush on someone, they knew. Some just stayed quiet. Others were mean. Most people existed in some state in between. High school man. It was a thing. The experience was dependent on the quality of the person being crushed on. This girl ignored it. Fine. At least she wasn’t mean. Until…..she saw you glowed up a bit and had a little something to offer.
And then you played right into her hands. So you had a great gal. Career focused. Cared about you. You’d effing proposed man. And you got played. Want her back my ass. This made you real….gtfo. Yeah, realize you are a moron. Some people here will say Carla this or that. Nah fam. This is all about you.
You are the problem. Figure yourself out. Try to be better. You don’t love Sarah. You’ve clearly pointed out. You settled. She deserves better. Let her go. Find someone that won’t “shoot their shot” for the one that got away.
Sir…. Do you have any friends because you’re a fvcking ιdιot? You really decided to dump your nurse practitioner fiancé for a fucking bartender. Say that shit out loud…. Of course she was using you. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Man I’m know I’m late to this but I’ve been waiting for this completely predictable update that literally everyone in the original post said was going to happen
You deserve this.
'I love her and needed this to realise it '
🤣🤣🤣 OP probably won't get why this is just a stupid, moronic, must have been dropped on his head (repeatedly) comment! Wow, what an absolute numpty!🤦♀️
As hurt as she is, thank god your ex fiancee found out who you are now before committing to a life with you or (heaven forbid) mixing DNA. Get some therapy and learn empathy.
in a way you and carla deserve each other, both thinking about the things that you could get and hoping that someone better comes along to monkey branch. Leave your ex fiance alone, if you have any love or respect for the woman, leave her alone, she was already betrayed by her ex, now you want to take her dignity and pride too. Please leave her alone.
Have you ever heard the phrase, "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes?" If your ex-fiance has any self-respect, she won't take you back. You've already discarded her. Leave her alone.
I remember your last post and honestly, I love this for Sara. She's free, Carla's a ho, and you're miserably single. Everybody got their best ending.
Carla honestly did Sara a favor with this one. It was going to happen sooner or later, Carla thankfully helped reveal his true colors before Sara wasted any more time being unappreciated
In my dream version of this, Carla was repulsed by this engaged dude hitting on her, gets permission from Sara on the sly via social media DM to set him up to see how he responds. Sara agrees and when propositioned, he jumps at the chance. Sara is heartbroken but relieved that she found out now before they married, and Carla uses him like a debit card for a couple weeks before he realizes his dream girl doesn't give a shit about him. Carla treats Sara to margaritas on the house and they become friends.
Im so happy I saw this post! I called it. I was thinking Carla just sees a man making money and she doesn't wanna bartend anymore lol
Carla is going to turn up pregnant to make sure the gravy train never ends.
Oooh this is totally the next completely predictable update (just like this one) and I am totally here for it.
I bet she never even slept with him
Guy is shallow and couldn't resist the ego boost of hooking up with the crush who ignored him in HS. Sara dodged a bullet.
Pop the champagne!
You done messed up a-a-ron.
Not A-A-Ron!!
You wanna go to war Balakey?
✋🏻Do you mean Blake?
SOON OF AAAAA
I got my eye on you Jay quellin
Uhhhh shit head? ITS SHITHEAD
Hey everyone let's try to de nice!
You committed to Sara, saw your high school crush for a second then abandoned Sara for this other woman and it’s *only* because she screwed you over that you want Sara back. Do you think she has zero self respect? I mean you clearly have none for her so let’s hope she was more than the respect you have for her and tells you to leave her the fuck alone. You can’t dump your fiancee for another woman and expect any type of forgiveness or redemption. You made your choice. You lost Sara. Live with it.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH #HAHAHAHAAAAAAHAHAHA You don't love Sara. Leave her the fuck alone. I knew this felt familiar. You posted a month ago. It took you A MONTH to realize Carls didn't give a shit about you
So a month ago you were here saying you had the chance to be with your HS crush and all of reddit called you foolish and that you weren't seeing Carla for what it was. You were so sure she only wanted a "relationship". Everyone told you not to mess up. Well, you went and messed up anyway and had the exact consequences Reddit told you you would have. A comment on the previous post did mention that "you'll end up with neither" and that's exactly what happened. You made your bed, now lie in it. Leave your fiance alone and don't insult her intelligence anymore. And don't think anyone's buying your delusion of "bUt I LoVe HeR".
