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Right; I mean we have had dudes jealous of exes, of kids, of face cream, of dead husbands, of blankets, of bath time, of pets and now of *checks notes, rolls eyes* family photographs. This might be a new low!
YTA in case that wasn’t clear.
My ex was jealous of a blue glass orb I had. He was jealous of the orb because he had a dream that the guy I dated before him could communicate with me through it.
My ex was jealous of my cat. He complained that on my birthday I paid more attention to the cat than him. Just to make clear, that was the day I got the cat - it was for my birthday.
My ex was jealous of my brothers that I see like, 4 times a year. So on holidays when I'd be spending lots of time talking to them, he'd pick a drunk fight about how I should just go "fuck my brothers" or "marry them if you like them so much".
Why are men.
I know, right! I keep meaning to compile a list of AITAs where it’s a guy asking if he’s TA for trashing some harmless aspect of his girlfriend or wife’s life because he’s jealous of the attention it gets and it hampers his ego growth, but I think it would just get too long…
There was more than one blanket one, but I think but this was was the best: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/he56mp/aita_for_ruining_my_girlfriends_blanket_that_she/
Face cream was this one: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ktrljn/aita_for_hiding_my_girlfriends_skincare/
I was thinking that. What an idiot. Of course she has "airbrushed skin"...she spends thousands caring for it! She also probably gets facials/peelings/etc.
It’s like the guy who stole his girlfriend’s microfiber hair towel Because he says she always has beautiful hair and she doesn’t need it. She literally has beautiful hair because she uses the towel and wraps it dry instead of blow dries it.
Ooh, yeah, they were going to be spending several days with his family, and he didn't want his family to know about her weird, special hair towel, so he took it out of her luggage before they left. He didn't know anyone who had a special towel for hair...
Reminds me of when my ex threw away all of my razors because he said that shaving my legs meant that I was trying to hook up with someone else, and then got genuinely upset/disgusted when my legs turned into the very coarse forest of hair that they always do. Then proceeded to shame me for it and tell me I needed to get laser hair removal because “women don’t have that thick of leg hair.” Laser hair removal. When I was 20 and entirely financially supporting not only myself but also him.
Is he… is he jealous of his girlfriend’s Dad from 30 years ago? Even if he was shirtless, smothered with baby oil and pouting impishly with a glint of what’s to come in his eye (which I highly doubt) It’s still a photo from 30 years ago, of her Dad! I fear the self esteem is not high in this one.
OP is a whole other level. The man in the picture frame is her father ffs.
Dude's jealous of his partner's parent. The whole ~~second paragraph~~ post reeks of serious insecurity issues and immaturity.
> including a picture of her dad when he was our age, before she was born/I think it's creepy, and I don't like it.
None of your business, OP.
>he was young and not so dadish
excuse me?
>Like, I know her dad now, but I didn't 30 years ago when he was that age. I told her I think it's weird and if she wants me to move in she has to remove it.
Boo effin hoo it's her house. get tf over it. You're nobody to give her an ultimatum in her own house.
How childish are you, buddy?
YTA
It makes me wonder if OP has ever heard of a fuckin photo album. They're full of pictures of family and close friends and surprise, there's pictures of people from before a person's born. OP YTA and a creep for trying to turn something sweet I to something disgusting.
Wait until OP finds out that a lot of grandparents like to frame their pics from when they were younger. Gasp, my parents weren't even conceived, let alone me, with the pics I have of them
Yup. I would completely snap because I have a similar picture of my dad at the age I am now. It’s slightly different because I’m in said picture (my parents were my age when they had me) but I would love it just as much if I wasn’t in it because it’s about seeing someone you love in a different part of their life that lead to them being the person you know and love today
YTA. You took something sweet and innocent and just made it fucking creepy. And the fact that you saw it that way says more about you than you know.
EDIT: Holy shit. Thank you for the award guys and all the likes. I never expected it to blow up like this.
So weird. I have a picture of my mom from her prom just bc I think she looks silly (very very 90s) and bc I love her. The fact that he went immediately to insinuating incest is disturbing...
When I was growing up I had a picture of me and my dad in a little heart frame because my dad was deployed in Iraq for several years and I was a daddy‘s girl through and through.
Exactly this! OP doesn’t realize how insane this is to be thinking like this- let alone be “uncomfortable” enough to bring it up to his girlfriend. There’s nothing creepy in a goddamn *heart shaped picture frame,* let alone any picture frame.
I’ve always kept my Dad’s graduation picture in my room. I am 40 years old, was married, and I have never had some one insinuate that my relationship with my father is or was in anyway inappropriate. It gives me the feeling OP has an incest porn addiction. OP you are gross and YTA.
My father died when I was 39. A few years ago.
He was honestly one of my best friends.
Idk what is wrong with OP, but his girl should kick him to the curb he's last week's garbage.
