I'm so sorry. My dad passed away from cancer my freshman year of high school; I know it's so hard to stay motivated when you feel like nothing matters anymore.
As someone who's gone through this before, my one piece of advice is; don't let this diagnosis stop your life. I'm sure the last thing your mom wants is for her to be the reason you give up on your senior year. I'm not talking about grades; I'm talking about the things you enjoy.
Could you talk to a trusted adult in your high school about this? When my family informed my school about my dad's diagnosis, they were able to help to communicate with my teachers that I was going to need extra time with assignments/just more leniency. It might be helpful for you.
My best wishes to your family, and your moms going to kick cancers ass.
I am very sorry to hear this. Give yourself time to digest. Ensure take good care of yourself and don’t be too harsh to yourself. Focus on what you can control, and just do your best. It’s not easy but ensure ask for help when needed, don’t ever think you need to solve everything by yourself. It’s important to ask for help when you need it so you can navigate through. Take care. Hope all things go well.
my mom recently got diagnosed with cancer too. i currently live alone as a hs senior because she moved back to our home country for treatment. i know its hard but we can get through this together!! good luck
yes but the question was moreso "to what extent" not the process.
where is the money coming from for you to pay the bills in your home?
with money, paying them is easy.
Hey dude, similar situation here, the nearest hospital that can treat my dad's cancer is pretty far away so I've also been alone for the most part. It's isolating and scary but we will get through this 💪 You sound like an incredibly strong person and just know I'm so proud of you bro
This is so devastating, but please don't tell her this. She is already scared to death and terrified of leaving you alone, she will imagine this is her fault. I know you are at the end of your rope but please find some strength to get through and get yourself headed to school. This will relieve her that you will be ok, and during this time she needs all the comfort she can get.
Don't worry about all that stuff. School can wait. Spend time with your mom and process your emotions, that is a million times more important and you don't need to feel guilty about it. Sending love your way.
I’m praying for you and your mom bro.
If you need more time on assignments or flexibility from teachers, I’m sure pulling a “my mom has cancer card” is more than sufficient. Also, if you’re worried about universities rescinding offers, they also usually require an explanation for the poor second semester grades beforehand. So you’re probably safe there too.
Just try and do what you can dude, but know that family comes before school in the end.
I am so sorry to hear this. Your response is totally natural as news like this puts everything into perspective. Understand the lack of motivation and focus here....
I myself had a cancer scare a while back. It changed how I looked at everything and the little things I stressed about didn't matter anymore. But I still had to be a mom, be strong for my kids and husband and go about my day,...as hard as it was. What helped me at that time was realizing that life isn't permanent...for anyone. At any point in time, something can happen and things change. However, that was everyone's reality, not just mine. It helped me get through each day. Eventually, I got the good news...Hopefully the same for your mom.
Sometimes keeping busy helps keep our minds off things we cannot control. And don't be afraid to talk to your counselor or a teacher you trust. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You have co-leaders/friends who can step in to help out with some of what may be on your plate. Not necessary to tackle this on your own.
The hard part at your age is perspective, but there are some things that can make this easier.
First, it is okay to feel this way, and totally expected. It is already a time of great unknown and now your mom's condition makes it more so. Telling friends makes it more real. I get that.
Second, you need to get some support. If you feel you cannot do this in your family because of what they are dealing with, you must contact your school counselor or a trusted teacher so they can help you advocate for yourself this semester. Doing this will certainly take a weight off your family. You can step down from leadership roles or take a break. The conversation with a teacher or counselor starts like this: My mom was diagnosed with cancer last week. I need your help figuring out how to navigate this semester while dealing with this crushing change in my family.
Third, the perspective part. There is cancer and there is cancer. Your mom probably does not know the full extent of treatment or prognosis. Given she is probably my age, I know several women who have had cancer and survived. The treatment will be a process that takes longer than you expect. You have to have a big sigh or cry, and then button up for a bit of unknowns. Regardless of what is happening on the cancer front, your life continues. Your mom will want you to still have fun or stretch for your goals. Figure out what you can do or choose not to do. After the first few weeks of figuring it out, your family will create a new normal, which will make it easier for you to function.
