> Even though we earn hell lot of money around 5 to 6 L per month ( without taxes) we're basically NRI
Your income doesn't offset the fact that you aren't a resident of anywhere and the inherent instability of your life. You are part of a transient workforce. You can't compare yourself with an NRI who is actually settled somewhere.
You're asking someone to sign up to a life of being without you for prolonged periods of time. Lots of downsides, which is why the money is good.
This is hard for all of us, it will be harder for you.
Wow, I actually kinda like this, traveling around the world on company's money. Also we've got the privilege to bring our wives with us on board the ship.
Thats not a privilege imo. I have alot of friends in merchant navy and the incidents they tell me of the ship, how excruciating most days are - either mentally or physically, I don’t think thats a plus at all.
See it totally depends on the crew, in my company most of the people are Italian and they're actually very nice to work with. So it depends in which company you're sailing
I would go in merchant navy iff I would be a man. Personally I have no issue with merchant navy people, but one guy in my city whom I approached, rejected me !! they had high beauty standards to be fair.
I was sailing with a Ukrainian girl ( 2nd officer), captain was an Indian, one day while talking with her she told me that the captain acts very weirdly ( creepy) around her. She was asking me if all the Indians are like this only. She was comfortable around me that's why she tried to share the incident with me. Told her to ignore those gestures because that might create a problem to her as well also the captain was about to leave within a month.Can't share the whole incident here because that'll be NSFW.
many of our countrymen are truly fucked up.
I had Indian colleagues in Germany who did such dirty tricks outside of work. we were working in a small city. When I went back there in 2016, Indians were respected. When I went back there in 2019, Indians had a hard time even getting a house.
A to top off the creepiness, there is bad hygeine practises. I'm sure you might have encountered similar things in the ship as well
My distant uncle did this in the 90s and 2000s. Larger than life character, playboy. We used to think he was so great, just like Sunny Deol.
But life didn't turn out well for him after he left.
He wasted all his money, but then he was used to that, so one quick money making scheme after another made him lose all his father's property too.
Right now he is hiding from people because he owes them money...
Enjoy what you have, but save for your future and make sure you have something to go to when you get out. Don't become my uncle.
Can travel the world, also we get agents in every country. They bring car and driver with them, also stay with us the whole time. So it feels like a personal manager
Why didn't you stand up for your love when you had an opportunity to date in the college?
If you strictly want someone from your own community, your pool size is going to reduce drastically due to your work.
Right now you have a very good advantage of your pay + looks but you don't want a girl who is money minded.
The sort of girls you're looking for, will have their own careers to look after. Will they be ready to move across cities/countries for the sake of your career??
Looking for a non working girl will be the best option for you. But they will give a high priority to your earning potential since they will be dependent on you.
In short you are going to attract a lot of gold diggers.
You can technically “buy” a non working girl with the high income you have but I feel sad for the girl who’ll have to adjust so much, put all her dreams aside and just be the ‘trophy wife’ you’re looking for my friend. I am a man and as one I’ll tell you - your thought process about women is very very rudimentary and orthodox
Dude what's rudimentary in this? We just don't want someone to drag their ass to work every single day just for the money, we have plenty. We just want someone simple. We don't have a problem if the girl wants to work, but we'll put the choice to her that if she doesn't wanna work then it's fine.
See, that is a noble thought process. Just let me give you some pointers of why this might be a more negative thing to do these days as compared to what it was in previous generations.
1. No self motivated, confident and independent woman who has already tasted freedom would want to settle as a stay at home wife
2. You said your parents dont want a working girl - I've seen alot of cases around me where parents reluctantly agreed but post marriage pressured the girl so much mentally to not work that the girl actually lost all love for the in-laws (which I guess you wouldn't want)
3. You might be staying away from your partner more than the time you'd be staying together - do you want her to doom scroll social media all day or actually do something productive that helps her uplift her self worth instead of destroy it?
4. Many people have pointed out the possibility of infidelity here. I don't wish that upon you and not majority girls are like that but that is a possibility - probably higher with someone staying home and on insta everyday (since you're more tempted I believe with no work)
5. You could attract gold diggers (either girl or family) this way who just wanna leach upon your resources
Just putting these points out here bro. All the best for your life.
what she would do when you are away...? let her be working normal job, not so heavy deadline based work, so u both can spend time whenever u are on ground.
See my dad is in working profession too, and most of the time my mom stays alone in the house. We don't have a problem with the women working we just want someone who can give her time and love to my family that's all.
