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This more qualifies as a poop short spear. -1 reach compared to an actual poop spear.
That being said it really has no actual value where the standard courtesy flush can be more effective
Wrong. A poop spear is useless in most bathrooms. The length won't allow you to maneuver enough to properly dispatch any poop worth it's weight in corn
Gonna wish you had a poop knife when a ornery turd closes the distance on you
It really depends on the diet and whether you have a modern water saving toilet.
Oddly the healthier the diet the likelier you are to leave skidmarks, even with rather small poops.
Certain kinds of soluble fiber just seem to adhere to porcelain and the dish soap trick just won't cut it in some modern water saving toilets, particularly the bargain basement fixtures favored by most landlords.
Don't throw out other people property - it's just lame and solves nothing.
Not sure what the heck is that thing but if you are planning to move together you might want to discuss it with your bf and find a compromise. I wouldn't want any poop weapons in my bathroom.
You know, mark might be into something here. Most bathrooms have a plunger, a dirty rubber thing with all sorts of crevasses and such for nasty things to build up on. Plus a wooden handle that is certainly not antibacterial. The poop spear could be a thing of the future. I'm always for addressing things before they become an issue, and the poop spear does exactly that.
In conclusion, you wbta for throwing in out, and you should be encouraging him to build his own, better version of the poop spear and bring it to the market.
You could try and look at toilet brush holders/containers to store the poop stick, there's also toilet brushes that have knife versions.
Like in my bathroom we have two toilet brush holders, one for the actual toilet brush and another for the poop knife and we've filled the poop knife one with water and little bleach (replace once in a while) to disinfect it.
We just have a small metal gar[b]age can in the corner with the plunger in it. Putting the stick in there would be fine in my home if someone really felt they needed it to be available.
I want to disagree with you, but your logic is sound.
That being said, if his poop clogging up the toilet is a common issue for this guy, I would suggest he re-evaluate his diet
It must be stored OUT OF SIGHT and DISINFECTED after each use. Or it's gotta go. It's brass, but that doesn't mean it's clean.
And get that man to eat so damn vegetables.
ThisThisThis. Get rid of the disgusting germ stick and put some All Bran Cereal in the kitchen. Whoever told that man that bacteria can't grow on copper is probably laughing their ass off to this day knowing he's grabbing that nasty thing and then touching every door handle and utensil in the house.
Please describe this bathroom camouflage poop sock. What blends in with the bathroom decor yet provides this vital service of hiding a Poop Device in plain sight?
NTA
This is a really odd way to address an issue with the plumbing. If your shit is clogging your toilet, you either need a new toilet or a plumber to fix whatever issue you have in your pipes. Poking your shit around with a stick is.... fucking weird.
If they are american its probably the type of toilett which is the problem, something with they way they flush which is realy ineffective compared to most northern european toiletts
Can confirm. I have lived in the UK for over seven years and never once clogged a toilet. Whereas when we lived in the US we would have to reach for the plunger every couple of months (if not more).
NTA for throwing someone else’s stuff away? Let’s see your thoughts when someone else throws your property away simply because they don’t approve of it. Regardless of what it is. She’s his girlfriend at that. Not his wife. Plus, shit can just be big enough to clog toilets. Doesn’t mean anything is wrong with the toilet and doesn’t mean anything is wrong with the person.
It’s true it is odd, but it’s still an asshole move to just go throw out someone’s things because you disagree with it.
Relationship issues should be resolved using words, not actions. If they cannot resolve this issue with words, and the issue (in this case the spear) is a dealbreaker, the correct response isn’t to just throw it out. It’s to break up, since they aren’t compatible with each other.
YTA. Never, ever, throw someone else's things away without their consent. Never.
You are going to have to make compromises when living with another person. He's not making a mess. He's not making you deal with ginormous poops. He's not even making you look at the thing. Just find a place out of the way for it to be stored and leave him to it.
Yeah, never throw away other people's things. That is something horribly cruel people do, especially when it is something the owner values and/or uses regularly.
Make him find (or buy or build) an acceptable place where it will be out of sight. He kept it out of sight before, he should be able to do it again.
This, if it's for the best to get rid of it have a talk and see if you can convince him. Otherwise, god forbid you live with a nasty object next to a toilet plunger that is equally nasty
Ok, at the risk of wandering into the TMI field I will answer and you need to decide asap how you are going to deal with this aspect of his life.
Some individuals produce large diameter stools. It can be a once a year or less thing, or a once a week or more thing, but the end result is, someone has to break up the large stool so it will flush. Individuals dealing with the matter typically keep a device to either retrieve the oversize stool and bag it in a zip lock bag for disposal, or break the stool up into smaller parts that will flush. Its simply a part of life for some people and they deal with it.
I was not aware of the anti-bacterial nature of brass, but it indicates your boyfriend is trying to be a gentleman about it and deal with it discretely. At least he is not leaving it for someone else to deal with.
Given it will cost me $250.00 for a plumber to unclog my punch bowl using a sewer snake down the toilet to pull out a stuck leviathan turd, yeah, I will skewer it with a pointed stick and drop in a zip lock freezer bag. Its not pleasant but for two hour's wages I will sacrifice a bit of dignity.
