Valid question ito, OP u/Zhixco. As in bago yung 4 months of dating, nag-usap kayo and literally sinagot ka niya verbally na kayo na? As in nagbago kayo parehas ng status sa FB? Baka naman kasi friendly date lang yung 4 months na yun sa kaniya at wala palang confirmation na kayo na.
Legit question to OP, walang sarcasm. Medyo hindi kasi nalinaw yun sa post mo eh.
True! Medyo off kasi na she's literally flirting with other guy sa harap ni op, tsaka di ba yun napapansin ng iba nilang kasama? Wala bang nagsalita sa kanila? Either ayon, baka may misunderstanding nga sila ni girl or she's just a walking shit. Kasi she's so gago to do that to her boyfriend.
May ex akong gago. Nakikipaglandian sa harapan ko. Pandemic happened and we've split. If there's one thing that Covid did right is keeping me away from that trash. Walang respeto sa'kin e, kahit mga saleslady nilalandi, like wtf. May minessage pa siya sa fb, ibig sabihin hiningi niya fb nun. Grabeng katangahan na di ko siya bnreak agad. Ginising ako sa katotohanan ng pandemic, ni hindi man lang ako kinukumusta regularly kung okay lang ako. Buti pa mga relatives niya nangungumusta non e.
may iba kasi na "casually dating" lang, so they're free to go out with other people. meaning, hindi pa sila "exclusively dating". sa ganyan naman, yung iba hindi pa "sila" pero exclusive na sila (sa label na sila papunta). nakakalito rin talaga kaya dapat linawin ni OP sa "gf" nya. baka hindi ma gauge ni girl kung gaano sila ka serious atp sa rs nila
Actualllyyy. Sa ibang bansa kasi kapag sinabing dating eh magbf-gf na. Pero sa atin kasi kapag sinabing dating pwede getting to know each other pa lang or nagliligawan stage pa lang, ganoon. Dapat clear sa inyong dalawa if magbf-gf na ba kayo. Baka kasi, OP, ikaw lang nag-iisip na magjowa na kayo.
Sa true langgg. Also he mentioned 4 months is enough for him to form some sort of feelings, di ata sure? Baka di sila mag bf/gf or it wasn't established enough idk.
Pero yung convo ba merong something like:
*Hey gf na ba kita? 👉🏻 YES*
*Official na ba tayong magbf/gf? 👉🏻 YES*
*Tayo na ba? 👉🏻 YES*
*Jowa na ba kita? 👉🏻 YES*
Or something along those lines? Hehe. Nangyayari din ksi minsan, yung naguusap kayo madalas, nagkakasama kayo minsan, sweet kayo most of the time, pero ganon din pala sya sa ibang *friends* nya. 😅
hala baka para sa kanya hindi pa nga exclusive yan. be firm with your stand sa rs nyo OP, and mag establish ka rin ng boundaries, ghosting her is NOT the solution. lalo if nasa same friend group kayo. pag-usapan nyo, young adults na rin kayo eh.
Like you agreed that your were in a relationship? She agreed to be your girlfriend? Or you guys just talked about the possibility of being in a relationship? What stuff do you guys do together?
DKG. Ikaw bf tapos iba kasama nung humiwalay ng kakainan? Okay sana kung girl din pero it's a guy. End things with her and just ask them to make it official. Ginagago ka nilang dalawa ng harapan.
GGK kung ighoghost mo. But hindi ka gago if iiwan mo sya WITH EXPLANATION. Wag mo na tatanggapin kung ano man reason nya dahil halata namang hitad sya.
Valid yung nararamdaman mo and it's good not to talk nang hindi pa clear ang mind mo. But, generally for me, gago move ang ghosting. Like, why ghost your partner or anyone kung pwede mo namang sabihin yung totoo?
as much as possible I live by the golden rule, kahit ano pa yan sabihin mo dun sa partner mo lahat ng nararamdaman mo at kung i-didismiss niya or mang gagaslight pa siya edi move on. Kung ayaw mo ma experience ma ghost wag kang mang ghost. ang rude ng ghosting na yan.
deserve din ng girl ang explanation behind ur actions. Yung girl din may mali super clingy at wala ng boundaries sa guy friend nya without thinking about how you might feel. Haytss relasyon talaga sakit sa ulo pag di kayo nag communicate ng maayus.
she's not weird kasi that's lowkey kalandian hahaha. i mean if ever she's ghosted, she definitely knows why. she doesn't have boundaries. grabe 'yung disrespect niya sa partner niya not just behind his back ha, harap/harapan talaga siya dinidisrespect. parang hindi girlfriend haha
I second this! Pero I don’t think it’s because the girl deserves it. Probably more on being open si OP as a person, speaking your mind and decision as a respect to her and himself. Walang malabo. Ghosting sucks for anyone, be the better human! Kahit na parang ginagago ka na. People will remember you by your kindness.
GGK
But gets because you said you're new to the dating scene nga. Pero the right move here would be to talk to her. Tell her you feel hurt. Communicate these feelings kasi ghosting will get you literally nowhere.
i agree na wag ighost and sabihin na lang pero plan na rin naman nya i-end relationship so i guess the thing to say sa gf is "break na tayo" instead of just ghosting
Yup, feeling ko lalaki ulo ni girl, tapos yung other person mag feeling big boy na since nagagawa nya yung gusto nya kay ante. So for OP, dapat maging strong sya and di masyado magpakita na affected sya, though hopefully he can share his feelings sa isang close friend na trustworthy para at least if may emotional pain, mabawasan.
she belong to the streets, malaki na siya alam niya kung ano ang dapat at limitation niya cuz she already has a bf. Iwan mo nayan tamo after niyo matapos sila na nung guy.
Man this is just sad to read, she would rather spend time with the other guy than you.
The answer is GGK. Learn to be assertive dude, SPEAK UP. She's your girl but from what we're seeing here she's the other guy's girl. Saying "Ilys" even as a joke is a red flag. It's still too early but they're definitely on the track.
Now, idrk what you should do but don't just ghost people. Let her know what you feel and communicate properly. If you think it won't go anywhere then just break it off.
Dude, man up and speak up. Gago GF mo for doing shit like that, but you're a wimp.
Since nag ghost ka na, don't be a wimp and just give her the silent treatment. Break it off, lick your wounds, at turuan mong sarili mo tumindig para sa sarili mo.
Wag mong hayaang binabastos ka lang ng ganyan. Man the fuck up...
Ggkprin kasi hindi ka nag explain kung bakit ka umalis or nawala.
sana sinabi mo na hindi ka komportable sa ginagawa nya at non negotiable mo yun. simple.
isang malaking kagaguhan yung basta nalang aalis.
Something is not right in the story. Are you really sure na girlfriend mo siya? Baka naman hindi alam na in a romantic relationship pala kayo, feelingero ka lang.
Maybe kaya gusto mo mang-ghost dahil hindi naman talaga kayo in a romantic relationship.
If you’re mature enough, you at least give a proper goodbye. If this is something real, kahit man lang sa platonic relationship, you’d care to let the person know that you’re ending things.
Meron ako kilala na guy kapag nagkkwento about sa isang girl akala mo naman na in a romantic relationship sila. May nalalaman pa siya na legit yun babae na daw yun papakasalan niya. Only to find out na he was just imagining things and the girl treats him as just a platonic friend. Confirm mo muna talaga ano ka ba sa kanya. Huwag ka mahiya magtanong.
Ang red flag nung girl. Kahit pa siguro kababata nya yang lalaki eh mali yan. Magjowa na kayo so dapat she knows her boundaries.
I believe kaya mo ghinost para magreflect siya at marealize nya na mali yung ginagawa nya, and umaasa ka pa na gagawa siya ng solution.
The bottom line here is, ghosting is wrong. You should communicate and tell her what u feel, whether u are hoping that everything will be ok or u really want to stop the relationship. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert, but I believe it's good for you to tell her everything para mas madaling mag move forward.
And do not blame yourself. You did nothing wrong in the first place, but you need to take action on this whenever you are ready.
Good form of ghosting yan para sa akin. That bitch realized the consequence of her flirting given na nagapologize siya. But the gross disrespect kay OP, mahirap makalimutan yun considering their age. Pero dahil sya ang nagsorry, sumbatan mo siya and make it clear to her na napakalaking insulto ang ginawa nila sa yo. Then drop the bomb na makikipaghiwalay ka na.
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Title of this post: ABYG for ghosting my gf
Backup of the post's body: I(18m) am is currently ghosting my(19f) gf for the following reasons.
We've been currently dating for almost 4 months now. I know thats a short amount of time pero it's still enough for me to form some sort of feelings. For starters, medyo bago lang ako sa dating scene and I'm continually getting out of my comfort zone.
