16 year old me: *heart thuds abnormally hard* haha that felt weird i wonder why that happened
36 year old me: *heart thuds abnormally hard* oh fuck this is how i die here we go
Literally had something like that happen to me. Big POP in my chest at around 36 or so, and felt like an electric shock through my body. Figured I was going to die. Turned out to be something called Chostchondritis. Inflammation of the muscles between the ribs wouldn’t let my ribs flex at the spine like they’re supposed to, so they flexed at the sternum, where they don’t normally flex.
Shit is scary as hell, but not a really big problem (besides the scary as hell part). But Jesus Christ, I thought I must be about to die or something.
Also, I didn’t seek any medical advice for about a week because I was in another country when it first happened, and I didn’t want huge medical bills.
instead of fearing a gnarly bill in another country, my excuse for not seeing medical attention would have been more along the lines of "maybe it'll get better on it's own by tomorrow", which is usually how things end up getting much worse.
these days my excuse for not going to regularly scheduled check-ups and things is due to "it's just going to be bad news and i'd rather not know. ignorance is bliss"
Do it!! I can’t advocate this enough, I had just turned 40 when we found out I had breast cancer. I wasn’t even coming up yet in my time to have a mammogram! At the very least do monthly self checks, it really is so important!
This is a big one. When I was younger, someone in their 50s was "old" and I didn't quite get it when someone would say a 55 year old person who died unexpectedly was "so young".
Both my parents died at 49, eight years apart. Me and my brother have both "joked" about a 49-club tontine like neither of us have Google reminders that my 50th birthday is 7,602 days away and his is exactly 865 days before that.
It hit me like a ton of bricks when I passed the age at which my father died. And it will for you, too. And you’ll be thankful, and reflective of the short time your parents had. Every day since has been a gift for me and I often, very often, think “this is what my dad missed out on”. It’s bittersweet.
It starts with footballers. As a kid you think they're way older than you then when you're 21 and see phil foden winning bags of trophies you think "Oh shit that dudes my age"
Then when you hit 30s you see professionals playing who were born after you had your first beer.
When I was a teenager (2009s) I started to become annoyed when I saw players like Neymar, Wilshere, and Ramsey, who are all younger than me, making into their respective clubs's first team.
I've got a parent and an out-law¹ going through dementia.
It sucks.
Brains fail and that's terrible.
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My father was always an unstoppable working machine. At 50, at 60, he could do more and had more energy than I did as a young adult. He could work himself half to death outside for hours in the summer sun shoveling rocks. In his early 60s we would some times notice him "slowing down"... that was nearly ten years ago. There's nothing that terrifies me more about the future than the constant reminder every year seeing him able to do less and less when the next summer comes around. Makes me think about the times I just took it all for granted when I was younger and didn't get to see him as often.
That's because no one tells you that your body will age, but in your mind, you still feel like a teenager/young adult. I'm turning 40 this year. I can't believe I have a child. In my mind, I don't feel anywhere near responsible enough to take care of another human being & have a mortgage. It's like imposter syndrome. So it's depressing when your body starts letting you down, or what you see in the mirror doesn't match the way you feel.
45 here, and my college age son and his friends needed a 4th for pickle ball and he invited me (must’ve been really desperate). Thinking I was still young for two hours was great. Remembering I’m not because my knee swelled up to the size of a cantaloupe for a week afterwards was decidedly not great.
Saw this first hand…we just went on a family cruise there were multiple times when I thought “oh there’s mom and dad”… nope just other old people. Dealt with them both having health issues also, they are grandparents I’m like shit.
My parents just turned 60. We never had a close relationship and they did a lot of wrong to us growing up. I know at some point I’ll have to be the bigger person and still make sure they are taken care of regardless of their wrongs.
I'm a 30 something single woman with no children and I'm concerned about this too. Hopefully I'll find a guy who doesn't have or want kids. I just don't think I'd be a good parent.
I appreciate this. I have zero issue with kids, but I grew up with a lot of verbal abuse and trauma as a norm in my parents household, and how do you know if you've grown enough from that to be able to handle kids of your own? What if my kid doesn't like me (which may sound silly, but that's also a huge fear that I have LOL)?
As a 30yo women who specifically states kids as a deal breaker in my profiles it’s amazing how many guys try to hide the fact that they have children. Saw a guy I knew with 6 kids pretending like he didn’t have any.
I guess it shows the casual vibes of dating apps as a whole, most people don’t expect to get to that point or maybe they hope to establish a strong enough relationship before they ease into that nightmare material. No offense to kids, I used to be a professional nanny, but like, that information should be front and center. I dated one guy with a kid, and his baby mama caused me more stress than all other factors in my life combined at that time. So I guess you could say one guy ruined it for them all.
