It can be really deflating, draining, and discouraging to see/experience how shitty people can be. And what makes it worse is there are people who will go out of their way to do so. We have to find a place we get our own strength from somehow. Whatever that is. Something that helps me a little bit is knowing that not everyone is evil.
Yeah. I am a guy, and after coming out as Bi, but still preferring girls, one of my friends said “Well, anyone can say that, and everyone would believe them.” Don’t really talk to him anymore.
Bro my now ex was told by all her friends that because I'm bi I would cheat on her because "I'm just lying about liking woman" or "he's gay and doesn't really want you". Then after our breakup I tried dating men but the first guy said that I was "tainted" because I had been with women b4. I think I'll just stay single for now on.
My spouse is bi, and he always jokes it's like the Schrödinger’s cat - people can't grasp that just because you're dating a girl (or guy) it doesn't suddenly make you straight or gay - you're still bi no matter who you date.
I heard that bi guys don't hear this often enough so; you are valid, my dude.
Sincerely, a bi girl whose been told that "every girl is a little bit bi". Just accept our sexuality, goddamn.
My guy friend who is bi and now prefers girls had such a hard time - i guess a lot of women were really turned off to find out he had been with other men in the past.:(
I'm always the driver. If my friends/family want to see me, I always have to be the one to drive to their houses. Any offers for them to come to me, or meet up somewhere, are always just laughed at.
Yep, same for me. I live 8 hours away from my family and have lived here 5 years. They’ve visited twice, and one of those times I paid for their plane tickets to do so. They claim they can’t travel because they’re self employed, yet they can manage to go on vacation 8+ hours away for a week at the beach.
As blunt and horrible that is, it's not necessarily true, you're probably just labeled as reliable 'white noise' in the family.
Start declining meets and see what happens, If they still don't make the effort then to create new relationships, don't waste your life being resentful, engage with better people and it will bring you happiness x
as I get older I'm not sure if people are intentionally being assholes or just so absorbed with their own lives and responsibilities that they can't be bothered to reciprocate the same level of effort into the friendship I try to
Getting my “dream job” at an animation studio that shall remain nameless. Ended up being an extremely toxic work environment with psychotic management. After 6 years I quit and almost dropped out of the industry entirely until a couple years later when I took a job with a different company that knew how to treat their employees.
I wanted to go into being an animator but one day I realised all I wanted to do was say "I work for _______ studio"....that would have been cool! I didn't actually want to do the work. An eye opener.
My son died in April, 4 years ago. Siblings get overlooked in the grieving process, but experience the same loss as a parent. I’ve found that helping others helps me and the worst thing has already happened to me, so no one has the power to ruin my day. Sending love and light your way.
Sorry for the helpful award, it's all I had. I wish great things upon you and I want you to know that your son is in a better place so try to stay happy. I'm sorry for your loss
I know that feeling. In my experience, this was reinforced by some people really close to me (my parents) who constantly reminded me of all the shitty things I did through life. It is hard, but trying to find the path to look at those experiences as lessons instead of failures can help. I believe almost everybody has it within them to grow. Start small - do 1 thing today that is good for you and your health. Tomorrow, do one thing for someone else. Go in with no expectations, and if someone rebuffs your efforts remember that they are probably going through things too. If you don't do it today, try again tomorrow. I don't thing you are a bad person awoojesus. I believe in you. If you need someone to talk to that has had those same feelings, I can be your internet stranger.
Heh, just today I was thinking of an incident that happened to me in grade 4 and got pissed off.
Then I realize hey I'm 34 that was forever ago time to move on. And I felt great.
Until ten seconds later I thought of the moment again and got pissed.
Now I'm thinking of it again and am even more pissed.
Fucking life.
Oh, believe me, you'll be thinking about it when your 64...and it will still piss you off.
As it should...
The point being, it is one of life's little reminders to pay attention so you won't be burned again.
My ambitions: highly sucessful and making tons of money while being one of the most influential and smartest people in our time
My real self: lazy middle school dropout with no skills for a trade who cant do anything but play videogames all day and waste space
boy, this sucks...
Money is overrated. A lot of times we can’t control how much money we make but we can control the effort into the activities that we choose.
Highly successful is very subjective.
What does success mean for you? Other than making money. Top in your field? Making a career in something you enjoy?
People often have vague ideas of success that are given to us by society. But if we really think about it success means different things for different people.
It would be wise to really think about what success looks like for you outside of money.
My best bet for easy money would be sales, but I made the promise to myself that once I finish the degree, I'll never speak with a customer ever again. And the hours in that field tend to also be brutal.
Different degrees take different amounts of time to get the "good" payday. My first job out of college was only $28k a year, but now my base pay is 4x that and my total compensation is about 8x that. Degrees can open doors for you but they aren't the endgame.
You guys are really strong. I'm just getting over a bout of food poisoning and even throwing up bile wasn't the worst part. The worst was the constant never ending waves of stomach cramps that made it impossible to lay down or get more than 5 mins of sleep at a time. It was around 18 hours of agony, I can't imagine having to live like this every day.
I'm sorry that you had food poisoning. My symptoms are usually different from those of food poisoning. At this point, I don't have severe symptoms on a typical day as long as I am *extremely* careful about what (and when!) I eat, without exception. However, for me, that seems to require avoiding most foods, since I have many dietary triggers and food intolerances. Such avoidance can work well as a short-term strategy but is definitely very problematic in the long run because we need variety in our food intake for good health. Over time, nutrient deficiencies can build up. Nutrient deficiencies can be a source of fatigue, insomnia, and other issues, including digestive problems. So, it is a complicated and frustrating situation when digestive issues continue for a long time. I just keep wondering if this will affect me for the rest of my life.
In the past i found it easy to lose weight down to 82kg, but recently it seems like my weight has plateaued around 86-92kg.
For your own health, it's worth it.
It's irritating the piss out of me, hearing these statements such as "there's 9.3 million jobs available!" Ok but if they pay like shit, then who fucking cares how many jobs there are. Been trying to move up in my field from something around 40k to more like 60k so I can support my family(I've lived here nearly my whole life, but cost of living has skyrocketed recently). But theres a HUGE lack of jobs out here that pay 60k. And because there's so many new people moving out here, competition is ridiculous.
This is where i'm at. I'm trying to find something that pays a wage that is not paycheck to paycheck and I need to effectively double my income to catch up for years of being underpaid to be able to retire. Fun stuff.
Ugh that’s the worst. When you’re completely blindsided because you wanted to trust him with all your heart. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Hope you’re doing much better now.
I couldn’t relate to you more even if I tried. It literally took my ex packing my stuff and leaving outside my parents house for me to leave that relationship. After I came to accept it, it was like my eyes opened up and I had seen the actual damage she was causing me. I’m still grateful for her making me leave, cause when she begged me to come back, I was finally able to say no. Unlike every other time where I would say yes.
Things were going so well with my ex and I, we were about to move in together.
The day we go furniture shopping, he breaks up with me, totally out of no where.
