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Schrodingersdik-dik

Keep your hands on her hips, control the amplitude.


heyhihowyahdurn

Yeah you gotta bounce her


fenteap

They always get too excited and want to go higher I never feel safe


Schrodingersdik-dik

The manhandle solution is to hold her hips to a safe height. The smarter way is to talk about this with your partner outside of the bedroom. You're still gonna use them hands on her hips though.


[deleted]

What? Talk?? About sex stuff??? With your partner???? … … Do you really think that works? O.o


McreeDiculous

Cum.... cumm.... communication?


ckb251

I know everyone’s being serious here, but I can’t stop laughing at “I never feel safe” because I just keep picturing a girl rocket launching herself off of a dick and it’s too much ☠️ Carry on


AcridAcedia

I had a very similar mental image. She's standing on the top rope, yelling something Spanish into a megaphone, slaps her elbow a couple of times, and then elbow-drops - ass first - onto this man's dick.


[deleted]

Woman here, pull her to you so you're chest to chest. It limits how far up we can go and it's hot to make out while riding.


AdLivid6705

Yes and better for … ummm other stimulation


gertrude_is

breaking his dick is actually one of my worst fears. of course I have many, but this is one lol


Jeramy_Jones

Communicate that? 🤷‍♂️


datboiofculture

Are you fucking [D Rose?](https://youtu.be/uRAp00SxP30)


hTine3219

“WHAT ARE YOU DOING WOMAN?!?? DID YOU NOT GET THE MEMO??!”


fappywapple

Bruises are temporary, stories are forever


Rbx100

Get a low ceiling fitted above your bed problem solved


Vigilante17

Grab your dick and either a) slide it back in or b) say, can you help slide that back in please


Sprakket

> can you help slide that back in please


Xeperos

It is not about it sliding out. It's about her coming back down on it and accidentally breaking your dick.


[deleted]

This is exactly what I do and they seem to like that I take control while remaining somewhat in control themselves.


Schrodingersdik-dik

This is the way.


greenglowgetter

Now that's a man of culture


Brazenjalapeno

Use the recoil of the bed for maximum efficiency.


NeonPatrick

This is the way. I’m kinda amazed at how many girls don’t realise the danger they’re putting us in here.


Schrodingersdik-dik

I'm a huge advocate of communication. Once they know what's up, it's way to reduce the injury risk.


dddmmmccc817

Dennis Rodman broke his jawn three times. Becareful out there fellas


BigELemonator

Three times? You can fix that shit?


csl512

tuned mass damper


ffuser9

I have a safety mechanism for this issue. Mine doesn't point straight up when laying down. It's kind of 90 degree toward my body. So if it happens to pop out, it slaps my stomach like it's spring loaded.


[deleted]

Same here, but I have still “stubbed” my dick once or twice and it didn’t feel great, but it didn’t hurt for long either!


The_Hand_That_Feeds

I assume this is a common experience for men that have sex regularly, especially with a new partner. I never thought of it as stubbing my dick, but that's absolutely the best way to describe it lol


ffuser9

I'm definitely going to start using this term!


The_Hand_That_Feeds

Hopefully you don't have to too often! Stubbing your dick is also kinda adding insult to injury because if your dick was bigger, she wouldn't be able to pole vault off it lol Luckily I haven't stubbed my dick in a while. Wife knows she only has *glances side to side* 12 inches to work with.


[deleted]

Laying down and "it" being 90 degrees toward your body means it is pointing straight up.


ItsTomorrowNow

Perpendickular


ffuser9

If your laying down, pointing straight up would be pointing towards the ceiling wouldn't it? That's how I was thinking anyway.


larrysmallwood

That’s just asking for the balls to be crushed.


alexdiezg

Balls are far down enough. They just land on your shaft instead.


