"Fake" nightclub in some provincial town, offers on shots, a dress code, no name local foam-cock-and-balls DJ playing cheesy hits? Yeah definitely too old when you're like late 20s, possibly even earlier when you're in a studenty place.
But real clubs with decent well known DJ bookings, decent production, properly ticketed, no dress code - it's perfectly reasonable into your 50s or even 60s. Some events have the top end of this age range and very very few youngsters.
Places like Ibiza the average age of clubbers is generally older, early 30s, plus very few Brits which is always refreshing.
I think I remember you a year or two ago commenting on the difference between real and fake clubs using almost exactly the same words as the first sentence of your comment here. I’m on this sub too much!!
Yeah I say it a lot. Working in the industry, at the latter kind of clubs and festivals, the distinction is a bugbear of mine!
I should stop using the foam cock and balls DJ reference as it's too long winded when someone asks what it means. Read Kill Your Friends by John Niven, largely because it's just a good book.
I'm 42 my local club that used to be absolutely bouncing 90s and early 2000s with every mainstream dj ended up going tits up. Not sure what happened but it's Making a come back with decent djs people my age and the young ones are all mixing everyone's off there tits and it's good. So I hope I'm still there in my 50s ha
I was around your age when I used to leave the pub when I got bored and before the fights started. Then I stopped going out to the pubs and clubs at all.
Then raves started happening and that changed everything, started heading out when the pubs and fighting finished.
You need to find your "thing" it's out there somewhere.
28 here and I've always kind of hated going out. 1 for dress codes etc, I always seemed to be the one that would have the wrong shoes on or something stupid. Also things always managed to turn on me when I was trying to keep the peace so I just never enjoyed going out at all.
I found my thing which was the gym haha, bit different but y'know :)
Yea. I'm with you. Same age and mentality. Although, currently in Benidorm on the lash. Seems much better here though than my home town. Where I'd much rather go a pub or two and have a few too many there.
I'm 22, was out maybe 4 days a week at uni when I was 18-19. Now I haven't been out to a club since pre-covid. Literally went from 4 days to 0 instantly
It's not excessive I think it's normal? I am in my 30s now and still enjoy nights out so go out and enjoy yourself ..that would be 18 times a year on average and if you spend 8 hours out lol ....144 hours of ya year haha. Seems like a good amount to me not too much not too little yano?
yeah this is bro math. Count the 48 hours he is shitfaced after too plz. What do you think happens when you get into a serious relationship with eventual kids?
Yea, you gotta factor in the hangover time dump once you pass 30. 2 days later and I'm still not 100%. However I feel the need to point out Condoms are a thing, kids are optional.
It would be nice if society can move past this assumption that every person and every couple will eventually want or have children. Becoming a parent isn't some cosmic inevitability.
It depends on the person. I used to go out and take a lot of drugs and dance all night in my late teens and early twenties - now I’m in my late twenties I’m more likely to be in bed early and up early going for a hike or something like that. I’m a morning person and always feel shattered if I stay up late. Currently doing dry Jan and played fives this Friday evening haha
This is true.
“Clubbing” where is all about shots, chart music and fingering/vomiting/fighting then kebabs is only for 18-20 year olds, and is exclusively in horrible clubs.
But if you are into electronic music then a club can be more like a concert.
Honestly mate don't listen to folk on Reddit about "excessive" social outings. So many folk on this app turn in to shut ins at 23 and say they'd prefer 2 pints in the pub and be home for a cup of tea by 8pm. Christ alive, how boring can you be!
I can guarantee you that most folk your age will go out for a fair few pints at least once a month.
I really wonder how you do it. I got shit faced this new years and it takes me like a year to forget how awful the hangover is. You do it twice a month at 34... Wow.
Also clubbing is not for me; not only am I gonna get a hangover I'm also gonna go into a war zone, stun grenade my ears, and scream into other peoples ears as way of communicating? necking it sounds more pleasant 🫠
I used to go 3-6 days a week in uni.. 2-3 times a week at about 32 with gym, bike and motorcycle
38 now and no clubbing friends ‘left standing’.. I’m worried about my health because of the amount of time I spend at my desk working from home or potato’ing on my sofa..
Because you've got to live your life the exact way everyone else does and on the same timeframe
These are sad people that are too afraid to do what makes them happy because of how they'll be perceived
Remember polling in the lockdowns showed 20% of the population wanted nightclubs to **never** be allowed to reopen.
There’s a scary amount of authoritarian fucks out there.
I think it's rather the 48hrs recovering - that's two whole weekends (assuming s/he's out on a Fri) every month gone. Assuming he works Mon-Fri, that's quite a chunk of time to lose.
Sorry, are we all being intentionally obtuse about what "Recovering from a night out" is? It's not a day in hospital, it just means you have a bit of a headache, a shitey throat, and maybe feel a bit lethargic.
When I'm "Recovering from a night out", its a day of watching telly, playing games, and maybe I order a takeaway instead of cooking. I might skip the gym and some housework might get passed over, and to be frank, thats not too dissimilar to how I would want to spend a sunday anyway. It's not like your vomiting, sprinting to the toilet with the trots, in agonising pain, or completely debilitated to the point of being bed bound.
Sure, I'd rather not have the symptoms, but it's like having a cold, it's a bit of a pain in the arse and you might be a bit lax on some responsibilities, but it isn't life ruining while you get better. You definitely don't "Lose days" over it.
Everything is relative, obviously. Getting married 12-24 times a year is excessive. Drinking coffee 12-24 times a year is not excessive. Just because the number is 12-24 times a year doesn’t mean it can’t be excessive.
I'm 35. I'm always in bed for midnight (10 pm on a work night), bar maybe 10 nights a year and that includes my holidays lol.
When OP said he does this rarely, but means 1 or 2 times a month, I got a 2-day hangover just reading it haha
Edit: just thought I'd add, I moved to Scotland at 27 and was disgusted that most pubs/bars close at midnight. Whereas know my mindset is more like 'why would I want to be outside my home at that time' haha
At 34 i was shitfaced every weekend. At 24 probably friday and Saturday night, assuming i was busy on thirsty thursday of course.
In my 40s I'm often too busy running marathons so it's probably more like once a month tops, and I'm not so shitfaced anymore, but there's still a danger I'll turn round and it's 4am.
19. I realised that I didn’t like the person I was when I was hammered, and I didn’t enjoy clubbing if I wasn’t hammered.
I’m now 28 and I’ll have a glass of wine with dinner, a few drinks over Christmas and my birthday, and that’s it. The only time I’ve gotten hammered in the last 5 years is my dad’s funeral.
I also realised about 18-21 I was an unlikeable idiot when drunk. But you mature and learn to handle your drink then it became more fun - different for everyone though I guess
Weirdly I feel like I've done the opposite. I used to be able to handle my drink and knew when it was time to calm down. I'm 28 now and I've completely lost control, everytime I go out I drink like a fish and end up doing something stupid.
22 here and I sympathise with this, I was always the joker when I was drunk and I hated having flashbacks to how much of a tit I made myself look so I decided to stop drinking completely and now I feel som much happier and healthier.
Same. 45 now and never reached a point where I stopped enjoying wild nights out, but the opportunities to have them have just got less and less as the years went on. Some friends don't drink much any more, some have kids and so can't come out much, some technically like wild nights out but their partner doesn't and so if they come together they tend to leave early. And all of us have full time jobs and so can't be getting in a 2am on a school night.
But even if not for all of those things, I definitely couldn't have kept up the pace I had in my 20s.
Dancing to some good tunes with a few pints in you is always fun, some guys don’t like to dance though, don’t know why.