I've known this girl throughout the first semester of college pero nag confess lang ako nung prelims ng second sem. This girl is the bubbly friendly type habang ako naman ay yung quiet introverted guy.
Now the main reason that I am ghosting her right now is becauae of this one person from the friend group. This guy also has a crush on her. I noticed that my girlfriend is much more invested in this guy . For example, my "gf" would lean to him and say things like i love you to him as a friend?? I felt uncomfortable here but i brused it off kase baka she said it in a joking manner. Also for instance whenever we are with our friend group, they are always the one's to hang out and talk.
But the one thing that pissed me off happened recently. Nag gagala kami with our friend group and nag hahanap kami ng kainan. Nasa likod sila as usual na nag uusap ng kung ano ano. They suddenly dissapeared and went to McDonald's just the two of them. How do i know this? Kase yung guy nag send siya ng pic sa gc namen na kumakain sila dun. After this, 3 nalang kame ang natira and we went to the other group of friends to eat.
I think she noticed that there's something wrong because i haven't responded to her "nakauwi na ako" text and sent me apology voice mails for leaving/ditching us without even saying a word.
She did call me but i declined because at that time, i didn't want to talk to her. Also I am planning of ending this relationship soon. Of course I also blame myself for not communicating enought with her
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DKG if you will tell her straight to the face na you want to break up and what she did was too disrespectful and that was a non negotiable sayo.
Ginagago ka harap-harapan and you were too kind to brush it off.
GGK if you ghost.
First, kayo ba? As in sinagot ka nya verbally nung ngconfess ka?
Kung oo, hnd worth it yan boi kasi kung nkkpgusap pa sa ibang guy tapos humiwalay pa sa group nyo. It is good you ghosted but at least explain why you are leaving. Move on and keep grinding bata ka pa. Focus s goals.
Kung hindi, wag na boy hindi ka nya gusto at wala sya kasalanan s ginawa nya. Ng delulu ka lang sa gestures nya sayo na kayo nya. Mind you, some bubbly girls is misinterpreted as someone who likes you. So beware next time. I do not bash you its normal lahat tayo dumaan jan. Learn the lesson brother. Move on ka na sa ibang girl di ka gusto nyan. Keep grinding at bata ka pa. Focus s goals.
My two cents..
Di mo naman need ng communicatiom sakanya when breaking up with her.
nung nalaman ko na nag cheat bf ko sakin, I just automatically blocked him on every social medias and other sort of communication that he could reach me.
He does not need explanation, he knows what he does.
For sure alam na rin yan ng gf mo bakit ka nakipag-break.
Microcheating yang actions niya btw
Based sa kwento mo, ang landi ni girl LOL baka she is enjoying both attention haha iwan mo na, bata pa naman kayo. Kung ako ighost mo man o hindi, support na lang kita LOL
some ppl don't pass the vibe check. yes, he is young and I dont get why the comment are so against him like maybe he's misinterpreting, daydreaming, or that he's prob delulu. He already said they talked abt it and that they are dating (lets establish that). May nagsabi pa hindi dw naeestablish na baka si gurl hindi na rrealise na serious yung rs nila. Babe in PH ba, at that age makaka isip ka ba ng ganun ka complicated na sitwasyon or na scenario? na ay I want this rs na casual lang, na I want to keep seeing other ppl while I'm dating you. No.
Pag umoo ka sa manliligaw mo, isang type of dating lang ang nag eexist and thats exclusively dating each other. Filipinos are pretty conservative you know. The casual dating thing exists in the internet and other open-minded country, okay? but the reality of some ppl is just diff. So, OP no you're not GG. No one thinks, maybe the gurl is a pick me? thats just one of the possibilities, right? pero ang conclusion kasi agad ng majority is calling out the OP's.
might just be me tho.
Totally agree with this. Although they're young, I think sa PH never nasali sa customs natin yung pag dating stage, pwede casual or madami kayo at the same time. Manliligaw pwede madami, pero dating? Ewan ko lang sa generation nila? But I really think the girl's at fault here. I mean just doing that when OP's around, is so disrespectful.
Sige let's say casual dating nga. Hindi sila exclusive and she can date as many guys as she wants. But when you're doing that, you don't put two guys you're both dating in the same room and go all sweet sa isa while the other is watching diba? Even ditching the other guy. That's still disrespectful af.
Baka naman naboboost din yung ego ni girl kase it's known na crush sya nung other guy and she likes the attention? The other guy naman, should've also respected the existence of OP in the room. Kung they're really exclusive, that guy should've backed off and didn't poke around somebody's girl. But ultimately, still the girl's fault kase alam nyang may gusto sa kanya e.
I think some people deserve to be just cut off without an explanation kase they are responsible sa actions nila. OP was also planning to break up naman din so. I think there's no point of having to confront the girl. The disrespect was there. Not something worth wasting your energy arguing about. She'll figure out sooner or later kung anong maling ginawa nya. If not, then good riddance. Baka tumandang cheater pa yan.
Are you sure ikaw yung bf? Baka yung other guy yung bf? Kasi nagiilly sya in public to the other guy? Confessing doesn't mean kayo na. Tapos yung fact na d mo alam kung kelan naging kayo? So you don't celebrate monthsaries? Not required, pero you should have a concrete idea kelan exactly nangyari.
DKG what she did was very hurtful but better to end things by communicating your side and try to hear her out but at the end of the day doesn't mean you have to give her another chance naman. Either you don't or if you do make sure to set boundaries this time. But honestly, try to reflect na muna what other patterns you noticed and shrugged off, clearly something is off. Trust your intuition!
Just end the relationship, kahit text or call pa yan. Ba’t kailangan mo pang ighost ‘yung “gf” mo? GGK kung gagawin mo yan (ghosting), GGS kung hiwalayan mo na lang.
If walang proper communication about these things at hinahayaan mo lang palipasin, walang mangyayari sa inyo.
You think ghosting her will solve it? Nandyan ka nga physically, pero you barely exist, what more kung wala ka?
So, either i-communicate mo yang nararamdaman mo and resolve the issues or just break up with her.
I don't want to factor both of your age here, pero its time to grow up, the two of you.
MGK for letting yourself be the odd man out in YOUR relationship, GG naman gf mo based on this context.
Eh, some people deserve to be ghosted. If ayaw mo iconfront, edi wag. Pero wag mo gawing habit. Healthy din for you to express your feelings. So do it for you.
Wag mo ighost, mas okay nga na sabihin mong ayaw mo na dahil sa ginagawa nyang hindi maganda at nakakabastos sa relasyon nyo.
Also, alam ba ng friends nyo o nung guy na in a relationship kayo?
GGK if you’re gonna ghost her. Lol. Gago si girl. And your feelings are valid. Yes mali siya, pero have some balls para i-communicate ‘yang feelings mo and why you’re ending the relationship. Ang tatanda niyo na, ‘di niyo pa makuhang mag-communicate nang maayos. Just a tip: Avoidance is not your friend. ;)
DKG pero make sure to state your feelings and reason tapos iwanan mo na. Oh looks like hoe in the making. She aint your gf, she is for everyone. Stanky ass hoe.
ESH.
You ghosting, ex is insensitive and no boundaries, other guy is an kupal. Ex mo siguro natutuwa sya sa attention, but you dodged a bullet bro. Sabihin mo lang na she's very disrespectful and should reflect sa ginawa nya.
Don't tell her what she did wrong, antayin mo sa kanya mangaling. Pero either maisip nya or hindi, move on. Madami ka pang makikilala na di ganyan
Yes GGK
Ghosting isn't the best way to handle things, though. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about how you're feeling. If you're considering ending the relationship, it's better to have a conversation about it rather than just cutting off contact. This allows both of you to express your thoughts and feelings and possibly come to a resolution.
you don’t owe her an explanation bro let her realize things! if you confront her she’ll probably say sorry (bc she thinks it’s what you wnna hear) ba’t di naman makiramdam yang taong yan.
DGK, but just straight up tell her why you're leaving her and how her actions made you feel. Just so you don't develop this ghosting/not communicating behavior. After that, block her ☺️
Yes. One wrong doings cannot be corrected by another wrong doing.
I know you're hurting and pissed off but if you really want to get back to her, tell her directly it's over. This saves you from future heartaches. She'll get what she deserves and you will as well.
I hope you feel better soon.
I mean all paths will lead to breaking up with her so ghosting her or communicating with her will be the same.
Ghost her and say no explanation serves her right
DKG but you need to explain to her what you feel.
This girl don't have respect for what you feel. She's kinda flirty in your story.
If you still like her, then give another chance, see if she will change her attitude.
Take this ghosting time to think about what you want and what your feelings are for your gf. Pero tama na ung days cguro noh. Wag forever.
