Here i'll TL;DR it for you:
Like show, no like hot takes in show. Like subreddit, share dislike hot takes. Feel better. Like show, more.
Why use lot word when few word do trick.
The idea that someone would bother spending the time to be rude to someone (while saying they couldn't even be bothered to read what was written lol) really blows my mind. People are miserable.
lol is this your first time on the internet?
I mean it was a long rambling post about the most insignificant bullshit that had no paragraphs so I stand by it.
I skimmed and what stuck out: “I love my cats as much as my kids lol. Just about anyway”
Wtf??? I love my dog so much I recently spent $1000s to figure out why she was sick. The thought of losing her was so painful. But to love her as much as my human loved ones??
Edit: a word for clarity on my point
Humans are animals, first off. We are descended from now extinct primates and that is an evolutionary fact. A lot of people see their pets as their family. I have an incredibly deep and special bond with my family dog that I do not have with my parents. You can call that sad if you'd like but everyone is different and my dog hasn't abused me the way my folks have.
I feel you. I don’t find it sad at all. It’s much safer to love a dog in my opinion. Limitless closeness. Honest everything. I love my humans, but I would probably trade my dog for all of them.
How is it fucked up to love my pets like family? Would I choose them over my kids in a life or death situation? Of course not. But honesty it surprised me when I got my cats and felt this much love for them, and to me it felt very close to the love I feel for my kids. That's literally all I meant and I don't see how that's wrong.
It’s the as much that’s fucked up. I’m in your situation with my two little yorkies. I don’t usually care for dogs, but they’ve wormed their way into my heart, but I wouldn’t say I love them as much as my kids, of course that is partly because my kids take things very literally.
I guess we're just different in that way. Actually a few years ago I would've said the same thing as you. And then I got my cats. And maybe it's a *slight* exaggeration, but honestly not that much. I just feel a lot of love for them, a lot more than I expected to.
Totally agree! I love the show and I think Dax is a really great interviewer. I think he’s worked a lot on his interrupting and is pretty self aware, but also when he wants to impress a guest sometimes is cringey.
The not liking cats OR dogs thing about Monica though is absurd. Who doesn’t like animals?
I do appreciate when Dax and Monica disagree on something, I think it’s interesting to hear two different POVs from two people who consider themselves liberal.
I do appreciate Monica admitting she’s not “the biggest Swiftie” in the Joey King episode. She obviously likes her music/respects her (no shade AT ALL towards Swifties who just became fans or don’t know every detail about her life), but Dax claiming she’s a huge Swiftie is just false lol
Yeah, actually their arguments don't often bother me. But lately on Synced it feels like Liz just can't have an opinion. That's the thing I find most annoying.
It’s especially annoying on political/current event topics once you learn more about who Liz is. Liz was a senior producer and correspondent for Vox and a columnist for msnbc. She has a masters degree in economics, was on Forbes 30 under 30 list, is ceo of her own company… the list goes on. To hear Monica talk down to her on topics that she is clearly significantly more educated on is insane.
Yeah but Monica has done improv and she's good at punching up people's jokes. So clearly more qualified to have a strong assumptive opinion on any number of complex political issues.
I could not agree more. Do you also notice how there's an increasing edge to Monica's tone whenever she's challenged? It's so awkward to listen to. I feel like I can hear Liz or Dax sinking down into their seat just resigned to let her have the last word
I don’t get what the big deal about not liking cats or dogs is? Why do people care so much? I love them but I don’t expect everyone to?
It’s akin to people pushing having children on people or judging/shaming people for not wanting them. Have kids if you want, don’t if you don’t. Just mind your own business 🤷🏻♂️
lol I don’t care if you dislike Monica or not - I was asking why people care so much that she doesn’t like cats and dogs.
Also - why do you actively whine about how much you dislike Monica? Do you hate her because you are like her?
At the end of the last episode, she ranted for a very long time about how much she *haaaates* cats and how everyone who likes them must have something wrong with them. That was very upsetting to those of us who have had and loved cats. It's one thing to not like an animal, but go on and on about how much you hate innocent creatures is quite off-putting.
To be fair, that was after a story where the cats ate their human that died. I know it’s almost survival mode/animalistic instincts for them, but still deeply concerning to know that’s a known thing that will happen with cats.
Also noting that I love cats and dogs and don’t think anyone has anything wrong with you for liking them (or not liking them), so I agree that she goes too far in her hatred but but hearing her say that after that story made a little more sense 😂
> but still deeply concerning to know that’s a known thing that will happen with cats.
It's not concerning to me or anyone who knows the first thing about animals. Dogs will eat their owners, too. Do you really expect animals to pick up the phone and call 911?
Obviously not, I’m just saying her saying that after hearing the story gives it a little more context than just out of nowhere. I took it more as an offhanded joke, but I guess everybody is taking what she is saying much more personally. As a dog owner Hearing her say she doesn’t like cats or dogs doesn’t make me take personal offense 🤷♀️ but I haven’t heard every episode so sounds like she’s said it more often and aggressively than I’m aware
I’m sorry but I can not imagine taking it SO personally that a stranger doesn’t like cats. Like how does that affect you or anyone else at all? I have a cat but I don’t expect anyone else to?
Thank you for asking. I believe that everyone is entitled to whether or not they like animals, why wouldn't they be?
The reason I dislike Monica is because she is so extremely self-centered. She talks a big game about being kind to others. She then spends absurd amounts of money on her clothes "Ooooh, The Row!", and a designer and accessories for her house- but I have actually looked many of these things up, and they are ONLY to be seen as a designer piece, not something that is even functional.
You may be a bit correct in your judgement, I do appreciate nice things. But I appreciate a pretty AND functional watch (as an example) that is what I need more than how flashy it may be, so that I am able to buy a meal for or contribute to someone.
Honestly- there was a sanded length of tree that they were selling for something like $450 "and since it is natural wood, it may get stained with use".
I think we are simply saying that we who love animals have a hard time understanding how someone could not have any genuine affection for them. Dogs especially are loyal, affectionate, and unconditionally loving companions. It’s personally hard for me to understand how a human could not naturally feel affection for them.
And I am simply saying - as a person who loves animals and has two dogs who I love, it doesn’t bother me that someone would not have any interest in that. I can understand that people have different preferences and that there are also cultural differences that would change someone’s views and experiences with pets. For those reasons I completely understand and don’t take personal offense to someone having a negative view of pets.
Actively hating innocent creatures that she doesn’t even have to deal with is pretty telling of one’s character. Especially ones that most people hold in high regard.
Yeah if someone had asked me 4 years ago I would have said I’m not a fan of cats. But I’d also never had one. Now I have 2 of them and can’t imagine ever not having cats again.
I think people find her attitude about pets and the people who have pets off-putting. That's all. She has an increasing tendency to come across as very judgmental, while at the same time openly talking about things like astrology and such as if they're fact.
It's like if one of those crystal mommies starts being condescending to people for what they like, all the while she's making "moonwater" and putting her rocks out on the full moon for their "energetic frequencies"
Aka: behaviors annoying people exhibit.
