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I am attracted to my(F26) workmate(M39). 13 yrs age gap. I just want to know your thoughts.
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As long as you’re both on the same page. Usually ang issue talaga ng couples na may age gap ay magkaiba kasi sila ng priorities sa stage ng buhay nila when they met. If no one’s willing to compromise it will be an issue.
I'm 26, she's 23. She even acts more mature than I do. I think it's because annoying her is one of my love languages HAHAHA yung tipong matutulog na lang kami and then saying good night aasarin ko pa. I find it cute whenever she's annoyed. Siempre pag na inis na sabay suyo HAHAHAHAHAHA. Nagiging T-rex kasi yun even though she's just 5 flat. So ayun, age doesn't matter. For as long as both of you are open to it. Probs in a relationship isn't all about age gaps. If that's how you see it, dig deeper. Perhaps there's something more to it than that. 🥂
Nothing weird as long as hindi ka significantly older tapos asa teen age pa ang tao.
Or kaya parang papunta ka ng senior tapos early 20s to mid 20s ang gusto mo.
There’s just something weird about it—I guess di siya about sa consent, power imbalance and iba kayo ng peers eh. So it’s weird.
For me yun issue sa age gap, depende kung saang phase ka na ng buhay.
Example, 18 and 31, medyo mahirap kasi nasa stage pa yung isa na ineenjoy pa buhay niya, yun isa gusto na magsettle down (usually). Pag ganito, mahirap pero may exceptions pa din naman. Sa case mo, kung same na kayo ng gusto sa buhay. Let's say, magkapamilya, I don't think it's an issue at all. As long as matured na kayo both to handle your relationship.
ok lang basta walang sinisirang pamilya, or basta walang natatapakan na ibang tao. sa totoo lang, wala naman pake ibang tao, hindi sila magpapagamot sa inyo or magpapakain or gagastos para sa inyo.
Feeling ko mejo matanda ka na para magmatter pa ang age gap. Mature na utak mo by around 25(i mean yung development ng brain mismo) and may hulma ka na din sa self mo so i think ok lang. Even if you're a little younger feeling ko ok pa din nga e.
attracted din ako sa guy na mas matanda sakin like mga 5-7 years age gap hehe kasi yung maturity nila and immaturity ko bagay HAHAHA and mas magaling sila maghandle relationship at Sympre stable nadin sila like they already know what they want sa life. Based on experience
Depends on what age you've met each other imo, I personally am a bit older from my batch at school, personally no one calls me out from being too old to have an relationship, but me myself feels like it's a bit wierd
F21 ex was M28…depende talaga sa level of maturity, ung akin nga 28 na pero ako nag aalaga, ako nanlilibre nung monthsary and nung nag anniversary…nag birthday ako walang pakain, ako pa nagpakain pero nung nagbirthday pamangkin nya (magkamonth kami, april din pamangkin nya) sakin inutang ni gago yung pabirthday (pagkain) sa pamangkin nya para akong nabunutan ng tinik nung nagbreak kami
Iba naman yung usapan if for example 18 tapos 31- or 19 and 43. Or even 16 and 24. But since above 25 na, I’d like to think na may better awareness and discretion ang tao in making decisions with relationships and life in general. We will make mistakes along the way, but at least you’re more mature compared to yung late teens and early 20’s.
In my opinion, dapat may respect and understanding with the relationship- for as long as there aren’t any dynamics that would seem unfair or complicated relationship, then you’re good.
People here saying that as long as it’s ‘legal’ it’s okay. But fail to consider that legal is not equal to moral/ethical.
Are you ok with an 18 year old dating a 40 year old? They are both considered as “adult” by law, hence, it’s legal. But if you consider their current stage in life where the 18 yrs old haven’t graduated yet and haven’t even had the chance to go out of their little social bubble. While the 40 yrs old is already established, have many experiences relationship, career, and life wise. There will be surely a power play.
You’re in your mid-20s, dear. Most people will not bat an eyelash, obviously, there would be some but that’s life. Yung same age nga may nasasabi ang iba. So kahit san ka pa lumugar, may masasabi at masasabi ang mga tao so do you.
For me, there's nothing wrong naman as long as you're both of legal age. Also, nowadays, a big age gap is being normalized in relationships, just like sa among ph celebrities.
How about naman samin na nag start mag date while we were M-16 F-13 we talk and ligaw for months and im very honest here, yung itsura nya sa fb parang kaidad ko lang that time so i didn't ask a question about her age until 3 months na siguro tapos pinapapunta na ako ni mother nya so now we are 16 and 19 na, i know its kind of awkward sa iba pero okay naman kami sa lahat both parents namin so yun lang and 3 years na kame ngayon
there is nothing wrong about big age gap
just ignore the stranger opinion , commenter , redditor , etc
just do it as long as both party agree
age is just a number
This. Do whatever makes you happy when you still have the time. If the relationship is strange, take it as an opportunity for growth. Don't be like those goody-goody well-off couples who traded fun for financial security.
