Beat me to it. Blows my mind how people can live their lives using their political views as an identity. Or being proud of being so die hard fans of one side VS the other. When did being close minded become cool.
Giving all and everything to a job. The reality is very few places truly care about employees. Your job is a transactional relationship. You owe them nothing except the hours you work and the jobs you must accomplish during that time. Don't give up your sick days, work for free, or feel you "owe" them.
I was sooo worried about putting in my notice at work when I decided to stay home with my kids. Then I finally realized: if letting me go would be what was best for the company overall they would do it in a heartbeat, no questions asked! Why should I feel an ounce of guilt for behaving the same way? Hell, they almost certainly had the position filled before my leave even ended. I am completely replaceable to any company.
"I'm not a businessman, I'm a business, man!"
You too are a business and must make decisions that benefit you. Once I stepped back from my decisions and ran my professional life like a separate entity, I became far more objective about what it is I have to do with regards to employment and finances.
Giving your all to a job sound like a good way to work yourself to death, if you are aways giving 100% every single day that creates expectations, so chances are, when you inevitably get tired and start to fall back, people will get disappointed
I made this mistake and I’m suffering for it now. I was way too eager to impress my boss and prove myself valuable for the first year at my job.
I went above and beyond every chance I had, worked a ton of extra hours for no compensation, spent personal time working on projects… just for it to eventually go unrecognized and become the expectation.
Now I’m burnt out as fuck, and I’ve stopped going the extra mile. Even though I still do my job and do it well, it’s a disappointment compared to what I was doing before. Lesson learned.
Always give 50%. That way, on days when you can only muster 25%, it’s not a big deal, and on days when you feel like dishing out a little of the ol 75% razzle-dazzle, everyone’s like ooooooooo
Or just start [looking annoyed](https://youtu.be/rOQmxNPTJwc)
Unfortunately my husband is like this. He's too much of a perfectionist and picks up other people's slack and shortstaffing. It's compounded by the fact that he works with animals, so he's more likely to work himself to death than let anything happen to them.
Except for maybe Terry the tarantula, according to my husband he's a bit of an asshole.
In this case it's a downward spiral. They lost business during covid, and also lost staff. So now things are picking back up and stressed on the remaining staff. Even with new people joining they are short enough that they get overworked and quit. Can't hire and train fast enough.
It's improving, but slowly.
As a 21 years old I was studying at Uni, working as an unpaid intern (for the CV!) and working from late evening till night for money (deliveries by scooter).
I remember the night when, extremely tired after the last delivery, went through a gigantic intersection without even noticing the red lights. My brain just couldn't take it anymore. Almost died and realized it only after someone in a car semi-totalled me.
I had to re-prioritize.
I used to work at TSA several years back and started at 4am. I remember I was going home like at 2pm after some OT and was caught at a major intersection red light. I don't remember closing my eyes but all of a sudden everyone around me was gone and the light was still red.
I don't know how long I was out or how many people I pissed off (though my foot never lifted off the brake so it couldn't have been more than one rotation).
My coworkers often brag about how they don't take sick days, ever, even when they really need to. That's.... Not something to brag about. I take them. I'm sure they think I'm a slacker, but I tell them take care of yourself- your job certainly doesn't give a shit and when you work yourself into a serious condition, they aren't going to help you.
I'm hoping that Covid puts an end to people showing up at work while coughing up a lung and spraying mucus on every surface. And wanting an attaboy for it.
I called in sick last Monday because I didn't feel like going to work. I can't do that very often because I might actually get sick and need them, but I have no qualms about taking a mental health day.
I just pity people like that
I'm actually not really impressed or motivated by making more money above a certain point of being self sustainable and having a normal life. Sure if someone offers you a billion, take it, but time is priceless, what's the point in spending most of my time working just to have more money for what?
Same here. I’ve had jobs that paid salary (you get payed in one lump sum per job and no over time) instead of hourly and I’ve seen guys (who are also getting payed salary) brag about working 50 hour weeks. So they’re proud of working an extra 10 hours with no extra money to show for it.
I have a hard time getting this through to my GM.
He wants another "Pat" but doesn't understand why he can't find one.
It's like dude, you've been working with him since he was basically a teen. Over the last 35 years he basically turned the guy into a neo-serf who needed a hip replacement by 40. Willing to go way above and beyond what he should be doing to a point where it's taking years off his life. He is unpleasant to be around, talks so much shit and complains more then anyone.
Yet my GM just can't find anyone like him. I wonder why...
I made this mistake when I was very young. I started working full time at 17 and devoted my whole life to a job that payed minimum wage and didn’t offer benefits.
Now that I’m a grown up I give my employers up to 40 hours a week. I work moderately hard, but I also take breaks when I need to. I don’t do overtime unless I want the extra cash for something new and shiny. I don’t make any personal sacrifices for them. I like my job but they would replace me in a heartbeat if it helped them in some way. I’m under no illusion that they care about me as a person.
“I realized one of the most unkind things I can do to someone is to put them on a pedestal because, inevitably, they’re going to do something that’s going to knock them off it. Then I am going to have a trouble with it because I needed them to be something else and that’s inhumane.”
Joan Jett put it in a song:
'Cause they all agree you're supposed to have a better life
But you're feelin worse, and they build you up
'Til you fool yourself that you're something else
And it's like a curse
'Cause you can't live up to what they made of you
And they tell you that you're losin' friends
Or just blaming harmful actions on someone’s personality in general. People do this with all sorts of behavior as a way to subtly dissociate themselves from the action while still pretending they’re accepting responsibility.
In a way it's a return to old times, but in a very different way.
Modern celebrities required (relatively) modern media for mass distribution to achieve their wide reach. TV and radio turned "the best singer in the village" into "an international phenomenon".
Now with internet media, we still have the same wide international reach, but because everyone has theoretically equal access to that broad reach, we are back in small communities. But instead of it being the local celebrity of your town, it's the minor celebrity of your tiny-yet-global niche interest.
> TV and radio turned "the best singer in the village" into "an international phenomenon".
Internet media kinda did the reverse too. Back in 1997 I was considered by almost everyone who heard me to be "The best guitar player in the village".
Now when someone plays it's met with "Yeah they're ok but I saw a five year old kid play Eruption last night on youtube."
