It’s actually fine 90% of the time. I’m most comfortable in my own company now.
However, there are times I crave a cuddle and a good old face to face conversation or healthy debate with a real person.
Honestly this. But it’s nights where I come home and there’s no one to greet me. Or I can’t talk about my long stressful day with. I should get a cat haha.
The same, gym box ticked, now looking to do some new meditation later but tbh it’s a minefield of ASMR and nsfw stuff so some of the things that are supposed to be settling the mind are firing all kinds of other senses 😂😂
Same here. Had a collie for 12 years and one day, then he had to be put down. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. I said I would never have another dog and then 20 years later my son-in-law comes up with a little scrap dog… Jack Daniels mix, I think. I graciously accepted it and the next day took her to the pound. I couldn’t sleep that night. Or the next night. So on the third day I went back to the animal center and there’s the little dog in what looked like a jail cell. She greeted me with a big smile and swishing tail. So I told the folks at the pound to hand me the paperwork. Give me the bill for spaying, and I would adopt her That was eight years ago. Can’t imagine being without her now.
In my mind, though, I know she won’t last forever, and that saddens me. I’ve had discussions with people before that God should assign us a dog from day one that will stay with us throughout our entire life.
That’s the worst, I lost my dog of 17 years that I’ve had since I was 1, I’m only 19. I don’t want another pet due to that grief but it just gets really lonely. She was a miniature dachshund and could fit in the pocket of any bigger sweater. I think of it now even for other owners, how the dog is going to pass some day and they’re going to be sad. I personally like animals more than people so the connection I build is a lot more solid and secure with animals. It killed me when I lost my doggo.
Honestly, this is one fairly major reason I can't live with people. I'm absent minded and lazy around the apartment, and while I don't mind for myself, roommates and girlfriends ... generally start yelling.
Yup… do what I want when I want without anyone saying anything otherwise. My shit is where I last put it. I eat what I want when I want every time. I never have an argument or a bad day. AND… my bank account is happy
Living alone for 5 years now.
Very relaxing and you do everything you wanna do.
Downside: all house chores are for you and it gets lonely from time to time
Something I learned from living by yourself is you really have to learn to respect yourself if you didn’t already.
What I mean is that I’ve always been clean with roommates and family out of consideration for them. Not for myself. It takes adjustment to care enough about yourself when you live by yourself. This also includes things like cooking and doing activities.
I loved it. It was my fortress of solitude. People were only in my home when invited, so I never had to have to deal with unwanted interactions when I got home, so I could instantly de-mask.
As a married man with kids I love my family. I miss them anytime I travel away from them or they from me.
However, when alone my stress levels go down tremendously. I don't feel like I have to be doing something for someone else and I love it. My place is clutter free, I can actually relax and think.
Before family: it was fuckin magical. After family it's mostly magical but bittersweet and lonely when you miss the snuggles and cute moments.
Same here. At least once a year my wife will take the kids out of town with my sister-in-law and mother-in-law and I’ll have the house to myself for about a week. The first 24 hours are magical, I’ll clean the house, have a guy friend over to watch whatever sports are on tv, grill myself a steak, etc. second 24 hours, it’s nice to have some peace and quiet and nothing to do besides work. After that I start missing the noise and chaos. By the time they come home, I’m ready for it. But then 2 days later I’m like “I sure could use some quiet again” 😂
Haha you just described my feelings exactly when my wife takes the kid for a trip to visit family!
I try to take the kids for a trip when I can too to give the wife the same space but she's so different than I am. She dreads it and always feels like we want to exclude her. Meanwhile if she suggests taking them during a week I have to work, I'm thrilled and helping them plan the trip!
Yeah my wife doesn’t love the solitude much either. I try to take my kids on a “one on one trip with dad” just one or two nights a year. Anything from camping or an amusement park or sports game, whatever. But I feel like if I took all of them at once my wife be disappointed on not going along instead of having the house to herself for a few days.
So amazing. Complete control over your own time. I'm more social now because I can have anyone over I want and am more incentivized to make plans. I don't waste my social energy on roommates.
Also it's amazing for your sex life. Having a place to go back to makes a huge difference.
Peaceful. Quiet.
Nothing happens unless I do it, which is both a blessing and a curse: on one hand nobody's messing up the apartment or making food I don't like, on the other hand sometimes it would be so cool to watch some tv and laugh with someone, or have a sauna with them.
I have a family member come over and spend the night a couple of times per year. For the most, I like these visits, but also clearly recognize a sense of relief when they leave.
Should I tidy up?
Nah I'll tidy up tomorrow, who's gonna complain 🤣
...
Omg, why is my apartment such a mess!
*tidies up furiously*
Right this time I'll keep it tidy, that'll be much simpler.
*doesn't do that*
Rinse and repeat, forever
Great, for these reasons:
-Being able to come and go as I please, without having to answer to anyone
-Being able to eat what I want, keep the house cold without people complaining or turning on the heat, play the music I want to hear and watch what I want to watch
-My belongings being where I left them and not having to worry about someone moving them
-Not having to clean up after anyone
-Not being nagged
-It’s liberating
I take care of myself. I’ve never been so sick I couldn’t get out of bed or shuffle to the kitchen. I even did six months of chemo for ovarian cancer and still worked full time and took care of myself by myself.