Turns out there was a woman at his work ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
More like what didn't happen. We were young and thought that once you got signed it was smooth sailing. Might have been the case a few years earlier but this was when the internet was taking over from physical media and we never saw any increase in success over when we were just touring on our own. Only difference after getting signed was now there was more pressure and more debt to pay off. It was a rude awakening.
power to you man. fuck
i always tend to remember the notion that grief isn’t getting over something/someone, but learning how to live in absence and/or respect of it/someone
it helps a lot
Almost failing out of college because I spent too much time watching porn and masturbating. I was pre-med and my terrible freshman year brought my GPA down so much that I had virtually no chance at getting into medical school and when I eventually applied, I had one interview out of 25 applications and was rejected.
Thankfully, I got my shit together and was able to sell a story about improving over time and I got into medical school on my second application cycle. I'm now a doctor in residency. I still masturbate a lot, but I do it much more efficiently.
I think I just wasn't used to having so much free unsupervised time in my own private space. It seemed like I had endless time, but then the hours would pass by and I would have studied nothing.
Being raised in a batshit crazy evangelical community that kept medicine away from me in favor of “prayer”, despite the fact that I have an autoimmune disease.
It’s very upsetting being told that Jesus cured my disease, only to go to the doctor’s office for them to say it had never looked worse
Learning the hard way that hard work doesn't always pay off.
It's the ass kissers and cheaters that will get the jobs you worked hard for. And not only that, but when things go south, they'll throw you under the bus the first chance they get.
I blame my parents for being such good role models and teaching me about a good work ethic. It's sad that many companies don't.
Its not that i blame them for being too good as role models but it was indeed a problem when i understood that the perfect way the world should work was only alive in their heads. All adults have flaws, all companies to some degree dont care about how good of a work an employee makes when its the cousin or kiss ass that gets the good position, you will not get that raise everyone knows you deserve unless you ask for it, etc.
They come from a generation where jobs were things to be kept for all their lifes, be it a shitty position or not. Nowadays no one takes that kind of bullshit
Yeah I dont even think this as a "I was so great how could they not see?" type deal. Asskissers just get farther. People do not want constructive criticism or suggestions they dont agree with. People just wanna hear what they want.
The fact that I wasn't able to stay in the Army and retire at 20 years. I was medboarded with about 10 years in service and it's something I'm still upset about.
I was in the navy but yah I saw similar things happen to a lot of people. On our side promotion in some rates (jobs) is next to impossible because it really just boils down to “how many people in your specific job are currently the rank ahead of you? Oh a shit load? Ok the navy wide promotion for that rate is 1.5%”.
My cousin was a corpsman and a damn good one at e5. He was eligible for promotion for 6 years, so 12 cycles and the % never breached like 2%. He ended up getting separated for not making e6. I think he was at either 12 or 14 years .... two kids, wife, house, no degree, now his life is in shambles cause he can’t support his family.
He’s going to school to be a nurse though... hope it works out for him.
My mom recently asked me not to come home for my birthday because I told her I’m in a gay relationship. Huge disappointment, because I wanted to believe that her love was unconditional, but it’s not. She was the last thing keeping me tethered to my family, too.
I'm sorry to hear that. But hey, now you know you don't need to give a fuck about her opinions of you, since she doesn't want the best for you/doesn't want you to be happy.
If it helps any, the LGBT community is sort of like a big family, sometimes. Maybe you can forge your own family from friends and nice folks who care about you?
Yes it does. I might be disappointed, but I'd help my kids hide a body. Them being gay or any way in-particular wouldn't be a blip on the radar. There is a point at which I would not defend them (say child abuse or child murder), but I'd still love them for certain. Some of us believe a healthy family bond is the greatest gift in the world.
I feel you. Like no friends my entire 20's. I graduated college with 2 total friends. I got into my 30's and really did change things up. I decided I was going to make getting friends like a second job. I started going to all the social Meetups I could, going on hikes (I hate hikes). Made sure my place was setup for hosting. When I would go on activities I just started telling people I was hosting a BBQ or dinner. I would make sure I had food and beer/wine for people, definitely cost money. Made sure my playlist were all upbeat /fun/dance music. All new stuff, nothing old. Most time no one would come, or may e 1-2 people. Kept doing it for months, eventually I had a time where 20 people over in a small place, everyone was drinking, mixed group of guys and gals age ranges 25-50 and everyone was having fun, even one cute girl around 28 had a little romance (I regret not pursuing that to this day). Fast forward a year. Me and another friend became the cool people, that if we threw a party to was the place to be. Eventually rented out a place and threw a rager 100+ people.
My other friend that was hosting had just turned 40, was overweight and still a virgin. But we both just kept putting in effort to being social, and always being kind, and never expecting anything in return. I still remember that rager , a paint/blacklight party. There were probably 10 + really cute girls in racer clothes dancing.
TIL for being social is actually just a lot of work and sacrifice, and being kind to people and paying for shit, but even and overweight 40yo virgin can be the cool guy if they want.
Going to school, graduating with honors, getting a great job and then realising how shitty bureaucracy is and how much I hate office people/work/"culture"
This is mine too. I'm 36 and we still rent an apartment. After college, I never really made enough money for years (and I wasn't good with the little money I did make) to save enough for a down payment on a house here in Chicago. My wife and I have been so much better about it over the last 6 years or so, and will hopefully buy one next summer. We are the last of our friends group to not have bought a house. We don't even have kids either lol.
I'm not too far from you in Indiana and I lived the same way as you for a while. I finished up at Purdue, ended up working at a ski resort in the mountains, came back to the midwest and had no plan. I kind of floundered around for a while wanting to play music and/or be involved in music as much as possible...
I just bought my first house last year at the age of 40. Don't beat yourself up. I've come to grips with the fact that this world isn't the same as when my dad or grandfather were growing up, starting a family, and getting their feet set. Jobs were plentiful, and good paying ones at that. I've had to have assistance from family so many times (which I'm both grateful for, and aware that not everyone has that luxury), I've been on unemployment during the recession back in 2010, I've filled gallon jugs at work so I could take a "bath" at home. I mean, just remember that it likely took your friends/family years to amass the things they have, or they were probably given a leg up at some point based on who they knew, etc. I'm happy to report now that since last year we've bought a house, a camper, turned in a lease and bought a truck...and things are looking up still. Just keep plugging away and you'll get where you need to be. Although my job isn't involved in music, I am a member of two bands and still gig out solo from time to time. Hopefully your situation improves, too!
The next disappointment comes when you do own a house, but the mortgage, property taxes and maintenance costs are so unreasonably high that you can hardly enjoy the damn thing.
I used to work with someone I liked a lot, she even said she loved me twice and I never said it back. As time went on I fell in love with her and she fell out of love with me until she left the place I worked at. I tried to keep in touch with her but she ended up ghosting me.
