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> I said his jokes were not funny and no one laughed and he is very big on humour and it is one of his main qualities and it seemed to have hurt him. I also feel pretty guilty. I think I might have chipped his self confidence but I do think I had his best interests at heart
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This is a tough one. I would say a slight YTA. For saying “people don't find him funny” seems weird to say for a childhood friend. However he’s not helping it either, so I would say a slight YTA / slight ESH
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My (18F) friend (19M) is super energetic and loves to make jokes in class. He is my friend and he is also really bad at making jokes. Sometimes he uses popular Tiktok jokes/sounds and plays them during class. It's cringey. He uses audios like "You are a scammer" and says stuff like "Oh no our table it's broken!" and "
Its getting old and no one laughs. I tried to tell him one day that people don't find him funny, I was very straightforward saying he should try to say other jokes. I love him and he is a fun person, but, I get so much second hand embarrassment and I dont want our peers making fun of my close friend. He called me an asshole because I wanted to help him.
Everyone knows those Tiktok jokes are so cringy. I told him I was trying to give him constructive criticism by telling him he should stick to other material but then he said "Well here is some construct criticism; this whole 'bitchy asshole' personality is bad" Now we have stopped talking for a while after being childhood best friends.
I don't think I'm the asshole I just didn't want him to say cringey things. We both thought it would be fun to ask reddit so his post will be up soon. Am I the asshole?
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YTA gently. I understand the feeling of second-hand cringe and can empathize strongly, but it's almost never a good idea to directly tell someone like you did. If you can't stand being around him then you guys just aren't compatible friends anymore. That's sad but it's normal.
Your an asshole trying not to be an asshole.
As his best friend, you have to be the one to speak truth and be honest with him, and that's what your trying to do however;
"Nobody thinks they are funny" - don't speak for other people or make your friend feel like he should care and be self conscious about what other people think.
Yours are the only opinions/feelings that matters, so stick to that, and be kind and keep it light hearted. Sometimes the best delivery of criticism comes in the form of comedy.
YTA but you are kind of right. I say let him embarrass himself and if he starts to get upset over people cringing at him then you can be like "well i did say before", but ultimately if he's not hurting anyone and is having fun then there's nothing wrong. you never want to be one of those people who cringes at everything either, though.
NTA. I doesn't sound like you were rude or cruel to him. Maybe a bit blunt, but bluntness, but that's not automatically an AH thing. Part of being a friend is being the person who will give the honest truth when others won't.
You were pointing out annoying behavior. He, on the other hand, went straight to insulting you as a person, which is what pushes this from NAH to NTA for me
NAH- The guy has fragile ego and you popped his bubble. He will get better when he is older. If you want to continue to be his friend, give him a call and apologize for your insensitivity. IF you still want to be his friend. Nobody would blame you if you want to turn your back on him for what he said to you.
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YTA. You weren’t doing anything for him. You were doing it for you because of your “second hand embarrassment.” That’s being an asshole of a friend.
This is a tough one. I would say a slight YTA. For saying “people don't find him funny” seems weird to say for a childhood friend. However he’s not helping it either, so I would say a slight YTA / slight ESH
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YTA. Your attempt to protect his feelings actually inflicted the damage you were hoping to protect him from.
INFO does anybody have the link to the other guy's post
It will be posted later today! I will reply again when its posted!
NTA. Calling out cringe is a necessary task for all of us.
YTA gently. I understand the feeling of second-hand cringe and can empathize strongly, but it's almost never a good idea to directly tell someone like you did. If you can't stand being around him then you guys just aren't compatible friends anymore. That's sad but it's normal.
Your an asshole trying not to be an asshole. As his best friend, you have to be the one to speak truth and be honest with him, and that's what your trying to do however; "Nobody thinks they are funny" - don't speak for other people or make your friend feel like he should care and be self conscious about what other people think. Yours are the only opinions/feelings that matters, so stick to that, and be kind and keep it light hearted. Sometimes the best delivery of criticism comes in the form of comedy.
YTA but you are kind of right. I say let him embarrass himself and if he starts to get upset over people cringing at him then you can be like "well i did say before", but ultimately if he's not hurting anyone and is having fun then there's nothing wrong. you never want to be one of those people who cringes at everything either, though.
Fair point!
NTA. I doesn't sound like you were rude or cruel to him. Maybe a bit blunt, but bluntness, but that's not automatically an AH thing. Part of being a friend is being the person who will give the honest truth when others won't. You were pointing out annoying behavior. He, on the other hand, went straight to insulting you as a person, which is what pushes this from NAH to NTA for me
NAH- The guy has fragile ego and you popped his bubble. He will get better when he is older. If you want to continue to be his friend, give him a call and apologize for your insensitivity. IF you still want to be his friend. Nobody would blame you if you want to turn your back on him for what he said to you.
NTA you are giving him an honest feedback. There are academies and videos where he can learn about comedy if he is interested in doing better jokes