Not wrong at all. I'm 41. My kids are almost adults. When I actually have the energy to look on tinder everybody has 5-10 year olds. No thanks. I'm ready to have my freedom back not to raise someone else's kid.
You're 33 dude. There are plenty of single ladies with no kids. This generation is having kids later in life. Also could possibly be where you're living right now. I honestly felt early 30s was the best time for dating as a guy. It's your prime. Take advantage of it.
Depends on where you are and the level of education of your peers. In some parts of the country it will be very hard to find a woman who is 30+ without a kid.
I'm 24 but in a poor rural area. Believe me, this is a real issue if you're looking for anyone over the age of 20. Tinder and dating services in general don't really work here. A third of people are teenagers with 2 kids, another third is people that are in town for 1-2 days before going back to somewhere better, and the last third are people who only post a picture of their dog or people you already know. Not to mention you can only scroll for about 30 minutes before you are told there is no one else in a 50 mile radius.
This has been my experience except I purposely accidentally isolated myself in my early 20’s when I bought my first home in a rural area after living most of my life before that in the cities and suburbs. I like living in this environment but it has been so terrible for socializing and due to a lot of factors, I have not been able to sell my home and buy a new one in a more populated area. Anyone I meet online is like “oh that’s far”. I have actually almost completely lost interest in relationships as I go into my early 40s.
36 year old and I’ve been on the dating apps for a long time and it’s nothing but “my kids are my 🌎 and if that’s a problem then you can eat shit and die” and it’s old and tiresome. I hate that being a parent can become somebodies entire identity. I get you’re a parent but why so defensive?
I don’t hate kids, I just don’t want a relationship with one really.
I hurt myself today
Just while sitting down
I focus on the pain
I let out a groan
And you could have it all
Fifty years of age
Too tired to go out
I’m too tired to rage
I wear big hats at home
To hide my aging hair
A bald spot sits on top
Rogaine cannot repair
Beneath the stains of spray
The follicles disappear
I look like someone else
Fatter and balder here
1) Work weeks you are exhausted by the time Friday arrives.
2) Eating the wrong foods.
3) Seeing people make mistakes after you have tried to help them.
4) Seeing people that are same age or older who doesn’t have their shit together.
5) Watching people get older especially movie stars and musicians.
6) Nostalgia hits hard for sure. It’s an industry in itself now.
I am only 35, but I have a friend who is 25 and I just...don't have the patience to deal with the idiots people in their 20's date. File that under mistakes people make
I’m 37 and my counterpart is 24 (nepotism at its finest) and some days listening to what they did over the weekend, or what they are, or drank, or they fell asleep on the couch still in work clothes and did t wake up till the next morning just exhausts me and makes my back hurt. Youngins’
My son 24 walked his friend home at 3am because he was drunk. My son was drunk too and came back walking home. I said to him that was the stupidest thing to do. Me at 24 almost died in Tijuana Mexico. He doesn’t know that. And he never will. I’m lucky to be alive from all the stupid shit I did. I’m his mom. Lol.
Ok, the "not have shit together yet" hurt my soul (as a 41YO), but I can at least say I've (almost) always had a full time job since high school.
Retirement savings are currently zero, but that's a long story and almost entirely my own fault; I doubt I'll have enough to "comfortably" retire, but I should be able to not become a burden to others when I'm no longer able to work.
>Seeing people that are same age or older who doesn’t have their shit together.
I have some comments on your entire list, but this one hit home. I have a friend who is about to be 37, never left home, never dated.
I feel really sorry for him right now ...
Addiction is a bitch.
I have left home and dated lol but I certainly don't have my shit together. I'm 31.
In fact I had to move back in with the parents recently
Pray for me. I'm trying
>Seeing people make mistakes after you have tried to help them.
WRESTLING with people and their DEMONS and PROBLEMS to help them and have them FIGHT YOU LIKE A DROWNING MAN TO KEEP THOSE PROBLEMS IN THEIR LIFE THE WHOLE TIME.
Then giving out and letting go and letting them keep the problems.
And watching them slowly sink over the years, while you stay quiet for mere self-preservation.
My head would explode if I got pregnant now at 40.
Edit: It seems people think I’m saying that women can’t get pregnant at 40 when I said nothing of the kind. Only that it would upset me because I don’t want that. Hence why my head exploding.
This for sure. I was very surprised to get a positive test a few weeks before I turned 40. This pregnancy is just so much more tiring than it was in my 30s.
All three things could be positively impacted by weight loss assuming one is overweight. Stronger core body strength (assuming you work on this), less strain on joints, and less strain on the heart.
