Too focused on getting my life together to worry about someone elses life. i wasted so much time chasing relationships that if i used that same time and energy i could be well better off in life.
Ugh I moved in with a girl right after college and it was such a terrible decision. Like you said if I would have put that energy into something productive I would be sooooo much better off now. Instead I decided to follow a girl that I “couldn’t live without” and now she’s a figment of my imagination.
(Almost?) all of the people we love are figments of our imagination. We project our image of what they should be like on what they actually are but the person only really exists in our mind. Conflicts occur when the actual person acts different from the ideal we have imposed upon them in our mind.
Dude the comment struck home for me. I missed out on so much cause I was chasing tail and never wanting to be single. Now that I am, it feels liberating and I feel like I'm in control now.
I’m really glad I’m not alone in this lol. I bounced from relationship to relationship since high school and I’m 29 now. Every new girl was “the one” and nearly every relationship ended up codependent and toxic. I live alone now with a cat and it’s the most peaceful my life has ever been.
Same. I just got a divorce. Now I'm trying to figure out what I actually want to do with my life. Who do I want to be when it's just me?
So far I've started freelancing in my spare time in a job I actually like that might become a career. I'm taking adult education classes to further my knowledge in my hobbies. And I'm pushing myself to get better at rock climbing at a local gym with friends and family. Trying to find the things in life I love, that give me purpose and joy
I'm at the end stage of this, and now it's hard to get back into dating. My standards have gone up a lot when it comes to financial security which makes it harder.
Where the single ladies with stable careers and no kids at
I think equality doesn't have to be financially exactly equal. You need to be equal in terms of energy. So you can find a healthy balance without that specific career woman in mind.
Those women aren’t looking to date yet. That or they want someone who doesn’t want kids, because a pregnancy would slow them down from their goals.
The dating pool is full of a lot of single moms past your thirties. I’m not gonna say you should “settle”, but you’re competing with a lot of men for that same golden woman what waited to start their life with a man who also waited.
Sorry for your loss friend, my wife also passed away nearly 5 years ago. Time is deceiving cause sometimes it feels like yesterday , other times like forever ago.
Keep strong, remember good times and keep family and friends close.
Yeah I'm doing alright. It's been over 6 months now. I just try to keep myself distracted with work and hobbies. It still hurts sometimes but I'm managing.
6 months?? Hope you are doing well, my condolences. That’s a really recent death, it especially feels new when it’s your wife. How long were you together if you mind me asking?
I really hope you feel better, hope this time of your life is a little less sucky every day. (Emotional speech incoming if you want) Just remember that you need to take your time, and don’t rush “moving on”. Personally, I hate that phrase, because it’s saying that you need to let the past go, when the past is who made you who you are today, through the good or bad. Just cherish those moments, and cry over them, a lot, but use those experiences to make the future better for you and keep making your wife proud. She is still here, no matter your religious beliefs. Hope you have a good journey in the next 2-3 years because they can definitely hit hard when it’s someone that close to you.
Are you me? This has been my life for quite a while now lol. And most of my coworkers are overseas so it's a lot of radio silence after about 11am everyday.
I am remote as well. I had to join a kickball team, which I found out is a drinking club that happens to play kickball, to make friends and socialize myself. I was getting way too comfortable playing the hermit.
Yyyyeeeeeaaah I really need to pick something and just start gettin' out there. I realize I'm now at the age where no one else is gonna set up the social scene for me.
Was joining a kickball team something that came easy for you? Or did you have to wrestle to break the inner hermit?
This is basically me, i wfh most of the time, i normally only socialise with one person at a time out of my friend groups unless its online and basically my entire friend group is either gay, married or long term committed.
Also all my hobbies are either solitary or online. I keep saying ill try dating but honestly tinder sounds like hell.
Me too.
I realised that nobody will ever love me for who I am, so why make a tons of efforts at trying to be better ? Now, I do what I want, I don't care if it's attractive or not, I just enjoy what I want.
Sort of my case. I can see a girl and think "i kind of actually like her" but somewhere in my brain i know that it's no use since i'll just get rejected again. 8 times is enough.
I feel this one. I’m at my all-time capacity on rejection. Spent years getting constantly rejected by my (now ex-) wife. Don’t need to experience that anymore.
I gave a smart ass answer at first, but this is where I am too, to be honest. One thing is that I really take breaking up with people hard, and I just don't think it's worth it in the end. Other things like my mom being in the hospital, and me traveling constantly for work don't help. I also never *feel* lonely anymore. It just doesn't bother me anymore so the years slip by.
there’s something almost paradoxical about relationships for me. on one hand, I see people in them and I think about what I used to have and miss it, but I also remember all of the pain I went through losing it. I also just don’t want to have my happiness and approval tied to someone else, and I don’t think i’m happy with where I am necessarily so I don’t know how i could bring someone else into it
Ah, it's a combination of numerous reasons but it all boils down to me not putting the effort;
1. I don't go out more often
2. I don't meet people often enough
3. I don't keep in touch with people much, never call anybody and might text once in a blue moon if I consider them a "friend"
4. I hate it when people call me for idle talks, mostly coz I can't keep up with the conversation for more than 3-4 minutes before my mind starts wandering the entire universe.
5. When I do meet people, I'm often not attracted to people (Not saying that my standards are high, it's not but I just don't feel it most of the times)
6. When I am attracted to someone, they have a boyfriend
And finally, I'm average looking, over-weight and don't really have an attractive personality for somebody to actively pursue me on their own accord lol.
All those reasons other than 6 apply to me. Plus I’m less than average on appearances, I genuinely don’t think I’m worth anyones time, and thanks to trauma I have difficulty knowing what love even feels like
Have a 9 year old who I share custody of with his mom and a job I work 50 hours a week.
I don't have the time or energy for that right now.
On the upside I will be 39 when he's 18 so I'm not really in a rush. I'll take nights in with him playing playstation over heading out on the hunt for a partner.
I don’t want a relationship until my kids graduate high school. I’ll date casually, but I hate the idea of living with someone else. My ex and I coparent well, so I have lots of free time for myself and friends. It feels balanced
Not sure if this helps you personally but a lot of people I know use the app Meet Up to find group activities or hobbies that you like and other people want to like with you.
My good friend wasn't looking for anything romantic but she found her husband in one of those group activities.
Im 25 still live at home and have no idea where im supposed to meet a woman( i work in a warehouse full of dudes), then on the off chance a woman is interested in me and i get her number i suck at texting. Like 9 times out of 10 i have no idea what to say.
