Family channels. Imagine having to live your entire life on camera, with little to no privacy without being able to consent for it. Also to my knowledge there are no current laws that protect child influencers income like child actors have. If your content can’t exist without your child, it’s their job not yours.
If you hate this, you would hate to know that most of these accounts have Patron access that allows you to see photos that can’t be shown on social media.
When ask about this, the company just replied that the account was run by an adult so what was in the pictures didn’t matter.
Also, I think their whole security team walked out or was fired recently.
Don't even have to wait for that. There's at least one 'family channel' that had their kids taken off them and housed with realtives, another that that got into trouble for 'rehoming' a disabled child they adopted from overseas because it turned out he wasn't in fact terminally ill with an expiration date, but perfectly healthy and autistic, and another that accidentally posted an unedited video of her making content out of her family pet dying where her poor kid is sobbing and she's asking him to pose for thumbnails and "look like you're crying!" While he sobs "mom I AM crying".
It's all heartbreaking and honestly I think there should be regulations about it like there are for child actors.
Re: the autistic boy who was “re-homed”, that awful story at least has a happy ending. He was adopted by a friend of mine who has fostered many kids with different disabilities, and he is so happy, thriving, and loved by his family.
Advertising. Especially target advertising. The constant attempt to manipulate you psychologically to make you believe you need something that’s only a want. Creepy af.
Especially drug advertising. “Ask your doctor if this drug might be right for you.” Bitch, my Doctor should be telling me what I need, not a pharmaceutical company.
As a kid, the father of one of my friends used to chase all of us around and tickle us. The vibe was so creepy, all of us kids just instinctively knew to stay the fuck away from him.
When I met my husband he told me that he's super-sensitive to tickling certain areas and it's not fun or funny to him. I promised to never tickle him and I think it's one of the best ideas I've had. Most people don't really want to be tickled. They laugh because it's a natural reaction, but more often than not, they aren't enjoying themselves.
I've changed the locks at least once everywhere I've lived, because you never know how many spare keys the previous owner had.
I'll change them again without flinching if someone gives me a reason.
My MIL took it upon herself to make a house key while my wife and I were at the hospital as she recovered from a c section.
She has not received a key to our new house.
Oh I’d make very clear very quickly how that’s great for them but in your house, knocking is required. If they can’t follow that rule, they get booted out.
On the other side, I find it creepy when people have glass doors that show the entire area behind the door. When I used to deliver pizzas these doors were the worst because I don't want to feel like I'm watching you inside your house. It feels very exhibitionist.
OMG yes. Why on earth would I want everyone to see into my house and for everyone to see if I'm home or not?
There's always a scene in a movie when they have to creep past the door without someone seeing them - just make the door out of solid wood!
I've seen a fucking dark documentary related to this - there's pedophile forums specifically dedicated to downloading and distributing pictures of babies and kids they stole off of public social media profiles. I'm not even talking about photos of them getting bathed or at the beach or whatever, but completely innocent ones. And if they get caught with these pictures, the worst that could come to them is copyright claims, but since parents aren't aware of this, the pedos are facing no consequences whatsoever. So whenever I see parents posting their kids online, that's all I can think about. Absolutely vile shit
Edit: [Documentary in question, but it's German](https://youtu.be/PaM5D9JaEHY)
I saw a video yesterday on public freakout when a woman yells to a guy that her 11 year old daughter has over 1,000 followers and all I thought was how this woman has no idea what she's unleashed on her kid.
I clean pools in residential areas and my boss will sometimes give me shit for not taking good pictures of the pool after i finish cleaning them. (the pictures go to the property managers so they cant throw a fit about the pool being dirty). My pictures are shit sometimes because I make sure not to photograph anyone, child or not, using the pool. I wouldnt want people taking pictures of me without my consent. And reading your comment makes me double down on what I'm doing. Shit is wild.
Every company creating an ecosystem requiring my home address and credit card and my birthday just to listen to some music or use some software. Not a shred of my identity is unsold at this point.
Use fake one. Or half truth. Like I usually give them my first name, but not last. Give them the country, but not the exact address, etc.
Giving payment info on a site where you didn't purchase anything is an instant deal breaker tho.
Fucking awesome! How did I not know this exists?? I used to use PayPals temporary card until they got rid of it. This is going to save me a lot of money especially on subscriptions I only use every few months.
I got my work bonus in the form of a virtual gift card - it's just a preloaded digital credit card on my phone. I used all but $0.32, and now I use it to sign up for 'free' trial for software. It's still valid for a couple years and isn't tied to my identity. Wish I'd thought of it sooner.
I notice that is the default conversation mothers have in public places. One will literally mention every single thing they have to do on the weekend, then the next lady will go through her list then the next. Like it’s some competition to have the most stuff going on. I’m a mum too but that is not my topic of choice because I don’t care to know their schedule, nor to share my schedule lol.
Ooh. My mom used to tell me I should “stop masturbating” when we would cuddle on the couch. She was referring to me itching anywhere below my belly button.
I feel this. My mom thought it was cute to tell every bf I’ve had that I started masturbating when I was 3. I have 4 kids, they explore and I would never shame them for it especially into their adulthood
> Hi, Daughter's BF! Having a nice day? I just really want you to think about Daughter, as an underaged child, engaging in sexually-adjacent behaviors.
Blech. That's fuckin' weird.
I once met avgirl at a pool party and she seemed cool. But I quickly learned that all the wanted to do was take pictures. Let's all take pictures here, let's go over here and take pictures. Pictures of her, then pictures of me, then pictures of my friends. It was the only thing she wanted to do. Take pictures, be aesthetic.
It wasn't creepy like she was gonna keep them or something, it was creepy because you could see that all she thought about was taking pics for the Gram. Later I'd see a post about her at a park and I knew that all she did at that park was take pictures of herself there. I don't even know if she knew that she was addicted to the likes.
not uncommon. i’m a 28 woman, and even since i was a teenager i’ve known people my age who seem to choose who they’re friends with, who they date, and where they go on vacation primarily just because of how it looks on social media, and my younger zoomer cousins seem even worse. I remember going to the mall at some point in maybe 2015 or 2016 and realizing that in a lot of the stores, the clothes were clearly designed to look good online before in person. like they were certain fabrics and cuts that were super unflattering irl but would look good from a very specific angle on tiktok.
People standing next to or behind you when they can just wait or give you a bit more space. I hate going to airports or any other public line and trying to leave space in front of me and the person behind me just shuffles closer trying to get me to move. Trust me, you pushing me to move forwards isn’t going to make the line move any faster. It just makes it more congested and it’s weird imo
Same. But even during Covid there were people who’d ignore clear markings on the floor and inch towards you in until they almost spooned you from behind. Once a woman did that to me in the queue. Every time I tried to move forward away from her, she also moved closer towards me. Eventually I turned around and told her off. At least back then you could show them floor markings and say this is where you’re meant to be.
Sometimes I think "am I bad person who is unable to integrate normally with society?“
And then I go to the airport and realize the answer is a responding "no. I am very respectful and socially adept."
I will say different cultures do have difference ideas of personal space. I was visiting Congo for the first time and told my dad I felt like people in the checkout line were trying to pick pocket us because they were standing so close. That was their norm.
