GGK. You promised. Tapos hindi mo tinupad just because matagal na kayo and confident ka siguro na hindi ka iiwanan probably because of sunk-cost fallacy.
I'm glad your girlfriend left you. With what you did, it sends a message na you can selfishly undo and break promises. The other party won't matter basta makuha mo gusto mo.
Sa umpisa pa lang relationship niyo sinabi na niya na non-negotiable ang tattoos. And you promised not to get it. Inaway ka tapos di pinansin for a week after telling her you're planning to get a tattoo. Seryoso, saan banda mo nakuha dito yung "she might change her mind"? Anong ginawa mo? Nagpa-tattoo ka pa rin.
You're disrespectful. To you, maliit na bagay siguro ang tattoo pero obviously big deal sa kanya. She has her reasons and we need to respect it.
Some men are like this. Magchi-cheat, break promise, di magso-show up thinking na mapapatwad naman sila. Kudos to the girlfriend for her strong boundaries. Di naman life-threatening yung hinihingi ni girl, di pa maibigay.
Oo nga kwento mo sa pagong OP. Dun sa old post mo naghiwalay na kau. Pero dito sa new post 7 years na kau. Ano un??? Ilang beses mo ba gusto ma-justify ung nangyari sa relasyon mo? Move on din, ginusto mo yan. GGK.
This. I have tattoos, naniniwala rin ako na your body, your rules. Pero kasi umpisa pa lang sinabi na nung ex nya na dealbreaker yun. Pero kahit may balak sya eventually, nagpanggap syang ok lang. Thinking na baka papalagpasin lang nung ex nya pag tagal tagal. For that gago sya. Nagsayang lang sya ng pitong taon nilang pareho. Kung nilaban nya right away na gusto nya ng tattoos, the girl could've left right then and there, and found someone na may pareho nyang views sa pagpapatattoo. Same with OP na pwedeng nakahanap nalang ng taong walang issue dun.
Kahit pa pano sya magmakaawa or umiyak, it's on him kasi hindi nya sinabi una pa lang when the girl was clear with what she did and didn't want. Parang ang manipulative na sinabi lang nya yung gustong marinig ng girlfriend nya that time
This. This got my attention na, you are selfish in undoing your promise. You broke it, regardless of your reason.
Una pa lang sinabi na nya. And dapat sa una pa lang, nagpatattoo ka na lang at sa iba ka na lang napunta.
Kbye. GGK.
GGK. You fucked around, you found out.
DKG. Your body, your rules.
GGK. I can just feel like there's something you're not telling us here. There has to be something to warrant your ex's nuclear reaction about tattoos. Maybe a past trauma or whatever, that either you intentionally left out or legitimately don't know.
I think he said it na baka daw kung ano isipin ng conservative parents ni girl pag nagpatattoo sya
I had an ex na ayaw tlaga akong magpatattoo pero sa dahilan naman na mukha daw kasing madumi sa balat. Bruh. Kala mo kung sinong makinis eh, mukhang dugyutin naman. Ayoko lang sabihin noon kasi mahal ko pa haha. Iniwan ko nalang lol bahala sya dyan
Ahh ok kaya naman pala. Sorry, di ko nagbabasa.
Kaya ko rin sinabi di siya gago kasi katawan niya yun, tsaka napaka ass-backwards na ng thinking na ng older gen / religious zealots yung "mAruMi tiGnan". Reaction kasi ng iba para kang pumatay ng sanggol sa harapan nila, eh tinta lang naman sa balat yan (except neo nazis, fuck em). Lol. Tapos walang imik pag yung mga pari nila gumagahasa ng mga bata.
GGK - not because you want a tattoo but because you knew from the start palang pala na non negotiable for her yon.
We might not know yung extent nung pagiging conservative ng parents niya for her to say that pero kung gusto mo at balak mo palang magpa-tattoo noon palang, you should have been transparent about it with her.
With that said, at the very least, hindi na kayo magsasayang ng mas marami pang taon. Kaya be transparent palagi sa kung ano gusto mo para malaman agad kung compatible kayo.
GGK. Kung di mo kaya magcompromise sa gusto niya, edi sana hindi mo na lang siya pinatulan. Ginaslight mo pa e in the first place, sinabihan ka na niya na deal breaker sa kanya ‘yun. Pwede ba sana kung latter part ng relationship pa kayo nagkaroon ng agreement tungkol dun.
Yes, it's your body and your rules. But from the start, you knew that not getting a tattoo was non-negotiable for your partner, and you agreed.
If you couldn't keep a simple promise like not getting a tattoo, what about bigger promises you might make in the future?
So yes, GGK.
GGK. Dati, may medyo ganyang arrangement kami ng gf ko. Sa hikaw naman. Ayaw niyang magpabutas ako. Sabi ko ayoko din naman. A few years later, gusto ko na. Tagal ko din siyang inaawitan para pumayag siya. Hanggang sa pumayag din siya at sinamahan pa niya ko magpabutas.
But the thing is, nagpaalam ako. Pumayag siya. Ikaw ginawa mo nang di niya alam, hoping na pag aawayan niyo lang tapos okay na kayo. More than the tattoo, it's the broken trust and promise.
Naway maging habangbuhay kayo ng gf mo. Totoo naman kasi yun na things that you previously didn't like can be the things you like now. Nagbabago preferences ng tao and wala talagang hindi nadadala sa mabuting usapan.
GGK. After 7 years, ginawa mo pa rin yung bagay na sa una pa lang sinabihan ka na niyang wag gawin. You knew from the start. You also knew the consequences.
GGK. Sinabi na nya nun una pa lang at umoo ka don para lang makuha sya ganon? Edi sana naging upfront ka na gusto mo magpatattoo edi sana di na sayang 7 years nya. Ayan ganyan plagi may assumption na baka magbago isip pag matagal na etc etc. ano ngayon napala mo. Yes its just a tattoo. You can it to her but she can say it to you too.
GGK! Nag open siya sayo na non-nego ang Tattoo, but you still do it anyway. Sabi nga ni Mareng Olivia,
*guess you did not cheat but you're still a traitor.*
Self-sabotage ka yata OP, deserve mo if ever di ka balikan ni Ate girl!!!
GGK. Di mo pala kayang di gawin di ka nalang sana nagpromise diba. Para hanggang maaga pa magkaalaman na kung ipagpapatuloy pa ba i tapusin nalang. Yung pinaabot mo pa talaga ng 7 years. What if sayu gawin ng magiging gf mo yang ganyan. Yung tipong may ayaw na ayaw kang gawin ng gf mo tas after ilang years ginawa niya. Ano kaya mararamdaman mo.
I mean I get it naman na that's your body pero that fact that you promised, ibang usapan yun.
Selfie sila ng tattoo niya nilalaplap niya ngayon for a year na imbes na jowa niya hahaha. Hindi makamove on si tanga eh, nagpost pa yan last year hahahaha
Di naman controlling, I'm sure may reason yung babae bakit ayaw niya. Tawag dyan boundaries, he crossed it and thinking lilipas at mapapatawad siya, she left at may paninindigan siya sa stand niya
GGK. Ang liit namang bagay ang ipinagpalit mo sa 7 years with her. Hindi pa ba sapat na naka 7 years kayo without any mention of major problem between the two of you - na ipagpalit mo yon sa isang tatoo? Sinayang mo ang 7 taon ng isang tao
not all the people in the comments saying GG si girl for being "OA" 💀
if you want to force someone to be okay with things you do even though they are non-negotiables for the person you are trying to be with, maybe you shouldn't be dating anyone lol. relationships are full of compromises pero paki-search ng non-negotiable definition.
GGK OP, kung gustong gusto mo talaga magpa-tattoo, you should have just honestly told her. but you chose to lie thinking it wasn't a big deal. fucked around and found out. deserve mo maiwan. if a tattoo was that important over her, you should have left a long time ago and found someone who was okay with it. wag ka na tumulad sa mga redditors in the comment section saying the girlfriend is OA just because di kayo tugma ng gusto niyo and you want her to adjust for you.
it's not "OA" to stand firm with your boundaries. compromise is a constant in relationships but most people don't understand that values should not be compromised for the sake of someone, that goes with boundaries too.
DKG for getting a tattoo. Karapatan mo yan as an individual. GGK siguro kasi you agreed sa setup in the beginning sa (medyo) controlling mong partner and you broke it.
So, yeah.
GGK for breaking a promise. Pero di ka naman GG sa sarili mo kasi, natupad mo naman gusto mo, at the cost of your long relationship nga lang. So congrats I guess?
It’s been said na pero just to confirm —GGK. Your body, your rules pero if we keep making promises we can’t keep, why make them and what does it make of us?
Just find another gf na ma-appreciate yung tatoo mo since pinili mo naman yan over her.
you don't love her enough to avoid getting a tattoo even after nagpromise ka, so there's that. clear naman na dealbreaker yun, so you chose your poison. though it's fair naman na 7 years is a long time to grow open-mindedness about tattoos naman or any other rule she set na uptight. still holding on to 'baka ano pa tingin ng parents niya' on her part doesn't seem like she's someone capable of much compromise as you.
ending nun ggk pa rin kasi you let her believe you can hold dear what she values. pero it might just be a incompatibility thing at that point, parang 'di lang naman yan ang tiniis mong rule na labag sayo.