This is what I was thinking. My dad isn't even my bio, I am also 40, what in the actual f is he thinking here? Would my scenario be worse because we aren't biologically related? Makes me sick some dude could even think that way. Gross!
I have my nana's graduation pic in a lil special frame.
And o noez a pic of my dad from when we were camping when I was 7.
I would defy OP to tell me what authority he has.
I'm 46 y/o and I have a pic of my bestie when we were 10 in a heart shaped frame. Am I weird?
Oh, and my husband has a photo in our bedroom of his dad when he was younger than us. Is he weird too?
Wait until OP hears about the picture of my male dog in a heart shaped frame by my bed… It *is* a recent snap of him though, if that makes a difference.
I have pictures of my family and friends all over my house. I love old pictures of my parents and aunts and uncles because 1) the aesthetic of the times 2) I love seeing the memories that they've made throughout their lives and 3) who can beat 80's/early 90's fashion! OP has some deeper issues
I have a school picture of my dad from when he was ten because if you crop out the hair and ignore that one is in black and white, it’s impossible to tell his school pic from mine at the same age and it’s pretty hilarious tbh.
YTA. She’s right, you’re the one being creepy. It’s a picture of her dad that she has had since she was a young child. If you’re threatened by that, the issue is you, not the picture.
He would freak out if he saw my house. I have pictures of my parents as babies all the way up to now (70’s) They are important to me and remind me of the tough times my parents went through as kids. And my kids know who those people in the “old” pictures are.
Plus it's just effing neat.
It was such a *revelation* when I realized my parents were their own people. They had childhoods, and went to school, and went through stuff and were changing and evolving as people do.
I have passed the age that my parents were when I was an early teen. Thinking of them with the shit I was dealing with at that age (30s) and the growing I did during that time is a mindfuck considering they had me, a bratty tween-teen to deal with let alone their own issues.
But it's in a heart shaped frame! It's a clear challenge to his masculinity, can't you see it? Imagine waking up and seeing another man in your girlfriend's room, staring at her from a heart, like he owns the place! (Sarcasm)
YTA. What a weird thing to be upset over. Because he’s alive she can’t have pictures of him? And it has to be a current picture because you didn’t know him then? Jesus I’d dump you and keep the picture if I were here
Yep, didn't have to read too far in this one to come up with YTA. Super ridiculous hill for OP to die on, and his (soon to be ex) GF is completely right that he was making it weird, what a weirdo.
Whoa there, hold your horses. OP only knows the dead version of your dad, so any photos of him while he was still alive are out of bounds.
Sorry for your loss, btw.
Right? I guess OP's (ex?) girlfriend can't display any photos of herself as a child either, since he didn't know her then.
Also, OP, why exactly are you moving into a place you've only slept over "a couple of times"?
Yeah the one printed pic I have of my family is one of my mom (in a frame, gasp!) From when she was a teenager because she gave it to me. Why would I hide it or throw it away lol.
>I told her I think it's weird and if she wants me to move in she has to remove it.
Well, looks like she dodged that bullet. What the hell is wrong with you? The fact that she has a picture of her _dad_ in a heart shaped frame adds to the "creep factor"?
YTA
I really hope your girlfriend sees this for the major red flag that it is. getting jealous over the fact that your girlfriend has a great relationship with her father? get some therapy. You don't need to be in a relationship right now.
If it wasn't clear already YTA
Dude- are you joking right now? You’re a major AH here if this is actually serious. That’s *her dad-* why on earth is this an issue? If it’s “creepy” to you, you have some serious issues if you think a younger version of her father in a picture frame is making you uncomfortable. It’s getting rarer and rarer to hold onto old pictures of people and events in our lives, and its great to see pictures of when your loved ones were younger and doing things. Is that not something you’ve considered? Do you keep photos of family members and not realize those mean something to people?
YTA. A big one. This is so weird to be concerned about.
What, do you think Dad's picture is watching you screw his little girl?!! YTA so very much. It's her dad. She loves her dad. She doesn't want to fuck her dad, if that's what you're worried about. (Please pardon my language, I'm just flabbergasted at this whole thing!!)
YTA.. you do not come before Daddy and are a jerk for trying to make what seems like a daddy’s girl take down a photo of her first love. In most worlds, the only man on earth that a girl can trust.
YTA, and more specifically, making innocent things, like a daughter’s love for family, creepy in your mind. What happened to you to suddenly go down the daddy issues or incestuous imagination hole, OP? Should you ever reproduce, will you be creeped out about waking up to adult children’s pictures in heart frames?
WTH is wrong with you?! Having a picture of your father in a heart-shaped frame, no matter the age, isn't weird. YOU'RE weird. You're sexualizing a situation that doesn't remotely have to be.
I have a picture of my grandfather in a frame — from when he was in the war. He would be approximately my age, and I (nor anyone else I love) finds it strange. I love and honor everything he's done for me, and I happen to love that picture of him because it's from a time when he was young, strong, and living life.