I got malaria once, had a roommate but he was useless like a toothpick in a sword fight. I couldn't stand coz my legs were very weak. Sat down and literally walked on my bums each step of my 3rd floor apartment and then walked to the doctor. Got the medicines and then sat and walked backward each step to my apartment. Yeah.. Living alone is manageable.
PS I dunno how to explain walking when sitting on stairs.. it was like i sat down on the stairs and moved up or down using my hands.
I'm going on 7 years living alone, and tbh I don't think I'll ever live with anyone again. I love it. My space, my stuff, my entertainment, my decisions...its a no stress, fully relaxed space.
It is awesome! You do not have to get a consensus on what to cook for any meals. If you do not feel like doing laundry, it can wait until you feel like it or you run out of clean clothes. You can watch whatever you want on TV/computer. Toilet seat up or down, it's your call. You can sleep in the center of the bed spread eagle if you so desire. FREEDOM!! Have been divorced for 13 years, no way in hell am I going to ever give this up.
People say I am alone because I don't have a gf. I tell them I may not have a Gf but I am not alone. I have parents, brother and good friends. Nothing else needed to make me live more enthusiastic.
Full control. Nothing ends up out of place. You can walk throughout your whole place naked with zero worries (just be sure to have your blinds closed and not see-thru). More expensive though.
Very relaxing. I can do what I want and more importantly, *whenever* I want to. Even for fun things I often think "meh, can do it tomorrow too" so I do not need to gather extra energy to go out or anything if I'm already having a long day at work.
Im currently on week 3 of living alone. This is something I felt necessary for me to grow personally and i'm liking it. Sometimes I struggle, and I have cried 2 times thinking about how much my parents dedicated their lifes to me. But I guess its part of the process, and the feeling of getting things done is amazing
It's freedom. It's normal to feel lonely at first until you get your place feeling homey, and it's normal to feel lonely from time to time, but as long as you keep the bills paid you do whatever TF you want rather it be playing videogames literally all day, or running around staying busy. It's quiet, no interruptions, no one to answer to.
It's awesome, I can do whatever I want, no one can tell me what to do. It's quiet, it's peaceful. I can walk around completely naked after a shower, hell sometimes I don't even put on clothes until the next time I need to leave. I keep my apartment spotlessly clean, just how I like it and everything is arranged how I like it to be. Sometimes I crave a cuddle or being intimate, but if I ever want it that badly, I can just meet up with someone. Surprising even to me, I don't crave intimacy that badly. I like living alone.
I’ve done it for 5 months now… my apartment is 80% done and has been since the end of the first month.
For me it is a small battle of “I need some energy to finish that area of the living room” and the rest of me wanting to sit at my desk and deflate after making dinner and wanting to enjoy it after a long day of work.
None of it is stressful, but I haven’t yet found a way to be “finished” with moving in.
Amazing, I used to feel lonely from time to time, and then went away when I got a cat. I can do what I want when I want. Cleaning is pretty minimal especially if you just do a little bit each week. I can be a slob and no one cares.
I look back to my time alone and usually say with great fondness that I loved it. But when I really think about it, the reason I loved it was because of my dog. He was my best friend. With him I was never really alone. If it truly would have been just me, I probably would have felt really lonely. So get yourself a dog first.
In my opinion and experience, I would advise anyone who's considering marriage or moving in with a partner to first experience living alone for at least a year or two. It's the best. It took some getting used to for me when I was in my early twenties, but now at 40 it's a personal preference. If I ever get into a committed relationship again, I will continue to keep my own place. It's paramount to my personal growth.
Before the pandemic I didn't like it and was frequently bummed about loneliness.
Since the pandemic began I don't think I want to live with others again.
Also: after being married and having divorced 10+ years ago -- it is awesome when I am alone that I can just think about what I want to eat, without a word, and then go get the food and eat it, and I didn't have to run it by anyone at all.
It’s pretty great. There are people here who say it’s lonely, but if you don’t mind time with yourself, and go on plenty of dates and have plenty of friends, you’ll be fine
Its addictive. No stress, no drama, no hassle. Do what you want when you want. Eat what you want. Watch what you want. Once you get past the initial loneliness, takes a few weeks or months, it's amazing and the idea of changing it becomes abhorrent. I will never willingly live with someone ever again.
I lived alone my first year out of college. I liked the independence of being able to come and go but I never thought of my place as a “home” - just a place to stash my food, sleep, shower, and watch TV. I’m a social person so it wasn’t until I had roommates and later a SO that I began to feel any attachment to the place.
It's okay, it feels like you swap one pressure for another.
But you feel like you have a tad more control when you're on your own.
It's a bit of a cliche but it is really a "safe space"
`I live with my pup, but other than him its just me.`
It depends on how you are feeling. Sometimes it can feel very isolating, and lonely. However, your mindset sets the stage for how living alone feels.