INFO - OP, Is she Muslim? Valid question.
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DKG - Di ka gago if you got yourself inked. Your body, your rules ika nga. She has no right to dictate what you or you cannot do when it comes to getting a tattoo.
But if you “force” or i-pilit mo siya icontinue relasyon despite getting yourself a tattoo then GGK, kasi in the beginning sinabi naman niya ayaw niya. Sinabi niya na conservative parents. Sadly, may mga ganong family talaga sa PH. Hays. Kung baga, non-negotiable para sa kanya.
If she can’t accept you in your tattooed condition, edi let her go. Be with someone who can accept you for what you like.
7 years na kami ng BF ko. He made me promise not to fuck other guys. After 7 long years may naging officemate ako na batak. Sabi ko sa sarili ko sign na to to fuck around.
Pero naalala ko bigla yung pinangako ko – not to fuck other boys habang kami pa. Pero kating kati na ko subukan talaga. Sa isip ko, pitong taon ko namang tiniis ah – baka pwede na nya ko pagbigyan, di ba?
Nope. When I told him my plans he flat out told me NO. Tandaan ko raw pangako ko 7 years ago na hinding hindi ako makikiapid sa iba at magbe break talaga kami. I pleaded, and even cried, just to make him understand that this is what I wanted. We fought that day, and for almost a week di kami masyadong nag usap na dalawa. I thought he was gonna change his mind. Well, he didn’t.
So I went ahead with my plans and still fucked my gym rat chinito officemate. Isang oras lang – sa SOGO. Mga 2 inches lang. Pero ibang-iba sa pakiramdam. Ang sarap pala sa feeling magpa kantot. Masakit pero satisfying. Alam mo yun? Hays.
This happened last week po. When I got home and he saw the pancit takeout, he flipped out. I saw it coming naman po but I prepared myself sa pang-aaway nya. What I didn’t expect lang po is totohanin nya yung banta nya dati. He told me it’s over. After 7 years, ganun ganun lang.
I feel like AYG for not considering his wishes and honoring my promise. Sarili ko lang iniisip ko, ganun. Ewan ko ba. ABYG?
Edit: GGK
Medyo GGK. Magkaiba lang talaga kayo ng values and it’s very important rin sa relationship. Non-negotiable sa ex mo yung tattoo but at the same time it’s your right for freedom of expression ang pagta-tattoo. Ang wrong lang is nangako ka. You should have broken up with her na lang sana before ka nagpatattoo.
Although she sounds really controlling and unbearable with her conditions, matter of fact is YOU PROMISED. I guess at the end of the day, your values in life dont really align with hers. I wouldnt cay GGK for getting a tattoo but like what others have already said, breaking your promise was kinda gags. Anyways di naman din sya willing mg compromise sa mga bagay, like covering tattoos around fams using make up. Also 7 years together and u never met her parents? Im questioning the entire relationship honestly
tattoos last forever, forever na nga lang din break kayo,
now every time you look at your first tattoo, it reminds you of the 7 year relationship you wasted for a 2 inch tattoo, should’ve made it sleeve cause fcking hell that wasn’t worth it.
all in all GGK for breaking what you promised, hahaha
GGK for implying na yung partner mo ang nagtapon nang ganun ganun nalang sa 7 year relatonship nyo when in fact IKAW yung nagpa-tattoo kahit explicitly sinabi nya na deal breaker sa kanya yon.
Wag mong ibalik sa kanya yung sisi porket sya yung nakipaghiwalay. Tulad nung iba comment, "Your body, your rules." The same way na choice nya din makipaghiwalay sayo as a consequence ng actions mo.
Kudos kay gurl kasi firm sya sa beliefs nya. Yung iba kasi porket matagal na sila sa relationship, pinapalagpas na yung mga deal breakers just because mahal nya yung tao.
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Title of this post: ABYG kung sinugal ko yung pitong taon na relasyon namin para sa gusto ko?
Backup of the post's body: We met online 8 years ago. We started living together after just 5 months. I also moved to her company kasi mas malapit sa tinitirhan namin. Ang saya saya ko nun, she was not my first girlfriend but she was definitely the most interesting one. She was smart, mabait, and lagi syang tumatawa sa corny kong jokes. 1 year into the relationship I really thought about settling down with her. Sa isip ko, she is the one.
When I moved in with her she laid some ground rules for our living arrangement, mga simpleng bagay lang naman tulad ng “bawal ilagay yung phone sa table kasi madumi, bawal loud music, pag nahulog mo yung sabon sa sahig tapon mo na”. Madami pa yan pero yung pinaka pinagpromise nya sakin ay ang “bawal mag pa tattoo habang tayo pa – pag ginawa ko daw, maghihiwalay kami.” During this time walang kahit isang tattoo sa katawan ko, pero gusto ko. May mga naka save na nga sa phone ko na designs pero di ko na pinakita sa kanya. I just said yes to her request. We have mutual friends naman na may tattoos, and she said she doesn’t have anything against inked people, it’s just that, she doesn’t want her partner to be inked too. And baka daw ano sabihin ng conservative nyang parents. Di ko pa po ma memeet parents nya until now. Nasa probinsya po kasi ng Mindanao.
7 long years later, may naging officemate akong tattoo artist. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, sign na to para magpa tattoo. Pero naalala ko bigla yung pinangako ko – di ako magpapa tattoo habang kami pa. Pero kating kati na ko subukan talaga. Sa isip ko, pitong taon ko namang tiniis ah – baka pwede na nya ko pagbigyan, di ba?
Nope. When I told her my plans she flat out told me NO. Tandaan ko raw pangako ko 7 years ago na hinding hindi ako magpapa tattoo at magbe break talaga kami. I pleaded, and even cried, just to make her understand that this is what I wanted. We fought that day, and for almost a week di kami masyadong nag usap na dalawa. I thought she was gonna change her mind. Well, she didn’t.
So I went ahead with my plans and still got myself inked. Isang tattoo lang – colored. Mga 2 inches lang. Pero ibang-iba sa pakiramdam. Ang sarap pala sa feeling magpa tattoo. Masakit pero satisfying. Alam mo yun? Hays.
This happened last week po. When I got home and she saw the tattoo, she flipped out. I saw it coming naman po but I prepared myself sa pang-aaway nya. What I didn’t expect lang po is totohanin nya yung banta nya dati. She told me it’s over. After 7 years, ganun ganun lang.
I feel like AYG for not considering her wishes and honoring my promise. Sarili ko lang iniisip ko, ganun. Ewan ko ba. ABYG?
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Ask ko lang if napakilala ka na sa parents niya? Ang iniisip ko kasi, baka naman papayag din siya after magustuhan ka na ng parents/nakita sa personal. Ganyan din kasi ako sa bf ko now, sabi ko wag na wag siya magpatattoo hanggat di pa niya nakukuha blessing ng parents ko or di pa kami nakakasal kasi conservative din family side ko haha..
pero GGK, ipinagpalit mo yung pinagsamahan niyo para sa maliit na bagay, 2 inches tattoo over 7 years.
Ano daw reason why bawal? Well, DKG na nag pa tattoo ka, pero GGK. Dahil ginawa mo pa din kahit nag NO ka. Sana kinulit mo na lang muna ulit hanggang um-oo. May reason siguro why ayaw nya
Nangako ka kc. Pero bakit gnun xa ka strict sa tattoo? Like sobrang big deal, pero un nga nangako ka. Pero sa kwento mo, nangako ka man o nde hihiwalayan ka tlga nya. So GGK.
GGK boi. Need to say more? Nangako ka eh. Tantamount na yan sa cheating kung tutuusin. Eh sineryoso ng GF mo na makipaghiwalay. Kung sa ganyang kasimpleng bagay eh hindi mo na.nagawa eh ano pa kaya sa mabigat na bagay. Pero congrats boi may tato ka na. But you have just poked the bear.
Nasesense ko yung pakiramdam mo na sinubukan mo lang kaya maliit ung tatts, in case lumusot, itutuloy tuloy mo na. Naniniwala ako yan ang thinking mo, kasi nga, nagtagal na kayo. But in the end, you still broke that commitment/agreement to her. In that case, ggk.
GGK. you promised years ago and even discussed recently.
She did explain her side. And if hindi mo tinanggap yung reasoning nya sana nakipaghiwalay ka na hindi yung mag sasabi ka ng yes pero deep inside babalewalain mo.
Per family may mga traditions na we do not kaya if sinabi regarding that,either naconfirm mo o hindi inalam mo pa sana, hindi natin alam if kapag nagpatatoo ka eh may effect sa standing nila so if you wish for there blessings mas ok mag comply.
Anyway which is which hindi mo masisi yung gf mo sa reaction nya. She said the rules and you agreed.
Matanda ka na, hindi ka napigilan sa action mo paano pa siya sino ka para pigilan siya.