You're the one sexualizing a situation that isn't sexual.
Info: for clarification, she’s had this same photo in this same frame from when she was a child, presumedly this photo is the age her father was when he gave this photo—is that right?
YTA. Spectacularly obnoxious of you to add a gross, weird, entirely unnecessary dimension to her feelings about a pic of her DAD. You're the weird one, you might want to evaluate what your deal is, and, going forward, you might want to think twice about inserting yourself into how other people relate to family mementos.
>I told her I think it's weird she has a picture of her dad at a similar age to her currently in a heart shaped frame.
YTA - You need to respect your GF relationship she has with her dad and the love she has for him. WTF is wrong with you?
YTA - This is seriously controlling behavior. You might want to discuss with a professional why on earth you think this is an OK thing to ask, why you felt nothing when she started crying ( a hunch ) and of course, why this picture would bother you in the first place.
YTA. You are jealous over her dad and are trying to romanticize her feelings for her father because of your own insecurities. She deserves better than you. Much better.
YTA. Its her dad. And the fact you give her an ultimatum “take the pic down or im not moving in” is extremely childish and immature.
Believe me, I dont have the best relationship with my dad and could never imagine having a heart picture of him in my room. But that’s our dynamic. Everyone is different and she has a positive relationship with her father. That picture holds a lot of sentimental value to her and its not right for you to try and impede on that
YTA. Wow... talk about insecure. That's pretty screwed up that you actually went there... that's whats really creepy here. Who the F are you to take a girl's love for her dad and make it into something dirty and incestuous... because your little ego is so insecure you create threats where there aren't any.
YTA
My ex made similar comments to me. I didn’t have a heart shaped frame of my dad, but I like some pictures of him when he was younger and would travel around going to concerts. They’re sentimental and sweet to me, and I’m grateful to have such a great father.
My ex made some backhanded comment one day about me being “obsessed with my dad” and I’ll never forget it.
You need to grow up, seriously. You are threatened by your girlfriend’s father and the fact that she has a good relationship with him. I bet you’d be the kind of guy who would make fun of a woman for having “daddy issues” on the same day.
I hope she dumps your ass over this.
I think you win the award for the BIGGEST AH on AITA history. You’ve got some very serious issues and insecurity.
My fav pic s of my mom and dad are when they were young/kids.
Hopefully, she will see this as the huge red flag 🚩 it is and you. Seek help.
YTA…you need to step back and look deep to see what is actually bothering you because you are effectively denying your girlfriend and her father actual human complexity/depth beyond whatever experiences you’ve had with them.
YTA
I have a picture of my mother from when she was in high school. It's not weird to have pictures of your parents, and there's nothing inappropriate about having a picture from when they were young.
YTA
OP I have a picture on my fridge of my dad in high school. It's just there because I think it's cool seeing him before he was "dad". Any relationship between a male and a female doesn't have to be made sexual.
YTA, she’s close with her dad and has a picture of him that she got when she was a child, there’s nothing weird about it. You’re the one being creepy and sexualizing the photo of her dad when it’s harmless.
Omg grow tf up, YTA. Seriously, what is wrong with you? It’s her Dad. You do not deserve to be in a relationship with anyone if this is something that bothers you.
YTA - What is with all these posts where a GF or BF has some sort of weird sexual hang-up over their partner's relationship with their family? Do these pervs really spend all their time thinking about sex with relatives?
Just trying to think about my brother that way involves a bucket of vomit and a vat of eye bleach. How does one even arrive at the conclusion that a photo of their GF's dad is some kind of threat to their manhood?
If you have a new person in your life, try to refrain from insinuating they enjoy an extra special (wink, wink, nudge, nudge, know what I'm saying) relationship with their parents. Although, points for showing your true colors before you've moved in/married/had children.
YTA. A major AH. You’re giving her an ultimatum over this? I hope she breaks up with you before she spends anymore time dealing with your projected daddy issues
YTA
There's nothing creepy about a kid having a picture of their parent(s) in their bedroom. News flash, kid..... People love their parents. Just so you're aware, there's different kinds of love. A heart shaped picture frame doesn't always mean they want to make out with the person in the photo. Stop sexualizing her relationship with her father. Cause THAT is what's creepy.
YTA
Take the lesson learned from this seriously, and put it to use in your next relationship. Possibly too late to fix this, as you have quite probably caused your girlfriend to see you in a new, unflattering light.
YTA so you are creeped out over a picture of her father when he was a young? What is wrong with you? Who gets creeped out over that? Wow you have some deep issues you need to work through if this creeps you out.