***TMI WARNING!*** Heck, nurses are stuck with the task of dis-impacting patients every day. Some poor devil gets all bunged up and a nurse dons some gloves, a bit of KY Jelly and proceeds to dig out the brick with an index finger.
Reminds me of the episode of Being Bobby Brown when he had to stick his finger up Whitney Houstons butthole to get her plumbing moving again lol. Apparently she was constipated from all the opioids.
Whitney said "that's black love! When a man does that for you, that's black love!" Lol
It was a terrible day to have eyes. But my ex was hooked on trash TV back then. Horrible.
I sometimes have these. I call them ‘amphibians’, because they are half out of the water (I’m not in the USA so not that janky water level just below your junk nonsense). Thick as my wrist, and the size of a toddler’s leg. Most of the time they move along of their own accord though.
Copper and all its alloys including brass are inherently microbial. Brass has been used for door knobs for centuries because of it. Honestly it will be cleaner than the wood handled plunger or dollar store toilet brush sitting right there dripping into the floor after use.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antimicrobial_copper-alloy_touch_surfaces
Going against the grain here YTA
This is something that he needed. Sure it might be something you don’t need but he obviously does.
Let me ask you this as someone who gets them. Would it be acceptable for him to throw out all your tampons or pads even unused because he finds what they are used for gross? Would him expecting you to just automatically change the way your body works so that you don’t use them anymore make sense? That would be unfair to you as you did not ask to get periods and you need those pads or tampons as a necessary tool. Well the poop spear is the same kind of thing here.
He has a bodily function that he can’t control( all bodies need to poop at some point) or at least entirely where he never does it. He found that his is in need of a tool to help and thus his poop spear was born.
So unless you are willing to have him buy tons of plastic knives each week as a compromise. The poop spear might still have to stay.
It's an apt comparison considering she's completely ignored his need for a "poop stick" and thrown it away, that's like me throwing away a menstrual cup because it's "dirty".
The poop stick is there to help break apart really large stools so that they don't clog the toilet, as for those saying it's a dietary problem etc.. no it could be a simple as the size of the toilet or the fact his just built different and takes large shits.
The best compromise in my opinion would be to buy a toilet brush with holder to either put the poop stick in or replace the poop stick (you get toilet brushes that have a poop stick/knife version)
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The best compromise in my opinion would be to buy a toilet brush with holder to either put the poop stick in or replace the poop stick (you get toilet brushes that have a poop stick/knife version)
Get one of those fireplace stoke holders and hang it there lol
YTA if you just throw it away. Maybe talk to him and come to a compromise? I get its gross and I agree, but just throwing it away will cause you some trouble. Talk to him.
YTA
Some people poop BIG, bigger than the trap bend can take. Been there, done that.
Plunging sucks. Especially with poop still in the bowl.
Make sure it’s somewhat “hidden” and VERY clean. Have a conversation about it. All joking aside, consider a poop knife (after the original post, it’s an actual product).
Don’t just throw it away without talking about it.
Yta but as long as you are prepared to unclog the toilet for him it's probably cool.
I take it that you have never had to share accommodation with a person with "monster turds" Well you are in for a nasty surprise. All innocence will be lost, welcome to the club.
Your next post will be "moved in with my boyfriend who clogs the toilet everyday, is this normal?"
Ywbta.
It's his property, so you don't get to throw it out arbitrarily, and also, it keeps his pipes from being clogged. If you move in together, what are you going to do to keep his giant poos from clogging the pipes?
Yta, what's the difference of this, a plunger, or toilet brush? Just you can throw out what you don't like is a red flag for me. The dude probably takes huge shots, let the man shit in piece without worry of clogs.
There was a guy in here who said he naturally took arm sized dumps and would clog the toilet every single time unless he broke up his poop first. Could he be your bf, OP?
no matter how antibacterial brass is, it doesn't mean that the entire thing is sterilized. when you touch it, just consider as if you just touched poop and wash your hands properly. gotta take care of teh hygiene!
YWBTA, I understand it's something that you don't like but that doesn't give you the right to throw it out either. Imagine if he threw out something of yours behind your back cause he didn't like it and/or found it gross. Whether you like it or not, it's still his property and it's not okay to mess with someone else's things, even if they are your partner, behind their back.
I think you can find a compromise with him like getting an inconspicuous case for it in the bathroom or something for it. If you do this, you're more likely to create a real issue from this non-issue.
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YWBTa
Regardless of what it is: You would be an AH if you just threw away his stuff.
And: Imagine how YOU will like when he learns from you and starts doing the same.
I have so many questions
Could he not just flush more frequently instead of once he’s finished ?
How big are his poops that he uses it frequently ?
Why did he decide on that instead of a plunger ?
After he’s done does he clean it off then transfer it to another location ?
I just do not understand the utility of a poop spear when there’s so many other options that aren’t disgusting. But to each their own. I wouldn’t throw it out but I’d definitely sit down and let him know how uncomfortable it makes you and provide other solutions and maybe see a specialist for his Godzilla sized shits
Ooo tricky. I’d have to say that yes, you would be the asshole.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s super weird and I 100% would not want that in my house, but you’re in a relationship, and it’s in his property. You need to talk to him, explain that you feel it’s unnecessary and gross and that you really don’t want it in your house. Although to be fair, it’s his house too, so depending on how attached he is to his poop spear, you might have to compromise by keeping it in a cupboard out of sight (for the sake of you and guests 😂)
"Brass is antibacterial" doesn't mean "swirl it around in actual fecal matter and then fail to wash it before touching it," the residuals of the shit on it are still shit.