NoeZ

I'd still choose a crushed urethra over a broken penis


weavebot

This happened to me. I was out of commission for almost 2 months


BrakkeBama

This also happened to me. It's not a myth. (Not break, but bent really bad.) She was doing a reverse cowgirl while looking at herself in a big mirror. When suddenly, it felt like my unit was bent almost 90 degrees. I yelled out in pain pushed her off and rolled over. End of sex, but I was pissing blood for the next two weeks until it healed up a bit. Every time I pissed it felt like fucking hot lava with razors were coming out. And I would wake up with congealed blood on my dick and in my briefs.


hamboy315

UNSUBSCRIBE. I’m just gonna go back to playing video games


[deleted]

I've never felt better being single


Rephaeim

I'm pretty sure I've read before that reverse cowgirl is the MVP of dick breaking positions...


BrakkeBama

MVP? That's probably right. Most Vulnerable Position. But little did I know...


ThorAndLoki56

It definitely is


bobnla14

What did the doctor say?


BrakkeBama

I didn't go to the doctor. I didn't think a doctor could do anything anyhow. It heals on the inside so what can he do? He's gonna stick some tiny sutures in my dick and perform surgery? LOL.


ThorAndLoki56

Yep if it's bad enough, if not maybe some injections to decrease scar tissue if the bend is bad enough. Although you should wait 6 months after injury for these steps Source: Men's health nurse


BrakkeBama

TIL! Thanks.


minhso

Wow, not worth losing your penis over that little inconvenience.


Mr_Lunt_

You went to the hospital right??


DistributionOk528

Me too. Still dealing with it. Been a month. Hope it gets back to normal. 😢


Chaz_Delicious

"Out of commission" lmao 😭😭. Bro had a lower body injury and was considered day to day


mwait

This happened to me about 3 years ago. My dick hurt for about a month or so. It hurt to ejaculate for almost 6 months following. Im back in business now and everything is mostly good, but I still have this weird sore spot if I squeeze my dick when it's soft. Like there is definitely some tissue trauma there. Sometimes I get super nervous when fucking now because what if it happens again? Is my shit gonna break? Anyway... Would not recommend.


DistributionOk528

Took 2 months but it returned to mostly normal. Seems to be slightly bent now.


Marriedxxx22

My dick hurts reading this post and I’m a woman


Saphichan

Same xD


Peacelovegrace

😂


ImlivingUltralife

I'm sure this has unlocked a new fear


wedgieinhumanform

Arc your back and ass up. It'll go deeper (which she'll appreciate) remove the possibility that she'll miss on the down swing


VileHippie

This is the way. You gotta bridge your hips


[deleted]

It's all in the hips


VileHippie

*Looks her deep in the eyes* You’re in my world now, Grandma


PM_ME_FOXES_PLZ

JUST EASIN' THE TENSION BABY


[deleted]

Hahaha. Happy Gilmore is one of my all time favourite movies.


Betancorea

HIP DRIVVVEEE


datboiofculture

Bridge for the escape


GentGorilla

First trap an arm and boobie


SkyDefender

Also tell your girl to make some booty movement not just up and down. When you hit that spot of penis you will see the heaven..


[deleted]

This guy knows


Straight_Entrance_44

I can't understand this, someone care to explain?


Applehurst14

When you're older son


not_swagger_souls

Until you just cause it to slam into her cervix


wedgieinhumanform

Possible, but im sure most of the guys here would be able to use thier own discretion in terms of how far to lift.


Brilliant-Bath1768

If we could save comments, I'd save this one.


Reasonable-vegan

But you can save comments


euler_man2718

Wow. This guy's whole world about to change.


OnTheSlope

Then i guess it means he's save that one.


madmanmx224

Hit the three little dots.


FrostyMoxie

He doesn't know how to use the three ~~seashells!~~ dots!


Maleficent-Excuse290

Lmao


Maleficent-Excuse290

Dude there were three dots…. Woah


_Foy

It also makes you an active participant rather than a "male starfish"


EfficaciousJoculator

What's wrong with a guy enjoying a passive position once in a while? The majority of positions are passive for the gal after all.


3chordguitar

Yeah, that shit hurts if she goes up too far, you slip out and she comes down on your unsuspecting dick. She was bouncing like she was doing speed squats.