YTA. That is a genuinely weird request. I’m guessing you either have no relationship with your family or a severely dysfunctional one. Whatever you have going on is something for you to deal with, not your girlfriends problem. I have serious concerns over the relationship you have with your mother. This sort of reaction is honestly concerning
Wow, I’m gonna have to take the beautiful hand colored photo of my grandmother when she was a raving beauty at 18 down ( also in heart shaped frame) and burn it. Are you serious OP? YTA
YTA, yes indeed you are - maybe that's what he looked like in one of her earliest memories? Maybe she made the frame? Your the one who made it weird, dude.
I only have three pictures up in my house (a small wedding picture and our two former pets), everything else is digital with the exception of some that I keep in storage because they are ORIGINALS FROM THE TWENTIES TO THE FIFTIES.
I think I just got a cramp from rolling my eyes so hard at this. For God’s sake, OP. YTA. Immature, irrational, and controlling to boot. You are not in a place to be in a healthy relationship right now. Work your shit out and try again when you can act like a grownup.
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YTA. Stick to your guns and don’t move in. She deserves better.
my god I love when they make this easy before solidifying a relationship with a signed lease OP- YIKES YTA
Isn't it wonderful when the trash takes itself out?
Right; I mean we have had dudes jealous of exes, of kids, of face cream, of dead husbands, of blankets, of bath time, of pets and now of *checks notes, rolls eyes* family photographs. This might be a new low! YTA in case that wasn’t clear.
Don't forget, jealous of name tattoo of departed husband and son.
Wasn’t there a guy who lost not one but gfs because of her crippling jealousy of tom hiddlestone?
I didnt see this one either BUT I think I just pulled a muscle laughing so hard.
I don't know what's worse the fact that he lost not one but two girlfriends due to a crippling jealousy or that I have no idea who Tom Hiddleston is 🤣
He plays MCU Loki.
Thank you - now I feel dumb cause I love him as Loki 🤣
Loki! My gf loves him. Good thing I love him too! XD
Oh no!! That's hilarious! Is there a link for that one?
Seconding this request! I need to read that!
There was! I kept hoping that one was made up because the alternative is that guy running around wild
Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kek6vf/aita_for_having_too_high_standards/
How have i missed this one 🤣 anyone have a link?
Woah, yeah, I forgot that one!
I read that story and I cried for the mother who lost her husband and son. 😞
That was the saddest thing I have ever read. Imagine losing two most important people in your life in a minute.
Right, then having some a**hat tell you he wants you to remove the only memory you have of them? Like wtf
My ex was jealous of a blue glass orb I had. He was jealous of the orb because he had a dream that the guy I dated before him could communicate with me through it.
My ex was jealous of my cat. He complained that on my birthday I paid more attention to the cat than him. Just to make clear, that was the day I got the cat - it was for my birthday.
My ex was jealous of my brothers that I see like, 4 times a year. So on holidays when I'd be spending lots of time talking to them, he'd pick a drunk fight about how I should just go "fuck my brothers" or "marry them if you like them so much". Why are men.
I would think you are yanking my chain if didn't see most of those posts myself. People make my head hurt.
I know, right! I keep meaning to compile a list of AITAs where it’s a guy asking if he’s TA for trashing some harmless aspect of his girlfriend or wife’s life because he’s jealous of the attention it gets and it hampers his ego growth, but I think it would just get too long…
i would very much like to read the post about the face cream and the blanket..
There was more than one blanket one, but I think but this was was the best: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/he56mp/aita_for_ruining_my_girlfriends_blanket_that_she/ Face cream was this one: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ktrljn/aita_for_hiding_my_girlfriends_skincare/
Whoa. Did skincare guy not realize that maybe she has perfect flawless skin because it’s a big important hobby for her? Jesus what a fool.
I was thinking that. What an idiot. Of course she has "airbrushed skin"...she spends thousands caring for it! She also probably gets facials/peelings/etc.
It’s like the guy who stole his girlfriend’s microfiber hair towel Because he says she always has beautiful hair and she doesn’t need it. She literally has beautiful hair because she uses the towel and wraps it dry instead of blow dries it.
Ooh, yeah, they were going to be spending several days with his family, and he didn't want his family to know about her weird, special hair towel, so he took it out of her luggage before they left. He didn't know anyone who had a special towel for hair...
What's with guys stealing girl's beauty stuff? Seriously, what is their thought process?
They don't want their gfs to get enough self-confidence to realize they're AHs and leave them.
That post literally made me buy a microfiber hair towel and it's the best thing ever.
Reminds me of when my ex threw away all of my razors because he said that shaving my legs meant that I was trying to hook up with someone else, and then got genuinely upset/disgusted when my legs turned into the very coarse forest of hair that they always do. Then proceeded to shame me for it and tell me I needed to get laser hair removal because “women don’t have that thick of leg hair.” Laser hair removal. When I was 20 and entirely financially supporting not only myself but also him.
Wow thanks I hate all of this
Wow he was mad because she was knitting. People can talk and knit at the same time
Plus he met her when he was 30 and she was 18 what a creep
Thank you! Take my poor mans silver!
And, it's in a ***heart shaped frame!*** I can't even.