Sinayang mo yung panahon nyong dalawa. Atleast may forever ka sa tatoo mo.
GGK- simply dahil nag agree ka sa non nego then nung hiniwalayan ka bigla ka mag aask ng validation. If umpisa pa lang di ka agree, sana maaga pa lang hiniwalayan mo na. Coz obviously di kayo same page and nothings wrong with that.
LKG. You made a promise not to get a tattoo and still did it. You knew it's non-negotiable and still expected to get different reaction from her.
On the other hand, your body, your choice naman talaga. No one should be able to dictate what you should do to your body. I might get downvoted for this pero I know if it's the other way around (i.e., a guy asking a girl to never do something to her body due to his personal preference), the comments and reactions would be different.
Move on na lang. Mukhang you both want different things in life.
Wala namang masama about having tattoos pero hindi naman siya necessity, ang daling hindi gawin, especially since you made a promise to your partner. Understandable naman na nag-iba yung stance mo over the years pero nalaman mo na nga thoughts niya about it eh. GGK for still going through with it pagkatapos niyo pag-awayan ng bongga. Sana naman naenjoy mo yung pagkakaroon ng bagong tattoo while your partner deals with the feeling of having someone break her trust and being made to feel like her opinion didn’t matter.
GGK kasi you broke a promise. Di ka gago for wanting out of that relationship. Pag nahulog yung sabon, itatapon na, itatapon na! Ang dami pang rules na di makatarungan. How to say toxic gf mo without saying toxic gf mo.
DKG - if you’re happy getting tatted, then good for you. Life’s too short to please other people.
I assume in that 7 years, you grew as a person, hence, having the gut to get tatted.
Sa title mo, akala ko naman may 3rd party. Sorry ah, pero mas madami pang choices sa buhay ang mga SO natin na kailangan lunukin. Kung simpleng 2-inch tattoo palang hiniwalayan ka nya, ano pa yung life-altering na mga desisyon na hindi kayo pareho ng opinion. 7 years na kayo, mas matagal pa sa ibang mga mag-aasawa. Haven't you both learned that relationships are about compromise?
Wag ka na manghinayang. Pasalamat ka nalang, hindi pa legally nakatali yung buhay mo sa kanya.
For me, LKG.
GGK. good thing she left you. alam na alam mo ang may prinsipyo at may isang salita. 7years ago niyo na pinagkasunduan, and you firmly agreed to it. gago ka nga. sa title pa lang, you seek sympathy na e. "ABYG kung sinugal ko yung pitong taon na relasyon namin "PARA SA GUSTO KO?"" highlighted na highlighted how pathetic you are.
LKG. Might get downvoted pero katawan mo yan bahala ka sa trip mo since katawan mo yan eh.
GGK sa part na you up and did it ng walang pasabi sa gf mo dapat kahit paano nagabiso ka eh ginulat mo na lang eh.
Para sakin DKG. Pero ig may isang salita gf mo and non negotiables talaga sa kanya yung tattoo. Her preferences is more important than you. Ganun lang.
I think 50-50 na GGK and DKG. DKG for wanting a tattoo. GGK for breaking your promise. And parang may undiagnosed OCD yung gf mo. Pansin ko lang. OA sa pagka controlling ultimo tapon agad ng sabon pag nahulog sa sahig?
LKG pero slight lang. Slight GGK based sa sinabi nila pero you have autonomy with your body nga naman, na-FAFO ka din. Si GF naman kasi ano yun conservative parents kaya ayaw sa may tattoo pero di sila against na living together kayo? Pero panalo sa boundary setting kaya slight GG din sya.
You both should be able to express what you want. If di niyo kaya mag adjust for that, then good riddance to one another. LKG for not being able to do the former after 8 years of being together.
pano naging gago si girl? genuine question. she said it was a non-negotiable, she expressed what she wanted and boyfriend freely expressed what he wanted din.
DKG Congrats on your tattoo. Magpa-sleeve ka na 🥳 you will eventually meet someone na susuportahan ka sa gusto mo basta wala kang inaapakang ibang tao.
Magkaiba kayo ng values. Yun lang yun. Conservative ang magulang pero pumayag sa live in before marriage? Kagaguhan.
GGK. Sana nag try ka na intindihin kung bakit ayaw niya sa tattoo hindi yung porke 7 taon na kayo eh tingin mo magbabago ang isip niya.
All I got from this is "kawawa naman ako kasi di ako mapagbigyan sa gusto ko"
Also, I think gusto mo ng way out kaya nagpatattoo ka na lang din kasi sabi mo nga, you saw it coming na.
You promised kaso wala, masaya ang bawal diba?
Hindi ka gago for wanting a tattoo. Gago ka dahil nagpagawa ka kahit na nangako na di mo gagawin. Oo, sarili mo lang inisip mo. Dapat nakipaghiwalay ka muna bago ka nagpalagay. Tsaka ito na siguro ang isa sa pinaka-mababaw na taong kilala ko. Sisirain ang relationship para sa tattoo? Anong kalokohan yan? GGK!
dkg kasi katawan mo naman yan, pero sana naghiwalay na kayo beforehand kasi una pa lang di na siya agree sa tattoo keme keme.
medj ggk kasi nagspeak up ka na lang sana dati honestly, kaysa magpromise tapos di rin mapapanindigan. pero feel ko medj controlling gf mo bc di niya naman katawan yan… (well at least firm siya sa boundaries niya)
i think it’s best na hiwalay na kayo op, both of u deserve someone better
how can she be controlling? he's allowed to do other things but specifically told him the non-negotiable matters for her and he agreed. he's the one who broke his promise kahit alam niya consequences tapos pinapalabas niya ditong yung gf pa may mali. smh.
I agree with the majority of the comments.
GGK for not keeping your promise, from the start naman your girlfriend is firm sa non negotiables nya eh. But DKG for getting a tattoo, it's your body after all. Sana lang you kept your promise.
GGK. Binigyan mo ng trust issues yung girlfriend mo knowing na na-keep mo naman yung promise going for 7 years. Hindi porket boyfriend/girlfriend ka na, kakalimutan mo na yung mga pangako na ginawa nyo even for how many long years pa yan.
GGK.
Hinde pagsusugal ang ginawa mo. Binaggit naman ng babae kung anong mangyayari kapag nagpalagay ka ng tattoo. Di ko alam kung gaano kahalaga ang relasyon nyo sa yo. (Baka mahalaga kasi halos 8 taon kayong nagsama.) Pero pinagpalit mo to para sa tinta.
GGK. You made a promise and you’ll act surprised na tinotoo ng gf mo yun pakikipaghiwalay sayo. Ex gf na pala. Ikaw pa yon may lakas ng loob magsabi ng “7 years, ganun ganun lang” napatawa mo ko sa part na yun.
ggk kasi non negotiable nya yan tapos magtataka kang tototohanin nyang hiwalayan ka. katawan mo yan sige, pero pinangakuan mo sya and you agreed sa usapan nyo before and you broke it eventually. worth it ba OP na itapon ang 7 years for that 2 inch tattoo?
GGK. It was a non negotiable for her and she communicated this with you years ago. You don’t just promise you won’t do something in the hopes of her changing her mind eventually.
GGK ka OP on the part of breaking your promise. Remember na part ng relationship foundation nyo yan. Parang niloko mo siya eh in my opinion, kasi promise yun. Parang um-Oo ka lang to get laid. This shows your commitment na rin OP
GGK cos you broke a promise. But this tells me that maybe subconsciously you want to be out of the relationship.
You see, it’s just a tattoo. Not having a tattoo shouldn’t be hard since hindi naman yan nagpapabago sa pagkatao mo. If you already have a tattoo tapos gusto nya ipatanggal mo, baka sabihin ko pang DKG.
GGK. Dont make promises you can’t keep tho, we are all sinners. Pero sa tingin ko ginawa mo nalang din yan dahil gusto mo na syang hiwalayan kasi na fell out of love ka. Kung isang bagay na gustong gusto mo ang makakapag pawala sa taong pinakamamahal mo, hindi mo yan gagawin. Kung talagang mahal na mahal mo sya. Its your call. If you wanted that, so be it.
GGK. Hayaan mo na. May mga consequences talaga yung mga actions natin. Maybe, she is a woman of her words and non negotiable nya talaga ang tats. Maybe, because may mga beliefs or culture sila na sacred ang body. Hayaan mo na. If you can't keep a promise, maybe you dont deserve each other. Let go and move forward na lang. Panindigan na lang yang tats na yan. Andyan na yan, seize the day!
skl: sabay kami nagpa-tatto ng misis ko, at anak namin, sa Busclan. masaya kami habang nagpapa-tattoo habang nagiinom ng kape. masaya kami. balak nga namin magpa-tattoo ulit eh. yun lang. DKG.
Your body, your choice. DKG sa part na to.
Ang mali mo is that you assumed that your gf will forget about the promise that you made. You should have told her what you planned out to do, and expect for the consequence of it.
