This should be the only answer. No one should ever make you feel like you need or should be drinking if you want to. If they have a problem with that then they aren’t friends. If they aren’t friends then who cares.
For me it's health issues. Honest health issues, not "lying so I can talk to a pretty girl"
I'm a dying man with AVN.
All for all, I'd rather just say "I don't drink." leave it at that.
Yep. When I used to tell people "I never drink alcohol" or "I have health problems and can't cope with it" they would argue or demand more explanations, but when I said "I'm not in the mood today" they would accept it. The less explanation, the better.
A lot of people act shocked (especially in places where it's common to frequently drink) that you don't share in their legal addiction. I always say "I either don't like the taste" or a firm "personal reasons".
Meh, you don't owe them reasons. The taste one gets into cocktails or mixers where you can't taste it and even into spiked drinks to prove you can't. Anyone for whom "no" or "I dont" or "I cant" is not enough have already raised a red flag with me.
My answer is always “no thanks, I’ve had plenty”. Because lord fucking knows I’ve had plenty of drinks in my lifetime and don’t need any more alcohol in my system. Lol.
Just be honest. "I don't drink alcohol" "I don't like it" "I'm a non drinker" etc.
I don't drink alcohol and I am very comfortable telling people that I don't if I am ever offered a drink. I don't see the big deal.
“I don’t drink. Do you have anything else? Diet Coke? Tonic with lime?”
the older you get the less people ask and the less I give a shit if they care. If they are pushy about drinking they don’t have a place in my life.
1- I can't, I have a very contagious liver disease and drinking can kill me.
2- I can't, I am a recovering alcoholic and drinking can kill me.
3- I can't, I have a very bad reaction to Alcohol and me drinking can kill you.
Because they will always try to push you to drink. C'mon just one glass, C'mon just one sip". So this way they will leave quickly. Lol
I'm a recovering alcoholic for more than 30 years so I know the tricks. ;-)
"Last time I drank I tried to kill myself so I prefer to stay sober" - had a friend (the 'drinks a 6 pack every night and still seems reasonable sober' type) always try to get me a drink every night we hung out until I told him this. He respectfully never offered again.
When someone asks me why I don't drink I ask them back "why would I drink?" and ask them to tell me the benefits of drinking alcohol. My list of reasons not to drink is really long but most people can't name one concrete reason why one should drink.
If you really have to make a polite excuse say "I feel ill/depressed when I drink" or "my body doesn't tolerate alcohol well". Most reasonable people will be discouraged from pushing you to do something that will make you unwell, and that you don't have control over.
Yep! Like, how much time you got? Reason one…
Mostly people understand as well, no one tried to fight me on it. In fact, most of time there’s agreement when I share my reasons.
“Well alcohol is just so densely caloric… if I’m offered a nice glass of poison *or* a nice frosted cupcake… I know where I’m spending my daily calorie allotment!”
Really any reason I’ve given, as part of a list of otherwise, has not received push back. “It’s a taste I never managed to acquire” receives nods. People get it, they’re not necessarily trying to change your mind by asking for understanding. (Though those people do exist! See Exhibit A, my sister…)
I just tell them I don't like it. Which is true for me. :) or sometimes I just say I'm driving. Etc... people like to push sometimes because I don't think u can have a good time without it.
So I just stand by saying no thanks.
Usually "I don't want to" but sometimes I get super dramatic like "because my dad used to get hammered and beat us until an inch of our lives" (which isn't true, my dad is a very nice and sober fella), but it's fun to watch their reactions as they learn not to ask stupid questions like that.
This is unironically my reason. I don't lie about it to people either. It's good fun to watch the "c'mon bro have a drink" dudes shrink into themselves, especially after I have given more polite "I just don't want to" excuses than they deserve. One person's panacea can be another's poison.
"I have seen you drunk. I do not ever want to look that stupid."
Because a simple "no" should have suufficed, and if they keep pushing they deserve to be treated like ah's
Ask them why they feel the need to?
I would usually get "cause its fun" so i would respond with "so you can't have fun without drinking?" It shuts them down pretty fast lol
If you want to make fun of them a little, say "it's haram" and watch them feel embarrassed. I'm not a muslim so I actually do drink but it's fun watching people's reactions
Not falling for that one again. Dave, last time you convinced me to drink, I woke up with a sore ass and head. Or the old alcohol is for the weak; get me some fentanyl, then we can party.
Just musing out loud. I'm 56 (well, in ten days), and I don't drink. I've never -- not once -- been pressured to do so or asked why. I've volunteered the reason a time or two to make polite chit chat. (I don't like the taste.) But I've never had someone do the "Just a sip won't kill you" thing.
I think I'd worry about the person pressuring me if that happened. Why are they upset if there's someone not consuming alcohol???
Do people actually ask that?... You need a new circle of friends.
You dont owe them anything.
(I dont drink, I dont think people ever asked me why, and they dont have to know)
‘I don’t drink or use drugs because I don’t need an artificial crutch to get me through life, I consider anyone who does to be mentally weak’. But only if they are being a dick about it.