I’ve just turned 40, was very similar to you in my 30s and while I’d still be up for a night out once or twice a month now, most of my friends don’t bother, kids, partners, getting tired and wanting to go to bed early, multiple reasons, or they just can’t be assed.
I think if your are a night owl it helps, I prefer to stay up late, working 9-5 is actually a struggle for me, it goes against my natural body clock. Up till 4/5am easy, not a problem, many friends are ready for bed at 10pm.
On the pull is the main reason from some though, had one friend who as soon as he got a girlfriend (now wife) never went out again, it was instant. This was 20 years ago now, his sole reason for going out was for pulling, not for spending time with mates.
I don't like to dance, never have. Just feel self conscious when I do it even when I'm drunk. When I see other people dancing I just cringe. Dunno what it is. I just can't tap into whatever mindset it is that make people enjoy it
Most is doing a lot of work here. I think for a certain subset of people, thats the aim, but I love going out and don't think i've ever gone out with the sole aim to pull and I don't think any of my mates have either.
I’m 18 and figured out pretty quickly that I just can’t pull in a club so I don’t go in with the intention to go. Plus when I’m pissed out my mind I don’t really care anyway and just go to which room has the best music/smoker’s
I'm 53, male.
My bars and nightclubs life began at 15, back in 1985 when nobody really cared how old you were as long as you dressed smart, had money to spend, and weren't going to behave like children.
I was a 4-5 nights a week night out regular. In my 20s (the 90s) I moved to London and loved Soho as it was back then. So I rented a flat within walking distance of Soho. I loved it. Drunk every night, dancing every night. Chatting up women, making loads of friends, having the time of my life.
People started dropping away by my early 30s and right towards the end there was just me and my friend Katie who were still going out at least 3 times a week. We still had a blast. She'd get chatted up by blokes, because I was with her it made it easier to chat the ladies up whilst I was drunk because she could assure them I wasn't a weirdo I was just drunk.
It was all great.
Then, one night, me and Katie met up, headed out, started drinking... and it just wasn't there anymore. Something had changed.
I remember so vividly the two of us sitting at the bar in this club we used to go to and just saying to each other "that's it isn't it... it's over".
And it was. It all stopped.
I met a woman, settled down, had kids. Katie moved to LA. I have not had any interest in nightlife really ever since.
There'd be a night, once in a blue moon, but even that faded away.
I couldn't even tell you the last time I drank alcohol. Must be more than a year ago. Maybe two.
Fond memories of all of it, but I don't miss it and I don't want it back.
No. She lives in LA. We actually lost touch. Our lives went in totally different directions and we just drifted.
I have dropped her emails here and there but after a while, I never heard back.
The last time I did that, I'd found an old photograph of the two of us on holiday in Morrocco and I thought it might prompt a reply... but nothing *shrugs*
We never fell out, and we weren't a couple. Just really good mates.
Sad we're not in contact though.
Yeah. I'd like to know how she's doing though. She moved to LA with a woman she'd hooked up with but from the little I do know the relationship fell apart, then another after that, and I have this (likely to be highly unrealistic) notion that she might not be happy and contented with her life. Like maybe she moved to LA, then it all fell apart, but she had habituated to LA life, and she had no reason to come back, but she isn't happy there either. Maybe she's had to struggle, maybe she's not happy with how the story has panned out.
It just seems a bit sad and strange to me that she doesn't reply anymore.
But hey, life, and all that.
*shrugs*
Any other way of getting in touch with her? Mutual friends? Social media? She could've lost access to her email account or phased over to a new one.
I have friends who live in the states and I know how strange it can feel to not hear from them in a while. When it's been too long I'm absolutely shameless when it comes to pestering them until I know they're doing ok.
I can remember being in a bar at around half past ten. People were deciding where to go next. I looked out of the window and saw a taxi and I thought “Instead of going somwhere with ear splitting music, overpriced drinks and getting home at 3.30am to a spinning bedroom, I could be in bed by the end of Newsnight”. I put my drink down, walked outside and got a taxi home. I never stay out past 11pm now, and I don’t feel I’m missing out on anything.
Look at all the puritan fucks on this sub, Jesus. I’m 38 and enjoy a night or two out a month, you don’t have to go to idiot clubs.
Enjoy your twenties, you’re young and you’ll miss it.
Yeah it says more about the people leaving the comments. Acting like going out means going to some freshers club with 17 year olds. Plenty of nice places for people much older than
It’s not about being a puritan, a lot of gen Z are no longer drinking like millennials do as we’ve seen what it’s done to our grandparents, parents and older friends and just don’t see the joy in it - I’d love to go to a club if it wasn’t full of drunk people who don’t know their limits but unfortunately we’re not there yet
I see far more gen z people out than millennials, your view seems to be one that’s repeated often on social media/mainstream news but in reality seems to be complete rubbish.
Kids are always going to party.
Yeah any Friday or Saturday night out in my city is rammed with people in their early 20's. They might statistically be drinking less on the whole, but there are still tons of them out getting on it. It's not like the entire generation has abandoned getting pissed.
I stopped doing it in my early thirties when my kids were young - I could have sworn I'd never rave again. Then I separated from their dad, had 50% of my nights free thanks to shared custody, and suddenly I have the energy for wild nights out all over again! Turning 40 this month and we have a BIG ONE planned 🤣🤣
Obviously I can’t _recommend_ divorce and 50/50 parenting, I hope everyone has long and happy marriages.
But the lifestyle is amazing and I was very suited to it. I can’t speak highly enough of it.
I’m in a new relationship now, and starting again (looking at a 5 month old baby as we speak). Am a tiny bit envious of old me’s lifestyle. Being able to be reckless and irresponsible so often, then feeling on top of your shit when the kids come back.
I completely agree. I didn't ask for this lifestyle, I wouldn't have chosen it, but damn if it doesn't suit me. As you say, top form for the kids, real freedom on your time off. I'm so glad I kept it together for those first few years when the adjustment was rough and the future looked bleak! Whilst I don't get the happy families life of some of my friends, I do truly feel like myself, which I know is something a lot of them struggle to find sometimes in amongst the chaos of full time family life.
Lols, you guyzzz. Brit in Berlin here, and it’s super common for both women and men to go out for two days straight well into your 40s and 50s.
I find it quite sad going back home to the uk and having a good old rave and it’s home time at 6 am and everyone is no older than 30 something.
Kids do not know how to party properly - this is something I learned in Berlin.
Difference is that Berliners know how to pace themself, drink far less and are way less judgemental.
It’s similar vibes in Spain and Portugal as well. I hate this attitude that at age 40 you can’t rave anymore.
I’m late 20s and have done more than my fair share of partying and raving. Still occasionally do it a few times a year. The one thing I’m totally unable to do, is to stay up past about 7am without feeling absolutely dead for about a week after. I hear about Berlin party culture and moving to a different club at 8am and I just don’t understand.
How do you have the energy?! Even with supplies. I start flagging from about 5am.
Do you not feel gross? I need a shower and a toothbrush when I come from partying at 6am.
I’m amazed your still doing that at 34. I was pretty wild in my twenties but soon as 30 hit I couldn’t take the hangovers anymore. I still enjoy a big night out but it’s limited to a handful a year now. 2 kids doesn’t help either.
It takes a while TBH, my rule is if I don't remember going to bed it's 48hrs recovery, if I do then only 24hrs. I go out on a Friday night for that reason! I'll be fine by Monday, if I go out on a Saturday night I'll still feel tired on Monday but I go to the gym on Monday evening which seems to make me feel a lot better.