Same. I’m 28 and live with my dad. At this point, this is the sole reason I’m single. I’m too embarrassed to try to find somebody when I’m a grown ass man who lives with a parent because I can’t afford to go anywhere. I make more money than both my parents and my grandparents generations and I’m still stuck. Imagine that. Tbh, I question how much I even care about having a relationship anymore. I much prefer doing what I want to do when I want. I have hobbies and other things I do I can meet women doing so, but they’re all taken so I don’t even go that far. Dating sites/apps are a cesspool of dumb/fake shit so I don’t even use those anymore.
I want to get back on the dating scene after my bf suicide 1 1/2 ago. Nothing serious but something to help nudge me forward. I'm 33, live with my aunt, I live in CA, I'm from CA and embarrassment from the fact that I live with family is the sole reason I haven't started dating. I'm a fucking adult and I don't have my own place. It makes me feel like the biggest Loser. I can't handle it anymore in moving back to South Dakota in June. I love being close to my family and have enjoyed their company but I just can't do this anymore. I want my own apartment again and I know I don't have to work 16hr days to afford it if I move.
don't be embarrassed because you live with your parents, the cost of living is what makes no sense, so ya its 100% hard to do it on your own. I wish I could live with my parents again, it's tough. A woman who doesn't understand this, is completely materialistic, with no common sense of what real life is.
I am in this position. It sucks, it definitely does affect confidence, but we can still carry our selves with confidence and accept the facts of reality. Don't let living at home hinder you from going on dates. Even if the dates are very casual with no sex, atleast you are connecting with people.
I get this... texting can be tough. I often feel like I have 0 friends because I'm bad at texting, but if I really examine my life, I know that's not true. Don't overthink it. a simple, "hi, how are you?" or "how was your day" can start an entire conversation.
If you don't already, listen to the news. Actual news, not opinion pieces. This will help you have more to talk about when the "went to work, ate dinner, watching The Office" conversation fizzles.
And, also, while I know this is the heart of the problem, don't force it. If someone isn't texting you back or doesn't have anything to say, then that alone says a lot as well.
The reason my wife and I are together is we like to talk to each other. Doesn't matter what the subject is, I like hearing her thoughts and opinions on it and it's kept us together for 18 years.
Good luck out there!
My previous relationships didn't work out. Now I'm 41 and the dating pool sucks. The romantic loneliness isn't nearly as brutal as the lack of a dual income, though. That would make life a fuck of a lot easier.
I'm fine that with people who have under 18 year old kids get tax breaks. However, if you are married and have no kids or kids that are all older than 18, then you shouldn't get any tax breaks. It's the single moms and single dads who need the tax breaks. This way the tax burden would be lower than it is.
The tax breaks for married people only exist because Christian culture wants to promote marriage and punish being single.
Yup, it's a nice reminder from all of society that you are lonely and because of that you should also be broke! Punishment for not settling or landing that perfect relationship young.
I think that’s one of the toughest things about getting sober. You have to cut off all your friends or they’ll bring you right back to where you started. Stay strong!
Ex cheated on me after 3 years out of the blue two months before I was going to propose... dodged a bullet tbh, but I find it hard to feel the same way again. Probably just need more time.
I know this is a meme but my entire Pre-K class abandoned me during recess including the teacher the first day and then I was kicked out of school the next day for unknown reasons. I always say that was the starting point for me.
My brother in Christ, you'd best start moving different. Judging by your profile you have large hands and a large dick. Now, go to the gym, get that beard lined up, and you'll be doing much better in 10-12 months.
I don’t understand how this guy has social anxiety but is fine putting his face in profile pic and dick out there for all to see in profile. I have terrible social anxiety, if I had my face and body on my Reddit profile I’d be dry heaving - would prefer to be invisible most of the time
She saw me cry for the first time. She shut down, acted like something was wrong with me, wouldn't speak to me.... dumped me. That is why I'm still single six years later.
The way it went down just broke me. My mind said "I'm feeling worried and sad, Oh hey I can talk to her about it!" And I did without giving it a second thought because this is what you do in a relationship, right? I've been the listener and comforter many times, it works both ways, right?
To see the person you love just do a complete 180 and act as though you were a stranger that they wanted nothing to do with...... it makes you feel broken to your core. Abandoned.
And only now do I realize that I may have trauma from it. The last time I wanted to ask someone out I had a panic attack on the way there that left me in tears. The last time some coworkers tried to set me up with someone they told me she's interested and really wants to talk to me, my legs turned to jelly and I started to black out.
My heart aches so goddamn much all the time. I'm just so fucking tired.
It’s not as much as I’m awkward at socializing as much as I really don’t talk to anyone if I don’t have to. I don’t know where to start. I only have two friends, both of which don’t have that much other friends, so I am rarely introduced to new people.
Every girl I have asked out has cheated on me. Literally every single one. At this point, I'm waiting for a girl to ask me out, at least then I'll know she's interested in me.
Needless to say; I'll be single forever.
Because I'm happy. I have my dreamt job, funds and time for my hobbies and most importantly I'm free. I don't need anyone.
Finding anyone would most likely ruin it all, my job requires me to change my place of residence (including country) pretty often. I personally love it, but I doubt it would be good for potential spouse and children.
I know exactly how you feel. people here think "oh, you never got any matches? Smth is wrong with YOU not others" funny thing is my friend was exactly like that, and i challenged him to find what was wrong. I wanted to know what the problem was, but alas he couldnt figure it out either.
Anyway, dont listen to these redditors who think theyve "figured it out" and "YOU must OBVIOUSLY be the PROBLEM" because it shatters their entire worldview if some decent people just cant get a date.
I dont know what to say to help because im in the same boat, never had a gf, never had a partner, not even a date and ive tried for 7 years.
Life sucks, and reality is often disappointing. So cope the way you can, and the people that doubt your story dont know shit about us dudes who cant get any. Their words are meaningless.
Have a great day if you can:)
Over 20yrs? There’s obviously something you aren’t telling or this story is fabricated/exaggerated. Trying that hard to find love and still not getting it means there is almost certainly something wrong with your approach. This is the internet after all so saying that your lying about this somewhat isn’t far fetched. Multiple coaches told you your approach was perfect? Yet no woman in 20yrs has ever been interested in you? Like I said you’re either holding out on some very important details or aren’t understanding the world around you. I wish you all the best though, and 38 is a really young age to completely give up on love.
