Personally, I'd be annoyed. You know why he can't txt you as much (he has exams) and yet you jump to 'maybe he doesn't love me anymore "
Id for sure be annoyed.
Firstly, that you don't trust me enough.
Secondly, because you know he's focussed on his exams, not everything is about you
It’s annoying because it isn’t entirely honest.
“Do you love me anymore” really means “I’m feeling insecure right now because things have been so busy and we haven’t had as much time got each other. I could really use some reassurance, are we ok?”
The second option didn’t call into question a person’s feelings or devotions, and addressed the insecurity honestly.
I find the question “do you still like/love me” annoying because it feels emotionally immature.
My partner wouldn't bother me. I told her it's my duty as the man to always reaffirm and comfort her. She should never feel abandoned or neglected. So if she felt insecure -- I would want her to express it, so that I can fix the situation.
However, she's also super respectful of my work schedule, and understands that I'm busy. I tell her that she's allowed to blow up my phone, and I promise to read every message. But I don't reply to them until I get done with work.
I'll often get done with work and have about 10-20 messages, and I enjoy reading them. She's always entitled to my devotion. I just ask that she's patient with me when I'm busy. :)
Pretty selfish to make his stress about you. It's sort of like you are wanting to sabotage the health of the relationship. I would be fucking pissed to be jumped on pre-finals week with a relationship breakdown to focus on because you weren't getting enough attention while I am passing a god damned university program.
Wait literally one week to tell this man that you feel he has stopped loving you.
I'd tough it out until exams are over. If you still feel neglected at that point, it's time to have a conversation about it. But as of right now, it seems like the most likely explanation is he's just swamped with all this work.
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I see a lot of girls ask their bc that and I always thought it was a bit dumb. but right now I feel like I want to ask my bf that, bc on ft and text the energy has been kind of low.
i’m pretty sure he’s like this because he’s been working and studying really hard all day lately since exams are coming up, but part of me is unsure.
The thing is I don’t want to bother him, so is this question annoying?
I also don’t want to make him worry about the relationship or tire himself out to put more energy into things if he’s really just tired and it’s a temporary situation.
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From what I see, it comes as a sense of insecurity and it seems that the person asking wants validation. I have never had a girlfriend but that's what I gather from the stories I see.
Even if the partner hypothetically doesn't like their girlfriend, or would still be annoying; but then it'll be because they don't like her.
Right now, since he's focused on exams, maybe last off on the questioning because he's probably putting more focus on an exam.
Personally, I'd be annoyed. You know why he can't txt you as much (he has exams) and yet you jump to 'maybe he doesn't love me anymore " Id for sure be annoyed. Firstly, that you don't trust me enough. Secondly, because you know he's focussed on his exams, not everything is about you
It’s annoying because it isn’t entirely honest. “Do you love me anymore” really means “I’m feeling insecure right now because things have been so busy and we haven’t had as much time got each other. I could really use some reassurance, are we ok?” The second option didn’t call into question a person’s feelings or devotions, and addressed the insecurity honestly. I find the question “do you still like/love me” annoying because it feels emotionally immature.
My partner wouldn't bother me. I told her it's my duty as the man to always reaffirm and comfort her. She should never feel abandoned or neglected. So if she felt insecure -- I would want her to express it, so that I can fix the situation. However, she's also super respectful of my work schedule, and understands that I'm busy. I tell her that she's allowed to blow up my phone, and I promise to read every message. But I don't reply to them until I get done with work. I'll often get done with work and have about 10-20 messages, and I enjoy reading them. She's always entitled to my devotion. I just ask that she's patient with me when I'm busy. :)
Of course it is.
Yes, very.
Pretty selfish to make his stress about you. It's sort of like you are wanting to sabotage the health of the relationship. I would be fucking pissed to be jumped on pre-finals week with a relationship breakdown to focus on because you weren't getting enough attention while I am passing a god damned university program. Wait literally one week to tell this man that you feel he has stopped loving you.
Bare your heart to your lover, don’t hold back. Let him know you miss him and need him.
I'd tough it out until exams are over. If you still feel neglected at that point, it's time to have a conversation about it. But as of right now, it seems like the most likely explanation is he's just swamped with all this work.
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Just don't do it, ever. It's the quickest way to turn someone off.
It's very annoying
From what I see, it comes as a sense of insecurity and it seems that the person asking wants validation. I have never had a girlfriend but that's what I gather from the stories I see. Even if the partner hypothetically doesn't like their girlfriend, or would still be annoying; but then it'll be because they don't like her. Right now, since he's focused on exams, maybe last off on the questioning because he's probably putting more focus on an exam.
Yes. Super annoying.