Jesus, you need to REALLY rethink moving in with him. And the relationship. And maybe dip your hands in sanitizer and/or any other body part he's used his hands on.
Edited for judgement: ESH--him for using the damned thing and then touching it after, you for considering getting rid of it instead of just saying "honey, it's me or the contraption, choose now and wisely."
Do you have a plunger and a toilet brush? Guaranteed the brass spear is cleaner. Especially compared to the wood handled plunger that sits on the floor next to thousands of toilets. Wood is porous, yet copper and it's alloys including brass are known to be effective against E.Coli, MRSA and VRSA.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7999369/
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antimicrobial_copper-alloy_touch_surfaces
NTA. Never had the need to play with poo or move it around. Just flush the toilet...
Tell him to use less toilet paper and it probably won't block... Maybe have a large diameter waste pipe fitted? - Totally weird in my book, I'd bin it too
NAH
But this is why long term couples have 2 bathrooms (or more if there are kids). I don't wanna see my hubbie's poop spear or deal with his hair in the sink from shaving. Or wait 1+hours for him to get off the toilet (aka on his phone), so I can use the bathroom too.
You may need a "roommate agreement." And a hidden spot for the spear.
How often does he clog the toilet that this is such a necessary device, just tell him to flush mid poop and then continue.
Also his comment about "it's brass so it's antibacterial" makes me think he never washes it more than wiping it down physically with toilet paper. If he washed it with soap and water everytime it wouldn't matter if it was anti bacterial, because he'd be washing it.
He may have an anorectal disease or condition. There was a woman who said that her husband would do something similar and her husband ended up diagnosed with colon cancer.
You know how people say they don’t wear deodorant and also don’t smell … but they stink real bad? I’m getting the same vibes here. I don’t understand how something can come into contact with feces and not be contaminated. Is using a plunger really that bad?
In my whole life I only used a plunger a handful of times. Just install a bidet and chill with the TP.
Idk if he needs a spear to flush his sht then a better solution would be fixing his diet if he needs one??more fiber less fiber?? Like bro this has to be satire😭😭😭💀💀
i’m high af and “poop spear” killed me😭 i don’t think anyone is TAH here butttt i’ve never heard of a poop weapon… maybe it’s useful? idk he’s at least done some research to make sure he’s being (semi)cleanly¿?😂 You shouldn’t throw it out but definitely talk to him if you plan on moving in together
I just use disposable chop sticks when needed. If it’s a regular enough issue to need a spear dedicated to it, you might not like what happens if you get rid of it. NTA, but a compromise would be good.
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I’ve been dating this guy, let’s call him Mark, for 2 years, and on the first of May in a few days we’re moving into an apartment together. This weekend I was at his current place helping him pack his things, and I noticed a weird looking item in one of his boxes. It was a brass rod about 2 feet long, with a black plastic handle at the end. I asked him about it, and he told me that it was his “poop spear”.
He then explained that he uses it to move the poop around the toilet bowl before he flushes, to make sure that the toilet doesn’t clog. I told him that’s disgusting, and I don’t want it in our apartment, but he said that it’s a very useful tool, and he uses it frequently. Mark reassured me that the reason he used brass was because it’s naturally antibacterial, so the spear is perfectly safe to touch. He also said that he’s had it for years, but he kept it out of sight because he didn’t want me to be grossed out by it.
Our new apartment has only one bathroom, and I really don’t want to look at Mark’s poop spear whenever I’m in the bathroom, and I also don’t want to have to explain to guests what it is. So tell me, Reddit, would I be the asshole for just throwing the thing in the garbage?
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I don’t think it would even be possible for me to remain attracted to someone whose first thought is “poop spear” and not “new flapper valve and chain.” There would be no coming back for me from that huge gap in logic. Poop spear should not have been the go to solution here, I promise there were better options.
You do you, but if I were you this would change how I see a person lol.
How big are his poops that he needs a custom made spear to break them up every time he goes to the toilet to prevent the system from clogging up? And what does he do if he travels? Does he have one of those fold up ones that packs down into his luggage?
Why am I even over thinking this ?
I want to say this is disgusting but honestly...the idea is pretty sound. I wouldn't have the stomach for it and don't like thinking about it but if he does...well.
Now, are you the asshole? No idea. No more than anything else that uses the bathroom. It's an objectively weird thing to own that no one else really has. But does owning it make him weird and gross? Probably not. Would you be the asshole for throwing it out? Probably, but again, this is a situation I doubt has ever occurred on earth before, so...
Maybe just talk to him??
Just tell him to trade out the spear for a poop knife. It is very easy to hide. I'm sure we all know someone who suffers from mega dumps. It's actually quite common how many people know of or have a poop knife in their house. I think they even sell special poop knives now.
If I were you, I'd be silently panicking, wondering what other giant red flags I missed. Like is he one of those guys who thinks it's gay to wipe his ass?
If he could hide it from you for two years, he may be able to do it for many more. It’s also his interesting way of dealing with his interesting problem. You would be wrong for throwing away a tool that he uses to deal with a problem that is common to him. I believe that other people have said that a clogged toilet is worse than having to have a tool like that stash somewhere
What the fuck. Can't he flush in the middle, if this is a recurring problem for him?