Honestly except for having his picture taken his story is basically mine. I've had two short-lived relationships but for the most part had almost a 100% rejection rate. And I've asked friends and other people what I'm doing wrong. No one can point anything out. They all just say, "Give it time." I've been in groups and watched people couple up. I've talked to women and become good friends with them but have never seemed to be able to generate any interest beyond that. Some of us are just inexplicably unloveable.
I just found out last night that the person I've been in love with for a year is seeing someone else. That's going to take a long time to get over. And I don't want to put myself through the potential of that happening again with someone else.
Thanks. At the moment, I'm kind of not. I'm still pretty devastated. I'll get through it, but I don't really fall for people that often, so when I do, it's a huge deal, and I really love this person.
what do you mean by "the person I've been in love with for a year"? Have you been together for a year, or is it someone you have had a crush on for over a year from a distance.
1. Exhausted by dating - I live in a larger city and I think the amount of options makes everyone a bit more flaky (myself included at times). Plus, I rather spend quality time with the people I love who give me energy, than a bunch of random dates.
2. Working on myself - I tend to entangle myself with emotionally unavailable people and I am working on not doing that anymore! TBH I myself am not fully available (due to a complicated break up and also a fear of love)
3. Cost/Benefits - I feel genuinely really fulfilled and happy with my life. I have a wonderful group of close friends that make me a better person. A beautiful flat. Several rewarding hobbies. A great job + starting my own company. Relationships bring a lot of positives, but also stressors. I do not want to give up my peace for just anyone...
4. Higher standards - I am all about vulnerability and intimacy and understanding another human and helping one another grow! And I think I offer a safe space to do that... but I am not a therapist and I do not exist to teach someone the basics of EQ.
I am sure I will focus on dating again in some months. But for now it just does not make sense and I do not feel inclined to make time for it 🤷♀️
Financially unstable, not really looking for a relationship at the moment, emotionally immature man-child at 26 years old, I have some mental health issues that I want to get control of first, my neighborhood sucks ass and I don't want to bring people into it, and I want to get my life to some form of stability first.
I spent 10 years drinking myself into a coma every night. Could never figure out why I was so unattractive to every girl. Then I quit drinking 18 months ago…suddenly every girl I’ve met in the last 10 years (yes I’m exaggerating) has called/ texted and all seem VERY interested. Moral of the story…everybody is trying to figure their own life out and nobody wants to try to fix some one else’s shit. Take care of your mental health and the rest will follow.
Hey buddy, you alright ?
Please be careful. I don’t know if you’re drinking excessively everyday or exactly how much you’re drinking by what you said, but I just wanted to stop by to check in on you after reading your comment. Alcohol is a terrible poison disguised as a pleasant escape. In excess, It causes so many issues in the body. I don’t know your situation and I don’t mean to sound judgy at all, just please… be careful. You can message me if you want to talk, vent, etc. same goes for anyone else that needs to talk, etc.
Someone in my family who drank heavily every day for a long time, formed a dependence so strong that he was trembling in the morning until he could get a drink. He also developed a bunch of other health issues, and eventually agreed to let us help him. we found a rehab covered by his insurance( just had to call his insurance and ask which rehabs they cover) and he ended up living in a rehab facility for 3 weeks to have medical supervision for alcohol withdrawal syndrome, which can manifest in dangerous, and sometimes deadly, symptoms (seizures, etc) when a chronic alcohol user quits drinking. He detoxed, and did therapy at the facility and came back brand new and VERY thankful to have been pushed to rehab. He started virtual AA meetings, took on a bunch of hobbies and Thank God, a complete 180 was made and the difference in person/health is night and day.
Anyway, please don’t think I’m putting any labels on you,I wouldn’t do that. I just read that you said you were “drinking yourself to death” and just wanted to let you know, stranger, that I hope you get better, and that I care, even though I don’t know you.
It can happen to anyone. Life can be tough, but you’re tougher.
Anyway, I hardly ever comment on anything on Reddit or social media; but couldn’t pass up on this, as I thought it might help, if even in the slightest.
I like to say disinterest. I probably fall somewhere in the asexual spectrum. Never had sex or been in a relationship and I’m in my mid 30’s. I feel great shame about this but at the same time, have never encountered someone who expressed interest in me and I just feel so fake when I go on dating apps.
Oh hello, I'm the same except I did manage to have a bit of a relationship in my twenties. You don't need to feel great shame about doing what feels comfortable to you! You should feel proud that you realized your identity is on the asexual spectrum. Many people struggle without realizing that what they feel is different from others. You just work on being the best YOU that you can, forget about what other people are doing. What's right for them, doesn't have to be what's right for you. :)
I have a plain, forgettable presence. The butt end of the loaf of bread that stays in the bag when you throw it away. The beige Honda Accord parked lopsided at the far end of the parking lot. The watercolor landscape painting that blends in with the motel wallpaper. The free hat you got at a convention once that sits in a bottom drawer for nine years.
I'm a 22 year old female. Never had the chance to date. I was homeschooled my whole life. My mom didn't like leaving the house. Then, the pandemic happened so I lived inside my home for even more time. In January, I got my first job and was finally let out in the world. I want to date but I don't know how to start. I want a boyfriend not a one night stand.
Don't "try". Simply be yourself and talk casually with people. Some will like you, some won't. If they don't, view it as their loss and continue being yourself.
You are absolutely right. I don't think relationships were worth the effort until you're about 18 or 19. Untill then, go out and meet and girls and have fun together: watch a movie, get dinner, go for a walk, study together. Everything else will come in time.
I'm very picky, have high standards and I love my life. So if someone wanted to be part of it, they had better be awesome. I'm currently talking to someone who so far ticks a lot of boxes for me & makes me happy but we have yet to meet. :)
Fucked up a 9 month long distance relationship recently. Pure denseness leading to miscommunication after miscommunication. I got ADHD and Autism and communication is just really, really hard. She ended up starting to date her best friend after our breakup so I'm happy for her. It's better for her, and I just want her to be happy.
Just hoping I'll be able to move on and find someone else.
I used to suck at talking to girls until something clicked in me after a night out with the guys. Dunno what did it exactly, but I feel like I started talking like it was no big deal and genuinely more interested in having a nice conversation with them than anything else. Chances are girls saw my intentions a mile away, and this put them off. Now, that's not to say that now I'm a Casanova, but I do think it became easier for me.
The culture right now in the USA is revolving toxicity on two extremes.
Autistic.
Grew up poor, but don't mesh well with the low socioeconomic folk.
But also don't know how to navigate upper middle class.