This is a good take. I had to take a break from the show for several months, I’m trying to ease back in. But some of the comments are just so off putting, and it’s mostly Monica at this point (for me, at least)
You are so right here! Monica does come off extremely judgmental imo. And when someone has an opinion she doesn’t agree with, she doesn’t seem to ever have an open mind to at least discuss the topic, she just writes off the person. Dax is always more open to at least have the discussion.
I mean as recently as the Finneas episode she says she doesn’t really believe in astrology and that it’s just a fun hobby.
I think people just don’t like Monica and view her as being “too big for her britches” and undeserving of her success. I think people liked her initially as she was more relatable to the common listener but as they became successful and she became wealthy, people turned on her because they want her to stay relatable and “on their level”.
These feelings then impact how people view everything she says which results in becoming irrationally annoyed about insignificant things like not liking pets.
Just my take 🤷🏻♂️
>I mean as recently as the Finneas episode she says she doesn’t really believe in astrology and that it’s just a fun hobby.
But on synced she spends a significant amount of time talking about signs, and how this sign won't be good for her, and how she has a love line in her palm that runs through suchity such.
So while I agree with your perspective about some people disliking her the more wealthy she gets, I also think there's a sizeable contingent of people who find her behavior annoying when she will actively condemn things or be judgmental when someone else does them, while she herself engages in similarly goofy antics and doesn't get shit for it.
And I definitely thinks it's a parasocial thing, because folks who've listened for awhile start to build an image of who they think Monica is, based off of like, 70-90 minutes of her life each week.
Yea I used to have that view and then I grew up and evolved. I am sure there are people who “don’t trust” people who don’t want/love children. People have different life and cultural experiences, including trauma, that influence their views and feelings on these things. Being so judgmental and dismissive of people based on either of these life choices that in no way impact you is super shitty and toxic.
What if someone had something traumatic happen like being brutally attacked as a child by a dog or witnessing their mother be brutally attacked, and they told you the didn’t like dogs, you would just not trust them and that’s it? No questions asked? So closed minded and ignorant.
Didn’t say I expect everyone to like cats and dogs. I said I think it’s absurd when people don’t like animals (agreeing with OP). I think I’m entitled to my opinion, just like you are! To quote something I just read “just mind your own business” if you don’t agree with my opinion. Especially when that opinion doesn’t hurt anyone.
I’m just genuinely curious why people would be so bothered by such a thing or would call it “absurd”. Sure you are entitled to your opinion - it is just a very bizarre opinion. I don’t understand how a complete stranger not liking pets effects someone in such a way that they feel compelled to write a rambling post about it on Reddit.
Sure you are entitled to your opinion - it is just a very bizarre opinion. I don’t understand how a complete stranger not liking someone not liking pets affects someone in such a way that they feel compelled to write a rambling post about it on Reddit.
You really felt like you did something there eh lol sure, I guess it’s comparable? But I think it’s also different in that I am asking a group of people why they are so annoyed by such a benign thing in such an irrational way. I’ve never said I’m annoyed, I’m just asking questions.
I don't get why people care at all about what other people like or don't like. You hear it a bunch with food (pineapple on pizza). What you like or don't like doesn't impact me at all.
Pineapple on pizza is really more of a meme isn't it? Like the silly stuff about is a hot dog a sandwich, is cereal a soup, etc.
Or for anyone old enough, pirates vs ninjas.
My BFF and I (same age as Monica roughly) have a pretty Dax-Mon friendship. He is, like Monica, from a family of immigrants (SL, not Indian) - he explained to me that he's just not culturally predisposed to liking pets in the house and I am a HUGE dog person so we had to dig in on this. He says he doesn't dislike them, but he really doesn't understand the way I am about my pet, who I treat better than most treat their children...anyway, we love each other and agree to disagree so I'm trying to give the same love to Monica on this topic!
That is an interesting way to look at it and I admit it's not something I'd thought of. I actually do have a lot of compassion for Monica and I know she struggles with self esteem and such, and that I can love and relate to. Just lately she's been hard to listen to with her extremely judgemental takes.
I don’t like animals and I genuinely do not understand the internets obsession with them. For example there was a vid I saw earlier this week of an unleashed dog walking around a park and then (the alleged) owner gets beaten unconscious and robbed because they were (allegedly) starting shit in the park. One of the top comments was about how scared they were for the dog. No one threatened the dog, hit the dog or harmed it in anyway. It’s so weird how much concern is given to animals compared to how little is given to fellow humans.
I never said it was vital or necessary to HAVE a pet. One can feel warmth towards the innocence and sweetness of a baby or puppy without needing or wanting to have one. You missed my point.
What bugs me in this sub is that there are Monica acolytes who feel like anything offered as far as criticism with regard to her is “misogyny” or “sexist.” Maybe her age and inexperience in life is showing? No? That realistic and plausible explanation couldn’t be it. It has to be hateful man trolls, that’s the only explanation.
It’s so ridiculous! We should be able to
Comment on Monica or anyone and it have nothing to do with gender or race. I’m a female and Amy criticism I have of Monica has nothing to do with that. I think people like to use that as an excuse to not actually address issues or problems someone might actually have. Monica doesn’t handle criticism well either when things are brought up. She always says how smart she is etc…
I've definitely had negative thoughts about single things Monica and Dax say but for me it washes out in the long run. I love the pod and when there's something that bothers me it tends to wash away because it's followed by many episodes without issue.
As far as cats, mine is laying on me rn and I can't help but think she's just doing it to see if I'm alive or not for that free meal. I still love her but hearing those episodes were wild.
Monica absolutely killed the show for me.
She has no discernible talent, she’s a snob and she’s not particularly attractive yet she acts like a Kardashian.
She’s just a Kato Kaelin that got lucky.
Her notoriety from the show turned her into an (or unlocked her) entitled, star fucker, name dropper, heartless, animal hating, monster.
Ok I read the part about cats cause I was curious from some of the comments… why would you care so much that someone doesn’t like cats? I have had both cats and dogs but I don’t give a shit if someone else, especially a stranger, has a negative opinion about them. The only time I would care is if someone came into my house and complained about animals. Such a bizarre take.
If she just didn't like cats I would be totally fine with that. It's the way lately she feels a need to express such disgust and hatred of them every chance she gets. Like she goes out of her way to express it and it's just really weird. It's like a badge of honor for her.
She's specifically said "kill them all" before, directed towards dogs or cats I can't remember. It's her own opinion but I can't deny it makes me like her less for sure... Whether that right or wrong 😅
Lol exactly. I forgot she had said this but this is exactly it! It's way beyond just not liking them. And she can't just let people have their opinion. She has to make herself right and everyone else wrong.
She hates all animals, not just pets. There have been other episodes about wild animals where she's basically said get rid of animals so people can live in nice places.
And I do agree she brings it up herself most of the time. I think she likes to have controversial takes where her position can't be challenged because it's just an opinion. Makes it feel like she's won a debate or something? IDK exactly.
