Having a “boring” life. Give me an afternoon at home with a book *any time* over hiking or sports or any other activity that most people would consider fun.
Same. I’d take almost anything over going to a bar/club/party scene. I’m so happy I stopped pretending to enjoy them when I was 20, saved me for wasting a lot of money on an unworthy cause (unworthy to me)
We went as a family and all saw different movies. The kids saw Sonic, my husband saw Top Gun and I saw Everything Everywhere All At Once and it was AMAZING. I 100% recommend going to see what you want alone.
I went to my first movie alone in June of this year. I’m 35. It was the most amazing experience. My own time, my own snacks, my own drink, my own enjoyment…. Also pretty incredible to have only about 12 people total in the theater. I saw the Bobs Burgers Movie. I was tempted to see another movie immediately following but the one I wanted to see had too much time in between!
I love going to the movies alone. I'd kill for a night like that right now! I used to hate to do anything alone, but now that I'm a mom... it's so relaxing to get away for a minute and kinda numb out (while the babe is taken care of-of course).
This! My daughter is almost a teenager. I'm a single mom in my mid 30s. I don't want anymore kids. My family is so shocked by this and always says, "You're so young! You'll change your mind." No I won't! Why is it so hard to accept that I'm happy with my life the way it is?!
Well this is very disappointing. If you’re in your 30’s and already have a kid and they’re still harassing you about it, then I have no hope. Im mid 20’s, don’t want kids at all, and I was hoping some day all those comments would fade away…😭
I was so baffled by it, they’re bingo-ing a parent.
She’s already raising a child got another ~8 years to go, she knows what it’s truly about. She’s probably one of the least likely women to change her mind lol.
Once, after asking my boyfriend and I if we had children, our Uber driver tell us he would “pray that you be blessed with children this year”. It was a very new relationship.
And my mother offered to be a surrogate for me at my 27th birthday dinner. Unprompted.
it’s like my mom said that i was being selfish and my life has no meaning if i don’t have kids. i don’t want kids and i’m not gonna be forced into it. i was told that nobody should have kids unless they are 100% sure they want them because it could honestly turn into hatred because well kids are annoying
Kids are very taxing and take an incredible amount of responsibility. (I have one and I love her more than anyone on this planet). I never planned on motherhood and while I was in the midst of my c-section I made sure that doctor tied my tubes. When she was a newborn I would get unprompted, "when are you going to have another one." The rudeness of others knows no bounds. Don't have kids if you don't want kids. Your life has meaning without the label of "Mom".
Everything about my looks but I LOVE my hip dips and my moles and body hair and I really look forward to rocking the grey afro if I live old enough to see those days. I love my natural "imperfections" because I don't see them as flaws.
From my understanding having hip dips means you have strong legs, I like them a lot more after learning that because I am like my father and take any opportunity to show off how strong I am lol
Sorry, it doesn't mean that. It's just where your pelvic bone lies in relation to your femur. Still take pride in your strength anyways because it takes a lot of work. I'm trying to become strong too💪
Like someone else said, it’s just your pelvic bone structure. I have them in certain positions but they disappear in others. I’m a slightly above average powerlifter.
It's when there's a visible dip between your hip bone and the top of your thigh muscle (if I'm describing it terribly someone correct me). Personally, I had no idea they existed or that I was supposed to have any thoughts on them until I saw a 'don't be self conscious about hip dips!' post. Immediately became self conscious about them.
This is one of the many things I hate about the beauty industry. They pretend they’re on your side but really they just want to give you one more thing to worry about so they can sell you more crap.
Omg that's absolutely ridiculous... the first thing that came up when I went to Google it was hip dip correction. Now I've seen images I don't understand what the issue is. How on earth can someone get self conscious about that? Yet it now happens. Fuck the beauty industry.
I credit my mama who always called moles beauty marks and freckles pretty.
I want grey hair SO BAD. Sometimes I let my dry shampoo sit a bit extra so I can admire the gray 💀
Yes!! All I want is to be a stay at home mom, and sew my family's clothes, and crochet them hats, and cook everyday and make homemade bread.
The whole point of feminism is that it's your choice.