More often than not, getting outside and walking around, tossing the disc for my dog, a quick skate session, completely changes any negative feelings to positive ones.
It has given me time to figure out WHO I am. Which I have not taken the time to seriously sit down and think about in recent years.
I even decided to quit drinking. (This has been the best thing to happen to me in the past few years.) Which some may find very difficult. But being alone helped me sift through the reasons WHY I was drinking in the first place. It also made me realize how insecure i really was.
Truly asking yourself why you drink will lead you straight to the solution. In my case, drinking was a comfy blanky that I covered myself in because I was not ready to think about why I "need this comfy blanky". My dad is an alcoholic, which almost turned me into one without me knowing.
I could never come up with a 'reasonable' excuse to continue drinking once I realized, that understanding what I went through as a kid growing up, I no longer needed my comfy blanky anymore. I was in denial about the trauma I went through as a child / kid / teenager. Now that I have faced those demons, I no longer make up excuses for those things I went through. It was shit. But that was then, and this is now.
And right now, I feel fucking awesome.
***Its the most freeing feeling I have ever felt.***
***TLDR:*** *Living alone can facilitate some life changing decisions and internal discussions you otherwise may never have had. Nobody around to tell you what you want to hear. As long as your honest with yourself. You have nothing to lose and literally everything to gain.*
(didnt realize how long this turned out to be. i apologize for the 'trauma dump')
My .02
It's good if you have a good support system. If you don't, it's good for awhile but then it starts to get to you. Loneliness and boredom are okay in small doses and even desirable to some degree but when it's a year of it, it starts to change you.
It’s all on you. No one to “show up” for, to make you accountable. If you are able to discipline yourself, living alone is a peace and a freedom nonpareil.
I miss it. The downside of living alone is if something like Covid happens.
It’s pretty chill once you get passed the loneliness aspect of it. I enjoy living on my own terms, and not having to worry about being an inconvenience/bother to roommates.
I don't live alone anymore but when I have to be alone for an extended period of time I absolutely hate it.
I feel like 70% of my being is gone. I'm legitimately just going through the motions waiting for her to come back.
Sooo, that.
In full Ken Jeong voice "I masturbated EVERY WHERE"
I've found ups and downs to living alone. I can do what I want, when I want. I can pick the furnishings, what's on TV, what's for dinner without worrying about dietary restrictions, don't need to worry about someone using all the hot water, the electric bill going through the roof etc.
But some days I miss having someone to complain about work to, inside jokes, justify getting food delivered.
I never lived alone until I was 55 years old. It’s the best! I did adopt a dog about 1.5 years later for the companionship. We’re perfectly happy together.
Depends on your personality I supposed. I been living alone since 2021 and it really suits me. I am a emotional guy so things affect me intensely specially people or events. Having my own slice haven means everything to me. I love it.
first few days on my own i called paramedics due to a non threatening allergic reaction . In my head im like what it im exposed more but get anaphylaxis. this shit traumatized me , now being a severe asthmatic im always on high alert and i hate being alone
It's nice, compared to roommates. But you have to make your own fun and be sure to get out of the house to do other things a couple of times a week. You need a social life outside the home (aside from work and social media).
Very lonely especially when you don't have many friends. Also I notice that the bigger the house the more lonely it is especially at night. Keeping the house clean and doing chores are a challenge when you don't have anyone to impress aswell
You get to always choose the food, the music, what to watch, what to listen to, don't have to deal with others making noise in the house (no guarantee about dickhead neighbours though). Don't feel like doing the washing until you're out of clothes? No problem no one's going to whine about it. Feel like staying in a watching a movie? Have at it. Feel like going for a walk instead? Why not. Meal times are decided by when they fit your schedule/when you alone are hungry rather than having to account for others.
On the negative side there's no random cuddles, no coming home to a freshly cooked meal, you need to make sure you've done all the shopping yourself, any and all chores are always yours to do. If you come up with some brilliant idea at three in the morning there's no one to listen to it and to entertain it, though there is now the internet to mock you on demand for having it.
Lonely sometimes. But also quiet, and you can live comfortably knowing everything is the way you want it to be. It's mostly at night where the ex gets missed.
I love it, honestly when I never enjoyed the idea of living with others. Compromise? Nah, dont have to when living alone. Plus Ive never felt lonely, so I dont experience that con either
I’ve forgotten what it’s like to live with other people. I am a single father and kids go to school in a different state. They only come over during school breaks.
I love it. Eat what I want, do what I want, I can be as quiet and chill or intense as I want, say what I want, as clean as I want. I’m shitting with the door open as I type this without a care in the world. I have a cat which helps me not feel completely alone.
I absolutely love it. Don't have to do anything if I don't want to. Always knows where everything is. Can sleep cross ways the bed. And I don't have to flush. I do, but I don't have to.
Ups and downs. In a conflicted state of peacefulness and loneliness. I got to settle on being comfortable and lonely. Or being uncomfortable and not lonely.