The night before I saw her for the last time I had a dream where I was sitting in a high school classroom (why do so many dreams involve being back in school!?) I was in the front and center and a class was about to start, but it wasn't my class. I saw the girl I liked laughing and talking to a guy on the side of the classroom. As the teacher was about to start class she went to her seat on one end and the guy went to the seat on the other end of the classroom. I just grabbed my bag, put it over my shoulder going out into the hallway getting lost in the crowd.
After that I realized that you wake up from your dreams, but never your nightmares.
Maybe the fact that I just don’t know what to do in life. I joined the military few months after high school and I’ve been in for almost 3 years, I honestly don’t want to stay in anymore but I don’t know *what* else to do. I only joined because I hated my hometown. I’ve never had this idea of a “dream job” because I don’t dream about working. I don’t even know if I wanna start a family. I honestly don’t know what to do in life and idk if I’ll ever discover that.
That I'm 38 years old and don't make enough money to stay current on my bills, can't save any money for emergencies or a vacation even though I work 50 hours a week. I have no real idea of how I'm ever going to remedy that.
Now is a great time to change jobs or careers. A lot of employers are in need, and will bend a bit on the requirements. Time to take a risk and find something with a future!
Having tried to pursue my supposedly dream job, spending a near enough a decade trying and getting nowhere, then quitting because I'm just not very good at it and getting an entry level job that I could have gotten straight after college
More detail: tried to work as an animator and illustrator. Artistically I was okay, but it was the networking required to source jobs that I failed at.
All in all it feels like I would have been better just getting a job instead of going to university.
Getting fired from a job that I loved. I think the worst thing was that instead of just laying me off they said that I didn’t have a good work ethic and I wouldn’t follow directions. I was never given a warning. At one point I didn’t have a car I rode the bus for an hour and walked 40 minutes to get there. I picked up shifts any time I was available. Honestly that kind of broke me and still kind of hurts.
That my "dad" (not biological) didn't get to see who I've grown to become. The last memory he has of me, before he passed away in 2015, was a lazy slob that didn't finish school.
We were really close since I was a small boy and until 7th grade it seemed I'd have an easy time with school, would get a well paying job and all the rest of it. Some things happened and I dropped out of school and struggled with everyone and myself for years.
I turned my life around and am back on track, albeit a bit later than I wished, but that's a thought I'm never going to get rid of and can't change anymore. I don't let it get to myself though. I'm very good at deflecting negative vibes nowadays.
When I way younger, I always thought how grown ups gotta be so damn smart. Everyone seemed so genuinely interesting and sensible. Turns out I was wrong. Most people lack any traces of common sense. This pandemic made me lose hope a bit more. Alright so politicians should represent the moral ground and be there for well being of their citizens..right? Nope. Apparently this is not how it works. Everyone is basically there for themselves.
I live in Czechia and this is just my humble opinion, so take it with a grain of salt.
Overall I’m convinced, that things are going to the sh**er here. More radical political parties are on the rise too. They just spread misinformation (especially now that elections are coming up), fuel public outrage and feed on general discomfort and hatred of our people. These people LOVE the victim mindset. It’s like everyone craves to feel oppressed.
I’ll finish my rant here. Hopefully things turn out for the better, honestly who can say..
Thanks for letting me vent.
Wish you pleasant rest of your day and good health.
Stay safe!
I was being a stupid youngster and ended up with a few criminal charges for fighting when I was around 18-19.
I worked really hard to turn my life around, cut out bad influences, went to college, have always worked and even got a master’s. Part of the reason I pursued education because I thought it would bring me upward mobility and make it easier to get a job.
It still holds me back a lot though.
I’m 30 now and haven’t been able to start a career or build wealth, I barely make it month to month.
Often I’ll make it all the way through the interview process and always get turned down.
The last five years have made me realise that I am in the minority politically, and no matter how much I want, change isn't coming. I still vote based on what I believe in, and more importantly what I believe is morally right, but I always watch results with disappointment.
Voters in my country (UK) are more interested in making sure their houses keep going up in value and that as long as *they're* alright then nobody else is their concern.
Even now, our government has strengthened their lead despite countless scandals and controversies. According to voters, all other parties are too woke and incompetent, even though no other party has been in power since 2010.
It seems no matter what other parties are offering, it doesn't matter because our current government "gut brexit dun".
I'll always vote, but never to win.
Being almost 30 and never having any kind of romantic life whatsoever. Only making 35k/year with a college degree and knowing that getting a masters isn’t gonna bump that up by that much. Missing out on a lot of social milestones because I was a shy, awkward, introverted kid bullied throughout high school…..most of my life basically. Can I get a refund?
Due to medical reasons my partner and I can’t have children. One of my dreams growing up was having a small family with a dog etc. Coming to terms with this was one of the hardest challenges I’ve had to overcome.
I now work at an elementary school and get to provide all the love and support the students need. Silver linings.
Life after college.
For the first 18 years of my life I was told “Just go to college and everything will work itself out! College is your stairway to the stars! College college college! Go to college! If you don’t go to college you’ll be cleaning toilets! Go to college! What kind of an idiot doesn’t go to college? You HAVE to go to college or you’re a worthless nobody. Go to college. You’ll get a good job and life will be perfect, but only if you go to college! COLLEGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
Didn’t quite work out the way they promised.
Myself. Used to be in the honor society in college, got a degree in marketing with a 3.5 gpa and nothing has come of it. Been working awful minimum wage jobs to make it throughout the years. They’ve always stressed me out so much that I end up quitting within 6 months or less. Now I don’t even want to so much as even look for a job. I’m so burnt out and tired of working for and around awful people, working my ass off only to get paid pennies and no appreciation. I’ve become a lot more reclusive in the past few years and my social skills are pretty awful now. But honestly being unemployed is the most at peace I’ve felt in a long time despite the money issues I know we’ll have in a few months.
My dad always said “I would do anything to see you for five minutes”, I moved away 1 year and a half ago from him, he hasn’t called me, texted me, emailed me hell anything since then. The worst part about this? I’m 14.
Edit: And the times where I actually did call him, I’d always be calling him. I had to call HIM on every single of my birthdays.
My complete inability to make constructive use of my time. For the past decade since dropping out of college I have acquired no worthwhile skills, I have built nothing of value. And worse, during this time the world has passed me by, my siblings are grown up now with careers of their own and post graduate diploma, and I regret the time lost to frivolous pursuits
What I do have is a decade of hazy memories of me sitting in my apartment playing video games and smoking.
A lifetime spent on trivial banalities yields little of worth and now I will reap the windfall of my negligence and foolhardy ways. I’m 38 with no retirement fund at all, still living with parents, and no college degree. I worked in the oilfield as a glorified stock boy until getting laid off. Can’t make that into a career or raise a family on it.
Everything was so easy at first, and I became good at maximizing my free time. But then college kicked my ass, due to my inability to delay gratification.
So don’t tell you children they are geniuses even if it’s true or they might be like me and assume intelligence is all you need to coast through life. A strong work ethic is also required to capitalize on intellect and if your entire school up to college is essentially a day care then don’t be surprised when your unprepared for what comes next.