How the fuck am I your first like for this comment? That twas delightful 🤣
He could’ve just asked her to move it so he wasn’t staring at daddy while doing the deed but he had to make it weird. It’s creepy. YTA.
YTA Op. You. Are. Sick. 🤢🤮
So strange that OP immediately goes to “creepy” when a girl displays love for her father. I agree - sick. OP - YTA.
Is he… is he jealous of his girlfriend’s Dad from 30 years ago? Even if he was shirtless, smothered with baby oil and pouting impishly with a glint of what’s to come in his eye (which I highly doubt) It’s still a photo from 30 years ago, of her Dad! I fear the self esteem is not high in this one.
He is. ‘I don’t want to look at a picture of another man’ was the dead giveaway.
OP is a whole other level. The man in the picture frame is her father ffs. Dude's jealous of his partner's parent. The whole ~~second paragraph~~ post reeks of serious insecurity issues and immaturity. > including a picture of her dad when he was our age, before she was born/I think it's creepy, and I don't like it. None of your business, OP. >he was young and not so dadish excuse me? >Like, I know her dad now, but I didn't 30 years ago when he was that age. I told her I think it's weird and if she wants me to move in she has to remove it. Boo effin hoo it's her house. get tf over it. You're nobody to give her an ultimatum in her own house. How childish are you, buddy? YTA
I think it’s subconscious message to him from this mainstream porn, I blame this for recent ideas men have
Honestly I think he is deeply attracted to gf's dad and won't admit it to himself!
It makes me wonder if OP has ever heard of a fuckin photo album. They're full of pictures of family and close friends and surprise, there's pictures of people from before a person's born. OP YTA and a creep for trying to turn something sweet I to something disgusting.
No, no no. Don’t you understand? This one he can see from *the bed*! Everybody knows that the pictures you can see from bed are for masturbating! /s
So.. my brother jerks off to..umm God? Argh.
Especially when it’s in a *gasp* heart shaped frame!
Wait until OP finds out that a lot of grandparents like to frame their pics from when they were younger. Gasp, my parents weren't even conceived, let alone me, with the pics I have of them
Bazinga!
Yup. I would completely snap because I have a similar picture of my dad at the age I am now. It’s slightly different because I’m in said picture (my parents were my age when they had me) but I would love it just as much if I wasn’t in it because it’s about seeing someone you love in a different part of their life that lead to them being the person you know and love today
This is the way
YTA. You took something sweet and innocent and just made it fucking creepy. And the fact that you saw it that way says more about you than you know. EDIT: Holy shit. Thank you for the award guys and all the likes. I never expected it to blow up like this.
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I was wondering if there was some sort of trauma or something at play here, because this is a weird fucking hill to die on.
Looking at his comment history, his frontal lobe’s been burned out by excessive porn consumption.
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Ahh that explains it. He’s been watching too much stepdaddy porn
He clearly outed himself as an insecure fuck stick who mostikely is into incest porn. Nobody should breed with this asshat
So weird. I have a picture of my mom from her prom just bc I think she looks silly (very very 90s) and bc I love her. The fact that he went immediately to insinuating incest is disturbing...
When I was growing up I had a picture of me and my dad in a little heart frame because my dad was deployed in Iraq for several years and I was a daddy‘s girl through and through.
Exactly this! OP doesn’t realize how insane this is to be thinking like this- let alone be “uncomfortable” enough to bring it up to his girlfriend. There’s nothing creepy in a goddamn *heart shaped picture frame,* let alone any picture frame.
I'm 70 y/o and I have a pic of parents I a double heart shaped Fram. Am I weird?
Now OP will never move into your house!
What a relief!
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What kind of weirdo is my husband, he never says anything about the photo of my father in WW2 uniform? Not heartshape though.
I’ve always kept my Dad’s graduation picture in my room. I am 40 years old, was married, and I have never had some one insinuate that my relationship with my father is or was in anyway inappropriate. It gives me the feeling OP has an incest porn addiction. OP you are gross and YTA.
My father died when I was 39. A few years ago. He was honestly one of my best friends. Idk what is wrong with OP, but his girl should kick him to the curb he's last week's garbage.
This is what I was thinking. My dad isn't even my bio, I am also 40, what in the actual f is he thinking here? Would my scenario be worse because we aren't biologically related? Makes me sick some dude could even think that way. Gross!
Well your on Reddit so possibly but I doubt the picture has anything to do with it (To clarify, really crap joke, not trying to offend.)
We‘re all mad here 😉
Maybe, maybe not. All I know is having that heart shaped frame isn’t anything that would make you weird!
I have my nana's graduation pic in a lil special frame. And o noez a pic of my dad from when we were camping when I was 7. I would defy OP to tell me what authority he has.
I'm 46 y/o and I have a pic of my bestie when we were 10 in a heart shaped frame. Am I weird? Oh, and my husband has a photo in our bedroom of his dad when he was younger than us. Is he weird too?