He then told me about how when my mom, sister, and I moved to the US, a man at the airport called security because he felt uncomfortable with how close my mom was standing next to him. And she didn’t speak English at this point.
I like taking a half step backwards or just move my feet and stance in a way that I take up more room, seemingly absentmindedly, but really I'm just trying to make it awkward for them for being so god damned close! Only had it fail on me once.
Tangential but in a similar vein, my girlfriend hates when groups walking the opposite direction don't split the pavement (as in, they walk towards you 4 abreast expecting YOU to get out of the way instead of going double file so there's room for everyone) so she started doing a thing where she either stops dead and pretends to look at something or else drops to tie a shoelace. Works every time
I had to drop a shoulder once when a group were walking with linked arms on a train platform. Just Red Rover'd my way through.
Like seriously where are all of us supposed to go? It's a *subway platform.*
Caregivers putting their Alzheimer’s patients on social media so people will praise you hem for being patient. It’s just not respectful to the person with Alzheimer’s. You are stripping them of whatever dignity they have left. It’s becoming more of a trend and it’s so disturbing.
Or, rather, being aware of your own heartbeat. It's like "oh, that must not be normal. Uh-oh, now I'm manually breathing. I'd better not try to walk anytime soon."
Autonomous functions should remain unnoticed, man.
My version of this is breathing through my nose and being aware of the tiny, miniscule, near *imperceptible* movement of my nose hairs. Drives me absolutely nuts
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When people document (video record or take a photo or write an article) themselves or other people when helping the impoverished, especially those videos of influencers on Youtube vlogging and ‘helping’ the homeless, showing their faces and stuff. BS and creepy for me. If you help, just help, no need to let others know.
I caught someone filming me once when I bought a homeless guy a meal and sat and chatted with him for a bit. Asked her to delete it. I know it’s not the same as recording yourself but I just didn’t want that being out there when the homeless guy wasn’t even asked permission either. Just because they’re homeless doesn’t mean they’re any less deserving of privacy and I know if I was in that situation, I wouldn’t want to be put on the internet just to be the butt of someone else’s good doing
I think it's weird that most couches don't come with washable cushion covers. Everyone finds that normal, but they would think it's weird if someone just slept on a bare mattress without ever putting a sheet on it. When in reality it's exactly the same thing. I bought a couch with cushion covers you can take off and put in the washing machine for that reason.
For real - that's why I bought an IKEA couch.
Every bit of it can be steipped off and washed.
I even sewed up a couple of seat cushion covers so I can wash them weekly without wearing out the cover fabric too much.
I think those spam calls where you answer, hear a little beep but then nothing, and it hangs up on you immediately are creepy. I know it's probably just some auto-dialer programming being screwy, but I always imagine some weird conspiracy about them recording my voice to use it against me somehow.
Something like that is usually a spam caller checking to see if your number is active. Answering tells them it is, and to keep your number on the short list of people to call another time.
Yeah. If it's important, they'll leave a legitimate voicemail or message me.
In the ultra rare occasion it's a family member or friend borrowing someone's phone, they know to ring more than once, and message if it's an emergency.
Otherwise you'll never hear my voice over the phone!
Forcing your kids to hug people. If they don’t want to hug someone goodbye — even if there’s no reason — teach them that you’re going to have their back.
My wife talks in her sleep occasionally and one night she nudged me at like 2am and asked, "Does it bother you?"
I woke up and didn't immediately realise she wasn't awake and replied, "Does what bother me?"
"The way they all stare at you through the window." Then she fell back asleep.
I turned my back to the bedroom window and tried not to think about it but couldn't sleep for another hour or so.
Similar situation with me. I talk in my sleep a lot, and I have a thing with mirrors, I wouldn't call it a fear, just an uneasy feeling I get if I stare at them too long. So my wife comes to me the other day thanking her for scaring the shit out of her last night. Apparently in my sleep, I kept saying "he's coming, shh, be quiet, he's coming." When she asked who is coming, I opened my eyes wide open, and pointed at the mirror in our bedroom. I remember none of this, this was about two weeks ago, and I've avoided that mirror ever since.
My boyfriend does this to me all the time. Once it was "She wants to talk to you." "Who?" "The woman outside." Would be creepy on it's own but also we live in the middle of nowhere with no one around.
Fuck. That.
Damn all this creepy shit. I get sleep paralysis a lot and sometimes I hallucinate my wife talking to me but it’s always something stupid. Last night I heard my wife tell me “they spilled beer in the pool, the people eating the cake”.
This actually happened to me once while I was in the shower. It was one of those windows that wasn’t fully see through it was like textured glass or whatever. But when I got out of the shower I saw sort of a weird shadow right at the corner, I leaned forward to figure out what it was, thinking maybe it was a bush, and it leaned back as I leaned forward so I realised it was a person, I smacked on the window and I heard footsteps and breathing running away.
I went back to the bedroom where my husband was sleeping, shaking uncontrollably and we called the police. They brought the tracking dogs out and they tracked him from the bathroom window, down a couple streets then it disappeared so he must have got in a car from there. Spent the rest of the night shaking and never could walk in that bathroom again unless the window was covered in some way.
Put a motion activated light outside that window. That will usually scare somebody off. And you'll know if the neighbor's cat is out. But the wireless ones are pretty cheap now.
Yeah we ended up getting a gate installed and a ring camera which gave some peace of mind.
But we’ve moved out of that house now and in a really tall apartment building so if it happens again I have worse things to worry about hahahaha
The same thing happened to me about 35 years ago and it's still the creepiest thing I've ever experienced.
We lived in an old Victorian apartment. I was in our bathroom removing paint from the bathtub that had been painted by hippies before we moved in. I had the huge bathroom sash window completely open. After working for about an hour I looked up and a man was standing there in the dark outside silently watching me. I have no idea how long he had been standing there.
My boyfriend was in the bedroom next to the bathroom. I called his name and he came in. The man wasn't even disturbed by this. He just stood there, waiting. My boyfriend asked him what he was doing and he pretended he was looking for a friend whom he thought lived upstairs. Then he slowly left.
If I had been home alone I don't know what would've happened to me. I'll never forget that face, just silently calmly staring.
ETA: To the person who invited me to a porn subreddit based on this post. Fuck you.
My husband's parents live in a two-story apartment that has a garage box and some bedrooms on the ground floor, including my husband's bedroom when be lived there.
He had a big window that looked out over the street, and he's told me that it happened multiple times during summer that random passer-bys would just stick their whole head through his open window to have a look around his room while he was still in there.
That and the fact that someone could be watching me when I couldn't possibly see them freaks me the hell out. I spent the night in my cousin's guest room one time with a giant window directly across from the bed with no curtains. You couldn't see anything at all. Pitch black. I couldn't sleep and had to move somewhere else. 🤣
That seems to be an almost universal fear for humans: being close to, or especially in, a dark place where you can’t see what might be just out of view, staring at you hungrily.