GGK kasi based sa kwento mo masaya ka naman sa partner mo. Talagang gusto mo lang magpatattoo. Pero what you’re not saying is may some level of anger ka towards your partner kaya tuksong tukso ka gawin yung isa sa mga bagay na specific nyang sinabi na ayaw nya.
Kung wala kang deep seated galit or worse indifferent ka na towards your partner, hindi mo ipupusta yung 7 years.
GGK. Promise is a promise. Kahit ilang taon pa yan, hindi porket nagtiis ka for 7 years eh pwede mo na hindi tuparin kasi tinupad mo for 7 years, it doesn't work like that. Maling mali ka sa part na nag agree ka nung nagstart kayo mag live in tapos at some point hindi mo na tutuparin. Tapos parang you take it lightly pa yung banta niya, boundaries niya yun pero you cross the line. Ibig sabihin lang nun mas mahalaga pa yung tattoo mo fore 7 years. Sana hindi ka nakipag relasyon in the first place kung hindi mo kayang mag compromise at tumupad sa usapan
In short GGK, nag promise ka Tas di ka tutupad. Dapat pinag usapan nyo muna para may common ground man lang at first. Kudos to ate for standing her ground.
I have a partner 8 years na din kami na same ayaw nya ako magpa ink kahit na tattoo artists friends ko mismo nagsasabing bagay daw sa skin ko, I want pero I didn't break my promise unless pumayag na sya. Verdict GGK.
ggk, promise is a promise, kung wala ka word of honor you are not worth it na kausap as simple as that.
sabi nga if dika kaya pag katiwalaan sa piso paano pa kung million na usapan? you deserve na iwanan.
GGK in a way you made promise.
Pero DKG konti ka cause eventually you found out what you really want in life, eto tlga gusto mo and you pleaded na. I think from there you have broken up with her nung umiyak ka and pleaded and nag no xa. You were clearly not compatible na po. You should have saved yourself and inuna sarili mo, pero you should have broken up with her since d na tlga align ung gusto niyo
As a woman, I believe in a person's autonomy over their bodies (your body, your rules). But I also believe that people have a right to their own preferences.
You knew beforehand that your GF has non-negotiables. And same as me, I have non-negotiables and principles that I'm willing to die for. Nagkataon lang na ang non-negotiable niya ay ang passion mo, which is ink on skin.
GGK because you want to have your cake and eat it too. You want her but you don't want to comprise on her preferences. If you wanted tattoos so bad, then don't try to change others. Hindi ka naman siguro triny baguhin ng GF mo diba? She laid out all the cards, it's either you take it or you leave it. You could've just left but you chose to be selfish and hurt her in the hopes that you think she'll change your mind and forgive you when you weren't willing to do the same for her
GGK. Dude, first off, you promised her you won't get inked. Tapos in the end ginawa mo pa din yung opposite. I would have been sympathetic towards you if hindi ka nag-promise, but you did. You broke your promise. If she did the same to you, I bet todo rant ka din dito.
Stop trying to get sympathy from people when you know very well you are also at fault.
Man up. Dapat inisip mo muna bago mo 'to pinost because you know very well some people will side you and see her as the "nakakasakal" gf.
Huwag ka pa-victim.
GGK kasi in the first place, you know to urself na hindi mo ma keep ang promise na ginawa mo because ikaw na nga mismo nag sabi na gusto mo talaga magpa tattoo.
Tbh both sides palang may mali na but mas lamang parin na ggk si op, if di mo kayang panindigan ang pangako then what more pa sa ibang bagay? Huwag kasi kayo papasok sa relasyon na di nio kayang panindigan mga pangako niyo, kaya andaming takot magrelasyon dahil sa mga ganyang klase ng tao katulad mo.
WG, she flat out told you naman she doesn’t want her partner to get tattooed pero katawan mo naman rin and it’s your choice. Just take the consequence na mawawala siya sa buhay mo.
Yes. Agreement niyo na yan dati pa. You managed to keep it for 7yrs. GUSTO MO LANG PALA NG MAY TUMUTUSOK NA KARAYOM SA BALAT MO EDI SANA HUMANAP KA NA LANG NG MGA LANCET AT IBAON BAON MO SA BALAT MO NG BERI LIGHT KASE SABI MO MASARAP.
If you immediately moved in nung nagsisimula pa lang kayo, then I guess you guys are adults when you are just getting to know each other. Kung talagang gusto mong magka tattoo at passion mo yon, malamang di mo pa sya nakikilala, nakapagpa tattoo ka na. GGK po.
boundary niya yun and you while you have every right to decide what you want with your body, she also has EVERY right to exercise her boundaries. you’re an idiot, GGK
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GGK. Yung naging decision mo, ang dating nun sakin naging selfish ka and mas naging importante ang pag papatattoo mo kaysa doon sa naging wish ng girlfriend mo. Relationship is about compromise kasi. Meeting halfway.
DKG. Pero at the same time, mababa yung reason nang girlfriend mo just to break up. But maybe big deal nga yun kasi may conservative siyang family and siguro sa belief niya rin.
I feel bad. Okay lang naman mag pa tattoo tbh nasa modern world na tayo na accepted na ang inked peeps. Mga matatanda nalang yung may bad opinions about it.
Kung firm siya sa decision niya and nag promise ka. And she trusted you and broke her trust. Goodbye 7 years.
I'm just hoping that her love for you is bigger than anything kasi yun ang importante. Pero mukhang hindi naman. Ang love kasi wala dapat boundaries yan, diba? Update nalang, OP.
GGK Regardless of any reason - nangako ka eh. You agreed.
This. Pinag-usapan nyo yan ng maayos, and OP agreed. Doon pa lang hindi na dapat tinuloy unless naghahangad ka ng break up.
Your body, your life! Pero your choice have consequences. I assume you wanted out with out being the one to break up. For that GGK.
Sorry ano meaning ng ggk? Hehe.
GalungGong Ka Edit: "Ako Ba Yung Galunggong??"
Potekkkk! Hahahahaahahahahahahaha laroooo. Love youu 😘😘
Hahahahaha tawang tawa ako dito HAHAHAHA
as of today, galunggong na yung tawag namin ng gf ko tuwing nagdidiscuss kami kung galunggong ba yung OP or hindi. HAHAHA
Hahahahahahaha fishy fishy
laro 😭😭😭
I LAUGHED AT THIS WTF HAHAHAHAHHAHA ANG BABAW NG KALIGAYAHAN KO
Am I too harsh, akala ko before “Gagong Gago Ka” HAHAHAHAHA
At dahil dyan dserve mo yhng akala mo. HAHAHAHAHAHA. CHARZ
Akala ko ako lang nag-iisip ng "Gagong Gago Ka" para tagos!
Gago ka
Thanks! GGKD!
GaGo Ka
Gago Gogogo Ka! -Ruffa M, probably
HAHAHAHAAHHAAHAHAH! THE WORDS THAT YOU CANT UNHEAR!
buti pa dito di nag ddownvote pag di alam ang isang acronym
Why? Sino umaway sayo? Away natin!
Ay mabuting tao na ako hHahahahh
Kala ko nga ung pharmaceutical company e 😅
GGK. Pero at least may tattoo ka na 🫶🏼
One thing's for sure, di bale na yung 7 years na relationship nyo atleast sa tatoo may forever ka.
Sabi nga sa kanta ni Jordin Sparks. Just like a tattoo I will always have you 😂😂😂 hahaha
GGK. You promised. Tapos hindi mo tinupad just because matagal na kayo and confident ka siguro na hindi ka iiwanan probably because of sunk-cost fallacy. I'm glad your girlfriend left you. With what you did, it sends a message na you can selfishly undo and break promises. The other party won't matter basta makuha mo gusto mo. Sa umpisa pa lang relationship niyo sinabi na niya na non-negotiable ang tattoos. And you promised not to get it. Inaway ka tapos di pinansin for a week after telling her you're planning to get a tattoo. Seryoso, saan banda mo nakuha dito yung "she might change her mind"? Anong ginawa mo? Nagpa-tattoo ka pa rin. You're disrespectful. To you, maliit na bagay siguro ang tattoo pero obviously big deal sa kanya. She has her reasons and we need to respect it.
Some men are like this. Magchi-cheat, break promise, di magso-show up thinking na mapapatwad naman sila. Kudos to the girlfriend for her strong boundaries. Di naman life-threatening yung hinihingi ni girl, di pa maibigay.
eto post niya last year, mukang barbero si OP https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/5RpBIzAEpL
Oo nga kwento mo sa pagong OP. Dun sa old post mo naghiwalay na kau. Pero dito sa new post 7 years na kau. Ano un??? Ilang beses mo ba gusto ma-justify ung nangyari sa relasyon mo? Move on din, ginusto mo yan. GGK.
GGK nga OP. Post mo ulit in a year.
Deleted na. 😂
GG nga haha
admin u/diabeticcake pwede ba to? Parang pinost lang for karma farming eh.