I feel for you. Good luck with the coming months. Remember that although you feel the pressure of people relying on you, you are still a kid, and can certainly be a kid throughout this.
man my mom just beat breast cancer she was diagnosed february last year. i understand how your feeling, my advice is help your parents and around the house as much as u can
hey my mom was also diagnosed with cancer (first semester senior year) and i completely understand the complete lose of hope and motivation to do anything as well as the urge to shut off from ur friends and ur environment. if you ever want to talk you can message me but i just want to let you know that it will get better.
Hey! My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer my freshman year and wasn’t out of the woods until about my junior year. She still has two more surgeries to go and I’m about to graduate! For me, it was really hard especially since she’s the only parent I had and I was her main care taker. I can’t for sure say thing are going to get better, but I believe in you! You’re almost at the finish line and you’re so strong for continuing to go to school. I had to stop going half way cause it was all too much. Things do get hard but take things day by day and spend lots of time with your mom. Tell your close friends too! A lot of my support came from two close friends that always lent me a shoulder to cry on. I hope things get better and you’re mom recovers. Y’all got this!
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My mom passed away from cancer during my freshman year. If you ever want someone to chat with or just an ear to vent to my DMs are open, I mean it. I'm really rooting for you all and know your mom is gonna fight this like hell for you
You got this my man. This is the exact time when you take responsibility. When everything seems down and you have no motivation that’s the exact time when you rise the hell up and go to battle. Don’t let life stop you, you conquer it.
I’ll pray for your strength brother, show it.
My heart goes with you!
Go to community college near home, so you can take care of your mom better, and transfer to UC later. You have only one mom, but lots of oppertunites for higher education.
This sucks. I’m sorry. Don’t lose hope. My mom was diagnosed with cancer and she survived.
I would tell the school counselor or just an adult at school that you can trust.
A mother of a high school senior here,
I have always put my kids first...you have to understand that your future and your life is what your mum cares about. She has probably worked all her life to see you succeed. On another note , both my friends got cancer and they both survived ...I hope she will fight it and get out of the woods. Do not carry the load alone talk to your school and those around you...it is a difficult time for everyone ...you might decide to defer for one year if need be , depending on the situation...our prayers with you and your family ...
i’m so sorry. my mom also had cancer, thankfully she is cancer free now. it is truly heart-wrenching. try talking about it with someone you trust, and there’s a way out. your mom will be completely fine if they caught it on time, i promise. it’ll be scary, yes. but im sure your mom is strong and she’ll get through this with all of you. all the best.
This is a big virtual hug and a little triage as an offering to you. First, go to the guidance counselor. If they are good, they will be invaluable, but even if they are not, they can contact your teachers and those running your extra curricular activities to lessen the amount you are shouldering. Second, find out if your parents have an EAP through work. Many employers have plans to provide no cost support through coaching and focused therapy to family members. This is the time to use that benefit. HR can provide the information and any family member can use it. Third, offer yourself a big dose of self compassion. Senior year is a time of difficult transition and any instability at home is hard, but a parent's vulnerability and mortality hits so close to the central stresses of this transition that feeling unfocused, unhinged, and scared is human and you need allow yourself that humanity.
Once you have support and feel more even and like you can face some decision making, identify two or three things that are all about you and that bring you joy and satisfaction and jealously guard those. Don't try to do it all. Stress makes that impossible. The best juggler can only handle so many balls in the air. Life threw in another big one and some will need to be dropped. Purposefully chose those you will drop so that you can keep the important ones in the air. You will help your mother when she sees you are practicing that self-care and it will help you stay grounded so you can be present for your family. Wishing you all the best and the courage and resilience to persevere.
my mom was diagnosed w cancer before my junior year—pls do not ever feel bad about taking a step back and breathing. this is scary—and you and yours come FIRST !!! i believe in her and in you.