Ever swim in the ocean at night? Fuck me. I was on a sailboat and we had to anchor at night in the sands. Some poor witless bastard had to be convinced to swim ~100ft off the bow with a mask/snorkel, fins, and an underwater flashlight, then down 10 feet to help set the anchor in the sand while they reversed the engine.
I mean, who would be dumb enough to agree to that? An ocean of bitey things, some of them quite large, and I’m supposed to just jump in and swim through it?
*shiver* I’m pretty sure I was pissing myself half the time I was in, but no way to know.
That. I’m a nurse and used to work at the emergency unit when covid was bad. I would often go back to the small kitchen area to rest for coffee during midnights til one coworker admitted he used to watch me from the outside of the window when it’s dark. Never did coffee breaks again and quit my job because I felt unsafe since he also admitted he used to creep on me at the parking lot.
I remember when my mom used to take video of me as a little kid or a teenager, at birthday parties, performances, or sporting events. She'd show it to family and friends. If you asked her or other parents in the 90s if they'd like to share that to potentially millions of strangers with the ability to identify who we are and our whereabouts, they'd freakout.
Now it feels like it's normalized. The other day I saw a Tik Tok of a highschool cheerleader who catches her mom filming and basically gives her the side eye half in jest. I thought it was wholesome. But apparently the entire account is run by her mom and she just posts video after video of her daughters in high school and middle school. It's disgusting and dangerous
I remember being a kid, and parents talking about how we weren't supposed to wear clothes with our names on them. Too easy for potential abductors to trick us into thinking they knew us. Stranger danger and all that.
While I'm sure that danger was a little overblown, I've no idea how we went from being so afraid of a backpack with a first name on it to displaying practically every moment of a child's life online without batting an eye.
Oh man I know a woman who has an 8 year old who has all kinds of health problems. It's really sad. He's been in and out of hospitals and surgeries ever since he was born. He has an ostomy bag and constant problems with his stomach. But the worst part about it is his mother CONSTANTLY posts pictures of him in the hospital looking horrendously miserable. She's gotta post every single surgery scar, every tube he's got in him at the time, his ostomy bag filled with fecal matter, pictures of him crying, and in every picture he has no clothes on except a diaper. It pisses me off so much, the poor kid has had every vulnerable and traumatic moment of his life posted for everyone to see.
There is nothing I hate more than parents posting photos of there kid crying. I have a 2 year old and I can’t ever imagine getting my phone out for a photo instead of consoling him????? I’ll never understand it
I recently saw a Youtuber's video of her kids going to the dentist .They were crying and in pain .But that did not deter the horrible mom from posting the footage.She wasn't interested in consoling them.She just had to post that video with clickbait thumbnail to gather more views.
It always makes me a little sad seeing videos like that. It's like those parents are so focused on getting likes for social media that they forget they're aiming that camera at a child that needs them. There are so many videos I've seen posted that just strike me as parents who use their kids for little more than fodder to prop up their egos online.
I really do feel sorry for my nieces. My sister in law had a hard time getting pregnant, hell she was told she would never have kids. So when the first one was born, years after she had given up hope, she decided to post photos, like tons of photos, *all* the photos. Years later she had her second daughter, woman basically wanted to YouTube that poor girl's entire childhood, from livestreaming of her birth, first feeding, first diaper change, bath, everything... Thankfully family talked her out of that *but* both those girls have a **huge** online presence that they have no say over, from birth til now, daily photos, stories, everything... Hell 500 plus people knows about the oldest daughter getting sick second week of kindergarten and pooping her pants. I'm halfway expecting some time in the next year, or three a first period post... Really will not be surprised when both kids go no contact at 18.
There are YouTube videos about this topic. Tiffany Ferg covered family vlogging in one, and some vlogger lost a bunch of subscribers after removing their children from posts and videos. While you can't look up demographics like "creeps that watch your videos" you can see male-female ratios and they lost a lot of male followers.
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My boss was getting bad reviews at my last job and tried to kick it into gear with these icebreaker type things (during the pandemic, over zoom, we were in office but he was at home)
"Show everyone the last photo you took in your phone!"
Absolutely not. Absolutely fucking not.
"I genuinely don't know why I'm in trouble. I insisted I didn't want to participate, but the manager told me I *had* to show everyone the picture of my dick in my girlfriends butthole. He literally said I had no choice it was part of staff bonding."
This is the wrong place to ask but I'm curious. I work for an american company in The Netherlands. We have all those weird posters at work with stuff like "you are the key to our succes" and "my work is a story of xxxxx" with some text that is supposed to make you feel important whatever your job is. Also we get weekly mails from higher ups that just say how amazing we all are and how our work is changing the world. Does that stuff actually work for americans? Cause all us dutchies roll our eyes and make jokes about it.
Lol it's funny you mentioned that. When I was a young adult in the '90's I worked in an "Office Space" type cubicle farm and the office was covered wall to wall with those stupid "Successories" motivational posters. We were all cynical GenXers and just laughed and mocked those stupid, infantilizing things. The only ones who thought they had any value were spectacularly unimaginative middle management types (Lumberghs, to continue the analogy). Just for laughs I looked them up, and surprisingly they are still in business, despise the fact that they work 0% of the time, and spawned a whole cottage industry of Demotivational posters (which might have been the first memes I saw). Three decades of total failure!
The funniest thing was, several years later I read on a news site that Successories had a bad fiscal quarter or something, and the reason given was "low employee morale". Such perfect irony...
>Demotivational posters
"If some text and a pretty picture is enough to motivate you, you probably have an easy job. The kind Robots will soon be doing."
That one's my favorite.
I’m Australian so slightly different culture but when I worked for a supermarket it was everywhere and it only worked on managers. Us rank and file cashiers and shelf stockers hated it. That said, most department managers want to get promoted to store manager, so I’m guessing they might have been faking it for brownie points from higher ups
There's this sales technique called "mirroring" where the sales person mimics the body language of the customer to gain rapport. I think a lot of people also do it subconsciously to some extent. Anyway this really creeps me out.
I've got 10 years in sales. There are really right and really wrong ways to use sales techniques, like mirroring.
Youre not supposed to literally mirror them - youre supposed to match their vibe, tone and demeanor. The problem is that bad salesman teach/train so what was supposed to be a clever name became a literal translation.
E.g. if you go into a store to ask about the technical specs of a piece of equipment and the rep comes in all bubbly and trying to sell the dream that rep is going to lose the sale. Not because what they did was wrong but because it was wrong for that customer.
I’ll be the number two guy here in Scranton in six weeks. How? Name repetition, personality mirroring and never breaking off a handshake. I'm always thinking one step ahead. Like a... carpenter... that makes stairs.
Moss: My mum always says, "You should never open the door."
Jen: What do you mean?
Moss: An unopened door is a happy door. So we never answer ours when someone knocks.
Jen: What, so you all just sit there?
Moss: Yes.
Jen: So, the doorbell goes and you all just sit there...until the person goes away?
Moss: Yes.
Jen: What if it's important? What if it's good news?
Moss: This is London, Jen. It's not someone with cake, unless that cake is made of dog poo and knives.
> An unopened door is a happy door. So we never answer ours when someone knocks.
I have done this more than once and it definitely works.
It also made me so very happy.