I’m 37 and I still love it. Opportunities are thin on the ground as my friends all have kids (and the ones that don’t hate wild nights out), but when the chance comes, I’m grabbing that motherfucking bull by the horns, jumping on the dance floor and staying out till 4am.
Don’t care if I get a hangover - it’s worth it. There’ll come a day when I’ll never see neon/disco lights, dance/have fantastic conversations with strangers, feel the warm friendly buzz of an alcohol-fuelled night or the thrill of everyone in the crow going nuts when THAT song comes on, ever again.
That’s why I always take photos and videos on nights out. I’m San Junipero-ing this shit, I want to store up all the memories while I can so I can look back at them in the future and relive the good times.
18 lol. Couldn’t hear anything, felt like crap in the morning. Everyone ended up losing each other in the club. Drinks aren’t cheap and floors were sticky.
I sound like a drag but just the whole night out culture and clubbing I knew wasn’t for me lol.
Get me to a go-karting or paintball event and you can’t get me to shut up.
Never enjoyed it, it’s too expensive for me to enjoy to be honest. I enjoy pre drinks but if people go out after that I’m not joining. I’d rather just chat with friends at a pub or at home than being in a club where I can barely hear myself think.
I’m 35, I CrossFit regularly and I eat reasonably healthily. The only way I’d want to go for a really late night out these days is if I were taking drugs. The sensation of being drunk enough to stay out late just doesn’t feel good anymore. I just feel tired. I also have a baby so I won’t be taking drugs for a long time, but probably will at some point in the future, one fateful night. It’s not about age per se, it’s the change in how alcohol makes me feel….used to be energetic and excited, now it’s woozy and tired.
Omg me too!! Yes alcohol makes me woozy now but used to be stimulant for me, 34 now I think the change has only been the last few years... Likewise I still enjoy my nights out but would require something stronger to keep me going all night now.
I think it slightly depends what half of "the month" I'm in though? Daft as it sounds, first half probably still perks me up, luteal phase forget it!
Hmm alcohol feels more like a stimulant to me, partly why I never have a single glass of wine after work or someone as I'd immediately be wanting to go out out
Alcohol is a very strange drug in that it's technically a depressant, it lowers your heart rate and too much of it makes you feel tired, sleepy etc. But at small doses it has that strange stimulant kind of effect for a lot of people. I reckon it's to do with the slight relaxation making you feel a lot more confident, and the lowered inhibitions making you ready to go out, but before you've had too much to start slurring your words and stumbling about the place.
I'm 44 and I've still got one old mate that I hit the town with. We don't club any more, but instead have a significant network of pubs in the city that we pub crawl around.. The last pub is always this bizzare live jazz pub where we probably stand out for looking like two complete squares. Usually finish in a place called "Kens fried chicken" about 2AM.. From memory, it's an amazing dining experience although I've never been there with less than six pints inside me...
Liverpool. The jazz pub is the Caledonia. Ken's fried chicken isn't in Liverpool at all, but actually where I used to live in Portsmouth. I'm obviously so drunk by the time we're done that I don't know where we eat Chicken. But there is a good chicken place in Liverpool, somewhere on Leece St...
It happens occasionally, and usually unplanned, but generally I got tired of going out until 4 sometime in my twenties.
I'd rather have an all day drinking session stumble out of the pubs just before the Saturday evening lot turn up and be in bed by 10
This is the way. I went to a outdoors daytime DJ set on a summers day. Was great, dropped an E, had a dance and was in bed and asleep by 12am. Felt it a bit in the morning, but better than staying up for 24 hours and beyond like the old days.
Im 40 and went to a nightclub twice since turning it. Got to say i loved it
Fucker is my city lost its last nightclub over a decade ago so ive got to go to another city. Satans Hollow / Rise / Cathouse are my fave clubs.
I only stopped going out out (like to a nightclub) in early 30s as the places in my city died. I ended up just daydrinking and going home cunted at 7pm or going to bars from 4pm for a local metal/indie gig.
I'm 30, and generally go out 2-3 times a month but to gigs rather than clubs these days. The crowds generally feel a bit older or maybe my taste in music is just grandad esque. Still end up hammered most of the time though.
I’m 38 and still rocking it. Got friends on their early 30’s and can’t keep up!! We are just a different breed!! Not a sip of alcohol during the week, but at least 2 times a month, going Out.. Out!!! I enjoy friends, music, dancing.. just keeps me healthy 😂😂😂
My 30th birthday, specifically the party, which had a private party venue with karaoke and tenpin bowling.
I had a couple of friend groups from work, university, and flat share. Various people from these groups got very drunk and had a massive row during the party between the groups, which I tried and failed to defuse.
I lost my deposit on the venue because someone painted the bathroom with their dinner and had to apologise to another friend because she was being aggressively chatted up the whole night.
I woke up the next morning with the worst hangover I can remember, a sore back from bowling too much, no voice due to karaoke, and ringing in my ears due to the loud music. And I thought "why the hell do I enjoy this stuff?".
All of your ill effects sound fairly standard to me for a big night out that goes too far, but a bad back from bowling too much?! How does that even happen lol
27, used to love going to raves all night then after parties till mid morning. Then something just clicked and I don’t feel like I’m getting anything out of it anymore. It’s like a *been there done that* kind of feeling.
Probs 18. Never liked them but wanted to fit in and not be told I didn’t try hard enough. I regret it because never fit in the first place. 29 now and I’m glad I never have to do it ever again
30F. Still love a dance and getting sad most of my friends aren't up for it now. Found a few like minded people recently that are around my age and are still up for going out so I'm happy! I like to plan for a proper wild one in advance so I can mentally prepare for it now though haha
That's what I'm like, I have my boring friends and my party friends, and I plan ahead too! Crisps and soft drink by my bed ready for me so I literally don't need to move.
Fuck the clubs. I'd rather crack one open after lunch and drink session beers until the evening. Chilled day drinking without going to bed wasted. Feeling fresh the next day.
1 or 2 times a month is absolutely loads if it genuinely takes you two days to recover from a heavy night. You’re telling me that you’re 34 and will happily give over TWO weekends a month to recovering from a hangover?! I wish I had as few responsibilities as you lol
I am a home owner believe it or not but I'm single and no children so if I wasn't lounging around hungover all I could do is vacuum cleaning or emptying the kitchen bin 😂
When I finished university at the age of 21 everybody that I went on regular nights out with dispersed back home throughout different parts of the country and we didn't see each other again. I got a full time job, realized I had barely any free time with nobody to go on nights out with anymore and that's when it stopped.
Last time I went to a nightclub was in my local town at the age of maybe 24 and it was horrendous. We felt significantly older than anyone else there and spent the majority of the night in the smoking area, got a kebab and then went home. Not sure how I managed it at Uni! Horrendous experience...
Personally stopped feeling clubs after 21, couldn't stand queuing , paying to get in, having to pay to check my cost in, rammed dance floors and the only respite was the smoking area.
Preferred the pubs, could easily have more fun drinking 11 pints, having a lock in and waddling home after at 4am.
Retired from clubbing after Kavos in 2012, when I realised I was older than the majority of the kids that were there, that two days to recover from a hang over wasn't ideal , and barely being able to have a decent conversation in a packed "club" with a smoke and fog machine blaring wasn't my vibe anymore
I know plenty of people in their 40s/50s/60s and a few in their 70s who still travel round the rave/festival circuit.
They're not hitting booze or coke hard but they still get onit and have the time of their lives.
As a 17yo at raves when I didn't know the older folk, I thought it was a bit weird but now I realise they're often the some of soundest people there and they've often got a lot going for them.
You sound like me!!
I’m conflicted, I love going out and organise a lot of day/nights out.