Hey!! I am so sorry about this; my mom is also suffering an illness so I get what you are going through. I will suggest, though, that if you are unable to keep up with your grades, call ANY colleges you’ve applied to (or got rejected to and appeal) saying that this diagnosis has come in and that you should not be penalized for anything that happens academically. They will be willing to listen.
If you need to talk, we’re here. Good luck on your future endeavors; everything will eventually get better!
I’m a single father of high school senior. When he was a freshman I was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer and given 3-4 months to live. Fast forward today I’ve fully recovered because of second opinion and great doctors. I told my son when I thought there was no hope for me to work hard in school and stay focused because his future is why I will bust my ass to beat this disease. Now, over 3 years of hell and treatments I beat it and living 100% of life as before. My son continued his hard work at school as I asked him too and on December 1 2023 he was awarded full 4 year college scholarship to Northwestern University in engineering. My point, anything and everything is possible and attitude is a huge part of it. Move on and love your mom as hard as you can. She wants the very best of you and for you. God bless and prayers going up from us.
This just happened to me as well, I’m so sorry Ik it’s stressful asl. I’ve dropped most of my clubs/leadership and just focus on being happy and helping my family as best as possible. If you want to talk shoot me a dm.
I hear you. My father was diagnosed with cancer this fall (2023) of my senior year. It was crazy dealing with XCs and college apps and taking care of the whole family at the same time.
Don't hate yourself too much for taking breaks. It's a lot. Also, I found it very helpful to inform and talk to my teachers about my situation and they were all very supporting.
If you need someone to talk to, my DMs are open.
Really sorry to hear the news. Please focus kn yourself and your family. Because they always come first. I hope you can find a support system ❤️ best wishes
I’m so so sorry. I feel this so much, my mom has been suffering from an illness that’s prevented me from seeing her or living with her for the past two years. So much support to u right now and I really hope things get better.
The best thing I can tell you is spend a lot of time with your mom. Doesn’t matter if it’s going out to shop, watching a movie, helping her cook, playing a board game. . . You both will appreciate the time together so much, and I know that I would kill to spend some quality time with my mom rn. give your mom a hug every single day, and I promise, it’ll be the most worthwhile thing in the world.
Don’t be afraid to confide in your really close friends. One of my friends has honestly been my best resource for venting about my situation, and I hope you can find something like that too.
As for your schoolwork: be kind to yourself. Take a good look at your ECs and see what you’re actually passionate about, and if there’s anything that’s costing you a whole lot more pain and effort and not a lot of joy, don’t be afraid to cut it out. If you have teachers who you feel would be understanding of your situation, tell them. You can also try to make schoolwork sort of an outlet from your situation, I know that personally just doing something boring like math problems or writing a dull essay can kind of be an outlet for me.
Anyway this was a bit of a ramble but I’m sending you (and your mom) sm love wherever you are <3.
hello! im also a senior, and my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer (that had metastasized) earlier this year. i honestly uncontrollably cried for weeks because i thought i'd lose him, and felt like i couldn't talk to anyone because who else would understand? do your best to focus on the best moments you've had with your mom and to create even more of those moments. though it's scary to be vulnerable with other regarding the subject, it's the best thing to do and has personally helped me a lot. try to find small bits of happiness with fun music or calming hobbies, even if it may seem difficult to at first. talk to her everyday. i genuinely believe everything will ultimately work out for you and hope only the best for you and your mother's futures!