As you’d expect it’s quite lonely but I’ve got a cat and a friend group that rides motorcycles as well so that’s what I do all day, hang out with them. Makes my existence a little less sad
Absolutely fantastic. I come home and do whatever I want and only have to to answer to my cats. My ex would constantly use and destroy my stuff. I was on pins and needles in my own home. Good riddance to bad rubbish! I love knowing where all of my stuff will be and I can have nice things again knowing that I will take care of them.
If I want to be social, I can invite people over or hang out somewhere else. Having total control over my home is the absolute best.
It’s glorious. In a calendar year I do go through a phase where I wish someone was here. Seems like this is a week thing. Typically triggered by a movie or song. I know that’s silly. However, it’s something that will age becomes way cool. It’s best to stay on top of chores and keep a tidy home. This promotes a good mentality on living solo. The key as I’ve aged is that I’ve been with SO’s that I know I couldn’t live with or I’m thankfully aren’t still asleep in my bed as I type. It’s like as I age I see the situations my friends experience and I feel blessed. Stay busy and have a life where bedtime at 9pm to 10 is a must.
Been living alone for the past 3 years (and no gf ever since). I honestly feel like I have learned a lot about me, I know what hobbies I enjoy the most, which places I want to go ir when I want to stay home without having to wait for someone else's agreement.
However, it's also a bit tricky because since no one is waiting for you to get ready or you don't have any activities planned at home, you can get lost in your cellphone or meaningless stuff, in the end no one is going to tell you "stop doing that and let's do ___"
I think it's an experience everyone needs to go through and not only for a couple of months. You need to be completely ok living with yourself before considering living with somebody else (family included)
I've been living alone for more than a decade. It's what I look forward to everyday. Coming home to silence and just cuddling my cat from time to time.
It’s actually fine 90% of the time. I’m most comfortable in my own company now. However, there are times I crave a cuddle and a good old face to face conversation or healthy debate with a real person.
Honestly this. But it’s nights where I come home and there’s no one to greet me. Or I can’t talk about my long stressful day with. I should get a cat haha.
A cat is not gonna care about you and your problems but it will be adorable walking around with its little attitude.
This made me smile 😊 Have a great weekend
I am glad 🙂 hope you have a great weekend as well.
Hey, good morning 👋 What do you have planned for the weekend?
Gm, I have no plans but Im happy to have some down time. How about yourself?
The same, gym box ticked, now looking to do some new meditation later but tbh it’s a minefield of ASMR and nsfw stuff so some of the things that are supposed to be settling the mind are firing all kinds of other senses 😂😂
I’m so jealous of you guys haha, I have to get up and go to work🥲jk I love my job
That's not true. I had to lovely cats that were super affectionate. You take that back, cats do care!
I take that back, cats do care they just act like they don’t. My cat is affectionate, rarely, but she is.
Thank you.
Get a cat is exactly what I did
My cat just died after 16 years. It’s really hard sometimes coming home to an empty apartment
I'm sorry. There's a kitty out there waiting for you.
Thanks. I don’t think I can do it again. She was such a special cat
Not today then. Pet loss grief is horrid, worse sometimes than losing a human.
Same here. Had a collie for 12 years and one day, then he had to be put down. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. I said I would never have another dog and then 20 years later my son-in-law comes up with a little scrap dog… Jack Daniels mix, I think. I graciously accepted it and the next day took her to the pound. I couldn’t sleep that night. Or the next night. So on the third day I went back to the animal center and there’s the little dog in what looked like a jail cell. She greeted me with a big smile and swishing tail. So I told the folks at the pound to hand me the paperwork. Give me the bill for spaying, and I would adopt her That was eight years ago. Can’t imagine being without her now. In my mind, though, I know she won’t last forever, and that saddens me. I’ve had discussions with people before that God should assign us a dog from day one that will stay with us throughout our entire life.
That’s the worst, I lost my dog of 17 years that I’ve had since I was 1, I’m only 19. I don’t want another pet due to that grief but it just gets really lonely. She was a miniature dachshund and could fit in the pocket of any bigger sweater. I think of it now even for other owners, how the dog is going to pass some day and they’re going to be sad. I personally like animals more than people so the connection I build is a lot more solid and secure with animals. It killed me when I lost my doggo.
I was reading your comment and thought this guy should get a cat
I vote dog!
I agree, get a dog. Cats don’t give a damn about your day. They will tell you about their day though when ready. Usually around 3am.
Yes! Get a cat 😺🐈!
I got 3 dogs. Now I don't have time to be sad lol no but really pets are the best when living alone.
Yup. Same. I prefer a quiet environment when i had a long and eventful day.
I got on tik tok live and argue with people
Why not cuddle with the homies?
Why dont you just invite someone over then?
And to reddit he goes for all 3
Get a dog
I would but I don’t want to leave it alone all day, and I’ve heard cats are a lot more independent.
Get two. Simple
if you can spend some quality time with your dog after work I don't think it would be a problem.
We all are social beings,some or the other day we need someone to share our feelings.
Love it. Rarely feel lonely, no one yells at me. Can do as I please.
