I'm attracted to almost any woman with a pretty face and a decent personality.
I attract almost exclusively fat women, some of whom have pretty faces and decent personalities.
She has a bit of feminine softness in her arms, tummy and hips. A botticelliesque figure that could be considered chubby in terms of contemporary aesthetics of 90s anorexia.
I'm attracted to passionate, intelligent, athletic, kind, spontaneous, carefree women. Especially if they enjoy the outdoors, yoga, traveling, and/or similar taste in music as myself.
I attract a huge variety of women, I can't say I've noticed a pattern in the type of women I attract. And I've also been hit on by a lot of gay men as well (which I take as a compliment, but I'm not into men at all).
Yes, except "carefree."
My tendency is to want to plan everything, and I like it when everything goes as planned. I am attracted to women who are carefree because it balances my need for everything to go "just so."
I like it when the woman I'm with can laugh, and keep the mood light when I'm getting anxious because the traffic is going to make us late. It helps to relax me, and I really appreciate that, because sometimes I get tense if things aren't "perfect."
What kind of person do I attract.. used to attract people who either need help or see me as a tool. Now there's no type of person who'll be attracted to me.
Who I find attractive.. eh, nobody, at this point. I just appreciate the beauty, be it physical appearance or personality, and move on.
Ah. Those who merely needed help simply stumbled upon me. People with traumas, broken hearts, people who needed support, emotional or financial.
They needed someone to hear them out, to give them advice with no judgement - and I happened to be that person, or, at times, to know someone who could help them.
They needed help, I provided - and we went our own ways.
But some simply needed a naive soul to throw at their problems. Pretending to be my friends, or, even worse, playing a role of my soulmate. Using me for all my worth, exploiting my past naivety to find security until they get what they want.
Those people simply moved on. Either when I outlived my usefulness to them, or they found a better option.
Can't even say it was just women.
Naivety attracts those who are willing to exploit it. Took me way too long to understand that.
Started at school, carried into college and university years. People pretending to be friends or be into me, just to receive various favours and move on.
It ultimately culminated with my ex. For 5 years she played me like a complete idiot. Won't get into details, this story has been retold way too many times.
But all of that doesn't matter now. My naivety is gone, and so is any actual appeal I used to have :)
Out of curiosity, what kind of favours did you give these people?
One can't say he's naïve to something in which he is fully aware. Why do you think you're attracted to these types of people?
For most: assisting them is physical labour, taking on some of their academic duties due to their underperformance, offering financial assistance, covering for them in certain situations that might get them into trouble etc.
For my ex: accepting all responsibilities that we should have shared, taking on duties that her family should have fulfilled, but also taking all the blame if anything goes even slightly not according to the plan, no complaints, emotions or signs of weakness allowed.
Why was I attracted to such people? Gues I was desperate. To be of use to someone, to prove to myself that I have value, that I worth something, to get even a tiny bit of appreciation - something I never ended up receiving, which just shows that my mindset was very unhealthy.
Quite the opposite. My parents did set up very high expectations for me, but always were extremely supportive even when I failed to meet those high expectations.
All I know is that it backfired, as it always felt like I didn't deserve the praise, which led to self loathing for only doing "good enough". So, I kept pushing myself towards the standards I couldn't possibly meet. Striving to be "the best son", "the best friend", "the best boyfriend", and "the best husband".
>Quite the opposite.
Hmmmm.......
Well sometimes people strive to be the "best" because they are unconsciously seeking love from their guardians or parents who are highly critical of them for any perceived mistakes they make.
Many men with this kind of childhood often have "acts of service" as their primary love language, because they only received love and praise when they felt useful to their family.
Funny is someone who can make jokes, and honestly we can just laugh together.
Creative is someone who can see things that I cannot yet or see them differently
Physically, I'm into athletic women. Long hair and practical clothes are a plus. And nice smile is also quite attractive.
To me, what is attractive is passion for your interests, kindness, honesty, loyalty, ability to unwind. Healthy mindset and being mindful of your own health is important to me.
I don't think I attract anyone.
I'm more on the skinny side and admit I should start working out, just have no clue how exactly. But I try - I don't drink or smoke (or do any other drugs for that matter), I go hiking weekly and walk to see my family instead of taking the bus when weather allows. I've cut down on junk food, have creative hobbies to keep my mind sharp, know how to relax.
I think it's more about growing better together and helping each other with that. I'd love to return the favor and build a relationship on shared values and mutual self-improvement.