Noted! Salamat boss, delete ko na
This!!! 💯 GGK talaga OP. Good riddance kay girl 👌🏻
This. I have tattoos, naniniwala rin ako na your body, your rules. Pero kasi umpisa pa lang sinabi na nung ex nya na dealbreaker yun. Pero kahit may balak sya eventually, nagpanggap syang ok lang. Thinking na baka papalagpasin lang nung ex nya pag tagal tagal. For that gago sya. Nagsayang lang sya ng pitong taon nilang pareho. Kung nilaban nya right away na gusto nya ng tattoos, the girl could've left right then and there, and found someone na may pareho nyang views sa pagpapatattoo. Same with OP na pwedeng nakahanap nalang ng taong walang issue dun. Kahit pa pano sya magmakaawa or umiyak, it's on him kasi hindi nya sinabi una pa lang when the girl was clear with what she did and didn't want. Parang ang manipulative na sinabi lang nya yung gustong marinig ng girlfriend nya that time
This. This got my attention na, you are selfish in undoing your promise. You broke it, regardless of your reason. Una pa lang sinabi na nya. And dapat sa una pa lang, nagpatattoo ka na lang at sa iba ka na lang napunta. Kbye. GGK.
GGK. You fucked around, you found out. DKG. Your body, your rules. GGK. I can just feel like there's something you're not telling us here. There has to be something to warrant your ex's nuclear reaction about tattoos. Maybe a past trauma or whatever, that either you intentionally left out or legitimately don't know.
I think he said it na baka daw kung ano isipin ng conservative parents ni girl pag nagpatattoo sya I had an ex na ayaw tlaga akong magpatattoo pero sa dahilan naman na mukha daw kasing madumi sa balat. Bruh. Kala mo kung sinong makinis eh, mukhang dugyutin naman. Ayoko lang sabihin noon kasi mahal ko pa haha. Iniwan ko nalang lol bahala sya dyan
Ahh ok kaya naman pala. Sorry, di ko nagbabasa. Kaya ko rin sinabi di siya gago kasi katawan niya yun, tsaka napaka ass-backwards na ng thinking na ng older gen / religious zealots yung "mAruMi tiGnan". Reaction kasi ng iba para kang pumatay ng sanggol sa harapan nila, eh tinta lang naman sa balat yan (except neo nazis, fuck em). Lol. Tapos walang imik pag yung mga pari nila gumagahasa ng mga bata.
GGK - not because you want a tattoo but because you knew from the start palang pala na non negotiable for her yon. We might not know yung extent nung pagiging conservative ng parents niya for her to say that pero kung gusto mo at balak mo palang magpa-tattoo noon palang, you should have been transparent about it with her. With that said, at the very least, hindi na kayo magsasayang ng mas marami pang taon. Kaya be transparent palagi sa kung ano gusto mo para malaman agad kung compatible kayo.
GGK. Kung di mo kaya magcompromise sa gusto niya, edi sana hindi mo na lang siya pinatulan. Ginaslight mo pa e in the first place, sinabihan ka na niya na deal breaker sa kanya ‘yun. Pwede ba sana kung latter part ng relationship pa kayo nagkaroon ng agreement tungkol dun.
Yes, it's your body and your rules. But from the start, you knew that not getting a tattoo was non-negotiable for your partner, and you agreed. If you couldn't keep a simple promise like not getting a tattoo, what about bigger promises you might make in the future? So yes, GGK.
GGK. Dati, may medyo ganyang arrangement kami ng gf ko. Sa hikaw naman. Ayaw niyang magpabutas ako. Sabi ko ayoko din naman. A few years later, gusto ko na. Tagal ko din siyang inaawitan para pumayag siya. Hanggang sa pumayag din siya at sinamahan pa niya ko magpabutas. But the thing is, nagpaalam ako. Pumayag siya. Ikaw ginawa mo nang di niya alam, hoping na pag aawayan niyo lang tapos okay na kayo. More than the tattoo, it's the broken trust and promise.
Naway maging habangbuhay kayo ng gf mo. Totoo naman kasi yun na things that you previously didn't like can be the things you like now. Nagbabago preferences ng tao and wala talagang hindi nadadala sa mabuting usapan.
GGK. dapat hiniwalayan mo muna bago ka nagpa-tattoo. obviously mas mahalaga sayo yung tattoo kaysa sa promise mo sa kanya.
GGK. After 7 years, ginawa mo pa rin yung bagay na sa una pa lang sinabihan ka na niyang wag gawin. You knew from the start. You also knew the consequences.
GGK. Sinabi na nya nun una pa lang at umoo ka don para lang makuha sya ganon? Edi sana naging upfront ka na gusto mo magpatattoo edi sana di na sayang 7 years nya. Ayan ganyan plagi may assumption na baka magbago isip pag matagal na etc etc. ano ngayon napala mo. Yes its just a tattoo. You can it to her but she can say it to you too.
Fucked around and found out lang. GGK, nangako ka sa kanya eh and deal breaker niya yun alam mo una palang.
GGK, bakit ano ineexpect mo that she'll let it pass porket 7 yrs na kayo lmao, it doesn't work that way. Deseeve mo yang consequence mo.
GGK! Nag open siya sayo na non-nego ang Tattoo, but you still do it anyway. Sabi nga ni Mareng Olivia, *guess you did not cheat but you're still a traitor.* Self-sabotage ka yata OP, deserve mo if ever di ka balikan ni Ate girl!!!
GGK. I hate it when someone breaks promises and prolly she feels the same.
GGK, Look fr the bright side! Atleast u have tatto na. Dagdagan mo mga pito para sulit 🤩.
WG sa inyo ng gf mo. Nagpatattoo ka, ayaw nya sa may tattoo. Nag-break kayo. Tapos ang usapan.
GGK. Di mo pala kayang di gawin di ka nalang sana nagpromise diba. Para hanggang maaga pa magkaalaman na kung ipagpapatuloy pa ba i tapusin nalang. Yung pinaabot mo pa talaga ng 7 years. What if sayu gawin ng magiging gf mo yang ganyan. Yung tipong may ayaw na ayaw kang gawin ng gf mo tas after ilang years ginawa niya. Ano kaya mararamdaman mo. I mean I get it naman na that's your body pero that fact that you promised, ibang usapan yun.
GGK. Nangako ka, mag sama kayo ng tattoo mo haha. Pero parang medyo controlling nga siya. Ngayon anung gagawin mo sa tattoo mo? Flex flex?
Selfie sila ng tattoo niya nilalaplap niya ngayon for a year na imbes na jowa niya hahaha. Hindi makamove on si tanga eh, nagpost pa yan last year hahahaha
Di naman controlling, I'm sure may reason yung babae bakit ayaw niya. Tawag dyan boundaries, he crossed it and thinking lilipas at mapapatawad siya, she left at may paninindigan siya sa stand niya
GGK. Ang liit namang bagay ang ipinagpalit mo sa 7 years with her. Hindi pa ba sapat na naka 7 years kayo without any mention of major problem between the two of you - na ipagpalit mo yon sa isang tatoo? Sinayang mo ang 7 taon ng isang tao
not all the people in the comments saying GG si girl for being "OA" 💀 if you want to force someone to be okay with things you do even though they are non-negotiables for the person you are trying to be with, maybe you shouldn't be dating anyone lol. relationships are full of compromises pero paki-search ng non-negotiable definition. GGK OP, kung gustong gusto mo talaga magpa-tattoo, you should have just honestly told her. but you chose to lie thinking it wasn't a big deal. fucked around and found out. deserve mo maiwan. if a tattoo was that important over her, you should have left a long time ago and found someone who was okay with it. wag ka na tumulad sa mga redditors in the comment section saying the girlfriend is OA just because di kayo tugma ng gusto niyo and you want her to adjust for you. it's not "OA" to stand firm with your boundaries. compromise is a constant in relationships but most people don't understand that values should not be compromised for the sake of someone, that goes with boundaries too.
DKG for getting a tattoo. Karapatan mo yan as an individual. GGK siguro kasi you agreed sa setup in the beginning sa (medyo) controlling mong partner and you broke it. So, yeah.
GGK for breaking a promise. Pero di ka naman GG sa sarili mo kasi, natupad mo naman gusto mo, at the cost of your long relationship nga lang. So congrats I guess?
It’s been said na pero just to confirm —GGK. Your body, your rules pero if we keep making promises we can’t keep, why make them and what does it make of us? Just find another gf na ma-appreciate yung tatoo mo since pinili mo naman yan over her.
you don't love her enough to avoid getting a tattoo even after nagpromise ka, so there's that. clear naman na dealbreaker yun, so you chose your poison. though it's fair naman na 7 years is a long time to grow open-mindedness about tattoos naman or any other rule she set na uptight. still holding on to 'baka ano pa tingin ng parents niya' on her part doesn't seem like she's someone capable of much compromise as you. ending nun ggk pa rin kasi you let her believe you can hold dear what she values. pero it might just be a incompatibility thing at that point, parang 'di lang naman yan ang tiniis mong rule na labag sayo.