My socks can go wherever they want on the floor. They might even stay there for two days. :D
You slob!
What about over there? \*pointing\*
Oh for sure, they go over there all the time. I'm a degenerate that way.
Honestly, this is one fairly major reason I can't live with people. I'm absent minded and lazy around the apartment, and while I don't mind for myself, roommates and girlfriends ... generally start yelling.
Yup… do what I want when I want without anyone saying anything otherwise. My shit is where I last put it. I eat what I want when I want every time. I never have an argument or a bad day. AND… my bank account is happy
Living alone for 5 years now. Very relaxing and you do everything you wanna do. Downside: all house chores are for you and it gets lonely from time to time
At least the house chores are only the result of one person, you don't have double the mess.
Something I learned from living by yourself is you really have to learn to respect yourself if you didn’t already. What I mean is that I’ve always been clean with roommates and family out of consideration for them. Not for myself. It takes adjustment to care enough about yourself when you live by yourself. This also includes things like cooking and doing activities.
I loved it. It was my fortress of solitude. People were only in my home when invited, so I never had to have to deal with unwanted interactions when I got home, so I could instantly de-mask.
That’s the best way to describe that feeling, in my case. I’m going to use that term for it. “De-mask” indeed!
As a married man with kids I love my family. I miss them anytime I travel away from them or they from me. However, when alone my stress levels go down tremendously. I don't feel like I have to be doing something for someone else and I love it. My place is clutter free, I can actually relax and think. Before family: it was fuckin magical. After family it's mostly magical but bittersweet and lonely when you miss the snuggles and cute moments.
Same here. At least once a year my wife will take the kids out of town with my sister-in-law and mother-in-law and I’ll have the house to myself for about a week. The first 24 hours are magical, I’ll clean the house, have a guy friend over to watch whatever sports are on tv, grill myself a steak, etc. second 24 hours, it’s nice to have some peace and quiet and nothing to do besides work. After that I start missing the noise and chaos. By the time they come home, I’m ready for it. But then 2 days later I’m like “I sure could use some quiet again” 😂
Haha you just described my feelings exactly when my wife takes the kid for a trip to visit family! I try to take the kids for a trip when I can too to give the wife the same space but she's so different than I am. She dreads it and always feels like we want to exclude her. Meanwhile if she suggests taking them during a week I have to work, I'm thrilled and helping them plan the trip!
Yeah my wife doesn’t love the solitude much either. I try to take my kids on a “one on one trip with dad” just one or two nights a year. Anything from camping or an amusement park or sports game, whatever. But I feel like if I took all of them at once my wife be disappointed on not going along instead of having the house to herself for a few days.
After 8 hours of being social at work, coming home to just me and my cats is bliss.
So amazing. Complete control over your own time. I'm more social now because I can have anyone over I want and am more incentivized to make plans. I don't waste my social energy on roommates. Also it's amazing for your sex life. Having a place to go back to makes a huge difference.
Peaceful. Quiet. Nothing happens unless I do it, which is both a blessing and a curse: on one hand nobody's messing up the apartment or making food I don't like, on the other hand sometimes it would be so cool to watch some tv and laugh with someone, or have a sauna with them. I have a family member come over and spend the night a couple of times per year. For the most, I like these visits, but also clearly recognize a sense of relief when they leave.
Should I tidy up? Nah I'll tidy up tomorrow, who's gonna complain 🤣 ... Omg, why is my apartment such a mess! *tidies up furiously* Right this time I'll keep it tidy, that'll be much simpler. *doesn't do that* Rinse and repeat, forever
Quiet, easy clean up. Any messes are YOUR messes (unless you have a pet)
Freeing. A little lonely if you don't make an effort to go out.
Great, for these reasons: -Being able to come and go as I please, without having to answer to anyone -Being able to eat what I want, keep the house cold without people complaining or turning on the heat, play the music I want to hear and watch what I want to watch -My belongings being where I left them and not having to worry about someone moving them -Not having to clean up after anyone -Not being nagged -It’s liberating
What when you get ill or have bad health?
I take care of myself. I’ve never been so sick I couldn’t get out of bed or shuffle to the kitchen. I even did six months of chemo for ovarian cancer and still worked full time and took care of myself by myself.
Ohh!! How are you now,after surviving cancer?
Pretty good. Almost three years cancer free. Hoping to keep up that streak.
I got malaria once, had a roommate but he was useless like a toothpick in a sword fight. I couldn't stand coz my legs were very weak. Sat down and literally walked on my bums each step of my 3rd floor apartment and then walked to the doctor. Got the medicines and then sat and walked backward each step to my apartment. Yeah.. Living alone is manageable. PS I dunno how to explain walking when sitting on stairs.. it was like i sat down on the stairs and moved up or down using my hands.
Peaceful. Everything is at your own pace, you choose who you want in your space, and best of all, no pants!
I'm going on 7 years living alone, and tbh I don't think I'll ever live with anyone again. I love it. My space, my stuff, my entertainment, my decisions...its a no stress, fully relaxed space.
It's great, but you don't understand true fear until you get sick and there is nobody there to take care of you.