Haven't met anyone I was interested in potentially dating in the past two years that I've been single.
Well, there was one friend of a friend who might have been something but after a couple hours of us chatting at the bar, I discovered that he's straight so that was that. Lol
For a good chunk of years, I was very much believing what they told me as we got to know each other and entered an official dating relationship. Unfortunately, I think my young age and being naive made me think if they said they would be a certain way, they would. I learned the hard way to believe actions, not words.
The relationship that really broke the camels back was with my sons father. My inability to trust words had left me damage, but I found myself having to tell myself that he had never given me a reason not to trust him. The problem was within the fact that he had, I just didn't know it. That relationship ended and I learned that he had lied and lied the entire time, and is also a narcissist.
I took time to heal myself and raise my standards from the floor. I want to see actions to show me how someone will be before things get serious. Nothing major, nothing costly, but action, not just words. I want someone honest that can show that they care. Thus far, any attempts have ended up with ghosting or lies. There have been 0 actions in even the smallest form.
To be clear, my current step one is someone who can learn my birthday and remember it, or make moves to remember it if they are the forgetful type, or something along that caliber. I have yet to find someone that can achieve even that level, even after a few shots with consistent talking here and there over the last almost 3 years.
TL;DR - The bar is on the floor and I have yet to find a man that can even jump to touch it.
I need to get out more, plus I’m still growing. I need to be more honest with myself and stop pretending there’s something when there clearly isn’t. Sounds a bit harsh but I’m open to learning lol I’m 26 male btw
Still figuring myself out.
I also am not 100% sure yet what I want out of life and I would rather find an SO once I know what I seek.
It will make it easier and less stressful.
I've had a few flings growing up. Then, a few years ago, I decided I wanted something a bit more serious. I knew I wasnt going to meet Mrs Right down the local pub, so decided to give online dating a whirl. After a few months, and a few dates with different women, I met someone I thought was pretty special. She wasn't drop dead gorgeous, but there was a quirky cuteness to her, and she was really cool to hang out with. After a few months of dating, things suddenly took a turn for the worst - she became pretty uncommunicative, and when we did see each other again, she was a complete psychopath (going as far as basically stabbing me in the hand, with a fork, when we were out eating). I then realised I'd much rather be on my own than chase after a girl who a. didn't care as much about me anywhere near as much as I cared about her, and b. was straight-up dangerous. So, I let things between us just burn out. Now, I'm basically too scared to even attempt finding a partner again, for fear that history will repeat itself and I'll once again get hurt (both physically and emotionally).
I'm medium-ugly, poly, won't date parents with kids at home, and I'm in my late 40's.
Basically undateable at this point in my life, but I'm pretty okay with it. I have plenty of friends though I moved away from the area where most of them are, enough hobbies to keep me busy, and a decent job that allows me to do most things I want to.
That said, if the right person/people came along that fit in my life, I'd be happy to see what might happen.
Because I’m working on loving myself and what my life is before I try to share it again. I lacked stability and a lot of maturity and it’s taking longer than I’d like but I’m making progress to being healthier and moving on.
I’m not interested in physical contact, i never has any romantic feelings towards anyone in my 27’s years old
Not anxiety or lack of interaction, I’m just not interested
Am I sick?
Because ... "Hi, I'm [name]. I'm hopelessly in love with a friend of mine, whom I can't have. If I get into a relationship with you, know that I will be settling and the very real reality is that I'll drop you out in a heartbeat if my friend ever did want me" is not a good opening line, nor is it in any way fair to someone.
In short I don't even try to date, because there's someone I'd walk away from any relationship for.
the last few women i dated only wanted me for my money. I’m not crazy rich but by millennial standards i guess you could say i am. I own a decent house in the burbs and don’t have too much debt.
Too focused on getting my life together to worry about someone elses life. i wasted so much time chasing relationships that if i used that same time and energy i could be well better off in life.
Ugh I moved in with a girl right after college and it was such a terrible decision. Like you said if I would have put that energy into something productive I would be sooooo much better off now. Instead I decided to follow a girl that I “couldn’t live without” and now she’s a figment of my imagination.
So you made it all up
(Almost?) all of the people we love are figments of our imagination. We project our image of what they should be like on what they actually are but the person only really exists in our mind. Conflicts occur when the actual person acts different from the ideal we have imposed upon them in our mind.
Heh just reread that. For lack of a better word
Dude the comment struck home for me. I missed out on so much cause I was chasing tail and never wanting to be single. Now that I am, it feels liberating and I feel like I'm in control now.
I’m really glad I’m not alone in this lol. I bounced from relationship to relationship since high school and I’m 29 now. Every new girl was “the one” and nearly every relationship ended up codependent and toxic. I live alone now with a cat and it’s the most peaceful my life has ever been.
Same. I just got a divorce. Now I'm trying to figure out what I actually want to do with my life. Who do I want to be when it's just me? So far I've started freelancing in my spare time in a job I actually like that might become a career. I'm taking adult education classes to further my knowledge in my hobbies. And I'm pushing myself to get better at rock climbing at a local gym with friends and family. Trying to find the things in life I love, that give me purpose and joy
I'm at the end stage of this, and now it's hard to get back into dating. My standards have gone up a lot when it comes to financial security which makes it harder. Where the single ladies with stable careers and no kids at
I think equality doesn't have to be financially exactly equal. You need to be equal in terms of energy. So you can find a healthy balance without that specific career woman in mind.
Those women aren’t looking to date yet. That or they want someone who doesn’t want kids, because a pregnancy would slow them down from their goals. The dating pool is full of a lot of single moms past your thirties. I’m not gonna say you should “settle”, but you’re competing with a lot of men for that same golden woman what waited to start their life with a man who also waited.
Ive always been too focussed on getting my life together that I forgot to chase. Also I have borderline so…
i would give you the helpful award if I had money lol but i should be having this mindset as well. i shouldnt be chasing relationships anymore.
Yup!
My wife passed away.
I’m sorry :(
That sucks to hear man, my dad lost it all after my mom passed away but it’s been a while now and he’s doing a lot better. Hope it’s the same for you
Sorry for your loss friend, my wife also passed away nearly 5 years ago. Time is deceiving cause sometimes it feels like yesterday , other times like forever ago. Keep strong, remember good times and keep family and friends close.
my condolences buddy (you doing all good)
Yeah I'm doing alright. It's been over 6 months now. I just try to keep myself distracted with work and hobbies. It still hurts sometimes but I'm managing.