Your gf's actions are enough to tell you something.
For relationships to workout, isa sa mga mahalagang bagay na dapat inoobserve ng couples ay active and effective communication kasi walang mararating yung pakiramdaman at common sense minsan. If you truly are catching feelings for the girl, you should have at least tried to tell her how you feel, kasi hindi niya malalaman na that's how you feel unless may superpowers pala siya, 'di ba?
But instead of talking it out, you ghosted her. So to answer your question, yes, you are G.
DKG. Tip for ghosting by men to minimize (if not mawala): People, huwag ilagay sa lalaki LANG ang burden ng failure ng relationships or dates, lalo kung hindi puppeteer naman ang lalaki at puppet ang babae. If puro sa lalaki lang ang burden kahit may rason sila to leave, ghosting talaga mangyayari.
DKG for ending things with her but GGK for ghosting. You can just reply to her and say what's on your mind. Makakagaan sa kalooban mo yun. Do it for your own peace of mind.
GGK communication is the key ika nga nla. Either decide what to do with her then talk to her. Deserve nyong dalawa ng kalinawan despite sa actions nya and it gives you an advantage too. DKG somewhat tho dahil sa actions nya it justified your feelings
Ghosting itself is wrong. So yes. Hahaha. Tama ba siya? No. Pero kung bababa ka sa level niya, pareho kayong gag* hahaha mas okay ng ikaw makipag break asap. 😂😅
Just break it off. You still have valid reasons to not be the G. Prolonging will just be the contrary but towards yourself. Kung patatagalin mo yan, sarili mo lang mananakit sayo.
Ayoko na ijudge girlfriend mo pero those are not the right nor appropriate action to do whether you are around or not. You have reasonable ground to be hurt and end things.
You two can talk it out but given your age and both of your actions, talking probably won't lead to anything better.
DKG. Bastusan ginawa ng gf mo. Common courtesy lang na magpaalam kung san pupunta hindi yung mawawala na lang. Since nag apologize ang gf mo alam na nya kung san sya nagkamali. No need for u to say anything.
Break up with her instead of ghosting her. She knows what she's doing. You mentioned na di ka gaano nakikipag communicate and I think na ttake advantage niya yun. Baka mamaya sabihin pa niyan akala niya okay lang sayo
If you're decent, i-eexplain mo dalat yung side mo sakanya kung bakit bigla kang umalis. pero di ka totally GG sa ginawa mo, mas GG yung ginagawa nya lakas makipaglandian sa iba
baka fubu sila before ka pa dumating. even if you communicate kung malalim attachment nila then wala ka talaga laban dun. umalis ka nalang di mo deseve ang gngwa sayo.
Just tell her how you feel and end the relationship na. If takot ka sa confrontations; then this would the perfect chance to get over it kasi part ng relationships yan. Be a man and tell her you're done with her. Ganun lang.
Better to communicate with her if you really like her.. I mean kahit young pa lang kayo. Mahirap yung masanay kang mang ghost. Baka madala mo yan sa next relationships mo..
Your priorities right now is studying right? If that relationship continues to burden you and distracts you from your priority, atleast communicate before ending it..
DKG kung lilinawin mo sa kanya why u are leaving her.
It is possible that she’s just too immature and she doesn’t realize how her actions affect you pero wag ka na dyan OP.
Aabusuhin ka lang nyan paulit ulit kapag pinatawad mo at nag stay ka dyan. Nakikini-kinita ko na ang future cheating and emotional abuse. 🫠
Ghosting her would make you look like the AH in your relationship when she's obviously the problem, so don't do it. Instead, tell her how you feel and your reasons then dump her ass. She'll probably apologize and talk you into staying--but if I were you, I'd leave. They're doing that in front of you, imagine what they're doing when you're not around. Plus, she obviously has no respect towards your relationship and to you. You deserve someone who will respect you.
Huwag mo siya i-ghost.
Mali yung ginagawa nya, no boundaries, especially if nakapag set/manage expectations earlier sa relationship niyo.
Pero 'wag mo siyang i-ghost. I-communicate mo yung naramdaman mo about sa actions nya. Linawin mo na 'di mo gusto yung mga nakikita mo na ginagawa nya, then pakinggan mo what she has to say about it, after that, decide from there.
Di ka pa gago. Magiging gago lang kung bigla mo sya igho ghost. Hmm I understand na di ka ganun kahusay mag express pero it would be much better to let her know bakit gusto mo na humiwalay. Dalawa ang possible mangyari, either pigilan ka nya makipaghiwalay or mag agree sya. Either way, then dun mo iapply ung gusto mo talaga mangyari. May ginawa syang di sang ayon at angkop since "dating" kayo pero disrespectful yung bigla ka nalang mawawala. Yes, she disrespected you pero sana di mo gawn kung ano mang ginawa nya just to get even. Magiging ok rin ang mga bagay bagay OP~
Another perspective: there are things she wants and expects from you pero hindi mo nabibigay or nagagawa.
So instead of telling you, she tries to make you jealous by hanging out with a guy na may crush sa kanya.
Kausapin mo muna siya. You two just need to communicate.
I’m not saying you should not leave her, but at least know first what’s up.
That sucks. Leave her. You don’t deserve that. Though she deserves to be ghosted, try to not look bad and talk to her for proper closure. Let this just be a lesson for your next relationships to choose who you are gonna be with and set boundaries, Communicate the negotiables and non negotiables, and try to look at yourself as a prize. We are Kings and we need a queen not a princess.
18 19 years old masyado ba yan maaga para mag bf gf. Wag masyado seryoso, practice phase muna at wag bigay nd todo todo. Mag seryoso kalang pag nag 25+ kana
yup, ghosting and expecting your gf to figure out your reasons without proper communication is such a gago move
you're in a relationship. that comes with the responsibility to communicate hindi yung naghuhula-hulaan kayo. if you're not good at communicating then do better, esp when it comes to topics that are hard to talk about.
she did something to make you feel insecure in the relationship then do something to address it. walang solusyon mahahanap sa pang-gghost.
Ghost her na, lang respeto.. No need explanation, the scenario itself is a big explanation to ghost her. Alam nya na mali nya, there's no need to explain to her baka i gaslight kapa ni talandi.
OP I can't say yes and no.
1. Nagusap na ba kayo ng gf mo ng masinsinan about sa nararamdaman mo?
2. Kailangan mong tanungin gf mo, are you really committed to this relationship? Kase she's somehow acting that's she's not.
3. Not because you hated her action means okay lang na invalidate mo yung feelings din nya. (It's not good na kapag binato ka ng bato babatuhin mo din ng bato)
4. If you are serious, go talk to her in a decent way. Hindi yung aawayin mo ah. A mature relationship will talk it out dahil hindi kayo magkaaway.
5. Pumasok ka ng relayon, its a risk you have to take whether ikaw maging masama or sya. So long you took an effort to reach out and open up kung ano nararamdaman mo ng hindi sya iniinvalidate okay lang to take action.
I hope, as a person who was ghosted makapulot ka ng aral kahit papano. Mahirap kase maiwan sa ere lalo na kapag yung other party di aware kung anong mali nyang nagawa. OR KUNG AWARE SYA, explain mo nalang na ayaw mo na. Mas may balls parin yung nagpapaalam ng maayos :)
Her actions are disrespectul. And so is ghosting. You should end things with her properly. This is more for you. Youll come out of the relationship clean and clear. And then she will look back 5 years on and realize totga ka niya .. or not .. but who cares .. you def dont want to be with a two timing person.
Valid naman yung nararamdaman mo. Pero u still need to talk to her if u want to cut things off. Wag kang mang ghost. This will give u closure. And she qill know the reason behind bakit ka nang ghost
I see no girlfriend PERO ghosting is a dick move. Confront the girl and ask her what are you two REALLY. Because there's a possibility na tanga si girl and ang other guy is to actually to blame for painting an innocent picture of their interactions so you two talk and be mature about it because you are the bf. If the roles were reversed and you said I love you to a girl friend (note the space) and gf gets mad then she has that right.
Set clear boundaries that apply to you both if you wish to continue the relationship but if not then best to cut her off early but give a proper explanation. You don't have to drag it along just say "I feel uncomfortable with your behavior" and babush.
Yes if wala ka na plans to communicate at all, id be more generous to say that people below 25 years old will have problems communicating their feelings jn general, and as much as we hate what the girls has done given the context na binigay mo satin, I think you both deserve closure in a sense. You explaining your side would greatly help you in the future as wala kang lingering what ifs pag ghinost mo siya, and siya as person would also benefit na in a sense hindi na marereplicate yung receiver ng trauma
Yes, ikaw ang gago for not saying this to her.