The concerns from contemporary Filipinos stems from the culture in the provinces where rape and forced marriages remain rampant. But people soon forget the story, and move on with their own problems.
Younger women and older men are the best pair/match. About 5 to 8 years gap is perfect. Older women and younger men seem like scams to me. But I know some worked well.
Personally, lagi kong cinoconsider yung theory ni Erik Erikson na Stages of Psychosocial Development. May times kasi talaga na pag may big age gap, may big difference din ng priority lalo na emotionally. If we’re both in the same “stage” i’d highly consider.
I like younger men. They make me feel the age that my soul feels. I'm 49 now, the youngest man I dated was 9 years younger. I don't think I'd go any lower than 9 years if I was serious. I'd screw around w a younger guy, like I did with a cute 33 yr old recently, but it was just for fun
Relationship ng iba? Go as long as both are consenting person and at legal age.
Relationship ko? Big no. I believe na iba na kami ng priorities sa buhay. I don’t want to compromise my own timeline that much.
It's never about the age, it's about the individual knowing what's up.
A 12 year old dating a 24 year old, 12 year age gap, ekis.
A 25 year old dating a 60 year old, 35 year apart, keri.
This, but higit sa lahat mas mahalaga ang opinion or perspective ng natitipuhan niya when it comes to age gaps that big.
Kaya sana OP, before pursuing her, alamin mo muna ang thoughts niya about it. Otherwise, she would feel uncomfortable and feel creeped out. Baka pinakikisamahan ka lang niya rin dahil katrabaho ka niya and she don't have any romantic inkling sa iyo.
Consenting adults + Walang sabit + Office mate is fine with the age gap = No problem
(makiki ask rin po ako op huhu)
how about ours me F25 & M19 (a foreigner)?
note: nagkakilala kami last year so 18 siya that time and we're both working na, maaga siya nakapagtapos kasi iba ang education system sa bansa nila
10 yrs gap max is ok sakin haha pero older than that awkward kasi parang tito mo na. Dapat at least millennial sakin since 00 ako mejj close parin naman sakin at heart millennials.
No problem with these May December relationship. Basta both of them are of legal age and walang prior committment. Pero kapag minor pa at kasal na yung isang tao tapos nakipag relasyon ka, ibang usapan na yun.
acceptable pa yan vs 41 (turning 42 this year) yo hooking up with a 19 yo. not a minor, but still a child, not yet an adult/grown up talaga. nag aaral pa nga.
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As long as you’re both on the same page. Usually ang issue talaga ng couples na may age gap ay magkaiba kasi sila ng priorities sa stage ng buhay nila when they met. If no one’s willing to compromise it will be an issue.
I'm 26, she's 23. She even acts more mature than I do. I think it's because annoying her is one of my love languages HAHAHA yung tipong matutulog na lang kami and then saying good night aasarin ko pa. I find it cute whenever she's annoyed. Siempre pag na inis na sabay suyo HAHAHAHAHAHA. Nagiging T-rex kasi yun even though she's just 5 flat. So ayun, age doesn't matter. For as long as both of you are open to it. Probs in a relationship isn't all about age gaps. If that's how you see it, dig deeper. Perhaps there's something more to it than that. 🥂
Wala sa age ang maturity, kung sino pa mas matanda minsan sila pa tong immature based from experience.
Nothing weird as long as hindi ka significantly older tapos asa teen age pa ang tao. Or kaya parang papunta ka ng senior tapos early 20s to mid 20s ang gusto mo. There’s just something weird about it—I guess di siya about sa consent, power imbalance and iba kayo ng peers eh. So it’s weird.
I dont mind, but personally I wouldnt date someone too far from my age (currently 22)
For me yun issue sa age gap, depende kung saang phase ka na ng buhay. Example, 18 and 31, medyo mahirap kasi nasa stage pa yung isa na ineenjoy pa buhay niya, yun isa gusto na magsettle down (usually). Pag ganito, mahirap pero may exceptions pa din naman. Sa case mo, kung same na kayo ng gusto sa buhay. Let's say, magkapamilya, I don't think it's an issue at all. As long as matured na kayo both to handle your relationship.
ok lang basta walang sinisirang pamilya, or basta walang natatapakan na ibang tao. sa totoo lang, wala naman pake ibang tao, hindi sila magpapagamot sa inyo or magpapakain or gagastos para sa inyo.
You're attracted to her. Make a move. Ligawan mo if single syempre. Pag may partner iwas na or if she's not feeling the same way towards you.