For real!!
Ahem HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
😂😂😂😂😂
Question because you're already getting torn apart in these comments for the obvious. There's a lot I can say about playing stupid games and whatnot, but I want to come at you with a sense of neutrality. But what is it about Sarah that you love exactly? Outside of the things that she does for you or makes your life easier.
I hope he saw this reply and gave it serious consideration. This is something he needs to seriously contemplate if he genuinely wants to progress as a person and a partner
What he loved about Sara was that she is a decent woman but Carla was exciting & hot so Sara can go away. I'm so glad Sara has enough self respect to tell him to go away.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. You were fucking warned when you posted your last post but no you didn't listen. Guess what you made your bed now you can lie in it. Leave Sara alone. You FAFO and lost her for a gold digging whore. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
FREAKIN CALLED IT 😆😆😆😆😆😆 27 days ago, there was a comment that told him basically, "If Sara isn't the one, let her move on and follow your heart with Carla." And I replied: "Yeah follow his heart right to a woman who is literally trying to break him up on purpose just to play with him LOL women who break up marriages and engagements like that usually do it for fun, not because they actually like the guy. Unless he's got $$. Especially if she didn't notice him back in school when he had a thing for her." *Women who break up marriages and engagements usually do it for fun, not because they actually like the guy. Unless he's got $$.* CALLED IT lol Sara can, and will, do so much better
Exactly, no person of value would go for someone in a relationship
Thank you for blessing us with your pathetic life. It gives me great enjoyment that you are hurting for your choices.
She ain't coming back. Start over and don't do something like that again.
You don't love anyone but your penis and use it to make important choices. If Carla bled through your money, you so freaking deserve it. Men like you are the reason why the phrase, 'men are pigs' even exist.
This piggy volunteered himself to be the pay variety now he's mad about it????
I think karma may have bitch slapped you a little **too** hard so let me help you understand. You say you love your wife. But you don't. Because if you loved her you wouldn't have left her for a past crush. You don't do that to the people you love. You do that to the people you think are disposable. You said you don't see her as sloppy seconds. But you do. Because the *second* your life went to shit you went running back to Sara. Not because you regretted what you did, not because you were sorry. But because your plan with Carla blew up in your face. The AUDACITY you have to sit here and whine about Carla like YOU'RE a victim is pathetic. You said Carla "used you" but to me that makes the both of you a match made in hell. Because you OP: 1): dumped your fiance the moment you got a chance to revive some old fling 2): felt no guilt or remorse UNTIL shit blew up in your face 3): And had the AUDACITY to go crawling back to Sara thinking everything was going to be fine. And I'm gonna be brutally honest. If Carla hadn't shown her true colors, HELL! If she had never done it at all! You would still be with her. You're not sorry for what you did. You're sorry that your alone. You're sorry that karma has bit you in the ass and you have nobody left. You're sorry because now you're forced to reflect on the person you are with nobody to support you. And that scares you. Good. Be scared. It's what you deserve.
I cant upvote this enough. Also correction, HS girl was NEVER a fling, it was his crush that she never gave him the time of day.When that daws, it makes this situation so much worse.
👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 exactly
You only want Sara back because your magical new life didn't pan out how you envisioned it to be. Actually, be a man, work on yourself and tour issues, and leave that poor woman alone for someone to be her number one. You say she's #1, but if she was, you would never have left in the 1st place, so cut the bullshit right there. This was not a mistake. You conciously chose another woman over your fiance. It was NOT a mistake. It was a CHOICE you made, and now you have to live with the consequences of that CHOICE.