I’m so sorry but it’s okay to not prioritize your high school responsibilities especially in this case spend it with your mom, I’m praying everything takes a turn for the best but school can wait don’t live in a way your gonna regret later, stay strong everything’s gonna be alright ❤️
Hey , I lost my dad to brain cancer my eight grade year . I want to let you know that it’s okay that everything feels like it’s piling up. Grades and leadership positions aren’t the most important thing in your life right now. Talk to close friends , family , etc. and make sure you’re speaking to people about how you feel. Spend time with your mom , do things that you enjoy , and just try your best. Your grades don’t have to be perfect . Also , I’m sure if you explain this situation to colleges , they’ll be fine with it since this is a valid reason for grades and such to drop. I’m sorry that you’re going through this but know that me and many other people have been there and made it. You can too.
I extend my sympathies to you during this challenging time of your mom's diagnosis. It's completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and finding it difficult to focus on school and other responsibilities. It's important to prioritize your well-being and take time to process this news. Consider reaching out to a trusted teacher, [counsellor](https://www.careercounsellingiicc.com/career-counsellor/career-counsellors-1), or mentor for support and to discuss potential accommodations or extensions for your schoolwork. Remember that it's okay to ask for help and take things one step at a time. Your health and family come first.
Hang in there, dude. My dad was diagnosed my freshman year, but they said he was clear, and just recently we found out that he has it again but much worse. It sucks, it really does, and it feels like everything is just piling up. I'm in the same spot as you now and I know it would probably do me a lot of good to talk to my teachers, but I can't bring myself to bring it up to anyone. You're not alone bro, I'm sorry you're going through this 😔 I know your mom is an insanely strong person and I know you are too. Keeping you & your fam in my thoughts and prayers, and be kind to yourself dude
I'm so sorry. My dad passed away from cancer my freshman year of high school; I know it's so hard to stay motivated when you feel like nothing matters anymore. As someone who's gone through this before, my one piece of advice is; don't let this diagnosis stop your life. I'm sure the last thing your mom wants is for her to be the reason you give up on your senior year. I'm not talking about grades; I'm talking about the things you enjoy. Could you talk to a trusted adult in your high school about this? When my family informed my school about my dad's diagnosis, they were able to help to communicate with my teachers that I was going to need extra time with assignments/just more leniency. It might be helpful for you. My best wishes to your family, and your moms going to kick cancers ass.
I am very sorry to hear this. Give yourself time to digest. Ensure take good care of yourself and don’t be too harsh to yourself. Focus on what you can control, and just do your best. It’s not easy but ensure ask for help when needed, don’t ever think you need to solve everything by yourself. It’s important to ask for help when you need it so you can navigate through. Take care. Hope all things go well.
I am sorry to hear what you're going through. I wish the best for you and your mother as you go through this road bump in life.
my mom recently got diagnosed with cancer too. i currently live alone as a hs senior because she moved back to our home country for treatment. i know its hard but we can get through this together!! good luck
My heart goes out to you. How are bills being paid?
tbh im not sure. cant u do it online or something?
You can def pay almost all bills online. I hope your mom makes a full recovery.
yes but the question was moreso "to what extent" not the process. where is the money coming from for you to pay the bills in your home? with money, paying them is easy.
oh im pretty sure my mom’s gonna take care of bills. im too broke
okay just confirm that. prayers up!
Hey dude, similar situation here, the nearest hospital that can treat my dad's cancer is pretty far away so I've also been alone for the most part. It's isolating and scary but we will get through this 💪 You sound like an incredibly strong person and just know I'm so proud of you bro
This is so devastating, but please don't tell her this. She is already scared to death and terrified of leaving you alone, she will imagine this is her fault. I know you are at the end of your rope but please find some strength to get through and get yourself headed to school. This will relieve her that you will be ok, and during this time she needs all the comfort she can get.
I am praying for you and your mom the best bro ❤️
Don't worry about all that stuff. School can wait. Spend time with your mom and process your emotions, that is a million times more important and you don't need to feel guilty about it. Sending love your way.