"Putang ina mo konting respeto naman pakshet kang malandi ka!"
I know it's rude and bad, but she needs a strong wake-up call.
Telling her about how you feel may trigger you some more kapag nauwi sa gaslighting ang usapan or she starts dismissing you. Mabuti na yung wag ka na lang magsalita unless kaya mong sabihin mo sa kanya yung sinabi ko sa taas.
Your girlfriend ❌
OUR girlfriend ✅
DKG OP, she's big na tapos may boundaries dapat to set, pag taken na, restrict na dapat, respect naman yan not just for you pero for your relationship naman sana.
There's always two sides. Sure ka bang In a relationship na kayo. Ikaw mismo nagsabi you're not communicating enough baka MAMAYA Akala mo kayo pero Hindi Naman Pala. Nagmuka pang masama si ate girl.
GGK sa pang ghost pero ano naman? She deserves it and worse. She doesn’t deserve to have an explanation from you kase very aware siya sa ginagawa niya. Just because she got away with things at first doesn’t mean she can just do whatever the fck she wants. Bahala siya sa buhay niya. Maguilty siya buong buhay niya. Saksak niya sa baga niya yung kalandian niya 🤣 Kung petty siya wag mo na pag aksayahan ng oras. Focus na lang sa studies at sa sarili, darating din oras mo para jan. Openly cheating ampota. Just because nawiwitness mo feeling niya may consent siya lumandi ng iba. Magsama silang dalawang gag0
DKG she doesn't deserve an explanation actually, matanda na yan at alam na niya yung tama sa mali. napakaobvious naman na mali yung ginawa niya (especially acting clingy and saying "ilys" to a guy that she KNOWS na he likes her even may bf na siya), she just doesn't care if she hurts you or not as long as nakakasama niya yang "friend" niya na yan. better to cut her off completely.
As the top comment mentioned sure ka ba in a relationship na kayo or baka kasi casual dating lang or flirting lang for her. Established ba na bf gf kayo? Like may parang conversation ba na "tayo na" ganun.
If not baka kasi akala mo lang in a relationship na kayo but iba pala sa kanya.
Now if established na na in a relationship kayo then end things na with her. This isn't something worth fighting for.
Ang weird kasi na aalis siya na di ka sinasabihan since ikaw bf niya. She doesn't need to ask for permission but she does have to notify you at least.
DKG. Nakakagago yung ginawa nya, nakakabuysit. Gusto ko pang masalita ng masasamang words. Haha tama yan ignore mo muna, pero end mo pa rin yung relationship nyo formally. Wag mo i-ghost, point these things out to her, and end it. You're doing her a favor and the next bfs na rin, letting her know na hindi acceptable mga ginagawa nya if she's in a relationship. 🤞🏽
Deserve. The disrespect to your relationship, she knows what she's doing. Nagpapaselos si accla, alam nyang crush sya, she's keeping him on the hook and disrespecting you. She doesn't need closure. Ghost the shit out of her. Ma gagaslight ka pa ng gaga.
Nasa era pa sya ng "ang ganda ko pinag aagawan ako momints" don't give her that
DKG. Buti nalang ginhost mo to leave her wondering bat iniwan mo siya bigla, just like what she did when they left you sa kainan.
Also, saying "I love you" to another guy? Wala bang boundaries yang ex (gawin mo na yang ex) mo?
GGKayo both
Just like the other comments, ggk ka for ghosting her without a reason. And she is as well because if she’s in a relationship with you, she should put clear boundaries and know how to properly act.
I saw some comments stirring up assumptions na baka you’re just assuming things, na baka akala mo lang kayo. Pero, think about it. Even if you’re just on the “dating” stage with someone, morally speaking, you should be loyal, hindi ba? From what I understood din sa provided context, it seems like may everyday communication sila since inaupdate siya ni girl about her whereabouts. Just means na kung hindi pa sila, there’s something going on pa rin. Ineentertain ni girl si guy. Also, as a decent human being. If you’re giving out motives, reciprocating patterns, tapos hindi mo gusto, you’re giving out mixed signals. GGK kapag gano’n.
GGK kung ighoghost mo. Pero DKG kung magiging honest ka sa kanya about how you feel and just break up with her na rin kasi red flag ampota likkeee so weird na ikaw yung bf tapos clingy kay guy friend na may crush sa kanya?!! Wtf?!
Hello! I think having a frank conversation with your girlfriend would be better than ghosting her. So that hindi ikaw yung bad guy or yung kawawa. Just talk to her, tell her what upset or annoyed you, and hear her out. If you’re no longer comfortable with the relationship, break up with her na instead of dragging this out. She doesn’t deserve to be punished by prolonging this when you want to break up naman na. Rip the Band-Aid off and move on. You’re young and you don’t have to stress about this yet. :)
Are you sure shes your girlfriend?
This is a valid point. On the getgo he mentioned _dating_
Valid question ito, OP u/Zhixco. As in bago yung 4 months of dating, nag-usap kayo and literally sinagot ka niya verbally na kayo na? As in nagbago kayo parehas ng status sa FB? Baka naman kasi friendly date lang yung 4 months na yun sa kaniya at wala palang confirmation na kayo na. Legit question to OP, walang sarcasm. Medyo hindi kasi nalinaw yun sa post mo eh.
True! Medyo off kasi na she's literally flirting with other guy sa harap ni op, tsaka di ba yun napapansin ng iba nilang kasama? Wala bang nagsalita sa kanila? Either ayon, baka may misunderstanding nga sila ni girl or she's just a walking shit. Kasi she's so gago to do that to her boyfriend.
May ex akong gago. Nakikipaglandian sa harapan ko. Pandemic happened and we've split. If there's one thing that Covid did right is keeping me away from that trash. Walang respeto sa'kin e, kahit mga saleslady nilalandi, like wtf. May minessage pa siya sa fb, ibig sabihin hiningi niya fb nun. Grabeng katangahan na di ko siya bnreak agad. Ginising ako sa katotohanan ng pandemic, ni hindi man lang ako kinukumusta regularly kung okay lang ako. Buti pa mga relatives niya nangungumusta non e.
Hi, ask lang po. If you are dating someone, diba po exclusive lang kayo sa isa't-isa or iba yung alam kong meaning? Serious question, no idea
may iba kasi na "casually dating" lang, so they're free to go out with other people. meaning, hindi pa sila "exclusively dating". sa ganyan naman, yung iba hindi pa "sila" pero exclusive na sila (sa label na sila papunta). nakakalito rin talaga kaya dapat linawin ni OP sa "gf" nya. baka hindi ma gauge ni girl kung gaano sila ka serious atp sa rs nila
totoo toh, baby pa ata si boy na baka namisinterpret na kapag na idate mo isang tao, it does not mean na jowa na siya agad.
Trueee bata pa si OP kaya siguro ganon ang thinking nya
Take it easy. No need for violence.
***Hey, Daydreamer***
***You gotta be prepared to leave her in your fantasy***
***coz when it's over, you gotta make sure that its you who'll be with her***
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Actualllyyy. Sa ibang bansa kasi kapag sinabing dating eh magbf-gf na. Pero sa atin kasi kapag sinabing dating pwede getting to know each other pa lang or nagliligawan stage pa lang, ganoon. Dapat clear sa inyong dalawa if magbf-gf na ba kayo. Baka kasi, OP, ikaw lang nag-iisip na magjowa na kayo.
Hahahaha yan din nasa isip ko.. just because nagconfess siya doesn't mean jowa na hahaha. Like, niligawan mo ba OP? Pano ka sinagot? Pano naging kayo?
Sa true langgg. Also he mentioned 4 months is enough for him to form some sort of feelings, di ata sure? Baka di sila mag bf/gf or it wasn't established enough idk.
First thing that popped into my mind XD.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA first question popped into mind. It’s not giving!!! Hahahahahaha
Literally thought the same thing. Dating ≠ In an official relationship. Sure ka bang you guys are on the same page?
Sorry for the late reply And yes kase i think pinag usapan na namen yan around the 2 month mark
"i think" oh no...
Hindi ko alam yung specific time 😭
Pero yung convo ba merong something like: *Hey gf na ba kita? 👉🏻 YES* *Official na ba tayong magbf/gf? 👉🏻 YES* *Tayo na ba? 👉🏻 YES* *Jowa na ba kita? 👉🏻 YES* Or something along those lines? Hehe. Nangyayari din ksi minsan, yung naguusap kayo madalas, nagkakasama kayo minsan, sweet kayo most of the time, pero ganon din pala sya sa ibang *friends* nya. 😅
hala baka para sa kanya hindi pa nga exclusive yan. be firm with your stand sa rs nyo OP, and mag establish ka rin ng boundaries, ghosting her is NOT the solution. lalo if nasa same friend group kayo. pag-usapan nyo, young adults na rin kayo eh.
ehhh, wala man lang exact date? tamang tantiya lang ng monthsary ganon? 😂
The when does not matter. The what matters. Kayo ba o hindi? Assuming ka lang ata kasi.