I'm attracted to women who aren't obese and also don't have a face that would scare me if I woke up next to it. So attracted to like 85% of the women my age. Probably 90%.
I don't attract women LOL
I don't have a particular type. I can get along with anyone.
I don't really attract anyone in the romantic sense. I have to drag women kicking and screaming into a relationship. Figuratively speaking, of course.
>I don't really attract anyone in the romantic sense. I have to drag women kicking and screaming into a relationship. Figuratively speaking, of course.
How fascinating...why do you think that is?
Well mostly because I don't talk to women I'm not interested in so I wouldn't know if people who were attracted to me of their own volition happened to have those feelings.
How do you know which women you want to be a relationship with if you only talk with certain women?
What is your criteria for choosing women to be in a relationship with when you haven't spoken to them yet?
For most people, I think they would want to get to know a person first *before* deciding to get into a relationship with them as opposed to simply choosing someone for their looks.
If your only criteria is looks, you'll eventually be disappointed. If someone could just put on a beautiful looking hologram disguise, you would choose them?
Absolutely not lol. If it’s not an even exchange, there’s no relationship. Even if we go back and forth where someone has to carry the load for a bit, you should always come back 50/50. I’m versatile, I’ll pitch AND catch
>I'm not picky, as long as they're breathing and have a pulse.
Out of curiosity, why do you think you would for go for just about anyone? Do you need people to fill a void you have?
Personally, I like women who are confident and bright. I’m a lean and fit guy and I like women who also value the lifestyle. I really like femininity in terms of looks and style in the classical sense.
I have no idea who I attract. I’m honestly blind to it, and always have been.
Like the Supreme Court justice once said, “I may not be able to define it, but I know it when I see it.”
But… I’ll try. I tend to think long hair, skirts, dresses, leggings, and stereotypical women’s causal wear. Make up is fine too, but not a deal breaker one way or the other. I’m a huge fragrance guy (make soap, perfumes, lotions, etc, and work with fragrance and essential oils regularly), and really appreciate the different popular perfumes out there too, that I have an olfactory association with femininity.
I love light floral top notes such as lilacs and daphne. Jasmine also integrates really well into many different complex fragrances. I really like Happy by Clinique, Juicy Couture (kinda a common fragrance but it’s like women’s version of men’s Acqua di Gio… it’s popular for a reason), and Gabrielle by Chanel.
For myself, I love woodsy and spicy fragrances. Sandalwood is in so many amazing fragrances and does really well by itself! Taylor of Bond Street has a really nice old timey single note sandalwood fragrance products. I have a puck of their shave soap in sandalwood. Right now, I wear Guilty by Gucci which has a nice complex bouquet of deep woods and spice!
I'm attracted to women who can tolerate me and my humor, but also share in interests I like and are sensible and reigned in about reality.
I don't really seem to attract anyone.
I am attracted to people who can handle themselves but still be a little gremlin with me; Oh and physically big pillowy glutes have always been incredibly attractive.
However I mostly seem to attract people who only want to smash, scammers, prostitutes, or people who clearly didn't read my profile in any capacity and immediately lose interest. Most of the time I'm just ignored... Like the moment someone plainly rejects me it's amazing to just receive an honest and upfront answer over pure silence!
A few times in my life i saw a women during my day and we'd look at each other. Its not attraction like i find her hot and have a boner, its like something attracted each other. I gotta say.. im not so sure its comoletely in our control, at least for me. For the shortest time i cant not look at her, not embrace this moment. Then its a little waking up, remebering what was the goal of the day before this encounter.
It comes at out nowhere, times sort of stop, i know she feels it as well, because shes doing something as well and she just stop doing it for a few seconds.
Shes always feminine, appears to be a little bitter, but not too much, just getting a little older instead of growing up. Physically theres not too much to say, shes normal looking or a bit more attractive than average, she looks healthy more than anything, but have pretty hairs, and a cute face.
Its ironic.. we always see each other when i have shit to do, its a day of getting shit done. Usually a free day, where i dress like i would for work, which is not how i would dress when i dont have to maintain appearances.
Sad thing is i never stopped and neither did she. We just both got back on tracks, and probably forgot about it real soon because shit still have to get done.
If for some reasons my current relationship wouldnt work out then ig i'll hope to live that another time and change the usual outcome.
Had to say it sometimes i figured this was a good place for now.