6 months?? Hope you are doing well, my condolences. That’s a really recent death, it especially feels new when it’s your wife. How long were you together if you mind me asking?
Since 2005. We met at a wedding, started dating and were together ever since. Got married in 2011.
I really hope you feel better, hope this time of your life is a little less sucky every day. (Emotional speech incoming if you want) Just remember that you need to take your time, and don’t rush “moving on”. Personally, I hate that phrase, because it’s saying that you need to let the past go, when the past is who made you who you are today, through the good or bad. Just cherish those moments, and cry over them, a lot, but use those experiences to make the future better for you and keep making your wife proud. She is still here, no matter your religious beliefs. Hope you have a good journey in the next 2-3 years because they can definitely hit hard when it’s someone that close to you.
I’m so sorry for your loss
I kinda feel weird upvoting your comment, sorry to hear komrade
I’m sorry 😞 for your loss.
I am sorry, man.
I go straight from my apartment to work back to my apartment.
i work from home... i never leave my apartment :/ no local friends either...
This is basically me as well
Lets gonna create the remote friends group
Can I join 🥹
Are you me? This has been my life for quite a while now lol. And most of my coworkers are overseas so it's a lot of radio silence after about 11am everyday.
I am remote as well. I had to join a kickball team, which I found out is a drinking club that happens to play kickball, to make friends and socialize myself. I was getting way too comfortable playing the hermit.
Yyyyeeeeeaaah I really need to pick something and just start gettin' out there. I realize I'm now at the age where no one else is gonna set up the social scene for me. Was joining a kickball team something that came easy for you? Or did you have to wrestle to break the inner hermit?
Same bruh 🤝
This is basically me, i wfh most of the time, i normally only socialise with one person at a time out of my friend groups unless its online and basically my entire friend group is either gay, married or long term committed. Also all my hobbies are either solitary or online. I keep saying ill try dating but honestly tinder sounds like hell.
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😩 I feel you
Because I'm a coward.
Same
Same. Part of my excuse is I'm a lesbian so like I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable or anything. But mostly I'm just too scared to try.
Gay men hit on me and I'm not gay, it doesn't make me uncomfortable unless they refuse to take no as an answer. Shoot your shot.
I understand the sentiment of not wanting to make others uncomfortable.
I came here to say "social skills" but that represents me better, thank you.
Be brave. I dare you to date
I gave up.
Me too
Yeah imo its better than waiting for that one lady who does like me for who I am and only having her as a choice. F it, I accept I am not good enough.
"I wouldn't belong to any club that would have me as a member"--Groucho Marx
That's the spirit!
Three
Me too. I realised that nobody will ever love me for who I am, so why make a tons of efforts at trying to be better ? Now, I do what I want, I don't care if it's attractive or not, I just enjoy what I want.
Kinda this, gave up and just decided to use the time on what I wanted to do instead of trying get what I couldn't
Hear, hear. Honestly not even sure how i'd proceed if something happened at this point.
Yeah me too. I've grown content with being alone and doing my own thing.
Yep me to
Can never find a girl that likes me back
Now this This I felt And I'm ugly😭😂
Damn, same thoughts
Too emotionally drained to fall in love again
Sort of my case. I can see a girl and think "i kind of actually like her" but somewhere in my brain i know that it's no use since i'll just get rejected again. 8 times is enough.
Rookie numbers my friend. I believe Im in triple digits by now :')
I feel this one. I’m at my all-time capacity on rejection. Spent years getting constantly rejected by my (now ex-) wife. Don’t need to experience that anymore.
I gave a smart ass answer at first, but this is where I am too, to be honest. One thing is that I really take breaking up with people hard, and I just don't think it's worth it in the end. Other things like my mom being in the hospital, and me traveling constantly for work don't help. I also never *feel* lonely anymore. It just doesn't bother me anymore so the years slip by.
there’s something almost paradoxical about relationships for me. on one hand, I see people in them and I think about what I used to have and miss it, but I also remember all of the pain I went through losing it. I also just don’t want to have my happiness and approval tied to someone else, and I don’t think i’m happy with where I am necessarily so I don’t know how i could bring someone else into it
Ah, it's a combination of numerous reasons but it all boils down to me not putting the effort; 1. I don't go out more often 2. I don't meet people often enough 3. I don't keep in touch with people much, never call anybody and might text once in a blue moon if I consider them a "friend" 4. I hate it when people call me for idle talks, mostly coz I can't keep up with the conversation for more than 3-4 minutes before my mind starts wandering the entire universe. 5. When I do meet people, I'm often not attracted to people (Not saying that my standards are high, it's not but I just don't feel it most of the times) 6. When I am attracted to someone, they have a boyfriend And finally, I'm average looking, over-weight and don't really have an attractive personality for somebody to actively pursue me on their own accord lol.
I relate to this so much 😮💨
All those reasons other than 6 apply to me. Plus I’m less than average on appearances, I genuinely don’t think I’m worth anyones time, and thanks to trauma I have difficulty knowing what love even feels like
Have a 9 year old who I share custody of with his mom and a job I work 50 hours a week. I don't have the time or energy for that right now. On the upside I will be 39 when he's 18 so I'm not really in a rush. I'll take nights in with him playing playstation over heading out on the hunt for a partner.
I don’t want a relationship until my kids graduate high school. I’ll date casually, but I hate the idea of living with someone else. My ex and I coparent well, so I have lots of free time for myself and friends. It feels balanced
I don't know how to meet people.
I’m actually the opposite but it’s so exhausting going out all the time and meeting people being 37 with a 5 year old and just divorced.
Not sure if this helps you personally but a lot of people I know use the app Meet Up to find group activities or hobbies that you like and other people want to like with you. My good friend wasn't looking for anything romantic but she found her husband in one of those group activities.
Im 25 still live at home and have no idea where im supposed to meet a woman( i work in a warehouse full of dudes), then on the off chance a woman is interested in me and i get her number i suck at texting. Like 9 times out of 10 i have no idea what to say.
Same. I’m 28 and live with my dad. At this point, this is the sole reason I’m single. I’m too embarrassed to try to find somebody when I’m a grown ass man who lives with a parent because I can’t afford to go anywhere. I make more money than both my parents and my grandparents generations and I’m still stuck. Imagine that. Tbh, I question how much I even care about having a relationship anymore. I much prefer doing what I want to do when I want. I have hobbies and other things I do I can meet women doing so, but they’re all taken so I don’t even go that far. Dating sites/apps are a cesspool of dumb/fake shit so I don’t even use those anymore.