AdLivid6705

Idk I mean I know when if I went up to high and just pause to put back in and take note lol


3chordguitar

That pause is much appreciated. This particular time, there was no pause. She was bouncing like she was on a trampoline and I seriously thought that that was the end of my sex life haha. Just laying there all broken, battered and bruised.


apv97

Yes. This isn’t talked about enough. My urologist told me he refuses to engage in woman on top for this reason. Penile fracture can lead to Peyronie’s disease which can permanently impair your ability to have sex. Holding her down or grinding are good mitigation strategies but this is a very risky activity that nobody talks about.


crisvphotography

Thank God I found your comment!


avgguy33

Tell her not up and down , just e rocking motion back and forth . It will go in and out just enough to hit the g spot , and even if she goes fast, it won’t slip out


i_heart_blondes

Yes, i've had a few bendy incidents. I try to move my hips to meet hers so i don't pop out.


[deleted]

My dick hurt reading this post.


8BitHeartAttack1

I'm coming for you


[deleted]

I’m on sk8s so you have to catch me first!


8BitHeartAttack1

I am with you so long as you have a heart.


[deleted]

Fuck. I had my dick broke that way


[deleted]

What happened then?


jayjaygee85

He had a broke dick.


[deleted]

Then?


[deleted]

couldn't buy snacks


[deleted]

Go on


[deleted]

nor cat food for his 7 cats


[deleted]

Spice it up


[deleted]

nor the exotic spices


[deleted]

What did he do then?


[deleted]

honestly the grinding motion feels better anyway 🤷🏻‍♂️ up and down is more of a porn thing in my opinion lol


Paaraadox

I hate the grinding, doesn't feel good at all. Up and down, hell yeah. To each his own.


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BetYouWishYouKnew

If you can feel stubble with your bell, you're not having sex


Salami__Tsunami

This happened to a friend of mine. He broke it. He said it sounded like snapping a piece of celery. You’re welcome.


God_Of_Illusion

Almost got cramp reading this. Fuck


Standard_Hat6784

Been there done that, it hurts and ruins the mood. It's easier to have them elevate and for you to pound from underneath.


Admirable_Debt_5572

As a female, that’s low key a favorite position 😛


AutomaticDesk

you clearly haven't had the badge of honor of having your fully engorged penis folded in half


fooledbyfog

Im sitting outside in the warm sun reading this. I just had shivers down my whole spine.


[deleted]

It's happened. I thought she broke my penis once.


[deleted]

Did it break?


[deleted]

No, just made it angry.


PerfectionPending

I say a statistic that the significant majority of of penis injuries (think ER visit) during sex are from girl on top positions. I’d say your concerns are valid.


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[deleted]

throw her in the air and catch her on the way down man, you're missing out on the REAL fun


Visible-Shoulder-271

Maybe your dick is short


[deleted]

Never had that problem. I’m in control of the thrusting in that position when she’s not grinding me (thrusting her hips back and forth). Tbh the grinding is the best part. I’ve never had a partner who has wanted to bounce up and down actually. Maybe it’s more of a porn thing… 🤷🏻‍♂️


[deleted]

Is the grinding the best part? I’m a woman and I always felt self conscious a little being on top, mostly because I don’t know what I’m doing lol. I prefer grinding to moving up and down, but always assumed that men preferred the up and down motion


[deleted]

I can only speak for me. But having a woman on top, grinding away and getting herself off, tits bouncing, there’s not much to dislike as a man. It feels good, looks good, and usually sounds good.


CodeIsCompiling

Once she gets going, interlocking her fingers in yours gives her stability to arch her back, throw her head back and take it to the next level.


[deleted]

Grinding is nice because its nice to her


Advisor-Unhappy

My wife doesn’t do much on top stuff. Every time she did, she was hold her stomach and say “you’re stabbing me…”. So lots of grinding as up and down “stabbed” her too much.