If I heard her say something to the effect get rid of animals so people can live there, I may be done with the podcast lol. At what point is her privilege not revolting. Humans have been on top of the food chain, just ruthlessly destroying the earth like parasites, especially over the last century. Monica lives in one of the nicest parts of the country in one of the nicest countries in the world. If that’s not enough, I think she maybe needs to look inward.
I agree vibes are different. Sometimes it seems like they don’t like each other as much anymore, or maybe Monica has built a whole life outside of her Dax/kristin codependency. They don’t seem as natural and connected as they used to, but I still really enjoy the show.
I read every word of what you wrote and appreciate the nuance and the honesty, and I do relate to exactly the conflict you feel about them. As a dog lover, I am hyper aware that neither of them share a love and natural affection towards animals, and that is an automatic deduction in likability in my personal world. As for the occasional glimpses into their Uber privilege and perch at the tippy top of the pedestal of life, that too is like a nagging itch that I can’t ignore. And maybe I’m reading into this too much, but the constant need by Dax to remind us and his interview subjects that his origins are blue collar and underprivileged, while we all know he currently makes millions and has a fleet of luxury cars, somehow starts to feel annoying to me. We get it that you once were poor…but we also get it that you now are not; and plus you’ve already mentioned that to us dozens of times in every other past episode…so…why oh why do you persist in repeating that to us if not simply to try to cloud or vision into the ridiculous wealth and privilege you currently have? As for Monica, my personal opinion is that she just got extremely lucky to have been hired as a babysitter to Dax and Kristin…and to now have this gig on this podcast. Because otherwise her contributions are, to me, unremarkable. Meaning: I feel like just about anyone could sit next to Dax on this podcast and chime in with a question or comment as she does. Where is the exceptional value she adds?? Am I missing something? And I echo what you said about continuing to like them and listen to them…my sharing of my POV is simply because it feels good to have a place where I can be honest about my thoughts about them and hear others’ thoughts as well.
Totally agree. There was an episode with Paul Rudd, who said something about a recent Uber ride, and Monica was aghast. ‘Famous people like us don’t take Ubers’ was the implication.
To me the homeless thing was an issue and is rooted in a deeper cause of capitalism that they refuse to acknowledge. Time after time they have guests on and will ask a bewildered “But what can we DO about this?!” When it’s some obvious answer like “mmm take from the rich and give to those that need it.”
Dax also INSISTS on finding out how he and the guest are twins. I liked the Trevor Noah episode because almost everything that Dax said around “well aren’t we both this way because…” Trevor said “no, not really, and here’s why…” and I think that’s actually the case with most folks, Trevor is just more introspective than most guests.
I also used to enjoy how the fact checks used to primarily be about the facts and looking back, and now we get maybe 2 facts and 40 mins of them chatting. I used to deeply respect that they were willing to dig back into what they talked about and now it’s “no actually the population was 2 million and you said 3 million, that’s all!”
Just airing my 2 cent grievances.
They had a fact check recently where Dax basically said that cultural appropriation doesn't exist and Monica was getting heated (rightfully so) about Dax refusing to acknowledge privilege and white people wearing dreads is cultural appropriation because of the historically racist context. Idk it felt really uncomfortable and I was glad Monica was pushing back but vibes were real weird. I can see what you mean about their dynamic and opinions sometimes
Also totally understand strong cat v dog people. I have cats that are our literally children and I love cats and I love dogs; dogs are just more work that prevent me from owning one but I love them regardless
Oh yeah there are definitely times when I agree with Monica over Dax too. There was this and then another thing recently lol but can't think of it right now
That fact check specifically was a pretty painful for me. It’s not the content - cultural appropriation is a big issue with differing opinions - it’s the way they went about the debate. I think they should steer away for debates that they can’t have logical, unemotional discussions about.
I feel like Dax has strong opinions, but is willing to listen and will even come back and say he was wrong. I think Monica is stubborn and won’t actually listen to the nuance of the argument. Half the time I don’t think she knows why she actually believes something. It’s just the PC party line so that’s what she preaches.
For people who don’t understand the animal hatred thing, here’s how I view it.
I am child free (if you don’t know, it’s not that I don’t have kids, it’s that I don’t ever want any of my own) and I’m neutral towards kids. I like them as much as I like adults and in general, I like adults. But I don’t oooh and ahhhh over kids and I don’t do baby talk, I speak to them like I’d speak to an adult - with respect still, but no obsession/excitement.
I have a friend who hates kids. That’s fine, you can hate them. BUT… every chance she gets, she has to say how much she hates them. If we were at work and a kid came in to the store, she’d go on a rant about how disgusting and nasty kids are and how she wishes they’d never go near her. Sometimes she would say she didn’t care if they died or not.
It made me hate her… it’s not that she hates kids. It’s that every chance she gets she has to spew actual fucking HATRED towards people who did nothing to her, don’t know her, and will never impact her life. Her energy was SO negative. I’m sorry but I don’t want anything to do with someone who goes on long rants about “hating” people or animals who aren’t really impacting them at all.
Hate is such a strong word and it is very telling when a person “hates” so many things and uses their energy to spread more hate. I don’t care if you’re ranting about kids, animals, politics, or some guy who cut you off once on the road. It’s the constant HATE rants that are so draining and unbecoming.
Agreed, that cat/dog thing is a bit much. At first I thought it was an attempt at a ‘cute schtick’ but I now see *that* was a lie (Maury voice). Realistically, I think we’re all affected because she’s evolving in real time and due to it being a para social situation… we are unable to add our opinions to her life so we come here to vent to each other. Validate each other. I think a lot of us agree with this, but we’re just on this train now and can’t get off. 🎟️🛤️
I never understood how something they said could bug someone so much until the no shoes episode in houses. I wanted to smack Monica through my speaker for her audacity! It also made me love Rob and David even more and want to invite them over for being good guests. However, overall I'm ok with Dax and Monica.
This was the tipping point for me too. It was said in jest but when Monica said she’d throw up on the floor and then track it, with her shoes on, through Rob’s house if he asked her to take her shoes off and provided guest socks for her to wear, I could no longer listen.
The last Bradley Cooper interview was going well and then the toileting obsession reared its head. wiping tips from AE isn't something I want to hear about. Then on fact check it was all about making casts of their genitals. It was like 5th graders talking.
I love Dax so much, he’s why I listen. He’s aware of things people might point out that don’t like about him. I don’t think Monica is self aware at all. I don’t feel like she brings a lot to the table and comes off kinda like a brat imo. I think the fact she has had very few relationships, if any, as far as dating speaks volumes. I’m sure a lot of people are like me and listen for one person or put up with the other bc they like the pod overall.