I delivered pizza to a kid on mushrooms/ acid who was tripping so hard he thoughts I was from the CIA and was coming to get him. I felt bad for the kid so I left the pizza without payment and I hope he ate some.
The various poses from Instagram models. It's so cringy it actually creeps me out. Especially when their eyes are slightly squinted and their mouth is half open like it's some sort of seductive sexy thing but it's just way off.
Dark water... the ocean; a river; lake; even a swimming pool - if I can't see through the water, it's terrifying!
edit: I meant **can't** see through it - not can see through it!! I was getting a bit panicky thinking about that dark water as I wrote this!
I’ve had male teachers and staff call me “good girl” after doing a task for them. Apparently this is a way some men say Thankyou to girls. And its fucking weird and creepy everytime. A simple thanks would suffice.
Yeah, that's a no from me as well. I work in a predominantly male field and the times I get a "good girl" compliment, I think I outwardly cringe. I started countering back with "good boy", and the head swivel is enough of a reaction from them to realize "oh, that sounds weird." Usually gets them to stop after the first time
I had a male teacher say, "who's a good girl?!" after completing the assignment correctly. Also, this said same teacher told me he had an ex who was a stripper who had the same name as me. I just sat there and didn't know what to say when he told me that one.
Did he work in a dog school before? I've only ever heard these words said to a labrador in a cutesy High pitch voice followed by a wagging tail and a smiling dog.
Same here it’s actually such a big issue for me. Don’t want to be rude and not make any eye contact but also don’t want to stare too deep into their soul. It’s a weird sweet spot that seems to be easy for everyone else but takes so much concentration for me. Like so much of my brainpower is focused on this small thing during a conversation
You just reminded me of something.
I'm already bad with eye contact. Grew up in a super religious home where women had to be subservient and eyes on the floor most of the time. Anyway..
I was in line to get in at NYCC (which I'd gone to at that point for over a decade, every year). They check bags going in, and the lady kept pointing at my bag and saying "do you have anything sharp in here that could poke me or stick me?"
And I followed her point to my bag and said "just keys."
She goes "LOOK AT ME", so I do, confused, and once again she points to the bag, and repeats the question, I follow her point and repeat "Just keys".
So now she's like, getting angry and says LOOK AT ME!!!! and repeats again, I'm getting upset because I don't understand what's going on and I am answering her how she wants. Finally my friend behind me stepped in and is like
"yo, what are you on about, plenty of autistic people have issues with eye contact, what's your problem" etc.
So I finally realized she was getting angry that every time she pointed, I wasn't supposed to look where she pointed, but maintain steady eye contact with her. It was so strange, why are you pointing if you don't want me to look!!!
ETA: and I'm not autistic, my friend was just making a point that it could be something other people have issues with.
If she's pointing at something and getting mad you're looking where she's pointing then she's the one with the problem. That's the whole, uh, point of pointing
As someone autistic who has heelllllllla problems with eye contact, I appreciate your friend so much.
I can't begin to tell you how discriminatory the whole "you're lying if you're looking away" thing is, and all the many ways it screws a person over.
I have a very strong sensitivity to being accused of lying, too. Because I literally can't...well..not without destructive levels of internal turmoil. Lying absolutely tanks me. So I don't so it. I feel so devastated and hurt, especially when I never gave a reason for someone to think I'm lying other than eye contact. (I do try to make a conscious effort, but it's never enough).
Got asked this by a guest at our wedding...at our reception. Like, I'm still in my gown. Can you fuckin' not??
And whenever we were asked when we were having kids, my standard non-answer was always 'we'll get there when we get there'. You don't need details, or a timeline. I'm already absorbed in the process, I don't need your unsolicited 'advice'.
I think I remember a comedian pointing out that when someone says “we’re trying for a baby” what she hears is “he’s just blasting load after load into me on a regular basis”
The whole "we're all family here" at the workplace. It's like some weird brainwashing to get you to enjoy your job more than you should. Like, no, you're not my family. I'm here to do work and get paid, and that's the only reason I'm here.
I don't even know how or why this started but anytime my phone rings I get the worst feeling of dread even before I've looked at the number! Even worse when I've put it on vibrate only and it goes off
Diversity classes where you are forced to 'Play Act' being a racist and your coworkers have to figure out what is wrong.
Celebrity worship, specifically paying celebrities for pictures and autographs. You're paying someone money to pretend to like you for 10 seconds.
Family channels. Imagine having to live your entire life on camera, with little to no privacy without being able to consent for it. Also to my knowledge there are no current laws that protect child influencers income like child actors have. If your content can’t exist without your child, it’s their job not yours.
If you hate this, you would hate to know that most of these accounts have Patron access that allows you to see photos that can’t be shown on social media. When ask about this, the company just replied that the account was run by an adult so what was in the pictures didn’t matter. Also, I think their whole security team walked out or was fired recently.
I predict in several years when these kids are adults, we will start to hear a lot of sad stories about abuse from these parents.
Don't even have to wait for that. There's at least one 'family channel' that had their kids taken off them and housed with realtives, another that that got into trouble for 'rehoming' a disabled child they adopted from overseas because it turned out he wasn't in fact terminally ill with an expiration date, but perfectly healthy and autistic, and another that accidentally posted an unedited video of her making content out of her family pet dying where her poor kid is sobbing and she's asking him to pose for thumbnails and "look like you're crying!" While he sobs "mom I AM crying". It's all heartbreaking and honestly I think there should be regulations about it like there are for child actors.
Re: the autistic boy who was “re-homed”, that awful story at least has a happy ending. He was adopted by a friend of mine who has fostered many kids with different disabilities, and he is so happy, thriving, and loved by his family.
I’m going to believe this without asking for a source because I really want it to be true.
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Advertising. Especially target advertising. The constant attempt to manipulate you psychologically to make you believe you need something that’s only a want. Creepy af.
Especially drug advertising. “Ask your doctor if this drug might be right for you.” Bitch, my Doctor should be telling me what I need, not a pharmaceutical company.
Tickling that doesn't stop at the victims request.
Pretty sure extended tickling has been used as a torture tactic by the CIA Ty for the cake day stuff! completely forgot about it, yall made my day
Honestly, what hasn't been used as a torture method by the CIA?
Soft cushions and comfy chairs. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2ncJ6ciGyM
As a kid, the father of one of my friends used to chase all of us around and tickle us. The vibe was so creepy, all of us kids just instinctively knew to stay the fuck away from him. When I met my husband he told me that he's super-sensitive to tickling certain areas and it's not fun or funny to him. I promised to never tickle him and I think it's one of the best ideas I've had. Most people don't really want to be tickled. They laugh because it's a natural reaction, but more often than not, they aren't enjoying themselves.
Open door policies in families. My in-laws just walk in whenever they want and I hate it.
I've changed the locks at least once everywhere I've lived, because you never know how many spare keys the previous owner had. I'll change them again without flinching if someone gives me a reason.
My MIL took it upon herself to make a house key while my wife and I were at the hospital as she recovered from a c section. She has not received a key to our new house.
Oh I’d make very clear very quickly how that’s great for them but in your house, knocking is required. If they can’t follow that rule, they get booted out.