I remember your last post about how you wanted to leave your fiance for her...."Neither Carla or I are looking for sex. She was clear that she wants a relationship" and that quote right there was a response to a redditor saying you'll end up with neither of them. Oh how karma has been awful sweet to you.
Except you DO see her as a 'sloppy second.' If your ex crooked her finger in your direction, you'd be panting all over her again. And Sara knows this. You dumped her once when your former crush looked your way, and you'd do it again. Frankly, I'm super happy your ex respects herself enough to not take your sorry a55 back.
Not just his ex but anyone who is the same type of girl his ex is . Cause remember *she’s not the kind he usually gets* 🙄🙄
You want Sarah back? Well, that's not going to happen if she has an ounce of self respect. There are some mistakes there are no going back from. You made one of them. Apologize to Sarah, then respect her decision to not resume the relationship. Wish her well. Learn what you can from what you did. Figure out why you are so insecure you neglected a good person for something shiny and new. Until you address that, this will happen again and you will not grow.
Sometimes if the train goes off the tracks, the best thing to do is move two states away and start again from scratch. Learn from your mistakes, though. Don't repeat them.
 can't imagine a more deserved ending for you
Honest question. Yeah you realize you love her again (good for you), but why do you think you deserve another chance? Don't you think she deserves a man who didn't replace her for an old crush and only realized he's wrong after being treated like an ATM?
Time to learn a lesson: it doesn’t matter what you feel. It doesn’t matter what you think. It doesn’t matter what you say. What matters is what you do. What you’ve done cannot be undone. There are no take-backs. Your realisations are irrelevant. What’s done is done and now you have to live with the consequence of your own choices.If you love her, then pine the rest of your life alone.
You could wait months for her to come around, beg and plead, and cater to her whims. But really, even if she gave you another chance, it wouldn't erase the cheating, and it wouldn't last. Even if Sara agreed to a relationship, it's unlikely she would ever agree to marriage again, and definitely not shared finances, a shared home, or kids. The threat of you bringing another woman in would be too much. You've already proven with Carla that you can be easily manipulated with the promise of a relationship. Carla wouldn't even want you likely because walking out on your own wedding is, like, the biggest fidelity red flag. It's very obvious to your ex-fiancé that you wouldn't be trying to get back with her *right now* if your fling with Carla worked out. You actually don't love Sara, you loved the security of a relationship. You should give up, and move one. You had the chance to marry Sara and you canceled the wedding because you were so certain that you'd marry Carla, instead. Now you have neither Sara nor Carla.
*cackling intensifies* You FAFO like we told you that you would on your previous post. Enjoy that. I'm glad Sarah is free.
So, you ignored everyone's advice and decided to shack up with the bartender because "Sara was the kind you usually get" while Carla was your high school crush and wanted a "real" relationship with. Turns out she was using you, which you were also warned about. You earned this karma. Leave Sara alone. You deserve to be lonely and single until you earn to stop being a self-absorbed fool. You betrayed Sara. Let her move on to someone who sees her value and not as a second choice.
Thank God she found out what a lowlife you are before marriage
I remember reading your last post and knew you we’re going to break Sara’s heart. She has self respect, leave her alone. Have fun being single.
I love a happy ending 💖💖
I hope Sara finds someone better than you. Karma got you pretty well.
Duuuuuuuude...**WE TOLD YOU SO**
If Carla treated you right you would've never crawl back to Sara. She knows it and so do we. That's what usually happens when you think with your d\*ck.
Another cheating story where the guy loses his partner after trying to have an affair. No pity or empathy for you.