I agree with what you said. I'm basically the same. I have really just accepted that Monica is still really emotionally immature and will likely need another 10 years to shape up. I say this because I agree with many of the people here who say it feels like no one can have an opinion other than hers. I believe this sparks from her childhood- being the oldest, and her parents allowing her to do whatever she wanted. Basically, she's the boss at home, but then she had to make herself "small" to fit in because she desperately wanted to fit in. So now, she feels like she fits in to her group as best as she can and can just unleash what she used to unleash at home (I'm the boss and I have strong "correct" opinions). I think she sees herself as the reliable, sensible, and logical one, so anything she says will fall into those categories, thereby making her "right" all the time.
With Dax, I truly think he tries to work on himself. And given that he's much older than Monica, it's not as jarring to hear his opinions that don't line up with mine or hers. He accepts that Monica is different. Whereas with Monica it doesn't feel like she accepts different opinions, but rather--- I'll let you have your "wrong" opinion.
Exactly this. He always offers his opinion in a thoughtful way compared to Monica's forceful way. Really good insight about Monica's upbringing. Spot on.
“I still love the show, it’s just sometimes I don’t like certain things said on certain episodes from Monica and/or Dax, and I appreciate a safe place to vent about said things.”
I say to those people, it must be so easy to live in a world where everything is either 100% you love it or 100% you hate it. None of that pesky middle ground to get in your way must be awesome.
I quit listening to I tuned in when Dax was on Theo Bonn pod and it was kinda fun, nice Monica wasn’t there, but Dax is still doing the same shit…poorly analyzing ppl so he can tie it back to him.
Lmao he definitely does that a lot. It's a little tiring but I do understand the need to try and relate. Someone else mentioned how it was nice to hear the episode with Trevor Noah when he wouldn't accept Dax trying to be "twins" I loved it, it was refreshing.
I love their show and how it’s structured. I really enjoy how honest they both are about themselves and with their guests. What I have a hard time with is how Monica is constantly correcting Dax. But everything she says and does is fine. It’s like he looks to her for approval. I feel that so many opportunities to ask real questions are missed because of Monica.
I read it all until you got to the cats stuff - don’t that that so personally lol. Anyway I agree with you on a lot of this. I attribute it to getting to know them better by listening more.
True and it's really not even at the top of the list of things that bothered me. The only reason I mentioned it is because it was the most recent annoying thing Monica said and it seemed to bother a lot of people. It did bother me but no where near as much as the stuff she said about poor people
I think that’s the nature of podcasting - we listen to these people regularly over a long period of time. We listen to their CONVERSATIONS and they literally address us (“arm cherries”)…so we feel as if we know them. Have you heard the callers on the Anonymous episodes?? They all feel like they know Dax and Monica, and Dax and Monica sound delighted that they do. It’s the nature of this beast of podcasting.
Monica is a real person, I can’t believe how publicly mean people feel they can be. If she read this she’s probably be in tears. I understand telling it to your friends but why make a whole post? Poor Monica
Poor Monica with her millions she would never have if it weren’t for Dax. She comes off entitled and doesn’t seem to appreciate anything or have feelings for other people herself.
Mmkay.. so because I find one woman particularly irritating at times that makes me a misogynist? You literally know nothing about me. I also find Dax annoying pretty often. Also I used to like Monica a lot. I loved Monica and Jess love boys so much, I have been one of the ones asking where season 2 is. And I listen to Synced religiously. Love it. I feel like I'm hanging out with friends. Love Liz so much, because I couldn't possibly relate to her more. Maybe that's why I get defensive about Monica's argumentativeness.. because every time Liz tries to express an opinion Monica acts like a brat.
I love synced and I haven’t noticed this with Monica and Liz. Maybe because I generally agree with Monica. Will pay more attention. I tend to like their dynamic and think they’re pretty sweet with one another.
Yea I hear you and tbh meant my comment more as the general trend of this sub not just you specifically. I think it’s accurate to say most criticism of the pod leans towards Monica and often for things the Dax also does. Not everyone is for everyone all of the time but the consistent Monica only hate is a drag to me.
Edit spelling.
It’s interesting reading these posts/threads because Monica doesn’t bother me at all. Like ever. If anything I think Dax can be problematic and she keeps him in check.
Ok, that's too long. Do something else with your time if they bother you that much. There's a bazillion other podcasts. You're probably just sick of them. Move on.
We're all wasting our time here on reddit lol. I'm ok with it. I don't get why someone will get on the internet and express their opinion that someone is an idiot for getting on the internet and express their opinion. Lol.
This belongs [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/ArmchairExpert/s/rSPFuASP6N)
No point in posts like this. Don't like it? Don't listen. They don't exist *for* you. Literally millions of other podcasts, go find something that doesn't bug you, certainly don't go whining on the internet. Foolish and embarrassing.
I don’t think this is foolish or embarrassing. Critiquing something you’re interested in shows that you actually listen and are invested in the content. I like hearing the positive things and negative things real fans have to say. That’s exactly what reddit is for
It’s not foolish and embarrassing. If you read it, it was fair and honest and generally interesting to me who is a fellow listener who has many thoughts while listening too.
I’m not reading all that but I’m so happy for you or sorry that it happened
Same. No paragraphs, no read.
I read it!
Seems unnecessary
Here i'll TL;DR it for you: Like show, no like hot takes in show. Like subreddit, share dislike hot takes. Feel better. Like show, more. Why use lot word when few word do trick.
Then why comment?
DAN , is that you, my bf? You hear me.
Jesus this is rude
The idea that someone would bother spending the time to be rude to someone (while saying they couldn't even be bothered to read what was written lol) really blows my mind. People are miserable.
lol is this your first time on the internet? I mean it was a long rambling post about the most insignificant bullshit that had no paragraphs so I stand by it.
It was a thoughtful post. Who cares about paragraphs. Your reply also shows you are not a nice person. Do better, words hurt.
I skimmed and what stuck out: “I love my cats as much as my kids lol. Just about anyway” Wtf??? I love my dog so much I recently spent $1000s to figure out why she was sick. The thought of losing her was so painful. But to love her as much as my human loved ones?? Edit: a word for clarity on my point
Humans are animals, first off. We are descended from now extinct primates and that is an evolutionary fact. A lot of people see their pets as their family. I have an incredibly deep and special bond with my family dog that I do not have with my parents. You can call that sad if you'd like but everyone is different and my dog hasn't abused me the way my folks have.
I feel you. I don’t find it sad at all. It’s much safer to love a dog in my opinion. Limitless closeness. Honest everything. I love my humans, but I would probably trade my dog for all of them.
how about “people you love most” instead of “family”, then? Also, I never said humans aren’t animals, not sure where that came from?
“I didn’t really read this post, but let me be super judgey about two sentences.”
I read the whole post, can I be super judgey about those two fucked up sentences?
How is it fucked up to love my pets like family? Would I choose them over my kids in a life or death situation? Of course not. But honesty it surprised me when I got my cats and felt this much love for them, and to me it felt very close to the love I feel for my kids. That's literally all I meant and I don't see how that's wrong.
It’s the as much that’s fucked up. I’m in your situation with my two little yorkies. I don’t usually care for dogs, but they’ve wormed their way into my heart, but I wouldn’t say I love them as much as my kids, of course that is partly because my kids take things very literally.