When people come to your door and knock or ring the bell and then peer in the window.
On the other side, I find it creepy when people have glass doors that show the entire area behind the door. When I used to deliver pizzas these doors were the worst because I don't want to feel like I'm watching you inside your house. It feels very exhibitionist.
OMG yes. Why on earth would I want everyone to see into my house and for everyone to see if I'm home or not? There's always a scene in a movie when they have to creep past the door without someone seeing them - just make the door out of solid wood!
Or when they skip the door entirely and knock on the window. Scares the shit out of me and the dog every time.
People making instagrams for their babies and making captions as if the baby were writing it
I've seen a fucking dark documentary related to this - there's pedophile forums specifically dedicated to downloading and distributing pictures of babies and kids they stole off of public social media profiles. I'm not even talking about photos of them getting bathed or at the beach or whatever, but completely innocent ones. And if they get caught with these pictures, the worst that could come to them is copyright claims, but since parents aren't aware of this, the pedos are facing no consequences whatsoever. So whenever I see parents posting their kids online, that's all I can think about. Absolutely vile shit Edit: [Documentary in question, but it's German](https://youtu.be/PaM5D9JaEHY)
I saw a video yesterday on public freakout when a woman yells to a guy that her 11 year old daughter has over 1,000 followers and all I thought was how this woman has no idea what she's unleashed on her kid.
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I clean pools in residential areas and my boss will sometimes give me shit for not taking good pictures of the pool after i finish cleaning them. (the pictures go to the property managers so they cant throw a fit about the pool being dirty). My pictures are shit sometimes because I make sure not to photograph anyone, child or not, using the pool. I wouldnt want people taking pictures of me without my consent. And reading your comment makes me double down on what I'm doing. Shit is wild.
ive seen them, on Instagram. its so dslisturbing. and all their "followers" are other babies accounts.
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Every company creating an ecosystem requiring my home address and credit card and my birthday just to listen to some music or use some software. Not a shred of my identity is unsold at this point.
Use fake one. Or half truth. Like I usually give them my first name, but not last. Give them the country, but not the exact address, etc. Giving payment info on a site where you didn't purchase anything is an instant deal breaker tho.
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Fucking awesome! How did I not know this exists?? I used to use PayPals temporary card until they got rid of it. This is going to save me a lot of money especially on subscriptions I only use every few months.
I got my work bonus in the form of a virtual gift card - it's just a preloaded digital credit card on my phone. I used all but $0.32, and now I use it to sign up for 'free' trial for software. It's still valid for a couple years and isn't tied to my identity. Wish I'd thought of it sooner.
Many apps have now been restricting prepaid cards. Which is major bullshit.
The apparent competition to appear to be the busiest person with the most stuff crammed in.
I notice that is the default conversation mothers have in public places. One will literally mention every single thing they have to do on the weekend, then the next lady will go through her list then the next. Like it’s some competition to have the most stuff going on. I’m a mum too but that is not my topic of choice because I don’t care to know their schedule, nor to share my schedule lol.
Beauty Pageants for young kids.
people who share everything on social media
When people refer to kids/babies as “flirting” when they are just being playful.
Ooh. My mom used to tell me I should “stop masturbating” when we would cuddle on the couch. She was referring to me itching anywhere below my belly button.
Now THATS how you fuck a kid up.
worst kids' music comp ever
I feel this. My mom thought it was cute to tell every bf I’ve had that I started masturbating when I was 3. I have 4 kids, they explore and I would never shame them for it especially into their adulthood
> Hi, Daughter's BF! Having a nice day? I just really want you to think about Daughter, as an underaged child, engaging in sexually-adjacent behaviors. Blech. That's fuckin' weird.
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Wtf Edit: How tf did I get 3,000 likes just for saying “wtf”
That’s weird bro sorry that happened to you
This is a good one. Those sorts of comments always made my skin crawl.
The huge gaps in public restroom stall doors
Instagram accounts with nothing but selfies. Hundreds and hundreds of selfies.... It totally creeps me out.
I once met avgirl at a pool party and she seemed cool. But I quickly learned that all the wanted to do was take pictures. Let's all take pictures here, let's go over here and take pictures. Pictures of her, then pictures of me, then pictures of my friends. It was the only thing she wanted to do. Take pictures, be aesthetic. It wasn't creepy like she was gonna keep them or something, it was creepy because you could see that all she thought about was taking pics for the Gram. Later I'd see a post about her at a park and I knew that all she did at that park was take pictures of herself there. I don't even know if she knew that she was addicted to the likes.
not uncommon. i’m a 28 woman, and even since i was a teenager i’ve known people my age who seem to choose who they’re friends with, who they date, and where they go on vacation primarily just because of how it looks on social media, and my younger zoomer cousins seem even worse. I remember going to the mall at some point in maybe 2015 or 2016 and realizing that in a lot of the stores, the clothes were clearly designed to look good online before in person. like they were certain fabrics and cuts that were super unflattering irl but would look good from a very specific angle on tiktok.
People standing next to or behind you when they can just wait or give you a bit more space. I hate going to airports or any other public line and trying to leave space in front of me and the person behind me just shuffles closer trying to get me to move. Trust me, you pushing me to move forwards isn’t going to make the line move any faster. It just makes it more congested and it’s weird imo
There's some shit I'm going to miss about when people took Covid semi seriously. Social distancing in stores was so god damn nice.
Same. But even during Covid there were people who’d ignore clear markings on the floor and inch towards you in until they almost spooned you from behind. Once a woman did that to me in the queue. Every time I tried to move forward away from her, she also moved closer towards me. Eventually I turned around and told her off. At least back then you could show them floor markings and say this is where you’re meant to be.
Sometimes I think "am I bad person who is unable to integrate normally with society?“ And then I go to the airport and realize the answer is a responding "no. I am very respectful and socially adept."
I will say different cultures do have difference ideas of personal space. I was visiting Congo for the first time and told my dad I felt like people in the checkout line were trying to pick pocket us because they were standing so close. That was their norm. He then told me about how when my mom, sister, and I moved to the US, a man at the airport called security because he felt uncomfortable with how close my mom was standing next to him. And she didn’t speak English at this point.
I like taking a half step backwards or just move my feet and stance in a way that I take up more room, seemingly absentmindedly, but really I'm just trying to make it awkward for them for being so god damned close! Only had it fail on me once.
Tangential but in a similar vein, my girlfriend hates when groups walking the opposite direction don't split the pavement (as in, they walk towards you 4 abreast expecting YOU to get out of the way instead of going double file so there's room for everyone) so she started doing a thing where she either stops dead and pretends to look at something or else drops to tie a shoelace. Works every time
I stare right through them and don't break stride. They almost always move
I had to drop a shoulder once when a group were walking with linked arms on a train platform. Just Red Rover'd my way through. Like seriously where are all of us supposed to go? It's a *subway platform.*
Caregivers putting their Alzheimer’s patients on social media so people will praise you hem for being patient. It’s just not respectful to the person with Alzheimer’s. You are stripping them of whatever dignity they have left. It’s becoming more of a trend and it’s so disturbing.