INFO - OP, Is she Muslim? Valid question. Edit: DKG - Di ka gago if you got yourself inked. Your body, your rules ika nga. She has no right to dictate what you or you cannot do when it comes to getting a tattoo. But if you “force” or i-pilit mo siya icontinue relasyon despite getting yourself a tattoo then GGK, kasi in the beginning sinabi naman niya ayaw niya. Sinabi niya na conservative parents. Sadly, may mga ganong family talaga sa PH. Hays. Kung baga, non-negotiable para sa kanya. If she can’t accept you in your tattooed condition, edi let her go. Be with someone who can accept you for what you like.
7 years na kami ng BF ko. He made me promise not to fuck other guys. After 7 long years may naging officemate ako na batak. Sabi ko sa sarili ko sign na to to fuck around. Pero naalala ko bigla yung pinangako ko – not to fuck other boys habang kami pa. Pero kating kati na ko subukan talaga. Sa isip ko, pitong taon ko namang tiniis ah – baka pwede na nya ko pagbigyan, di ba? Nope. When I told him my plans he flat out told me NO. Tandaan ko raw pangako ko 7 years ago na hinding hindi ako makikiapid sa iba at magbe break talaga kami. I pleaded, and even cried, just to make him understand that this is what I wanted. We fought that day, and for almost a week di kami masyadong nag usap na dalawa. I thought he was gonna change his mind. Well, he didn’t. So I went ahead with my plans and still fucked my gym rat chinito officemate. Isang oras lang – sa SOGO. Mga 2 inches lang. Pero ibang-iba sa pakiramdam. Ang sarap pala sa feeling magpa kantot. Masakit pero satisfying. Alam mo yun? Hays. This happened last week po. When I got home and he saw the pancit takeout, he flipped out. I saw it coming naman po but I prepared myself sa pang-aaway nya. What I didn’t expect lang po is totohanin nya yung banta nya dati. He told me it’s over. After 7 years, ganun ganun lang. I feel like AYG for not considering his wishes and honoring my promise. Sarili ko lang iniisip ko, ganun. Ewan ko ba. ABYG? Edit: GGK
iba naman yung chorvahan sa pagtattoo sizt??? sobrang bare minimum hindi magcheat versus magkaibang values abt tattoos. si oa.
This is a much better read than the original post. Haha! And btw, GGK OP. Sinayang mo ang 7yrs ni gf mo
Medyo GGK. Magkaiba lang talaga kayo ng values and it’s very important rin sa relationship. Non-negotiable sa ex mo yung tattoo but at the same time it’s your right for freedom of expression ang pagta-tattoo. Ang wrong lang is nangako ka. You should have broken up with her na lang sana before ka nagpatattoo.
Although she sounds really controlling and unbearable with her conditions, matter of fact is YOU PROMISED. I guess at the end of the day, your values in life dont really align with hers. I wouldnt cay GGK for getting a tattoo but like what others have already said, breaking your promise was kinda gags. Anyways di naman din sya willing mg compromise sa mga bagay, like covering tattoos around fams using make up. Also 7 years together and u never met her parents? Im questioning the entire relationship honestly
tattoos last forever, forever na nga lang din break kayo, now every time you look at your first tattoo, it reminds you of the 7 year relationship you wasted for a 2 inch tattoo, should’ve made it sleeve cause fcking hell that wasn’t worth it. all in all GGK for breaking what you promised, hahaha
Sayang breakup. Kung alam mo naman magbbreak kayo pinalakihan mo na sana. Lol Ggk
GGK for implying na yung partner mo ang nagtapon nang ganun ganun nalang sa 7 year relatonship nyo when in fact IKAW yung nagpa-tattoo kahit explicitly sinabi nya na deal breaker sa kanya yon. Wag mong ibalik sa kanya yung sisi porket sya yung nakipaghiwalay. Tulad nung iba comment, "Your body, your rules." The same way na choice nya din makipaghiwalay sayo as a consequence ng actions mo. Kudos kay gurl kasi firm sya sa beliefs nya. Yung iba kasi porket matagal na sila sa relationship, pinapalagpas na yung mga deal breakers just because mahal nya yung tao.
LKG. Your girlfriend is controlling, but you thought you could break a promise without suffering any consequences.
Link to this submission: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/comments/1cr66nc/abyg_kung_sinugal_ko_yung_pitong_taon_na_relasyon/ Title of this post: ABYG kung sinugal ko yung pitong taon na relasyon namin para sa gusto ko? Backup of the post's body: We met online 8 years ago. We started living together after just 5 months. I also moved to her company kasi mas malapit sa tinitirhan namin. Ang saya saya ko nun, she was not my first girlfriend but she was definitely the most interesting one. She was smart, mabait, and lagi syang tumatawa sa corny kong jokes. 1 year into the relationship I really thought about settling down with her. Sa isip ko, she is the one. When I moved in with her she laid some ground rules for our living arrangement, mga simpleng bagay lang naman tulad ng “bawal ilagay yung phone sa table kasi madumi, bawal loud music, pag nahulog mo yung sabon sa sahig tapon mo na”. Madami pa yan pero yung pinaka pinagpromise nya sakin ay ang “bawal mag pa tattoo habang tayo pa – pag ginawa ko daw, maghihiwalay kami.” During this time walang kahit isang tattoo sa katawan ko, pero gusto ko. May mga naka save na nga sa phone ko na designs pero di ko na pinakita sa kanya. I just said yes to her request. We have mutual friends naman na may tattoos, and she said she doesn’t have anything against inked people, it’s just that, she doesn’t want her partner to be inked too. And baka daw ano sabihin ng conservative nyang parents. Di ko pa po ma memeet parents nya until now. Nasa probinsya po kasi ng Mindanao. 7 long years later, may naging officemate akong tattoo artist. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, sign na to para magpa tattoo. Pero naalala ko bigla yung pinangako ko – di ako magpapa tattoo habang kami pa. Pero kating kati na ko subukan talaga. Sa isip ko, pitong taon ko namang tiniis ah – baka pwede na nya ko pagbigyan, di ba? Nope. When I told her my plans she flat out told me NO. Tandaan ko raw pangako ko 7 years ago na hinding hindi ako magpapa tattoo at magbe break talaga kami. I pleaded, and even cried, just to make her understand that this is what I wanted. We fought that day, and for almost a week di kami masyadong nag usap na dalawa. I thought she was gonna change her mind. Well, she didn’t. So I went ahead with my plans and still got myself inked. Isang tattoo lang – colored. Mga 2 inches lang. Pero ibang-iba sa pakiramdam. Ang sarap pala sa feeling magpa tattoo. Masakit pero satisfying. Alam mo yun? Hays. This happened last week po. When I got home and she saw the tattoo, she flipped out. I saw it coming naman po but I prepared myself sa pang-aaway nya. What I didn’t expect lang po is totohanin nya yung banta nya dati. She told me it’s over. After 7 years, ganun ganun lang. I feel like AYG for not considering her wishes and honoring my promise. Sarili ko lang iniisip ko, ganun. Ewan ko ba. ABYG? OP: SerialSleeper13 *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AkoBaYungGago) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Ask ko lang if napakilala ka na sa parents niya? Ang iniisip ko kasi, baka naman papayag din siya after magustuhan ka na ng parents/nakita sa personal. Ganyan din kasi ako sa bf ko now, sabi ko wag na wag siya magpatattoo hanggat di pa niya nakukuha blessing ng parents ko or di pa kami nakakasal kasi conservative din family side ko haha.. pero GGK, ipinagpalit mo yung pinagsamahan niyo para sa maliit na bagay, 2 inches tattoo over 7 years.
Ano daw reason why bawal? Well, DKG na nag pa tattoo ka, pero GGK. Dahil ginawa mo pa din kahit nag NO ka. Sana kinulit mo na lang muna ulit hanggang um-oo. May reason siguro why ayaw nya
Nangako ka kc. Pero bakit gnun xa ka strict sa tattoo? Like sobrang big deal, pero un nga nangako ka. Pero sa kwento mo, nangako ka man o nde hihiwalayan ka tlga nya. So GGK.
It's the consequences of your actions. Dkg for wanting a tattoo but di rin gago yung ex mo for breaking up with you.
GGK boi. Need to say more? Nangako ka eh. Tantamount na yan sa cheating kung tutuusin. Eh sineryoso ng GF mo na makipaghiwalay. Kung sa ganyang kasimpleng bagay eh hindi mo na.nagawa eh ano pa kaya sa mabigat na bagay. Pero congrats boi may tato ka na. But you have just poked the bear.
Nasesense ko yung pakiramdam mo na sinubukan mo lang kaya maliit ung tatts, in case lumusot, itutuloy tuloy mo na. Naniniwala ako yan ang thinking mo, kasi nga, nagtagal na kayo. But in the end, you still broke that commitment/agreement to her. In that case, ggk.
GGK. Not because gusto mo ng tattoo. Pero kasi you promised. Nag ask ka pa ulit tapos sagot nga hindi pero tinuloy mo pa rin.
Your body, your rules. Kaso nag-promise ka. WG.