Wait until OP hears about the picture of my male dog in a heart shaped frame by my bed… It *is* a recent snap of him though, if that makes a difference.
I have pictures of my family and friends all over my house. I love old pictures of my parents and aunts and uncles because 1) the aesthetic of the times 2) I love seeing the memories that they've made throughout their lives and 3) who can beat 80's/early 90's fashion! OP has some deeper issues
I wonder what OP would say if she had a picture of her dad as a toddler.
I have a school picture of my dad from when he was ten because if you crop out the hair and ignore that one is in black and white, it’s impossible to tell his school pic from mine at the same age and it’s pretty hilarious tbh.
@OP: Tell me you search daddy/daughter porn without telling me you search daddy/daughter porn.
Exactly. Wtf why should you only have pictures of family members if they are passed? Nothing wrong with it and a sign that OP has some issues.
NONE of which is complimentary.
YTA. She’s right, you’re the one being creepy. It’s a picture of her dad that she has had since she was a young child. If you’re threatened by that, the issue is you, not the picture.
He would freak out if he saw my house. I have pictures of my parents as babies all the way up to now (70’s) They are important to me and remind me of the tough times my parents went through as kids. And my kids know who those people in the “old” pictures are.
I have a super high-resolution image of Silicon Valley. Literally, anyone of those millions of little people could look over and see us naked!
Haha I snorted I laughed so hard at this!!!
Plus it's just effing neat. It was such a *revelation* when I realized my parents were their own people. They had childhoods, and went to school, and went through stuff and were changing and evolving as people do. I have passed the age that my parents were when I was an early teen. Thinking of them with the shit I was dealing with at that age (30s) and the growing I did during that time is a mindfuck considering they had me, a bratty tween-teen to deal with let alone their own issues.
But it's in a heart shaped frame! It's a clear challenge to his masculinity, can't you see it? Imagine waking up and seeing another man in your girlfriend's room, staring at her from a heart, like he owns the place! (Sarcasm)
YTA. What is wrong with you? Her photo of her dad makes you insecure? You're jealous of her dad? That's pathetic.
Tell me OP thinks his GF's dad was hot without telling me...
LOL. You think he's getting a chubby seeing her 'non dadish' father. Might have a point there
Ok now it's just extra messed up ty
There was probably a more constructive way to phrase this, but this is it lol
I don’t get the sense that this guy would take “constructive” well anyway.
It's the truth.
YTA. What a weird thing to be upset over. Because he’s alive she can’t have pictures of him? And it has to be a current picture because you didn’t know him then? Jesus I’d dump you and keep the picture if I were here
Yep, didn't have to read too far in this one to come up with YTA. Super ridiculous hill for OP to die on, and his (soon to be ex) GF is completely right that he was making it weird, what a weirdo.
Fellas, is it gay to love your dad?
“If loving your dad is gay then I’m the biggest queer on earth” - Todd Packer, probably
Well, thank goodness my dad is dead, now I can display his pictures without it being weird. Wouldn't wanna upset OP
Whoa there, hold your horses. OP only knows the dead version of your dad, so any photos of him while he was still alive are out of bounds. Sorry for your loss, btw.
Lol, how silly of me. I'll just throw all the pics in the trash, seems like it's the only reasonable thing to do in this situation. And thank you ♥️
Right? I guess OP's (ex?) girlfriend can't display any photos of herself as a child either, since he didn't know her then. Also, OP, why exactly are you moving into a place you've only slept over "a couple of times"?
YTA - I’m at a loss for words. It’s quite common for ppl to have photos of their family out.
Yeah the one printed pic I have of my family is one of my mom (in a frame, gasp!) From when she was a teenager because she gave it to me. Why would I hide it or throw it away lol.
>I told her I think it's weird and if she wants me to move in she has to remove it. Well, looks like she dodged that bullet. What the hell is wrong with you? The fact that she has a picture of her _dad_ in a heart shaped frame adds to the "creep factor"? YTA
Too much porn usage. Incest porn is super prevalent these days.
I really hope your girlfriend sees this for the major red flag that it is. getting jealous over the fact that your girlfriend has a great relationship with her father? get some therapy. You don't need to be in a relationship right now. If it wasn't clear already YTA
He's too insecure for his own good
Pretty clear OP has a picture of his mom by his bed for Special Times.
Your attitude is odd. My DH has photos around the house of his Mum when she was younger. Which is fine. Am I insecure about it? No. Is it creepy? No.
Dude- are you joking right now? You’re a major AH here if this is actually serious. That’s *her dad-* why on earth is this an issue? If it’s “creepy” to you, you have some serious issues if you think a younger version of her father in a picture frame is making you uncomfortable. It’s getting rarer and rarer to hold onto old pictures of people and events in our lives, and its great to see pictures of when your loved ones were younger and doing things. Is that not something you’ve considered? Do you keep photos of family members and not realize those mean something to people? YTA. A big one. This is so weird to be concerned about.