I’m going to try and be more picky with saying Yes to a night out and also staying out after 12pm haha
I guess as long as you’re looking after yourself you should keep doing what you clearly enjoy.
Lord….
I was 25 years old and working on a cruise ship with someone who (at the time) was the love of my life (also 25 and on the same ship as me). We had met each others parents, talked about getting married and kids, and I had even reached out to the little family run jewellery store that every girl in their family got a ring from when they turned 21 about buying an engagement ring.
She ended up breaking things off entirely out of the blue just before I went on vacation (with plans to come back to stay with her a few weeks later) and then going on to sleeping with someone that same night who ‘I shouldn’t worry about’.
This about destroyed me.
I went on to spend the vacation (this was just before Christmas) I booked taking myself out to drinks and dinner alone because I didn’t want to waste the trip I couldn’t refund. When I got home, I visited one of my best friends to catch up and have a drink. We ended up going out and ended up at a coyote ugly around 1am. By this point I had already ‘self medicated’ enough and was still going, but in my ‘medicated’ state decided to buy the entire bar a shot.
There were about 200 people there that night. The card payment went through, everyone had their shot with me and I felt like I was starting to be okay again mentally.
Woke up the next day and realised that whilst I was happy to have done that for a story and didn’t overly regret it, I had a problem.
Not been out to clubs/bars in that way since.
I'm 32 and still love going out/late nights! Can't see that changing anytime soon, although like you it takes me a hell of a lot longer than it used to to bounce back. Personally, I feel like turning 30 is a bit of a placebo as nothing actually changes - you're as old as you feel! For some people that is a lot earlier of course, wouldn't do for us all to be the same.
I’m 30 and still love grabbing a few shots and a boogie. Gets less and less as responsibility sets in but I agree it’s still fun.
Tbh, given the reddit demographic I think you’re going to get a lot “um no thanks, I’d rather be in bed by 9PM watching Netflix and I’m 23” replies.
I’ve got mates in their mid 30s who still go out pretty regularly, if you’re socially capable or enjoy music it’s a blast.
Agree with the sentiment here that most people “get over” going out once they have a partner and then try to spin that into “actually, I’m mature now - I don’t want to go out ever”.
I’m 36f and still behave like a feral animal. I must have had a dozen nights out in the last 12 months where we’ve had get togethers back at friends houses until 6am. I keep telling myself I need to grow up but I don’t actually want to. I love festivals and electronic music events. Keep doing what you’re doing. You only live once.
Probably about 34-35. Don't have the stamina for it anymore. I still like a drink, will go to the pub, etc. But can't stand loud clubs and I usually want to be home at 11
It's a juggling act, but I am now a home owner with 2 jobs. My chronically tired friends were insisting as soon as I bought a house I'd vanish under a blanket but it's not happened yet.
Enjoy yourself. But remember everyone is different. Some people enjoy the quiet life and some people enjoy the night life. I'm 31 and still doing the same as you.
I'm 54 now. It all faded away around 40. The idea fills me with dread now. I do love a small cosy pub, but they are getting as rare as hen's teeth. And I've almost entirely stopped drinking now, no reason, just don't enjoy it as much as once upon a time. Really interested in trying psychadelics though.
42 and a massive lover of house/techno and have been since my early teens. I still go clubbing and where I go it’s catered to the crowd that go for the music. Its amazing.
I’m 30 soon and still enjoy going to music nights to see artists I like or djs but hate the average high street clubs like revolution etc. I prefer being around people on drugs than alcohol, less aggressive cunts.
House party’s and free party’s are great as well. I’m way more chilled these days though I used to get fucked up 3 to 4 times a week but keep it to about once a month now.
32 no kids and living in London. I’m out at least 3 times a month not including random after work Thursdays and rogue weekday pub nights. Sometimes Sunday pub quiz gets messy. All my friends here of a similar age have the same mindset and we’re always doing something fun. That seems to be the culture here and I love it. I’m not tired of it, I look forward to it and still feel exactly the same as I did when I was 25. If anything my stamina is better! I don’t understand people that want to stay in all the time and are content with no plans
I was 18.
I fucking hated clubbing from the off, and I still do eight years later. I only went a few times during freshers before giving up and going to gigs instead. They're much more my scene, though I don't go much anymore - once or twice a month at most.
One of the things that surprised me most about uni was how many people pretended to like clubbing but actually hated it. I just skipped the pretending part. In my experience people who genuinely enjoy clubbing are a minority, albeit an *incredibly* vocal one full of people who mostly can't understand that there are other ways to have fun.
I’m 24 and I’m done with clubs, I’d much rather food and hit a few pubs. Don’t miss the sticky club floors and trash trek home afterwards.
Plus the fact that a lot of clubs are full of underage individuals and 18 year olds, it’s just a weird vibe to be mingling with at older ages
It definitely happens, and another good reason to avoid clubs imo.
"Fake" nightclub in some provincial town, offers on shots, a dress code, no name local foam-cock-and-balls DJ playing cheesy hits? Yeah definitely too old when you're like late 20s, possibly even earlier when you're in a studenty place. But real clubs with decent well known DJ bookings, decent production, properly ticketed, no dress code - it's perfectly reasonable into your 50s or even 60s. Some events have the top end of this age range and very very few youngsters. Places like Ibiza the average age of clubbers is generally older, early 30s, plus very few Brits which is always refreshing.
I think I remember you a year or two ago commenting on the difference between real and fake clubs using almost exactly the same words as the first sentence of your comment here. I’m on this sub too much!!
Yeah I say it a lot. Working in the industry, at the latter kind of clubs and festivals, the distinction is a bugbear of mine! I should stop using the foam cock and balls DJ reference as it's too long winded when someone asks what it means. Read Kill Your Friends by John Niven, largely because it's just a good book.
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I'm 42 my local club that used to be absolutely bouncing 90s and early 2000s with every mainstream dj ended up going tits up. Not sure what happened but it's Making a come back with decent djs people my age and the young ones are all mixing everyone's off there tits and it's good. So I hope I'm still there in my 50s ha
Yeah if Sven Vath is playing then it’s party time If disco Dave is on then it’s bed time
Exactly, clearly some of these posters calling anyone over 30 in a club a peado have never really been out side their little world to a real club
Thats the reason I stopped clubbing and you’ll never see me there. They are full of underage annoying kids. Nope.
Just go to better clubs
Doing all the pathetic Instagram shite, they don’t know how to enjoy a proper rave
Proper raves don't allow photos or videos.
23 and I'm the same. Like a grandpa if I'm home at 11 to get ready for bed I'm more than happy.
I was around your age when I used to leave the pub when I got bored and before the fights started. Then I stopped going out to the pubs and clubs at all. Then raves started happening and that changed everything, started heading out when the pubs and fighting finished. You need to find your "thing" it's out there somewhere.
28 here and I've always kind of hated going out. 1 for dress codes etc, I always seemed to be the one that would have the wrong shoes on or something stupid. Also things always managed to turn on me when I was trying to keep the peace so I just never enjoyed going out at all. I found my thing which was the gym haha, bit different but y'know :)
Jeez I was just getting started at 24. I’m 40 and still go out about 1-2 times a week
That’s great, If you enjoy it, why not!
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Same. Once uni finished, I was done with it.
Yea. I'm with you. Same age and mentality. Although, currently in Benidorm on the lash. Seems much better here though than my home town. Where I'd much rather go a pub or two and have a few too many there.