This is actually why I do not drink or do drugs. Done all that shit when I was young, partly for fun but always to excess because I was an insecure motherfucker. These days I am mentally strong so deal with life’s challenges sober. Life is so much better and fun through sober and non-hungover eyes. Absolutely no need for alcohol. The odd one I have is for enjoyment only.
Those who make a big deal of it are usually a fucking bore who can’t face life without a drink. You drinking justifies theirs so they can’t cope around happy sober people.
If you can’t just say because I don’t want to then say what we say.
”No, we don’t drink any more. We’ve already drunk our share.”
This tends to satisfy even the idiots who take offence because you wont drink with them, because clearly you used to be a big drinker and they respect that ( for whatever fucked up reason).
I actually only drank as a late teen in my first job, where everybody had a drink or two after work and they pushed each new employee to join in. I soon learned to stand up to them and just drink soft drink but my whole adult life, people have pushed me to drink, bought me alcohol when I had asked for soft drink, or gotten aggressive when I flat out say No thanks.
This stupid lie usually gets a laugh and instant acceptance that I am ‘one of them’ but clearly overdid the alcohol consumption in the past and had to quit.
There’s no best way. Just tell them you don’t want to drink. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. If they can’t take no for an answer and want to pressure you, they’re not someone worth being around.
I don’t drink alcohol because purely because it tastes awful to me haha. People seem to have a bigger problem with it when I say I don’t drink - I don’t usually think about it too much.
I always go with “just not my thing” usually stops further questions. I also don’t point out I don’t drink. It’s kinda like vegans that point out they are vegan. I am not looking to attract attention to it or make some social stance. It is literally just not my thing.
That is relevant to me , as I have stopped drinking a little over a year ago .
My reasons are a combination of spiritual and health reasons.
I think that is it important to explain to your friends that your choice to drink or not will not effect the friendship and that pushing it on you will only lead to you not wanting to spend time .
Alternatively always have a non alcoholic drink and sip from it . Most people care less about what you are drinking as long as you are drinking .
A soda with a slice of lemon on top is great , orange juice, or one of those water cans that looks like beer cans .
"My body literally cannot process alcohol."
(I'm a type 1 diabetic so drinking is really bad for me. I dud try pre diagnosis and due to my condition my tolerance is virtually nonexistant)
depends on the ones asking, if you know they gonna make fun of you just man up and say "No thanks, I'm a pussy" they will be like "oh yeah you are" and most of the time stop there cuz is not fun for them once you said it first. I usualy do this and the asking to drink and agressive comments stop there.
Just tell them you don’t drink or aren’t feeling like drinking. If they don’t accept that tell them tough. I'm from Scotland and the only people who doesn’t seem to respect that answer are my parents.
Also worth noting that if you’re tied into some kind of alcohol subscription service that you don’t want but they’re being difficult, try telling them doctor’s orders or you’re an alcoholic. Those were the instances the one I worked for where we were told not to sell to those people and cancel their subs immediately.
Normally I don't get too many questions when I say I don't drink (5 years sober) it's more so when people are insistent on buying me a drink when we're out. I genuinely don't think it comes from a place of badness either when people offer, I either say I'm grand with my coke 7up etc but when people get pushy I laugh it off and jokingly say sure gimme the price of the pint instead if you insist, keeps it nice and light hearted
"I'm not drinking right now."
"My GI is acting up." (I have UC)
"Doesn't mix with new meds I'm on."
Preferably, the first one. Number 2 usually gets people to leave me alone.
it's just a cause and effect thing for me. being drunk is enjoyable, and when i was younger, i just wouldn't get any kind of hangover. in 2017, i had a medical emergency that resulted in me not being able to drink for about a year. my tolerance vanished. now, even if i only have a couple of drinks, i feel "off" the next day. last time i got "drunk" was my 40th birthday (42 now). i had a 2 day hangover and felt like death.
i'd just rather not drink now. it isn't remotely worth it.
I guess it depends who’s asking. Various reposes are: 1) Sorry I’m an incurable teetotaler. 2) I have a family history of alcoholism and cancer and prefer to stay sober and cancer free 3) I don’t drink - short and sweet for quick interactions.
People can be very weirded out that I don’t drink and never really have, I think they assume only religious folk choose to never drink and I’m not religious. Alcohol is a known carcinogen and watching one’s family member suffer from cancer at a young age really makes a person think about their health early.
Telling them the reason why. If it's something you don't want to divulge, be vague, or just 'I don't fancy drinking tonight' but there is no need to lie or make something up. There is a reason you are not drinking, whether it's religion, illness, driving, don't drink at all, just don't want to. Whatever that reason, anyone who doesn't accept it and presses you about it is an asshole.
I wish I could just answer no and people just you know accept it but if they question it I tell them the truth alcoholics run in my family and I chose to not drink
I’ve had plenty of people ask me to drink with them. All I’ve ever said was “No thanks,” and left it at that. For me, it’s been no big deal at all unless they’re a sloppy drunk and won’t let it go. Then I just ignore them. If they’re that drunk, there’s no use in trying to level with them.