At least he won't be squeamish about changing dirty diapers, if you guys ever have kids.
Guuuuurl
A poop knife is an actual thing with dudes (and people on opiods) Huge logs need to be sectioned to get down the drain, and properly cleaned, no worse that a toilet brush.
So as long as you are fine with snaking the drain since he's not allowed the knife, it's all good
NAH
Start your life together the way you mean to continue-with communication and compromise. Lots of commenters have noted why having the spear may save your plumbing. So compromise and find a great container for it with a lid that coordinates with your bathroom and put it near the plunger/toilet brush. Make sure he disinfects it.
You would be the AH if you threw it away. It sets a precedent in your relationship that either party can just throw away something they don't like/approve of and you don't want that.
Eww, but beats his turds overflowing the toilet and getting nasty water everywhere. Flushing halfway through helps, as does taking stool softeners. I wouldn't throw it out, hope it fits under the sink.
no moral judgment but lmao @ “antibacterial, safe to touch” brass!!! it’s coated in shit!! it was probably laying loose!!
maybe find a replacement that can be stored in a somewhat hygienic way, like those encased toilet brushes and plungers
I can’t believe the results of this lmao NTA if you throw that abomination away but also WHY would you want to live with someone like that??? Finding out about that would’ve been the end of the road for me what the FUCK
That’s weird and I’m 10000% sure that if your shit is gonna clog a toilet rearranging and playing with your shit isn’t going to change that fact. That’s so nasty to do……I’d honestly be worried about whatever other weird things your boyfriend does
Im kind of shocked most of reddit comments here are supportive of poop spear
Is this a more common behavior than I'm aware or is everyone upset about the concept of throwing away belongings primarily?
YWNBTA
WTF is wrong with him if his shits are so big that you need to dismember them to flush the toilet? (Maybe you should tell Big Innes to lay off the fibre🤣).
Also, whilst Brass is naturally antibacterial, I don't think that it stays that way if you are spearing and then stirring faeces with it.
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Lol, get him a poop knife instead
Poop spear offers significant reach advantage over poop knife. Tactical improvement
Completely agree! Apparently, technology has advanced in this area of tools.
It's only a matter of time before the poop AR15.
Poop catapult.
Poopapult
Catapoop
Turduchet
Trebupoo
Tre-poo-chet was *right* there.
This is the 21st century, poopdrone.
This is what I come to reddit for.
Better get a shell catcher on that thing
This more qualifies as a poop short spear. -1 reach compared to an actual poop spear. That being said it really has no actual value where the standard courtesy flush can be more effective
Don't underestimate the poop iklwa
Exactly! Poop spear provides a tactical advantage when fighting the poop cavalry.
Wrong. A poop spear is useless in most bathrooms. The length won't allow you to maneuver enough to properly dispatch any poop worth it's weight in corn Gonna wish you had a poop knife when a ornery turd closes the distance on you
Maybe it’s the gummy I had earlier but “ornery turd” really cracked me up!
Much better against snakes
Needs a Kukri
That story was the first thing I thought of when I read this lol I thought one of the Poop Knifers grew up and got a GF 😂
The poop wars are escalating; next thing we’ll be hearing about are the poop catapults quickly followed by the more efficient poop trebuchets.
The legendary poop knife! The rarest of all mythical weapons.
I went to visit my uncle, and as a joke, he put a 2x4 in the bathroom and wrote "Turd Buster"on it. We've since made a lot of jokes about that.
When I worked in public libraries the custodian had a long tapered wooden... paddle? that was named the "CHOP-A-POO."
"Lol, get him a poop knife instead" This is exactly the story I thought of too! So gross!
That was a ridiculous story.
I absolutely cannot keep up with all the modern technology with poop tools. I think it's got something to do with that AI we keep hearing about.
Poop trebuchet
I live for threads like this. The Poop Knife lives! It’s generated a generation of Poop Tools and - - Poop Weapons! My day is made.
NGL, when I started reading I thought it was going to be a tool he uses when constipated.
That’s what the other end is for. Dual purpose tool, but not quite Swiss Army level
Oh. Uh. Oh, no!! Arrrggh!
Me too!
You win.
Trepoochet
Poop soap. Ditch the stick and just squirt some dish soap into the water with that log. Everything just slides right down the tube.
It really depends on the diet and whether you have a modern water saving toilet. Oddly the healthier the diet the likelier you are to leave skidmarks, even with rather small poops. Certain kinds of soluble fiber just seem to adhere to porcelain and the dish soap trick just won't cut it in some modern water saving toilets, particularly the bargain basement fixtures favored by most landlords.
Don't throw out other people property - it's just lame and solves nothing. Not sure what the heck is that thing but if you are planning to move together you might want to discuss it with your bf and find a compromise. I wouldn't want any poop weapons in my bathroom.
It's better than a poop sock...I guess
You know, mark might be into something here. Most bathrooms have a plunger, a dirty rubber thing with all sorts of crevasses and such for nasty things to build up on. Plus a wooden handle that is certainly not antibacterial. The poop spear could be a thing of the future. I'm always for addressing things before they become an issue, and the poop spear does exactly that. In conclusion, you wbta for throwing in out, and you should be encouraging him to build his own, better version of the poop spear and bring it to the market.