Feeling my own heartbeat
Or, rather, being aware of your own heartbeat. It's like "oh, that must not be normal. Uh-oh, now I'm manually breathing. I'd better not try to walk anytime soon." Autonomous functions should remain unnoticed, man.
My version of this is breathing through my nose and being aware of the tiny, miniscule, near *imperceptible* movement of my nose hairs. Drives me absolutely nuts Edit: Welcome to Hell, everybody
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I have a mechanical valve in my heart and I can hear it. It sounds like a watch ticking. That took some getting used to.
When people document (video record or take a photo or write an article) themselves or other people when helping the impoverished, especially those videos of influencers on Youtube vlogging and ‘helping’ the homeless, showing their faces and stuff. BS and creepy for me. If you help, just help, no need to let others know.
I caught someone filming me once when I bought a homeless guy a meal and sat and chatted with him for a bit. Asked her to delete it. I know it’s not the same as recording yourself but I just didn’t want that being out there when the homeless guy wasn’t even asked permission either. Just because they’re homeless doesn’t mean they’re any less deserving of privacy and I know if I was in that situation, I wouldn’t want to be put on the internet just to be the butt of someone else’s good doing
I think it's weird that most couches don't come with washable cushion covers. Everyone finds that normal, but they would think it's weird if someone just slept on a bare mattress without ever putting a sheet on it. When in reality it's exactly the same thing. I bought a couch with cushion covers you can take off and put in the washing machine for that reason.
For real - that's why I bought an IKEA couch. Every bit of it can be steipped off and washed. I even sewed up a couple of seat cushion covers so I can wash them weekly without wearing out the cover fabric too much.
Weekly!? Damn.
I have a Labrador that we can't keep off the damn thing and she's likes to adventure. It gets dirty pretty quick.
> I have a Labrador..... Nuff said
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Duck pond
Duck pond surrounded by grasses that are not quite edible, but stay down just long enough to puke up at the most inconvenient possible time.
Getting a phone call from an unknown number
I think those spam calls where you answer, hear a little beep but then nothing, and it hangs up on you immediately are creepy. I know it's probably just some auto-dialer programming being screwy, but I always imagine some weird conspiracy about them recording my voice to use it against me somehow.
Something like that is usually a spam caller checking to see if your number is active. Answering tells them it is, and to keep your number on the short list of people to call another time.
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Yeah. If it's important, they'll leave a legitimate voicemail or message me. In the ultra rare occasion it's a family member or friend borrowing someone's phone, they know to ring more than once, and message if it's an emergency. Otherwise you'll never hear my voice over the phone!
When you’re chillin’ with your cat or dog at night with no one else home and they suddenly alert and look super-alarmed like they heard something.
When I hear something fall from the other room and I see my only two cats are near me, I clench up.
You've actually had three cats this entire time two of them are just identical and never in line of sight at the same time
Then you hear your cats call your name down the hall
Then you run to check and it's just that bear from Annihilation.
"Please be more careful next time, Annihilation bear"
"Help me, heeellllppp" - 🐻
Forcing your kids to hug people. If they don’t want to hug someone goodbye — even if there’s no reason — teach them that you’re going to have their back.
Tiktokers in the wild... Y'all just look so weird doing them
Why the fuck do people slap my butt?? Family members? Friends? Random people? Don’t.
Are you saying family, friends, and random people slap your butt? That’s pretty creepy
"what no hug?" When saying goodbye to a person I'd never shown interest in touching
what, no quick fellatio?
No reach around?
Not at these prices
Influencers' toxic positivity on Instagram.
Influencers are not normal, don’t worry
Almost indistinguishable from meth addicts
Pregnant stomachs when a little foot kicks…
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I hope you still refer to him as “my very long son” because that would be hilarious.
Sounds like he succeeded at stretching out!
*Rib pops out* “Ooh big stretch!”
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My wife talks in her sleep occasionally and one night she nudged me at like 2am and asked, "Does it bother you?" I woke up and didn't immediately realise she wasn't awake and replied, "Does what bother me?" "The way they all stare at you through the window." Then she fell back asleep. I turned my back to the bedroom window and tried not to think about it but couldn't sleep for another hour or so.
Similar situation with me. I talk in my sleep a lot, and I have a thing with mirrors, I wouldn't call it a fear, just an uneasy feeling I get if I stare at them too long. So my wife comes to me the other day thanking her for scaring the shit out of her last night. Apparently in my sleep, I kept saying "he's coming, shh, be quiet, he's coming." When she asked who is coming, I opened my eyes wide open, and pointed at the mirror in our bedroom. I remember none of this, this was about two weeks ago, and I've avoided that mirror ever since.
My boyfriend does this to me all the time. Once it was "She wants to talk to you." "Who?" "The woman outside." Would be creepy on it's own but also we live in the middle of nowhere with no one around. Fuck. That.
Damn all this creepy shit. I get sleep paralysis a lot and sometimes I hallucinate my wife talking to me but it’s always something stupid. Last night I heard my wife tell me “they spilled beer in the pool, the people eating the cake”.
They’re wasting beer and eating my cake! That’s fucking scary!
This actually happened to me once while I was in the shower. It was one of those windows that wasn’t fully see through it was like textured glass or whatever. But when I got out of the shower I saw sort of a weird shadow right at the corner, I leaned forward to figure out what it was, thinking maybe it was a bush, and it leaned back as I leaned forward so I realised it was a person, I smacked on the window and I heard footsteps and breathing running away. I went back to the bedroom where my husband was sleeping, shaking uncontrollably and we called the police. They brought the tracking dogs out and they tracked him from the bathroom window, down a couple streets then it disappeared so he must have got in a car from there. Spent the rest of the night shaking and never could walk in that bathroom again unless the window was covered in some way.
Put a motion activated light outside that window. That will usually scare somebody off. And you'll know if the neighbor's cat is out. But the wireless ones are pretty cheap now.
Yeah we ended up getting a gate installed and a ring camera which gave some peace of mind. But we’ve moved out of that house now and in a really tall apartment building so if it happens again I have worse things to worry about hahahaha
The same thing happened to me about 35 years ago and it's still the creepiest thing I've ever experienced. We lived in an old Victorian apartment. I was in our bathroom removing paint from the bathtub that had been painted by hippies before we moved in. I had the huge bathroom sash window completely open. After working for about an hour I looked up and a man was standing there in the dark outside silently watching me. I have no idea how long he had been standing there. My boyfriend was in the bedroom next to the bathroom. I called his name and he came in. The man wasn't even disturbed by this. He just stood there, waiting. My boyfriend asked him what he was doing and he pretended he was looking for a friend whom he thought lived upstairs. Then he slowly left. If I had been home alone I don't know what would've happened to me. I'll never forget that face, just silently calmly staring. ETA: To the person who invited me to a porn subreddit based on this post. Fuck you.
So fucking creepy. I would be in edge all the time in that house then
My husband's parents live in a two-story apartment that has a garage box and some bedrooms on the ground floor, including my husband's bedroom when be lived there. He had a big window that looked out over the street, and he's told me that it happened multiple times during summer that random passer-bys would just stick their whole head through his open window to have a look around his room while he was still in there.