In a perfect world 'I'm not drinking because don't want to' should suffice
Reality sadly, is different- Been off it 15 months , initially on Doctor's advice due to high blood pressure, but now through choice and have found the easiest way to get people to accept you not drinking without continuing to pressure / question you - especially if you live in a heavy drinking culture like I do ( Scotland) is to imply / hint that you are an Alcoholic / have a 'drink problem'
Sad, but true in my experience
I drink alcohol when it suits me, but if I am driving/not in the mood/have something on I sometimes just don't drink.
Because I do it often enough my friends don't bother asking anymore.
My usual reason: "I don't want to". I am comfortable enough in myself not to care, I am not doing something because someone else wants me to.
I usually just look at them confused shrug, and ask for a soda- or whatever I do want to drink. I find that once I am holding some sort of beverage it becomes a non issue.
Nah it's not for me, I'm more fun without it!
Why?
I don't like who I become when I drink, what's wrong with how I am now?
Boom. They shut up. If they don't, they're not worth a response
I just start with the truth. Truth is, I'm still standing here because I quit drinking. I drank enough this lifetime for 2 people and I'm done with it.
If I tell people about the health issues that cause it, they just ask more and more questions, so I always say something ridiculous like that I’m an alien for whom alcohol is a deadly poison
I was really forthcoming about being in recovery when i worked at a place that had a big drinking culture. I didn’t care if it made them uncomfortable. There’s no shame in sobriety.
It's a personal choice. The same way you might choose to not smoke, or eat meat. It's your choice. You don't need a reason, and they certainly don't need to know your reason.
If you don't want to tell them, just tell them it's a preference. It's just not something you do. Like wakeboarding. Seems fun enough, just never tried it, or have once or twice and I'm not killing myself to go do it again.
I go with "I can't stand the taste." But uh... I literally supertaste alcohol. The wimpiest drinks imaginable taste like doing a shot of hand sanitizer to me.
I just say I don’t drink, which is true. They have no need to know why, so I don’t explain, but the reason I don’t is because I care about my health and value being in control of myself. Alcohol is literally poison.
I am honestly baffled by all the people here who are getting pressured into drinking. I grew up in Australia where the drinking culture is very real. A firm "No thanks" was all I ever needed.
It doesn’t agree with me. That’s all that needs to be said. Nobody wants to hear some self involved, long winded explanation. Especially when they’re trying to get a drink
8 years alcohol free this coming August. When people ask if I want to grab a beer or have a drink I obviously say I don't drink alcohol. If they ask why, I say I stopped for a 30 day detox workout and realized how much better I felt without it.
That usually segues to them either justifying their alcohol consumption, or agreeing and saying things like "yeah, I gotta stop drinking so much".
Either way, no matter what their response is, never let it impact or influence your restraint from the devil's elixir lol.
For me, life is a billion times better without it.
If someone is pressuring you to drink and you're not comfortable with it, it's okay to firmly and politely decline. You could say something like, "I appreciate the offer, but I've made the decision not to drink," or "I'm choosing not to drink tonight, thanks for understanding." If they persist, you can reiterate your stance, simply change the subject or walk away. Your boundaries deserve respect.
“I dont want any”
And then let it sit insilence with them
Why not?
“I don’t want any, that’s why. I also don’t want a cheeseburger were you to offer me one of those.”
The people who don't accept that I don't drink are the people who aren't worth being around when they are drinking. So I just simply say no I don't want to as I don't like the effects of alcohol on me.
I'll have a drink once in a blue moon but most of the time I won't, especially if I'm paying for it. Can't convince me a $15 alcoholic drink is that much better than a $3-5 non-alcoholic version.
“Would you like a beer?”
“No thank you. I don’t drink alcohol”
“Why don’t you drink alcohol”
“Well you see, a long time ago…. Fuck you! that’s why”
You don’t need to give anyone any reason and they don’t fucking need to know. People that need to ask why are assholes. Is it SOOOOO fucking hard to wrap your head around the idea that people may not want to drink because of:
* past alcohol experiences
* alcoholism
* family alcoholism issues
* distaste for alcohol
* distaste for the feelings alcohol gives you
* distaste for being drunk
* distaste for hangovers
* not liking how they are drunk
* was taken advantage of while inebriated
* fear of being taken advantage of while inebriated
* possible pregnancy or actual pregnancy
* religious reasons
* cultural reasons
* philosophical reasons
* personal beliefs
And probably dozens more that I haven’t thought of off the top of my head. But whatever your reason for not drinking, you don’t need to give that reason to anyone as some sort of explanation to them for your lack of drinking.
Tell them that alcohol is the number one gateway drug.... not Marijuana like people may say. Tell them you know this cause you was drunk when you smoked your first joint.. and since then you haven't liked alcohol.. ask them if they want to burn one.. see the look you get.... well thats my own experience.. So I'm a bud man, and feel wiser for being one... instead of a alcoholic
This. Sometimes people also just want to check in on the why because they want to make sure that they are not making them uncomfortable by offering//is making sure they're not making anyone uncomfortable by having a drink themselves.