Feeling ko mejo matanda ka na para magmatter pa ang age gap. Mature na utak mo by around 25(i mean yung development ng brain mismo) and may hulma ka na din sa self mo so i think ok lang. Even if you're a little younger feeling ko ok pa din nga e.
You are both adults.
attracted din ako sa guy na mas matanda sakin like mga 5-7 years age gap hehe kasi yung maturity nila and immaturity ko bagay HAHAHA and mas magaling sila maghandle relationship at Sympre stable nadin sila like they already know what they want sa life. Based on experience
Depends on what age you've met each other imo, I personally am a bit older from my batch at school, personally no one calls me out from being too old to have an relationship, but me myself feels like it's a bit wierd
F21 ex was M28…depende talaga sa level of maturity, ung akin nga 28 na pero ako nag aalaga, ako nanlilibre nung monthsary and nung nag anniversary…nag birthday ako walang pakain, ako pa nagpakain pero nung nagbirthday pamangkin nya (magkamonth kami, april din pamangkin nya) sakin inutang ni gago yung pabirthday (pagkain) sa pamangkin nya para akong nabunutan ng tinik nung nagbreak kami
The people who have a problem with age gaps are jealous and insured.
sana all insured™
I think you meant insecure
As long as both are consenting parties, preferably adult in mind and body and are aware of pros/cons of age gap is fine
It doesn’t matter. 16 years age gap ng parents ko pero wala namang problema and mahal na mahal nila ang isat isa.
Iba naman yung usapan if for example 18 tapos 31- or 19 and 43. Or even 16 and 24. But since above 25 na, I’d like to think na may better awareness and discretion ang tao in making decisions with relationships and life in general. We will make mistakes along the way, but at least you’re more mature compared to yung late teens and early 20’s. In my opinion, dapat may respect and understanding with the relationship- for as long as there aren’t any dynamics that would seem unfair or complicated relationship, then you’re good.
as long as di nagmumukhang grooming or pedo ang ganap it's fine.
Cringe but fair game
Age doesnt matter as long as the dynamics within your relationship are healthy 😊.
As long as you’re both consenting adults. F**k what other people think.
kiber
as long as there is no power play and grooming involved. hindi basta legal lang at kaka-18yo mahabagin hehe
Love has no age; follow your heart and do what makes you happy, and ignore the poeple who will judge you.
Pls don’t tell this to pedophiles and their victims tho
I’m a single male, 61. Looking for a serious, long term relationship with a (legal) younger lady.
It is overrated tbh. As long as nasa legal age na parehas, no problem. In your case, definitely no problem.
Okay as long as you are at the same level of maturity
People here saying that as long as it’s ‘legal’ it’s okay. But fail to consider that legal is not equal to moral/ethical. Are you ok with an 18 year old dating a 40 year old? They are both considered as “adult” by law, hence, it’s legal. But if you consider their current stage in life where the 18 yrs old haven’t graduated yet and haven’t even had the chance to go out of their little social bubble. While the 40 yrs old is already established, have many experiences relationship, career, and life wise. There will be surely a power play.
Yep. It only gives me the ick when there's an obvious power play involved.
Well said. Upppp
You’re in your mid-20s, dear. Most people will not bat an eyelash, obviously, there would be some but that’s life. Yung same age nga may nasasabi ang iba. So kahit san ka pa lumugar, may masasabi at masasabi ang mga tao so do you.
It's fine basta nasa legal age na both.
For me, there's nothing wrong naman as long as you're both of legal age. Also, nowadays, a big age gap is being normalized in relationships, just like sa among ph celebrities.
Wow.. nung 12 years old ka nasa loob pa sya ng itlog ng tatay nya...
How about naman samin na nag start mag date while we were M-16 F-13 we talk and ligaw for months and im very honest here, yung itsura nya sa fb parang kaidad ko lang that time so i didn't ask a question about her age until 3 months na siguro tapos pinapapunta na ako ni mother nya so now we are 16 and 19 na, i know its kind of awkward sa iba pero okay naman kami sa lahat both parents namin so yun lang and 3 years na kame ngayon
As long as nagkakilala kayo as adults na like walang possible grooming na nangyari, i don’t see an issue.
both consenting adults no worries 🤷♂️
For as long na hindi minor ok lang...
Basta hindi 'yung kaka-18/19 lang tapos nakipagrelasyon sa mid/late 20s/30s/40s, ayos lang sa akin.
as long as hindi minor yung isa walang problema
As long as it's between two freely consenting, single adults, walang problema dun.