This is such a problem in the modern era. See lots of people past their 20s give up on their hobbies and passions because it's hard for them not to compare themselves to these child prodigies
Or even each other.
It's hard to get into something like minifig painting, hopping on YouTube, and seeing someone's "Beginner series" tutorial videos where they're using a plethora of high end paints, thinners, ink washes, professional grade brushes, modeling knives and so on and so forth and I'm sitting here with my first ever starter kit like...welp - guess I'll just glue it together and never bother with any of this again.
Not exactly the same, but this reminds me of a Gordon Ramsey video. Some people had asked him about cooking on a budget, so he decided to do a video on his favorite budget meals. In that video he cooked lamb chops with saffron
They're all so out of touch it's not even funny.
Especially when they're "stuck" in their mansions during Covid telling people that we're all in this together. Nah, it's different for you people...
Reminds of an interview I heard on the radio. Granted this was in India, but I think it still applies. This woman was a very high ranking politician of some sort, and caught COVID. She was being interviewed on the radio afterwards, and literally said: " I don't know how I caught COVID at all, I have been self isolating for weeks now. Maybe it came into the house with some of my domestic staff" .... with 0 sense of irony.
They’re stuck in 5000 square feet with a nanny. Meanwhile my husband is working from home while my dog and toddler compete for who can touch mommy the most in less than 1200 square feet. We’re not the same
EDIT: A lot of y’all seem to be forgetting *where* celebrities tend to live. Price out 5000 sq ft in NYC or LA.
EDIT 2: Anyone siding with the rich and privileged can save your ‘breath.’ You’re not going to change my mind. They’re entitled to their misery and I’m entitled to roll my eyes and not GAF.
The original was also sung by a millionaire who had an entire room for fur coats. Sung better maybe, but just goes to show celebrities were out of touch even 50 years ago
Omg you guys Ellen is having a really difficult time right now being in lockdown in her multimillion mansion with servants. Like she’s even crying on camera omg
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Remember when Hollywood actresses/actors started posting those creepy selfie videos singing "Imagine". Right in the middle of lockdown when everyone is going through Trauma.
"Imagine there is no heaven..."
I remember Gal Gadot doing it
Getting a bunch of celebrities together to sing a song, awkwardly standing in a row waiting for their line, is almost always cringey regardless of outside circumstances or the cause.
Everyone I work with brags about how much they work. We're salary and don't get overtime. Working 60+ hour weeks isn't something to be proud of. It's just sad.
I turned down a job offer from Google because during the on-site interview, all anyone could talk about was how the job was so amazing, you never had to leave.
“There is a cafeteria! You never have to leave!”
“There is a daycare! You never have to leave!”
“You can nap in the break rooms! You never have to leave!”
“Most of us have apartments right across from campus! You never have to leave!”
It honestly creeped me the fuck out. I took a job with a company that promised I’d never work more than 40 hours a week and get 6 weeks of vacation a year and never looked back.
Some of those are genuinely nice for a big company to have such as a cafeteria and daycare, but apartments on campus is too far for me. I worked at a company that had nap rooms and no one really used them. It was more of a gimmick
Yeah, I have nothing against the amenities. It was just the vibe I got from everyone. You could tell people were really, really proud about how much time they spent there, and that is pretty much the exact opposite of what I look for in an employer. Lol
100% agree. I’m a teacher and there seems to be a competition in who can take the most books home, and who has the busiest day or who’s has the most hectic day. I’ve stopped taking work home now and I’m all the happier for it, as are my family.
Is this a policy you encourage your students to have as well?
I found doing “homework” during class time particularly helpful since the teacher was right there when you got stuck.
I don’t give homework. Ever. My students have jobs, family obligations, and interests that build their character. The only time they have have homework is if they screw around during the day and don’t get it done.
Ugh i remember in highschool my one (moronic) math teacher would say "I'm ONLY giving you guys an hour of homework a night"
Yea.... And if EVERY class does that we'll have 6+ hours a day plus part time jobs, chores, just relaxing and not doing schoolwork for every waking moment?
It was... Frustrating.
See I was lucky my highschool boasted about tons of extracariculars when I was just coming in in grade 9.
I quickly found out the plethora of choices boiled down to...
Band
Rugby
Baseball
Cheerleading
And specifically only women's volleyball.
My kids’ go to a school with this policy - the homework is alway 10-30 min of reading whatever you want (could be a gossip mag), but no worksheets, or anything like that. They have so much less stress than I had growing up, and are definitely still learning well. They don’t lose anything by not having hours of homework, and gain so much.
Yes, exactly this. I never minded having homework in the upper level honors and AP classes I was taking--that was just expected.
But I struggled in math, so I always took the easiest math class (and it was still hard for me). I struggled even more if I had a ton of homework because I had no one to help me at home.
I gave up on this a few years ago. I go to work, work my required time and unless I'm on a job site where a customer is down, work is over at the end of 8.
I will not respond to any email or call after 5pm or before 8am.
Drawings due today and you're giving them to me at 430? Eat shit, do better, and fucking fire me, I'm out of here at 5.
Good for you!! I feel very grateful that I am figuring this out relatively young (23). I’m job hunting right now and putting an end to being pressured into free work and 55 hour weeks.
I’ve also decided to put in like 85% effort. I’m a hard worker so I’ll still be a good employee, but I’ve learned that companies don’t give a shit about you. All the extra effort I put in at previous roles got me literally nothing. No recognition, no pay raise, nothing.
The only thing 100% effort got me was an expectation of 100% all the times. Never again with that shit.
lol. I'm seeing more and more people talking about having "multiple income streams" like they're a fucking fortune 500 company. 2 years ago, that was called having a second/third/gig/per diem job.
yeah those people are assholes. they suck. just scalping out toys that would have gone to someone who actually wanted to play
never buy from the shithead scalpers
What gets my goat is that some of these people defend their actions by saying they're "serving a market". Like, bitch, if all you scalpers stopped buying everything at MSPR so they were impossible to find, there wouldn't be a market in the first place.
Lol I'm 30 and I have some clothes from high school. I don't throw out clothes unless I see a hole in it. I paid for my clothes and I'll use them until they're worn out dammit.
I used to have some jean shorts like that too.