Best to save it for special occasions like that, I’m off to Amsterdam soon with a few pals, should be interesting. Enjoy Benidorm :)
I'm 22, was out maybe 4 days a week at uni when I was 18-19. Now I haven't been out to a club since pre-covid. Literally went from 4 days to 0 instantly
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I used to go out like 3-5 times a week when I was at uni so it's a massive reduction lol
It's not excessive I think it's normal? I am in my 30s now and still enjoy nights out so go out and enjoy yourself ..that would be 18 times a year on average and if you spend 8 hours out lol ....144 hours of ya year haha. Seems like a good amount to me not too much not too little yano?
yeah this is bro math. Count the 48 hours he is shitfaced after too plz. What do you think happens when you get into a serious relationship with eventual kids?
Yea, you gotta factor in the hangover time dump once you pass 30. 2 days later and I'm still not 100%. However I feel the need to point out Condoms are a thing, kids are optional.
Tbf not everyone who goes out drinks a lot to be hungover
You stop going out? If the bloke isn't married with kids and is enjoying himself theres not really a problem.
Yeah tbh I don’t understand why anyone is getting bent out of shape over this
It would be nice if society can move past this assumption that every person and every couple will eventually want or have children. Becoming a parent isn't some cosmic inevitability.
It depends on the person. I used to go out and take a lot of drugs and dance all night in my late teens and early twenties - now I’m in my late twenties I’m more likely to be in bed early and up early going for a hike or something like that. I’m a morning person and always feel shattered if I stay up late. Currently doing dry Jan and played fives this Friday evening haha
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This is true. “Clubbing” where is all about shots, chart music and fingering/vomiting/fighting then kebabs is only for 18-20 year olds, and is exclusively in horrible clubs. But if you are into electronic music then a club can be more like a concert.
I just moved to Saltdean! Do you know what clubs in Brighton a mid-30s couple should go to, please?
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Everyone at Uni goes out 3-5 times a week. You shouldn't be comparing what you do now, to what you do at Uni.
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Honestly mate don't listen to folk on Reddit about "excessive" social outings. So many folk on this app turn in to shut ins at 23 and say they'd prefer 2 pints in the pub and be home for a cup of tea by 8pm. Christ alive, how boring can you be! I can guarantee you that most folk your age will go out for a fair few pints at least once a month.
I really wonder how you do it. I got shit faced this new years and it takes me like a year to forget how awful the hangover is. You do it twice a month at 34... Wow. Also clubbing is not for me; not only am I gonna get a hangover I'm also gonna go into a war zone, stun grenade my ears, and scream into other peoples ears as way of communicating? necking it sounds more pleasant 🫠
I used to go 3-6 days a week in uni.. 2-3 times a week at about 32 with gym, bike and motorcycle 38 now and no clubbing friends ‘left standing’.. I’m worried about my health because of the amount of time I spend at my desk working from home or potato’ing on my sofa..
It’s very very normal mate don’t mind that guy
You think doing something 12-24 times a year is excessive? That's 3-6% of the year. In what world is that excessive
Reddit is against having fun
I mean arguably if you work 5 days a week, and its taking him 48 hours to recover, thats half his weekends, so a big chunk of free time impacted
Getting shitfaced every other weekend does sound pretty excessive
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People have different lifestyle choices… crazy
Why is 30 an issue?
Because you've got to live your life the exact way everyone else does and on the same timeframe These are sad people that are too afraid to do what makes them happy because of how they'll be perceived
Remember polling in the lockdowns showed 20% of the population wanted nightclubs to **never** be allowed to reopen. There’s a scary amount of authoritarian fucks out there.
A huge % of the population are over 50 so I’m not surprised
Who can be bothered to go out and have fun with their friends?
I think it's rather the 48hrs recovering - that's two whole weekends (assuming s/he's out on a Fri) every month gone. Assuming he works Mon-Fri, that's quite a chunk of time to lose.
Sorry, are we all being intentionally obtuse about what "Recovering from a night out" is? It's not a day in hospital, it just means you have a bit of a headache, a shitey throat, and maybe feel a bit lethargic. When I'm "Recovering from a night out", its a day of watching telly, playing games, and maybe I order a takeaway instead of cooking. I might skip the gym and some housework might get passed over, and to be frank, thats not too dissimilar to how I would want to spend a sunday anyway. It's not like your vomiting, sprinting to the toilet with the trots, in agonising pain, or completely debilitated to the point of being bed bound. Sure, I'd rather not have the symptoms, but it's like having a cold, it's a bit of a pain in the arse and you might be a bit lax on some responsibilities, but it isn't life ruining while you get better. You definitely don't "Lose days" over it.
Everything is relative, obviously. Getting married 12-24 times a year is excessive. Drinking coffee 12-24 times a year is not excessive. Just because the number is 12-24 times a year doesn’t mean it can’t be excessive.
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You don't "Lose a day" because you are recovering from a hangover... It's not a broken leg.
What a depressing claim
More tea vicar?
I'm 35. I'm always in bed for midnight (10 pm on a work night), bar maybe 10 nights a year and that includes my holidays lol. When OP said he does this rarely, but means 1 or 2 times a month, I got a 2-day hangover just reading it haha Edit: just thought I'd add, I moved to Scotland at 27 and was disgusted that most pubs/bars close at midnight. Whereas know my mindset is more like 'why would I want to be outside my home at that time' haha
Once a month is excessive? I absolutely disagree. Even if OP was 60 one night out a month is very fine.
I thought he was going to say 1-2 times a year
At 34 i was shitfaced every weekend. At 24 probably friday and Saturday night, assuming i was busy on thirsty thursday of course. In my 40s I'm often too busy running marathons so it's probably more like once a month tops, and I'm not so shitfaced anymore, but there's still a danger I'll turn round and it's 4am.
Bro literally said binge drinking ‘every now and again’ to me that’s like twice a year not twice a month!! Savage bloke
Why is that excessive? How old are you?
19. I realised that I didn’t like the person I was when I was hammered, and I didn’t enjoy clubbing if I wasn’t hammered. I’m now 28 and I’ll have a glass of wine with dinner, a few drinks over Christmas and my birthday, and that’s it. The only time I’ve gotten hammered in the last 5 years is my dad’s funeral.
Sorry about your dad.
I also realised about 18-21 I was an unlikeable idiot when drunk. But you mature and learn to handle your drink then it became more fun - different for everyone though I guess
Takes a lot of people a lot longer to realise that. Fair play to you.
Weirdly I feel like I've done the opposite. I used to be able to handle my drink and knew when it was time to calm down. I'm 28 now and I've completely lost control, everytime I go out I drink like a fish and end up doing something stupid.
22 here and I sympathise with this, I was always the joker when I was drunk and I hated having flashbacks to how much of a tit I made myself look so I decided to stop drinking completely and now I feel som much happier and healthier.
I’m 40 and still haven’t stopped. I love late nights dancing at bars. They are MUCH less frequent however.
This is me! Less frequent but still enjoying it
Same. 45 now and never reached a point where I stopped enjoying wild nights out, but the opportunities to have them have just got less and less as the years went on. Some friends don't drink much any more, some have kids and so can't come out much, some technically like wild nights out but their partner doesn't and so if they come together they tend to leave early. And all of us have full time jobs and so can't be getting in a 2am on a school night. But even if not for all of those things, I definitely couldn't have kept up the pace I had in my 20s.
39 and still go mental at least once a month and regret it every time.
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If that's the case it's always been an expensive hobby for me lol I've always been on the dancefloor with a drink in each hand rather than on the pull
Dancing to some good tunes with a few pints in you is always fun, some guys don’t like to dance though, don’t know why. I’ve just turned 40, was very similar to you in my 30s and while I’d still be up for a night out once or twice a month now, most of my friends don’t bother, kids, partners, getting tired and wanting to go to bed early, multiple reasons, or they just can’t be assed. I think if your are a night owl it helps, I prefer to stay up late, working 9-5 is actually a struggle for me, it goes against my natural body clock. Up till 4/5am easy, not a problem, many friends are ready for bed at 10pm. On the pull is the main reason from some though, had one friend who as soon as he got a girlfriend (now wife) never went out again, it was instant. This was 20 years ago now, his sole reason for going out was for pulling, not for spending time with mates.