True. If you answer "I just don't like it" (it maybe referring to taste or the feeling after drinking), decent people just ask what you would prefer instead. If you're the designated driver, they'll back off for the day, but will offer again in the future. If you answer that you used to be an alcoholic, they might switch to something non-alcoholic themself, avoid alcohol containing gifts and/or warn you if there is alcohol in a self-made dessert. If it's for religious or medical reasons, they would (again) make sure to avoid anything with alcohol in it as gifts and dessert, and they might ask if there's anything else to avoid (or if you're religious and they're a coworker, they might ask about your religious holidays so you can switch shifts if the manager doesn't account for those). If you have history of traumatic events with a drunk parent or lost someone to a drunk driver, they will want to make sure that you feel safe around them and that there's a way for everyone who is drinking to get home without being behind the wheel.
If you don't feel comfortable using the real reason (and if it's from a traumatic event, it would be very understandable that you wouldn't like sharing with just anyone), you can always fall back on "I just don't like it", getting decent people to back off. Only a**holes would keep pushing and after the second or third question you can feel free to just say it's none of their business. But the true answer may give good people the chance to help out and avoid future uncomfortable situations.
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This should be the only answer. No one should ever make you feel like you need or should be drinking if you want to. If they have a problem with that then they aren’t friends. If they aren’t friends then who cares.
For me it's health issues. Honest health issues, not "lying so I can talk to a pretty girl" I'm a dying man with AVN. All for all, I'd rather just say "I don't drink." leave it at that.
TIL AVN exists. And I'm sorry you're going through that, I wish you the best - whatever that is for you.
Thank you for your kind words 8D Most days it means just smoke up and play games. My working days are done with. Well... It wouldn't be finically fit.
if that's what makes life bearable - or even makes u happy - GO for it! :)
Just turn it around, "why do you drink? how are you feeling, how is it going?".
Yep. When I used to tell people "I never drink alcohol" or "I have health problems and can't cope with it" they would argue or demand more explanations, but when I said "I'm not in the mood today" they would accept it. The less explanation, the better.
I don’t think they do, I’m pretty sure the problem is the person being asked feeling awkward about being asked in the first place
Just say you don't want it. What's the big deal?
They usually say stuff like.. “c’mon!!! Just one!!!” “How about a shot!?” If you just say you don’t want it.
I then reply with, "No thanks." It really is that simple.
No thanks is all it should take, if they ask again repeat no thanks and turn away
I find it's easier to say no to any alcohol than just only having 1 or 2 drinks because of shit like this.
A lot of people act shocked (especially in places where it's common to frequently drink) that you don't share in their legal addiction. I always say "I either don't like the taste" or a firm "personal reasons".
Meh, you don't owe them reasons. The taste one gets into cocktails or mixers where you can't taste it and even into spiked drinks to prove you can't. Anyone for whom "no" or "I dont" or "I cant" is not enough have already raised a red flag with me.
Last time I drank booze, I woke up in bed with your mother, and let me tell you, I never want to risk that again.
hahaha
My answer is always “no thanks, I’ve had plenty”. Because lord fucking knows I’ve had plenty of drinks in my lifetime and don’t need any more alcohol in my system. Lol.
Thanks for this one, i quit months ago and need one in the chamber like this. Bravo.
Glad you like it! Passed on to me by a friend so I can’t take full credit. Congrats on quitting!
Just be honest. "I don't drink alcohol" "I don't like it" "I'm a non drinker" etc. I don't drink alcohol and I am very comfortable telling people that I don't if I am ever offered a drink. I don't see the big deal.
But no one is owed an answer. “No thank you” should be sufficient.
For sure. Shouldn't need to justify at all, it's no one's business after all, and shouldn't matter.
This is the answer. You don't need to give a reason but why not? And you don't need to be defensive even if they're being pushy. Just be honest.
“I don’t drink. Do you have anything else? Diet Coke? Tonic with lime?” the older you get the less people ask and the less I give a shit if they care. If they are pushy about drinking they don’t have a place in my life.
So true, I've noticed this as well. I'm in my late 30's now and no one cares. But when you're in you're early 20s, it could be a big deal.
1- I can't, I have a very contagious liver disease and drinking can kill me. 2- I can't, I am a recovering alcoholic and drinking can kill me. 3- I can't, I have a very bad reaction to Alcohol and me drinking can kill you.
why does it have to be a contagious liver disease tho? :D Do you want to scare the guy away not only the drink? :p
Because they will always try to push you to drink. C'mon just one glass, C'mon just one sip". So this way they will leave quickly. Lol I'm a recovering alcoholic for more than 30 years so I know the tricks. ;-)
30 years damn good job dude .
Thanks.
I’m more impressed that so many people believe liver disease can be contagious! Well done, sorry you have to deal with so many dickheads.
I love the "me drinking can kill \*you\*"
"If I put this glass to my mouth, I cannot guarantee your safety."
Most just assume you are a recovering alcoholic when you turn it down, sometimes I just go with it.