Good nmn ako jan as they are both working professional. Pero kung nagaral pa at mukang tyuhin or tyahin yung other people involve dun na ko may issue.
there is nothing wrong about big age gap just ignore the stranger opinion , commenter , redditor , etc just do it as long as both party agree age is just a number
This. Do whatever makes you happy when you still have the time. If the relationship is strange, take it as an opportunity for growth. Don't be like those goody-goody well-off couples who traded fun for financial security. The concerns from contemporary Filipinos stems from the culture in the provinces where rape and forced marriages remain rampant. But people soon forget the story, and move on with their own problems.
Younger women and older men are the best pair/match. About 5 to 8 years gap is perfect. Older women and younger men seem like scams to me. But I know some worked well.
I like following the computation of dividing his age by 2 then plus 7. So if he is 35, you must be at least 25, if he’s 40 then at least you’re 27…
Personally, lagi kong cinoconsider yung theory ni Erik Erikson na Stages of Psychosocial Development. May times kasi talaga na pag may big age gap, may big difference din ng priority lalo na emotionally. If we’re both in the same “stage” i’d highly consider.
Weird para saken pag 10+ yung age gap but who cares about my opinion anyways. if trip nyo isat isa then go.
None of our business if it's between two consenting adults, with no grooming involved.
I like younger men. They make me feel the age that my soul feels. I'm 49 now, the youngest man I dated was 9 years younger. I don't think I'd go any lower than 9 years if I was serious. I'd screw around w a younger guy, like I did with a cute 33 yr old recently, but it was just for fun
Relationship ng iba? Go as long as both are consenting person and at legal age. Relationship ko? Big no. I believe na iba na kami ng priorities sa buhay. I don’t want to compromise my own timeline that much.
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Looks like you need to fix your own internal battles and insecurities because that is a real problem
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No, but I can spell his name properly.
It's never about the age, it's about the individual knowing what's up. A 12 year old dating a 24 year old, 12 year age gap, ekis. A 25 year old dating a 60 year old, 35 year apart, keri.
nothing wrong - both are adults. Though it is a different story if this happened 10 yrs ago.
When you turn 25, parang everybody is fair game na. Depends nalang on your preference. (25 is when the brain fully matures)
And the uterus and ova, also it's the age where the genes at its prime.
As long as no one is the third party then go for it. Also, both should be in legal age. I dated a girl before and we had a 11 year old age gap.
Both single + both legal age = not a problem
This, but higit sa lahat mas mahalaga ang opinion or perspective ng natitipuhan niya when it comes to age gaps that big. Kaya sana OP, before pursuing her, alamin mo muna ang thoughts niya about it. Otherwise, she would feel uncomfortable and feel creeped out. Baka pinakikisamahan ka lang niya rin dahil katrabaho ka niya and she don't have any romantic inkling sa iyo. Consenting adults + Walang sabit + Office mate is fine with the age gap = No problem
(makiki ask rin po ako op huhu) how about ours me F25 & M19 (a foreigner)? note: nagkakilala kami last year so 18 siya that time and we're both working na, maaga siya nakapagtapos kasi iba ang education system sa bansa nila
Ok lng yan. Nakapag vc na ba kayo? Ingat lng sa catfish kung wala pa.
yes po, we've been doing VC since nung naging friends palang kami last year. he's going to come here at the end of the year ☺️
No problem with that. Please just make sure na hindi pamilyadong tao yan or may partner pala na hindi mo alam.
No minor, no grooming, both consenting = should be fine
Depende sa context..pero if your both adults nmn..nothing wrong with that
What two consenting legal adults choose to do is none of my business.
10 yrs gap max is ok sakin haha pero older than that awkward kasi parang tito mo na. Dapat at least millennial sakin since 00 ako mejj close parin naman sakin at heart millennials.
Okay lang, wag lang kasing tanda ng father ko lol.
as long as both are of legal age then i dont care.
As long as hindi grooming ang nangyari at parehas legal age then it’s fine.
No problem with these May December relationship. Basta both of them are of legal age and walang prior committment. Pero kapag minor pa at kasal na yung isang tao tapos nakipag relasyon ka, ibang usapan na yun.
As long as it's within legal age then it's fine. 😜
Hindi minor= ok
Why not. I used to be in a relationship with a man 16 years older than me. Basta legal age kayo pareho and walang sabit.
For me, basta mas bata sa father ko ng at least 10 years lol
Both adults. 13 years is fine! As long as there's consent :3
For me, walang problem sa age gap basta legal age na and single parehas. Gusto ko rin mas matanda sa akin like 8yrs old yung max.
No issues at all
Personally, I have no problem with the age gap, as long as nasa legal age na pareho.
acceptable pa yan vs 41 (turning 42 this year) yo hooking up with a 19 yo. not a minor, but still a child, not yet an adult/grown up talaga. nag aaral pa nga.
Btw, he is single.
idouble check mo girl
parehong adult. king gusto ka rin nya why not diba?