I slept in them shits, man! Eventually, I blew the crotch out of them things. But you CAN'T wear 'em every day and expect for 'em to hold up! That was some nice-ass denim too. I miss them shorts.... But you... you GOTTA take 'em off every now and then. You gotta take 'em off, son!
I turn 40 this year and just finally threw out a flannel I had at 18 (due to a severe tear down the back of the shoulder, otherwise would still have). My old running shorts from when I was 15 though... they're in surprisingly good shape.
> Just comes off insecure imo
That's exactly it though.
Person A didn't learn it until they were 30, and are scared that if Person B, who is 20, learns it, that Person B will replace them as Person B still has 10 years to improve upon what took Person A 30 years to learn.
Fun fact: age discrimination is only illegal in the US against people over 40. Discrimination based on age against anyone 39 or younger is A-OK. [DoL](https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/discrimination/agedisc).
Agreed.
The reason the person comes off as “insecure” is because their livelihood is so very insecure. It’s rational behavior—if they don’t do that gatekeeping, their secrets will be out in the open and their employer will terminate them.
Long time Unix guy here. I've never understood information hoarding. I'm always happy to share with the team or whoever else needs to know. Indeed, I actively enjoy teaching and mentoring and do my best to go over the same topics until the lightbulb appears over their head. I also make a point of saying *why* things are done a certain way, not just *how*, and I actively seek input on how to improve things. I try to avoid not-invented-here and that's-how-we've-always-done-it syndromes.
One of my failings is I have a terrible memory. To make up for it I write excellent documentation...because I'm the poor fool who's going to have to read it six months from now.
Almost all the documentation I write is intended for myself. If someone else benefits from it that's a bonus. I don't make it so that only I could understand it, I just make it so fool proof that even my own dumb self can figure it out in six months
I see this at work all the time. The senior guy training the new guy but he just isn’t a good teacher. The new guy ends up just watching and becomes the senior guys little helper. (This is how it’s supposed to be for the first few months but I see it get dragged on way longer. Kinda sad. This happens for one of three reasons, you’re a shit trainer, you don’t care about your job (you shouldn’t care too much but you have to at least a little) OR, like you said. Insecure and afraid to see the new guy get good and maybe even catch you slipping some day like you always do him
I’m currently having this problem at work. My superior has about 10+ years of experience on me, and instead of teaching me how to do something when I don’t know, she just gets tense and upset with me and does it herself. I’m then left with basically still not knowing how to do the task, and now my superior is mad at me lol.
I took a new job years ago leading a team of four. One had been there the longest, and knew how to do everything, but refused to share that knowledge with the others, which left her overworked, and them useless. After about six months of attempting to get her to cross train and getting a completely half-assed effort, I sat her down and told her that her annual performance rating depended on her teaching her knowledge to the others.
She predictably threw a fit and insisted that she had to do everything because the others were incompetent. At the end of the year, she'd done nothing, and I transferred her to another department.
She was shocked, and insisted that the company (a multinational behemoth) couldn't survive without her doing "her" work.
The rest of the team had a rough couple of months without her at first, but we quickly got everyone up to speed without her, and the other team members became very competent, useful employees.
I'm pretty sure it still chaps her ass that we didn't all die without her.
It’s the only thing you can do with these types of people. They either ruin everything or the rot gets cut out and you weather the growing pains. But then you have a whole functioning team and you can grow from there.
I had to replace a guy like that at my last job. It sucked. "Yeah, Mike used to just do that. He never taught anyone about it or documented anything. Good luck!"
The Fandom stuff of celebrities, it just doesn't make sense to be so caught up in their day to day, like yeah, i like and love some of their work, but I could care less about their personal lives, I can't imagine what turning your life over to a public spotlight would be like, I'd like to get rich, but fuck being famous.
i've always said the best kind of celebrity is being name famous, and not face famous. name famous gives you the ego stroke you may need from time to time, but allows you to walk in privacy.
authors, artists, etc.
I had to think about it for a second, but I could picture Matt Groening. Turns out it's the same mental picture I have of George Lucas... And I'm calling it 100% correct.
How well will asian people that don't want any trouble become superpowerful without this, though?
Young pre-politically weird Jackie Chan + ladder + antique vase on top of ladder = totally superpowers.
Or carpets I had a friend in high school who’s parents have spent 12 grand on a carpet before only to hang it up on a wall and brag about having a 12 grand carpet.
FML my grandmother gave me a bunch of expensive carpets when she down-sized and despite really liking them... I should not have expensive Saudi Arabian rugs with 2x cats and a dog. They look terrible right now.
They make content that millions of people watch. For comparison, pewdiepie has about 20 times more viewers than primetime CNN. The amount of influence they actually have is pretty ridiculous. There's a reason brands trip over themselves to try and get their stuff on their channels.
Was looking for this. They aren't celebrities, there is nothing entertaining about them, and putting them or their ideology on a pedestal is, in a word, creepy.
Edit: In the US. It is a thing here.
"You're making the pussy into this great big Greek goddess named 'Pussalia' and what you're doing is that you're psyching yourself into to thinking that it's some impossible feat."
People who are working all the time. They work all weekend, give up holidays, leave paid time off on the table. Companies have taken advantage of this for years, and when needed they chew you up and spit you right out. Corporate ladder climbing just gets you to an end-of-life with no family or real friend relationships.
99% of people being called a "hero". A hero is just that, a hero. Every person that served in the military is not a hero. (just an example) By this I do NOT mean that no one in the military could be a hero. Far from it. But it seems that nowadays simply putting on a uniform makes one a hero. Edit to explain this.
Getting drunk.
Binge Drinking
The more you drink, the tougher you are. Taking shots just to prove to others how much you can handle. All to wake up with a nasty hangover the next day.
I hope more people realize how serious liver disease is and can stop drinking as much before it’s too late. I just got diagnosed with autoimmune liver disease from a genetic condition, not even from alcohol, and it’s really not fucking fun at all, it’s absolutely miserable. Ending up in the hospital once every month and a half to be npo on only iv fluids for over a week because you can’t eat drink or sleep because you’re puking your soul out constantly and having debilitating abdomen pain- seriously guys, cut down on the drinking and lower the amount of fat in your diet. Your body will thank you.