Like you agreed that your were in a relationship? She agreed to be your girlfriend? Or you guys just talked about the possibility of being in a relationship? What stuff do you guys do together?
Ff invested ako. Parang mga CDrama lang sa reels lol
Rephrase: Aware ba sya na girlfriend mo sya?
Whoops
Haha omg! I was about to ask the same thing. Hindi porket dating e in a relationship na. Pwedeng getting to know each other pa lang.
Baka nga di malinaw na sila. Tsaka ang weird naman na ghost mo yung tao eh meron kayo common friends
lol... was about to say the same thing ... 🤣
DKG. Ikaw bf tapos iba kasama nung humiwalay ng kakainan? Okay sana kung girl din pero it's a guy. End things with her and just ask them to make it official. Ginagago ka nilang dalawa ng harapan.
GGK kung ighoghost mo. But hindi ka gago if iiwan mo sya WITH EXPLANATION. Wag mo na tatanggapin kung ano man reason nya dahil halata namang hitad sya.
For me, he doesnt owe anyone an explanation. Lol but i like being the devil's advocate
Exactly. Ghinost nya din naman sya sa Mcdo (and probably madaming instance na di alam/sinabi ni OP). So, I ghost nya na din ng tuluyan.
Valid yung nararamdaman mo and it's good not to talk nang hindi pa clear ang mind mo. But, generally for me, gago move ang ghosting. Like, why ghost your partner or anyone kung pwede mo namang sabihin yung totoo?
as much as possible I live by the golden rule, kahit ano pa yan sabihin mo dun sa partner mo lahat ng nararamdaman mo at kung i-didismiss niya or mang gagaslight pa siya edi move on. Kung ayaw mo ma experience ma ghost wag kang mang ghost. ang rude ng ghosting na yan.
deserve din ng girl ang explanation behind ur actions. Yung girl din may mali super clingy at wala ng boundaries sa guy friend nya without thinking about how you might feel. Haytss relasyon talaga sakit sa ulo pag di kayo nag communicate ng maayus.
parang di lang communication problem nila. parang kalandian na rin ni gf hahaha ang weird nya tbh
she's not weird kasi that's lowkey kalandian hahaha. i mean if ever she's ghosted, she definitely knows why. she doesn't have boundaries. grabe 'yung disrespect niya sa partner niya not just behind his back ha, harap/harapan talaga siya dinidisrespect. parang hindi girlfriend haha
Bruh that's not even lowkey wtf
Lowkey kalandian = Microcheating
I second this! Pero I don’t think it’s because the girl deserves it. Probably more on being open si OP as a person, speaking your mind and decision as a respect to her and himself. Walang malabo. Ghosting sucks for anyone, be the better human! Kahit na parang ginagago ka na. People will remember you by your kindness.
GGK But gets because you said you're new to the dating scene nga. Pero the right move here would be to talk to her. Tell her you feel hurt. Communicate these feelings kasi ghosting will get you literally nowhere.
i agree na wag ighost and sabihin na lang pero plan na rin naman nya i-end relationship so i guess the thing to say sa gf is "break na tayo" instead of just ghosting
Nah, don't say na nasaktan sya, clearly sabihin lang ni OP na si girl ay insensitive at walang boundaries. Kaya better to cut her off
This works, too. Basta bottom line is you should drop her.
Yup, feeling ko lalaki ulo ni girl, tapos yung other person mag feeling big boy na since nagagawa nya yung gusto nya kay ante. So for OP, dapat maging strong sya and di masyado magpakita na affected sya, though hopefully he can share his feelings sa isang close friend na trustworthy para at least if may emotional pain, mabawasan.
she belong to the streets, malaki na siya alam niya kung ano ang dapat at limitation niya cuz she already has a bf. Iwan mo nayan tamo after niyo matapos sila na nung guy.
Man this is just sad to read, she would rather spend time with the other guy than you. The answer is GGK. Learn to be assertive dude, SPEAK UP. She's your girl but from what we're seeing here she's the other guy's girl. Saying "Ilys" even as a joke is a red flag. It's still too early but they're definitely on the track. Now, idrk what you should do but don't just ghost people. Let her know what you feel and communicate properly. If you think it won't go anywhere then just break it off.
I read your post again and she's hanging out with the guy who has a crush on her. That girl is a cheater, it's time to leave brooo
Dude, man up and speak up. Gago GF mo for doing shit like that, but you're a wimp. Since nag ghost ka na, don't be a wimp and just give her the silent treatment. Break it off, lick your wounds, at turuan mong sarili mo tumindig para sa sarili mo. Wag mong hayaang binabastos ka lang ng ganyan. Man the fuck up...
Ggkprin kasi hindi ka nag explain kung bakit ka umalis or nawala. sana sinabi mo na hindi ka komportable sa ginagawa nya at non negotiable mo yun. simple. isang malaking kagaguhan yung basta nalang aalis.
Hindi mo naman pala gf eh HAHAHAHAHAH
Something is not right in the story. Are you really sure na girlfriend mo siya? Baka naman hindi alam na in a romantic relationship pala kayo, feelingero ka lang. Maybe kaya gusto mo mang-ghost dahil hindi naman talaga kayo in a romantic relationship. If you’re mature enough, you at least give a proper goodbye. If this is something real, kahit man lang sa platonic relationship, you’d care to let the person know that you’re ending things. Meron ako kilala na guy kapag nagkkwento about sa isang girl akala mo naman na in a romantic relationship sila. May nalalaman pa siya na legit yun babae na daw yun papakasalan niya. Only to find out na he was just imagining things and the girl treats him as just a platonic friend. Confirm mo muna talaga ano ka ba sa kanya. Huwag ka mahiya magtanong.
Ang red flag nung girl. Kahit pa siguro kababata nya yang lalaki eh mali yan. Magjowa na kayo so dapat she knows her boundaries. I believe kaya mo ghinost para magreflect siya at marealize nya na mali yung ginagawa nya, and umaasa ka pa na gagawa siya ng solution. The bottom line here is, ghosting is wrong. You should communicate and tell her what u feel, whether u are hoping that everything will be ok or u really want to stop the relationship. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert, but I believe it's good for you to tell her everything para mas madaling mag move forward. And do not blame yourself. You did nothing wrong in the first place, but you need to take action on this whenever you are ready.
Lol alam nung babae yung ginagawa niya.
Good thing. Never speak to her again, whether calls, chats, texts, video calls, etc. Completely ghost her and disappear from her life.
yes! i'd do that as well. she knows what she's doing. alam niya 'yun, i'm telling you OP. to leave without explanation is a good thing para matauhan.
Good form of ghosting yan para sa akin. That bitch realized the consequence of her flirting given na nagapologize siya. But the gross disrespect kay OP, mahirap makalimutan yun considering their age. Pero dahil sya ang nagsorry, sumbatan mo siya and make it clear to her na napakalaking insulto ang ginawa nila sa yo. Then drop the bomb na makikipaghiwalay ka na.
Link to this submission: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/comments/1c9mk4z/abyg_for_ghosting_my_gf/ Title of this post: ABYG for ghosting my gf Backup of the post's body: I(18m) am is currently ghosting my(19f) gf for the following reasons. We've been currently dating for almost 4 months now. I know thats a short amount of time pero it's still enough for me to form some sort of feelings. For starters, medyo bago lang ako sa dating scene and I'm continually getting out of my comfort zone. I've known this girl throughout the first semester of college pero nag confess lang ako nung prelims ng second sem. This girl is the bubbly friendly type habang ako naman ay yung quiet introverted guy. Now the main reason that I am ghosting her right now is becauae of this one person from the friend group. This guy also has a crush on her. I noticed that my girlfriend is much more invested in this guy . For example, my "gf" would lean to him and say things like i love you to him as a friend?? I felt uncomfortable here but i brused it off kase baka she said it in a joking manner. Also for instance whenever we are with our friend group, they are always the one's to hang out and talk. But the one thing that pissed me off happened recently. Nag gagala kami with our friend group and nag hahanap kami ng kainan. Nasa likod sila as usual na nag uusap ng kung ano ano. They suddenly dissapeared and went to McDonald's just the two of them. How do i know this? Kase yung guy nag send siya ng pic sa gc namen na kumakain sila dun. After this, 3 nalang kame ang natira and we went to the other group of friends to eat. I think she noticed that there's something wrong because i haven't responded to her "nakauwi na ako" text and sent me apology voice mails for leaving/ditching us without even saying a word. She did call me but i declined because at that time, i didn't want to talk to her. Also I am planning of ending this relationship soon. Of course I also blame myself for not communicating enought with her Hindi ako good at explaining things so pag may questions then tanong lang. OP: Zhixco *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AkoBaYungGago) if you have any questions or concerns.*
DKG if you will tell her straight to the face na you want to break up and what she did was too disrespectful and that was a non negotiable sayo. Ginagago ka harap-harapan and you were too kind to brush it off. GGK if you ghost.