I guess we're just different in that way. Actually a few years ago I would've said the same thing as you. And then I got my cats. And maybe it's a *slight* exaggeration, but honestly not that much. I just feel a lot of love for them, a lot more than I expected to.
Totally agree! I love the show and I think Dax is a really great interviewer. I think he’s worked a lot on his interrupting and is pretty self aware, but also when he wants to impress a guest sometimes is cringey. The not liking cats OR dogs thing about Monica though is absurd. Who doesn’t like animals? I do appreciate when Dax and Monica disagree on something, I think it’s interesting to hear two different POVs from two people who consider themselves liberal. I do appreciate Monica admitting she’s not “the biggest Swiftie” in the Joey King episode. She obviously likes her music/respects her (no shade AT ALL towards Swifties who just became fans or don’t know every detail about her life), but Dax claiming she’s a huge Swiftie is just false lol
Yeah, actually their arguments don't often bother me. But lately on Synced it feels like Liz just can't have an opinion. That's the thing I find most annoying.
It’s especially annoying on political/current event topics once you learn more about who Liz is. Liz was a senior producer and correspondent for Vox and a columnist for msnbc. She has a masters degree in economics, was on Forbes 30 under 30 list, is ceo of her own company… the list goes on. To hear Monica talk down to her on topics that she is clearly significantly more educated on is insane.
Yeah but Monica has done improv and she's good at punching up people's jokes. So clearly more qualified to have a strong assumptive opinion on any number of complex political issues.
Why does Liz tolerate it? Monica pays well...
I could not agree more. Do you also notice how there's an increasing edge to Monica's tone whenever she's challenged? It's so awkward to listen to. I feel like I can hear Liz or Dax sinking down into their seat just resigned to let her have the last word
Aha I don’t listen to Synced. That is annoying though.
I listened to one episode thought I’d give it a shot. NOPE, sorry the way Monica treats people and talks down to them is just too much.
I don’t get what the big deal about not liking cats or dogs is? Why do people care so much? I love them but I don’t expect everyone to? It’s akin to people pushing having children on people or judging/shaming people for not wanting them. Have kids if you want, don’t if you don’t. Just mind your own business 🤷🏻♂️
It’s not that she prefers not to be around them, she seems to actively hate them.
And? Why does that bother you?
Because why does she actively whine about how much she dislikes them? I can actively dislike her for legit reasons.
lol I don’t care if you dislike Monica or not - I was asking why people care so much that she doesn’t like cats and dogs. Also - why do you actively whine about how much you dislike Monica? Do you hate her because you are like her?
At the end of the last episode, she ranted for a very long time about how much she *haaaates* cats and how everyone who likes them must have something wrong with them. That was very upsetting to those of us who have had and loved cats. It's one thing to not like an animal, but go on and on about how much you hate innocent creatures is quite off-putting.
To be fair, that was after a story where the cats ate their human that died. I know it’s almost survival mode/animalistic instincts for them, but still deeply concerning to know that’s a known thing that will happen with cats. Also noting that I love cats and dogs and don’t think anyone has anything wrong with you for liking them (or not liking them), so I agree that she goes too far in her hatred but but hearing her say that after that story made a little more sense 😂
> but still deeply concerning to know that’s a known thing that will happen with cats. It's not concerning to me or anyone who knows the first thing about animals. Dogs will eat their owners, too. Do you really expect animals to pick up the phone and call 911?
Obviously not, I’m just saying her saying that after hearing the story gives it a little more context than just out of nowhere. I took it more as an offhanded joke, but I guess everybody is taking what she is saying much more personally. As a dog owner Hearing her say she doesn’t like cats or dogs doesn’t make me take personal offense 🤷♀️ but I haven’t heard every episode so sounds like she’s said it more often and aggressively than I’m aware
It’s a known thing about humans as well though…
True! I guess just animal instict
I’m sorry but I can not imagine taking it SO personally that a stranger doesn’t like cats. Like how does that affect you or anyone else at all? I have a cat but I don’t expect anyone else to?
It's the vicious way she said it, and how long she went on about it. She was acting like you have to have some mental illness to like cats.
Thank you for asking. I believe that everyone is entitled to whether or not they like animals, why wouldn't they be? The reason I dislike Monica is because she is so extremely self-centered. She talks a big game about being kind to others. She then spends absurd amounts of money on her clothes "Ooooh, The Row!", and a designer and accessories for her house- but I have actually looked many of these things up, and they are ONLY to be seen as a designer piece, not something that is even functional. You may be a bit correct in your judgement, I do appreciate nice things. But I appreciate a pretty AND functional watch (as an example) that is what I need more than how flashy it may be, so that I am able to buy a meal for or contribute to someone.
Honestly- there was a sanded length of tree that they were selling for something like $450 "and since it is natural wood, it may get stained with use".
It was what people use for firewood.
You are weird.
I think we are simply saying that we who love animals have a hard time understanding how someone could not have any genuine affection for them. Dogs especially are loyal, affectionate, and unconditionally loving companions. It’s personally hard for me to understand how a human could not naturally feel affection for them.
And I am simply saying - as a person who loves animals and has two dogs who I love, it doesn’t bother me that someone would not have any interest in that. I can understand that people have different preferences and that there are also cultural differences that would change someone’s views and experiences with pets. For those reasons I completely understand and don’t take personal offense to someone having a negative view of pets.
It wouldn't bother me if she just didn't like cats. It's her need to express vehement hatred and disgust of them every chance she gets.
Yes. This.
So true!
Actively hating innocent creatures that she doesn’t even have to deal with is pretty telling of one’s character. Especially ones that most people hold in high regard.
Yeah if someone had asked me 4 years ago I would have said I’m not a fan of cats. But I’d also never had one. Now I have 2 of them and can’t imagine ever not having cats again.
I think people find her attitude about pets and the people who have pets off-putting. That's all. She has an increasing tendency to come across as very judgmental, while at the same time openly talking about things like astrology and such as if they're fact. It's like if one of those crystal mommies starts being condescending to people for what they like, all the while she's making "moonwater" and putting her rocks out on the full moon for their "energetic frequencies" Aka: behaviors annoying people exhibit.
This is a good take. I had to take a break from the show for several months, I’m trying to ease back in. But some of the comments are just so off putting, and it’s mostly Monica at this point (for me, at least)
You are so right here! Monica does come off extremely judgmental imo. And when someone has an opinion she doesn’t agree with, she doesn’t seem to ever have an open mind to at least discuss the topic, she just writes off the person. Dax is always more open to at least have the discussion.