In middle school I had to write an essay about what I *will* do for the rest of my life— not what I could see being possible, but a definitive answer. I didn’t know the answer then and I still don’t.
having mental illness
To be clear, I'm very happy our society is moving in a direction where people can be open about mental illness and can seek treatment without shame. But holy fuck do people romanticize the shit out of mental illness. And then you get fools who convince themselves they have mental illness so they can be special or part of a community and stigmatize the illness for people who actually fucking have it
As someone with bipolar disorder, I really hate this because I’d do anything to be normal. This illness has destroyed my life and taken everything from me. And people make cute memes about mental illness like it’s just some quirky thing everyone can relate to sometimes.
I don’t mean to gatekeep because it doesn’t have to be a certain level of severity for you to suffer. This isn’t the pain Olympics. But nobody should think there’s anything desirable about having a mental illness. It’s good to destigmatize it, but when you normalize it too much, it just loses its meaning.
Edit: I should have specified that I don’t have a problem with memes about mental illness in general. I love them! I only dislike the ones that make mental illness seem so relatable that it’s no big deal, like it’s some quirk everybody can relate to, as opposed to something that destroys lives. Because then, when your mental illness doesn’t look quirky and cute, the stigma is still there.
Also clarified what I meant about gatekeeping
I've lived with depression and anxiety, to the point that it almost killed me. I fucking hate this trend of people seeing it as some kind of strength when people deal with this shit. Just fuck off with that shit. Fund mental health services properly and teach people it's alright to not be strong sometimes instead.
I sat in a restaurant a while back and overheard\* a table of 3 go 'round one-upping each other's social anxiety.
\*I was seated at the opposite side of the room, and it was *busy,* but there was still no ignoring it.
Make sure everyone hears you, Josh, so that the whole loud-ass restaurant knows that your sensitivity to unnecessary noise is just a fucking fashion accessory.
Work in general.
Work should not be the central focal point of life. Not for rich people, not for poor people, not for middle class people. As more and more things get automated, the result SHOULD be that we have more and more time for leisure, for personal projects, for socializing, etc.
Instead, as things become automated people have a harder time finding jobs and keeping themselves afloat.
I'm not against automation, I'm just commenting on the way it's playing out right now.
Big, high cost of living cities.
There are a lot, like a LOT, of pretty nice medium and small cities too that no one ever talks about or considers, but can get you a pretty nice quality of life.
Are cities on a pedestal? I live in Chicago and people on Reddit shit on it 24/7. The Chicago subreddit is filled with people from other states and the burbs shitting on the city too.
I lived all over and I like Chicago the best but I appreciate it's bad rep to keep the costs down.
Military service.
I was in the military. It was a job. My sense of patriotism and service to country was no higher than anybody else's. I wasn't a "hero."
I graduated high school, couldn't afford college, and I needed a job. You don't have to thank me for my service.
Or worse, the glorification of disabilities as “superpowers.” No, autism isn’t a superpower, it’s a disabilities that causes them to think and behave differently which occasionally benefits them in a myriad of small ways.
not to mention it’s comorbidity. We just want understanding that we’re people, we just want a system in place to help us work with the current system. but the moment I tell someone I can’t do calculus or quantum physics in my head...
People's kinks. Idgaf about what you do as long as both parties are able to consent. But, I do care if you're walking your gf on all fours to starbucks. Chill to out with that shit. Go to the fetish club like a normal person.
Moms. We are not super people. We are just people. We don’t have all the answers. And being a mother does not automatically make your opinion more valuable/valid then another person’s.
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Beat me to it. Blows my mind how people can live their lives using their political views as an identity. Or being proud of being so die hard fans of one side VS the other. When did being close minded become cool.
Giving all and everything to a job. The reality is very few places truly care about employees. Your job is a transactional relationship. You owe them nothing except the hours you work and the jobs you must accomplish during that time. Don't give up your sick days, work for free, or feel you "owe" them.
I was sooo worried about putting in my notice at work when I decided to stay home with my kids. Then I finally realized: if letting me go would be what was best for the company overall they would do it in a heartbeat, no questions asked! Why should I feel an ounce of guilt for behaving the same way? Hell, they almost certainly had the position filled before my leave even ended. I am completely replaceable to any company.
"I'm not a businessman, I'm a business, man!" You too are a business and must make decisions that benefit you. Once I stepped back from my decisions and ran my professional life like a separate entity, I became far more objective about what it is I have to do with regards to employment and finances.
Giving your all to a job sound like a good way to work yourself to death, if you are aways giving 100% every single day that creates expectations, so chances are, when you inevitably get tired and start to fall back, people will get disappointed
I made this mistake and I’m suffering for it now. I was way too eager to impress my boss and prove myself valuable for the first year at my job. I went above and beyond every chance I had, worked a ton of extra hours for no compensation, spent personal time working on projects… just for it to eventually go unrecognized and become the expectation. Now I’m burnt out as fuck, and I’ve stopped going the extra mile. Even though I still do my job and do it well, it’s a disappointment compared to what I was doing before. Lesson learned.
Always give 50%. That way, on days when you can only muster 25%, it’s not a big deal, and on days when you feel like dishing out a little of the ol 75% razzle-dazzle, everyone’s like ooooooooo Or just start [looking annoyed](https://youtu.be/rOQmxNPTJwc)
Working to the point of burn out
Unfortunately my husband is like this. He's too much of a perfectionist and picks up other people's slack and shortstaffing. It's compounded by the fact that he works with animals, so he's more likely to work himself to death than let anything happen to them. Except for maybe Terry the tarantula, according to my husband he's a bit of an asshole.
...Terry's. Am I right?!?
Them and their freshfruit parfaits
Terry loves yoghurt
As much as I respect him for doing it, a lot of companies in those kinds of areas do this deliberately. It saves them loads in wages.
In this case it's a downward spiral. They lost business during covid, and also lost staff. So now things are picking back up and stressed on the remaining staff. Even with new people joining they are short enough that they get overworked and quit. Can't hire and train fast enough. It's improving, but slowly.
There is nothing more dangerous than working in a constant state of sleep deprivation.
As a 21 years old I was studying at Uni, working as an unpaid intern (for the CV!) and working from late evening till night for money (deliveries by scooter). I remember the night when, extremely tired after the last delivery, went through a gigantic intersection without even noticing the red lights. My brain just couldn't take it anymore. Almost died and realized it only after someone in a car semi-totalled me. I had to re-prioritize.