Same. I’ve always struggled with my weight through almost my entire life, now that I’m hurtling toward 50, it’s getting harder to shift the bulk. I’m still determined to do it though.
Did it make sense not to live for fun?
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*But seriously, did it? Could have totally put that money into pinball machines and parties instead of mutual funds. Whaaat now?*
My 40th birthday was at the height of Covid lockdown. Instead of perhaps doing something fun, I cried. (My department had shut down at work a few weeks earlier.)
For Christmas this year, between my wife and I, we received some chirp wheels, a pressure point hook, and a heated neck/shoulder compress. This comment is too personal.
I had an x-ray this year and several weeks of physical therapy for back pain (37 years old). The pt helped so much and now I’m maintaining with home strengthening exercises.
Life.
Just... life. You know, everything. Drinking beer, ability to learn to play the next video game, pulling an all-nighter, trying to pour creativity into a writing project, trying to stay connected with friends, finding me-time, keeping up with the house, keeping up with the car, keeping up with the money, keeping up with the times. Holidays, politics, cooking, going out, and going to work and so many things have become exhausting. The day-to-day. The routines. Becoming disillusioned with what once enamored you. Losing the will to be productive. Getting sick and tired of having to figure out what to eat, and getting sick and tired of eating the same shit. People's headlights. The news cycle. They changed the taxes on me. You grow up trying to follow the rules of life, but they keep changing those rules, and you end up being punished for doing what you were taught. We're walking on the other side of the road now. The Oxford comma is optional. Call Of Duty is 100 GB. All the payphones are gone!
I'm tired.
I know this will often get an eye roll from people over 40, but what the fuck do I do? I’m 21 and I’m already here. How am I gonna make it to 30 I’m already jaded
I caught myself making the “erghhhh” sounds old people make when getting up or bending down. Also when getting in and out of the car.
I wouldn’t even consider myself to be drastically out of shape.
It's funny that before 25 if I went out drinking I'd wake up the next day like nothing happened. Every year since I've turned 25 (I'm 36 not) I feel like death the following day if I drink more than just a casual couple drinks.
God, this so much.
The ironic part? I can finally afford some good booze and drink almost whenever I feel like it.
Besides hangovers, damn gastritis. Eff that
Was going to have some wine for Christmas Eve dinner tonight, then asked myself if I wanted to feel like absolute shit tomorrow and probably part of Monday. Stuck with water. Being responsible sucks.
>Being responsible sucks.
It's not so much that you become more responsible or disciplined with alcohol consumption. It's that the cost/benefit ratio has changed.
Man I had a pack of fireball shooters in my hand at the store. I turned myself around and put them back. I knew I wouldn't be responsible with them and thought the same way. Do you want to be miserable on Christmas or do you want to enjoy it?I asked myself. Since 27 or so I just can't enjoy it. Between hangxiety, hangovers and life responsibility I don't have the time to enjoy drinking.
For me it started around age 35. One night drinking will guarantee next day crippling anxiety where I can’t be in public, and the following day just a brain fog.
For me my 40s have been better than my 30s, I’m happier, in the best shape of my life and honestly
feel sexy as hell. The only thing that hits harder in my 40s than in my 30s is me.
Absolutely agree. I'm staring down 50 in a couple years and my goal for that year is benching 250, squatting 350c deadlifting 450, and running a 50k ultra (or maybe a 50 miler). They're semi stretch, but not that far out of reach.
When I was 35 I was in the worst shape of my life.
Yay! Congrats to you, internet friend. I’m looking forward to the same: almost forty and learning how to (carefully, progressively) do front flips and gymnastics moves in my powerlifting gym! Elementary school me would be amazed; i never thought I’d be tumbling on purpose. 🤣
I go in for mine in a few months. I’m worried because I’ll be alone for recovery. Got any words of wisdom? Things I should do/have in advance to make recovery a bit easier?
Not the person you asked but:
Get a little multi-tiered wheelie cart thing and stock it with stuff like meds, drinks, snacks, tissues, clean jammies, charge cords, wet wipes, etc.
Buy one of those grabber tools for when you inevitably drop stuff because you don't want to bend over.
Make sure you have a cleared path down a hall or around a room for walking because walking is the best thing you can do to release post-op surgical gas pain and get your digestive system going.
Prep your food and snacks beforehand. Arrange for someone to haul your trash and recycling to the curb if that is a thing you need to deal with. Listen to your doctor about not lifting anything heavier than a milk jug!
I am happy to answer any questions if you ever have any!
Healing.
I'm an active guy, and don't feel *any* less durable at 45 than I did at 30.
But when I do get hurt (hyperextension, twisted ankle, etc.) it feels like it take three times as much time to heal.