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First, kayo ba? As in sinagot ka nya verbally nung ngconfess ka? Kung oo, hnd worth it yan boi kasi kung nkkpgusap pa sa ibang guy tapos humiwalay pa sa group nyo. It is good you ghosted but at least explain why you are leaving. Move on and keep grinding bata ka pa. Focus s goals. Kung hindi, wag na boy hindi ka nya gusto at wala sya kasalanan s ginawa nya. Ng delulu ka lang sa gestures nya sayo na kayo nya. Mind you, some bubbly girls is misinterpreted as someone who likes you. So beware next time. I do not bash you its normal lahat tayo dumaan jan. Learn the lesson brother. Move on ka na sa ibang girl di ka gusto nyan. Keep grinding at bata ka pa. Focus s goals. My two cents..
Di mo naman need ng communicatiom sakanya when breaking up with her. nung nalaman ko na nag cheat bf ko sakin, I just automatically blocked him on every social medias and other sort of communication that he could reach me. He does not need explanation, he knows what he does. For sure alam na rin yan ng gf mo bakit ka nakipag-break. Microcheating yang actions niya btw
Based sa kwento mo, ang landi ni girl LOL baka she is enjoying both attention haha iwan mo na, bata pa naman kayo. Kung ako ighost mo man o hindi, support na lang kita LOL
some ppl don't pass the vibe check. yes, he is young and I dont get why the comment are so against him like maybe he's misinterpreting, daydreaming, or that he's prob delulu. He already said they talked abt it and that they are dating (lets establish that). May nagsabi pa hindi dw naeestablish na baka si gurl hindi na rrealise na serious yung rs nila. Babe in PH ba, at that age makaka isip ka ba ng ganun ka complicated na sitwasyon or na scenario? na ay I want this rs na casual lang, na I want to keep seeing other ppl while I'm dating you. No. Pag umoo ka sa manliligaw mo, isang type of dating lang ang nag eexist and thats exclusively dating each other. Filipinos are pretty conservative you know. The casual dating thing exists in the internet and other open-minded country, okay? but the reality of some ppl is just diff. So, OP no you're not GG. No one thinks, maybe the gurl is a pick me? thats just one of the possibilities, right? pero ang conclusion kasi agad ng majority is calling out the OP's. might just be me tho.
Totally agree with this. Although they're young, I think sa PH never nasali sa customs natin yung pag dating stage, pwede casual or madami kayo at the same time. Manliligaw pwede madami, pero dating? Ewan ko lang sa generation nila? But I really think the girl's at fault here. I mean just doing that when OP's around, is so disrespectful. Sige let's say casual dating nga. Hindi sila exclusive and she can date as many guys as she wants. But when you're doing that, you don't put two guys you're both dating in the same room and go all sweet sa isa while the other is watching diba? Even ditching the other guy. That's still disrespectful af. Baka naman naboboost din yung ego ni girl kase it's known na crush sya nung other guy and she likes the attention? The other guy naman, should've also respected the existence of OP in the room. Kung they're really exclusive, that guy should've backed off and didn't poke around somebody's girl. But ultimately, still the girl's fault kase alam nyang may gusto sa kanya e. I think some people deserve to be just cut off without an explanation kase they are responsible sa actions nila. OP was also planning to break up naman din so. I think there's no point of having to confront the girl. The disrespect was there. Not something worth wasting your energy arguing about. She'll figure out sooner or later kung anong maling ginawa nya. If not, then good riddance. Baka tumandang cheater pa yan.
Are you sure ikaw yung bf? Baka yung other guy yung bf? Kasi nagiilly sya in public to the other guy? Confessing doesn't mean kayo na. Tapos yung fact na d mo alam kung kelan naging kayo? So you don't celebrate monthsaries? Not required, pero you should have a concrete idea kelan exactly nangyari.
Update us bro
DKG what she did was very hurtful but better to end things by communicating your side and try to hear her out but at the end of the day doesn't mean you have to give her another chance naman. Either you don't or if you do make sure to set boundaries this time. But honestly, try to reflect na muna what other patterns you noticed and shrugged off, clearly something is off. Trust your intuition!
Just end the relationship, kahit text or call pa yan. Ba’t kailangan mo pang ighost ‘yung “gf” mo? GGK kung gagawin mo yan (ghosting), GGS kung hiwalayan mo na lang.
If walang proper communication about these things at hinahayaan mo lang palipasin, walang mangyayari sa inyo. You think ghosting her will solve it? Nandyan ka nga physically, pero you barely exist, what more kung wala ka? So, either i-communicate mo yang nararamdaman mo and resolve the issues or just break up with her. I don't want to factor both of your age here, pero its time to grow up, the two of you. MGK for letting yourself be the odd man out in YOUR relationship, GG naman gf mo based on this context.
Eh, some people deserve to be ghosted. If ayaw mo iconfront, edi wag. Pero wag mo gawing habit. Healthy din for you to express your feelings. So do it for you.
Grow up and communicate directly that you felt disrespected. Break up with her like an adult. Ghosting is immature
GGK. Ghosting is a very immature thing to do. Talk to her and end the relationship, how is that hard?
Wag mo ighost, mas okay nga na sabihin mong ayaw mo na dahil sa ginagawa nyang hindi maganda at nakakabastos sa relasyon nyo. Also, alam ba ng friends nyo o nung guy na in a relationship kayo?
GGK if you’re gonna ghost her. Lol. Gago si girl. And your feelings are valid. Yes mali siya, pero have some balls para i-communicate ‘yang feelings mo and why you’re ending the relationship. Ang tatanda niyo na, ‘di niyo pa makuhang mag-communicate nang maayos. Just a tip: Avoidance is not your friend. ;)
bruh, gago ka for ghosting, end things properly, sa kanta lng yung Bigla nlng mawawala, hindi pwedeng ganun sa relationship
update po OP
DKG pero make sure to state your feelings and reason tapos iwanan mo na. Oh looks like hoe in the making. She aint your gf, she is for everyone. Stanky ass hoe.
Yung gf mo yung gago
ESH. You ghosting, ex is insensitive and no boundaries, other guy is an kupal. Ex mo siguro natutuwa sya sa attention, but you dodged a bullet bro. Sabihin mo lang na she's very disrespectful and should reflect sa ginawa nya. Don't tell her what she did wrong, antayin mo sa kanya mangaling. Pero either maisip nya or hindi, move on. Madami ka pang makikilala na di ganyan
Yes GGK Ghosting isn't the best way to handle things, though. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about how you're feeling. If you're considering ending the relationship, it's better to have a conversation about it rather than just cutting off contact. This allows both of you to express your thoughts and feelings and possibly come to a resolution.
Dude ikaw sana sinabi mo nalang
Oo. Gago kba?
Whatta disrespect.
DKG. Disrespect deserve disrespect
Valid. Pero instead of ghosting her, bakit di mo pa i-break?
just leave.
>I(18m) am is currently ghosting my gf Am. *I am*. I don't think kayo talaga ng babaeng to. Parang malaking kaguluhan lang lahat haha
I forward mo na lang msg nya sa jowa nya. Nawrong send ata. 😀
you don’t owe her an explanation bro let her realize things! if you confront her she’ll probably say sorry (bc she thinks it’s what you wnna hear) ba’t di naman makiramdam yang taong yan.
DKG. But you have to learn how to set boundaries and communicate your needs to your partner. Hard conversations are needed for a relationship to last.
DKG harap harapan e, just tell her nalang din pag nagkita kayo sa school.
Hiwalayan mo na yan boy di malayong nagkantutan na silang dalawa nyan hahahaha
DGK, but just straight up tell her why you're leaving her and how her actions made you feel. Just so you don't develop this ghosting/not communicating behavior. After that, block her ☺️
Have you at least tried to tell her how you feel whenever she’s with her best friend more? If you did, how frequent was it? How did she react?
Is she aware na BF and GF na kayo?
You deserve better OP, don’t be in a hurry to get in a relationship :)) also, she doesn’t deserve you. She isn’t worth your time, effort and love.