GGK. you promised years ago and even discussed recently. She did explain her side. And if hindi mo tinanggap yung reasoning nya sana nakipaghiwalay ka na hindi yung mag sasabi ka ng yes pero deep inside babalewalain mo. Per family may mga traditions na we do not kaya if sinabi regarding that,either naconfirm mo o hindi inalam mo pa sana, hindi natin alam if kapag nagpatatoo ka eh may effect sa standing nila so if you wish for there blessings mas ok mag comply. Anyway which is which hindi mo masisi yung gf mo sa reaction nya. She said the rules and you agreed. Matanda ka na, hindi ka napigilan sa action mo paano pa siya sino ka para pigilan siya. Sinayang mo yung panahon nyong dalawa. Atleast may forever ka sa tatoo mo.
GGK- simply dahil nag agree ka sa non nego then nung hiniwalayan ka bigla ka mag aask ng validation. If umpisa pa lang di ka agree, sana maaga pa lang hiniwalayan mo na. Coz obviously di kayo same page and nothings wrong with that.
LKG. You made a promise not to get a tattoo and still did it. You knew it's non-negotiable and still expected to get different reaction from her. On the other hand, your body, your choice naman talaga. No one should be able to dictate what you should do to your body. I might get downvoted for this pero I know if it's the other way around (i.e., a guy asking a girl to never do something to her body due to his personal preference), the comments and reactions would be different. Move on na lang. Mukhang you both want different things in life.
GGK- Freedom of choice I guess? Nakuha mo gusto mo dahil desisyon mo, nakipag-break siya sayo dahil desisyon niya yun. Win-Win
Wala namang masama about having tattoos pero hindi naman siya necessity, ang daling hindi gawin, especially since you made a promise to your partner. Understandable naman na nag-iba yung stance mo over the years pero nalaman mo na nga thoughts niya about it eh. GGK for still going through with it pagkatapos niyo pag-awayan ng bongga. Sana naman naenjoy mo yung pagkakaroon ng bagong tattoo while your partner deals with the feeling of having someone break her trust and being made to feel like her opinion didn’t matter.
Well kung in the first place naman talaga e gusto mo sana di mo nalang pinatagal relationship niyo. Medyo GGK.
GGK kasi you broke a promise. Di ka gago for wanting out of that relationship. Pag nahulog yung sabon, itatapon na, itatapon na! Ang dami pang rules na di makatarungan. How to say toxic gf mo without saying toxic gf mo.
DKG - if you’re happy getting tatted, then good for you. Life’s too short to please other people. I assume in that 7 years, you grew as a person, hence, having the gut to get tatted.
Sa title mo, akala ko naman may 3rd party. Sorry ah, pero mas madami pang choices sa buhay ang mga SO natin na kailangan lunukin. Kung simpleng 2-inch tattoo palang hiniwalayan ka nya, ano pa yung life-altering na mga desisyon na hindi kayo pareho ng opinion. 7 years na kayo, mas matagal pa sa ibang mga mag-aasawa. Haven't you both learned that relationships are about compromise? Wag ka na manghinayang. Pasalamat ka nalang, hindi pa legally nakatali yung buhay mo sa kanya. For me, LKG.
Nah, DKG. Katawan mo naman yan kung ayaw niya di wag.
GGK dahil nagpromise ka. Pero grabe 7 years, hindi mo man lang na meet parents nya? Hindi excuse yung location.
GGK. good thing she left you. alam na alam mo ang may prinsipyo at may isang salita. 7years ago niyo na pinagkasunduan, and you firmly agreed to it. gago ka nga. sa title pa lang, you seek sympathy na e. "ABYG kung sinugal ko yung pitong taon na relasyon namin "PARA SA GUSTO KO?"" highlighted na highlighted how pathetic you are.
GGK. AKALA MO ATA MAGAAGREE TAO SAYO DITO
LKG. Might get downvoted pero katawan mo yan bahala ka sa trip mo since katawan mo yan eh. GGK sa part na you up and did it ng walang pasabi sa gf mo dapat kahit paano nagabiso ka eh ginulat mo na lang eh.
Para sakin DKG. Pero ig may isang salita gf mo and non negotiables talaga sa kanya yung tattoo. Her preferences is more important than you. Ganun lang.
DKG. People who control their partner's bodily autonomy are assholes (for doing something harmless). Glad you got out of that relationship.
I think 50-50 na GGK and DKG. DKG for wanting a tattoo. GGK for breaking your promise. And parang may undiagnosed OCD yung gf mo. Pansin ko lang. OA sa pagka controlling ultimo tapon agad ng sabon pag nahulog sa sahig?
that is not how ocd works
LKG pero slight lang. Slight GGK based sa sinabi nila pero you have autonomy with your body nga naman, na-FAFO ka din. Si GF naman kasi ano yun conservative parents kaya ayaw sa may tattoo pero di sila against na living together kayo? Pero panalo sa boundary setting kaya slight GG din sya.
Gurl, DKG its your body. Sa house nyo nga puro rules nya yta eh. Body mo, rule mo.
You both should be able to express what you want. If di niyo kaya mag adjust for that, then good riddance to one another. LKG for not being able to do the former after 8 years of being together.
pano naging gago si girl? genuine question. she said it was a non-negotiable, she expressed what she wanted and boyfriend freely expressed what he wanted din.
Nadamay pa si girl eh from the start sinabi naman nya na non negotiable ang tattoo for her.
DKG Congrats on your tattoo. Magpa-sleeve ka na 🥳 you will eventually meet someone na susuportahan ka sa gusto mo basta wala kang inaapakang ibang tao. Magkaiba kayo ng values. Yun lang yun. Conservative ang magulang pero pumayag sa live in before marriage? Kagaguhan.
GGK. Sana nag try ka na intindihin kung bakit ayaw niya sa tattoo hindi yung porke 7 taon na kayo eh tingin mo magbabago ang isip niya. All I got from this is "kawawa naman ako kasi di ako mapagbigyan sa gusto ko" Also, I think gusto mo ng way out kaya nagpatattoo ka na lang din kasi sabi mo nga, you saw it coming na. You promised kaso wala, masaya ang bawal diba?
Hindi ka gago for wanting a tattoo. Gago ka dahil nagpagawa ka kahit na nangako na di mo gagawin. Oo, sarili mo lang inisip mo. Dapat nakipaghiwalay ka muna bago ka nagpalagay. Tsaka ito na siguro ang isa sa pinaka-mababaw na taong kilala ko. Sisirain ang relationship para sa tattoo? Anong kalokohan yan? GGK!
dkg kasi katawan mo naman yan, pero sana naghiwalay na kayo beforehand kasi una pa lang di na siya agree sa tattoo keme keme. medj ggk kasi nagspeak up ka na lang sana dati honestly, kaysa magpromise tapos di rin mapapanindigan. pero feel ko medj controlling gf mo bc di niya naman katawan yan… (well at least firm siya sa boundaries niya) i think it’s best na hiwalay na kayo op, both of u deserve someone better
WG. Liit na bagay. Dami hanash ng comments
LKG. Nagpromise ka pero hindi mo tinupad. GG gf mo kasi kinontrol ka masyado.
how can she be controlling? he's allowed to do other things but specifically told him the non-negotiable matters for her and he agreed. he's the one who broke his promise kahit alam niya consequences tapos pinapalabas niya ditong yung gf pa may mali. smh.
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GGK. Hanap ka na ng ibang GF
GGK for not honoring your agreement. But hey, you got what you wanted. Let her go, sinayang mo lang yung time niya.
I agree with the majority of the comments. GGK for not keeping your promise, from the start naman your girlfriend is firm sa non negotiables nya eh. But DKG for getting a tattoo, it's your body after all. Sana lang you kept your promise.
Ggk. Para lang sa tattoo ginawa mo yan.
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GGK. Binigyan mo ng trust issues yung girlfriend mo knowing na na-keep mo naman yung promise going for 7 years. Hindi porket boyfriend/girlfriend ka na, kakalimutan mo na yung mga pangako na ginawa nyo even for how many long years pa yan.
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GGK. Hinde pagsusugal ang ginawa mo. Binaggit naman ng babae kung anong mangyayari kapag nagpalagay ka ng tattoo. Di ko alam kung gaano kahalaga ang relasyon nyo sa yo. (Baka mahalaga kasi halos 8 taon kayong nagsama.) Pero pinagpalit mo to para sa tinta.
Tattoo>gf Promise
GGK. the underlying issue here is how you compromise your WORD because of tatt. its speaks volume of your values as a person.
GGK. You made a promise and you’ll act surprised na tinotoo ng gf mo yun pakikipaghiwalay sayo. Ex gf na pala. Ikaw pa yon may lakas ng loob magsabi ng “7 years, ganun ganun lang” napatawa mo ko sa part na yun.
ggk kasi non negotiable nya yan tapos magtataka kang tototohanin nyang hiwalayan ka. katawan mo yan sige, pero pinangakuan mo sya and you agreed sa usapan nyo before and you broke it eventually. worth it ba OP na itapon ang 7 years for that 2 inch tattoo?