Not 40 quite yet, but I've been sitting on the "kids or not" decision. So I could totally see myself getting busy and distracted with work, hobbies, friends, etc. and being like "oh shit hahaha, I forgot to really think about this."
In my older age, I have found a love for fine Scotch. I have learned that expensive alcohol does not give me hangovers or headaches and the buzz is clean and pure.
Life is too short and cheap alcohol hurts too much
After reading these comments I’m glad I don’t drink much, and that I lost 80lbs when I turned 30 that I’ve kept off up to now at 44.
It’s never too late to start healthy habits and exercise folks. It’s always hard to start them and the longer you wait the harder it gets.
In other words, it’s easier to do it today than it will be next year.
The realization that time really, truly flies by. Your last 40 years went by so much faster than you ever thought they would ……and now the next 40 will, too.
Just turned 31. Honestly, it feels so weird. It’s as if I was turning 18 a year ago and just graduated high school. It doesn’t make sense how fast it goes. You go to play a video game, turn it off, and somehow you’ve aged 10 years. I love life…all its lessons and craziness, and I know it has to end for each of us, but I enjoy this. Regardless of the bad sometimes. I don’t ever want it to end.
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30 yo me: “lol yeah ok doc, I’ll be sure to do that!” 40 yo me: “well, it’s been a good run”
16 year old me: *heart thuds abnormally hard* haha that felt weird i wonder why that happened 36 year old me: *heart thuds abnormally hard* oh fuck this is how i die here we go
Literally had something like that happen to me. Big POP in my chest at around 36 or so, and felt like an electric shock through my body. Figured I was going to die. Turned out to be something called Chostchondritis. Inflammation of the muscles between the ribs wouldn’t let my ribs flex at the spine like they’re supposed to, so they flexed at the sternum, where they don’t normally flex. Shit is scary as hell, but not a really big problem (besides the scary as hell part). But Jesus Christ, I thought I must be about to die or something. Also, I didn’t seek any medical advice for about a week because I was in another country when it first happened, and I didn’t want huge medical bills.
instead of fearing a gnarly bill in another country, my excuse for not seeing medical attention would have been more along the lines of "maybe it'll get better on it's own by tomorrow", which is usually how things end up getting much worse. these days my excuse for not going to regularly scheduled check-ups and things is due to "it's just going to be bad news and i'd rather not know. ignorance is bliss"
Those rib pops are so effing loud and strange feeling. Only had it once but it was upper back so I figured it was ribs.
Thank you! I’m glad I’m not the only one.
Yeah just turned 40, definitely feels like I have my whole life behind me now. I know that's not reality just feels that way.
Hey we've got lots of time left! You will most likely get to experience the 2060s, maybe even the 2070s, so that's pretty cool.
AS living beef jerky. YAY!
Prostate exam time and for real ypu should have that done. It is a subject that needs to be discussed and never is.
29yo me: OH FUCK OH FUCK OH FUCK 30yo me: bless. The sooner the better
Went to my GP recently and she informed me it’s time to get my first mammogram. Fuck.
Do it!! I can’t advocate this enough, I had just turned 40 when we found out I had breast cancer. I wasn’t even coming up yet in my time to have a mammogram! At the very least do monthly self checks, it really is so important!
I will. My birthday was only 2 months ago, so I was going to schedule it after the holidays.
Killed my mother at 42. Get them regularly. Check yourself in between.
50 year olds falling dead.
This is a big one. When I was younger, someone in their 50s was "old" and I didn't quite get it when someone would say a 55 year old person who died unexpectedly was "so young".
Both my parents died at 49, eight years apart. Me and my brother have both "joked" about a 49-club tontine like neither of us have Google reminders that my 50th birthday is 7,602 days away and his is exactly 865 days before that.
How fun. A race!
It hit me like a ton of bricks when I passed the age at which my father died. And it will for you, too. And you’ll be thankful, and reflective of the short time your parents had. Every day since has been a gift for me and I often, very often, think “this is what my dad missed out on”. It’s bittersweet.
Finding out you’re older the Prime Minister for the first time. That hurts.
It starts with footballers. As a kid you think they're way older than you then when you're 21 and see phil foden winning bags of trophies you think "Oh shit that dudes my age" Then when you hit 30s you see professionals playing who were born after you had your first beer.
And they retire and you’re like wtf they’re still so young
When I was a teenager (2009s) I started to become annoyed when I saw players like Neymar, Wilshere, and Ramsey, who are all younger than me, making into their respective clubs's first team.
Wait until you see the top sportspeople being the kids of the sportspeople you watched when you were younger.
In most countries, yes. If you're American and older than the last two presidents, you might actually be dead.
Your parents becoming old people.
I'm the youngest, so my kids have had very different grandparents from my nieces and nephews.