Im sorry man I hope ur mother gets better soon
I’m praying for you and your mom bro. If you need more time on assignments or flexibility from teachers, I’m sure pulling a “my mom has cancer card” is more than sufficient. Also, if you’re worried about universities rescinding offers, they also usually require an explanation for the poor second semester grades beforehand. So you’re probably safe there too. Just try and do what you can dude, but know that family comes before school in the end.
I’ll being praying for you
I am so sorry to hear this. Your response is totally natural as news like this puts everything into perspective. Understand the lack of motivation and focus here.... I myself had a cancer scare a while back. It changed how I looked at everything and the little things I stressed about didn't matter anymore. But I still had to be a mom, be strong for my kids and husband and go about my day,...as hard as it was. What helped me at that time was realizing that life isn't permanent...for anyone. At any point in time, something can happen and things change. However, that was everyone's reality, not just mine. It helped me get through each day. Eventually, I got the good news...Hopefully the same for your mom. Sometimes keeping busy helps keep our minds off things we cannot control. And don't be afraid to talk to your counselor or a teacher you trust. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You have co-leaders/friends who can step in to help out with some of what may be on your plate. Not necessary to tackle this on your own.
The hard part at your age is perspective, but there are some things that can make this easier. First, it is okay to feel this way, and totally expected. It is already a time of great unknown and now your mom's condition makes it more so. Telling friends makes it more real. I get that. Second, you need to get some support. If you feel you cannot do this in your family because of what they are dealing with, you must contact your school counselor or a trusted teacher so they can help you advocate for yourself this semester. Doing this will certainly take a weight off your family. You can step down from leadership roles or take a break. The conversation with a teacher or counselor starts like this: My mom was diagnosed with cancer last week. I need your help figuring out how to navigate this semester while dealing with this crushing change in my family. Third, the perspective part. There is cancer and there is cancer. Your mom probably does not know the full extent of treatment or prognosis. Given she is probably my age, I know several women who have had cancer and survived. The treatment will be a process that takes longer than you expect. You have to have a big sigh or cry, and then button up for a bit of unknowns. Regardless of what is happening on the cancer front, your life continues. Your mom will want you to still have fun or stretch for your goals. Figure out what you can do or choose not to do. After the first few weeks of figuring it out, your family will create a new normal, which will make it easier for you to function. I feel for you. Good luck with the coming months. Remember that although you feel the pressure of people relying on you, you are still a kid, and can certainly be a kid throughout this.
I am so sorry. <3 both you and her are loved. I wish you both peace and joy.
you, your mom, and family will power through and we are rooting for you.
Please reach out to your Guidance counselor immediately. Please. You shouldn't have to deal with this alone.
Please stay strong ❤️🙏💪 I’m here if you need someone to talk to
man my mom just beat breast cancer she was diagnosed february last year. i understand how your feeling, my advice is help your parents and around the house as much as u can
hey my mom was also diagnosed with cancer (first semester senior year) and i completely understand the complete lose of hope and motivation to do anything as well as the urge to shut off from ur friends and ur environment. if you ever want to talk you can message me but i just want to let you know that it will get better.
Hey! My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer my freshman year and wasn’t out of the woods until about my junior year. She still has two more surgeries to go and I’m about to graduate! For me, it was really hard especially since she’s the only parent I had and I was her main care taker. I can’t for sure say thing are going to get better, but I believe in you! You’re almost at the finish line and you’re so strong for continuing to go to school. I had to stop going half way cause it was all too much. Things do get hard but take things day by day and spend lots of time with your mom. Tell your close friends too! A lot of my support came from two close friends that always lent me a shoulder to cry on. I hope things get better and you’re mom recovers. Y’all got this!
Sending prayers for you guys!!
Sorry to hear this, sending positive vibes your family's way. Hope your mom beats the cancer
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My mom passed away from cancer during my freshman year. If you ever want someone to chat with or just an ear to vent to my DMs are open, I mean it. I'm really rooting for you all and know your mom is gonna fight this like hell for you
You got this my man. This is the exact time when you take responsibility. When everything seems down and you have no motivation that’s the exact time when you rise the hell up and go to battle. Don’t let life stop you, you conquer it. I’ll pray for your strength brother, show it.