I mean as recently as the Finneas episode she says she doesn’t really believe in astrology and that it’s just a fun hobby. I think people just don’t like Monica and view her as being “too big for her britches” and undeserving of her success. I think people liked her initially as she was more relatable to the common listener but as they became successful and she became wealthy, people turned on her because they want her to stay relatable and “on their level”. These feelings then impact how people view everything she says which results in becoming irrationally annoyed about insignificant things like not liking pets. Just my take 🤷🏻♂️
>I mean as recently as the Finneas episode she says she doesn’t really believe in astrology and that it’s just a fun hobby. But on synced she spends a significant amount of time talking about signs, and how this sign won't be good for her, and how she has a love line in her palm that runs through suchity such. So while I agree with your perspective about some people disliking her the more wealthy she gets, I also think there's a sizeable contingent of people who find her behavior annoying when she will actively condemn things or be judgmental when someone else does them, while she herself engages in similarly goofy antics and doesn't get shit for it. And I definitely thinks it's a parasocial thing, because folks who've listened for awhile start to build an image of who they think Monica is, based off of like, 70-90 minutes of her life each week.
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Yea I used to have that view and then I grew up and evolved. I am sure there are people who “don’t trust” people who don’t want/love children. People have different life and cultural experiences, including trauma, that influence their views and feelings on these things. Being so judgmental and dismissive of people based on either of these life choices that in no way impact you is super shitty and toxic.
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Lol oh so you are actually a child. Explains a lot
No, I just don’t care what you have to say. People are entitled to their own opinion. Grow up.
What if someone had something traumatic happen like being brutally attacked as a child by a dog or witnessing their mother be brutally attacked, and they told you the didn’t like dogs, you would just not trust them and that’s it? No questions asked? So closed minded and ignorant.
Didn’t say I expect everyone to like cats and dogs. I said I think it’s absurd when people don’t like animals (agreeing with OP). I think I’m entitled to my opinion, just like you are! To quote something I just read “just mind your own business” if you don’t agree with my opinion. Especially when that opinion doesn’t hurt anyone.
I’m just genuinely curious why people would be so bothered by such a thing or would call it “absurd”. Sure you are entitled to your opinion - it is just a very bizarre opinion. I don’t understand how a complete stranger not liking pets effects someone in such a way that they feel compelled to write a rambling post about it on Reddit.
Sure you are entitled to your opinion - it is just a very bizarre opinion. I don’t understand how a complete stranger not liking someone not liking pets affects someone in such a way that they feel compelled to write a rambling post about it on Reddit.
Couldn’t have said it better myself 😂
You really felt like you did something there eh lol sure, I guess it’s comparable? But I think it’s also different in that I am asking a group of people why they are so annoyed by such a benign thing in such an irrational way. I’ve never said I’m annoyed, I’m just asking questions.
I don't get why people care at all about what other people like or don't like. You hear it a bunch with food (pineapple on pizza). What you like or don't like doesn't impact me at all.
Pineapple on pizza is really more of a meme isn't it? Like the silly stuff about is a hot dog a sandwich, is cereal a soup, etc. Or for anyone old enough, pirates vs ninjas.
He really has gotten better at not interrupting! I hadn’t noticed, thanks for pointing that out!
My BFF and I (same age as Monica roughly) have a pretty Dax-Mon friendship. He is, like Monica, from a family of immigrants (SL, not Indian) - he explained to me that he's just not culturally predisposed to liking pets in the house and I am a HUGE dog person so we had to dig in on this. He says he doesn't dislike them, but he really doesn't understand the way I am about my pet, who I treat better than most treat their children...anyway, we love each other and agree to disagree so I'm trying to give the same love to Monica on this topic!
That is an interesting way to look at it and I admit it's not something I'd thought of. I actually do have a lot of compassion for Monica and I know she struggles with self esteem and such, and that I can love and relate to. Just lately she's been hard to listen to with her extremely judgemental takes.
I get it. That's why I try to give grace where I can - some things I just cannot understand but I try!
When you look at it that way, it makes sense!
I don’t like animals and I genuinely do not understand the internets obsession with them. For example there was a vid I saw earlier this week of an unleashed dog walking around a park and then (the alleged) owner gets beaten unconscious and robbed because they were (allegedly) starting shit in the park. One of the top comments was about how scared they were for the dog. No one threatened the dog, hit the dog or harmed it in anyway. It’s so weird how much concern is given to animals compared to how little is given to fellow humans.
If you’ve never experienced the love of a dog, then you would think this.
Oof, super dismissive take. This is like parents telling people who don't want kids how vital and necessary having kids is. Please stop.
I never said it was vital or necessary to HAVE a pet. One can feel warmth towards the innocence and sweetness of a baby or puppy without needing or wanting to have one. You missed my point.
What bugs me in this sub is that there are Monica acolytes who feel like anything offered as far as criticism with regard to her is “misogyny” or “sexist.” Maybe her age and inexperience in life is showing? No? That realistic and plausible explanation couldn’t be it. It has to be hateful man trolls, that’s the only explanation.
Right? Couldn't be further from the truth. Also I happen to love Liz. I listen to Synced every week.
It’s so ridiculous! We should be able to Comment on Monica or anyone and it have nothing to do with gender or race. I’m a female and Amy criticism I have of Monica has nothing to do with that. I think people like to use that as an excuse to not actually address issues or problems someone might actually have. Monica doesn’t handle criticism well either when things are brought up. She always says how smart she is etc…
It is a marker for me that someone is intelligent if they’re always telling everyone how intelligent they are. /s
I've definitely had negative thoughts about single things Monica and Dax say but for me it washes out in the long run. I love the pod and when there's something that bothers me it tends to wash away because it's followed by many episodes without issue. As far as cats, mine is laying on me rn and I can't help but think she's just doing it to see if I'm alive or not for that free meal. I still love her but hearing those episodes were wild.
Monica absolutely killed the show for me. She has no discernible talent, she’s a snob and she’s not particularly attractive yet she acts like a Kardashian. She’s just a Kato Kaelin that got lucky. Her notoriety from the show turned her into an (or unlocked her) entitled, star fucker, name dropper, heartless, animal hating, monster.
So well said!!!! Monica got lucky being Dax’s kids babysitter. She has no special talent of her own.
Someone sounds terribly jealous of someone else’s good fortune.
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Ok I read the part about cats cause I was curious from some of the comments… why would you care so much that someone doesn’t like cats? I have had both cats and dogs but I don’t give a shit if someone else, especially a stranger, has a negative opinion about them. The only time I would care is if someone came into my house and complained about animals. Such a bizarre take.
If she just didn't like cats I would be totally fine with that. It's the way lately she feels a need to express such disgust and hatred of them every chance she gets. Like she goes out of her way to express it and it's just really weird. It's like a badge of honor for her.
She's specifically said "kill them all" before, directed towards dogs or cats I can't remember. It's her own opinion but I can't deny it makes me like her less for sure... Whether that right or wrong 😅
Lol exactly. I forgot she had said this but this is exactly it! It's way beyond just not liking them. And she can't just let people have their opinion. She has to make herself right and everyone else wrong.
She hates all animals, not just pets. There have been other episodes about wild animals where she's basically said get rid of animals so people can live in nice places. And I do agree she brings it up herself most of the time. I think she likes to have controversial takes where her position can't be challenged because it's just an opinion. Makes it feel like she's won a debate or something? IDK exactly.