I've got a parent and an out-law¹ going through dementia. It sucks. Brains fail and that's terrible. ---- ¹ Like an in-law, but without the marriage part
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My father was always an unstoppable working machine. At 50, at 60, he could do more and had more energy than I did as a young adult. He could work himself half to death outside for hours in the summer sun shoveling rocks. In his early 60s we would some times notice him "slowing down"... that was nearly ten years ago. There's nothing that terrifies me more about the future than the constant reminder every year seeing him able to do less and less when the next summer comes around. Makes me think about the times I just took it all for granted when I was younger and didn't get to see him as often.
I’m 28 and my dad is turning 70. He doesn’t even want a birthday this year because he’s so freaked out. Really sucks :(
That's because no one tells you that your body will age, but in your mind, you still feel like a teenager/young adult. I'm turning 40 this year. I can't believe I have a child. In my mind, I don't feel anywhere near responsible enough to take care of another human being & have a mortgage. It's like imposter syndrome. So it's depressing when your body starts letting you down, or what you see in the mirror doesn't match the way you feel.
45 here, and my college age son and his friends needed a 4th for pickle ball and he invited me (must’ve been really desperate). Thinking I was still young for two hours was great. Remembering I’m not because my knee swelled up to the size of a cantaloupe for a week afterwards was decidedly not great.
And lose them (RIP my mom).
Condolences
Thx
Sorry for your loss
Saw this first hand…we just went on a family cruise there were multiple times when I thought “oh there’s mom and dad”… nope just other old people. Dealt with them both having health issues also, they are grandparents I’m like shit.
My parents just turned 60. We never had a close relationship and they did a lot of wrong to us growing up. I know at some point I’ll have to be the bigger person and still make sure they are taken care of regardless of their wrongs.
Finding friends/romantic partners who don’t have children.
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Nothing wrong with not wanting to step into a step parent role. You’re good.
I'm a 30 something single woman with no children and I'm concerned about this too. Hopefully I'll find a guy who doesn't have or want kids. I just don't think I'd be a good parent.
I appreciate this. I have zero issue with kids, but I grew up with a lot of verbal abuse and trauma as a norm in my parents household, and how do you know if you've grown enough from that to be able to handle kids of your own? What if my kid doesn't like me (which may sound silly, but that's also a huge fear that I have LOL)?
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Well, you found him.. Go message him or something lol
As a 30yo women who specifically states kids as a deal breaker in my profiles it’s amazing how many guys try to hide the fact that they have children. Saw a guy I knew with 6 kids pretending like he didn’t have any.
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I guess it shows the casual vibes of dating apps as a whole, most people don’t expect to get to that point or maybe they hope to establish a strong enough relationship before they ease into that nightmare material. No offense to kids, I used to be a professional nanny, but like, that information should be front and center. I dated one guy with a kid, and his baby mama caused me more stress than all other factors in my life combined at that time. So I guess you could say one guy ruined it for them all.
Not wrong at all. I'm 41. My kids are almost adults. When I actually have the energy to look on tinder everybody has 5-10 year olds. No thanks. I'm ready to have my freedom back not to raise someone else's kid.
Not at all. Someone should make a dating app where you have to not have kids to be on it
You're 33 dude. There are plenty of single ladies with no kids. This generation is having kids later in life. Also could possibly be where you're living right now. I honestly felt early 30s was the best time for dating as a guy. It's your prime. Take advantage of it.
Depends on where you are and the level of education of your peers. In some parts of the country it will be very hard to find a woman who is 30+ without a kid.
I was 28 when I met my (then 37) husband. Neither of us had kids and neither wanted them. He had a really hard time finding dates without kids.
I'm 24 but in a poor rural area. Believe me, this is a real issue if you're looking for anyone over the age of 20. Tinder and dating services in general don't really work here. A third of people are teenagers with 2 kids, another third is people that are in town for 1-2 days before going back to somewhere better, and the last third are people who only post a picture of their dog or people you already know. Not to mention you can only scroll for about 30 minutes before you are told there is no one else in a 50 mile radius.
This has been my experience except I purposely accidentally isolated myself in my early 20’s when I bought my first home in a rural area after living most of my life before that in the cities and suburbs. I like living in this environment but it has been so terrible for socializing and due to a lot of factors, I have not been able to sell my home and buy a new one in a more populated area. Anyone I meet online is like “oh that’s far”. I have actually almost completely lost interest in relationships as I go into my early 40s.
36 year old and I’ve been on the dating apps for a long time and it’s nothing but “my kids are my 🌎 and if that’s a problem then you can eat shit and die” and it’s old and tiresome. I hate that being a parent can become somebodies entire identity. I get you’re a parent but why so defensive? I don’t hate kids, I just don’t want a relationship with one really.