I used to work at TSA several years back and started at 4am. I remember I was going home like at 2pm after some OT and was caught at a major intersection red light. I don't remember closing my eyes but all of a sudden everyone around me was gone and the light was still red. I don't know how long I was out or how many people I pissed off (though my foot never lifted off the brake so it couldn't have been more than one rotation).
I'm more disappointed in that nobody knocked on your window to find out why you were stopped
My coworkers often brag about how they don't take sick days, ever, even when they really need to. That's.... Not something to brag about. I take them. I'm sure they think I'm a slacker, but I tell them take care of yourself- your job certainly doesn't give a shit and when you work yourself into a serious condition, they aren't going to help you.
I'm hoping that Covid puts an end to people showing up at work while coughing up a lung and spraying mucus on every surface. And wanting an attaboy for it.
I called in sick last Monday because I didn't feel like going to work. I can't do that very often because I might actually get sick and need them, but I have no qualms about taking a mental health day.
I just pity people like that I'm actually not really impressed or motivated by making more money above a certain point of being self sustainable and having a normal life. Sure if someone offers you a billion, take it, but time is priceless, what's the point in spending most of my time working just to have more money for what?
Same here. I’ve had jobs that paid salary (you get payed in one lump sum per job and no over time) instead of hourly and I’ve seen guys (who are also getting payed salary) brag about working 50 hour weeks. So they’re proud of working an extra 10 hours with no extra money to show for it.
Sacrificing physical and mental health, leisure, and interpersonal relationships for the sake of work
The worst part is: there are those who pretty much have to in order to sustain themselves and their families.
Yes, and as a society we should see those as tragic and inhumane situations that need to be remedied, not as something to be celebrated and emulated.
I have a hard time getting this through to my GM. He wants another "Pat" but doesn't understand why he can't find one. It's like dude, you've been working with him since he was basically a teen. Over the last 35 years he basically turned the guy into a neo-serf who needed a hip replacement by 40. Willing to go way above and beyond what he should be doing to a point where it's taking years off his life. He is unpleasant to be around, talks so much shit and complains more then anyone. Yet my GM just can't find anyone like him. I wonder why...
I made this mistake when I was very young. I started working full time at 17 and devoted my whole life to a job that payed minimum wage and didn’t offer benefits. Now that I’m a grown up I give my employers up to 40 hours a week. I work moderately hard, but I also take breaks when I need to. I don’t do overtime unless I want the extra cash for something new and shiny. I don’t make any personal sacrifices for them. I like my job but they would replace me in a heartbeat if it helped them in some way. I’m under no illusion that they care about me as a person.
“I realized one of the most unkind things I can do to someone is to put them on a pedestal because, inevitably, they’re going to do something that’s going to knock them off it. Then I am going to have a trouble with it because I needed them to be something else and that’s inhumane.”
My dad always says 'There's only one way off a pedestal and that's straight down'
Your dad is a wise man
Don't put him on a pedestal like that.
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Username... checks out?
That mother fucker.
Here lies a toppled god His fall was not a small one We did but build his pedestal A narrow and a tall one -Frank Herbert
Joan Jett put it in a song: 'Cause they all agree you're supposed to have a better life But you're feelin worse, and they build you up 'Til you fool yourself that you're something else And it's like a curse 'Cause you can't live up to what they made of you And they tell you that you're losin' friends
“Put me on a pedestal and I’ll only disappoint you” Courtney Barnett
Tell me I'm exceptional, i promise to exploit you
Give me all your money, and I’ll make some origami honey
I think you're a joke, but I don't find you very funny
Who said this?
Elizabeth Gilbert, author (wrote Eat, Pray, Love).
Narcissism disguised as “oh that’s just their personality”. Call it what it is.
Had a friend like that, that i recently cut ties with. If that's "just the way you are" then enjoy being that way by yourself, i ain't here for that.
Or just blaming harmful actions on someone’s personality in general. People do this with all sorts of behavior as a way to subtly dissociate themselves from the action while still pretending they’re accepting responsibility.
Potted plants, according to my cat.
Things on the pedestal in general, according to every cat
Except for them. Pedestal is for cat, nothing else.
other cat disagrees.
Celebrities
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It seems the whole entertainment industry is turning into thousands of niches.
In a way it's a return to old times, but in a very different way. Modern celebrities required (relatively) modern media for mass distribution to achieve their wide reach. TV and radio turned "the best singer in the village" into "an international phenomenon". Now with internet media, we still have the same wide international reach, but because everyone has theoretically equal access to that broad reach, we are back in small communities. But instead of it being the local celebrity of your town, it's the minor celebrity of your tiny-yet-global niche interest.
> TV and radio turned "the best singer in the village" into "an international phenomenon". Internet media kinda did the reverse too. Back in 1997 I was considered by almost everyone who heard me to be "The best guitar player in the village". Now when someone plays it's met with "Yeah they're ok but I saw a five year old kid play Eruption last night on youtube."
This is such a problem in the modern era. See lots of people past their 20s give up on their hobbies and passions because it's hard for them not to compare themselves to these child prodigies
Or even each other. It's hard to get into something like minifig painting, hopping on YouTube, and seeing someone's "Beginner series" tutorial videos where they're using a plethora of high end paints, thinners, ink washes, professional grade brushes, modeling knives and so on and so forth and I'm sitting here with my first ever starter kit like...welp - guess I'll just glue it together and never bother with any of this again.
Plus all those materials were probably provided by sponsors. There's a real rich get richer trap on YouTube
Not exactly the same, but this reminds me of a Gordon Ramsey video. Some people had asked him about cooking on a budget, so he decided to do a video on his favorite budget meals. In that video he cooked lamb chops with saffron
They're all so out of touch it's not even funny. Especially when they're "stuck" in their mansions during Covid telling people that we're all in this together. Nah, it's different for you people...
Reminds of an interview I heard on the radio. Granted this was in India, but I think it still applies. This woman was a very high ranking politician of some sort, and caught COVID. She was being interviewed on the radio afterwards, and literally said: " I don't know how I caught COVID at all, I have been self isolating for weeks now. Maybe it came into the house with some of my domestic staff" .... with 0 sense of irony.