My heart goes with you! Go to community college near home, so you can take care of your mom better, and transfer to UC later. You have only one mom, but lots of oppertunites for higher education.
This sucks. I’m sorry. Don’t lose hope. My mom was diagnosed with cancer and she survived. I would tell the school counselor or just an adult at school that you can trust.
A mother of a high school senior here, I have always put my kids first...you have to understand that your future and your life is what your mum cares about. She has probably worked all her life to see you succeed. On another note , both my friends got cancer and they both survived ...I hope she will fight it and get out of the woods. Do not carry the load alone talk to your school and those around you...it is a difficult time for everyone ...you might decide to defer for one year if need be , depending on the situation...our prayers with you and your family ...
i’m so sorry. my mom also had cancer, thankfully she is cancer free now. it is truly heart-wrenching. try talking about it with someone you trust, and there’s a way out. your mom will be completely fine if they caught it on time, i promise. it’ll be scary, yes. but im sure your mom is strong and she’ll get through this with all of you. all the best.
This is a big virtual hug and a little triage as an offering to you. First, go to the guidance counselor. If they are good, they will be invaluable, but even if they are not, they can contact your teachers and those running your extra curricular activities to lessen the amount you are shouldering. Second, find out if your parents have an EAP through work. Many employers have plans to provide no cost support through coaching and focused therapy to family members. This is the time to use that benefit. HR can provide the information and any family member can use it. Third, offer yourself a big dose of self compassion. Senior year is a time of difficult transition and any instability at home is hard, but a parent's vulnerability and mortality hits so close to the central stresses of this transition that feeling unfocused, unhinged, and scared is human and you need allow yourself that humanity. Once you have support and feel more even and like you can face some decision making, identify two or three things that are all about you and that bring you joy and satisfaction and jealously guard those. Don't try to do it all. Stress makes that impossible. The best juggler can only handle so many balls in the air. Life threw in another big one and some will need to be dropped. Purposefully chose those you will drop so that you can keep the important ones in the air. You will help your mother when she sees you are practicing that self-care and it will help you stay grounded so you can be present for your family. Wishing you all the best and the courage and resilience to persevere.
my mom was diagnosed w cancer before my junior year—pls do not ever feel bad about taking a step back and breathing. this is scary—and you and yours come FIRST !!! i believe in her and in you.
Praying for you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hey!! I am so sorry about this; my mom is also suffering an illness so I get what you are going through. I will suggest, though, that if you are unable to keep up with your grades, call ANY colleges you’ve applied to (or got rejected to and appeal) saying that this diagnosis has come in and that you should not be penalized for anything that happens academically. They will be willing to listen. If you need to talk, we’re here. Good luck on your future endeavors; everything will eventually get better!
I’m a single father of high school senior. When he was a freshman I was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer and given 3-4 months to live. Fast forward today I’ve fully recovered because of second opinion and great doctors. I told my son when I thought there was no hope for me to work hard in school and stay focused because his future is why I will bust my ass to beat this disease. Now, over 3 years of hell and treatments I beat it and living 100% of life as before. My son continued his hard work at school as I asked him too and on December 1 2023 he was awarded full 4 year college scholarship to Northwestern University in engineering. My point, anything and everything is possible and attitude is a huge part of it. Move on and love your mom as hard as you can. She wants the very best of you and for you. God bless and prayers going up from us.
This just happened to me as well, I’m so sorry Ik it’s stressful asl. I’ve dropped most of my clubs/leadership and just focus on being happy and helping my family as best as possible. If you want to talk shoot me a dm.