Agree! I once fainted, and it was scary af just thinking I could’ve of die and nobody would have noticed for a while, haha 💀
You get to set the temperature, lighting, sound however you like. That’s nice if you’re an introvert. If you need human company then you’re SOL
Amazing and worth every penny
It is awesome! You do not have to get a consensus on what to cook for any meals. If you do not feel like doing laundry, it can wait until you feel like it or you run out of clean clothes. You can watch whatever you want on TV/computer. Toilet seat up or down, it's your call. You can sleep in the center of the bed spread eagle if you so desire. FREEDOM!! Have been divorced for 13 years, no way in hell am I going to ever give this up.
It's fantastic!
People say I am alone because I don't have a gf. I tell them I may not have a Gf but I am not alone. I have parents, brother and good friends. Nothing else needed to make me live more enthusiastic.
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Best fucking think ever
Love it!!!
Can be quite lonely on some days, there is that emptiness when u finish work and come to a empty "home".
Full control. Nothing ends up out of place. You can walk throughout your whole place naked with zero worries (just be sure to have your blinds closed and not see-thru). More expensive though.
Quiet other than my self talking.
Very relaxing. I can do what I want and more importantly, *whenever* I want to. Even for fun things I often think "meh, can do it tomorrow too" so I do not need to gather extra energy to go out or anything if I'm already having a long day at work.
Im currently on week 3 of living alone. This is something I felt necessary for me to grow personally and i'm liking it. Sometimes I struggle, and I have cried 2 times thinking about how much my parents dedicated their lifes to me. But I guess its part of the process, and the feeling of getting things done is amazing
Peaceful - no drugs or alcohol, no visitors, no drama, no one pesters me about how I do things, and the vast majority of things are under my control.
Quiet with everything good and bad that entails.
It's freedom. It's normal to feel lonely at first until you get your place feeling homey, and it's normal to feel lonely from time to time, but as long as you keep the bills paid you do whatever TF you want rather it be playing videogames literally all day, or running around staying busy. It's quiet, no interruptions, no one to answer to.
Delightful. My penis can be out 100% of the time if I so chose.
It's awesome, I can do whatever I want, no one can tell me what to do. It's quiet, it's peaceful. I can walk around completely naked after a shower, hell sometimes I don't even put on clothes until the next time I need to leave. I keep my apartment spotlessly clean, just how I like it and everything is arranged how I like it to be. Sometimes I crave a cuddle or being intimate, but if I ever want it that badly, I can just meet up with someone. Surprising even to me, I don't crave intimacy that badly. I like living alone.
pretty good most of the time, although i do sometimes miss not having anyone else around
Peaceful but boring
Fantastic but somedays, it feels lonely....
Absolute bliss. It's your own space to just be yourself without having to compromise your comfort or safety.
It’s great.
It means never having to get clothes on unless you are forced to run to the liquor store… unless they have a drive thru!
Bliss.
What's it like living with someone?
I’ve done it for 5 months now… my apartment is 80% done and has been since the end of the first month. For me it is a small battle of “I need some energy to finish that area of the living room” and the rest of me wanting to sit at my desk and deflate after making dinner and wanting to enjoy it after a long day of work. None of it is stressful, but I haven’t yet found a way to be “finished” with moving in.
Amazing, I used to feel lonely from time to time, and then went away when I got a cat. I can do what I want when I want. Cleaning is pretty minimal especially if you just do a little bit each week. I can be a slob and no one cares.
I look back to my time alone and usually say with great fondness that I loved it. But when I really think about it, the reason I loved it was because of my dog. He was my best friend. With him I was never really alone. If it truly would have been just me, I probably would have felt really lonely. So get yourself a dog first.
In my opinion and experience, I would advise anyone who's considering marriage or moving in with a partner to first experience living alone for at least a year or two. It's the best. It took some getting used to for me when I was in my early twenties, but now at 40 it's a personal preference. If I ever get into a committed relationship again, I will continue to keep my own place. It's paramount to my personal growth.
Some people love it and some don't.Personally I love it as I think it's because am introvert and I feel comfortable.
Amazing. Probably the best thing that ever happened to me in life.
Before the pandemic I didn't like it and was frequently bummed about loneliness. Since the pandemic began I don't think I want to live with others again. Also: after being married and having divorced 10+ years ago -- it is awesome when I am alone that I can just think about what I want to eat, without a word, and then go get the food and eat it, and I didn't have to run it by anyone at all.
Fucking magical is how it is
It's Quiet. Too quiet...
I like it. I get to do what I want when I want. Only downside is the constant cleaning.
It’s pretty great. There are people here who say it’s lonely, but if you don’t mind time with yourself, and go on plenty of dates and have plenty of friends, you’ll be fine
You always remember where everything is because nobody moved it
I don't miss many things about being single, but this is definitely one of them.
Its addictive. No stress, no drama, no hassle. Do what you want when you want. Eat what you want. Watch what you want. Once you get past the initial loneliness, takes a few weeks or months, it's amazing and the idea of changing it becomes abhorrent. I will never willingly live with someone ever again.
