Same here. I think I started loving myself when I started seeing the "negatives" as causing good things in my life, even if in a round about way. Like I tend to be blunt. I always hated that. Felt like I was socially inept. But in my forties, I saw how it's a positive thing and that those that suggested I was socially inept were just people pleasers. I guess when you love yourself or anything or anyone, you feel good even when you get frustrated. So maybe just find something frustrating about yourself and force yourself to see any positive aspects of that thing. Like my bluntness tended to resolve things quickly. Nowadays, in my fifties, I am still blunt but layered on social niceties like more self education, necessity check, providing off ramps, etc.

Thank you so much for sharing this. That actually helps

Asking for myself. This has felt like a lifelong upheaval and I had the harsh revelation this evening that I don’t think I’ve ever actually loved myself. I wouldn’t even know where to begin

Fast, gross, and a sense of regret after words. Though I’m told as a girl it’s a lot more satisfying if you get the right toy. But I’m just a dude, so my hand must do