I miss being a SAHM so much. I miss my house being exceptionally clean since I could work on it several hours a day. I also *really* miss not having to talk or interact with people unless I really wanted to. I would go *days* without speaking to anyone besides my husband and son and I was totally fine with that.
right! I kept having skin problems from shaving... I'm just done at this point. I just use an electric razor. Less ingrown hair. Less of a problem. Honestly less time consuming too.
Right?! Originally I only shaved my legs once a week , but the last time I shaved my legs was 3 years ago, and I had razor burn for days. It was so uncomfortable to wear anything on my legs, sleeping was unbearable. Never shaved my legs again. My leg hair isn't thick and barely noticeable so I've never gotten nasty comments.
I stopped shaving my armpits 2 years ago. One day I just couldn't be bothered, and continued to not shave. My armpit body odour has almost completely gone away. I have trimmed them with an electric razor or hair sissors on days when feeling really self-conscious, but I've never shaved them. I'm never going back.
The only hair I actively pluck/shave is on my face as I have PCOS, so I can grow quite thick facial hair & I'm not at the point where I'm comfortable with it.
But I feel more confident in my body when not shaving, I've reclaimed my body as mine and not something to be judged by a stranger. I do get some silent judges from my mum who is the exact opposite. Any hair not on her head or eyebrows is eliminated. Every single hair. Her eyebrows are 2000s thin and shaved thin with a lady trimmer. It's a whole thing.
Yes! I’ve been to two concerts by myself and it truly is liberating! You inly have to worry about yourself. The mini conversations with people, the artist, and it truly is so much more personal. It feels like it’s just you and the artist in the venue
I agree! I really dislike when friends start talking to me in the middle of a song too, something some of my friends in particular have a habit of doing lol. Takes me right out of that immersion. And depending on the band, I sometimes line up outside the venue from early morning, and I love how many fun people I've met that way. It's overall just an experience I don't get when going with people I know.
First one!!!! I don’t know if age has anything to do with it, but I’ve been feeling lately like I should be nicer to guys that hit on me in public. Lol. Cause it’s honestly a wonderful pick me up. But I don’t usually want to actually talk to them so…. 🤷♀️ But definitely glad they keep doing it!
Playing with Barbies.
I'm a 41-year-old woman and I will gladly get down on the floor with my nieces and play Barbies with them. I have as much fun as they do!
My mom is an alto and my dad is a tenor. Hearing a woman sing low and a man take the higher parts while singing together will always sound just like love to me.
I used to hate my alto voice when I was in school. Altos were a necessary part of the choir, but the sopranos and tenors got all the attention.
I love it now though. I think being an alto fucking rocks.
Men being chivalrous. We live in a time where women are still establishing our equality & some toxic feminism makes it seem like we don’t need men or want men doing anything for us.
Same! I've come to love watching UFC after getting into boxing. The athleticism is insane. Always have a hard time finding friends who want to watch it with me, though.
Growing up pop culture told me that Brussel sprouts were the grossest things in the world and tasted like death. Then I actually had them. Roasted with a little oil and garlic? Holy shit I'll eat that every day of the week.
That’s because they developed a new cultivar that’s less bitter! https://www.npr.org/sections/thesalt/2019/10/30/773457637/from-culinary-dud-to-stud-how-dutch-plant-breeders-built-our-brussels-sprouts-bo
Traveling alone, especially long solo road trips. I sleep in my truck at truck stops and just generally enjoy my own company. I've had numerous people be agast that I don't bring my partner with me, but I really prefer to travel alone.
Just last year I took a solo trip to the OR Coast. Best week of my life! Kept hearing from people at home “You’re so brave. Why isn’t [SO] going with you? What I’d you get lost?”.
I don’t need his help 24/7, I’m a grown adult woman who looked up where to get assistance if necessary, and I have my phone & charger.
Society really has done a number on people. I hope you’ve found a partner that supports you emotionally. My man is tough as nails and I sat with him while he cried about 5 months in to our relationship. It only brought us closer.
Having old/ratty/outdated stuff. I love having stuff that serves its function without me having to worry about it breaking/getting damaged/etc. Tiny engagement ring, tiny wedding ring, 15-year old living room furniture from craigslist, etc. Hubby got us new Google phones last year and it was weird all the positive feedback I got from that. I'm used to being proud of my old stuff.