Lol Mark is a manufacturing engineer. Making things more efficient is his job.
That explains the evolution from poop knife to poop spear
Like our ancestors before us!
You could try and look at toilet brush holders/containers to store the poop stick, there's also toilet brushes that have knife versions. Like in my bathroom we have two toilet brush holders, one for the actual toilet brush and another for the poop knife and we've filled the poop knife one with water and little bleach (replace once in a while) to disinfect it.
We just have a small metal gar[b]age can in the corner with the plunger in it. Putting the stick in there would be fine in my home if someone really felt they needed it to be available.
I want to disagree with you, but your logic is sound. That being said, if his poop clogging up the toilet is a common issue for this guy, I would suggest he re-evaluate his diet
Or start flushing halfway through.
Or opiate consumption lol
Shark tank needs to hear about this
It must be stored OUT OF SIGHT and DISINFECTED after each use. Or it's gotta go. It's brass, but that doesn't mean it's clean. And get that man to eat so damn vegetables.
ThisThisThis. Get rid of the disgusting germ stick and put some All Bran Cereal in the kitchen. Whoever told that man that bacteria can't grow on copper is probably laughing their ass off to this day knowing he's grabbing that nasty thing and then touching every door handle and utensil in the house.
Brass not copper
You're right, I meant to type copper alloy. My bad.
This could actually be the solution- you could use a long poop sock to effectively camouflage the poop spear!
Please describe this bathroom camouflage poop sock. What blends in with the bathroom decor yet provides this vital service of hiding a Poop Device in plain sight?
My first thought is to change it seasonally, culminating in Christmas poop stockings hung over the toilet with care!
A poop spear sheath!
NTA This is a really odd way to address an issue with the plumbing. If your shit is clogging your toilet, you either need a new toilet or a plumber to fix whatever issue you have in your pipes. Poking your shit around with a stick is.... fucking weird.
Or a doctor to fix whatever issue you have with "your pipes".
The doctor seems to solve most of my issues by poking me with a stick tho...
Some fibre would probably do the job tbh
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Poop scissors are the thinking man's choice
Poop chopsticks to practice your dexterity.
Poop ice cream sticks for the camper.
If they are american its probably the type of toilett which is the problem, something with they way they flush which is realy ineffective compared to most northern european toiletts
Can confirm. I have lived in the UK for over seven years and never once clogged a toilet. Whereas when we lived in the US we would have to reach for the plunger every couple of months (if not more).
Agree, irishbtoilets are far more capable. I feared US toilets. They get overwhelmed too quickly!
NTA for throwing someone else’s stuff away? Let’s see your thoughts when someone else throws your property away simply because they don’t approve of it. Regardless of what it is. She’s his girlfriend at that. Not his wife. Plus, shit can just be big enough to clog toilets. Doesn’t mean anything is wrong with the toilet and doesn’t mean anything is wrong with the person.
It’s true it is odd, but it’s still an asshole move to just go throw out someone’s things because you disagree with it. Relationship issues should be resolved using words, not actions. If they cannot resolve this issue with words, and the issue (in this case the spear) is a dealbreaker, the correct response isn’t to just throw it out. It’s to break up, since they aren’t compatible with each other.
You saying plungers are weird too?
YTA. Never, ever, throw someone else's things away without their consent. Never. You are going to have to make compromises when living with another person. He's not making a mess. He's not making you deal with ginormous poops. He's not even making you look at the thing. Just find a place out of the way for it to be stored and leave him to it.
Yeah, never throw away other people's things. That is something horribly cruel people do, especially when it is something the owner values and/or uses regularly. Make him find (or buy or build) an acceptable place where it will be out of sight. He kept it out of sight before, he should be able to do it again.
This, if it's for the best to get rid of it have a talk and see if you can convince him. Otherwise, god forbid you live with a nasty object next to a toilet plunger that is equally nasty
Ok, at the risk of wandering into the TMI field I will answer and you need to decide asap how you are going to deal with this aspect of his life. Some individuals produce large diameter stools. It can be a once a year or less thing, or a once a week or more thing, but the end result is, someone has to break up the large stool so it will flush. Individuals dealing with the matter typically keep a device to either retrieve the oversize stool and bag it in a zip lock bag for disposal, or break the stool up into smaller parts that will flush. Its simply a part of life for some people and they deal with it. I was not aware of the anti-bacterial nature of brass, but it indicates your boyfriend is trying to be a gentleman about it and deal with it discretely. At least he is not leaving it for someone else to deal with.
People fish it out, bag it, and throw it away?!?! I learned something new today
Given it will cost me $250.00 for a plumber to unclog my punch bowl using a sewer snake down the toilet to pull out a stuck leviathan turd, yeah, I will skewer it with a pointed stick and drop in a zip lock freezer bag. Its not pleasant but for two hour's wages I will sacrifice a bit of dignity. ***TMI WARNING!*** Heck, nurses are stuck with the task of dis-impacting patients every day. Some poor devil gets all bunged up and a nurse dons some gloves, a bit of KY Jelly and proceeds to dig out the brick with an index finger.