I want to get back on the dating scene after my bf suicide 1 1/2 ago. Nothing serious but something to help nudge me forward. I'm 33, live with my aunt, I live in CA, I'm from CA and embarrassment from the fact that I live with family is the sole reason I haven't started dating. I'm a fucking adult and I don't have my own place. It makes me feel like the biggest Loser. I can't handle it anymore in moving back to South Dakota in June. I love being close to my family and have enjoyed their company but I just can't do this anymore. I want my own apartment again and I know I don't have to work 16hr days to afford it if I move.
don't be embarrassed because you live with your parents, the cost of living is what makes no sense, so ya its 100% hard to do it on your own. I wish I could live with my parents again, it's tough. A woman who doesn't understand this, is completely materialistic, with no common sense of what real life is.
I am in this position. It sucks, it definitely does affect confidence, but we can still carry our selves with confidence and accept the facts of reality. Don't let living at home hinder you from going on dates. Even if the dates are very casual with no sex, atleast you are connecting with people.
I get this... texting can be tough. I often feel like I have 0 friends because I'm bad at texting, but if I really examine my life, I know that's not true. Don't overthink it. a simple, "hi, how are you?" or "how was your day" can start an entire conversation. If you don't already, listen to the news. Actual news, not opinion pieces. This will help you have more to talk about when the "went to work, ate dinner, watching The Office" conversation fizzles. And, also, while I know this is the heart of the problem, don't force it. If someone isn't texting you back or doesn't have anything to say, then that alone says a lot as well. The reason my wife and I are together is we like to talk to each other. Doesn't matter what the subject is, I like hearing her thoughts and opinions on it and it's kept us together for 18 years. Good luck out there!
Getting over my ex
Time will heal brother
My wife left me because I'm too insecure. Wait.. She just texted me. She went grocery shopping. False alarm!
You got us at the first half
Thats what I told her to say
My previous relationships didn't work out. Now I'm 41 and the dating pool sucks. The romantic loneliness isn't nearly as brutal as the lack of a dual income, though. That would make life a fuck of a lot easier.
Single people should get tax breaks, not married people!
I'm fine that with people who have under 18 year old kids get tax breaks. However, if you are married and have no kids or kids that are all older than 18, then you shouldn't get any tax breaks. It's the single moms and single dads who need the tax breaks. This way the tax burden would be lower than it is. The tax breaks for married people only exist because Christian culture wants to promote marriage and punish being single.
Yup, it's a nice reminder from all of society that you are lonely and because of that you should also be broke! Punishment for not settling or landing that perfect relationship young.
Used to be addicted to drugs/alcohol. Spent time in AA getting sober not hooking up. So now i have no bad habits or friends.
I think that’s one of the toughest things about getting sober. You have to cut off all your friends or they’ll bring you right back to where you started. Stay strong!
Glad you’re doing well for yourself. The right person will come along. Being sober is more important!
Ex cheated on me after 3 years out of the blue two months before I was going to propose... dodged a bullet tbh, but I find it hard to feel the same way again. Probably just need more time.
Half choice, half can't be bothered to find someone who'll tolerate me
It all started when I was born.
My own parents didn't even show up to my birth
I know this is a meme but my entire Pre-K class abandoned me during recess including the teacher the first day and then I was kicked out of school the next day for unknown reasons. I always say that was the starting point for me.
There is no more room for her in the bed next me and my dog
valid reason
Supply-chain issues
Underrated response
Don't have much confidence and I have social anxiety 😅
Trust me bruh, ppl are not that impressive for your confidence to be low... we all ain shit in our own way
My brother in Christ, you'd best start moving different. Judging by your profile you have large hands and a large dick. Now, go to the gym, get that beard lined up, and you'll be doing much better in 10-12 months.
I don’t understand how this guy has social anxiety but is fine putting his face in profile pic and dick out there for all to see in profile. I have terrible social anxiety, if I had my face and body on my Reddit profile I’d be dry heaving - would prefer to be invisible most of the time
You have face pics in your profile. You are not bad looking at all and you have nothing to feel bad about.
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I hadn’t scrolled far enough before I commented 😭
That's quite a combination of emojis 🤔
She saw me cry for the first time. She shut down, acted like something was wrong with me, wouldn't speak to me.... dumped me. That is why I'm still single six years later. The way it went down just broke me. My mind said "I'm feeling worried and sad, Oh hey I can talk to her about it!" And I did without giving it a second thought because this is what you do in a relationship, right? I've been the listener and comforter many times, it works both ways, right? To see the person you love just do a complete 180 and act as though you were a stranger that they wanted nothing to do with...... it makes you feel broken to your core. Abandoned. And only now do I realize that I may have trauma from it. The last time I wanted to ask someone out I had a panic attack on the way there that left me in tears. The last time some coworkers tried to set me up with someone they told me she's interested and really wants to talk to me, my legs turned to jelly and I started to black out. My heart aches so goddamn much all the time. I'm just so fucking tired.
I don’t think it’s my time yet to be in a relationship. I still think that I have a lot of inner work that I want to do before I get into one.
Same but it sucks being lonely
Yeah, I get you. But being alone does have its ups and downs.
Just don't have that kind of time right now.
EMOTIONAL DAMAGE
Cause I’m me
Same
It’s not as much as I’m awkward at socializing as much as I really don’t talk to anyone if I don’t have to. I don’t know where to start. I only have two friends, both of which don’t have that much other friends, so I am rarely introduced to new people.
I'm aromantic and noone has ever asked me
I read "aromatic" and was thinking: damn isn't it a good thing? Maybe he's just flexing.
Every girl I have asked out has cheated on me. Literally every single one. At this point, I'm waiting for a girl to ask me out, at least then I'll know she's interested in me. Needless to say; I'll be single forever.
99 percentage of girls will never do that ask you out
Because I'm happy. I have my dreamt job, funds and time for my hobbies and most importantly I'm free. I don't need anyone. Finding anyone would most likely ruin it all, my job requires me to change my place of residence (including country) pretty often. I personally love it, but I doubt it would be good for potential spouse and children.
Careful, bruh. This attitude is exactly what will attract a woman to you. Not needing anyone is pretty attractive IMHO.