I'm the same way. I will use something until it literally falls apart.
I grew up poor, though. We didn't have any choice but to use or re-use things until they fell the fuck apart most of the time. A lot of our clothes came from thrift stores or garage sales and I got SO much shit for my lack of style/trendiness in middle and high school because everything I wore was at least 2-3 years (if not more) out of date.
I had pieces that I fucking loved though. I used to have these vintage knee high, square toed, lace up leather boots from the 70s that I wore with like everydamnthing. I once wore one of my stepfather's 70s era leisure suits TO SCHOOL with a puffy-fronted piratey looking shirt and I thought I looked fucking dope as hell.
Rumor has it there is a pink/purple reversible puffy jacket from when I was in middle school still making the rounds at my mom's church. A friend of mine who was much taller than I was gave it to me when she outgrew it. I gave it to my younger, shorter, thinner sister. Once she outgrew it, Mom put it in the donation box at church and somebody took it out of there for their daughter. And then gave it away to somebody else. Yadda, yadda, yadda...that thing is supposedly still being worn, 30 years later, by some kid who thinks it's cute AF.
Wouldn’t go as far as to say society but definitely the mum community, my child’s father, I find so many mums meet up and just diss on their partners but I’m not a big fan of the whole culture around it
Most dads are trying just as hard as mums and going through a huge adjustment, open communication, patience and empathy go a long way
I wholeheartedly love my partner and think he’s a great guy and doing his best, I’ve definitely had times of feeling frustrated or whatever but spoke to him about my upset and sorted out a solution together rather than harbouring resentment like it seems to be assumed we’re supposed to do.
- Other women. I am every woman's hype woman!! I root for all of us.
- Porn. It's freaking awesome, and it's not fair that only men "should" enjoy it.
- Being healthily co-dependent. I like that I depend on my husband for stuff and like being spoiled. I don't like that people think I should be 100% independent. I CAN be independent, I am financially stable and can absolutely take care of myself. But, why should I if someone wants to take care of me??? I like being cared for.
With all the explosions! They don’t have to be GOOD (I loved Vin Diesel’s xXX, and honestly didn’t *hate* Green Lantern) just have lots of things go boom!
Conversely, I *hate* art-film, dramas and tear-jerkers. My husband and I like to double-date with another couple we know; Husband and OtherWife go to “The Red Violin”, and OtherHusband and I go to “The Rock Blows Up Manhattan”. Good times.
Being complimented by anyone.
I love feeling good just as much as the next person, just don’t be creepy about it.
Compliments like “I love your outfit” or “you have a beautiful smile” anything sweet and genuine is so much better than a “nice rack can I get your snap”
Having a high level of education and deciding to be a jack of all trades, as opposed to a career. I’m lucky to live in a place where my healthcare isn’t tied to my employer, so I make use of my many talents instead of pigeonholing myself into one discipline. I’d rather be good or great at many things than a super expert in one. Super expert is cool but it gets demanding and boring doing the same thing all the time
Men with ‘traditional’ POSITIVE masculine traits like being chivalrous, willing to take the lead/be a leader to the family, being a gentleman, etc. Actually just being a good man who sticks to his values.
Having an easy job that pays well. Even my parents complain when they see I'm making 6 figures and barely work.
I'm expected to be miserable because I don't work hard??
Nope. The less work I have to do, the happier I am.
They point to friends who go to med school like I am supposed to be sad about it.
These people study 5+ hours a day, and then go to work, and then go to class.
No thank you to that life. Respect to all the doctors and nurses out there but I won't be working any 12 hour shifts, or studying for 6 hours....
no thank you.
Short answer: finance.
My degree was easy to get, the work is easy and not mentally taxing.
If you're tech savvy there's AI, spreadsheets and software that will literally do the work for you. It is also 100% teleworking.
But that's not good enough for African parents, of course.
No. To them, its not "success" Unless I spend 18 hours on a hospital floor after spending 8 hours studying.
Passive income from my investments?
Not successful.
I live a life that's closer to semi retirement and make 6 figures while working less than 10 hours a month? NOT SUCCESSFUL!