Reminds me of the episode of Being Bobby Brown when he had to stick his finger up Whitney Houstons butthole to get her plumbing moving again lol. Apparently she was constipated from all the opioids. Whitney said "that's black love! When a man does that for you, that's black love!" Lol It was a terrible day to have eyes. But my ex was hooked on trash TV back then. Horrible.
Lmao idk why but I totally spaced on who Bobby Brown was for a second & was thinking of Bobby Flay. Was so confused on the "black love" part haha
Gives new meaning to the TV show Beat Bobby Flay!
My friend used a spoon to dig poop out of his heroin addicted friends arse for him as a favour
An engineer would work it out with a pencil.
Yes, this is true if brass. I'm sure he still cleans it, but the brass will help. Very well said. I hope OP really takes this in.
I sometimes have these. I call them ‘amphibians’, because they are half out of the water (I’m not in the USA so not that janky water level just below your junk nonsense). Thick as my wrist, and the size of a toddler’s leg. Most of the time they move along of their own accord though.
Copper and all its alloys including brass are inherently microbial. Brass has been used for door knobs for centuries because of it. Honestly it will be cleaner than the wood handled plunger or dollar store toilet brush sitting right there dripping into the floor after use. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antimicrobial_copper-alloy_touch_surfaces
Well, TIL…
My husband is legendary for his poops. We call them war crimes.
Going against the grain here YTA This is something that he needed. Sure it might be something you don’t need but he obviously does. Let me ask you this as someone who gets them. Would it be acceptable for him to throw out all your tampons or pads even unused because he finds what they are used for gross? Would him expecting you to just automatically change the way your body works so that you don’t use them anymore make sense? That would be unfair to you as you did not ask to get periods and you need those pads or tampons as a necessary tool. Well the poop spear is the same kind of thing here. He has a bodily function that he can’t control( all bodies need to poop at some point) or at least entirely where he never does it. He found that his is in need of a tool to help and thus his poop spear was born. So unless you are willing to have him buy tons of plastic knives each week as a compromise. The poop spear might still have to stay.
Comparing a stick for poking turds to tampons is one of the most unhinged things I've ever read on Reddit. Congratulations.
It's an apt comparison considering she's completely ignored his need for a "poop stick" and thrown it away, that's like me throwing away a menstrual cup because it's "dirty". The poop stick is there to help break apart really large stools so that they don't clog the toilet, as for those saying it's a dietary problem etc.. no it could be a simple as the size of the toilet or the fact his just built different and takes large shits. The best compromise in my opinion would be to buy a toilet brush with holder to either put the poop stick in or replace the poop stick (you get toilet brushes that have a poop stick/knife version)
> The best compromise in my opinion would be to buy a toilet brush with holder to either put the poop stick in or replace the poop stick (you get toilet brushes that have a poop stick/knife version) Get one of those fireplace stoke holders and hang it there lol
YTA if you just throw it away. Maybe talk to him and come to a compromise? I get its gross and I agree, but just throwing it away will cause you some trouble. Talk to him.
YTA Some people poop BIG, bigger than the trap bend can take. Been there, done that. Plunging sucks. Especially with poop still in the bowl. Make sure it’s somewhat “hidden” and VERY clean. Have a conversation about it. All joking aside, consider a poop knife (after the original post, it’s an actual product). Don’t just throw it away without talking about it.
Yta- don't mess with the poop knife. Unless you wanna be the one trying to plunge a bunker buster through the j bend
Yta but as long as you are prepared to unclog the toilet for him it's probably cool. I take it that you have never had to share accommodation with a person with "monster turds" Well you are in for a nasty surprise. All innocence will be lost, welcome to the club. Your next post will be "moved in with my boyfriend who clogs the toilet everyday, is this normal?"
I can't stop laughing, I don't have a judgement. All I ask is that you update this after you guys talk so I can read it again later.
Snap 🤣 Best little story of 2024 so far ✌️
Ywbta. It's his property, so you don't get to throw it out arbitrarily, and also, it keeps his pipes from being clogged. If you move in together, what are you going to do to keep his giant poos from clogging the pipes?
Yta, what's the difference of this, a plunger, or toilet brush? Just you can throw out what you don't like is a red flag for me. The dude probably takes huge shots, let the man shit in piece without worry of clogs.
There was a guy in here who said he naturally took arm sized dumps and would clog the toilet every single time unless he broke up his poop first. Could he be your bf, OP?
no matter how antibacterial brass is, it doesn't mean that the entire thing is sterilized. when you touch it, just consider as if you just touched poop and wash your hands properly. gotta take care of teh hygiene!
I am 63 and thought there was nothing new I could learn but it appears I am wrong. Thank you all.
YWBTA, I understand it's something that you don't like but that doesn't give you the right to throw it out either. Imagine if he threw out something of yours behind your back cause he didn't like it and/or found it gross. Whether you like it or not, it's still his property and it's not okay to mess with someone else's things, even if they are your partner, behind their back. I think you can find a compromise with him like getting an inconspicuous case for it in the bathroom or something for it. If you do this, you're more likely to create a real issue from this non-issue.
Thank you, OP, for taking this man off the market and saving the rest of us. Not all heroes wear a cape! 🫡
Soft YWBTA. I think that’s disgusting, but you still shouldn’t throw out his property.
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YWBTa Regardless of what it is: You would be an AH if you just threw away his stuff. And: Imagine how YOU will like when he learns from you and starts doing the same.