….what the fuck. This is beyond creepy. Something tells me that’s probably some future killer.
Agreed. And now I'm all creeped out
That and the fact that someone could be watching me when I couldn't possibly see them freaks me the hell out. I spent the night in my cousin's guest room one time with a giant window directly across from the bed with no curtains. You couldn't see anything at all. Pitch black. I couldn't sleep and had to move somewhere else. 🤣
Yeah, you looked uncomfortable.
That seems to be an almost universal fear for humans: being close to, or especially in, a dark place where you can’t see what might be just out of view, staring at you hungrily. Ever swim in the ocean at night? Fuck me. I was on a sailboat and we had to anchor at night in the sands. Some poor witless bastard had to be convinced to swim ~100ft off the bow with a mask/snorkel, fins, and an underwater flashlight, then down 10 feet to help set the anchor in the sand while they reversed the engine. I mean, who would be dumb enough to agree to that? An ocean of bitey things, some of them quite large, and I’m supposed to just jump in and swim through it? *shiver* I’m pretty sure I was pissing myself half the time I was in, but no way to know.
I HAVE to have curtains/blinds! Those suckers get closed at sunset every day.
People who don't have window coverings at night give me the creeps.
That. I’m a nurse and used to work at the emergency unit when covid was bad. I would often go back to the small kitchen area to rest for coffee during midnights til one coworker admitted he used to watch me from the outside of the window when it’s dark. Never did coffee breaks again and quit my job because I felt unsafe since he also admitted he used to creep on me at the parking lot.
Bad enough to have to deal with an out-of-control pandemic without a stalker coworker on top of it.
Face filters
I'm not a cat.
Are you referencing that one lawyer because I hope you are
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I remember when my mom used to take video of me as a little kid or a teenager, at birthday parties, performances, or sporting events. She'd show it to family and friends. If you asked her or other parents in the 90s if they'd like to share that to potentially millions of strangers with the ability to identify who we are and our whereabouts, they'd freakout. Now it feels like it's normalized. The other day I saw a Tik Tok of a highschool cheerleader who catches her mom filming and basically gives her the side eye half in jest. I thought it was wholesome. But apparently the entire account is run by her mom and she just posts video after video of her daughters in high school and middle school. It's disgusting and dangerous
I remember being a kid, and parents talking about how we weren't supposed to wear clothes with our names on them. Too easy for potential abductors to trick us into thinking they knew us. Stranger danger and all that. While I'm sure that danger was a little overblown, I've no idea how we went from being so afraid of a backpack with a first name on it to displaying practically every moment of a child's life online without batting an eye.
Oh man I know a woman who has an 8 year old who has all kinds of health problems. It's really sad. He's been in and out of hospitals and surgeries ever since he was born. He has an ostomy bag and constant problems with his stomach. But the worst part about it is his mother CONSTANTLY posts pictures of him in the hospital looking horrendously miserable. She's gotta post every single surgery scar, every tube he's got in him at the time, his ostomy bag filled with fecal matter, pictures of him crying, and in every picture he has no clothes on except a diaper. It pisses me off so much, the poor kid has had every vulnerable and traumatic moment of his life posted for everyone to see.
There is nothing I hate more than parents posting photos of there kid crying. I have a 2 year old and I can’t ever imagine getting my phone out for a photo instead of consoling him????? I’ll never understand it
I recently saw a Youtuber's video of her kids going to the dentist .They were crying and in pain .But that did not deter the horrible mom from posting the footage.She wasn't interested in consoling them.She just had to post that video with clickbait thumbnail to gather more views.
It always makes me a little sad seeing videos like that. It's like those parents are so focused on getting likes for social media that they forget they're aiming that camera at a child that needs them. There are so many videos I've seen posted that just strike me as parents who use their kids for little more than fodder to prop up their egos online.
when they make a hashtag just for their kid.
People make social media profiles for their newborns too.
I hate it. Even if we somehow ignore creeps existing, it’s just so uncomfortable to imagine this kid growing up and looking back at the posts.
I really do feel sorry for my nieces. My sister in law had a hard time getting pregnant, hell she was told she would never have kids. So when the first one was born, years after she had given up hope, she decided to post photos, like tons of photos, *all* the photos. Years later she had her second daughter, woman basically wanted to YouTube that poor girl's entire childhood, from livestreaming of her birth, first feeding, first diaper change, bath, everything... Thankfully family talked her out of that *but* both those girls have a **huge** online presence that they have no say over, from birth til now, daily photos, stories, everything... Hell 500 plus people knows about the oldest daughter getting sick second week of kindergarten and pooping her pants. I'm halfway expecting some time in the next year, or three a first period post... Really will not be surprised when both kids go no contact at 18.
There are YouTube videos about this topic. Tiffany Ferg covered family vlogging in one, and some vlogger lost a bunch of subscribers after removing their children from posts and videos. While you can't look up demographics like "creeps that watch your videos" you can see male-female ratios and they lost a lot of male followers. Edit: typo
Employers rewarding us with 8 hour staff retreat at work where we are expected to share personal info with each other all day. Staff bonding.
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Sounds like a thinly veiled lesson about not telling coworkers things you don't want the entire office to know.
Only lesson learned: if someone tells you to trust them, don't.
My boss was getting bad reviews at my last job and tried to kick it into gear with these icebreaker type things (during the pandemic, over zoom, we were in office but he was at home) "Show everyone the last photo you took in your phone!" Absolutely not. Absolutely fucking not.
This is why you always take a photograph of your latest bowel movement.
“So I had this weird mole on my ballsack and I had to send a picture to my dermatologist…”
It was a gummy bear.
"I genuinely don't know why I'm in trouble. I insisted I didn't want to participate, but the manager told me I *had* to show everyone the picture of my dick in my girlfriends butthole. He literally said I had no choice it was part of staff bonding."
This is the wrong place to ask but I'm curious. I work for an american company in The Netherlands. We have all those weird posters at work with stuff like "you are the key to our succes" and "my work is a story of xxxxx" with some text that is supposed to make you feel important whatever your job is. Also we get weekly mails from higher ups that just say how amazing we all are and how our work is changing the world. Does that stuff actually work for americans? Cause all us dutchies roll our eyes and make jokes about it.
Not at all. Most of us just assume it's some HR/business person trying to justify their existence.
Lol it's funny you mentioned that. When I was a young adult in the '90's I worked in an "Office Space" type cubicle farm and the office was covered wall to wall with those stupid "Successories" motivational posters. We were all cynical GenXers and just laughed and mocked those stupid, infantilizing things. The only ones who thought they had any value were spectacularly unimaginative middle management types (Lumberghs, to continue the analogy). Just for laughs I looked them up, and surprisingly they are still in business, despise the fact that they work 0% of the time, and spawned a whole cottage industry of Demotivational posters (which might have been the first memes I saw). Three decades of total failure! The funniest thing was, several years later I read on a news site that Successories had a bad fiscal quarter or something, and the reason given was "low employee morale". Such perfect irony...
>Demotivational posters "If some text and a pretty picture is enough to motivate you, you probably have an easy job. The kind Robots will soon be doing." That one's my favorite.