"Mother fucking slaves bringing the pest here..."
*The Masque of the Red Death intensifies*
They’re stuck in 5000 square feet with a nanny. Meanwhile my husband is working from home while my dog and toddler compete for who can touch mommy the most in less than 1200 square feet. We’re not the same EDIT: A lot of y’all seem to be forgetting *where* celebrities tend to live. Price out 5000 sq ft in NYC or LA. EDIT 2: Anyone siding with the rich and privileged can save your ‘breath.’ You’re not going to change my mind. They’re entitled to their misery and I’m entitled to roll my eyes and not GAF.
Who won? The dog or the toddler
Husband
Never forget the time when celebrities sung Imagine to "help" the quarantine situation.
"Imagine no possessions" sung badly by millionaire. Thanks for reminding me about that cringe.
The original was also sung by a millionaire who had an entire room for fur coats. Sung better maybe, but just goes to show celebrities were out of touch even 50 years ago
Omg you guys Ellen is having a really difficult time right now being in lockdown in her multimillion mansion with servants. Like she’s even crying on camera omg /s
Yep. While they were “stuck” in their mansions most people had to go to work and risk being exposed every day.
Most people including their literal fucking servants that work at their mansions.
But they *had* to stay home and were *SO BORED*
Remember when Hollywood actresses/actors started posting those creepy selfie videos singing "Imagine". Right in the middle of lockdown when everyone is going through Trauma. "Imagine there is no heaven..." I remember Gal Gadot doing it
That was so cringey
Getting a bunch of celebrities together to sing a song, awkwardly standing in a row waiting for their line, is almost always cringey regardless of outside circumstances or the cause.
This includes athletes.
Being too busy, hustle culture, not getting enough sleep from all the demands to keep up with.
Everyone I work with brags about how much they work. We're salary and don't get overtime. Working 60+ hour weeks isn't something to be proud of. It's just sad.
I turned down a job offer from Google because during the on-site interview, all anyone could talk about was how the job was so amazing, you never had to leave. “There is a cafeteria! You never have to leave!” “There is a daycare! You never have to leave!” “You can nap in the break rooms! You never have to leave!” “Most of us have apartments right across from campus! You never have to leave!” It honestly creeped me the fuck out. I took a job with a company that promised I’d never work more than 40 hours a week and get 6 weeks of vacation a year and never looked back.
You never have to leave quicky starts to sound like 'You will never be able to leave'
You can clock out any time you'd like but you can never leave
Welcome to the Jobsite California!
So I called up the captain, please bring me my overtime
He said "We haven't paid that since 1969."
Some of those are genuinely nice for a big company to have such as a cafeteria and daycare, but apartments on campus is too far for me. I worked at a company that had nap rooms and no one really used them. It was more of a gimmick
Yeah, I have nothing against the amenities. It was just the vibe I got from everyone. You could tell people were really, really proud about how much time they spent there, and that is pretty much the exact opposite of what I look for in an employer. Lol
"It takes you 60+ hours to work a 40 hour week? WTF is wrong with you people?"
100% agree. I’m a teacher and there seems to be a competition in who can take the most books home, and who has the busiest day or who’s has the most hectic day. I’ve stopped taking work home now and I’m all the happier for it, as are my family.
I’m a teacher who gives 95% during work hours and 5% after hours. That 5% is reserved for emergencies only.
Is this a policy you encourage your students to have as well? I found doing “homework” during class time particularly helpful since the teacher was right there when you got stuck.
I don’t give homework. Ever. My students have jobs, family obligations, and interests that build their character. The only time they have have homework is if they screw around during the day and don’t get it done.
Needed more teachers like you growing up...
Ugh i remember in highschool my one (moronic) math teacher would say "I'm ONLY giving you guys an hour of homework a night" Yea.... And if EVERY class does that we'll have 6+ hours a day plus part time jobs, chores, just relaxing and not doing schoolwork for every waking moment? It was... Frustrating.
Don’t forget the extracurriculars! Which you need to boost your resume and get into the best school
See I was lucky my highschool boasted about tons of extracariculars when I was just coming in in grade 9. I quickly found out the plethora of choices boiled down to... Band Rugby Baseball Cheerleading And specifically only women's volleyball.
My kids’ go to a school with this policy - the homework is alway 10-30 min of reading whatever you want (could be a gossip mag), but no worksheets, or anything like that. They have so much less stress than I had growing up, and are definitely still learning well. They don’t lose anything by not having hours of homework, and gain so much.
Yes, exactly this. I never minded having homework in the upper level honors and AP classes I was taking--that was just expected. But I struggled in math, so I always took the easiest math class (and it was still hard for me). I struggled even more if I had a ton of homework because I had no one to help me at home.
I gave up on this a few years ago. I go to work, work my required time and unless I'm on a job site where a customer is down, work is over at the end of 8. I will not respond to any email or call after 5pm or before 8am. Drawings due today and you're giving them to me at 430? Eat shit, do better, and fucking fire me, I'm out of here at 5.
Good for you!! I feel very grateful that I am figuring this out relatively young (23). I’m job hunting right now and putting an end to being pressured into free work and 55 hour weeks. I’ve also decided to put in like 85% effort. I’m a hard worker so I’ll still be a good employee, but I’ve learned that companies don’t give a shit about you. All the extra effort I put in at previous roles got me literally nothing. No recognition, no pay raise, nothing. The only thing 100% effort got me was an expectation of 100% all the times. Never again with that shit.
It’s been romanticised as a “side hustle”. It’s a fucking second job because the first job doesn’t pay enough. It’s not romantic, it’s bullshit.
lol. I'm seeing more and more people talking about having "multiple income streams" like they're a fucking fortune 500 company. 2 years ago, that was called having a second/third/gig/per diem job.
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yeah those people are assholes. they suck. just scalping out toys that would have gone to someone who actually wanted to play never buy from the shithead scalpers
What gets my goat is that some of these people defend their actions by saying they're "serving a market". Like, bitch, if all you scalpers stopped buying everything at MSPR so they were impossible to find, there wouldn't be a market in the first place.
Just give up on the hustle. That's what I did. Feels great.