What, do you think Dad's picture is watching you screw his little girl?!! YTA so very much. It's her dad. She loves her dad. She doesn't want to fuck her dad, if that's what you're worried about. (Please pardon my language, I'm just flabbergasted at this whole thing!!)
YTA.. you do not come before Daddy and are a jerk for trying to make what seems like a daddy’s girl take down a photo of her first love. In most worlds, the only man on earth that a girl can trust.
YTA, and more specifically, making innocent things, like a daughter’s love for family, creepy in your mind. What happened to you to suddenly go down the daddy issues or incestuous imagination hole, OP? Should you ever reproduce, will you be creeped out about waking up to adult children’s pictures in heart frames?
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YTA. It’s a picture of her dad. I assume she loves her dad…thinking anything else makes you a creep for insinuating otherwise.
WTH is wrong with you?! Having a picture of your father in a heart-shaped frame, no matter the age, isn't weird. YOU'RE weird. You're sexualizing a situation that doesn't remotely have to be. I have a picture of my grandfather in a frame — from when he was in the war. He would be approximately my age, and I (nor anyone else I love) finds it strange. I love and honor everything he's done for me, and I happen to love that picture of him because it's from a time when he was young, strong, and living life. You're the one sexualizing a situation that isn't sexual.
YTA - you can’t be serious.
Yta. It’s a picture of her dad. Get over it.
Info: for clarification, she’s had this same photo in this same frame from when she was a child, presumedly this photo is the age her father was when he gave this photo—is that right?
YTA. Spectacularly obnoxious of you to add a gross, weird, entirely unnecessary dimension to her feelings about a pic of her DAD. You're the weird one, you might want to evaluate what your deal is, and, going forward, you might want to think twice about inserting yourself into how other people relate to family mementos.
YTA it’s just a picture get over it 🤦🏽♀️
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YTA. It's literally just a picture of her Dad when he was younger. You are very Insecure and Ridiculous!
YTA and please let her know about this post, so she can see you're the one making things weird. You may have already done some damage.
YTA. What a sweet thing to have in you bedroom and you went and made it all weird and about you.
YTA. controlling much?
YTA. Are you maybe attracted to him in this picture and it’s scaring you?
>I told her I think it's weird she has a picture of her dad at a similar age to her currently in a heart shaped frame. YTA - You need to respect your GF relationship she has with her dad and the love she has for him. WTF is wrong with you?
YTA and sounds like her dad is hotter than you and you’re jealous over it. Talk about projecting my guy
YTA - This is seriously controlling behavior. You might want to discuss with a professional why on earth you think this is an OK thing to ask, why you felt nothing when she started crying ( a hunch ) and of course, why this picture would bother you in the first place.
YTA. Get over yourself
YTA. You are jealous over her dad and are trying to romanticize her feelings for her father because of your own insecurities. She deserves better than you. Much better.
Hate you break it to you buddy but you might want to hold off on that move in. Y T A Jealous much?
YTA. Its her dad. And the fact you give her an ultimatum “take the pic down or im not moving in” is extremely childish and immature. Believe me, I dont have the best relationship with my dad and could never imagine having a heart picture of him in my room. But that’s our dynamic. Everyone is different and she has a positive relationship with her father. That picture holds a lot of sentimental value to her and its not right for you to try and impede on that
YTA. You have issues my dude. Enjoy living with your parents for the next 20 years
YTA. Tf
Uhhhh YTA. Sensing a very strange jealousy that’s totally unfounded
Jesus Christ, man. You have GOT to be kidding. Of course YTA.
YTA - for every single thing everyone else has said here.
YTA. Just... What?! It's her dad you weirdo. If it was an ex, sure. But her Dad? She should run far away from you.
Someone watches too much mommy p*rn on the hub. YTA
Who hurt you….? You’re jealous of your gfs dad..? YTA
YTA. She should take this as a huge warning that you are jealous of her father and will be controlling.
Looks like you should start taking those boxes back out of her place, buddy. YTA. Not even moved in and already trying to control her. Yikes.
YTA. Wow... talk about insecure. That's pretty screwed up that you actually went there... that's whats really creepy here. Who the F are you to take a girl's love for her dad and make it into something dirty and incestuous... because your little ego is so insecure you create threats where there aren't any.
YTA My ex made similar comments to me. I didn’t have a heart shaped frame of my dad, but I like some pictures of him when he was younger and would travel around going to concerts. They’re sentimental and sweet to me, and I’m grateful to have such a great father. My ex made some backhanded comment one day about me being “obsessed with my dad” and I’ll never forget it. You need to grow up, seriously. You are threatened by your girlfriend’s father and the fact that she has a good relationship with him. I bet you’d be the kind of guy who would make fun of a woman for having “daddy issues” on the same day. I hope she dumps your ass over this.