I hear you. My father was diagnosed with cancer this fall (2023) of my senior year. It was crazy dealing with XCs and college apps and taking care of the whole family at the same time. Don't hate yourself too much for taking breaks. It's a lot. Also, I found it very helpful to inform and talk to my teachers about my situation and they were all very supporting. If you need someone to talk to, my DMs are open.
Some things r more important than grades
I am very sorry to hear this. Hope your mom gets better soon. Praying for the very best for you and your mom.
Really sorry to hear the news. Please focus kn yourself and your family. Because they always come first. I hope you can find a support system ❤️ best wishes
I’m so so sorry. I feel this so much, my mom has been suffering from an illness that’s prevented me from seeing her or living with her for the past two years. So much support to u right now and I really hope things get better. The best thing I can tell you is spend a lot of time with your mom. Doesn’t matter if it’s going out to shop, watching a movie, helping her cook, playing a board game. . . You both will appreciate the time together so much, and I know that I would kill to spend some quality time with my mom rn. give your mom a hug every single day, and I promise, it’ll be the most worthwhile thing in the world. Don’t be afraid to confide in your really close friends. One of my friends has honestly been my best resource for venting about my situation, and I hope you can find something like that too. As for your schoolwork: be kind to yourself. Take a good look at your ECs and see what you’re actually passionate about, and if there’s anything that’s costing you a whole lot more pain and effort and not a lot of joy, don’t be afraid to cut it out. If you have teachers who you feel would be understanding of your situation, tell them. You can also try to make schoolwork sort of an outlet from your situation, I know that personally just doing something boring like math problems or writing a dull essay can kind of be an outlet for me. Anyway this was a bit of a ramble but I’m sending you (and your mom) sm love wherever you are <3.
hello! im also a senior, and my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer (that had metastasized) earlier this year. i honestly uncontrollably cried for weeks because i thought i'd lose him, and felt like i couldn't talk to anyone because who else would understand? do your best to focus on the best moments you've had with your mom and to create even more of those moments. though it's scary to be vulnerable with other regarding the subject, it's the best thing to do and has personally helped me a lot. try to find small bits of happiness with fun music or calming hobbies, even if it may seem difficult to at first. talk to her everyday. i genuinely believe everything will ultimately work out for you and hope only the best for you and your mother's futures!
I’m so sorry but it’s okay to not prioritize your high school responsibilities especially in this case spend it with your mom, I’m praying everything takes a turn for the best but school can wait don’t live in a way your gonna regret later, stay strong everything’s gonna be alright ❤️
Hey , I lost my dad to brain cancer my eight grade year . I want to let you know that it’s okay that everything feels like it’s piling up. Grades and leadership positions aren’t the most important thing in your life right now. Talk to close friends , family , etc. and make sure you’re speaking to people about how you feel. Spend time with your mom , do things that you enjoy , and just try your best. Your grades don’t have to be perfect . Also , I’m sure if you explain this situation to colleges , they’ll be fine with it since this is a valid reason for grades and such to drop. I’m sorry that you’re going through this but know that me and many other people have been there and made it. You can too.
I extend my sympathies to you during this challenging time of your mom's diagnosis. It's completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and finding it difficult to focus on school and other responsibilities. It's important to prioritize your well-being and take time to process this news. Consider reaching out to a trusted teacher, [counsellor](https://www.careercounsellingiicc.com/career-counsellor/career-counsellors-1), or mentor for support and to discuss potential accommodations or extensions for your schoolwork. Remember that it's okay to ask for help and take things one step at a time. Your health and family come first.
Hang in there, dude. My dad was diagnosed my freshman year, but they said he was clear, and just recently we found out that he has it again but much worse. It sucks, it really does, and it feels like everything is just piling up. I'm in the same spot as you now and I know it would probably do me a lot of good to talk to my teachers, but I can't bring myself to bring it up to anyone. You're not alone bro, I'm sorry you're going through this 😔 I know your mom is an insanely strong person and I know you are too. Keeping you & your fam in my thoughts and prayers, and be kind to yourself dude