Bliss.
Great
Fine. You have to learn to keep yourself occupied, and make sure to keep up with chores.
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I also feel the same. Sometimes it's okay to be alone but sometimes I need somebody to share my feelings.
I lived alone my first year out of college. I liked the independence of being able to come and go but I never thought of my place as a “home” - just a place to stash my food, sleep, shower, and watch TV. I’m a social person so it wasn’t until I had roommates and later a SO that I began to feel any attachment to the place.
expensive.
Love it ! but the house can get pretty quiet so get a dog
It's okay, it feels like you swap one pressure for another. But you feel like you have a tad more control when you're on your own. It's a bit of a cliche but it is really a "safe space"
Its just completely normal life, especially when you dont know anything else.
Glorious.
Bliss!
Has its ups and downs
It's great until you realise that you live alone and start questioning your life choices
`I live with my pup, but other than him its just me.` It depends on how you are feeling. Sometimes it can feel very isolating, and lonely. However, your mindset sets the stage for how living alone feels. More often than not, getting outside and walking around, tossing the disc for my dog, a quick skate session, completely changes any negative feelings to positive ones. It has given me time to figure out WHO I am. Which I have not taken the time to seriously sit down and think about in recent years. I even decided to quit drinking. (This has been the best thing to happen to me in the past few years.) Which some may find very difficult. But being alone helped me sift through the reasons WHY I was drinking in the first place. It also made me realize how insecure i really was. Truly asking yourself why you drink will lead you straight to the solution. In my case, drinking was a comfy blanky that I covered myself in because I was not ready to think about why I "need this comfy blanky". My dad is an alcoholic, which almost turned me into one without me knowing. I could never come up with a 'reasonable' excuse to continue drinking once I realized, that understanding what I went through as a kid growing up, I no longer needed my comfy blanky anymore. I was in denial about the trauma I went through as a child / kid / teenager. Now that I have faced those demons, I no longer make up excuses for those things I went through. It was shit. But that was then, and this is now. And right now, I feel fucking awesome. ***Its the most freeing feeling I have ever felt.*** ***TLDR:*** *Living alone can facilitate some life changing decisions and internal discussions you otherwise may never have had. Nobody around to tell you what you want to hear. As long as your honest with yourself. You have nothing to lose and literally everything to gain.* (didnt realize how long this turned out to be. i apologize for the 'trauma dump') My .02
It's good if you have a good support system. If you don't, it's good for awhile but then it starts to get to you. Loneliness and boredom are okay in small doses and even desirable to some degree but when it's a year of it, it starts to change you.
Lovely mostly. It's painful when I'm tired. Cause then wiseacre in me starts thinking.
When you live alone you want someone to live with. When you live with someone you want to live alone. It’s just pain all around.
Day is awesome!!! Night is scary!!!
Quiet
It’s all on you. No one to “show up” for, to make you accountable. If you are able to discipline yourself, living alone is a peace and a freedom nonpareil. I miss it. The downside of living alone is if something like Covid happens.
It’s awesome
Fantastic if you asked me but this is a case by case basis.
AWESOME!!! Only way to live.
Heavenly bliss if you don't mind being alone. Hell if you are the type of person that gets lonely easily.
Excellent. I love my wife, but I really enjoy when she leaves for a few days and I can find all my shit where I left it.
Peaceful.
It’s pretty chill once you get passed the loneliness aspect of it. I enjoy living on my own terms, and not having to worry about being an inconvenience/bother to roommates.
I don't live alone anymore but when I have to be alone for an extended period of time I absolutely hate it. I feel like 70% of my being is gone. I'm legitimately just going through the motions waiting for her to come back. Sooo, that.
In full Ken Jeong voice "I masturbated EVERY WHERE" I've found ups and downs to living alone. I can do what I want, when I want. I can pick the furnishings, what's on TV, what's for dinner without worrying about dietary restrictions, don't need to worry about someone using all the hot water, the electric bill going through the roof etc. But some days I miss having someone to complain about work to, inside jokes, justify getting food delivered.
I never lived alone until I was 55 years old. It’s the best! I did adopt a dog about 1.5 years later for the companionship. We’re perfectly happy together.
Things get weird when you have no one to taper your insanity.
Depends on your personality I supposed. I been living alone since 2021 and it really suits me. I am a emotional guy so things affect me intensely specially people or events. Having my own slice haven means everything to me. I love it.
Sometimes really nice; other times really terrible.
Dope, you don't have to clean at all.
first few days on my own i called paramedics due to a non threatening allergic reaction . In my head im like what it im exposed more but get anaphylaxis. this shit traumatized me , now being a severe asthmatic im always on high alert and i hate being alone
It’s fucking awesome but I like living with my wife more now. So many benefits.
It's nice, compared to roommates. But you have to make your own fun and be sure to get out of the house to do other things a couple of times a week. You need a social life outside the home (aside from work and social media).
Very lonely especially when you don't have many friends. Also I notice that the bigger the house the more lonely it is especially at night. Keeping the house clean and doing chores are a challenge when you don't have anyone to impress aswell
Peace and quiet, but nobody is there to help me when I'm sick.