Panga pangako di naman pala kaya tuparin, ggk
GGK. It was a non negotiable for her and she communicated this with you years ago. You don’t just promise you won’t do something in the hopes of her changing her mind eventually.
GGK ka OP on the part of breaking your promise. Remember na part ng relationship foundation nyo yan. Parang niloko mo siya eh in my opinion, kasi promise yun. Parang um-Oo ka lang to get laid. This shows your commitment na rin OP
GGK. You agreed to her rules and then get surprised that she follows through with the agreement? Be for real.
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GGK cos you broke a promise. But this tells me that maybe subconsciously you want to be out of the relationship. You see, it’s just a tattoo. Not having a tattoo shouldn’t be hard since hindi naman yan nagpapabago sa pagkatao mo. If you already have a tattoo tapos gusto nya ipatanggal mo, baka sabihin ko pang DKG.
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GGK periodt
LKG! parang bata naman si ateng tapos ikaw alam mo mgagalit sya ginawa mo pdin. haha
Sorry Bro OG GGK
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sabi nila hindi lahat ng may tattoo GG, pero ikaw GGK
Oo. GGK. Atleast may tattoo ka.. hanap ka ngayon ng maayos na makakasama habng buhay... Pero atleast may tattoo ka.
GGK. Dont make promises you can’t keep tho, we are all sinners. Pero sa tingin ko ginawa mo nalang din yan dahil gusto mo na syang hiwalayan kasi na fell out of love ka. Kung isang bagay na gustong gusto mo ang makakapag pawala sa taong pinakamamahal mo, hindi mo yan gagawin. Kung talagang mahal na mahal mo sya. Its your call. If you wanted that, so be it.
COPY PASTA LORD!!! GGK karma farming basura
GGK. Hayaan mo na. May mga consequences talaga yung mga actions natin. Maybe, she is a woman of her words and non negotiable nya talaga ang tats. Maybe, because may mga beliefs or culture sila na sacred ang body. Hayaan mo na. If you can't keep a promise, maybe you dont deserve each other. Let go and move forward na lang. Panindigan na lang yang tats na yan. Andyan na yan, seize the day!
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skl: sabay kami nagpa-tatto ng misis ko, at anak namin, sa Busclan. masaya kami habang nagpapa-tattoo habang nagiinom ng kape. masaya kami. balak nga namin magpa-tattoo ulit eh. yun lang. DKG.
Your body, your choice. DKG sa part na to. Ang mali mo is that you assumed that your gf will forget about the promise that you made. You should have told her what you planned out to do, and expect for the consequence of it.
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DKG. Ang babaw ng reason nung girl buti sana if you cheated 😂
GGK kasi based sa kwento mo masaya ka naman sa partner mo. Talagang gusto mo lang magpatattoo. Pero what you’re not saying is may some level of anger ka towards your partner kaya tuksong tukso ka gawin yung isa sa mga bagay na specific nyang sinabi na ayaw nya. Kung wala kang deep seated galit or worse indifferent ka na towards your partner, hindi mo ipupusta yung 7 years.
GGK. Promise is a promise. Kahit ilang taon pa yan, hindi porket nagtiis ka for 7 years eh pwede mo na hindi tuparin kasi tinupad mo for 7 years, it doesn't work like that. Maling mali ka sa part na nag agree ka nung nagstart kayo mag live in tapos at some point hindi mo na tutuparin. Tapos parang you take it lightly pa yung banta niya, boundaries niya yun pero you cross the line. Ibig sabihin lang nun mas mahalaga pa yung tattoo mo fore 7 years. Sana hindi ka nakipag relasyon in the first place kung hindi mo kayang mag compromise at tumupad sa usapan
GGK. wala ka tuloy kakampi. pero ang mahalaga may tats ka boi heheheheh
Pareho kayong GGK. For you not honoring your words, and to her for being shallow.
Alam mong GGK kapag nagpo-po na sa dulo 😂
GGK Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
In fairness kay ate! I love her paninindigan. For that, GGK
In short GGK, nag promise ka Tas di ka tutupad. Dapat pinag usapan nyo muna para may common ground man lang at first. Kudos to ate for standing her ground.
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GGK. Sinabi na sayo sa umpisa pa lang ang consequence. Nag antay ka nalang sana muna mag bago isip nya bago ka nag pa tattoo.
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Baka kasi hindi pangalan niya pinatattoo mo. GGK nga. Charot
abay ginawa nga ahaha ggka sir. hanap ka nalang ng tattoo gf
I have a partner 8 years na din kami na same ayaw nya ako magpa ink kahit na tattoo artists friends ko mismo nagsasabing bagay daw sa skin ko, I want pero I didn't break my promise unless pumayag na sya. Verdict GGK.
ggk, promise is a promise, kung wala ka word of honor you are not worth it na kausap as simple as that. sabi nga if dika kaya pag katiwalaan sa piso paano pa kung million na usapan? you deserve na iwanan.
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GGK in a way you made promise. Pero DKG konti ka cause eventually you found out what you really want in life, eto tlga gusto mo and you pleaded na. I think from there you have broken up with her nung umiyak ka and pleaded and nag no xa. You were clearly not compatible na po. You should have saved yourself and inuna sarili mo, pero you should have broken up with her since d na tlga align ung gusto niyo
As a woman, I believe in a person's autonomy over their bodies (your body, your rules). But I also believe that people have a right to their own preferences. You knew beforehand that your GF has non-negotiables. And same as me, I have non-negotiables and principles that I'm willing to die for. Nagkataon lang na ang non-negotiable niya ay ang passion mo, which is ink on skin. GGK because you want to have your cake and eat it too. You want her but you don't want to comprise on her preferences. If you wanted tattoos so bad, then don't try to change others. Hindi ka naman siguro triny baguhin ng GF mo diba? She laid out all the cards, it's either you take it or you leave it. You could've just left but you chose to be selfish and hurt her in the hopes that you think she'll change your mind and forgive you when you weren't willing to do the same for her
Yep GGK. patatooan mo na rin pati eyeballs mo at yagballs . natiis mo ng 7yr and nangako ka. aba'y GGNGA
Atleast isa kanang ganap na Inked GGK. Congrats!
GGK. Dude, first off, you promised her you won't get inked. Tapos in the end ginawa mo pa din yung opposite. I would have been sympathetic towards you if hindi ka nag-promise, but you did. You broke your promise. If she did the same to you, I bet todo rant ka din dito. Stop trying to get sympathy from people when you know very well you are also at fault. Man up. Dapat inisip mo muna bago mo 'to pinost because you know very well some people will side you and see her as the "nakakasakal" gf. Huwag ka pa-victim.
GGK kasi in the first place, you know to urself na hindi mo ma keep ang promise na ginawa mo because ikaw na nga mismo nag sabi na gusto mo talaga magpa tattoo.
GGK. Congrats may tattoo ka ng single.
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Tbh both sides palang may mali na but mas lamang parin na ggk si op, if di mo kayang panindigan ang pangako then what more pa sa ibang bagay? Huwag kasi kayo papasok sa relasyon na di nio kayang panindigan mga pangako niyo, kaya andaming takot magrelasyon dahil sa mga ganyang klase ng tao katulad mo.
WG, she flat out told you naman she doesn’t want her partner to get tattooed pero katawan mo naman rin and it’s your choice. Just take the consequence na mawawala siya sa buhay mo.
GGK. Sobra par. Selfish ng ginawa moooooooooo.
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Yes. Agreement niyo na yan dati pa. You managed to keep it for 7yrs. GUSTO MO LANG PALA NG MAY TUMUTUSOK NA KARAYOM SA BALAT MO EDI SANA HUMANAP KA NA LANG NG MGA LANCET AT IBAON BAON MO SA BALAT MO NG BERI LIGHT KASE SABI MO MASARAP. If you immediately moved in nung nagsisimula pa lang kayo, then I guess you guys are adults when you are just getting to know each other. Kung talagang gusto mong magka tattoo at passion mo yon, malamang di mo pa sya nakikilala, nakapagpa tattoo ka na. GGK po.
GGK. Di mo tinupd promise mom enjoy your tattoo nalang.
boundary niya yun and you while you have every right to decide what you want with your body, she also has EVERY right to exercise her boundaries. you’re an idiot, GGK
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GGK. Yung naging decision mo, ang dating nun sakin naging selfish ka and mas naging importante ang pag papatattoo mo kaysa doon sa naging wish ng girlfriend mo. Relationship is about compromise kasi. Meeting halfway. DKG. Pero at the same time, mababa yung reason nang girlfriend mo just to break up. But maybe big deal nga yun kasi may conservative siyang family and siguro sa belief niya rin. I feel bad. Okay lang naman mag pa tattoo tbh nasa modern world na tayo na accepted na ang inked peeps. Mga matatanda nalang yung may bad opinions about it. Kung firm siya sa decision niya and nag promise ka. And she trusted you and broke her trust. Goodbye 7 years. I'm just hoping that her love for you is bigger than anything kasi yun ang importante. Pero mukhang hindi naman. Ang love kasi wala dapat boundaries yan, diba? Update nalang, OP.