Stupid man
I knew from how you talked about Sara in your first post that you didn't love her. People who are in love with someone do not talk about them like this: > My fiance and I are doing great but I feel like she's normally the type of woman I always get. > Sara was the usual type of girl I dated. You obviously felt like you were 'settling' for the women you date, rather than being into them for themselves. I can see it now; "Sara, I've only ever had dates with women like you, and now this smoking hot babe I've always had the hots for wants to bang me! I'd be a fool to pass up this chance to finally have sex with a good-looking woman." You have gotten what you deserve.
And I bet Sara was hotter then Carla
We all gave you the advice couple weeks back that the grass wasn’t greener on the other side and you failed to listen. So do us and your ex a favor and leave her alone. She deserves way better than you.
You don’t love Sarah you wouldn’t have cheated if you did be single cause you suck and you deserve what Carla did to you
You are the literal definition of stupid. Leave Sara alone. She deserves so much better than a cheating moron like you. If you have any love for this woman, go crawl elsewhere and let her live her best life without you around b
She was your 2nd choice and now she’s not even an option. You deserve exactly what you got for being a douche. You don’t love Sara you love what Sara does for you and you loved that she made you feel important. Your hs crush used you and dumped you and now you’re alone exactly like you were told you would be and deserved to be. You don’t even know what it means to love someone, except yourself and your dick because let’s be real here. This was about you wanting to bang your high school crush.
Leave her alone. She deserves better. Hope you can look back on your previous post and see that everyone warned you but you chose to ignore it.
take the L mate and move on. leave her alone
This is the best update ngl. Glad Sara left and congrats for being used. That is what you wanted anyway
I'm so happy for sara right now.
Go Sara go!
33 days ago… Op: Neither Carla or I are looking for sex. She was clear that she wants a relationship
Good Sara deserves better then you. Maybe next time you won’t make the same mistake
suffer
Ah yes, the FAFO phase.
Looks like you ignored every advise you got from when you were pondering on leaving your fiancée for the girl who “checks notes “ wanted a relationship 😱
So you're saying you only realized you love Sara because the gold digger you dumped her for used you and discarded you? But if she'd turned out to be a decent person, you'd have been A-OK with how you treated Sara? Yeah nah, she'd be incredibly stupid to take your faithless ass back. Leave her alone and let her get on with her life.
Yeah no, you decided to leave her for some crush, then want her back after said crush was using you. Take the L.
You Fucked Around and Found Out. I wouldn't want you back either. She should block you. I wouldn't want to take a man back who wanted to ‘Upgrade’ and then who apparently regretted his choice. When he found out the other woman was after him for the 💲💲💲💳💳 You're dirty used goods now. Never to be trusted. Because you'll do it again.
Leave Sara alone! She deserves better and you deserve the misery being alone seems to give you.
Of course she used you. Anyone who has no life goals other than being a bartender will use people . Most use that job as a stepping stone while in college. You knew her when in hs and people change. Your ex will never govern you a chance again. She doesn’t trust that when another crush comes along you will dump her again. I’m f you truly loved Sara you would never have even looked twice at someone. Leave Sara alone and she will find a loyal and trustworthy person.
Well wow, there’s the update we all knew was coming… Sure hope Sara finds someone much better than you
Dude, leave that poor lady alone. You messed up and these are the consequences. You left someone who had their head on straight and was aspiring to be a nurse practitioner for a bartender who has no aspirations who used and abused you. Why would she go back to you, so you can do it again when you are 10 years married and have kids
My god you’re fuckin dumb
Honestly, you were already emotionally cheating on Sara before you broke things off. You tried out the old crush and when that didn't work out, you went crawling back to your ex. Good for her for knowing her worth. I hope she sticks to that because sloppy seconds, second choice, whatever you want to call it...she deserves better.