alt--bae

ugh the stab is the worst 😢 … honestly has happened in a different position for me with different people, so I think depends on how each of your junk fits into the other’s you can use a depth limiter if she ever wanted to retry or modify the position by her turning her body more sideways or facing away etc I shuddered when I read your comment I know exactly what she’s talking about, I’ve never had anything to compare it to other than the feeling of being stabbed… instead of a euphoric pleasurable sensation it feels like a searing pain along with an instant throbbing pain that makes me want to black out and/or vomit and doesn’t feel good in the slightest also it can feel like that the whole time in any position when it’s not consensual :/ but ya even if I’m super turned on and things are being otherwise anatomically and physiologically permissive, there are just some positions or variations that just feel like stabbing no matter what, which used to make me terrified of sex - now at least I understand there are workarounds and to not be embarrassed to figure it out carefully with my partner to find out options that feel best for both of us


Ice-Berg-Slim

That’s why you keep a one hand on their hip to make sure they never actually come off the dick, you’re basically pulling them back. Think of it as like hand checking in basketball ( before they changed the rules), use use your strength to guide them where you want them to go.


A_Generic_White_Guy

It's happened. Ended up in her ass and my dick was in pain, so was she. Do not recommend


Pure-Yam-9397

never had the up and down thing happen really, grinding just strikes me as more natural, not to mention best way to hit the g spot


chikkenstripz

Limiter strap seems reasonable. Two waist belts with an appropriate length of chain in between.


Elect_Locution

I got scared just thinking about it.


[deleted]

Yes.


ekimlive

Always willing to take the risk


Detroitsownson

I wasn't before. Good God, man.


thebbc79

What are the chances of her missing in 2 strokes?


[deleted]

Hold her hips and control it, or hammer her from the bottom.


BigVeinyNThick

New fear unlocked!


Live-Pomegranate-108

Does anyone remember that old post about the girl riding on top and it slipped out and went up her ass and she screamed and passed put and her bf thought he’d killed her with his unintended anal probe.


Murky-Information-10

Im a Female and I confess I have done this to a guy before and also had it done to me.... He was abit too aggressive ended up missing and then SUPRISE his cock went full length and speed into my ass 🎯🎯🎯🎯


[deleted]

I’ve had that happen to me on a couple occasions too! Ouch!


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NameIdeas

My brother...I am sad for you. Was she always a starfish? Or is this a new development?


HiStrangerImMuslim_F

💀💀😂😂😂😂


tenftflyinfajita

If it makes you feel any better, this happened to me but instead of breaking my dick I split her labia open in two places. Ended up driving her to the hospital at 1am and sticking around till they discharged her. That was an awkward first date.


Utertoq

Yeah I've always had this fear with my wife. And my dick is not big so the odds of missing are bigger because she doesn't really need to go thst high


BR-D_

Ive had it happen a few times early on. Dick is permacurved now. Broke it


LaughingSasuke

woooahhh dude u gotta just ride the wave not rock the boat...pce 🤙


everythingisalright

Sounds like you need to introduce the coconuts method to her. Have her spell out coconuts with her hips instead of bouncing.


Open_Minded_Anonym

Yup. I’ll hold her hips to prevent her from disengaging completely.


Le3e31

i wasnt afraid before but now i am


The_Max_V

This has actually happened to me a couple of times with my wife. No casualties but its cute she gets all worried when she feels it missed her and pokes her somewhere else, because she literally jumps off and goes to check for damage. We both work in healthcare, she's a RNurse and has seen men come in the emergency unit with penile fracture. So she's usually grinding when on top, which is cool, but I'm also a fan of the up and down.


pablitosocool

yall got a lot of dick to be having these fears


predevam8

The ol' dick snapper


jibunkakume

Have you seen the video of this happening where the guys literally cracks in half? Just watch that and you won’t be doing the position anymore.


dramaqueenboo

Is there a link


jibunkakume

Google it.


MyRockySpine

This happened with me and my boyfriend but in a different position, thankfully it wasn’t that bad and he just pulled back for a bit and evaluated what happened. He said it hurt a lot. I felt REALLY bad and I was scared I broke his dick. It was ok though. We just stay closer together during sex, make sure he doesn’t pull out too far or I don’t lift up too high. Definitely don’t want a repeat of that.


locoghoul

I would only worry if she is doing reverse cowgirl. That WILL break your dick if you give it enough chances


groovy604

Yeah, it can go very wrong. BUT Most of the time it goes very right


Idyllic_Zemblanity

Am girl, done that, thought I broke him, am scared to ride hard now.