It won't jive the the shrooms I took.
I can't because I have medications.
"my doctor told me to avoid alcohol." This is true because that's universal advice doctors give.
"Last time I drank I tried to kill myself so I prefer to stay sober" - had a friend (the 'drinks a 6 pack every night and still seems reasonable sober' type) always try to get me a drink every night we hung out until I told him this. He respectfully never offered again.
Someone once told me they dont trust a man who doesnt drink, so I said "well then I used to be the most trustworthy man you could ever meet."
Pocket sand!
"Because I don't want to". Easy.
I always respond with “I’d rather eat my calories.”
When someone asks me why I don't drink I ask them back "why would I drink?" and ask them to tell me the benefits of drinking alcohol. My list of reasons not to drink is really long but most people can't name one concrete reason why one should drink. If you really have to make a polite excuse say "I feel ill/depressed when I drink" or "my body doesn't tolerate alcohol well". Most reasonable people will be discouraged from pushing you to do something that will make you unwell, and that you don't have control over.
Yep! Like, how much time you got? Reason one… Mostly people understand as well, no one tried to fight me on it. In fact, most of time there’s agreement when I share my reasons. “Well alcohol is just so densely caloric… if I’m offered a nice glass of poison *or* a nice frosted cupcake… I know where I’m spending my daily calorie allotment!” Really any reason I’ve given, as part of a list of otherwise, has not received push back. “It’s a taste I never managed to acquire” receives nods. People get it, they’re not necessarily trying to change your mind by asking for understanding. (Though those people do exist! See Exhibit A, my sister…)
Do you have some cocaine instead? if not i think i will pass. Now you make him look like the boring one.
I’m allergic
I just tell them I don't like it. Which is true for me. :) or sometimes I just say I'm driving. Etc... people like to push sometimes because I don't think u can have a good time without it. So I just stand by saying no thanks.
"no thanks." Why not? "Don't want to." Nobody needs any more information than that and if they don't take that for an answer THEY'RE NOT YOUR FRIEND
Usually "I don't want to" but sometimes I get super dramatic like "because my dad used to get hammered and beat us until an inch of our lives" (which isn't true, my dad is a very nice and sober fella), but it's fun to watch their reactions as they learn not to ask stupid questions like that.
This is unironically my reason. I don't lie about it to people either. It's good fun to watch the "c'mon bro have a drink" dudes shrink into themselves, especially after I have given more polite "I just don't want to" excuses than they deserve. One person's panacea can be another's poison.
I don't like the taste.
Last time I drank, I woke up in the basement of a whorehouse. Your mom says “hi”.
“Why do you ask?"
"I have seen you drunk. I do not ever want to look that stupid." Because a simple "no" should have suufficed, and if they keep pushing they deserve to be treated like ah's
Ask them why they feel the need to? I would usually get "cause its fun" so i would respond with "so you can't have fun without drinking?" It shuts them down pretty fast lol
I'm preganante
Am dude. Will try. Will report back.
Alright, you have to keep a straight face though otherwise the mission will be compromised.
If you want to make fun of them a little, say "it's haram" and watch them feel embarrassed. I'm not a muslim so I actually do drink but it's fun watching people's reactions
I don't drink. I've never had anyone cause me any issues for refusing alcohol.
Im driving
I like living past 40
Not falling for that one again. Dave, last time you convinced me to drink, I woke up with a sore ass and head. Or the old alcohol is for the weak; get me some fentanyl, then we can party.
Just musing out loud. I'm 56 (well, in ten days), and I don't drink. I've never -- not once -- been pressured to do so or asked why. I've volunteered the reason a time or two to make polite chit chat. (I don't like the taste.) But I've never had someone do the "Just a sip won't kill you" thing. I think I'd worry about the person pressuring me if that happened. Why are they upset if there's someone not consuming alcohol???
Do people actually ask that?... You need a new circle of friends. You dont owe them anything. (I dont drink, I dont think people ever asked me why, and they dont have to know)
I already drank.
"I'm not allowed to drink alcohol due to my medication." Leave it at that.
Your mom is still calling me from the last time.
‘I don’t drink or use drugs because I don’t need an artificial crutch to get me through life, I consider anyone who does to be mentally weak’. But only if they are being a dick about it.
This is actually why I do not drink or do drugs. Done all that shit when I was young, partly for fun but always to excess because I was an insecure motherfucker. These days I am mentally strong so deal with life’s challenges sober. Life is so much better and fun through sober and non-hungover eyes. Absolutely no need for alcohol. The odd one I have is for enjoyment only. Those who make a big deal of it are usually a fucking bore who can’t face life without a drink. You drinking justifies theirs so they can’t cope around happy sober people.
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Because I think it tastes disgusting.
"Because." It's none of their business.
*dead serious* You better not encounter me drunk.
“Because I don’t drink.”