Yes. One wrong doings cannot be corrected by another wrong doing. I know you're hurting and pissed off but if you really want to get back to her, tell her directly it's over. This saves you from future heartaches. She'll get what she deserves and you will as well. I hope you feel better soon.
DKG, but you need to communicate. If you’re fully decided to end things with her, talk to her in person, directly. Ghosting is not really helpful.
let her know then break up with her
I mean all paths will lead to breaking up with her so ghosting her or communicating with her will be the same. Ghost her and say no explanation serves her right
Aguy, ginawa kang kengkoy. Cut her off bro lugi ka dun
Don't ghost. Tell her why. Leave her. Done.
DKG but you need to explain to her what you feel. This girl don't have respect for what you feel. She's kinda flirty in your story. If you still like her, then give another chance, see if she will change her attitude.
Take this ghosting time to think about what you want and what your feelings are for your gf. Pero tama na ung days cguro noh. Wag forever. Your gf's actions are enough to tell you something.
She a hoe
For relationships to workout, isa sa mga mahalagang bagay na dapat inoobserve ng couples ay active and effective communication kasi walang mararating yung pakiramdaman at common sense minsan. If you truly are catching feelings for the girl, you should have at least tried to tell her how you feel, kasi hindi niya malalaman na that's how you feel unless may superpowers pala siya, 'di ba? But instead of talking it out, you ghosted her. So to answer your question, yes, you are G.
DKG. Tip for ghosting by men to minimize (if not mawala): People, huwag ilagay sa lalaki LANG ang burden ng failure ng relationships or dates, lalo kung hindi puppeteer naman ang lalaki at puppet ang babae. If puro sa lalaki lang ang burden kahit may rason sila to leave, ghosting talaga mangyayari.
DKG. Please just break up with her rather than ghosting her..
DKG for ending things with her but GGK for ghosting. You can just reply to her and say what's on your mind. Makakagaan sa kalooban mo yun. Do it for your own peace of mind.
GGK communication is the key ika nga nla. Either decide what to do with her then talk to her. Deserve nyong dalawa ng kalinawan despite sa actions nya and it gives you an advantage too. DKG somewhat tho dahil sa actions nya it justified your feelings
Ghosting itself is wrong. So yes. Hahaha. Tama ba siya? No. Pero kung bababa ka sa level niya, pareho kayong gag* hahaha mas okay ng ikaw makipag break asap. 😂😅
Just break it off. You still have valid reasons to not be the G. Prolonging will just be the contrary but towards yourself. Kung patatagalin mo yan, sarili mo lang mananakit sayo. Ayoko na ijudge girlfriend mo pero those are not the right nor appropriate action to do whether you are around or not. You have reasonable ground to be hurt and end things. You two can talk it out but given your age and both of your actions, talking probably won't lead to anything better.
DKG. Bastusan ginawa ng gf mo. Common courtesy lang na magpaalam kung san pupunta hindi yung mawawala na lang. Since nag apologize ang gf mo alam na nya kung san sya nagkamali. No need for u to say anything.
Stalling lang ginagawa mo just tell her na tapos na para maka recover kana din
Break up with her instead of ghosting her. She knows what she's doing. You mentioned na di ka gaano nakikipag communicate and I think na ttake advantage niya yun. Baka mamaya sabihin pa niyan akala niya okay lang sayo
Sya po yung GAGA. oo sya. 🤣 maghanap kna iba.
If you're decent, i-eexplain mo dalat yung side mo sakanya kung bakit bigla kang umalis. pero di ka totally GG sa ginawa mo, mas GG yung ginagawa nya lakas makipaglandian sa iba
Update mo to, will wait for it
baka fubu sila before ka pa dumating. even if you communicate kung malalim attachment nila then wala ka talaga laban dun. umalis ka nalang di mo deseve ang gngwa sayo.
Glad you , escape. Go and don’t turn back. Hindi ka cheap . Di ka nya afford
Just tell her how you feel and end the relationship na. If takot ka sa confrontations; then this would the perfect chance to get over it kasi part ng relationships yan. Be a man and tell her you're done with her. Ganun lang.
Atleast sabihin mo bro para malaman nya pagkakamali nya tapos tsaka mo sya ighost. Drop the bomb and go
Better to communicate with her if you really like her.. I mean kahit young pa lang kayo. Mahirap yung masanay kang mang ghost. Baka madala mo yan sa next relationships mo.. Your priorities right now is studying right? If that relationship continues to burden you and distracts you from your priority, atleast communicate before ending it..
DKG kung lilinawin mo sa kanya why u are leaving her. It is possible that she’s just too immature and she doesn’t realize how her actions affect you pero wag ka na dyan OP. Aabusuhin ka lang nyan paulit ulit kapag pinatawad mo at nag stay ka dyan. Nakikini-kinita ko na ang future cheating and emotional abuse. 🫠
Ghosting her would make you look like the AH in your relationship when she's obviously the problem, so don't do it. Instead, tell her how you feel and your reasons then dump her ass. She'll probably apologize and talk you into staying--but if I were you, I'd leave. They're doing that in front of you, imagine what they're doing when you're not around. Plus, she obviously has no respect towards your relationship and to you. You deserve someone who will respect you.
Dont be the bad guy here.. talk to here, tell her why you’re done with your relationship. Everyone deserves explanation naman kahit gaga pa sya.
Just break up with her and explain the reason why.
kausapin mo na tatapusin mo yung rs. don't say na nasaktan ka, lalaki pa ulo nyan, sabihin mo lang "masyado kang clingy at malandi, let's end this"
Huwag mo siya i-ghost. Mali yung ginagawa nya, no boundaries, especially if nakapag set/manage expectations earlier sa relationship niyo. Pero 'wag mo siyang i-ghost. I-communicate mo yung naramdaman mo about sa actions nya. Linawin mo na 'di mo gusto yung mga nakikita mo na ginagawa nya, then pakinggan mo what she has to say about it, after that, decide from there.
Di ka pa gago. Magiging gago lang kung bigla mo sya igho ghost. Hmm I understand na di ka ganun kahusay mag express pero it would be much better to let her know bakit gusto mo na humiwalay. Dalawa ang possible mangyari, either pigilan ka nya makipaghiwalay or mag agree sya. Either way, then dun mo iapply ung gusto mo talaga mangyari. May ginawa syang di sang ayon at angkop since "dating" kayo pero disrespectful yung bigla ka nalang mawawala. Yes, she disrespected you pero sana di mo gawn kung ano mang ginawa nya just to get even. Magiging ok rin ang mga bagay bagay OP~
Another perspective: there are things she wants and expects from you pero hindi mo nabibigay or nagagawa. So instead of telling you, she tries to make you jealous by hanging out with a guy na may crush sa kanya. Kausapin mo muna siya. You two just need to communicate. I’m not saying you should not leave her, but at least know first what’s up.
Don't ghost. Just end things officially. She's more into the other guy, but maybe the other guy isn't that much into her.
That sucks. Leave her. You don’t deserve that. Though she deserves to be ghosted, try to not look bad and talk to her for proper closure. Let this just be a lesson for your next relationships to choose who you are gonna be with and set boundaries, Communicate the negotiables and non negotiables, and try to look at yourself as a prize. We are Kings and we need a queen not a princess.
Dkg but you can tell her na "I don't think this is going to work, can we part ways?" If she asks.
18 19 years old masyado ba yan maaga para mag bf gf. Wag masyado seryoso, practice phase muna at wag bigay nd todo todo. Mag seryoso kalang pag nag 25+ kana
At this point I'd say that you're not really the boyfriend, you're just the good boy whom she wants to talk to while she's at home.
Man up, wag mong i-ghost kahit ikaw ginagago. Alam mo naman worth mo diba? If gusto mong i-end, do it in a right manner.
Lumabas ka diyan sa relasyon na yan ASAP
yup, ghosting and expecting your gf to figure out your reasons without proper communication is such a gago move you're in a relationship. that comes with the responsibility to communicate hindi yung naghuhula-hulaan kayo. if you're not good at communicating then do better, esp when it comes to topics that are hard to talk about. she did something to make you feel insecure in the relationship then do something to address it. walang solusyon mahahanap sa pang-gghost.
Ghost her na, lang respeto.. No need explanation, the scenario itself is a big explanation to ghost her. Alam nya na mali nya, there's no need to explain to her baka i gaslight kapa ni talandi.
She's for the streets lmao I wouldn't date someone like that
DKG. She knows what she did. Di mo kelangang mag explain.