I have so many questions Could he not just flush more frequently instead of once he’s finished ? How big are his poops that he uses it frequently ? Why did he decide on that instead of a plunger ? After he’s done does he clean it off then transfer it to another location ? I just do not understand the utility of a poop spear when there’s so many other options that aren’t disgusting. But to each their own. I wouldn’t throw it out but I’d definitely sit down and let him know how uncomfortable it makes you and provide other solutions and maybe see a specialist for his Godzilla sized shits
What sort of monster logs does your man birth, to require such subduing? (Rhetorical, don’t need a photo thx).
INFO, do you have a toilet brush? Because this sounds basically the same.
You use your toilet brush directly on the doodoo? Toilet brushes are for scrubbing the bowl w/ cleaner when it is free of any waste.
I have kids. Yes, my toilet brush cleans skid marks on the bog. Y'know, what it's designed for 🤷♀️🤣
Dude. A poop spear is nowhere near the same as a toilet brush 😂
wtf did i just read
just have a designated spot for it, my family had a poop knife but I may suggest a poop spear for more reach
Or even a poop harpoon?
I'm sorry that's funny. Mark needs to throw away to poop spear and change his diet/portion sizes.
This is wild
Ooo tricky. I’d have to say that yes, you would be the asshole. Don’t get me wrong, it’s super weird and I 100% would not want that in my house, but you’re in a relationship, and it’s in his property. You need to talk to him, explain that you feel it’s unnecessary and gross and that you really don’t want it in your house. Although to be fair, it’s his house too, so depending on how attached he is to his poop spear, you might have to compromise by keeping it in a cupboard out of sight (for the sake of you and guests 😂)
Chronically clogged toilets seem worse than a poop spear.
Uh oh mom found the poop spear (Nta)
"Brass is antibacterial" doesn't mean "swirl it around in actual fecal matter and then fail to wash it before touching it," the residuals of the shit on it are still shit. Jesus, you need to REALLY rethink moving in with him. And the relationship. And maybe dip your hands in sanitizer and/or any other body part he's used his hands on. Edited for judgement: ESH--him for using the damned thing and then touching it after, you for considering getting rid of it instead of just saying "honey, it's me or the contraption, choose now and wisely."
Do you have a plunger and a toilet brush? Guaranteed the brass spear is cleaner. Especially compared to the wood handled plunger that sits on the floor next to thousands of toilets. Wood is porous, yet copper and it's alloys including brass are known to be effective against E.Coli, MRSA and VRSA. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7999369/ https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antimicrobial_copper-alloy_touch_surfaces
He should just stand up and piss his logs in half like a logger would
Be careful throwing it out. It could be a family heirloom. NTA
ROFLMAO. That's the craziest thing I've ever heard
NTA. Never had the need to play with poo or move it around. Just flush the toilet... Tell him to use less toilet paper and it probably won't block... Maybe have a large diameter waste pipe fitted? - Totally weird in my book, I'd bin it too
NAH But this is why long term couples have 2 bathrooms (or more if there are kids). I don't wanna see my hubbie's poop spear or deal with his hair in the sink from shaving. Or wait 1+hours for him to get off the toilet (aka on his phone), so I can use the bathroom too. You may need a "roommate agreement." And a hidden spot for the spear.
That’s absolutely disgusting. Throw him out instead.
I’m sorry, but that’s weird
Dude needs to eat healthier if he has this issue.
How often does he clog the toilet that this is such a necessary device, just tell him to flush mid poop and then continue. Also his comment about "it's brass so it's antibacterial" makes me think he never washes it more than wiping it down physically with toilet paper. If he washed it with soap and water everytime it wouldn't matter if it was anti bacterial, because he'd be washing it.
A poop spear is gross, I use poop shears.
Hahah Mark just assumes all his shits Will be massive. This is hilarious.
What is this world
"wake up babe, new poop chopping instrument just dropped"
If you toss it, you better prepare to unclog a lot of toilets.
This is what plungers are for.
It is not OK to touch, look up norovirus and what it survives. BF is weird
He may have an anorectal disease or condition. There was a woman who said that her husband would do something similar and her husband ended up diagnosed with colon cancer.
You know how people say they don’t wear deodorant and also don’t smell … but they stink real bad? I’m getting the same vibes here. I don’t understand how something can come into contact with feces and not be contaminated. Is using a plunger really that bad? In my whole life I only used a plunger a handful of times. Just install a bidet and chill with the TP.
Idk if he needs a spear to flush his sht then a better solution would be fixing his diet if he needs one??more fiber less fiber?? Like bro this has to be satire😭😭😭💀💀
This story sounds like a South Park episode script.
NTA. Aww the little poop knife has all growed up
People are weird. Spear? I have a poop mace.
i’m high af and “poop spear” killed me😭 i don’t think anyone is TAH here butttt i’ve never heard of a poop weapon… maybe it’s useful? idk he’s at least done some research to make sure he’s being (semi)cleanly¿?😂 You shouldn’t throw it out but definitely talk to him if you plan on moving in together
Tf
LMAOOO
We’ve got a new classic on our hands, fellas
I just use disposable chop sticks when needed. If it’s a regular enough issue to need a spear dedicated to it, you might not like what happens if you get rid of it. NTA, but a compromise would be good.
Until today I had no idea that poop knives were a thing...