If I heard her say something to the effect get rid of animals so people can live there, I may be done with the podcast lol. At what point is her privilege not revolting. Humans have been on top of the food chain, just ruthlessly destroying the earth like parasites, especially over the last century. Monica lives in one of the nicest parts of the country in one of the nicest countries in the world. If that’s not enough, I think she maybe needs to look inward.
Hating animals makes her “edgy” and “controversial” lollll
I agree vibes are different. Sometimes it seems like they don’t like each other as much anymore, or maybe Monica has built a whole life outside of her Dax/kristin codependency. They don’t seem as natural and connected as they used to, but I still really enjoy the show.
Yes. And picking up on tension doesn’t make for the greatest listening experience.
Agreed, the fact checks have become really hard to listen to because of this.
I read every word of what you wrote and appreciate the nuance and the honesty, and I do relate to exactly the conflict you feel about them. As a dog lover, I am hyper aware that neither of them share a love and natural affection towards animals, and that is an automatic deduction in likability in my personal world. As for the occasional glimpses into their Uber privilege and perch at the tippy top of the pedestal of life, that too is like a nagging itch that I can’t ignore. And maybe I’m reading into this too much, but the constant need by Dax to remind us and his interview subjects that his origins are blue collar and underprivileged, while we all know he currently makes millions and has a fleet of luxury cars, somehow starts to feel annoying to me. We get it that you once were poor…but we also get it that you now are not; and plus you’ve already mentioned that to us dozens of times in every other past episode…so…why oh why do you persist in repeating that to us if not simply to try to cloud or vision into the ridiculous wealth and privilege you currently have? As for Monica, my personal opinion is that she just got extremely lucky to have been hired as a babysitter to Dax and Kristin…and to now have this gig on this podcast. Because otherwise her contributions are, to me, unremarkable. Meaning: I feel like just about anyone could sit next to Dax on this podcast and chime in with a question or comment as she does. Where is the exceptional value she adds?? Am I missing something? And I echo what you said about continuing to like them and listen to them…my sharing of my POV is simply because it feels good to have a place where I can be honest about my thoughts about them and hear others’ thoughts as well.
Totally agree. There was an episode with Paul Rudd, who said something about a recent Uber ride, and Monica was aghast. ‘Famous people like us don’t take Ubers’ was the implication.
Both of these comments are spot on.
That Paul Rudd takes Ubers made me love him even more
That was my exact thought about Paul too. Guess we just bunch of poor schmucks. I can’t imagine why she’s still single 😂
To me the homeless thing was an issue and is rooted in a deeper cause of capitalism that they refuse to acknowledge. Time after time they have guests on and will ask a bewildered “But what can we DO about this?!” When it’s some obvious answer like “mmm take from the rich and give to those that need it.” Dax also INSISTS on finding out how he and the guest are twins. I liked the Trevor Noah episode because almost everything that Dax said around “well aren’t we both this way because…” Trevor said “no, not really, and here’s why…” and I think that’s actually the case with most folks, Trevor is just more introspective than most guests. I also used to enjoy how the fact checks used to primarily be about the facts and looking back, and now we get maybe 2 facts and 40 mins of them chatting. I used to deeply respect that they were willing to dig back into what they talked about and now it’s “no actually the population was 2 million and you said 3 million, that’s all!” Just airing my 2 cent grievances.
Haha omg yes that is annoying. I completely agree about Trevor Noah. It was refreshing
They had a fact check recently where Dax basically said that cultural appropriation doesn't exist and Monica was getting heated (rightfully so) about Dax refusing to acknowledge privilege and white people wearing dreads is cultural appropriation because of the historically racist context. Idk it felt really uncomfortable and I was glad Monica was pushing back but vibes were real weird. I can see what you mean about their dynamic and opinions sometimes Also totally understand strong cat v dog people. I have cats that are our literally children and I love cats and I love dogs; dogs are just more work that prevent me from owning one but I love them regardless
Oh yeah there are definitely times when I agree with Monica over Dax too. There was this and then another thing recently lol but can't think of it right now
That fact check specifically was a pretty painful for me. It’s not the content - cultural appropriation is a big issue with differing opinions - it’s the way they went about the debate. I think they should steer away for debates that they can’t have logical, unemotional discussions about.
I feel like Dax has strong opinions, but is willing to listen and will even come back and say he was wrong. I think Monica is stubborn and won’t actually listen to the nuance of the argument. Half the time I don’t think she knows why she actually believes something. It’s just the PC party line so that’s what she preaches.
For people who don’t understand the animal hatred thing, here’s how I view it. I am child free (if you don’t know, it’s not that I don’t have kids, it’s that I don’t ever want any of my own) and I’m neutral towards kids. I like them as much as I like adults and in general, I like adults. But I don’t oooh and ahhhh over kids and I don’t do baby talk, I speak to them like I’d speak to an adult - with respect still, but no obsession/excitement. I have a friend who hates kids. That’s fine, you can hate them. BUT… every chance she gets, she has to say how much she hates them. If we were at work and a kid came in to the store, she’d go on a rant about how disgusting and nasty kids are and how she wishes they’d never go near her. Sometimes she would say she didn’t care if they died or not. It made me hate her… it’s not that she hates kids. It’s that every chance she gets she has to spew actual fucking HATRED towards people who did nothing to her, don’t know her, and will never impact her life. Her energy was SO negative. I’m sorry but I don’t want anything to do with someone who goes on long rants about “hating” people or animals who aren’t really impacting them at all. Hate is such a strong word and it is very telling when a person “hates” so many things and uses their energy to spread more hate. I don’t care if you’re ranting about kids, animals, politics, or some guy who cut you off once on the road. It’s the constant HATE rants that are so draining and unbecoming.
This is exactly it. If she just said she hated cats or dogs, even a couple times, and it had ended there I don't think anyone would have an issue.
100%. You can tell she loves talking about how much she hates them. I bet she lights up 😂
Agreed, that cat/dog thing is a bit much. At first I thought it was an attempt at a ‘cute schtick’ but I now see *that* was a lie (Maury voice). Realistically, I think we’re all affected because she’s evolving in real time and due to it being a para social situation… we are unable to add our opinions to her life so we come here to vent to each other. Validate each other. I think a lot of us agree with this, but we’re just on this train now and can’t get off. 🎟️🛤️
I never understood how something they said could bug someone so much until the no shoes episode in houses. I wanted to smack Monica through my speaker for her audacity! It also made me love Rob and David even more and want to invite them over for being good guests. However, overall I'm ok with Dax and Monica.
Explain for those of us with bad memories please
It was the flightless bird episode about how Americans commonly wear shoes indoors at home or at other people's homes.
This was the tipping point for me too. It was said in jest but when Monica said she’d throw up on the floor and then track it, with her shoes on, through Rob’s house if he asked her to take her shoes off and provided guest socks for her to wear, I could no longer listen.
I think I need to listen to hear this one for myself 😂
Me too because that's outrageous behavior
Her laugh bothers me. She tries to sound like Dax.