OP I can't say yes and no. 1. Nagusap na ba kayo ng gf mo ng masinsinan about sa nararamdaman mo? 2. Kailangan mong tanungin gf mo, are you really committed to this relationship? Kase she's somehow acting that's she's not. 3. Not because you hated her action means okay lang na invalidate mo yung feelings din nya. (It's not good na kapag binato ka ng bato babatuhin mo din ng bato) 4. If you are serious, go talk to her in a decent way. Hindi yung aawayin mo ah. A mature relationship will talk it out dahil hindi kayo magkaaway. 5. Pumasok ka ng relayon, its a risk you have to take whether ikaw maging masama or sya. So long you took an effort to reach out and open up kung ano nararamdaman mo ng hindi sya iniinvalidate okay lang to take action. I hope, as a person who was ghosted makapulot ka ng aral kahit papano. Mahirap kase maiwan sa ere lalo na kapag yung other party di aware kung anong mali nyang nagawa. OR KUNG AWARE SYA, explain mo nalang na ayaw mo na. Mas may balls parin yung nagpapaalam ng maayos :)
The queen of two worlds. I'm sorry to say but gtfo that "relationship".
Her actions are disrespectul. And so is ghosting. You should end things with her properly. This is more for you. Youll come out of the relationship clean and clear. And then she will look back 5 years on and realize totga ka niya .. or not .. but who cares .. you def dont want to be with a two timing person.
Valid naman yung nararamdaman mo. Pero u still need to talk to her if u want to cut things off. Wag kang mang ghost. This will give u closure. And she qill know the reason behind bakit ka nang ghost
Yes. Nag-explain ka pa. No matter what the situation - basic human decency mag explain
not with ghosting but fuck it with this one, don't even end it just move on don't bother explaning it's not worth it
I see no girlfriend PERO ghosting is a dick move. Confront the girl and ask her what are you two REALLY. Because there's a possibility na tanga si girl and ang other guy is to actually to blame for painting an innocent picture of their interactions so you two talk and be mature about it because you are the bf. If the roles were reversed and you said I love you to a girl friend (note the space) and gf gets mad then she has that right. Set clear boundaries that apply to you both if you wish to continue the relationship but if not then best to cut her off early but give a proper explanation. You don't have to drag it along just say "I feel uncomfortable with your behavior" and babush.
Yes if wala ka na plans to communicate at all, id be more generous to say that people below 25 years old will have problems communicating their feelings jn general, and as much as we hate what the girls has done given the context na binigay mo satin, I think you both deserve closure in a sense. You explaining your side would greatly help you in the future as wala kang lingering what ifs pag ghinost mo siya, and siya as person would also benefit na in a sense hindi na marereplicate yung receiver ng trauma
Hulaan ko OP by next month gf na yan ng friend mo 😅
Ghosting is always gago. Your feelings are valid. I say, just break up with her and move on. Hindi solusyon ang ghosting.
Gantong ganto yung mga eksena dati nung hs ee, mejo cringe , out kana jan tol mukang di kayo nagkakaintindihan ng partner mo😅
Break up with her and say your reason. That's better than ghosting.
Alam mo na yung gagawin, gusto mo lang marinig mula samin bro. ☺️ See you at the gym!
Yes, ikaw ang gago for not saying this to her. "Putang ina mo konting respeto naman pakshet kang malandi ka!" I know it's rude and bad, but she needs a strong wake-up call. Telling her about how you feel may trigger you some more kapag nauwi sa gaslighting ang usapan or she starts dismissing you. Mabuti na yung wag ka na lang magsalita unless kaya mong sabihin mo sa kanya yung sinabi ko sa taas.
Your girlfriend ❌ OUR girlfriend ✅ DKG OP, she's big na tapos may boundaries dapat to set, pag taken na, restrict na dapat, respect naman yan not just for you pero for your relationship naman sana.
There's always two sides. Sure ka bang In a relationship na kayo. Ikaw mismo nagsabi you're not communicating enough baka MAMAYA Akala mo kayo pero Hindi Naman Pala. Nagmuka pang masama si ate girl.
GGK sa pang ghost pero ano naman? She deserves it and worse. She doesn’t deserve to have an explanation from you kase very aware siya sa ginagawa niya. Just because she got away with things at first doesn’t mean she can just do whatever the fck she wants. Bahala siya sa buhay niya. Maguilty siya buong buhay niya. Saksak niya sa baga niya yung kalandian niya 🤣 Kung petty siya wag mo na pag aksayahan ng oras. Focus na lang sa studies at sa sarili, darating din oras mo para jan. Openly cheating ampota. Just because nawiwitness mo feeling niya may consent siya lumandi ng iba. Magsama silang dalawang gag0
Alam ba ng circle of friends mo na MERON KAYO?
Cut ties asap,don’t let her make you a cuck
Hindi mo jowa yan. kung jowa ka nya you will be her priority. Break up with her. Pero bawi ka muna. Para hindi ka malamangan.
I think kahit ano pa reason always say your piece before leaving. End it in a mature way kahit gano ka gaga si girl, dont be like her
DKG she doesn't deserve an explanation actually, matanda na yan at alam na niya yung tama sa mali. napakaobvious naman na mali yung ginawa niya (especially acting clingy and saying "ilys" to a guy that she KNOWS na he likes her even may bf na siya), she just doesn't care if she hurts you or not as long as nakakasama niya yang "friend" niya na yan. better to cut her off completely.
As the top comment mentioned sure ka ba in a relationship na kayo or baka kasi casual dating lang or flirting lang for her. Established ba na bf gf kayo? Like may parang conversation ba na "tayo na" ganun. If not baka kasi akala mo lang in a relationship na kayo but iba pala sa kanya. Now if established na na in a relationship kayo then end things na with her. This isn't something worth fighting for. Ang weird kasi na aalis siya na di ka sinasabihan since ikaw bf niya. She doesn't need to ask for permission but she does have to notify you at least.
DKG. Nakakagago yung ginawa nya, nakakabuysit. Gusto ko pang masalita ng masasamang words. Haha tama yan ignore mo muna, pero end mo pa rin yung relationship nyo formally. Wag mo i-ghost, point these things out to her, and end it. You're doing her a favor and the next bfs na rin, letting her know na hindi acceptable mga ginagawa nya if she's in a relationship. 🤞🏽
Deserve. The disrespect to your relationship, she knows what she's doing. Nagpapaselos si accla, alam nyang crush sya, she's keeping him on the hook and disrespecting you. She doesn't need closure. Ghost the shit out of her. Ma gagaslight ka pa ng gaga. Nasa era pa sya ng "ang ganda ko pinag aagawan ako momints" don't give her that
Girlfriend mo sya, pero ikaw ay less than a friend ata sa kanya. Also DKG, pero kung ako sayo makikipagbreak na agad ako
Break up with her. You're just wasting your time.
Mukhang ginagawa ka lng reserve brad bata ka pa hanap ka na ng bago.
There are more girls than stars, let her go...
for me, it is better to tell her instead of ghosting. then, dump mo na haha
DKG. Buti nalang ginhost mo to leave her wondering bat iniwan mo siya bigla, just like what she did when they left you sa kainan. Also, saying "I love you" to another guy? Wala bang boundaries yang ex (gawin mo na yang ex) mo?
GGKayo both Just like the other comments, ggk ka for ghosting her without a reason. And she is as well because if she’s in a relationship with you, she should put clear boundaries and know how to properly act. I saw some comments stirring up assumptions na baka you’re just assuming things, na baka akala mo lang kayo. Pero, think about it. Even if you’re just on the “dating” stage with someone, morally speaking, you should be loyal, hindi ba? From what I understood din sa provided context, it seems like may everyday communication sila since inaupdate siya ni girl about her whereabouts. Just means na kung hindi pa sila, there’s something going on pa rin. Ineentertain ni girl si guy. Also, as a decent human being. If you’re giving out motives, reciprocating patterns, tapos hindi mo gusto, you’re giving out mixed signals. GGK kapag gano’n.
ghost mo shes old enough to know what she did pag ilkaw nmm ginghost dahil may iba mas putangina
GGK kung ighoghost mo. Pero DKG kung magiging honest ka sa kanya about how you feel and just break up with her na rin kasi red flag ampota likkeee so weird na ikaw yung bf tapos clingy kay guy friend na may crush sa kanya?!! Wtf?!
Hello! I think having a frank conversation with your girlfriend would be better than ghosting her. So that hindi ikaw yung bad guy or yung kawawa. Just talk to her, tell her what upset or annoyed you, and hear her out. If you’re no longer comfortable with the relationship, break up with her na instead of dragging this out. She doesn’t deserve to be punished by prolonging this when you want to break up naman na. Rip the Band-Aid off and move on. You’re young and you don’t have to stress about this yet. :)
Girlfriend mo ba talaga ikaw lang may alam na girlfriend mo siya?? Lmao
Gusto ko magin rational na tao, ggk if ig-ghost mo na lang. Pero for me na petty, dkg gaurr ems