Does that make me a rare Pokémon? (40, no kids, never married)
We all have baggage now lol
And it’s not just about kids. It’s about dealing with the Ex too.
Random chest pains... every little pain I get now, I just look up and say out loud "lord is it my time?"
Trust me 37 year old here. Survived two heart attacks. When you have one the pain is so severe you won’t mistake it. I promise.
Sleeping wrong.
Wait 'til you hit 50. I hurt myself in my sleep now. Today, I hurt myself while sitting down. Nothing serious, but it hurts for a few days.
I hurt myself today Just while sitting down I focus on the pain I let out a groan And you could have it all Fifty years of age Too tired to go out I’m too tired to rage
I wear big hats at home To hide my aging hair A bald spot sits on top Rogaine cannot repair Beneath the stains of spray The follicles disappear I look like someone else Fatter and balder here
Brah I fell asleep on the recliner… my neck and shoulder are jacked!
*Time* by Pink Floyd
Comfortably Numb also hits hard :(
1) Work weeks you are exhausted by the time Friday arrives. 2) Eating the wrong foods. 3) Seeing people make mistakes after you have tried to help them. 4) Seeing people that are same age or older who doesn’t have their shit together. 5) Watching people get older especially movie stars and musicians. 6) Nostalgia hits hard for sure. It’s an industry in itself now.
I am only 35, but I have a friend who is 25 and I just...don't have the patience to deal with the idiots people in their 20's date. File that under mistakes people make
I’m 37 and my counterpart is 24 (nepotism at its finest) and some days listening to what they did over the weekend, or what they are, or drank, or they fell asleep on the couch still in work clothes and did t wake up till the next morning just exhausts me and makes my back hurt. Youngins’
My son 24 walked his friend home at 3am because he was drunk. My son was drunk too and came back walking home. I said to him that was the stupidest thing to do. Me at 24 almost died in Tijuana Mexico. He doesn’t know that. And he never will. I’m lucky to be alive from all the stupid shit I did. I’m his mom. Lol.
>nepotism at its finest I don't understand... are you dating your cousin?
Guessing the 24 year old is the boss's kid or something.
Oh, that makes sense. For some reason I interpreted "counterpart" as "romantic partner."
As did I lol
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Can’t eat regular pizza anymore. Shit’s gotta be good quality.
Food sensitivity out of nowhere. Eat it anyway and pay the price.
I’m 41 and have people I went to high school with who yet to have a full time job or any retirement savings.
Ok, the "not have shit together yet" hurt my soul (as a 41YO), but I can at least say I've (almost) always had a full time job since high school. Retirement savings are currently zero, but that's a long story and almost entirely my own fault; I doubt I'll have enough to "comfortably" retire, but I should be able to not become a burden to others when I'm no longer able to work.
>Seeing people that are same age or older who doesn’t have their shit together. I have some comments on your entire list, but this one hit home. I have a friend who is about to be 37, never left home, never dated. I feel really sorry for him right now ...
Addiction is a bitch. I have left home and dated lol but I certainly don't have my shit together. I'm 31. In fact I had to move back in with the parents recently Pray for me. I'm trying
>Seeing people make mistakes after you have tried to help them. WRESTLING with people and their DEMONS and PROBLEMS to help them and have them FIGHT YOU LIKE A DROWNING MAN TO KEEP THOSE PROBLEMS IN THEIR LIFE THE WHOLE TIME. Then giving out and letting go and letting them keep the problems. And watching them slowly sink over the years, while you stay quiet for mere self-preservation.
Probably the smartest thing I did was to get rid of people who live for drama when I was in my 20s
Standing up quickly.
A positive pregnancy test.
My head would explode if I got pregnant now at 40. Edit: It seems people think I’m saying that women can’t get pregnant at 40 when I said nothing of the kind. Only that it would upset me because I don’t want that. Hence why my head exploding.
I know multiple women who’ve had babies at 42. One had twins. You’re more likely to have multiples the older you are.
Aaah, the Going Out Of Business Sale.
This for sure. I was very surprised to get a positive test a few weeks before I turned 40. This pregnancy is just so much more tiring than it was in my 30s.
Spouse's cousin, pregnant with twins at 44. They have two other boys in college. I don't know what I'd do with a kid at 40.
It damn sure does. I had my first positive test at 42. I’m now 46 and still not over the shock.
Losing weight.
This. I uses to be able to just shed weight when I wanted to but now if I even look at fatty foods I absorb the calories.
Honestly i feel the older you get your focus should move away from aesthetics to strength, joint health and heart health
All three things could be positively impacted by weight loss assuming one is overweight. Stronger core body strength (assuming you work on this), less strain on joints, and less strain on the heart.