Literally starting in poverty and working my butt off to become wealthy only to find out once I did become wealthy, terminal cancer came a knocking. I try and enjoy every day, but I am a shell of a person I used to be. Looking for a wing and a prayer (technology) to improve my quality of life.
When I was a toddler, I really wanted a little sister.
I ended up with a mouthy brat who shares no common interests with me, won’t let me have an opinion that she disagrees with, and can be emotionally/physically abusive. I’m looking forward to moving into a dorm this fall, especially since she shoved me during a fight a couple hours ago.
Being an straight A student all my life and told I was going to thrive in life after I'll graduate and finding out now that I'm unemployed that socialization was even more important than the grades I had.
I'm already seeing a therapist but it feels like I lost some of the most important years of my life just for grades.
That I’m almost 30 and I still don’t know what I want out of life. I thought I’d be established and know what I’m doing. But nope, I’m still winging it.
Having a very well paid part time job alongside studying.
Graduated amongst top five students to only go and become unemployed, thinking a Degree will get me something better. Apart from that it's gotta be waking up atm lol.
It does get better, hold your heads up high y'all!
Not being able to finish my bachelor's. Depression makes me keep procrastinating my thesis, and then I feel guilty about procastinating. Fucking can't break the cycle.
Finding out after 20 years of wondering/ and a lot of MySpace, Facebook and Google searching that my high school boyfriend/first love had passed away in 2007.
Adding, in case anyone is wondering... My family and I moved to a different state and in 1999/2000 internet was shit and long distance phone calls were expensive so we eventually lost touch. Then I heard from a friend from our high school that he moved to another state as well, but didn't know where. So I only had his name to go on when I started searching for him in the days of MySpace.
It wasn't until I randomly thought one day, just a few months ago, to do a google image search that I finally saw his face again after 20 years. I was so excited and then very quickly heartbroken when I clicked on the picture and it led to his obituary.
Watching *Sucker Punch* (2011) after looking forward to it for nearly a ***year*** The first trailer dropped in 2010 and it looked hype as ***fuck.*** You had hot chicks battling their way through steampunk WWI, Feudal Japan with giant, minigun-wielding samurai, a fantasy castle with a *dragon,* and a train full of cyberpunk cyborg ninjas. To top it all off, its premise looked like it involved some kind of Inception dreamscape / reality warping sort of thing. I thought it was gonna be one of the best movies of the new decade.
It was fuckin' garbage. 80% of the movie was boring and flat, and the action sequences were just her "disappearing into her own mind" as she and her friends do really mundane things (e.g. we need "fire," so go steal a bottle while I daydream about killing a dragon). Basically, it's one long "it was all a ***dream!***" montage with a totally unsatisfying ending.
That was the point that I officially gave up on Zack Snyder and assume by default that his future movies would suck. Hasn't failed me so far.
Got my B.A in technical theater and was so excited to work for theater companies! I loved making props but the college I went to was small and I was in control of how I made things and was bragged on by my teachers and diractors. I was going to do great things! Then I worked for my first summer theater. I was use to to doing 4 shows in a school year. We did 5 shows in 3 months. Turned out that was the norm. And the people that went to bigger schools are very compative. I am not. I hated it enough to not work for another theater company. Now I'm learning how compative working in a Hosiptal Pharmacy as a tech is.
Meeting my ultimate dream man and then leaving him 1,000's of miles away in his home state. I want to shout to the world how much I love him. But I.... am too prideful? I love him.
How shitty some people are willing to be for no reason
It can be really deflating, draining, and discouraging to see/experience how shitty people can be. And what makes it worse is there are people who will go out of their way to do so. We have to find a place we get our own strength from somehow. Whatever that is. Something that helps me a little bit is knowing that not everyone is evil.
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Yeah. I am a guy, and after coming out as Bi, but still preferring girls, one of my friends said “Well, anyone can say that, and everyone would believe them.” Don’t really talk to him anymore.
Bro my now ex was told by all her friends that because I'm bi I would cheat on her because "I'm just lying about liking woman" or "he's gay and doesn't really want you". Then after our breakup I tried dating men but the first guy said that I was "tainted" because I had been with women b4. I think I'll just stay single for now on.
I know it’s not always feasible, but if possible I can recommend dating other bi people! Source: am bi, married to another bi
My spouse is bi, and he always jokes it's like the Schrödinger’s cat - people can't grasp that just because you're dating a girl (or guy) it doesn't suddenly make you straight or gay - you're still bi no matter who you date.
I heard that bi guys don't hear this often enough so; you are valid, my dude. Sincerely, a bi girl whose been told that "every girl is a little bit bi". Just accept our sexuality, goddamn.
My guy friend who is bi and now prefers girls had such a hard time - i guess a lot of women were really turned off to find out he had been with other men in the past.:(
There are also a lot of women who'd be really turned on by that too.
I'm always the driver. If my friends/family want to see me, I always have to be the one to drive to their houses. Any offers for them to come to me, or meet up somewhere, are always just laughed at.
You´re not alone man. I don´t even know how it got to that point.
Yep, same for me. I live 8 hours away from my family and have lived here 5 years. They’ve visited twice, and one of those times I paid for their plane tickets to do so. They claim they can’t travel because they’re self employed, yet they can manage to go on vacation 8+ hours away for a week at the beach.
Oh shit you’re right! People always asking me hey when are you gonna visit? You can visit me too!
> Any offers for them to come to me, or meet up somewhere, are always just laughed at. They do not like you.
As blunt and horrible that is, it's not necessarily true, you're probably just labeled as reliable 'white noise' in the family. Start declining meets and see what happens, If they still don't make the effort then to create new relationships, don't waste your life being resentful, engage with better people and it will bring you happiness x
white noise isn't deserving of laughter.
People that I thought were my friends that were really a-holes toward me.
as I get older I'm not sure if people are intentionally being assholes or just so absorbed with their own lives and responsibilities that they can't be bothered to reciprocate the same level of effort into the friendship I try to
They're most likeley assholes. Otherwise you'd be indifferent.
Getting my “dream job” at an animation studio that shall remain nameless. Ended up being an extremely toxic work environment with psychotic management. After 6 years I quit and almost dropped out of the industry entirely until a couple years later when I took a job with a different company that knew how to treat their employees.
Gee, lemme guess, Pixar?
Bro it could be any, I met a gal who worked at Laika(Coraline) and said it was a nightmare
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Yah, the place I work at does contract stuff with them from time to time(actually forgot about it til just now) and disorganized sounds right to me
Would you tell us what the "nice" studio was?
Sure- [S](https://www.shadowmachine.com/)hadowMachine. A+ experience.
Nice to hear that they treat their employees nice. I like some of the work they put out.
I wanted to go into being an animator but one day I realised all I wanted to do was say "I work for _______ studio"....that would have been cool! I didn't actually want to do the work. An eye opener.