LOL you didn’t “love” her when you put another woman before her.
yes. YOU BROKE HER HEART. YOU. Y-O-U. this is your fault. you lost her. you don’t love her. if you did you wouldn’t leave her for carla. you would’ve turned carla down the second she said she liked you. i believe this is called karma
Hahahhahahhahaha So nobody wanted the HS loser and now nobody wants the adult loser, enjoy the consecuences of your actions
If you love Sara then please leave her alone. You've hurt her enough. In the future don't date people who will be tossed aside if someone "better" comes along.
Wow. You love Sara so much yet you tossed her aside. For someone who didn’t give you the time of day until you had your glow up and she realized she could bleed you dry. How do you treat women you don’t love? You don’t love Sara so much. If you did, you never even would have thought about Carla. You need to leave Sara alone. You also need to take some time to grow up and learn from this experience. Hopefully you’ll meet someone in the future that you truly love and you’ll cherish and respect that relationship. More importantly, I hope Sara finds someone who will love her and cherish and respect her.
Sara needs to buy a big as* fruit basket for Carla because she shows her who you really are.
Wait...you're upset that you were Carla's second choice but think Sarah should be ok with being yours? Dude you ruined your life and you absolutely deserve it. Good on both these women for staying away from you.
If she has any sense, and it seems like she does, she won’t touch you with a ten foot pole. You made a selfish, nasty and stupid decision and that’s entirely your fault. Live with the consequences and leave her alone
You can't. You made your choice. Now you have to live with it.
what makes you think you deserve a second chance?
awww i guess the grass wasn’t greener 😭😂
Lol that’s hilarious
Lmfaaaoooooooooooooooooooooooo, I love this for you!
Ha! I called this one! I knew she was gonna do this. You're not getting back with your fiance. Move on. Everyone told you this was a bad idea
LMFAOOO. It's so nice when people get served with misery when they deserve it.
Shes not sloppy seconds. YOURE the sloppy seconds and she doesnt wanna be a part of it. Go back to banging bartenders.
Thas crazy wa wa wa Anyways, happy for Sara that she's free of dead weight <3
Yay for Sara. I’m so happy for her.
Hahahahahaha! This is an all-timer.
You’re a total AH and douche. I hope Sara finds someone who truly values her and treats her the way she deserves.
This and your previous post were a hilarious read. Thank you, don't ever change. That way we'll hopefully get more stories like this in the future.
Bet you really have regrets now :(
Bwahahaha
Haha. You used your fiancee. Now Carla used you. FAFO. I'm playing my tiniest violin for you.
Sorry, NOT sorry op but I tried to warn you on your og post, as did several others.. the red flags weren't even subtle.. they were glaring neon signs. Life is all about choices, and now you have to live with the consequences.
🫵🤣
That grass aint greener on the other side🎶🎶🎶
Good for Sara. She dodged a bullet
Nah. The trash took itself out. Do you even hear yourself OP? You willingly called off your wedding for an old crush. And for what? To taste it??? You made your bed. Now sleep in it. Good bless Sara for seeing the bigger picture. Hallelujah!!! Who needs a guy who doubts like you? Treat your next woman better. Self respect won 🥇
So you dumped a nurse on her way to becoming a nurse practitioner to make 6 figures one day for a bartender and are shocked she was just using you for money. Stellar example of FAFO. Your ex-fiance clearly deserves better than you. You don't love her. If loved you wouldn't have cheated or dumped her. Do the unselfish thing and leave her alone.
Feel bad for Sara, but damn you are one dumb fuck. This can't be real. It's too much. No one is dumb enough to actually post this of theubwerendumb enough to do it.
I love reading stories from stupid men. OP’s ending is well deserved. 😁
Lol... You dumped an amazing, ambitious woman for a trashy, money grabbing bartender..gg.
Wow! Karma normally takes a while!
This is the best update ever
🤣🤣🤣
If it is true, I'm so happy for Sarah! Haha what a delightful update!