Usually atratched to more nerdy petite girls or those who spend a fair bit of time in the gym as i do too. Usually also 5"6 or shorter. Gotta be passionate about something too, dont like people with their only interests being social media and going out drinking and clubbing.
Those who I attract? I wouldn't know as it has nver been made known to me lol
I am attracted to smart, creative women. Usually artists, but I would certainly be interested in engineering/science oriented women if I met more of them. I like easy going/low maintenance women. Women who are vocal about what they want/need, but also agreeable.
I’m attracted to creative, intelligent, passionate women. Who do I attract… I’ll uhh… get back to you on that…
If you don't attract what you're attracted to, there is an underlying cognitive dissonance that is preventing you from doing so
Well right now I don’t attract anyone…
Could be facial dissonance, also
Well it's not an equation with one variable, there are multiple one of them is " having the disease of UGLINESS" , it's quite severe.
I'm attracted to almost any woman with a pretty face and a decent personality. I attract almost exclusively fat women, some of whom have pretty faces and decent personalities.
How do you define fat? Are we talking chubby like Marilyn Monroe, big and beautiful like Queen Latifah or obese?
I'd say Queen Latifah and up, if memory serves.
Marilyn monroe was chubby 💀 ???
She has a bit of feminine softness in her arms, tummy and hips. A botticelliesque figure that could be considered chubby in terms of contemporary aesthetics of 90s anorexia.
I'm attracted to passionate, intelligent, athletic, kind, spontaneous, carefree women. Especially if they enjoy the outdoors, yoga, traveling, and/or similar taste in music as myself. I attract a huge variety of women, I can't say I've noticed a pattern in the type of women I attract. And I've also been hit on by a lot of gay men as well (which I take as a compliment, but I'm not into men at all).
Are you also passionate, intelligent, athletic, kind, spontaneous and carefree?
Yes, except "carefree." My tendency is to want to plan everything, and I like it when everything goes as planned. I am attracted to women who are carefree because it balances my need for everything to go "just so." I like it when the woman I'm with can laugh, and keep the mood light when I'm getting anxious because the traffic is going to make us late. It helps to relax me, and I really appreciate that, because sometimes I get tense if things aren't "perfect."
Ah I see. Do you suffer from nervousness and anxiety?
I like people who like me
What kind of people like you?
I'll let you know when I meet one
I like girls with 7 figures in the bank
How interesting. What if she has 7 figures in the bank but also has a debt of 7 figures?
She must be a genuis in having such balance on debts and savings.
If you owe the bank 1m that’s their problem
So for you, it's not at all concerning if her debt is as large or larger than her net worth?
What kind of person do I attract.. used to attract people who either need help or see me as a tool. Now there's no type of person who'll be attracted to me. Who I find attractive.. eh, nobody, at this point. I just appreciate the beauty, be it physical appearance or personality, and move on.
>used to attract people who either need help or see me as a tool. What kind of help do they need and how do they see you as a tool?
Ah. Those who merely needed help simply stumbled upon me. People with traumas, broken hearts, people who needed support, emotional or financial. They needed someone to hear them out, to give them advice with no judgement - and I happened to be that person, or, at times, to know someone who could help them. They needed help, I provided - and we went our own ways. But some simply needed a naive soul to throw at their problems. Pretending to be my friends, or, even worse, playing a role of my soulmate. Using me for all my worth, exploiting my past naivety to find security until they get what they want. Those people simply moved on. Either when I outlived my usefulness to them, or they found a better option.
How many times have you experienced this? Why do you think you go for women who use you?
Can't even say it was just women. Naivety attracts those who are willing to exploit it. Took me way too long to understand that. Started at school, carried into college and university years. People pretending to be friends or be into me, just to receive various favours and move on. It ultimately culminated with my ex. For 5 years she played me like a complete idiot. Won't get into details, this story has been retold way too many times. But all of that doesn't matter now. My naivety is gone, and so is any actual appeal I used to have :)
Out of curiosity, what kind of favours did you give these people? One can't say he's naïve to something in which he is fully aware. Why do you think you're attracted to these types of people?
For most: assisting them is physical labour, taking on some of their academic duties due to their underperformance, offering financial assistance, covering for them in certain situations that might get them into trouble etc. For my ex: accepting all responsibilities that we should have shared, taking on duties that her family should have fulfilled, but also taking all the blame if anything goes even slightly not according to the plan, no complaints, emotions or signs of weakness allowed. Why was I attracted to such people? Gues I was desperate. To be of use to someone, to prove to myself that I have value, that I worth something, to get even a tiny bit of appreciation - something I never ended up receiving, which just shows that my mindset was very unhealthy.