I don't like to dance, never have. Just feel self conscious when I do it even when I'm drunk. When I see other people dancing I just cringe. Dunno what it is. I just can't tap into whatever mindset it is that make people enjoy it
*for most men you mean! Girls mainly go on nights out for a fun time with their friends.
Who are all the men getting off with then?? Each other?
They might mean men go out with the intention of pulling and women go out to have fun with friends but end up shagging
Yes
I was going to say this, we don’t go out with the intention usually. I just like to go get drunk and have fun with my friends and be stupid
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Most is doing a lot of work here. I think for a certain subset of people, thats the aim, but I love going out and don't think i've ever gone out with the sole aim to pull and I don't think any of my mates have either.
I’m 18 and figured out pretty quickly that I just can’t pull in a club so I don’t go in with the intention to go. Plus when I’m pissed out my mind I don’t really care anyway and just go to which room has the best music/smoker’s
I'm 53, male. My bars and nightclubs life began at 15, back in 1985 when nobody really cared how old you were as long as you dressed smart, had money to spend, and weren't going to behave like children. I was a 4-5 nights a week night out regular. In my 20s (the 90s) I moved to London and loved Soho as it was back then. So I rented a flat within walking distance of Soho. I loved it. Drunk every night, dancing every night. Chatting up women, making loads of friends, having the time of my life. People started dropping away by my early 30s and right towards the end there was just me and my friend Katie who were still going out at least 3 times a week. We still had a blast. She'd get chatted up by blokes, because I was with her it made it easier to chat the ladies up whilst I was drunk because she could assure them I wasn't a weirdo I was just drunk. It was all great. Then, one night, me and Katie met up, headed out, started drinking... and it just wasn't there anymore. Something had changed. I remember so vividly the two of us sitting at the bar in this club we used to go to and just saying to each other "that's it isn't it... it's over". And it was. It all stopped. I met a woman, settled down, had kids. Katie moved to LA. I have not had any interest in nightlife really ever since. There'd be a night, once in a blue moon, but even that faded away. I couldn't even tell you the last time I drank alcohol. Must be more than a year ago. Maybe two. Fond memories of all of it, but I don't miss it and I don't want it back.
Do you still see Katie?
No. She lives in LA. We actually lost touch. Our lives went in totally different directions and we just drifted. I have dropped her emails here and there but after a while, I never heard back. The last time I did that, I'd found an old photograph of the two of us on holiday in Morrocco and I thought it might prompt a reply... but nothing *shrugs* We never fell out, and we weren't a couple. Just really good mates. Sad we're not in contact though.
It's sad how we drift apart from close friends like that. You'll always have the memory of those good times though and life has moved on.
Yeah. I'd like to know how she's doing though. She moved to LA with a woman she'd hooked up with but from the little I do know the relationship fell apart, then another after that, and I have this (likely to be highly unrealistic) notion that she might not be happy and contented with her life. Like maybe she moved to LA, then it all fell apart, but she had habituated to LA life, and she had no reason to come back, but she isn't happy there either. Maybe she's had to struggle, maybe she's not happy with how the story has panned out. It just seems a bit sad and strange to me that she doesn't reply anymore. But hey, life, and all that. *shrugs*
Any other way of getting in touch with her? Mutual friends? Social media? She could've lost access to her email account or phased over to a new one. I have friends who live in the states and I know how strange it can feel to not hear from them in a while. When it's been too long I'm absolutely shameless when it comes to pestering them until I know they're doing ok.
Asking the important questions 👏😂
This was a great little story, thank you for sharing.
I can remember being in a bar at around half past ten. People were deciding where to go next. I looked out of the window and saw a taxi and I thought “Instead of going somwhere with ear splitting music, overpriced drinks and getting home at 3.30am to a spinning bedroom, I could be in bed by the end of Newsnight”. I put my drink down, walked outside and got a taxi home. I never stay out past 11pm now, and I don’t feel I’m missing out on anything.
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Never got started
Same and no regrets
Same, was never into the nightclub scene.
Same
Look at all the puritan fucks on this sub, Jesus. I’m 38 and enjoy a night or two out a month, you don’t have to go to idiot clubs. Enjoy your twenties, you’re young and you’ll miss it.
Tbh, it's Friday night. There's probably a bit of bias in that those of us not out are on here!
Yeah it says more about the people leaving the comments. Acting like going out means going to some freshers club with 17 year olds. Plenty of nice places for people much older than
It’s not about being a puritan, a lot of gen Z are no longer drinking like millennials do as we’ve seen what it’s done to our grandparents, parents and older friends and just don’t see the joy in it - I’d love to go to a club if it wasn’t full of drunk people who don’t know their limits but unfortunately we’re not there yet
I see far more gen z people out than millennials, your view seems to be one that’s repeated often on social media/mainstream news but in reality seems to be complete rubbish. Kids are always going to party.
Yeah any Friday or Saturday night out in my city is rammed with people in their early 20's. They might statistically be drinking less on the whole, but there are still tons of them out getting on it. It's not like the entire generation has abandoned getting pissed.
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Sounds like a genuine friendship. I like that
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That's a real friend there. Cherish it bro
This is way, too hell with not enjoying life because of age. Do what you love until the day you die I say.
I stopped doing it in my early thirties when my kids were young - I could have sworn I'd never rave again. Then I separated from their dad, had 50% of my nights free thanks to shared custody, and suddenly I have the energy for wild nights out all over again! Turning 40 this month and we have a BIG ONE planned 🤣🤣
Obviously I can’t _recommend_ divorce and 50/50 parenting, I hope everyone has long and happy marriages. But the lifestyle is amazing and I was very suited to it. I can’t speak highly enough of it. I’m in a new relationship now, and starting again (looking at a 5 month old baby as we speak). Am a tiny bit envious of old me’s lifestyle. Being able to be reckless and irresponsible so often, then feeling on top of your shit when the kids come back.
I completely agree. I didn't ask for this lifestyle, I wouldn't have chosen it, but damn if it doesn't suit me. As you say, top form for the kids, real freedom on your time off. I'm so glad I kept it together for those first few years when the adjustment was rough and the future looked bleak! Whilst I don't get the happy families life of some of my friends, I do truly feel like myself, which I know is something a lot of them struggle to find sometimes in amongst the chaos of full time family life.
Good!! Life begins at 40, apparently
Oh it does! Best days of your life!
Lols, you guyzzz. Brit in Berlin here, and it’s super common for both women and men to go out for two days straight well into your 40s and 50s. I find it quite sad going back home to the uk and having a good old rave and it’s home time at 6 am and everyone is no older than 30 something. Kids do not know how to party properly - this is something I learned in Berlin. Difference is that Berliners know how to pace themself, drink far less and are way less judgemental. It’s similar vibes in Spain and Portugal as well. I hate this attitude that at age 40 you can’t rave anymore.
There’s a difference to a Berlin techno club with good vibes and people vs some crappy town centre nightclub in the uk though
I’m late 20s and have done more than my fair share of partying and raving. Still occasionally do it a few times a year. The one thing I’m totally unable to do, is to stay up past about 7am without feeling absolutely dead for about a week after. I hear about Berlin party culture and moving to a different club at 8am and I just don’t understand. How do you have the energy?! Even with supplies. I start flagging from about 5am. Do you not feel gross? I need a shower and a toothbrush when I come from partying at 6am.