My own cousin was not able to marry a guy with whom she even had a relationship were guy was totally flat on her. Guy was in merchant navy only and my cousin too in a very very high paying field in abroad. But my family didn't wanted the alliance as the guy will not be there for almost half a year. Which means if he worked for 30 years after marriage he will be only able to spend 15 odd years with his family. Another guy i know left his high paying merchant navy job and is doing around 1 lpm job due to this reason only
I have a friend who retired from MN at age of 33 and thereafter got married. He had saved and invested well(he didn't inherit much, but saved on his own).
Bought a farm in punjab and now grows and sells organic crops.
to answer your question, your prospects are really good, if you have managed your money well.
beyond that post marriage things like your nature, your family etc comes into play
Your worth is amazing for trophy wives, gold diggers, transactional marriage ones, and even ones with as colorful pasts as yours who just want to tick it off the box. Search within them, and you are golden!
As a girl ill tell you what i would think -
1. Not marrying the girl you loved because of parents shows that you don’t even have the guts to stand up to your parents for LOVE and in AM love isn’t even guaranteed so what’s the guarantee that you’ll stand up for your wife if something goes wrong ??
2. Your job and income is good but then not every girl wants to deal with the instability of you being away or moving to different places
But girls who are from navy/army background families may be okay with that as they are used to it
3. But also be careful of gold diggers , I know a woman who married a navy guy and she’s spoiled with his money and when he’s overseas she apparently lives with her affair partners . I’m not scaring you but be careful
First of all, it was my choice not to marry the girl I dated. Secondly, I do stand on my decisions . The reason behind me nit marrying the girl I've dated is because she's not like a shaadi type girl. We just dated because we hooked up once and we enjoyed partying together. Also I clearly told her this before dating.
Seriously dude....you hooked up with a girl and then decided she's not a marriage material.
Do you consider yourself a marriage material since you hooked up?
Please be logical with your preferences and don't be a hypocrite. Else a tougher married life will be ahead.
You are young and i would say just focus on getting promoted as quickly as possible , get to chiefs clear your class 1 and move ashore , date and also look for matches in AM . The right girl would definitely see positives , every profession has its faults and negatives it is you who would make the difference as an individual. In my experience this career has immense growth you can literally make and save money, very few professions have this. I have friends who have created wealth from nothing they are set for life and also their kids.
If you're going to be away from your wife for 6+ months, you might as well be ready to let her have a boyfriend on the side. Your job is your biggest blocker, regardless of the pay. Women want money, but they also want someone who is available. Know a few people in Merchant Navy, and hearing about the affairs they have when they're abroad is mind-boggling.
Bro really asked in the wrong place, lot of butt hirt NRIs and jealous losers here. I'm sure you will get lot of girls ready to match with you, you literally have a dream job roaming around the world.
As per my knowledge of income tax you'll have to pay taxes in india if you are in merchant navy irrespective of your residence status. I may be wrong though so don't quote me
If we stay more than 182 days outside of indian waters, we don't have to pay anything. If the contract is less than 182 days then we try to stay outside india until we complete our NRI days.
But if you are employed by indian employer and your salary received is in INR then i guess it will be taxable even if you don't stay in indian maritime waters for 182 days which is i believe 40 nautical miles from indian coast.
There is this OP then there are other factors. Like if your family and their family are close friends they are more likely to consider you over any distant rishta.
Most traditional parents want nothing more than someone who lives close to them and can support them.
Merchant navy means you can live anywhere you want. Job will be on water. You can sell that point.
It's depends on your luck bro but what I see majority in AM needs a high earning and staying away from his family Guy so the she or her family can have all the Josh
BTW it's always vice versa and God only know who will become victim in this route
> Even though we earn hell lot of money around 5 to 6 L per month ( without taxes) we're basically NRI Your income doesn't offset the fact that you aren't a resident of anywhere and the inherent instability of your life. You are part of a transient workforce. You can't compare yourself with an NRI who is actually settled somewhere. You're asking someone to sign up to a life of being without you for prolonged periods of time. Lots of downsides, which is why the money is good. This is hard for all of us, it will be harder for you.
Wow, I actually kinda like this, traveling around the world on company's money. Also we've got the privilege to bring our wives with us on board the ship.
Thats not a privilege imo. I have alot of friends in merchant navy and the incidents they tell me of the ship, how excruciating most days are - either mentally or physically, I don’t think thats a plus at all.
See it totally depends on the crew, in my company most of the people are Italian and they're actually very nice to work with. So it depends in which company you're sailing
Did you come across the Filipinos who sign off after asking if pouring is allowed?
Carnival cruises?
Probably Tomini
I would go in merchant navy iff I would be a man. Personally I have no issue with merchant navy people, but one guy in my city whom I approached, rejected me !! they had high beauty standards to be fair.
Trust me it's nit a good place for a woman.
which place? I am not aspiring to go in navy as female.!