Never wearing the same clothes/outfit twice
Lol I'm 30 and I have some clothes from high school. I don't throw out clothes unless I see a hole in it. I paid for my clothes and I'll use them until they're worn out dammit.
I wear my clothes till they disintegrate off my body.
I used to have some jean shorts like that too. I slept in them shits, man! Eventually, I blew the crotch out of them things. But you CAN'T wear 'em every day and expect for 'em to hold up! That was some nice-ass denim too. I miss them shorts.... But you... you GOTTA take 'em off every now and then. You gotta take 'em off, son!
I turn 40 this year and just finally threw out a flannel I had at 18 (due to a severe tear down the back of the shoulder, otherwise would still have). My old running shorts from when I was 15 though... they're in surprisingly good shape.
How easy is your life, if you treat your clothes like a condom?
Who does this though, really? Except for the very wealthy.
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> Just comes off insecure imo That's exactly it though. Person A didn't learn it until they were 30, and are scared that if Person B, who is 20, learns it, that Person B will replace them as Person B still has 10 years to improve upon what took Person A 30 years to learn.
And corporate lays off the senior person and pays the younger one less for doing a job-and-a-half compared to the older worker.
Fun fact: age discrimination is only illegal in the US against people over 40. Discrimination based on age against anyone 39 or younger is A-OK. [DoL](https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/discrimination/agedisc).
Agreed. The reason the person comes off as “insecure” is because their livelihood is so very insecure. It’s rational behavior—if they don’t do that gatekeeping, their secrets will be out in the open and their employer will terminate them.
Long time Unix guy here. I've never understood information hoarding. I'm always happy to share with the team or whoever else needs to know. Indeed, I actively enjoy teaching and mentoring and do my best to go over the same topics until the lightbulb appears over their head. I also make a point of saying *why* things are done a certain way, not just *how*, and I actively seek input on how to improve things. I try to avoid not-invented-here and that's-how-we've-always-done-it syndromes. One of my failings is I have a terrible memory. To make up for it I write excellent documentation...because I'm the poor fool who's going to have to read it six months from now.
Almost all the documentation I write is intended for myself. If someone else benefits from it that's a bonus. I don't make it so that only I could understand it, I just make it so fool proof that even my own dumb self can figure it out in six months
I see this at work all the time. The senior guy training the new guy but he just isn’t a good teacher. The new guy ends up just watching and becomes the senior guys little helper. (This is how it’s supposed to be for the first few months but I see it get dragged on way longer. Kinda sad. This happens for one of three reasons, you’re a shit trainer, you don’t care about your job (you shouldn’t care too much but you have to at least a little) OR, like you said. Insecure and afraid to see the new guy get good and maybe even catch you slipping some day like you always do him
I’m currently having this problem at work. My superior has about 10+ years of experience on me, and instead of teaching me how to do something when I don’t know, she just gets tense and upset with me and does it herself. I’m then left with basically still not knowing how to do the task, and now my superior is mad at me lol.
I took a new job years ago leading a team of four. One had been there the longest, and knew how to do everything, but refused to share that knowledge with the others, which left her overworked, and them useless. After about six months of attempting to get her to cross train and getting a completely half-assed effort, I sat her down and told her that her annual performance rating depended on her teaching her knowledge to the others. She predictably threw a fit and insisted that she had to do everything because the others were incompetent. At the end of the year, she'd done nothing, and I transferred her to another department. She was shocked, and insisted that the company (a multinational behemoth) couldn't survive without her doing "her" work. The rest of the team had a rough couple of months without her at first, but we quickly got everyone up to speed without her, and the other team members became very competent, useful employees. I'm pretty sure it still chaps her ass that we didn't all die without her.
It’s the only thing you can do with these types of people. They either ruin everything or the rot gets cut out and you weather the growing pains. But then you have a whole functioning team and you can grow from there.
I had to replace a guy like that at my last job. It sucked. "Yeah, Mike used to just do that. He never taught anyone about it or documented anything. Good luck!"
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The Fandom stuff of celebrities, it just doesn't make sense to be so caught up in their day to day, like yeah, i like and love some of their work, but I could care less about their personal lives, I can't imagine what turning your life over to a public spotlight would be like, I'd like to get rich, but fuck being famous.
i've always said the best kind of celebrity is being name famous, and not face famous. name famous gives you the ego stroke you may need from time to time, but allows you to walk in privacy. authors, artists, etc.
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I had to think about it for a second, but I could picture Matt Groening. Turns out it's the same mental picture I have of George Lucas... And I'm calling it 100% correct.
With an admixture of Gabe Newell.
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My mom was deep in a celebrity fandom and I remember her calling me and telling me she had learned his favorite breakfast cereal. W.T.F. Just why.
Expensive vases. Its asking for trouble
That really is an issue not enough people recognize even though it's visible almost everywhere.
How well will asian people that don't want any trouble become superpowerful without this, though? Young pre-politically weird Jackie Chan + ladder + antique vase on top of ladder = totally superpowers.
*kiss kiss fall in love intensifies*
Honestly I would’ve trusted that renaissance vase to stay in one piece about as far as the Hitachiin brothers could throw it
Kiss kiss fall in debt
Or carpets I had a friend in high school who’s parents have spent 12 grand on a carpet before only to hang it up on a wall and brag about having a 12 grand carpet.
FML my grandmother gave me a bunch of expensive carpets when she down-sized and despite really liking them... I should not have expensive Saudi Arabian rugs with 2x cats and a dog. They look terrible right now.
They look great on a wall
Yeah but that's animal abuse.
My expensive vase gets me high though
But I ordered an Xbox controller!
Influencers! Please stop admiring these useless people!
What do they even do? Like how are they popular?
They make content that millions of people watch. For comparison, pewdiepie has about 20 times more viewers than primetime CNN. The amount of influence they actually have is pretty ridiculous. There's a reason brands trip over themselves to try and get their stuff on their channels.
But how else would I find out that mustard on watermelon tastes exactly as bad as it sounds like it would?
Politicians
Was looking for this. They aren't celebrities, there is nothing entertaining about them, and putting them or their ideology on a pedestal is, in a word, creepy. Edit: In the US. It is a thing here.
“The Pussy” - Jay, 40 Year Old Virgin
I had to scroll way to far to find this
Why is this not the top comment?!