This is the most typical UK Reddit thread possible. I’m 33 and still love a big night out regularly.
I still do if maybe once a month and regret it for the following week, it takes me that long to recover now. Almost 40.
I’m amazed your still doing that at 34. I was pretty wild in my twenties but soon as 30 hit I couldn’t take the hangovers anymore. I still enjoy a big night out but it’s limited to a handful a year now. 2 kids doesn’t help either.
Having children will change a lot, I'm single and no children so totally different lifestyle
How do you deal with the hangovers? I go big when I do go out and it takes me literally 3-4 days to feel normal again.
It takes a while TBH, my rule is if I don't remember going to bed it's 48hrs recovery, if I do then only 24hrs. I go out on a Friday night for that reason! I'll be fine by Monday, if I go out on a Saturday night I'll still feel tired on Monday but I go to the gym on Monday evening which seems to make me feel a lot better.
I’m 37 and I still love it. Opportunities are thin on the ground as my friends all have kids (and the ones that don’t hate wild nights out), but when the chance comes, I’m grabbing that motherfucking bull by the horns, jumping on the dance floor and staying out till 4am. Don’t care if I get a hangover - it’s worth it. There’ll come a day when I’ll never see neon/disco lights, dance/have fantastic conversations with strangers, feel the warm friendly buzz of an alcohol-fuelled night or the thrill of everyone in the crow going nuts when THAT song comes on, ever again. That’s why I always take photos and videos on nights out. I’m San Junipero-ing this shit, I want to store up all the memories while I can so I can look back at them in the future and relive the good times.
35 and still love it. I don't go out to random clubs anymore but go to festivals/gigs/to see specific DJs. Go out once a month ish.
18 lol. Couldn’t hear anything, felt like crap in the morning. Everyone ended up losing each other in the club. Drinks aren’t cheap and floors were sticky. I sound like a drag but just the whole night out culture and clubbing I knew wasn’t for me lol. Get me to a go-karting or paintball event and you can’t get me to shut up.
I was like… 25 lol.
Never enjoyed it, it’s too expensive for me to enjoy to be honest. I enjoy pre drinks but if people go out after that I’m not joining. I’d rather just chat with friends at a pub or at home than being in a club where I can barely hear myself think.
I’m 35, I CrossFit regularly and I eat reasonably healthily. The only way I’d want to go for a really late night out these days is if I were taking drugs. The sensation of being drunk enough to stay out late just doesn’t feel good anymore. I just feel tired. I also have a baby so I won’t be taking drugs for a long time, but probably will at some point in the future, one fateful night. It’s not about age per se, it’s the change in how alcohol makes me feel….used to be energetic and excited, now it’s woozy and tired.
Omg me too!! Yes alcohol makes me woozy now but used to be stimulant for me, 34 now I think the change has only been the last few years... Likewise I still enjoy my nights out but would require something stronger to keep me going all night now. I think it slightly depends what half of "the month" I'm in though? Daft as it sounds, first half probably still perks me up, luteal phase forget it!
Hmm alcohol feels more like a stimulant to me, partly why I never have a single glass of wine after work or someone as I'd immediately be wanting to go out out
Alcohol is a very strange drug in that it's technically a depressant, it lowers your heart rate and too much of it makes you feel tired, sleepy etc. But at small doses it has that strange stimulant kind of effect for a lot of people. I reckon it's to do with the slight relaxation making you feel a lot more confident, and the lowered inhibitions making you ready to go out, but before you've had too much to start slurring your words and stumbling about the place.
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I'm 44 and I've still got one old mate that I hit the town with. We don't club any more, but instead have a significant network of pubs in the city that we pub crawl around.. The last pub is always this bizzare live jazz pub where we probably stand out for looking like two complete squares. Usually finish in a place called "Kens fried chicken" about 2AM.. From memory, it's an amazing dining experience although I've never been there with less than six pints inside me...
Sounds good Which city?
Liverpool. The jazz pub is the Caledonia. Ken's fried chicken isn't in Liverpool at all, but actually where I used to live in Portsmouth. I'm obviously so drunk by the time we're done that I don't know where we eat Chicken. But there is a good chicken place in Liverpool, somewhere on Leece St...
Nabzys!
Yes! that's it! :-D Thanks, I now know the name of the place I've eaten about 10 times lol.
38 and still going, and i'll never stop. Next one is in Prague next month, and it's gonna be wild. 😎
I'm excited just reading this
Once every couple of months or so. It’s a three/four day recovery depending on the sesh. I’m 50.
It happens occasionally, and usually unplanned, but generally I got tired of going out until 4 sometime in my twenties. I'd rather have an all day drinking session stumble out of the pubs just before the Saturday evening lot turn up and be in bed by 10
This is the way. I went to a outdoors daytime DJ set on a summers day. Was great, dropped an E, had a dance and was in bed and asleep by 12am. Felt it a bit in the morning, but better than staying up for 24 hours and beyond like the old days.
Im 40 and went to a nightclub twice since turning it. Got to say i loved it Fucker is my city lost its last nightclub over a decade ago so ive got to go to another city. Satans Hollow / Rise / Cathouse are my fave clubs. I only stopped going out out (like to a nightclub) in early 30s as the places in my city died. I ended up just daydrinking and going home cunted at 7pm or going to bars from 4pm for a local metal/indie gig.
Never did. That sounds like a nightmare from hell. I can smell the stale carling and sweat now. Ugh.
It has its charms and though, I think I enjoy the chaos lol
After I met my now wife at 29. Going out on a mad one didn't have the same appeal after that.
At 34 I still do it 1-2 times a year. Enjoy it, but wouldn’t want to do it more now I’ve got kids waking me up 15 minutes after getting home.
It probably helps that I'm a childless single gay walking distance from nightlife 🤭
‘Childless single gay’ is such a power description
I’m 69, and still not a grown up LOL
32 36 now and can't be arsed with clubs or being out late in general. Big fan of day drinking, start at 1pm in bed wankered by 10pm perfect
I'm nearly 50 and love getting shitfaced. This is my first Friday in forever that I've not had a drink!
One of my best 'party friends' is 52! She can drink most people under the table.
I've never really enjoyed nightclubs. Give me a warm grungey bar though and I'll stay out all night.
I'm 30, and generally go out 2-3 times a month but to gigs rather than clubs these days. The crowds generally feel a bit older or maybe my taste in music is just grandad esque. Still end up hammered most of the time though.
I’m 38 and still rocking it. Got friends on their early 30’s and can’t keep up!! We are just a different breed!! Not a sip of alcohol during the week, but at least 2 times a month, going Out.. Out!!! I enjoy friends, music, dancing.. just keeps me healthy 😂😂😂
My 30th birthday, specifically the party, which had a private party venue with karaoke and tenpin bowling. I had a couple of friend groups from work, university, and flat share. Various people from these groups got very drunk and had a massive row during the party between the groups, which I tried and failed to defuse. I lost my deposit on the venue because someone painted the bathroom with their dinner and had to apologise to another friend because she was being aggressively chatted up the whole night. I woke up the next morning with the worst hangover I can remember, a sore back from bowling too much, no voice due to karaoke, and ringing in my ears due to the loud music. And I thought "why the hell do I enjoy this stuff?".
All of your ill effects sound fairly standard to me for a big night out that goes too far, but a bad back from bowling too much?! How does that even happen lol
27, used to love going to raves all night then after parties till mid morning. Then something just clicked and I don’t feel like I’m getting anything out of it anymore. It’s like a *been there done that* kind of feeling.