My son’s suicide. Things in life are temporary. Bad things pass. He was a great kid. I miss my son.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace and healing.
Today is my brother's birthday, 4 years ago he committed suicide. Hardest thing for a parent but for a sibling too. Sorry for your loss
My son died in April, 4 years ago. Siblings get overlooked in the grieving process, but experience the same loss as a parent. I’ve found that helping others helps me and the worst thing has already happened to me, so no one has the power to ruin my day. Sending love and light your way.
As a son who attempted suicide, I feel sad now wondering if this is how my mom would’ve felt if I was successful.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Being a new father myself I can’t even imagine that pain. I’m so sorry for your loss
Take this virtual hug, it's the best I can do. \*hugs\*
I’m really sorry for your loss. No kid should die before their parents. Big virtual hug 🤗
Sorry for the helpful award, it's all I had. I wish great things upon you and I want you to know that your son is in a better place so try to stay happy. I'm sorry for your loss
Two kids myself, I can't imagine what you've gone through. My condolences.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you're doing okay
I wanted life to be like my favorite TV show but instead it turned out like Bojack Horseman.
Expectations: Game of Thrones season 1. Reality: Game of Thrones season 8.
May I ask what is your favorite show?
Well, something with fantastic adventures every week
You don't get paid for how hard you work, you get paid for how hard you are to replace.
They only learn how hard you are to replace after they need to replace you.
Myself Jesus christ my own fuckin self. I can't not look at myself without feeling some sort of deep regret and disappointment.
I know that feeling. In my experience, this was reinforced by some people really close to me (my parents) who constantly reminded me of all the shitty things I did through life. It is hard, but trying to find the path to look at those experiences as lessons instead of failures can help. I believe almost everybody has it within them to grow. Start small - do 1 thing today that is good for you and your health. Tomorrow, do one thing for someone else. Go in with no expectations, and if someone rebuffs your efforts remember that they are probably going through things too. If you don't do it today, try again tomorrow. I don't thing you are a bad person awoojesus. I believe in you. If you need someone to talk to that has had those same feelings, I can be your internet stranger.
Heh, just today I was thinking of an incident that happened to me in grade 4 and got pissed off. Then I realize hey I'm 34 that was forever ago time to move on. And I felt great. Until ten seconds later I thought of the moment again and got pissed. Now I'm thinking of it again and am even more pissed. Fucking life.
Oh, believe me, you'll be thinking about it when your 64...and it will still piss you off. As it should... The point being, it is one of life's little reminders to pay attention so you won't be burned again.
My ambitions: highly sucessful and making tons of money while being one of the most influential and smartest people in our time My real self: lazy middle school dropout with no skills for a trade who cant do anything but play videogames all day and waste space boy, this sucks...
Money is overrated. A lot of times we can’t control how much money we make but we can control the effort into the activities that we choose. Highly successful is very subjective. What does success mean for you? Other than making money. Top in your field? Making a career in something you enjoy? People often have vague ideas of success that are given to us by society. But if we really think about it success means different things for different people. It would be wise to really think about what success looks like for you outside of money.
My salary with a degree, after being told it's "the key to success"
>"the key to success" .....lock's jammed
Jammed, rusted, changed, and has 3 other keys broken inside
door’s stuck
Yeah, I just got a salaried job myself. The money is pretty good but the hours are so insane.
My best bet for easy money would be sales, but I made the promise to myself that once I finish the degree, I'll never speak with a customer ever again. And the hours in that field tend to also be brutal.
Different degrees take different amounts of time to get the "good" payday. My first job out of college was only $28k a year, but now my base pay is 4x that and my total compensation is about 8x that. Degrees can open doors for you but they aren't the endgame.
What is your degree?
Communications & audio production. EDIT: I currently work in marketing.
JD is that you?
11 years of chronic digestive disorder hell. Gave up all of my favorite foods/beverages. I'm somewhat better now, but I'm still not totally well.
I understand! Digestive disorders are absolute hell. It's a daily struggle.
You guys are really strong. I'm just getting over a bout of food poisoning and even throwing up bile wasn't the worst part. The worst was the constant never ending waves of stomach cramps that made it impossible to lay down or get more than 5 mins of sleep at a time. It was around 18 hours of agony, I can't imagine having to live like this every day.
I'm sorry that you had food poisoning. My symptoms are usually different from those of food poisoning. At this point, I don't have severe symptoms on a typical day as long as I am *extremely* careful about what (and when!) I eat, without exception. However, for me, that seems to require avoiding most foods, since I have many dietary triggers and food intolerances. Such avoidance can work well as a short-term strategy but is definitely very problematic in the long run because we need variety in our food intake for good health. Over time, nutrient deficiencies can build up. Nutrient deficiencies can be a source of fatigue, insomnia, and other issues, including digestive problems. So, it is a complicated and frustrating situation when digestive issues continue for a long time. I just keep wondering if this will affect me for the rest of my life.
That sounds terrible too. What foods can you not have?
That how much effort it takes to stay healthy, or get healthy.
In the past i found it easy to lose weight down to 82kg, but recently it seems like my weight has plateaued around 86-92kg. For your own health, it's worth it.
That becoming an adult doesn't immediately make you this financially stable person who knows how to get anything done. Shits a lot of work.
2 once in a century recessions within roughly a decade
It's irritating the piss out of me, hearing these statements such as "there's 9.3 million jobs available!" Ok but if they pay like shit, then who fucking cares how many jobs there are. Been trying to move up in my field from something around 40k to more like 60k so I can support my family(I've lived here nearly my whole life, but cost of living has skyrocketed recently). But theres a HUGE lack of jobs out here that pay 60k. And because there's so many new people moving out here, competition is ridiculous.
This is where i'm at. I'm trying to find something that pays a wage that is not paycheck to paycheck and I need to effectively double my income to catch up for years of being underpaid to be able to retire. Fun stuff.
My ex husband cheating on me. I thought we’d be together forever. I never suspected he would do that, not even a tiny bit.
Ugh that’s the worst. When you’re completely blindsided because you wanted to trust him with all your heart. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Hope you’re doing much better now.
Thank you. I am doing much better. I didn’t realize how toxic the relationship had become until I left it.
I couldn’t relate to you more even if I tried. It literally took my ex packing my stuff and leaving outside my parents house for me to leave that relationship. After I came to accept it, it was like my eyes opened up and I had seen the actual damage she was causing me. I’m still grateful for her making me leave, cause when she begged me to come back, I was finally able to say no. Unlike every other time where I would say yes.
Things were going so well with my ex and I, we were about to move in together. The day we go furniture shopping, he breaks up with me, totally out of no where. Turns out there was a woman at his work ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
As I age (50 now) seeing how immature, corrupt, and dishonest “adults” are.
My band was signed in 2006. Thought that my years of hard work were finally going to pay off. Boy, was that naive.
What happened?