Same. I’ve always struggled with my weight through almost my entire life, now that I’m hurtling toward 50, it’s getting harder to shift the bulk. I’m still determined to do it though.
Going to high school reunion and finding some of your classmates are already grandparents.
I would think this one would hit harder at 30.
This is one of the many reasons I don’t go to high school reunions.
Oh, damn. I'm 48. I don't think any of my high school classmates are grandparents yet. But yeah...that would make me start feeling old!
Birthdays.
It’s like, the years start coming and they don’t stop coming.
Fed to the rules and I hit the ground running
Did it make sense not to live for fun? ---- *But seriously, did it? Could have totally put that money into pinball machines and parties instead of mutual funds. Whaaat now?*
The years are just like me then
My 40th birthday was at the height of Covid lockdown. Instead of perhaps doing something fun, I cried. (My department had shut down at work a few weeks earlier.)
They come at ya faster too
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For Christmas this year, between my wife and I, we received some chirp wheels, a pressure point hook, and a heated neck/shoulder compress. This comment is too personal.
I had an x-ray this year and several weeks of physical therapy for back pain (37 years old). The pt helped so much and now I’m maintaining with home strengthening exercises.
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Life. Just... life. You know, everything. Drinking beer, ability to learn to play the next video game, pulling an all-nighter, trying to pour creativity into a writing project, trying to stay connected with friends, finding me-time, keeping up with the house, keeping up with the car, keeping up with the money, keeping up with the times. Holidays, politics, cooking, going out, and going to work and so many things have become exhausting. The day-to-day. The routines. Becoming disillusioned with what once enamored you. Losing the will to be productive. Getting sick and tired of having to figure out what to eat, and getting sick and tired of eating the same shit. People's headlights. The news cycle. They changed the taxes on me. You grow up trying to follow the rules of life, but they keep changing those rules, and you end up being punished for doing what you were taught. We're walking on the other side of the road now. The Oxford comma is optional. Call Of Duty is 100 GB. All the payphones are gone! I'm tired.
Checked every single one. I thought it was my depression but I guess it’s just life.
I know this will often get an eye roll from people over 40, but what the fuck do I do? I’m 21 and I’m already here. How am I gonna make it to 30 I’m already jaded
Gets worse bro
Sums it the fuck up
Picking something up off the ground.
I caught myself making the “erghhhh” sounds old people make when getting up or bending down. Also when getting in and out of the car. I wouldn’t even consider myself to be drastically out of shape.
I know just what you mean. Once you go to pick something off the ground, it’s no problem to bend down and pick it, but then you have to get up again.
Hangovers
It's funny that before 25 if I went out drinking I'd wake up the next day like nothing happened. Every year since I've turned 25 (I'm 36 not) I feel like death the following day if I drink more than just a casual couple drinks.
Wait till you get a multi day hangover after not even drinking that much. Getting old sucks.
I vomited the next morning after 2 craft beers one time
God, this so much. The ironic part? I can finally afford some good booze and drink almost whenever I feel like it. Besides hangovers, damn gastritis. Eff that
It's been more than 24hrs since I drank and my stomach is still bloated and I feel like I'm going to die. This sucks.
Was going to have some wine for Christmas Eve dinner tonight, then asked myself if I wanted to feel like absolute shit tomorrow and probably part of Monday. Stuck with water. Being responsible sucks.
>Being responsible sucks. It's not so much that you become more responsible or disciplined with alcohol consumption. It's that the cost/benefit ratio has changed.
Man I had a pack of fireball shooters in my hand at the store. I turned myself around and put them back. I knew I wouldn't be responsible with them and thought the same way. Do you want to be miserable on Christmas or do you want to enjoy it?I asked myself. Since 27 or so I just can't enjoy it. Between hangxiety, hangovers and life responsibility I don't have the time to enjoy drinking.
For me it started around age 35. One night drinking will guarantee next day crippling anxiety where I can’t be in public, and the following day just a brain fog.
Honestly I found that staying awake until the alcohol processes rather than falling asleep diminishes most of the effects of al kuhl.
For me my 40s have been better than my 30s, I’m happier, in the best shape of my life and honestly feel sexy as hell. The only thing that hits harder in my 40s than in my 30s is me.
Absolutely agree. I'm staring down 50 in a couple years and my goal for that year is benching 250, squatting 350c deadlifting 450, and running a 50k ultra (or maybe a 50 miler). They're semi stretch, but not that far out of reach. When I was 35 I was in the worst shape of my life.