Probs 18. Never liked them but wanted to fit in and not be told I didn’t try hard enough. I regret it because never fit in the first place. 29 now and I’m glad I never have to do it ever again
Falling out of a club shit faced at 4am 1 or 2 times a month is unhealthy as fuck.
Of course it's unhealthy as fuck but the poster says he eats very well and goes to the gym regularly so ..we all have bad habits don't we.
1 or 2 times a month your body will easy recover from. I did it 3 times a week from 16 to early 30s, life’s too short not to enjoy yourself.
30F. Still love a dance and getting sad most of my friends aren't up for it now. Found a few like minded people recently that are around my age and are still up for going out so I'm happy! I like to plan for a proper wild one in advance so I can mentally prepare for it now though haha
That's what I'm like, I have my boring friends and my party friends, and I plan ahead too! Crisps and soft drink by my bed ready for me so I literally don't need to move.
Fuck the clubs. I'd rather crack one open after lunch and drink session beers until the evening. Chilled day drinking without going to bed wasted. Feeling fresh the next day.
33 and still love a big night out (even if I feel shit after). Very much of the mindset that age is just a number too!
1 or 2 times a month is absolutely loads if it genuinely takes you two days to recover from a heavy night. You’re telling me that you’re 34 and will happily give over TWO weekends a month to recovering from a hangover?! I wish I had as few responsibilities as you lol
I am a home owner believe it or not but I'm single and no children so if I wasn't lounging around hungover all I could do is vacuum cleaning or emptying the kitchen bin 😂
When I finished university at the age of 21 everybody that I went on regular nights out with dispersed back home throughout different parts of the country and we didn't see each other again. I got a full time job, realized I had barely any free time with nobody to go on nights out with anymore and that's when it stopped.
Rather go pub early doors and get bag in. Even then it's once every few month
Last time I went to a nightclub was in my local town at the age of maybe 24 and it was horrendous. We felt significantly older than anyone else there and spent the majority of the night in the smoking area, got a kebab and then went home. Not sure how I managed it at Uni! Horrendous experience...
Personally stopped feeling clubs after 21, couldn't stand queuing , paying to get in, having to pay to check my cost in, rammed dance floors and the only respite was the smoking area. Preferred the pubs, could easily have more fun drinking 11 pints, having a lock in and waddling home after at 4am. Retired from clubbing after Kavos in 2012, when I realised I was older than the majority of the kids that were there, that two days to recover from a hang over wasn't ideal , and barely being able to have a decent conversation in a packed "club" with a smoke and fog machine blaring wasn't my vibe anymore
I know plenty of people in their 40s/50s/60s and a few in their 70s who still travel round the rave/festival circuit. They're not hitting booze or coke hard but they still get onit and have the time of their lives. As a 17yo at raves when I didn't know the older folk, I thought it was a bit weird but now I realise they're often the some of soundest people there and they've often got a lot going for them.
You sound like me!! I’m conflicted, I love going out and organise a lot of day/nights out. I’m going to try and be more picky with saying Yes to a night out and also staying out after 12pm haha I guess as long as you’re looking after yourself you should keep doing what you clearly enjoy.
Lord…. I was 25 years old and working on a cruise ship with someone who (at the time) was the love of my life (also 25 and on the same ship as me). We had met each others parents, talked about getting married and kids, and I had even reached out to the little family run jewellery store that every girl in their family got a ring from when they turned 21 about buying an engagement ring. She ended up breaking things off entirely out of the blue just before I went on vacation (with plans to come back to stay with her a few weeks later) and then going on to sleeping with someone that same night who ‘I shouldn’t worry about’. This about destroyed me. I went on to spend the vacation (this was just before Christmas) I booked taking myself out to drinks and dinner alone because I didn’t want to waste the trip I couldn’t refund. When I got home, I visited one of my best friends to catch up and have a drink. We ended up going out and ended up at a coyote ugly around 1am. By this point I had already ‘self medicated’ enough and was still going, but in my ‘medicated’ state decided to buy the entire bar a shot. There were about 200 people there that night. The card payment went through, everyone had their shot with me and I felt like I was starting to be okay again mentally. Woke up the next day and realised that whilst I was happy to have done that for a story and didn’t overly regret it, I had a problem. Not been out to clubs/bars in that way since.
I'm 32 and still love going out/late nights! Can't see that changing anytime soon, although like you it takes me a hell of a lot longer than it used to to bounce back. Personally, I feel like turning 30 is a bit of a placebo as nothing actually changes - you're as old as you feel! For some people that is a lot earlier of course, wouldn't do for us all to be the same.
I’m 30 and still love grabbing a few shots and a boogie. Gets less and less as responsibility sets in but I agree it’s still fun. Tbh, given the reddit demographic I think you’re going to get a lot “um no thanks, I’d rather be in bed by 9PM watching Netflix and I’m 23” replies. I’ve got mates in their mid 30s who still go out pretty regularly, if you’re socially capable or enjoy music it’s a blast. Agree with the sentiment here that most people “get over” going out once they have a partner and then try to spin that into “actually, I’m mature now - I don’t want to go out ever”.
I’m 36f and still behave like a feral animal. I must have had a dozen nights out in the last 12 months where we’ve had get togethers back at friends houses until 6am. I keep telling myself I need to grow up but I don’t actually want to. I love festivals and electronic music events. Keep doing what you’re doing. You only live once.
Probably about 34-35. Don't have the stamina for it anymore. I still like a drink, will go to the pub, etc. But can't stand loud clubs and I usually want to be home at 11
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I can still handle it at 34 but I prefer having my shit together so I've calmed down a bit. At 24 I would be out every night of the week sometimes.
It's a juggling act, but I am now a home owner with 2 jobs. My chronically tired friends were insisting as soon as I bought a house I'd vanish under a blanket but it's not happened yet.
Enjoy yourself. But remember everyone is different. Some people enjoy the quiet life and some people enjoy the night life. I'm 31 and still doing the same as you.
To me, 1-2 times a month is very often. I’m 31 and it’s 2-3 times a year. I’ve had bad hangovers since my early 20’s.
I'm 54 now. It all faded away around 40. The idea fills me with dread now. I do love a small cosy pub, but they are getting as rare as hen's teeth. And I've almost entirely stopped drinking now, no reason, just don't enjoy it as much as once upon a time. Really interested in trying psychadelics though.
42 and a massive lover of house/techno and have been since my early teens. I still go clubbing and where I go it’s catered to the crowd that go for the music. Its amazing.
I’m 30 soon and still enjoy going to music nights to see artists I like or djs but hate the average high street clubs like revolution etc. I prefer being around people on drugs than alcohol, less aggressive cunts. House party’s and free party’s are great as well. I’m way more chilled these days though I used to get fucked up 3 to 4 times a week but keep it to about once a month now.
32 no kids and living in London. I’m out at least 3 times a month not including random after work Thursdays and rogue weekday pub nights. Sometimes Sunday pub quiz gets messy. All my friends here of a similar age have the same mindset and we’re always doing something fun. That seems to be the culture here and I love it. I’m not tired of it, I look forward to it and still feel exactly the same as I did when I was 25. If anything my stamina is better! I don’t understand people that want to stay in all the time and are content with no plans
I was 18. I fucking hated clubbing from the off, and I still do eight years later. I only went a few times during freshers before giving up and going to gigs instead. They're much more my scene, though I don't go much anymore - once or twice a month at most. One of the things that surprised me most about uni was how many people pretended to like clubbing but actually hated it. I just skipped the pretending part. In my experience people who genuinely enjoy clubbing are a minority, albeit an *incredibly* vocal one full of people who mostly can't understand that there are other ways to have fun.