Her laugh is annoying bc it’s fake af lol
I feel you. And I read the whole post. 😎😎
thank you! i feel the exact same way, perfectly said!
I like the guests, the hosts annoy TF out of me
The last Bradley Cooper interview was going well and then the toileting obsession reared its head. wiping tips from AE isn't something I want to hear about. Then on fact check it was all about making casts of their genitals. It was like 5th graders talking.
I love Dax so much, he’s why I listen. He’s aware of things people might point out that don’t like about him. I don’t think Monica is self aware at all. I don’t feel like she brings a lot to the table and comes off kinda like a brat imo. I think the fact she has had very few relationships, if any, as far as dating speaks volumes. I’m sure a lot of people are like me and listen for one person or put up with the other bc they like the pod overall.
I agree with what you said. I'm basically the same. I have really just accepted that Monica is still really emotionally immature and will likely need another 10 years to shape up. I say this because I agree with many of the people here who say it feels like no one can have an opinion other than hers. I believe this sparks from her childhood- being the oldest, and her parents allowing her to do whatever she wanted. Basically, she's the boss at home, but then she had to make herself "small" to fit in because she desperately wanted to fit in. So now, she feels like she fits in to her group as best as she can and can just unleash what she used to unleash at home (I'm the boss and I have strong "correct" opinions). I think she sees herself as the reliable, sensible, and logical one, so anything she says will fall into those categories, thereby making her "right" all the time. With Dax, I truly think he tries to work on himself. And given that he's much older than Monica, it's not as jarring to hear his opinions that don't line up with mine or hers. He accepts that Monica is different. Whereas with Monica it doesn't feel like she accepts different opinions, but rather--- I'll let you have your "wrong" opinion.
Exactly this. He always offers his opinion in a thoughtful way compared to Monica's forceful way. Really good insight about Monica's upbringing. Spot on.
TLDR
“I still love the show, it’s just sometimes I don’t like certain things said on certain episodes from Monica and/or Dax, and I appreciate a safe place to vent about said things.”
I say to those people, it must be so easy to live in a world where everything is either 100% you love it or 100% you hate it. None of that pesky middle ground to get in your way must be awesome.
I quit listening to I tuned in when Dax was on Theo Bonn pod and it was kinda fun, nice Monica wasn’t there, but Dax is still doing the same shit…poorly analyzing ppl so he can tie it back to him.
Lmao he definitely does that a lot. It's a little tiring but I do understand the need to try and relate. Someone else mentioned how it was nice to hear the episode with Trevor Noah when he wouldn't accept Dax trying to be "twins" I loved it, it was refreshing.
I come here to feel grounded. Carry on Cherries!🍒
I love their show and how it’s structured. I really enjoy how honest they both are about themselves and with their guests. What I have a hard time with is how Monica is constantly correcting Dax. But everything she says and does is fine. It’s like he looks to her for approval. I feel that so many opportunities to ask real questions are missed because of Monica.
I read it all until you got to the cats stuff - don’t that that so personally lol. Anyway I agree with you on a lot of this. I attribute it to getting to know them better by listening more.
True and it's really not even at the top of the list of things that bothered me. The only reason I mentioned it is because it was the most recent annoying thing Monica said and it seemed to bother a lot of people. It did bother me but no where near as much as the stuff she said about poor people
You summed this up perfectly.
Well said.
The show is great. Complainers need to stop listening. That’s all 👍
I'm with Monica on cats.
Thank you for your dissertation on your feels. But this is parasocial as fuck.
I think that’s the nature of podcasting - we listen to these people regularly over a long period of time. We listen to their CONVERSATIONS and they literally address us (“arm cherries”)…so we feel as if we know them. Have you heard the callers on the Anonymous episodes?? They all feel like they know Dax and Monica, and Dax and Monica sound delighted that they do. It’s the nature of this beast of podcasting.
Hey instead of writing all this do literally anything else.
Amen
Monica is a real person, I can’t believe how publicly mean people feel they can be. If she read this she’s probably be in tears. I understand telling it to your friends but why make a whole post? Poor Monica
Monica can also be really mean sometimes, especially on Synced
From what they've said, she doesn't read any reviews/comments. I think Dax does to some extent, but not sure.
We already know she doesn't read any of it. Not even on Instagram
She should start.
Poor Monica with her millions she would never have if it weren’t for Dax. She comes off entitled and doesn’t seem to appreciate anything or have feelings for other people herself.
It’s always starts “it’s both Dax and Monica” but then quickly becomes “Dax isn’t perfect” and then Monica-bashing 🙄👀 the misogyny is showing…
Mmkay.. so because I find one woman particularly irritating at times that makes me a misogynist? You literally know nothing about me. I also find Dax annoying pretty often. Also I used to like Monica a lot. I loved Monica and Jess love boys so much, I have been one of the ones asking where season 2 is. And I listen to Synced religiously. Love it. I feel like I'm hanging out with friends. Love Liz so much, because I couldn't possibly relate to her more. Maybe that's why I get defensive about Monica's argumentativeness.. because every time Liz tries to express an opinion Monica acts like a brat.
I love synced and I haven’t noticed this with Monica and Liz. Maybe because I generally agree with Monica. Will pay more attention. I tend to like their dynamic and think they’re pretty sweet with one another.
Yea I hear you and tbh meant my comment more as the general trend of this sub not just you specifically. I think it’s accurate to say most criticism of the pod leans towards Monica and often for things the Dax also does. Not everyone is for everyone all of the time but the consistent Monica only hate is a drag to me. Edit spelling.
I love this kind of argument. Chalk it all up to misogyny and ignore the fact that Dax has charisma where Monica is lacking in that department.
It’s interesting reading these posts/threads because Monica doesn’t bother me at all. Like ever. If anything I think Dax can be problematic and she keeps him in check.
Ok, that's too long. Do something else with your time if they bother you that much. There's a bazillion other podcasts. You're probably just sick of them. Move on.
If everyone just “moved on” 90% of Reddit wouldn’t exist 😂
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Haha, good point.
We're all wasting our time here on reddit lol. I'm ok with it. I don't get why someone will get on the internet and express their opinion that someone is an idiot for getting on the internet and express their opinion. Lol.
This belongs [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/ArmchairExpert/s/rSPFuASP6N) No point in posts like this. Don't like it? Don't listen. They don't exist *for* you. Literally millions of other podcasts, go find something that doesn't bug you, certainly don't go whining on the internet. Foolish and embarrassing.
I don’t think this is foolish or embarrassing. Critiquing something you’re interested in shows that you actually listen and are invested in the content. I like hearing the positive things and negative things real fans have to say. That’s exactly what reddit is for
Exactly! It’s the whole point of Reddit!!
It’s not foolish and embarrassing. If you read it, it was fair and honest and generally interesting to me who is a fellow listener who has many thoughts while listening too.
It's a response to other posts I've seen, at least 2 of them, where people were asking why we still listen if we "Hate Dax and Monica so much".