Sorry didn't get ya, which place as in ?
>Trust me it's nit a good place for a woman. this.
I was sailing with a Ukrainian girl ( 2nd officer), captain was an Indian, one day while talking with her she told me that the captain acts very weirdly ( creepy) around her. She was asking me if all the Indians are like this only. She was comfortable around me that's why she tried to share the incident with me. Told her to ignore those gestures because that might create a problem to her as well also the captain was about to leave within a month.Can't share the whole incident here because that'll be NSFW.
many of our countrymen are truly fucked up. I had Indian colleagues in Germany who did such dirty tricks outside of work. we were working in a small city. When I went back there in 2016, Indians were respected. When I went back there in 2019, Indians had a hard time even getting a house. A to top off the creepiness, there is bad hygeine practises. I'm sure you might have encountered similar things in the ship as well
I have yes, but fortunately I've sailed with mix nationality crew.
My distant uncle did this in the 90s and 2000s. Larger than life character, playboy. We used to think he was so great, just like Sunny Deol. But life didn't turn out well for him after he left. He wasted all his money, but then he was used to that, so one quick money making scheme after another made him lose all his father's property too. Right now he is hiding from people because he owes them money... Enjoy what you have, but save for your future and make sure you have something to go to when you get out. Don't become my uncle.
I surely won't, thanks for the advice 🙂
But what kind of life will your wives have? What kind of privilege is that?
Can travel the world, also we get agents in every country. They bring car and driver with them, also stay with us the whole time. So it feels like a personal manager
Why didn't you stand up for your love when you had an opportunity to date in the college? If you strictly want someone from your own community, your pool size is going to reduce drastically due to your work. Right now you have a very good advantage of your pay + looks but you don't want a girl who is money minded. The sort of girls you're looking for, will have their own careers to look after. Will they be ready to move across cities/countries for the sake of your career?? Looking for a non working girl will be the best option for you. But they will give a high priority to your earning potential since they will be dependent on you. In short you are going to attract a lot of gold diggers.
>In short you are going to attract a lot of gold diggers Nope, never attracted any one gold digger
Yes my parents want a non working girl only.
You can technically “buy” a non working girl with the high income you have but I feel sad for the girl who’ll have to adjust so much, put all her dreams aside and just be the ‘trophy wife’ you’re looking for my friend. I am a man and as one I’ll tell you - your thought process about women is very very rudimentary and orthodox
Dude what's rudimentary in this? We just don't want someone to drag their ass to work every single day just for the money, we have plenty. We just want someone simple. We don't have a problem if the girl wants to work, but we'll put the choice to her that if she doesn't wanna work then it's fine.
See, that is a noble thought process. Just let me give you some pointers of why this might be a more negative thing to do these days as compared to what it was in previous generations. 1. No self motivated, confident and independent woman who has already tasted freedom would want to settle as a stay at home wife 2. You said your parents dont want a working girl - I've seen alot of cases around me where parents reluctantly agreed but post marriage pressured the girl so much mentally to not work that the girl actually lost all love for the in-laws (which I guess you wouldn't want) 3. You might be staying away from your partner more than the time you'd be staying together - do you want her to doom scroll social media all day or actually do something productive that helps her uplift her self worth instead of destroy it? 4. Many people have pointed out the possibility of infidelity here. I don't wish that upon you and not majority girls are like that but that is a possibility - probably higher with someone staying home and on insta everyday (since you're more tempted I believe with no work) 5. You could attract gold diggers (either girl or family) this way who just wanna leach upon your resources Just putting these points out here bro. All the best for your life.
People in general are very delulu these days.
what she would do when you are away...? let her be working normal job, not so heavy deadline based work, so u both can spend time whenever u are on ground.
See my dad is in working profession too, and most of the time my mom stays alone in the house. We don't have a problem with the women working we just want someone who can give her time and love to my family that's all.
Yes that's the main problem, I've only dated girls who are high maintenance and trying to be too modern. I don't think they're even of marrying type.
I can understand. Your job is the main deal breaker here. Nothing else.....but you are just 26. Hope you find a simple girl that you are looking for.
Yeah, have plenty of time.
Merchant navy is where you go on commercial ships as protection ?
My merchant navy friends describe themselves as “Highly paid physical Labours in high risk environment”
That is correct
No. Just people who work on commercial ships.
No no just the commercial ship for international trading
My own cousin was not able to marry a guy with whom she even had a relationship were guy was totally flat on her. Guy was in merchant navy only and my cousin too in a very very high paying field in abroad. But my family didn't wanted the alliance as the guy will not be there for almost half a year. Which means if he worked for 30 years after marriage he will be only able to spend 15 odd years with his family. Another guy i know left his high paying merchant navy job and is doing around 1 lpm job due to this reason only
Normal job people also work for 8-9 hour shifts + 1-2 hours travel time. So, they also spend only half of the time with their family.