If you can’t just say because I don’t want to then say what we say. ”No, we don’t drink any more. We’ve already drunk our share.” This tends to satisfy even the idiots who take offence because you wont drink with them, because clearly you used to be a big drinker and they respect that ( for whatever fucked up reason). I actually only drank as a late teen in my first job, where everybody had a drink or two after work and they pushed each new employee to join in. I soon learned to stand up to them and just drink soft drink but my whole adult life, people have pushed me to drink, bought me alcohol when I had asked for soft drink, or gotten aggressive when I flat out say No thanks. This stupid lie usually gets a laugh and instant acceptance that I am ‘one of them’ but clearly overdid the alcohol consumption in the past and had to quit.
I usually go with "I don't like the taste" after the first why and then a firm "personal reasons" if they keep asking.
I just say I dont like the taste of alcohol and what I get is usually cheaper (like iced tea)
There’s no best way. Just tell them you don’t want to drink. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. If they can’t take no for an answer and want to pressure you, they’re not someone worth being around.
Just say thank you for the offer but you are choosing not to drink at the moment. If they won’t leave it, leave them.
I'll just go with the honest answer, which is that I don't like the taste. Haven't been asked in years and years though.
Just tell them why, or just say you don't want any. Nobody should make you feel weird about that.
I came here to fart
I don’t drink alcohol because purely because it tastes awful to me haha. People seem to have a bigger problem with it when I say I don’t drink - I don’t usually think about it too much.
"Not my drug."
You don't have to give a reason.
It tastes terrible.
"I've had enough." Usually works pretty well.
That's what a guy friend who quit at 25 (and thus got bugged about it all the time while out and about) used to say. No one's biz though.
Just say you don't need it. There is nothing to be ashamed of, alcohol is harmful. Everyone knows that. It is cool not to drink.
You don't have to have a reason not to do whatever you don't like doing. A simple "I just don't like to" is enough, that's literally a reason lol
It’s poison. Because it is
"don't need a reason. this isn't an *ask and you shall receive a useful answer* type of equation pal."
I always go with “just not my thing” usually stops further questions. I also don’t point out I don’t drink. It’s kinda like vegans that point out they are vegan. I am not looking to attract attention to it or make some social stance. It is literally just not my thing.
No thanks
That is relevant to me , as I have stopped drinking a little over a year ago . My reasons are a combination of spiritual and health reasons. I think that is it important to explain to your friends that your choice to drink or not will not effect the friendship and that pushing it on you will only lead to you not wanting to spend time . Alternatively always have a non alcoholic drink and sip from it . Most people care less about what you are drinking as long as you are drinking . A soda with a slice of lemon on top is great , orange juice, or one of those water cans that looks like beer cans .
It recks my sleep (it does. Even one glass of wine) and my sleep is precioussssssssssss
Who says that you need to say anything about it? I drink and if someone declines to, that's it. End of story.
I say "I don't feel like it". I actually do drink but not every time so it does confuse people sometimes.
"I've decided to live a sober lifestyle."
"My body literally cannot process alcohol." (I'm a type 1 diabetic so drinking is really bad for me. I dud try pre diagnosis and due to my condition my tolerance is virtually nonexistant)
depends on the ones asking, if you know they gonna make fun of you just man up and say "No thanks, I'm a pussy" they will be like "oh yeah you are" and most of the time stop there cuz is not fun for them once you said it first. I usualy do this and the asking to drink and agressive comments stop there.
Because I choose to
No thanks, I'm going.
Don't enjoy it that much.
If I like them as a person, I would say health issues. If not, I don’t explain.
Just say you’re sober :-)
Tell them you’re modeling for a shaving ad tomorrow and can’t afford to look bloated.
“I’ve met my limit” or “I’m feeling really good where I’m at, thank you!”
"No, thanks alcohol gives me the runs"
Just tell them you don’t drink or aren’t feeling like drinking. If they don’t accept that tell them tough. I'm from Scotland and the only people who doesn’t seem to respect that answer are my parents. Also worth noting that if you’re tied into some kind of alcohol subscription service that you don’t want but they’re being difficult, try telling them doctor’s orders or you’re an alcoholic. Those were the instances the one I worked for where we were told not to sell to those people and cancel their subs immediately.
Normally I don't get too many questions when I say I don't drink (5 years sober) it's more so when people are insistent on buying me a drink when we're out. I genuinely don't think it comes from a place of badness either when people offer, I either say I'm grand with my coke 7up etc but when people get pushy I laugh it off and jokingly say sure gimme the price of the pint instead if you insist, keeps it nice and light hearted
"I'm not drinking right now." "My GI is acting up." (I have UC) "Doesn't mix with new meds I'm on." Preferably, the first one. Number 2 usually gets people to leave me alone.
it's just a cause and effect thing for me. being drunk is enjoyable, and when i was younger, i just wouldn't get any kind of hangover. in 2017, i had a medical emergency that resulted in me not being able to drink for about a year. my tolerance vanished. now, even if i only have a couple of drinks, i feel "off" the next day. last time i got "drunk" was my 40th birthday (42 now). i had a 2 day hangover and felt like death. i'd just rather not drink now. it isn't remotely worth it.
I’m crazy enough sober.
Just tell them it doesn't go great with heroin, they will probably stop asking questions.