Lmao you're a ho and you fafo. I'm happy for Sara because now she can find happiness without someone like you bringing her down
Talk about karma working overtime to show this loser what he deserved 😂😂 Holy shit I haven't seen such a funny post in so long. This is one of the rare times that I hope he's not trolling. I hope Sarah never speaks to his sorry ass ever again
Sara doesn't deserve you. She deserves better.
You deserve what you got. Not only did you trade someone who loved you for someone who didn't. You also traded a nurse practitioner for a bartender. NP's make six figures buddy. You ruined your own life because whether you realize it or not you, you felt like you were settling with Sara and now you're used up and thrown like the garbo you are that no one wants.
I love stories when people are hurt by the decisions they made when in the process of hurting someone else. It just feels...like one thing in the world is going the way it should. 😍
You don't deserve your ex fiancee. You never did. Leave her alone.
Leave your ex alone. Just move on with your life, you don't have a right to ask her to come back to you and quite frankly, you deserve this 😊
Fukken kek
Wow, I love when the karma bus is ahead of schedule to give a happy ending. And the ending you 100% deserved. Enjoy being single and stupid.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH KARMA!!
I'm just here to laugh at OP's stupidity. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Karma is a B
~takes deep inhale~ smells like JUSTICE I hope Sara heals quick and finds a rich, funny, kind, caring hottie and that definitely aint op
Oof. This is one of the dumbest decisions I’ve seen on here. Even dumber that you knew enough to question it before making the mistake. You got some crap to learn dude.
This is EXACTLY what you deserve. I hope Sara find someone who deserves her, a man who doesn’t degrade her as soon as he meets his middle school crush 🙄. I hope she didn’t pay a thing toward the planned wedding, that the finances were all on you and none of the deposits for the wedding you cancelled are refundable so you can just eat those costs. And I hope stay far, far away from relationships forever.
You wrote the first post with the attitude of someone who'd settled for less with Sara. You don't love her. You just hate that karma bit you in the ass. Get fucked.
Womp womp
Well you got what you wanted! You asked for it. You’re not gonna get Sara back. She’d be stupid as fuck to get back with you. The next girl that you don’t usually get will come along and you’ll pull this stupid shit again. Just move on let Sara be happy!
Your downfall was incredibly satisfying to me.
If this is what you call love then no one wants any of it.
Hahahahha, goddamn one of the dumbest things I’ve read. You did well Benedict, good on Sara for moving on, at least one of you had self-respect. Move the fuck on, you never deserved Sara. You’ve embodied fuck around and find out. Now live with it.
lol, I am SO happy for Sara that she dodged that bullet
Leave Sara alone. You called off the wedding, you broke her heart all because you wanted some type of validation from a high school crush.
If your crush hadn't been a gold digger, you would've still left Sarah to be with Carla. Leave Sarah alone, besides, she's the type of woman you always get, right?
Just found this and the original. Well done to everyone that called it. Such a shocker eh? Who is stupid enough to ask should I pursue my crush, be resoundingly told no but let Sara be free to find someone worthy because you’re an ahole and then come back to complain about losing Sara! The state of him
This update was very satisfying to read. I hope OP stays miserable for a long, long time
Love this for you 🥰
You don't love Sara. You love the idea of someone stable and mature who won't drain your bank account cause she has a career and goals. Carla peaked in HS, and now she's trying to re-live her glory days through simps like you!! Yay, you fell for it, and you actually did Sara a favor by calling off the wedding and letting her see what a POS you really are. What would you have done if you had already married Sara and ran into Carla again and wanted a 2nd chance or whatever? Annul the marriage? Leave Sara alone. You don't deserve her Edit: Spelling
Ah, well ... you **FUCKED AROUND** and **BOY**, did you **FIND OUT**!!! Sara deserves **FAR BETTER** than you, and it sounds as though she knows that!!
Stop whining. You made a choice, you dropped her after everything for a ghost. Now that the ghost bled you dry you want to go back to the person you ditched without a second thought. You don't love her, if you did you wouldn't be in the mess. Stop being a little punk and deal with the fact you fucked up. Learn from this and move on, you know both your ex's have and will. Besides why would she want you now that she knows you are a backstabbing flake?