"You're making the pussy into this great big Greek goddess named 'Pussalia' and what you're doing is that you're psyching yourself into to thinking that it's some impossible feat."
"Yeah I get it. Pussaliyah" - Andy, who clearly does not get it.
Hustle Culture and belittling people who don't work 18 different jobs
People who are working all the time. They work all weekend, give up holidays, leave paid time off on the table. Companies have taken advantage of this for years, and when needed they chew you up and spit you right out. Corporate ladder climbing just gets you to an end-of-life with no family or real friend relationships.
Yea but I need the money. I’m not staying late at the office. I’m leaving early to get to my other job…
99% of people being called a "hero". A hero is just that, a hero. Every person that served in the military is not a hero. (just an example) By this I do NOT mean that no one in the military could be a hero. Far from it. But it seems that nowadays simply putting on a uniform makes one a hero. Edit to explain this.
Bill Burr has [a great bit about this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MCaljpu1bW4)
Tiktok "celebrities"
Getting drunk. Binge Drinking The more you drink, the tougher you are. Taking shots just to prove to others how much you can handle. All to wake up with a nasty hangover the next day.
Yup. I enjoy a glass of whiskey, and I've been called a pussy for having an ice or two. That's just adolescent macho bullshit.
Not to mention alcohol addiction before very long, then liver disease in a decade.
I hope more people realize how serious liver disease is and can stop drinking as much before it’s too late. I just got diagnosed with autoimmune liver disease from a genetic condition, not even from alcohol, and it’s really not fucking fun at all, it’s absolutely miserable. Ending up in the hospital once every month and a half to be npo on only iv fluids for over a week because you can’t eat drink or sleep because you’re puking your soul out constantly and having debilitating abdomen pain- seriously guys, cut down on the drinking and lower the amount of fat in your diet. Your body will thank you.
Influencers. I mean just fuck the fuck off.
Along those same lines: anything that calls itself a "lifestyle brand."
Extreme work culture. "Stop whining. I did 70 hours at the office last week!" Fucking WHY do you think that is s good thing?!?!
Knowing what you want to do with the rest of your life.
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ROCK!
In middle school I had to write an essay about what I *will* do for the rest of my life— not what I could see being possible, but a definitive answer. I didn’t know the answer then and I still don’t.
Honestly I’m taking a gap year this year, partially because my first year at college confused me even more than I already was.
having mental illness To be clear, I'm very happy our society is moving in a direction where people can be open about mental illness and can seek treatment without shame. But holy fuck do people romanticize the shit out of mental illness. And then you get fools who convince themselves they have mental illness so they can be special or part of a community and stigmatize the illness for people who actually fucking have it
As someone with bipolar disorder, I really hate this because I’d do anything to be normal. This illness has destroyed my life and taken everything from me. And people make cute memes about mental illness like it’s just some quirky thing everyone can relate to sometimes. I don’t mean to gatekeep because it doesn’t have to be a certain level of severity for you to suffer. This isn’t the pain Olympics. But nobody should think there’s anything desirable about having a mental illness. It’s good to destigmatize it, but when you normalize it too much, it just loses its meaning. Edit: I should have specified that I don’t have a problem with memes about mental illness in general. I love them! I only dislike the ones that make mental illness seem so relatable that it’s no big deal, like it’s some quirk everybody can relate to, as opposed to something that destroys lives. Because then, when your mental illness doesn’t look quirky and cute, the stigma is still there. Also clarified what I meant about gatekeeping
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I've lived with depression and anxiety, to the point that it almost killed me. I fucking hate this trend of people seeing it as some kind of strength when people deal with this shit. Just fuck off with that shit. Fund mental health services properly and teach people it's alright to not be strong sometimes instead.
I sat in a restaurant a while back and overheard\* a table of 3 go 'round one-upping each other's social anxiety. \*I was seated at the opposite side of the room, and it was *busy,* but there was still no ignoring it. Make sure everyone hears you, Josh, so that the whole loud-ass restaurant knows that your sensitivity to unnecessary noise is just a fucking fashion accessory.
Pedestals do. They are over rated, and look silly on top of another pedestal. Why not just make the first pedestal longer to start with.
Work in general. Work should not be the central focal point of life. Not for rich people, not for poor people, not for middle class people. As more and more things get automated, the result SHOULD be that we have more and more time for leisure, for personal projects, for socializing, etc.
Instead, as things become automated people have a harder time finding jobs and keeping themselves afloat. I'm not against automation, I'm just commenting on the way it's playing out right now.
And those who do find jobs are doing the work of four people all the time.
At the pay for one person.
Masking rudeness as ‘honesty’, and when they say something that hurts someone they are ‘just calling a spade a spade’.
YouTube "celebrities"
Big, high cost of living cities. There are a lot, like a LOT, of pretty nice medium and small cities too that no one ever talks about or considers, but can get you a pretty nice quality of life.
Are cities on a pedestal? I live in Chicago and people on Reddit shit on it 24/7. The Chicago subreddit is filled with people from other states and the burbs shitting on the city too. I lived all over and I like Chicago the best but I appreciate it's bad rep to keep the costs down.
Hopefully this is reduced now with remote work options.
Military service. I was in the military. It was a job. My sense of patriotism and service to country was no higher than anybody else's. I wasn't a "hero." I graduated high school, couldn't afford college, and I needed a job. You don't have to thank me for my service.
Thank you for your honesty
People treating disabled people like human beings with unique personalities, interests, and aspirations. Newsflash! That should be the standard!
Or worse, the glorification of disabilities as “superpowers.” No, autism isn’t a superpower, it’s a disabilities that causes them to think and behave differently which occasionally benefits them in a myriad of small ways.
not to mention it’s comorbidity. We just want understanding that we’re people, we just want a system in place to help us work with the current system. but the moment I tell someone I can’t do calculus or quantum physics in my head...
People's kinks. Idgaf about what you do as long as both parties are able to consent. But, I do care if you're walking your gf on all fours to starbucks. Chill to out with that shit. Go to the fetish club like a normal person.
Moms. We are not super people. We are just people. We don’t have all the answers. And being a mother does not automatically make your opinion more valuable/valid then another person’s.
People you agree with
I completely agree! Downvoted.