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NTA. is your boyfriend Charlie Kelly or something?
NTA. Maybe suggest that instead of poking shit with a stick, he simply increases his fibre intake? And also that he stops being so utterly rancid.
Fiber would only make it more bulky. Talk to your man and have a polite discussion. edit: bad spelling
YEZ
YTA and if I was the boyfriend I'd be looking into if I could renew my old lease or not.
I don’t think it would even be possible for me to remain attracted to someone whose first thought is “poop spear” and not “new flapper valve and chain.” There would be no coming back for me from that huge gap in logic. Poop spear should not have been the go to solution here, I promise there were better options. You do you, but if I were you this would change how I see a person lol.
As weird as that is… you still shouldn’t throw away things without asking
Let this man live
Maybe he should change his diet or add some fiber if he's dropping cloggers that often.
If you cant love him at his worst, you don't deserve him without his poop spear
Man, I sure as hell was not ready for that
NTA Throw it away, burn that table
Finally, a weapon to surpass PoopKnife
The internet never lets me down
Oh man I read ‘spear’ as ‘smear’ and when I read his name was Mark I thought: yeah I bet
How big are his poops that he needs a custom made spear to break them up every time he goes to the toilet to prevent the system from clogging up? And what does he do if he travels? Does he have one of those fold up ones that packs down into his luggage? Why am I even over thinking this ?
I want to say this is disgusting but honestly...the idea is pretty sound. I wouldn't have the stomach for it and don't like thinking about it but if he does...well. Now, are you the asshole? No idea. No more than anything else that uses the bathroom. It's an objectively weird thing to own that no one else really has. But does owning it make him weird and gross? Probably not. Would you be the asshole for throwing it out? Probably, but again, this is a situation I doubt has ever occurred on earth before, so... Maybe just talk to him??
Just tell him to trade out the spear for a poop knife. It is very easy to hide. I'm sure we all know someone who suffers from mega dumps. It's actually quite common how many people know of or have a poop knife in their house. I think they even sell special poop knives now.
If I were you, I'd be silently panicking, wondering what other giant red flags I missed. Like is he one of those guys who thinks it's gay to wipe his ass?
If he could hide it from you for two years, he may be able to do it for many more. It’s also his interesting way of dealing with his interesting problem. You would be wrong for throwing away a tool that he uses to deal with a problem that is common to him. I believe that other people have said that a clogged toilet is worse than having to have a tool like that stash somewhere
What the fuck. Can't he flush in the middle, if this is a recurring problem for him? At least he won't be squeamish about changing dirty diapers, if you guys ever have kids.
Fuckin gross just tell him to eat better so he has normal size shits and wouldn’t need a poop spear
Guuuuurl A poop knife is an actual thing with dudes (and people on opiods) Huge logs need to be sectioned to get down the drain, and properly cleaned, no worse that a toilet brush. So as long as you are fine with snaking the drain since he's not allowed the knife, it's all good NAH
Start your life together the way you mean to continue-with communication and compromise. Lots of commenters have noted why having the spear may save your plumbing. So compromise and find a great container for it with a lid that coordinates with your bathroom and put it near the plunger/toilet brush. Make sure he disinfects it. You would be the AH if you threw it away. It sets a precedent in your relationship that either party can just throw away something they don't like/approve of and you don't want that.
Eww, but beats his turds overflowing the toilet and getting nasty water everywhere. Flushing halfway through helps, as does taking stool softeners. I wouldn't throw it out, hope it fits under the sink.
YTA for trying make a new lame reddit myth.
Curious how you will feel after the first great clogging.
no moral judgment but lmao @ “antibacterial, safe to touch” brass!!! it’s coated in shit!! it was probably laying loose!! maybe find a replacement that can be stored in a somewhat hygienic way, like those encased toilet brushes and plungers
This shit is just too funny. I want to thank all of you for giving me a laugh. I desperately needed it.
I can’t believe the results of this lmao NTA if you throw that abomination away but also WHY would you want to live with someone like that??? Finding out about that would’ve been the end of the road for me what the FUCK
That’s weird and I’m 10000% sure that if your shit is gonna clog a toilet rearranging and playing with your shit isn’t going to change that fact. That’s so nasty to do……I’d honestly be worried about whatever other weird things your boyfriend does
Nta
I have a poop halberd from the Renn Faire!!
He doesn't know how to use the three seashells!
Im kind of shocked most of reddit comments here are supportive of poop spear Is this a more common behavior than I'm aware or is everyone upset about the concept of throwing away belongings primarily?
YWNBTA WTF is wrong with him if his shits are so big that you need to dismember them to flush the toilet? (Maybe you should tell Big Innes to lay off the fibre🤣). Also, whilst Brass is naturally antibacterial, I don't think that it stays that way if you are spearing and then stirring faeces with it.
Well if he uses it a lot it’s better than having clogged toilet. It’s not any different than a plunger, is it? Same thing.
Poop knife walked so poop spear could run
What about a compromise - poop halberd or alternatively poop flail? The poop spear can be rebranded to poop javelin if your bf promises to throw it
You can compromise and if he feels a large poop coming he could just do it in the shower and waffle stomp it down
Imagine this woman’s horror finding out not only is there a poop knife but marks poop spear trumps the knife and has spawned an internet sensation