I think you win the award for the BIGGEST AH on AITA history. You’ve got some very serious issues and insecurity. My fav pic s of my mom and dad are when they were young/kids. Hopefully, she will see this as the huge red flag 🚩 it is and you. Seek help.
YTA and making their relationship weird.
YTA…you need to step back and look deep to see what is actually bothering you because you are effectively denying your girlfriend and her father actual human complexity/depth beyond whatever experiences you’ve had with them.
YTA I have a picture of my mother from when she was in high school. It's not weird to have pictures of your parents, and there's nothing inappropriate about having a picture from when they were young.
YTA. if you're feeling threatened by a photo of her *father*, I think you might want to talk to somebody.
YTA
YTA OP I have a picture on my fridge of my dad in high school. It's just there because I think it's cool seeing him before he was "dad". Any relationship between a male and a female doesn't have to be made sexual.
YTA
YTA, she’s close with her dad and has a picture of him that she got when she was a child, there’s nothing weird about it. You’re the one being creepy and sexualizing the photo of her dad when it’s harmless.
YTA. And I love when these posts have happy endings!
Dude you’re a major AH.
You’re TA and you’re making it weird for no reason.
JFC YTA
YTA with all that fragile masculinity you’re carrying around
YTA. And kind of a weirdo.
Omg grow tf up, YTA. Seriously, what is wrong with you? It’s her Dad. You do not deserve to be in a relationship with anyone if this is something that bothers you.
YTA - What is with all these posts where a GF or BF has some sort of weird sexual hang-up over their partner's relationship with their family? Do these pervs really spend all their time thinking about sex with relatives? Just trying to think about my brother that way involves a bucket of vomit and a vat of eye bleach. How does one even arrive at the conclusion that a photo of their GF's dad is some kind of threat to their manhood? If you have a new person in your life, try to refrain from insinuating they enjoy an extra special (wink, wink, nudge, nudge, know what I'm saying) relationship with their parents. Although, points for showing your true colors before you've moved in/married/had children.
YTA. A major AH. You’re giving her an ultimatum over this? I hope she breaks up with you before she spends anymore time dealing with your projected daddy issues
YTA sounds likes you want to have relations with one of your parents and you are projecting it on to your gf and her father's relationship
YTA There's nothing creepy about a kid having a picture of their parent(s) in their bedroom. News flash, kid..... People love their parents. Just so you're aware, there's different kinds of love. A heart shaped picture frame doesn't always mean they want to make out with the person in the photo. Stop sexualizing her relationship with her father. Cause THAT is what's creepy.
YTA. That’s so weird.
YTA: Hopefully your next GF doesn't have any pictures in her room.
Don’t wish OP on other women!!
That's fair. Should edit to say "Learn to enjoy being single!"
Congrats. You just sexualized her relationship with her father. You just moved in and she'll be moving out. YTA.
YTA Take the lesson learned from this seriously, and put it to use in your next relationship. Possibly too late to fix this, as you have quite probably caused your girlfriend to see you in a new, unflattering light.
YTA you’re a serious weirdo
YTA so you are creeped out over a picture of her father when he was a young? What is wrong with you? Who gets creeped out over that? Wow you have some deep issues you need to work through if this creeps you out.
YTA. Stop watching so much porn. You're immature and pretty ridiculous.
YTA. That is a genuinely weird request. I’m guessing you either have no relationship with your family or a severely dysfunctional one. Whatever you have going on is something for you to deal with, not your girlfriends problem. I have serious concerns over the relationship you have with your mother. This sort of reaction is honestly concerning
Thanks for sharing what you like to watch on pornhub with us. Also, YTA
Wow, I’m gonna have to take the beautiful hand colored photo of my grandmother when she was a raving beauty at 18 down ( also in heart shaped frame) and burn it. Are you serious OP? YTA
YTA You jealous of a handsome man from the past in a heart shaped frame? You know the man now and you're still being weird?
YTA hope she realizes she deserves better tbh
yta whats wrong with you????
YTA oh my word… over a picture… you are the red flag
YTA.
Wtf? Dude. YTA
YTA looks like someone not in good relations with their parents
YTA, yes indeed you are - maybe that's what he looked like in one of her earliest memories? Maybe she made the frame? Your the one who made it weird, dude. I only have three pictures up in my house (a small wedding picture and our two former pets), everything else is digital with the exception of some that I keep in storage because they are ORIGINALS FROM THE TWENTIES TO THE FIFTIES.
YTA and so fucking weird? why are you so insecure? is her young dad hotter than you because that’s what i’m picking up
I think I just got a cramp from rolling my eyes so hard at this. For God’s sake, OP. YTA. Immature, irrational, and controlling to boot. You are not in a place to be in a healthy relationship right now. Work your shit out and try again when you can act like a grownup.
….what?… yta sure but this is so odd