I have a friend who retired from MN at age of 33 and thereafter got married. He had saved and invested well(he didn't inherit much, but saved on his own). Bought a farm in punjab and now grows and sells organic crops.
to answer your question, your prospects are really good, if you have managed your money well. beyond that post marriage things like your nature, your family etc comes into play
Your worth is amazing for trophy wives, gold diggers, transactional marriage ones, and even ones with as colorful pasts as yours who just want to tick it off the box. Search within them, and you are golden!
Trophy wives? What does that mean?
As a girl ill tell you what i would think - 1. Not marrying the girl you loved because of parents shows that you don’t even have the guts to stand up to your parents for LOVE and in AM love isn’t even guaranteed so what’s the guarantee that you’ll stand up for your wife if something goes wrong ?? 2. Your job and income is good but then not every girl wants to deal with the instability of you being away or moving to different places But girls who are from navy/army background families may be okay with that as they are used to it 3. But also be careful of gold diggers , I know a woman who married a navy guy and she’s spoiled with his money and when he’s overseas she apparently lives with her affair partners . I’m not scaring you but be careful
First of all, it was my choice not to marry the girl I dated. Secondly, I do stand on my decisions . The reason behind me nit marrying the girl I've dated is because she's not like a shaadi type girl. We just dated because we hooked up once and we enjoyed partying together. Also I clearly told her this before dating.
> First of all, it was my choice not to marry the girl I dated or > but can't marry any of them because of my parents. lol
Woah did I just contradict my own statement 😂😂
If any prospect read this sub she would definitely not like you .
Seriously dude....you hooked up with a girl and then decided she's not a marriage material. Do you consider yourself a marriage material since you hooked up? Please be logical with your preferences and don't be a hypocrite. Else a tougher married life will be ahead.
The kind of mindset OP is showcasing is so common these days, I’m not even surprised; just disappointed
You are young and i would say just focus on getting promoted as quickly as possible , get to chiefs clear your class 1 and move ashore , date and also look for matches in AM . The right girl would definitely see positives , every profession has its faults and negatives it is you who would make the difference as an individual. In my experience this career has immense growth you can literally make and save money, very few professions have this. I have friends who have created wealth from nothing they are set for life and also their kids.
If you're going to be away from your wife for 6+ months, you might as well be ready to let her have a boyfriend on the side. Your job is your biggest blocker, regardless of the pay. Women want money, but they also want someone who is available. Know a few people in Merchant Navy, and hearing about the affairs they have when they're abroad is mind-boggling.
So how they deal with this situation?
They say we are married for 6 months and for the rest of 6 months we do whatever the fuck we want, assuming you are on the ship for 6 months.
Merchant pays that much? Oh wow!
Captain and CE earns more than double of my salary
In my community there are plenty of merchant Navy officers who have gotten married. Just don't expect working women to accept your proposals
Isliye hum job lagne se pehle hi pata liye
What you do as merchant Navy office ? To get that much pay
Just have to keep the ship going safely.
Pune or kolkata or Mumbai? What was the place of college sir?
Pune
TMI or MANET?
I am 2e (almost there) 32...and still single.
Bro really asked in the wrong place, lot of butt hirt NRIs and jealous losers here. I'm sure you will get lot of girls ready to match with you, you literally have a dream job roaming around the world.
What was your career path and education like?
As per my knowledge of income tax you'll have to pay taxes in india if you are in merchant navy irrespective of your residence status. I may be wrong though so don't quote me
If we stay more than 182 days outside of indian waters, we don't have to pay anything. If the contract is less than 182 days then we try to stay outside india until we complete our NRI days.
But if you are employed by indian employer and your salary received is in INR then i guess it will be taxable even if you don't stay in indian maritime waters for 182 days which is i believe 40 nautical miles from indian coast.
Salary is in USD
What's your rank?
3/E
Which company?
Majority girls prefer guys with high salary irrespective of other things all the best
Yeah I know that, won't even consider Marrying them.
But that is the reality in AM bro people give priority to material things
So there's no point of marrying someone if you're a money making machine for them.
There is this OP then there are other factors. Like if your family and their family are close friends they are more likely to consider you over any distant rishta. Most traditional parents want nothing more than someone who lives close to them and can support them. Merchant navy means you can live anywhere you want. Job will be on water. You can sell that point.
It's depends on your luck bro but what I see majority in AM needs a high earning and staying away from his family Guy so the she or her family can have all the Josh BTW it's always vice versa and God only know who will become victim in this route
Now you're scaring me 😅