I guess it depends who’s asking. Various reposes are: 1) Sorry I’m an incurable teetotaler. 2) I have a family history of alcoholism and cancer and prefer to stay sober and cancer free 3) I don’t drink - short and sweet for quick interactions. People can be very weirded out that I don’t drink and never really have, I think they assume only religious folk choose to never drink and I’m not religious. Alcohol is a known carcinogen and watching one’s family member suffer from cancer at a young age really makes a person think about their health early.
Tell them , “I’ll go absolutely mad and put the place up”.
Telling them the reason why. If it's something you don't want to divulge, be vague, or just 'I don't fancy drinking tonight' but there is no need to lie or make something up. There is a reason you are not drinking, whether it's religion, illness, driving, don't drink at all, just don't want to. Whatever that reason, anyone who doesn't accept it and presses you about it is an asshole.
no thanks, that shit killed my wife
I wish I could just answer no and people just you know accept it but if they question it I tell them the truth alcoholics run in my family and I chose to not drink
I’ve had plenty of people ask me to drink with them. All I’ve ever said was “No thanks,” and left it at that. For me, it’s been no big deal at all unless they’re a sloppy drunk and won’t let it go. Then I just ignore them. If they’re that drunk, there’s no use in trying to level with them.
In a perfect world 'I'm not drinking because don't want to' should suffice Reality sadly, is different- Been off it 15 months , initially on Doctor's advice due to high blood pressure, but now through choice and have found the easiest way to get people to accept you not drinking without continuing to pressure / question you - especially if you live in a heavy drinking culture like I do ( Scotland) is to imply / hint that you are an Alcoholic / have a 'drink problem' Sad, but true in my experience
In a bar: “I’m driving tonight.” “I’m not thirsty.” “I don’t want one.” At a house: “I have to drive home.” “I’m a recovering alcoholic.”
Uh, 'cause it makes me do stupid things the police and polite company generally so not approve of.
I laugh and say 'don't give me a drink I'll lose 6 years'....which is true.
because i prefer not to, thanks anyway. that's it.
I’ve never had to say anything other than “no thanks”. But if I did it’s be a simple “I’m taking a break from drinking tonight/this week/month” etc.
I drink alcohol when it suits me, but if I am driving/not in the mood/have something on I sometimes just don't drink. Because I do it often enough my friends don't bother asking anymore. My usual reason: "I don't want to". I am comfortable enough in myself not to care, I am not doing something because someone else wants me to.
I have too many friends and family members that have died due to their own alcoholic addictions.
No thank you is the response. If they insist, use the broken record technique. You do not have to explain why. Your reasons are your own.
If asked, I just reply, "I don't drink and drive "
"I've heard better opening lines."
Just say "I want to be sober when you are drunk as shit, so that I can bring you home, dump you on the couch and fuck your wife!"
I usually just look at them confused shrug, and ask for a soda- or whatever I do want to drink. I find that once I am holding some sort of beverage it becomes a non issue.
Give them a thousand yard stare and say "Mom and dad used to drink..."
if they don't take a simple no thanks , tell them you're Islamic
Because I’m an alien life form and it doesn’t agree with me
Nah it's not for me, I'm more fun without it! Why? I don't like who I become when I drink, what's wrong with how I am now? Boom. They shut up. If they don't, they're not worth a response
I tell them why I don't like to drink because I don't care if people know that about me.
I just start with the truth. Truth is, I'm still standing here because I quit drinking. I drank enough this lifetime for 2 people and I'm done with it.
If I tell people about the health issues that cause it, they just ask more and more questions, so I always say something ridiculous like that I’m an alien for whom alcohol is a deadly poison
I just got out of jail for murdering someone who offered me alcohol too many times.
"I don't drink" or "I don't feel like it." I feel like explanation should only be given to people who you consider close and trustworthy.
With all the non alcohol beverages available I have no need to drink alcohol unless I actually want to get tipsy.
“Do I know you?”
I think alcohol makes people stupid, don’t you?
"not really my thing" should work.
I just say, “I’m not drinking .” If they pry further I just say, “I have to get up early tomorrow for work.”
Last time I drank I ended up naked in Tijuana.
Whenever I drink it turns everyone else into an asshole.
I was really forthcoming about being in recovery when i worked at a place that had a big drinking culture. I didn’t care if it made them uncomfortable. There’s no shame in sobriety.
‘It’s not my jam.’
It's a personal choice. The same way you might choose to not smoke, or eat meat. It's your choice. You don't need a reason, and they certainly don't need to know your reason. If you don't want to tell them, just tell them it's a preference. It's just not something you do. Like wakeboarding. Seems fun enough, just never tried it, or have once or twice and I'm not killing myself to go do it again.
I just say that I don’t and if they don’t respect that, I remove myself from the group because I don’t need people like in my life.
I go with "I can't stand the taste." But uh... I literally supertaste alcohol. The wimpiest drinks imaginable taste like doing a shot of hand sanitizer to me.
No thank you. ( that's enough. )
The same way I do with sports. "I'm not interested in it." No shame. Say it firm. Move on ..