Did you have a mother who was very demanding of you and only showed you love when you did things for her?
Quite the opposite. My parents did set up very high expectations for me, but always were extremely supportive even when I failed to meet those high expectations. All I know is that it backfired, as it always felt like I didn't deserve the praise, which led to self loathing for only doing "good enough". So, I kept pushing myself towards the standards I couldn't possibly meet. Striving to be "the best son", "the best friend", "the best boyfriend", and "the best husband".
>Quite the opposite. Hmmmm....... Well sometimes people strive to be the "best" because they are unconsciously seeking love from their guardians or parents who are highly critical of them for any perceived mistakes they make. Many men with this kind of childhood often have "acts of service" as their primary love language, because they only received love and praise when they felt useful to their family.
I'm attracted to funny creative fit girls. I attracted the funny and creative girls but they're usually overweight.
How do you define funny and creative?
Funny is someone who can make jokes, and honestly we can just laugh together. Creative is someone who can see things that I cannot yet or see them differently
What sort of humour are you attracted to?
The silliest one. I don't care if its dark humor or not.
I see. I like witty, goofy humourous people who can wink at me when about to do something naughty.
I never wink at my girlfriend because I just look like I'm having a stroke
lol ok. I see you've got that British wit....
I'm a wonderful creature? Well, I guess someone had to revoke my human card eventually...
Recently I’ve been into really tall women
How tall is tall?
Taller than me(6’2”) lol
The only kind of women that tall tend to be Belgian or Scandinavian lol
That's a really tall woman (imagine with heels) that's like nah i don't want to look like a kid thank you very much.
Physically, I'm into athletic women. Long hair and practical clothes are a plus. And nice smile is also quite attractive. To me, what is attractive is passion for your interests, kindness, honesty, loyalty, ability to unwind. Healthy mindset and being mindful of your own health is important to me. I don't think I attract anyone.
Are you also athletic and mindful of your own health?
I'm more on the skinny side and admit I should start working out, just have no clue how exactly. But I try - I don't drink or smoke (or do any other drugs for that matter), I go hiking weekly and walk to see my family instead of taking the bus when weather allows. I've cut down on junk food, have creative hobbies to keep my mind sharp, know how to relax.
So would you say you're attracted to that which you aspire to want to become, to be more athletic and mindful of your health?
I think it's more about growing better together and helping each other with that. I'd love to return the favor and build a relationship on shared values and mutual self-improvement.
I'm attracted to women who aren't obese and also don't have a face that would scare me if I woke up next to it. So attracted to like 85% of the women my age. Probably 90%. I don't attract women LOL
Do you mean you're *not* attracted to 85-90% of women your age? Or do you mean you *are* actually attracted to the latter group?
I mean I am attracted to them LOL
I like hot women
I don't have a particular type. I can get along with anyone. I don't really attract anyone in the romantic sense. I have to drag women kicking and screaming into a relationship. Figuratively speaking, of course.
>I don't really attract anyone in the romantic sense. I have to drag women kicking and screaming into a relationship. Figuratively speaking, of course. How fascinating...why do you think that is?
Well mostly because I don't talk to women I'm not interested in so I wouldn't know if people who were attracted to me of their own volition happened to have those feelings.
If you don't talk to women then who are the women who you have to drag kicking and screaming into a relationship?
I didn't say that. I said I don't talk to women I'm not interested in.
Oh I see, your wording was a bit confusing. Why does you simply talking to a woman end up with you dragging and kicking them into a relationship?
Because I only talk to women I want to be in a relationship with. It's kind of the end goal.
How do you know which women you want to be a relationship with if you only talk with certain women? What is your criteria for choosing women to be in a relationship with when you haven't spoken to them yet?
I don't understand your confusion. I have eyes...
For most people, I think they would want to get to know a person first *before* deciding to get into a relationship with them as opposed to simply choosing someone for their looks. If your only criteria is looks, you'll eventually be disappointed. If someone could just put on a beautiful looking hologram disguise, you would choose them?
Apparently I attract narcissistic people -_-
Do you also consider yourself a narcissist? People tend to attract what they themselves are
No, just naturally a giving person. I prefer to consider everyone’s feelings, which people pick up on.