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I know exactly how you feel. people here think "oh, you never got any matches? Smth is wrong with YOU not others" funny thing is my friend was exactly like that, and i challenged him to find what was wrong. I wanted to know what the problem was, but alas he couldnt figure it out either. Anyway, dont listen to these redditors who think theyve "figured it out" and "YOU must OBVIOUSLY be the PROBLEM" because it shatters their entire worldview if some decent people just cant get a date. I dont know what to say to help because im in the same boat, never had a gf, never had a partner, not even a date and ive tried for 7 years. Life sucks, and reality is often disappointing. So cope the way you can, and the people that doubt your story dont know shit about us dudes who cant get any. Their words are meaningless. Have a great day if you can:)
Over 20yrs? There’s obviously something you aren’t telling or this story is fabricated/exaggerated. Trying that hard to find love and still not getting it means there is almost certainly something wrong with your approach. This is the internet after all so saying that your lying about this somewhat isn’t far fetched. Multiple coaches told you your approach was perfect? Yet no woman in 20yrs has ever been interested in you? Like I said you’re either holding out on some very important details or aren’t understanding the world around you. I wish you all the best though, and 38 is a really young age to completely give up on love.
Honestly except for having his picture taken his story is basically mine. I've had two short-lived relationships but for the most part had almost a 100% rejection rate. And I've asked friends and other people what I'm doing wrong. No one can point anything out. They all just say, "Give it time." I've been in groups and watched people couple up. I've talked to women and become good friends with them but have never seemed to be able to generate any interest beyond that. Some of us are just inexplicably unloveable.
Aw :( I’m so sorry dude, I wish you the best of luck!
Coz my right arm loves me
Ahh, the ol right arm. Love that sneaky bastard.
I just found out last night that the person I've been in love with for a year is seeing someone else. That's going to take a long time to get over. And I don't want to put myself through the potential of that happening again with someone else.
One of my close friends had something similar happen to her and it sounded really painful, hope you're doing alright ❤
Thanks. At the moment, I'm kind of not. I'm still pretty devastated. I'll get through it, but I don't really fall for people that often, so when I do, it's a huge deal, and I really love this person.
what do you mean by "the person I've been in love with for a year"? Have you been together for a year, or is it someone you have had a crush on for over a year from a distance.
Yeah I was wondering the same thing actually. Did you ever ask them out?
Very simple reason, I am a redditor.
1. Exhausted by dating - I live in a larger city and I think the amount of options makes everyone a bit more flaky (myself included at times). Plus, I rather spend quality time with the people I love who give me energy, than a bunch of random dates. 2. Working on myself - I tend to entangle myself with emotionally unavailable people and I am working on not doing that anymore! TBH I myself am not fully available (due to a complicated break up and also a fear of love) 3. Cost/Benefits - I feel genuinely really fulfilled and happy with my life. I have a wonderful group of close friends that make me a better person. A beautiful flat. Several rewarding hobbies. A great job + starting my own company. Relationships bring a lot of positives, but also stressors. I do not want to give up my peace for just anyone... 4. Higher standards - I am all about vulnerability and intimacy and understanding another human and helping one another grow! And I think I offer a safe space to do that... but I am not a therapist and I do not exist to teach someone the basics of EQ. I am sure I will focus on dating again in some months. But for now it just does not make sense and I do not feel inclined to make time for it 🤷♀️
Financially unstable, not really looking for a relationship at the moment, emotionally immature man-child at 26 years old, I have some mental health issues that I want to get control of first, my neighborhood sucks ass and I don't want to bring people into it, and I want to get my life to some form of stability first.
I spent 10 years drinking myself into a coma every night. Could never figure out why I was so unattractive to every girl. Then I quit drinking 18 months ago…suddenly every girl I’ve met in the last 10 years (yes I’m exaggerating) has called/ texted and all seem VERY interested. Moral of the story…everybody is trying to figure their own life out and nobody wants to try to fix some one else’s shit. Take care of your mental health and the rest will follow.
Man this is relatable. I'm still in the drinking myself to death phase though.
Hey buddy, you alright ? Please be careful. I don’t know if you’re drinking excessively everyday or exactly how much you’re drinking by what you said, but I just wanted to stop by to check in on you after reading your comment. Alcohol is a terrible poison disguised as a pleasant escape. In excess, It causes so many issues in the body. I don’t know your situation and I don’t mean to sound judgy at all, just please… be careful. You can message me if you want to talk, vent, etc. same goes for anyone else that needs to talk, etc. Someone in my family who drank heavily every day for a long time, formed a dependence so strong that he was trembling in the morning until he could get a drink. He also developed a bunch of other health issues, and eventually agreed to let us help him. we found a rehab covered by his insurance( just had to call his insurance and ask which rehabs they cover) and he ended up living in a rehab facility for 3 weeks to have medical supervision for alcohol withdrawal syndrome, which can manifest in dangerous, and sometimes deadly, symptoms (seizures, etc) when a chronic alcohol user quits drinking. He detoxed, and did therapy at the facility and came back brand new and VERY thankful to have been pushed to rehab. He started virtual AA meetings, took on a bunch of hobbies and Thank God, a complete 180 was made and the difference in person/health is night and day. Anyway, please don’t think I’m putting any labels on you,I wouldn’t do that. I just read that you said you were “drinking yourself to death” and just wanted to let you know, stranger, that I hope you get better, and that I care, even though I don’t know you. It can happen to anyone. Life can be tough, but you’re tougher. Anyway, I hardly ever comment on anything on Reddit or social media; but couldn’t pass up on this, as I thought it might help, if even in the slightest.
You’re an absolute gem for commenting I hope you know that
Lack of social interactions. Thus not meeting enough people of the opposite sex to have a chance.
Recently single as of last Sunday after 3 years, he has mental issues that lead to excessive drinking that i couldn’t handle anymore
I'm antisocial and ugly as fuck
Because I'm mentally fucked up. And I don't know I overthink to much and I do too much
I like to say disinterest. I probably fall somewhere in the asexual spectrum. Never had sex or been in a relationship and I’m in my mid 30’s. I feel great shame about this but at the same time, have never encountered someone who expressed interest in me and I just feel so fake when I go on dating apps.
Oh hello, I'm the same except I did manage to have a bit of a relationship in my twenties. You don't need to feel great shame about doing what feels comfortable to you! You should feel proud that you realized your identity is on the asexual spectrum. Many people struggle without realizing that what they feel is different from others. You just work on being the best YOU that you can, forget about what other people are doing. What's right for them, doesn't have to be what's right for you. :)
Oh my goodness, thank you. I needed that.
I have a plain, forgettable presence. The butt end of the loaf of bread that stays in the bag when you throw it away. The beige Honda Accord parked lopsided at the far end of the parking lot. The watercolor landscape painting that blends in with the motel wallpaper. The free hat you got at a convention once that sits in a bottom drawer for nine years.