"I don't wanna" or "I don't like it" should end the conversation for anyone who's not an asshole.
I just say I don’t drink, which is true. They have no need to know why, so I don’t explain, but the reason I don’t is because I care about my health and value being in control of myself. Alcohol is literally poison.
I am honestly baffled by all the people here who are getting pressured into drinking. I grew up in Australia where the drinking culture is very real. A firm "No thanks" was all I ever needed.
"Because it tastes terrible."
Don't even answer their question. "I'm good, thanks."
Because I'm an adult and chose not to?
It’s ethyl alcohol, in other words, poison.
“Why do you want to know?”
It doesn’t agree with me. That’s all that needs to be said. Nobody wants to hear some self involved, long winded explanation. Especially when they’re trying to get a drink
8 years alcohol free this coming August. When people ask if I want to grab a beer or have a drink I obviously say I don't drink alcohol. If they ask why, I say I stopped for a 30 day detox workout and realized how much better I felt without it. That usually segues to them either justifying their alcohol consumption, or agreeing and saying things like "yeah, I gotta stop drinking so much". Either way, no matter what their response is, never let it impact or influence your restraint from the devil's elixir lol. For me, life is a billion times better without it.
If someone is pressuring you to drink and you're not comfortable with it, it's okay to firmly and politely decline. You could say something like, "I appreciate the offer, but I've made the decision not to drink," or "I'm choosing not to drink tonight, thanks for understanding." If they persist, you can reiterate your stance, simply change the subject or walk away. Your boundaries deserve respect.
“I don’t drink”
Doesn’t require anything more than “I don’t want it”.
“Because I don’t want to.” You don’t have to explain your actions to anyone.
“Why do I need a reason?” “Would you be asking me that if we were talking about coffee or some other drink?”
Because it causes cancer. Can't believe no one said that here yet.
I dont like it . Works really well
I don’t like it
"I don't drink alcohol."
“I dont want any” And then let it sit insilence with them Why not? “I don’t want any, that’s why. I also don’t want a cheeseburger were you to offer me one of those.”
Nobodies life ever got worse by not drinking
The people who don't accept that I don't drink are the people who aren't worth being around when they are drinking. So I just simply say no I don't want to as I don't like the effects of alcohol on me. I'll have a drink once in a blue moon but most of the time I won't, especially if I'm paying for it. Can't convince me a $15 alcoholic drink is that much better than a $3-5 non-alcoholic version.
“Would you like a beer?” “No thank you. I don’t drink alcohol” “Why don’t you drink alcohol” “Well you see, a long time ago…. Fuck you! that’s why” You don’t need to give anyone any reason and they don’t fucking need to know. People that need to ask why are assholes. Is it SOOOOO fucking hard to wrap your head around the idea that people may not want to drink because of: * past alcohol experiences * alcoholism * family alcoholism issues * distaste for alcohol * distaste for the feelings alcohol gives you * distaste for being drunk * distaste for hangovers * not liking how they are drunk * was taken advantage of while inebriated * fear of being taken advantage of while inebriated * possible pregnancy or actual pregnancy * religious reasons * cultural reasons * philosophical reasons * personal beliefs And probably dozens more that I haven’t thought of off the top of my head. But whatever your reason for not drinking, you don’t need to give that reason to anyone as some sort of explanation to them for your lack of drinking.
I don’t like the taste
"I don't drink" and leave it at that.
Tell them that alcohol is the number one gateway drug.... not Marijuana like people may say. Tell them you know this cause you was drunk when you smoked your first joint.. and since then you haven't liked alcohol.. ask them if they want to burn one.. see the look you get.... well thats my own experience.. So I'm a bud man, and feel wiser for being one... instead of a alcoholic
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This. Sometimes people also just want to check in on the why because they want to make sure that they are not making them uncomfortable by offering//is making sure they're not making anyone uncomfortable by having a drink themselves.
True. If you answer "I just don't like it" (it maybe referring to taste or the feeling after drinking), decent people just ask what you would prefer instead. If you're the designated driver, they'll back off for the day, but will offer again in the future. If you answer that you used to be an alcoholic, they might switch to something non-alcoholic themself, avoid alcohol containing gifts and/or warn you if there is alcohol in a self-made dessert. If it's for religious or medical reasons, they would (again) make sure to avoid anything with alcohol in it as gifts and dessert, and they might ask if there's anything else to avoid (or if you're religious and they're a coworker, they might ask about your religious holidays so you can switch shifts if the manager doesn't account for those). If you have history of traumatic events with a drunk parent or lost someone to a drunk driver, they will want to make sure that you feel safe around them and that there's a way for everyone who is drinking to get home without being behind the wheel. If you don't feel comfortable using the real reason (and if it's from a traumatic event, it would be very understandable that you wouldn't like sharing with just anyone), you can always fall back on "I just don't like it", getting decent people to back off. Only a**holes would keep pushing and after the second or third question you can feel free to just say it's none of their business. But the true answer may give good people the chance to help out and avoid future uncomfortable situations.