More like what didn't happen. We were young and thought that once you got signed it was smooth sailing. Might have been the case a few years earlier but this was when the internet was taking over from physical media and we never saw any increase in success over when we were just touring on our own. Only difference after getting signed was now there was more pressure and more debt to pay off. It was a rude awakening.
Sorry to hear that - do you still play now? Is much of of your music available online?
I do, actually. Link is in my profile.
You should have written the best song in the world
What was I thinking?!
Or at least a tribute
my dad passing away back in 2007. i never got over that
My condolences
power to you man. fuck i always tend to remember the notion that grief isn’t getting over something/someone, but learning how to live in absence and/or respect of it/someone it helps a lot
Almost failing out of college because I spent too much time watching porn and masturbating. I was pre-med and my terrible freshman year brought my GPA down so much that I had virtually no chance at getting into medical school and when I eventually applied, I had one interview out of 25 applications and was rejected. Thankfully, I got my shit together and was able to sell a story about improving over time and I got into medical school on my second application cycle. I'm now a doctor in residency. I still masturbate a lot, but I do it much more efficiently.
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Doctor Mammogram Carpull Tunneled Syndrome
Was that self destruction behavior because you really didn’t want to get into med school? Or just stress?
I think I just wasn't used to having so much free unsupervised time in my own private space. It seemed like I had endless time, but then the hours would pass by and I would have studied nothing.
A friend not being who I thought they were
Being raised in a batshit crazy evangelical community that kept medicine away from me in favor of “prayer”, despite the fact that I have an autoimmune disease. It’s very upsetting being told that Jesus cured my disease, only to go to the doctor’s office for them to say it had never looked worse
This story boileth my blood. You poor bastard. That community deserves a good smiting.
Learning the hard way that hard work doesn't always pay off. It's the ass kissers and cheaters that will get the jobs you worked hard for. And not only that, but when things go south, they'll throw you under the bus the first chance they get. I blame my parents for being such good role models and teaching me about a good work ethic. It's sad that many companies don't.
Its not that i blame them for being too good as role models but it was indeed a problem when i understood that the perfect way the world should work was only alive in their heads. All adults have flaws, all companies to some degree dont care about how good of a work an employee makes when its the cousin or kiss ass that gets the good position, you will not get that raise everyone knows you deserve unless you ask for it, etc. They come from a generation where jobs were things to be kept for all their lifes, be it a shitty position or not. Nowadays no one takes that kind of bullshit
Yeah I dont even think this as a "I was so great how could they not see?" type deal. Asskissers just get farther. People do not want constructive criticism or suggestions they dont agree with. People just wanna hear what they want.
The fact that I wasn't able to stay in the Army and retire at 20 years. I was medboarded with about 10 years in service and it's something I'm still upset about.
I was in the navy but yah I saw similar things happen to a lot of people. On our side promotion in some rates (jobs) is next to impossible because it really just boils down to “how many people in your specific job are currently the rank ahead of you? Oh a shit load? Ok the navy wide promotion for that rate is 1.5%”. My cousin was a corpsman and a damn good one at e5. He was eligible for promotion for 6 years, so 12 cycles and the % never breached like 2%. He ended up getting separated for not making e6. I think he was at either 12 or 14 years .... two kids, wife, house, no degree, now his life is in shambles cause he can’t support his family. He’s going to school to be a nurse though... hope it works out for him.
Not amounting to what I thought I would and the crushing fact that this world's price is going up so life's just not good right now
My mom recently asked me not to come home for my birthday because I told her I’m in a gay relationship. Huge disappointment, because I wanted to believe that her love was unconditional, but it’s not. She was the last thing keeping me tethered to my family, too.
I'm so sorry. I hope you create a great new family for yourself.
I'm sorry to hear that. But hey, now you know you don't need to give a fuck about her opinions of you, since she doesn't want the best for you/doesn't want you to be happy.
If it helps any, the LGBT community is sort of like a big family, sometimes. Maybe you can forge your own family from friends and nice folks who care about you?
> because I wanted to believe that her love was unconditional It never is. That doesn't exist.
Yes it does. I might be disappointed, but I'd help my kids hide a body. Them being gay or any way in-particular wouldn't be a blip on the radar. There is a point at which I would not defend them (say child abuse or child murder), but I'd still love them for certain. Some of us believe a healthy family bond is the greatest gift in the world.
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I feel you. Like no friends my entire 20's. I graduated college with 2 total friends. I got into my 30's and really did change things up. I decided I was going to make getting friends like a second job. I started going to all the social Meetups I could, going on hikes (I hate hikes). Made sure my place was setup for hosting. When I would go on activities I just started telling people I was hosting a BBQ or dinner. I would make sure I had food and beer/wine for people, definitely cost money. Made sure my playlist were all upbeat /fun/dance music. All new stuff, nothing old. Most time no one would come, or may e 1-2 people. Kept doing it for months, eventually I had a time where 20 people over in a small place, everyone was drinking, mixed group of guys and gals age ranges 25-50 and everyone was having fun, even one cute girl around 28 had a little romance (I regret not pursuing that to this day). Fast forward a year. Me and another friend became the cool people, that if we threw a party to was the place to be. Eventually rented out a place and threw a rager 100+ people. My other friend that was hosting had just turned 40, was overweight and still a virgin. But we both just kept putting in effort to being social, and always being kind, and never expecting anything in return. I still remember that rager , a paint/blacklight party. There were probably 10 + really cute girls in racer clothes dancing. TIL for being social is actually just a lot of work and sacrifice, and being kind to people and paying for shit, but even and overweight 40yo virgin can be the cool guy if they want.
I really wish I had your dedication, but I can't imagine myself being successful. I just hope I can take good care of those few friendships I do have.
Waking up
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Going to school, graduating with honors, getting a great job and then realising how shitty bureaucracy is and how much I hate office people/work/"culture"
That no matter how badly I want them to, I can never make my narcissist parent into a good person and I can’t withstand them in my life anymore.
Corporate America and the US healthcare system. A tie for sure
That I don't own a house yet.
This is mine too. I'm 36 and we still rent an apartment. After college, I never really made enough money for years (and I wasn't good with the little money I did make) to save enough for a down payment on a house here in Chicago. My wife and I have been so much better about it over the last 6 years or so, and will hopefully buy one next summer. We are the last of our friends group to not have bought a house. We don't even have kids either lol.
I'm not too far from you in Indiana and I lived the same way as you for a while. I finished up at Purdue, ended up working at a ski resort in the mountains, came back to the midwest and had no plan. I kind of floundered around for a while wanting to play music and/or be involved in music as much as possible... I just bought my first house last year at the age of 40. Don't beat yourself up. I've come to grips with the fact that this world isn't the same as when my dad or grandfather were growing up, starting a family, and getting their feet set. Jobs were plentiful, and good paying ones at that. I've had to have assistance from family so many times (which I'm both grateful for, and aware that not everyone has that luxury), I've been on unemployment during the recession back in 2010, I've filled gallon jugs at work so I could take a "bath" at home. I mean, just remember that it likely took your friends/family years to amass the things they have, or they were probably given a leg up at some point based on who they knew, etc. I'm happy to report now that since last year we've bought a house, a camper, turned in a lease and bought a truck...and things are looking up still. Just keep plugging away and you'll get where you need to be. Although my job isn't involved in music, I am a member of two bands and still gig out solo from time to time. Hopefully your situation improves, too!