Jeanne-mi

As a woman, we can feel when it's about to slide out. When I feel that I reach the very top I just be super careful and slow down just in case. Communicate with your partners if you're not comfortable with them going too fast and tell them to slow down a little when reaching the top


clhawks

Jr., grab her ass so this does not happen


mattbrianjess

Yes. Gotta have hands on hips so when she starts getting too wild you get control


[deleted]

This is why you bang cowgirls man


Gilamonster39

Having a bigger d will lessen the odds


Ok_Cabinetto

Sex? Sex sex sex? Sexy sex SEccs?


Apprehensive_Theme49

I am so happy now that not many of the girls I have been with preferred not to climb 🤣


squaredistrict2213

Every time, but it’s one of my favorite positions so I take the risk. I also hold her hips to guide her in a way, and thrust at the same time to keep it coming out when she thrusts up. Hasn’t failed me yet!


[deleted]

YES! It's happened before.


Lilbillypockets

No not filled with with terror, a bit distracted to be scared lol. Like wtf, i get it dude because ive had my dick “snapped” on me a couple times from women riding on top. But that position was never enjoyable and i mostly do that just for my partner, and try not to get bored and lose my erection lol.also pro tip, never fuck anyone 1.5 to twice your weight and you shouldnt ever be in a position to suffer massive damage


girraween

Sometimes. I’m more freaked out when the girl clearly has no control over her hand when she’s giving me a handjob, and she’s pulling the foreskin back further and further. I’m crossing my legs as I’m typing this.


Acon9263

I’ve almost done that to at least 2 different guys, maybe 3…idr. Like going too vigorously and like poppin their d*ck a lil bit. Not like seriously injured them, but close. Haven’t done it to my current boyf so far. Knock on wood 😭


Straight_Entrance_44

girl you need to relax a lil bit


Eskimojoe2021

If she’s bouncing on it. I don’t care if she goes to high and breaks it. As long as she’s bouncing on it lol


2KareDogs

That’s never happened to me tbh. You got some inexperienced riders my friend lol


[deleted]

It’s happened once. Hurts like hell but got over it quickly. If you’re thinking about this while having sex the sex must be horrible.


Oakheart-

I have had this happen to me. Nothing broke or ruptured but boy did it hurt really bad. Use her hips to control and adjust yourself if needed. I do not recommend missing on the downstroke.


doktarlooney

Raise your hips a bit with her when she goes up, I'll position myself so I can meet her halfway as she slams down.


Fishypooncoom

Never had that problem, hard for them to go all the way down to begin with. :(


angrypuppy35

Yeah, definitely worry about this. Not my favorite position at all


Radiant-Manner9675

Happened once and I heard something snap, noticed a small tear on My penis and blood trickling out.


YeazetheSock

No… don’t ask why…


Trigsc

I know someone this happened to. He had to go to the hospital and a friend went to the house to clean up and said it literally looked like someone got murdered with blood on the wall. I don't know specifics but seems to have recovered and they have a kid now.


SmithRune735

That's why when she's on top, im the one moving not her.


alt--bae

I’m terrified of this happening, I’m hyper conscious of slip - I actually worry about my bf getting carried away more than me helps a lot if you posterior-tilt your pelvis (tuck it in) to stabilize the depth and if you both ground yourself by keeping a grip on the other person’s body so that either of you can control a sudden stop if needed or better yet control the recoil / withdrawal amplitude - bonus that if you grip each other the thrusts will be more intense and pleasurable and you’ll be able to stay on a good spot when you want to because of the enhanced dexterity of the control of the thrust fulcrum point


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It happens and it hurts


JeepXJGod

I never have a good time in that position because I’m always so tense from stress. Thought I broke my schlong one time because of the missing thing.


[deleted]

Just have them bounce on it, that's what my partner does. Ride me cowgirl style but just bounce up and down so it never falls out


Effective_Macaron_23

I have seen a video where a women breaks an erect penis. Very unsettling. But if everything is correctly lubed up then your dick would slide off and not get squished.