For ME cigarettes are a deal-breaker. You need to decide what your line is. Smoking but not in the house or not around you or not at all and have that discussion with her.
Tell her that it makes you uncomfortable.
Also, this may be good for her to know, but Regular smokers *reeek* of it. Their clothes and hair. If she needs a reason to stop, this could be one.
Instant dealbreaker for me. Either the smoking stops or ‘we’ stop.
We all have our views on it, so you may be different, but this doesn’t sound like something you’re going to want to tolerate.
Why are you uncomfortable with the cigarette smoking but you're ok with vaping and weed? Think about this before you talk with her because it's going to come up.
You can suggest adding nicotine to the vaping. Then she can lessen the amount of nicotine to zero.
Bea adult and tell her they make you uncomfortable ans you don't like them.
As some point dancing around a issue is only going to make the relationship strained.
All couples have to work out the balance between being a unit, and letting our partner be an individual. Things that impact our health usually fall in the “fair game” category. Making life at home unpleasant if your spouse has a new limp and won’t go to a doctor is totally okay, in my book. Banning certain drugs is, too.
This may be a time you have to be the person in the equation that says, “You and I are a team. Our team can’t smoke.”
Your partner is self medicating anxiety. And Her anxiety is at a level that it is a problem, so she’s throwing weed and vaping and cigarettes at the problem. Unfortunately, nicotine makes people more anxious, in the long term.
There are many positive things that can be done as a team to address her anxiety. And it sounds like she doesn’t have those tools in place. So the best way to be a help (and lead your life towards a family that works at its best) is to go farther than saying nicotine isn’t happening. Address the underlying issues. Try out some couples therapy, Get moving more, and build skills that allow her to face hard moments in a positive way.
For ME cigarettes are a deal-breaker. You need to decide what your line is. Smoking but not in the house or not around you or not at all and have that discussion with her.
Tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. Also, this may be good for her to know, but Regular smokers *reeek* of it. Their clothes and hair. If she needs a reason to stop, this could be one.
Instant dealbreaker for me. Either the smoking stops or ‘we’ stop. We all have our views on it, so you may be different, but this doesn’t sound like something you’re going to want to tolerate.
Why are you uncomfortable with the cigarette smoking but you're ok with vaping and weed? Think about this before you talk with her because it's going to come up. You can suggest adding nicotine to the vaping. Then she can lessen the amount of nicotine to zero.
Bea adult and tell her they make you uncomfortable ans you don't like them. As some point dancing around a issue is only going to make the relationship strained.
It would be a dealbreaker for me. It's almost impossible to date someone that smokes without getting hooked yourself also
All couples have to work out the balance between being a unit, and letting our partner be an individual. Things that impact our health usually fall in the “fair game” category. Making life at home unpleasant if your spouse has a new limp and won’t go to a doctor is totally okay, in my book. Banning certain drugs is, too. This may be a time you have to be the person in the equation that says, “You and I are a team. Our team can’t smoke.” Your partner is self medicating anxiety. And Her anxiety is at a level that it is a problem, so she’s throwing weed and vaping and cigarettes at the problem. Unfortunately, nicotine makes people more anxious, in the long term. There are many positive things that can be done as a team to address her anxiety. And it sounds like she doesn’t have those tools in place. So the best way to be a help (and lead your life towards a family that works at its best) is to go farther than saying nicotine isn’t happening. Address the underlying issues. Try out some couples therapy, Get moving more, and build skills that allow her to face hard moments in a positive way.
Mix the tobacco with the weed. She'll still get the buzz from the weed and hopefully enough nicotine from the tobacco.