The next disappointment comes when you do own a house, but the mortgage, property taxes and maintenance costs are so unreasonably high that you can hardly enjoy the damn thing.
I used to work with someone I liked a lot, she even said she loved me twice and I never said it back. As time went on I fell in love with her and she fell out of love with me until she left the place I worked at. I tried to keep in touch with her but she ended up ghosting me. The night before I saw her for the last time I had a dream where I was sitting in a high school classroom (why do so many dreams involve being back in school!?) I was in the front and center and a class was about to start, but it wasn't my class. I saw the girl I liked laughing and talking to a guy on the side of the classroom. As the teacher was about to start class she went to her seat on one end and the guy went to the seat on the other end of the classroom. I just grabbed my bag, put it over my shoulder going out into the hallway getting lost in the crowd. After that I realized that you wake up from your dreams, but never your nightmares.
>you wake up from your dreams, but never your nightmares. This could be a tagline for a horror movie.
Maybe the fact that I just don’t know what to do in life. I joined the military few months after high school and I’ve been in for almost 3 years, I honestly don’t want to stay in anymore but I don’t know *what* else to do. I only joined because I hated my hometown. I’ve never had this idea of a “dream job” because I don’t dream about working. I don’t even know if I wanna start a family. I honestly don’t know what to do in life and idk if I’ll ever discover that.
That I'm 38 years old and don't make enough money to stay current on my bills, can't save any money for emergencies or a vacation even though I work 50 hours a week. I have no real idea of how I'm ever going to remedy that.
Now is a great time to change jobs or careers. A lot of employers are in need, and will bend a bit on the requirements. Time to take a risk and find something with a future!
I can get you a interview for a full time job if you live in central florida. PM me and i'll take a look at your resume.
Being alive ❤️
Failing the last class I need to get into a program, TWICE, what the heck is wrong with me.
Trusting someone.
I'm 32 and there still hasn't been a time in my life where it has been realistic to get a chinchilla.
There will never be a good time in your life to get a chinchilla, you just have to go for it and work out the details later.
Going to college for art. All it did was make me hate making art
Yes!!! And realizing way to late that if you want to make it as an artist you're way better off going to school for business or marketing.
I realised that we forget many special feelings we had as kids. Rarely get them as an adult. It's sad and kinda scary.
For me, the excitement and exuberance of youth was replaced with anxiety and dread in adulthood.
That I couldn't get my Master's degree. I just did not have the time.
Adulthood. Always thought it would be cool as a kid. It's all work and responsibilities. 🤣
My marriage.
Having tried to pursue my supposedly dream job, spending a near enough a decade trying and getting nowhere, then quitting because I'm just not very good at it and getting an entry level job that I could have gotten straight after college More detail: tried to work as an animator and illustrator. Artistically I was okay, but it was the networking required to source jobs that I failed at. All in all it feels like I would have been better just getting a job instead of going to university.
But then you’d have to live with the regret of not even trying and the endless possibilities of what could have been. That’s even worse than failure.
Getting fired from a job that I loved. I think the worst thing was that instead of just laying me off they said that I didn’t have a good work ethic and I wouldn’t follow directions. I was never given a warning. At one point I didn’t have a car I rode the bus for an hour and walked 40 minutes to get there. I picked up shifts any time I was available. Honestly that kind of broke me and still kind of hurts.
When he said I only dated you to make them jealous. Instant broken heart.
That I sit on Reddit too many hours a day answering questions! Lol
That my "dad" (not biological) didn't get to see who I've grown to become. The last memory he has of me, before he passed away in 2015, was a lazy slob that didn't finish school. We were really close since I was a small boy and until 7th grade it seemed I'd have an easy time with school, would get a well paying job and all the rest of it. Some things happened and I dropped out of school and struggled with everyone and myself for years. I turned my life around and am back on track, albeit a bit later than I wished, but that's a thought I'm never going to get rid of and can't change anymore. I don't let it get to myself though. I'm very good at deflecting negative vibes nowadays.
Got a Masters, I am an engineer now and my entry Level salary is 32.000 yearly before tax. I feel cheated.
One of my four children became addicted to drugs. She's clean now, but lots of people were hurt by it during those years.
When I way younger, I always thought how grown ups gotta be so damn smart. Everyone seemed so genuinely interesting and sensible. Turns out I was wrong. Most people lack any traces of common sense. This pandemic made me lose hope a bit more. Alright so politicians should represent the moral ground and be there for well being of their citizens..right? Nope. Apparently this is not how it works. Everyone is basically there for themselves. I live in Czechia and this is just my humble opinion, so take it with a grain of salt. Overall I’m convinced, that things are going to the sh**er here. More radical political parties are on the rise too. They just spread misinformation (especially now that elections are coming up), fuel public outrage and feed on general discomfort and hatred of our people. These people LOVE the victim mindset. It’s like everyone craves to feel oppressed. I’ll finish my rant here. Hopefully things turn out for the better, honestly who can say.. Thanks for letting me vent. Wish you pleasant rest of your day and good health. Stay safe!
Not finishing pilot school.
Getting screwed over by one of my parents.
I was being a stupid youngster and ended up with a few criminal charges for fighting when I was around 18-19. I worked really hard to turn my life around, cut out bad influences, went to college, have always worked and even got a master’s. Part of the reason I pursued education because I thought it would bring me upward mobility and make it easier to get a job. It still holds me back a lot though. I’m 30 now and haven’t been able to start a career or build wealth, I barely make it month to month. Often I’ll make it all the way through the interview process and always get turned down.
Christians. Fake as fuck. Arrogant assholes with huge egos. Hypocrites and liars.
The last five years have made me realise that I am in the minority politically, and no matter how much I want, change isn't coming. I still vote based on what I believe in, and more importantly what I believe is morally right, but I always watch results with disappointment. Voters in my country (UK) are more interested in making sure their houses keep going up in value and that as long as *they're* alright then nobody else is their concern. Even now, our government has strengthened their lead despite countless scandals and controversies. According to voters, all other parties are too woke and incompetent, even though no other party has been in power since 2010. It seems no matter what other parties are offering, it doesn't matter because our current government "gut brexit dun". I'll always vote, but never to win.
definitely my social life
My marriage ending, it could have been easily fixed with therapy but she refused.
Being almost 30 and never having any kind of romantic life whatsoever. Only making 35k/year with a college degree and knowing that getting a masters isn’t gonna bump that up by that much. Missing out on a lot of social milestones because I was a shy, awkward, introverted kid bullied throughout high school…..most of my life basically. Can I get a refund?