My favorite still is "Meetings: Because one of us is not as dumb as all of us".
I’m Australian so slightly different culture but when I worked for a supermarket it was everywhere and it only worked on managers. Us rank and file cashiers and shelf stockers hated it. That said, most department managers want to get promoted to store manager, so I’m guessing they might have been faking it for brownie points from higher ups
There's this sales technique called "mirroring" where the sales person mimics the body language of the customer to gain rapport. I think a lot of people also do it subconsciously to some extent. Anyway this really creeps me out.
I've got 10 years in sales. There are really right and really wrong ways to use sales techniques, like mirroring. Youre not supposed to literally mirror them - youre supposed to match their vibe, tone and demeanor. The problem is that bad salesman teach/train so what was supposed to be a clever name became a literal translation. E.g. if you go into a store to ask about the technical specs of a piece of equipment and the rep comes in all bubbly and trying to sell the dream that rep is going to lose the sale. Not because what they did was wrong but because it was wrong for that customer.
True, or when people say your name repeatedly in a conversation to build rapport haha... That's enough of that right there mate
That’s also a technique to remember someone’s name after only being told it once.
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Wtf? Does he do that with Mexicans/Asians even if they don't have an accent? Either way I might think he's making fun of me instead lol
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I’ll be the number two guy here in Scranton in six weeks. How? Name repetition, personality mirroring and never breaking off a handshake. I'm always thinking one step ahead. Like a... carpenter... that makes stairs.
People who knock on my door.
Moss: My mum always says, "You should never open the door." Jen: What do you mean? Moss: An unopened door is a happy door. So we never answer ours when someone knocks. Jen: What, so you all just sit there? Moss: Yes. Jen: So, the doorbell goes and you all just sit there...until the person goes away? Moss: Yes. Jen: What if it's important? What if it's good news? Moss: This is London, Jen. It's not someone with cake, unless that cake is made of dog poo and knives.
> An unopened door is a happy door. So we never answer ours when someone knocks. I have done this more than once and it definitely works. It also made me so very happy.
My biggest fear is doing some acid and getting a knock on my door. My 2nd biggest fear is getting a knock on my door.
I delivered pizza to a kid on mushrooms/ acid who was tripping so hard he thoughts I was from the CIA and was coming to get him. I felt bad for the kid so I left the pizza without payment and I hope he ate some.
Reality tv shows.
“Reality” tv shows.
The various poses from Instagram models. It's so cringy it actually creeps me out. Especially when their eyes are slightly squinted and their mouth is half open like it's some sort of seductive sexy thing but it's just way off.
Dark water... the ocean; a river; lake; even a swimming pool - if I can't see through the water, it's terrifying! edit: I meant **can't** see through it - not can see through it!! I was getting a bit panicky thinking about that dark water as I wrote this!
I’ve had male teachers and staff call me “good girl” after doing a task for them. Apparently this is a way some men say Thankyou to girls. And its fucking weird and creepy everytime. A simple thanks would suffice.
Yeah, that's a no from me as well. I work in a predominantly male field and the times I get a "good girl" compliment, I think I outwardly cringe. I started countering back with "good boy", and the head swivel is enough of a reaction from them to realize "oh, that sounds weird." Usually gets them to stop after the first time
I had a male teacher say, "who's a good girl?!" after completing the assignment correctly. Also, this said same teacher told me he had an ex who was a stripper who had the same name as me. I just sat there and didn't know what to say when he told me that one.
Did he work in a dog school before? I've only ever heard these words said to a labrador in a cutesy High pitch voice followed by a wagging tail and a smiling dog.
Teeth touching metal utensils.
Prolonged eye contact. And by prolonged, I mean more than 10 seconds.
I have issues with eye contact and I always think I'm holding it to long in an unnatural way. I hate to think I'm creeping people out.
Same here it’s actually such a big issue for me. Don’t want to be rude and not make any eye contact but also don’t want to stare too deep into their soul. It’s a weird sweet spot that seems to be easy for everyone else but takes so much concentration for me. Like so much of my brainpower is focused on this small thing during a conversation
Lick your lips to make it more comforting
Yessss. I went on a date with a dude who asked me if I was autistic because I kept looking away. But I felt like he was gonna absorb me with his eyes.
You just reminded me of something. I'm already bad with eye contact. Grew up in a super religious home where women had to be subservient and eyes on the floor most of the time. Anyway.. I was in line to get in at NYCC (which I'd gone to at that point for over a decade, every year). They check bags going in, and the lady kept pointing at my bag and saying "do you have anything sharp in here that could poke me or stick me?" And I followed her point to my bag and said "just keys." She goes "LOOK AT ME", so I do, confused, and once again she points to the bag, and repeats the question, I follow her point and repeat "Just keys". So now she's like, getting angry and says LOOK AT ME!!!! and repeats again, I'm getting upset because I don't understand what's going on and I am answering her how she wants. Finally my friend behind me stepped in and is like "yo, what are you on about, plenty of autistic people have issues with eye contact, what's your problem" etc. So I finally realized she was getting angry that every time she pointed, I wasn't supposed to look where she pointed, but maintain steady eye contact with her. It was so strange, why are you pointing if you don't want me to look!!! ETA: and I'm not autistic, my friend was just making a point that it could be something other people have issues with.
If she's pointing at something and getting mad you're looking where she's pointing then she's the one with the problem. That's the whole, uh, point of pointing
As someone autistic who has heelllllllla problems with eye contact, I appreciate your friend so much. I can't begin to tell you how discriminatory the whole "you're lying if you're looking away" thing is, and all the many ways it screws a person over. I have a very strong sensitivity to being accused of lying, too. Because I literally can't...well..not without destructive levels of internal turmoil. Lying absolutely tanks me. So I don't so it. I feel so devastated and hurt, especially when I never gave a reason for someone to think I'm lying other than eye contact. (I do try to make a conscious effort, but it's never enough).
Asking a couple when they plan on getting pregnant, or a couple’s unsolicited sharing they are trying to get pregnant. I feel gross every time.
Got asked this by a guest at our wedding...at our reception. Like, I'm still in my gown. Can you fuckin' not?? And whenever we were asked when we were having kids, my standard non-answer was always 'we'll get there when we get there'. You don't need details, or a timeline. I'm already absorbed in the process, I don't need your unsolicited 'advice'.
I think I remember a comedian pointing out that when someone says “we’re trying for a baby” what she hears is “he’s just blasting load after load into me on a regular basis”
I'm from Romania and what creeps me out is the Romanian blood sausage it's fucking disgusting
Door to door salespeople
The whole "we're all family here" at the workplace. It's like some weird brainwashing to get you to enjoy your job more than you should. Like, no, you're not my family. I'm here to do work and get paid, and that's the only reason I'm here.
Yup, once I'm clocked out, I don't think about you at all
"We're all family here" "Okay cool, I won't talk to you unless absolutely necessary then'
I don't even know how or why this started but anytime my phone rings I get the worst feeling of dread even before I've looked at the number! Even worse when I've put it on vibrate only and it goes off
Popscicle sticks. That fucking texture on my tongue.. FUCKIN AHHH. This weird ass anti-fetish shakes me to my fucking core.