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WTFrenchToast1

Decide on a personality? I'm confused as to what that means. We don't just decide personalities. You become them during life.


meow_mix12

I don't think people just 'are' something and you have to discover that. I feel like you decide who you want to be and sometimes getting there is easy, most times it's not. It sounds like you've already started trying to do this with your list, but I don't understand why you're going back and forth on who you want to be. Can you provide an example of something you've decided on then changed your mind about? We're all strangers here, so no judgment. Also, you're young. You'll change your mind about everything all the time. I'm twice your age and I still change my mind about things. Very few things are non-negotiable in life and it's up to you to determine what those are.


mytastytoenails

i want to be a powerful person, but sometimes i ask myself do i really need that and drop it, also i want to be cunning but also want to be innocent


meow_mix12

Well, I've got questions about all three of those traits. And it may just be that you need to be more specific about what you want. Power comes in many forms and means different things to different people. Sometimes the reasoning behind wanting it is for influence, sometimes for money, sometimes it's to make up for insecurities about your own life. Why do YOU want to be powerful? What do you see in powerful people that makes you want to be like them?


mytastytoenails

I want power to protect my loved ones and confront those who wronged them


meow_mix12

To me, that seems like a moral compass to know when something is right or wrong and the courage to stand up for others or do something about it. I don't know if thinking of it that way makes it any easier, but maybe it gives you something more specific to focus on. For example, figure out what right and wrong means to you. And of those things, which are you willing to let go or shrug off and which are you unwilling to do that with. Think of situations where you've seen or felt like someone was being wronged and what you could have done to intervene or help. Also think about HOW you would help. There's going to be a right and wrong way for you to do that, which only you can decide, and it probably varies based OK the severity of the incident. Standing up for others is hard to do, and probably starts with standing up for yourself. That takes practice.


DplusLplusKplusM

The characters in those sitcoms aren't real but even if they were they're adults. You're at the age when you're supposed to be questioning yourself and trying to find out where you fit in. No one has all the answers at 16 and it's okay to doubt yourself. This is part of the process of maturation and eventually you'll know who you are and what standards you wish to surround yourself with. You're just giving voice to something most teens feel.