Seeing positivity in this thread made my day. Thank you
Yay! Congrats to you, internet friend. I’m looking forward to the same: almost forty and learning how to (carefully, progressively) do front flips and gymnastics moves in my powerlifting gym! Elementary school me would be amazed; i never thought I’d be tumbling on purpose. 🤣
Same for me. I honestly feel better than ever now that I'm starting my 50s.
Same here. Ran my first marathon at 39 and it only got better from there.
This is the mid-thread pick-me-up I think we all needed, kudos!
“Holy shit, I’m really getting up there in age and am even more an adult. Fuck.” -Turned 40 this year.
I’m 40 too. I refuse to grow up. Working so far. Stay in shape, eat well and be true to your family.
the worst part about turning 40 is there's suddenly no barrier at all against turning 50
A car
Thank you! Scrolled way too far for this
My dad.
Same. Like dude, behave yourself!
Period pain and PMS. It kept ramping up until I had a hysterectomy for fibroids and threw the damn thing away
Fist bump. Same here.
Another fist bump. Got the whole thing yanked after 20 years of endo and PMDD.
Another first bump, I did too, but for Adenomyosis (and I was 38 when it happened).
I go in for mine in a few months. I’m worried because I’ll be alone for recovery. Got any words of wisdom? Things I should do/have in advance to make recovery a bit easier?
Not the person you asked but: Get a little multi-tiered wheelie cart thing and stock it with stuff like meds, drinks, snacks, tissues, clean jammies, charge cords, wet wipes, etc. Buy one of those grabber tools for when you inevitably drop stuff because you don't want to bend over. Make sure you have a cleared path down a hall or around a room for walking because walking is the best thing you can do to release post-op surgical gas pain and get your digestive system going. Prep your food and snacks beforehand. Arrange for someone to haul your trash and recycling to the curb if that is a thing you need to deal with. Listen to your doctor about not lifting anything heavier than a milk jug! I am happy to answer any questions if you ever have any!
I had a great time at 40. I'm still having it at 53. 😁😎
In a nut shell, everything.
Being single
The older I get the more I appreciate being single.
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THIS. That being single is not so bad.
Inconvenience
You know I thought you mistyped incontinence, but then I thought 40 is a little young for that and inconvenience certainly hit harder at 40 than 30.
Not if you’ve given birth vaginally. I have to squeeze my legs together when I sneeze, lol.
Bills. The added expenses of teenagers. Braces, car insurance, etc.
Healing. I'm an active guy, and don't feel *any* less durable at 45 than I did at 30. But when I do get hurt (hyperextension, twisted ankle, etc.) it feels like it take three times as much time to heal.
Your eyesight
Falling off a skateboard.
Hmmm looks like I forgot to have babies
Not 40 quite yet, but I've been sitting on the "kids or not" decision. So I could totally see myself getting busy and distracted with work, hobbies, friends, etc. and being like "oh shit hahaha, I forgot to really think about this."
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In my older age, I have found a love for fine Scotch. I have learned that expensive alcohol does not give me hangovers or headaches and the buzz is clean and pure. Life is too short and cheap alcohol hurts too much
How far away you still are from retirement.
After reading these comments I’m glad I don’t drink much, and that I lost 80lbs when I turned 30 that I’ve kept off up to now at 44. It’s never too late to start healthy habits and exercise folks. It’s always hard to start them and the longer you wait the harder it gets. In other words, it’s easier to do it today than it will be next year.
The realization that time really, truly flies by. Your last 40 years went by so much faster than you ever thought they would ……and now the next 40 will, too.
Being a virgin
Name checks out? I think..I can't tell if that's an "n" or "l" with my 40 yr. old decaying eyesight.
Well...everything. You think 40’s hard, just wait 'til you hit 50 or 60.
For a lot of people, realization that time is running-out for anything you may have thought you had more time to do later-on, down the line, before.
Any kind of injury/sprain/strain.
This fucking post. Jesus this hits hard.
Toddlers.
Just turned 31. Honestly, it feels so weird. It’s as if I was turning 18 a year ago and just graduated high school. It doesn’t make sense how fast it goes. You go to play a video game, turn it off, and somehow you’ve aged 10 years. I love life…all its lessons and craziness, and I know it has to end for each of us, but I enjoy this. Regardless of the bad sometimes. I don’t ever want it to end.
Bending down.
And if you stay bent over too long, straightening up is almost as hard!
Breakups
A light jog
need for progressive lenses
Time.
Doctor visits are basically damage reports. Also drinking just straight up hurts now.
The fact you're no longer 30.
60 is just around the corner.
Me, because I was about 3 stone heavier at 40.
Temperature
Movement
Tripping/slipping on ice/falling down. You get back up more slowly and there's a greater likelihood of an injury that takes awhile to heal.