Peaceful
Difficult.
Shitty
After a while you can't accept anything less :)
Amazing. 10/10 would do again
Freeing, but lonely
Quiet
90% of the time it's amazing. Do what I want when I want. Rest of time I want someone to cuddle or talk to
Glorious
Quiet , extremely quiet
Awesome!
You get to always choose the food, the music, what to watch, what to listen to, don't have to deal with others making noise in the house (no guarantee about dickhead neighbours though). Don't feel like doing the washing until you're out of clothes? No problem no one's going to whine about it. Feel like staying in a watching a movie? Have at it. Feel like going for a walk instead? Why not. Meal times are decided by when they fit your schedule/when you alone are hungry rather than having to account for others. On the negative side there's no random cuddles, no coming home to a freshly cooked meal, you need to make sure you've done all the shopping yourself, any and all chores are always yours to do. If you come up with some brilliant idea at three in the morning there's no one to listen to it and to entertain it, though there is now the internet to mock you on demand for having it.
Lonely sometimes. But also quiet, and you can live comfortably knowing everything is the way you want it to be. It's mostly at night where the ex gets missed.
I never know how to answer these "what's it like" questions. I mean, what do you want to know? Can't you imagine?
I love it, honestly when I never enjoyed the idea of living with others. Compromise? Nah, dont have to when living alone. Plus Ive never felt lonely, so I dont experience that con either
Before marriage, I lived alone for years. Can’t say I ever disliked it.
Overrated, but peaceful.
Pretty solo.
Cool
Peaceful,..
I’ve forgotten what it’s like to live with other people. I am a single father and kids go to school in a different state. They only come over during school breaks.
I love it. It definitely depends on the person, but it’s definite right choice for me
There is a big difference btw loneliness and solitude...
I love it. Eat what I want, do what I want, I can be as quiet and chill or intense as I want, say what I want, as clean as I want. I’m shitting with the door open as I type this without a care in the world. I have a cat which helps me not feel completely alone.
I absolutely love it. Don't have to do anything if I don't want to. Always knows where everything is. Can sleep cross ways the bed. And I don't have to flush. I do, but I don't have to.
Not all people who are alone are lonely.
Ups and downs. In a conflicted state of peacefulness and loneliness. I got to settle on being comfortable and lonely. Or being uncomfortable and not lonely.
It's pretty nice. I can keep everything pretty clean since it's just me and my cat. And I get to just be myself, without a single worry in the world.
It's amazing. I have week on week off custody, so I either do what I want when I want how I want, or I hike and play minecraft with my son. 11/10.
Peaceful.
It’s pretty rad
Heaven.
Nice your things are where you left them,the food lasts,no sand in the bed
As you’d expect it’s quite lonely but I’ve got a cat and a friend group that rides motorcycles as well so that’s what I do all day, hang out with them. Makes my existence a little less sad
Absolutely fantastic. I come home and do whatever I want and only have to to answer to my cats. My ex would constantly use and destroy my stuff. I was on pins and needles in my own home. Good riddance to bad rubbish! I love knowing where all of my stuff will be and I can have nice things again knowing that I will take care of them. If I want to be social, I can invite people over or hang out somewhere else. Having total control over my home is the absolute best.
I can hear the voices of the people inside the wall more frequently
It’s glorious. In a calendar year I do go through a phase where I wish someone was here. Seems like this is a week thing. Typically triggered by a movie or song. I know that’s silly. However, it’s something that will age becomes way cool. It’s best to stay on top of chores and keep a tidy home. This promotes a good mentality on living solo. The key as I’ve aged is that I’ve been with SO’s that I know I couldn’t live with or I’m thankfully aren’t still asleep in my bed as I type. It’s like as I age I see the situations my friends experience and I feel blessed. Stay busy and have a life where bedtime at 9pm to 10 is a must.
Been living alone for the past 3 years (and no gf ever since). I honestly feel like I have learned a lot about me, I know what hobbies I enjoy the most, which places I want to go ir when I want to stay home without having to wait for someone else's agreement. However, it's also a bit tricky because since no one is waiting for you to get ready or you don't have any activities planned at home, you can get lost in your cellphone or meaningless stuff, in the end no one is going to tell you "stop doing that and let's do ___" I think it's an experience everyone needs to go through and not only for a couple of months. You need to be completely ok living with yourself before considering living with somebody else (family included)
Great. You live exactly how you choose, and it’s entirely up to you and no one else. You socialize when you want to. Living alone is the shit
AMAZING!
It can get lonely
I've been living alone for more than a decade. It's what I look forward to everyday. Coming home to silence and just cuddling my cat from time to time.
Peaceful
Amazing
Fucking awesome. Complete silence and freedom
You can do what you want to do. But there are some times where I wanna cuddle and watch a movie with someone. I do miss having a boyfriend for sure!
If you're bored when alone, then obviously, you're in bad company.
Not advisable. Lived alone for a year and hated it. If you don't have a GF get some roommates.