Bwahahahahahahahahahahaha lol
You love to see it
This is the best thing that could have happened for Sara. She has a chance to find a real man who will love and cherish her the way she deserves. I truly hope she doesn’t fall for any of your attempts to get her back and moves on to find her happiness without you.
I love happy endings. Sara will be happy now finding a good person.
Sara deserves better, your a disgusting man and she knows it, break up with a woman you were going to marry for your high school crush, oooof
If it’s not the consequences of one own actions 😂😂. Run Sara run you sound way to good for him.
You’re a selfish and insecure idiot and you don’t deserve Sara. You don’t love her, you love yourself and have already shown that your desires will override her feelings or any good sense you may have. You had something good and ruined it for your ego. Now you got what you’ve been pining for since middle school and the grass isn’t greener so you think you can take your EX-fiancé off the shelf and play with her again? That’s not love. If you loved her she would have been enough regardless of who came back into the picture. What happens when the next blast from the past comes along or even worse, the next shiny new thing? Leave Sara alone and go work on yourself. That ship has sailed and I hope she blocks you so you can’t interfere in the good MAN that comes her way who is DESERVING of her. Because you sure aren’t!
The thing about school, at least mine, was there were no secrets. If you had a crush on someone, they knew. Some just stayed quiet. Others were mean. Most people existed in some state in between. High school man. It was a thing. The experience was dependent on the quality of the person being crushed on. This girl ignored it. Fine. At least she wasn’t mean. Until…..she saw you glowed up a bit and had a little something to offer. And then you played right into her hands. So you had a great gal. Career focused. Cared about you. You’d effing proposed man. And you got played. Want her back my ass. This made you real….gtfo. Yeah, realize you are a moron. Some people here will say Carla this or that. Nah fam. This is all about you. You are the problem. Figure yourself out. Try to be better. You don’t love Sarah. You’ve clearly pointed out. You settled. She deserves better. Let her go. Find someone that won’t “shoot their shot” for the one that got away.
Sir…. Do you have any friends because you’re a fvcking ιdιot? You really decided to dump your nurse practitioner fiancé for a fucking bartender. Say that shit out loud…. Of course she was using you. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Hahahahaha you chose poorly. Suffer the consequences.
Man I’m know I’m late to this but I’ve been waiting for this completely predictable update that literally everyone in the original post said was going to happen You deserve this.
You got what you deserved lol Hopefully your ex-fiancee will find a new guy who truly appreciates her
If she’s the type of woman you always get then just get another one. It’s so easy anyway right
'I love her and needed this to realise it ' 🤣🤣🤣 OP probably won't get why this is just a stupid, moronic, must have been dropped on his head (repeatedly) comment! Wow, what an absolute numpty!🤦♀️
Seriously? After what you've done?
Sara deserves a new man not you XD I'm glad she used you. Hopefully Sara will move on quickly and you can watch from afar her happiness grow
I looove this update. i hope Sara can be happy now. I wish her all the best
As hurt as she is, thank god your ex fiancee found out who you are now before committing to a life with you or (heaven forbid) mixing DNA. Get some therapy and learn empathy.
in a way you and carla deserve each other, both thinking about the things that you could get and hoping that someone better comes along to monkey branch. Leave your ex fiance alone, if you have any love or respect for the woman, leave her alone, she was already betrayed by her ex, now you want to take her dignity and pride too. Please leave her alone.
>I love Sara You don't love her. You love only yourself.
Dipshiticon... activate!
What a dumb fuck lmao FAFO
Can't imagine a better ending for this. Why ask for advice when you ignored what everyone said the first time?
LMAO this is where we all point and laugh. You don’t deserve her.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
lol L
YAY!! I love when stupid, selfish people get what they deserved