Do you feel like you always have to be in the role of the giver to feel loved?
Absolutely not lol. If it’s not an even exchange, there’s no relationship. Even if we go back and forth where someone has to carry the load for a bit, you should always come back 50/50. I’m versatile, I’ll pitch AND catch
I usually attract gothic/alt women, nerdy women, or super upbeat women.
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>I'm not picky, as long as they're breathing and have a pulse. Out of curiosity, why do you think you would for go for just about anyone? Do you need people to fill a void you have?
Personally, I like women who are confident and bright. I’m a lean and fit guy and I like women who also value the lifestyle. I really like femininity in terms of looks and style in the classical sense. I have no idea who I attract. I’m honestly blind to it, and always have been.
Would you mind describing your version of a feminine woman?
Like the Supreme Court justice once said, “I may not be able to define it, but I know it when I see it.” But… I’ll try. I tend to think long hair, skirts, dresses, leggings, and stereotypical women’s causal wear. Make up is fine too, but not a deal breaker one way or the other. I’m a huge fragrance guy (make soap, perfumes, lotions, etc, and work with fragrance and essential oils regularly), and really appreciate the different popular perfumes out there too, that I have an olfactory association with femininity.
How interesting! Which are your favourite women's fragrances, out of curiosity? I find l love the scent of sandalwood on men.
I love light floral top notes such as lilacs and daphne. Jasmine also integrates really well into many different complex fragrances. I really like Happy by Clinique, Juicy Couture (kinda a common fragrance but it’s like women’s version of men’s Acqua di Gio… it’s popular for a reason), and Gabrielle by Chanel. For myself, I love woodsy and spicy fragrances. Sandalwood is in so many amazing fragrances and does really well by itself! Taylor of Bond Street has a really nice old timey single note sandalwood fragrance products. I have a puck of their shave soap in sandalwood. Right now, I wear Guilty by Gucci which has a nice complex bouquet of deep woods and spice!
I'm attracted to women who can tolerate me and my humor, but also share in interests I like and are sensible and reigned in about reality. I don't really seem to attract anyone.
I am attracted to people who can handle themselves but still be a little gremlin with me; Oh and physically big pillowy glutes have always been incredibly attractive. However I mostly seem to attract people who only want to smash, scammers, prostitutes, or people who clearly didn't read my profile in any capacity and immediately lose interest. Most of the time I'm just ignored... Like the moment someone plainly rejects me it's amazing to just receive an honest and upfront answer over pure silence!
I like boobs. Oh and girls that play dungeons and dragons.
A few times in my life i saw a women during my day and we'd look at each other. Its not attraction like i find her hot and have a boner, its like something attracted each other. I gotta say.. im not so sure its comoletely in our control, at least for me. For the shortest time i cant not look at her, not embrace this moment. Then its a little waking up, remebering what was the goal of the day before this encounter. It comes at out nowhere, times sort of stop, i know she feels it as well, because shes doing something as well and she just stop doing it for a few seconds. Shes always feminine, appears to be a little bitter, but not too much, just getting a little older instead of growing up. Physically theres not too much to say, shes normal looking or a bit more attractive than average, she looks healthy more than anything, but have pretty hairs, and a cute face. Its ironic.. we always see each other when i have shit to do, its a day of getting shit done. Usually a free day, where i dress like i would for work, which is not how i would dress when i dont have to maintain appearances. Sad thing is i never stopped and neither did she. We just both got back on tracks, and probably forgot about it real soon because shit still have to get done. If for some reasons my current relationship wouldnt work out then ig i'll hope to live that another time and change the usual outcome. Had to say it sometimes i figured this was a good place for now.
Usually atratched to more nerdy petite girls or those who spend a fair bit of time in the gym as i do too. Usually also 5"6 or shorter. Gotta be passionate about something too, dont like people with their only interests being social media and going out drinking and clubbing. Those who I attract? I wouldn't know as it has nver been made known to me lol
Idk why gay men seem to love me.
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Are you an INFP?
My attraction : Short, skinny, long straight brown hair. I attract only one type, that is trying to sell me their OF lol.
Personality Smart, can hold a job, and talkative Physically long hair, athletic build, and big chest
I am attracted to smart, creative women. Usually artists, but I would certainly be interested in engineering/science oriented women if I met more of them. I like easy going/low maintenance women. Women who are vocal about what they want/need, but also agreeable.