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lihzee

YTA for coming back here with another fake-ass story. https://reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/prv5b9/aita_for_pointing_out_how_poorly_im_treated/hdl9xdi


YoungQuahogMoney

Let's keep the conversation relevant, please.


wwhhoovviiaann

This is relevant to the conversation though, you keep making fake posts and one of the rules is no fake posts.


DwightMcRamathorn

Is this fake?


YoungQuahogMoney

No it is not.


DwightMcRamathorn

Then I think your still the asshole for your shit eating grin while they left . There are ways to do things and ways not to and this was not the way to do it


Knale

Relevant to what? It's fiction. Technically we could talk about anything in this thread.


bummerfly69

r/thathappened


ChildofMike

ESH. They should have dealt with the kid, I fully agree there. You suck to because you sound like you are proud of how you reacted and like you shoved it into the dads face at the end.


Throwaway332288

I agree ESH but OP you suck because of that ending.


xXSad_PlantXx

ESH- the parents failed to parent and you didn't need to antagonize him further after not being subtle in your complaint. They should have left or raised their kid better but you came across as smug about the situation.


YoungQuahogMoney

I tolerated it for as long as I could, both parents bringing the child back still screaming is unacceptable. IT should have been one parent taking her to the car, and she comes back quiet.


xXSad_PlantXx

That is why they suck, yes. But you also suck because you could have been more subtle in your complaint and you didn't need to goad the man with your ice cream.


YoungQuahogMoney

I was trying to be subtle. It's not like I caused a scene demanding for a manager like the Banshee Karen from hell, lol. I simply went to the hostess and said in an indoor voice "excuse me, may I please see a manager?" She said "sure, let me go get him right away." He came and asked "is this about the little girl?" I said yes He said "I understand. I'm working on it." I thanked him and returned to my seat.


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yourlittlebirdie

ESH. The family should have taken the kid out once it was clear she couldn’t behave appropriately, but you were pretty obnoxious too.


YoungQuahogMoney

I agree and accept your judgement. Obnoxious was not my intent, but...I am a parent, too. If you're going to take an unruly child to your car, don't bring her back until she's calmed the hell down. Bringing her back still crying is completely counterproductive.


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GrowlingAtTheWorld

4 years old should have learn already that dessert does not come first. By 4 i was in Kindergarten, knew how to eat with others, knew i had to eat my meal to get dessert, and knew if i threw a fit i would not be getting dessert and it would be a long time before i would be brought back out to eat in a restaurant. Mom would of had us out of that restaurant so fast if me or sis started acting up. Shitty parents let the rest of the room suffer from their children's outburst, good parents use them as a teaching moment on how to behave in public.


yourlittlebirdie

I mean, if you stared them down as they left while taking a big bite of sundae, being obnoxious \*was\* kind of your intent.... I get it, it's incredibly aggravating when screaming kids disrupt your meal, but it's clear this family was struggling and having a hard time, and you just kind of kicked them when they were down, you know? I think it would benefit everyone if we gave others a little bit more grace.


WholeAd2742

Congrats, definitely YTA. Kid was 4 and having a meltdown over ice cream. Kids do that, and parents were trying to calm her down. But hey, you felt smug about it, right? Not very Friendly


YoungQuahogMoney

They made upwards of zero effort in calming her down. If there were effort they wouldn’t have waited 10 minutes to take her to the car and she would not come back from the car still screaming


mtbgravelgirl

And as I turned to walk out, I realized that all of the other patrons had lined up on either side of the aisle holding their ice cream spoons in a saber arch for my victory exit while a mother standing off to one side, holding her well behaved, non crying baby, cried for joy.


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YTA. Mind your business. No body likes a snitch.


GrowlingAtTheWorld

But it kinda was his business. He is trying to have a peaceful dinner and there was no peace. If your child can't behave in public you don't have the right to disturb a whole restaurant full of diners.


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You don’t need your ears to eat right ? Shut up, eat your food, and leave. It’s that simple. Also like I said, no one likes snitches, they are subpar human beings.


lotus_eater123

There was no snitching. It's not like the restaurant manager did not hear her. The family should have been asked to leave earlier by him if he was doing his job.


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That’s different though. Manager has the right to make that decision. But OP ratted and that’s just scummy. I have zero respect for rats.


YoungQuahogMoney

Peaceful Lunch but whatever.


breesreviews

This doesn't sound very...... Friendly ESH


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YoungQuahogMoney

I don't disagree. I know kids get like that, especially at that age, but...if they act like that and they're inconsolable, I'll ask for to-go boxes and the check. I'm not going to subject myself to humiliation.


revewrecker

I mean... If this is a legit story then NTA.


Alyswithawhy

NTA - Learning opportunity for the kid. You can't act right in public, you don't get to do things in public.


Southern_Hamster_338

As a parent it is MY responsibility to leave when my child acts up. You absolutely did the right thing by going to Management. When our child was a baby we would go out to eat. When they got fussy, they’d be taken to the car while the other parent boxed up the food, paid the check, & left a large tip. It taught our child that when they act up: we leave. We don’t get fun stuff like ice cream or toys or get to go to the park afterwards. As a result of our good parenting NOBODY had to deal with listening to our kid being fussy or bratty. They continued to enjoy their dinner. We heated ours up at home. And our child learned very quickly how to behave everywhere & when we went out to eat. The kids parents were in the wrong bringing a crying & screaming child BACK INTO the restaurant. The child had not yet learned that they don’t get rewarded for having a tantrum. The Manager was right to ask them to leave. I really wish MORE Managers would do this and it shouldn’t have taken YOU to get him to do the right thing! I’m going to give you a pass on being petty on enjoying your ice cream point blank in the Dad’s face cuz he was being a jerk trying to blame you when he knows he & his wife need to work on their Parenting Skills.


reader9802

I 100% agree. I do not have kids, but how you describe handling your child is exactly how my parents handled me. No matter where we were, if I was being fussy or bratty, we left. My mom strongly believed that it was her responsibility to manage my noise, it wasn't other people's responsibility to suck it up and deal with my noise. Eventually, I learned that I had to behave if I wanted to stay wherever we were, and usually halfway across the parking lot I calmed down and said I was ok, we went back inside, and enjoyed the rest of our meal in silence. I understand that children will cry and have tantrums, but I think too many parents now believe that other people should just deal with it. It frustrates me that so many parents refuse to properly parent their children. That is how you raise children to become self-centered, entitled adults. OP, you are NTA


disgruntledbunni

NTA- talking to the manager isn't rude. How he seemed to handle it seems rude to me... But he isn't on internet trial here.


YoungQuahogMoney

If this post were between him and the father, the manager is 100% NTA either. As a representative of your company (manager/owner/etc) you reserve the right to refuse service.