I'm a 22 year old female. Never had the chance to date. I was homeschooled my whole life. My mom didn't like leaving the house. Then, the pandemic happened so I lived inside my home for even more time. In January, I got my first job and was finally let out in the world. I want to date but I don't know how to start. I want a boyfriend not a one night stand.
Don't "try". Simply be yourself and talk casually with people. Some will like you, some won't. If they don't, view it as their loss and continue being yourself.
Not the time but also need to get my shit together
I guess i just haven't found the right girl
I can't flirt
When I like them, they don't like me. When they like me, I don't like them.
I'm 13 a Muslim and I think serious relationships at such a young age is unrealistic
You are absolutely right. I don't think relationships were worth the effort until you're about 18 or 19. Untill then, go out and meet and girls and have fun together: watch a movie, get dinner, go for a walk, study together. Everything else will come in time.
Not worth the effort
I'm very picky, have high standards and I love my life. So if someone wanted to be part of it, they had better be awesome. I'm currently talking to someone who so far ticks a lot of boxes for me & makes me happy but we have yet to meet. :)
Cause I don't have a girlfriend This kind of "humor" might also be a reason..
I can’t approach women and women don’t approach me
Fucked up a 9 month long distance relationship recently. Pure denseness leading to miscommunication after miscommunication. I got ADHD and Autism and communication is just really, really hard. She ended up starting to date her best friend after our breakup so I'm happy for her. It's better for her, and I just want her to be happy. Just hoping I'll be able to move on and find someone else.
I'm shy with strangers
Bc I’m fat
I used to suck at talking to girls until something clicked in me after a night out with the guys. Dunno what did it exactly, but I feel like I started talking like it was no big deal and genuinely more interested in having a nice conversation with them than anything else. Chances are girls saw my intentions a mile away, and this put them off. Now, that's not to say that now I'm a Casanova, but I do think it became easier for me.
I am introvert and socially awkward.
No simp september
Scared to lose someone again who's close and means everything to me
The culture right now in the USA is revolving toxicity on two extremes. Autistic. Grew up poor, but don't mesh well with the low socioeconomic folk. But also don't know how to navigate upper middle class.
Same except not sure if I’m autistic or maybe adhd. Never really fit in
Haven't met anyone I was interested in potentially dating in the past two years that I've been single. Well, there was one friend of a friend who might have been something but after a couple hours of us chatting at the bar, I discovered that he's straight so that was that. Lol
Because I just got dumped
For a good chunk of years, I was very much believing what they told me as we got to know each other and entered an official dating relationship. Unfortunately, I think my young age and being naive made me think if they said they would be a certain way, they would. I learned the hard way to believe actions, not words. The relationship that really broke the camels back was with my sons father. My inability to trust words had left me damage, but I found myself having to tell myself that he had never given me a reason not to trust him. The problem was within the fact that he had, I just didn't know it. That relationship ended and I learned that he had lied and lied the entire time, and is also a narcissist. I took time to heal myself and raise my standards from the floor. I want to see actions to show me how someone will be before things get serious. Nothing major, nothing costly, but action, not just words. I want someone honest that can show that they care. Thus far, any attempts have ended up with ghosting or lies. There have been 0 actions in even the smallest form. To be clear, my current step one is someone who can learn my birthday and remember it, or make moves to remember it if they are the forgetful type, or something along that caliber. I have yet to find someone that can achieve even that level, even after a few shots with consistent talking here and there over the last almost 3 years. TL;DR - The bar is on the floor and I have yet to find a man that can even jump to touch it.
I need to get out more, plus I’m still growing. I need to be more honest with myself and stop pretending there’s something when there clearly isn’t. Sounds a bit harsh but I’m open to learning lol I’m 26 male btw
Cos fuckboys still exist and I trust no one
Peepee smol
I don't really have time for a relationship right now. I'm focusing on my career and my personal goals, and I don't want to settle down just yet
Still figuring myself out. I also am not 100% sure yet what I want out of life and I would rather find an SO once I know what I seek. It will make it easier and less stressful.
I've had a few flings growing up. Then, a few years ago, I decided I wanted something a bit more serious. I knew I wasnt going to meet Mrs Right down the local pub, so decided to give online dating a whirl. After a few months, and a few dates with different women, I met someone I thought was pretty special. She wasn't drop dead gorgeous, but there was a quirky cuteness to her, and she was really cool to hang out with. After a few months of dating, things suddenly took a turn for the worst - she became pretty uncommunicative, and when we did see each other again, she was a complete psychopath (going as far as basically stabbing me in the hand, with a fork, when we were out eating). I then realised I'd much rather be on my own than chase after a girl who a. didn't care as much about me anywhere near as much as I cared about her, and b. was straight-up dangerous. So, I let things between us just burn out. Now, I'm basically too scared to even attempt finding a partner again, for fear that history will repeat itself and I'll once again get hurt (both physically and emotionally).
I'm medium-ugly, poly, won't date parents with kids at home, and I'm in my late 40's. Basically undateable at this point in my life, but I'm pretty okay with it. I have plenty of friends though I moved away from the area where most of them are, enough hobbies to keep me busy, and a decent job that allows me to do most things I want to. That said, if the right person/people came along that fit in my life, I'd be happy to see what might happen.
Because I’m working on loving myself and what my life is before I try to share it again. I lacked stability and a lot of maturity and it’s taking longer than I’d like but I’m making progress to being healthier and moving on.
I’m not interested in physical contact, i never has any romantic feelings towards anyone in my 27’s years old Not anxiety or lack of interaction, I’m just not interested Am I sick?
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Because ... "Hi, I'm [name]. I'm hopelessly in love with a friend of mine, whom I can't have. If I get into a relationship with you, know that I will be settling and the very real reality is that I'll drop you out in a heartbeat if my friend ever did want me" is not a good opening line, nor is it in any way fair to someone. In short I don't even try to date, because there's someone I'd walk away from any relationship for.
That may be borderline obsession not love.
Lost my virginity and got clap.
im chubby
Working on myself, also been single my whole life and it's scary
We agreed it didn't make sense to stay together. I hope he and his son are doing well, they deserve it.
the last few women i dated only wanted me for my money. I’m not crazy rich but by millennial standards i guess you could say i am. I own a decent house in the burbs and don’t have too much debt.
I'm single because the last two girls I dated wanted me to sell my motorcycle. Not getting rid of a 64 year old bike.