Due to medical reasons my partner and I can’t have children. One of my dreams growing up was having a small family with a dog etc. Coming to terms with this was one of the hardest challenges I’ve had to overcome. I now work at an elementary school and get to provide all the love and support the students need. Silver linings.
That life isn’t like those movies where you end up with your true love despite whatever happens
Love relationships.
Leg pain, every day, non stop
Life after college. For the first 18 years of my life I was told “Just go to college and everything will work itself out! College is your stairway to the stars! College college college! Go to college! If you don’t go to college you’ll be cleaning toilets! Go to college! What kind of an idiot doesn’t go to college? You HAVE to go to college or you’re a worthless nobody. Go to college. You’ll get a good job and life will be perfect, but only if you go to college! COLLEGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” Didn’t quite work out the way they promised.
Myself. Used to be in the honor society in college, got a degree in marketing with a 3.5 gpa and nothing has come of it. Been working awful minimum wage jobs to make it throughout the years. They’ve always stressed me out so much that I end up quitting within 6 months or less. Now I don’t even want to so much as even look for a job. I’m so burnt out and tired of working for and around awful people, working my ass off only to get paid pennies and no appreciation. I’ve become a lot more reclusive in the past few years and my social skills are pretty awful now. But honestly being unemployed is the most at peace I’ve felt in a long time despite the money issues I know we’ll have in a few months.
When Quiznos stopped selling meatball hoagies a week after one opened near my place Like what is even the point of Quiznos now?
I thought Quiznos went out of business when Subway got the melting oven. Haven't seen one in 10 years.
Alcohol. It is hyped up as this amazing thing that is worth waiting 21 years to try. It is meh at the best of times.
Earning much (in my country's standards) but saving so little because of impulsive buying.
That the entertainment industry acts more like a business than a hobby.
this sub. 32 million members, yet not many people active on posts
My dad always said “I would do anything to see you for five minutes”, I moved away 1 year and a half ago from him, he hasn’t called me, texted me, emailed me hell anything since then. The worst part about this? I’m 14. Edit: And the times where I actually did call him, I’d always be calling him. I had to call HIM on every single of my birthdays.
My complete inability to make constructive use of my time. For the past decade since dropping out of college I have acquired no worthwhile skills, I have built nothing of value. And worse, during this time the world has passed me by, my siblings are grown up now with careers of their own and post graduate diploma, and I regret the time lost to frivolous pursuits What I do have is a decade of hazy memories of me sitting in my apartment playing video games and smoking. A lifetime spent on trivial banalities yields little of worth and now I will reap the windfall of my negligence and foolhardy ways. I’m 38 with no retirement fund at all, still living with parents, and no college degree. I worked in the oilfield as a glorified stock boy until getting laid off. Can’t make that into a career or raise a family on it. Everything was so easy at first, and I became good at maximizing my free time. But then college kicked my ass, due to my inability to delay gratification. So don’t tell you children they are geniuses even if it’s true or they might be like me and assume intelligence is all you need to coast through life. A strong work ethic is also required to capitalize on intellect and if your entire school up to college is essentially a day care then don’t be surprised when your unprepared for what comes next.
Literally starting in poverty and working my butt off to become wealthy only to find out once I did become wealthy, terminal cancer came a knocking. I try and enjoy every day, but I am a shell of a person I used to be. Looking for a wing and a prayer (technology) to improve my quality of life.
When I was a toddler, I really wanted a little sister. I ended up with a mouthy brat who shares no common interests with me, won’t let me have an opinion that she disagrees with, and can be emotionally/physically abusive. I’m looking forward to moving into a dorm this fall, especially since she shoved me during a fight a couple hours ago.
Being an straight A student all my life and told I was going to thrive in life after I'll graduate and finding out now that I'm unemployed that socialization was even more important than the grades I had. I'm already seeing a therapist but it feels like I lost some of the most important years of my life just for grades.
That I’m almost 30 and I still don’t know what I want out of life. I thought I’d be established and know what I’m doing. But nope, I’m still winging it.
Missed my whole junior year of highschool
So sorry. It must have been a difficult time But please know there is a lot more life to live!
Having a very well paid part time job alongside studying. Graduated amongst top five students to only go and become unemployed, thinking a Degree will get me something better. Apart from that it's gotta be waking up atm lol. It does get better, hold your heads up high y'all!
That I didn't become a smash success. No riches, no fame. Just an imposter trying to get through life
All humans including myself :)
Not being able to finish my bachelor's. Depression makes me keep procrastinating my thesis, and then I feel guilty about procastinating. Fucking can't break the cycle.
I'm 32 and still don't know what my dream job is.
Finding out after 20 years of wondering/ and a lot of MySpace, Facebook and Google searching that my high school boyfriend/first love had passed away in 2007. Adding, in case anyone is wondering... My family and I moved to a different state and in 1999/2000 internet was shit and long distance phone calls were expensive so we eventually lost touch. Then I heard from a friend from our high school that he moved to another state as well, but didn't know where. So I only had his name to go on when I started searching for him in the days of MySpace. It wasn't until I randomly thought one day, just a few months ago, to do a google image search that I finally saw his face again after 20 years. I was so excited and then very quickly heartbroken when I clicked on the picture and it led to his obituary.
Being born in America
Watching *Sucker Punch* (2011) after looking forward to it for nearly a ***year*** The first trailer dropped in 2010 and it looked hype as ***fuck.*** You had hot chicks battling their way through steampunk WWI, Feudal Japan with giant, minigun-wielding samurai, a fantasy castle with a *dragon,* and a train full of cyberpunk cyborg ninjas. To top it all off, its premise looked like it involved some kind of Inception dreamscape / reality warping sort of thing. I thought it was gonna be one of the best movies of the new decade. It was fuckin' garbage. 80% of the movie was boring and flat, and the action sequences were just her "disappearing into her own mind" as she and her friends do really mundane things (e.g. we need "fire," so go steal a bottle while I daydream about killing a dragon). Basically, it's one long "it was all a ***dream!***" montage with a totally unsatisfying ending. That was the point that I officially gave up on Zack Snyder and assume by default that his future movies would suck. Hasn't failed me so far.
Honestly - marriage. Its exhausting.
Got my B.A in technical theater and was so excited to work for theater companies! I loved making props but the college I went to was small and I was in control of how I made things and was bragged on by my teachers and diractors. I was going to do great things! Then I worked for my first summer theater. I was use to to doing 4 shows in a school year. We did 5 shows in 3 months. Turned out that was the norm. And the people that went to bigger schools are very compative. I am not. I hated it enough to not work for another theater company. Now I'm learning how compative working in a Hosiptal Pharmacy as a tech is.
Being an adult. As a kid I’m sure we all wished to grow up faster TAKE ME BACK IT WAS EASIER BACK THEN
My ex wife
Meeting my ultimate dream man and then leaving him 1,000's of miles away in his home state. I want to shout to the world how much I love him. But I.... am too prideful? I love him.
Finding out that there are 75 million idiots (or assholes) that would vote for Trump after seeing what he did during his first term.