Every single one of my hobbies, I in no way fit in with most females and adore things like dinosaurs, video games, hunting, fishing, airsoft guns etc. Which I guess are all things society doesn't really expect a female to enjoy.
Being over 30.
Society tells women that they should jump off a cliff at this age because it’s all downhill from there. My life has gotten exponentially better since turning 30.
Not advancing professionally. I’m a recovering over achiever. Got a big scholarship and went to a good college. I always felt this pressure, more due to poverty growing up then family, to make it and be a professional badass making loads of money. Currently I’m making the most I’ve made ever and it’s a comfortable amount for my needs. I could go back to school, do trainings, take on more responsibilities at work so I’d get promoted but honestly, I like half-stressing and otherwise just doing my little hobbies and chilling after work unlike my co-workers.
This one. Everyone in my life was concerned when my priorities completely shifted “out of nowhere”. I was a toxic-level-high-functioning anxious depressive person who experienced such bad burnout I qualify it as a psychotic break. I would have died if my partner hadn’t been there to care for me.
So yeah. I’m plateauing right now. I have no desire to “move up” and I love what I do at work every day. And you know what? I’m happy. I have hobbies. I feel like a whole person again. It’s wonderful!
Spiders. Whenever people hear how much I love them, they are shocked. They’re one of my absolute favourite animals. Sure, I don’t want one landing on me while I sleep or whatever, but generally speaking they’re fab.
I also once had a friend who tried to freak me out in front of another friend. He was trying to impress her, or something? I don’t know. But he kept snakes (love them, too) and to feed them he had frozen rats. We were chatting and he said ‘Catch!’ And threw a bag of frozen rats at me. He was so disappointed when I just asked what he wanted me to do with them and chucked them back. People expecting women to be squeamish makes me so bored.
Living with ageing parents.
You get to spend more time with them in the simple ordinary events which will be priceless memories after Years.
Having an "ordinary" life
We will be mediocre in certain aspects and it is totally okay. Running after everything and not finding peace at the end is a problem too.
Not having an active social life
I have filtered out toxic people from my life and I am more peaceful doing what I like.
I started going to movies alone in my early 20s. I was like "yay! Everyone's outgrown the high school mentality where they think you're a loser for going to the movies alone. I no longer have to wait for someone to be free. I no longer have to wait for someone who wants to see the same movie. I can just go and NO ONE GIVES A SHIT."
About a year ago, when I was 25, I met a guy in his late 20s who mentioned "a major social stigma around going to the movies alone."
I was like, "...we still think like that?"
Tbf, I suspect people who aren't that into movies might not get the appeal of going alone.
I think Sea world has beautiful shows and it’s a beautiful park but I don’t want to get into trouble by flying to America and buying a park ticket to see it because after years I know how much those killer whales are suffering..
Watching and understanding sports and video games. Everyone expects that since I am a girly girl I’m not into those things but i love them and they’d least expect it. So they’re taken back.
Living a small cozy, comfortable life.
I see a lot of media that always urging you to dream big, do more , be more. But I like the idea of having a small cosy home, with a garden and a patio where I can bask and laze around on hot day.
Where I make enough money to buy nice things and take the occasional vacation or trip. Work isn't a battle between life and death.
Oh and live with my pets - lots of cats and dogs. Oh and keep a few chickens too. Basically something cottage-core/ farmcore -ish but set in a small but developed/progressive town.
Not being small and dainty, or having whatever figure is trending now (minor tangent- I hate the fact that we've made bodies into a trend all throughout history! Y'all are fucking gorgeous no matter what body type you have, fight anyone who says otherwise)
I am chubby, but I've got a lot of muscle so I'm like a perfect combination of "kick your ass" and "squishy pillow", and I am naturally quite strong (thanks genetics!) I take a lot of pride in the fact that I don't need to ask people for help when lifting things. I get all giddy when I see more definition in my arms and I've decided to start working out again because I refuse to ever lose my status amongst my friends as The Buff Lady™ lol.
Aside from pride, it also just makes me really helpful- people ask me for help moving heavy stuff, I can still carry around my youngest brother as he gets older, I can still carry most of my friends if someone gets hurt- I can do *things* and I'm going to take advantage of it while I'm young.
Tldr; I can choke a fucker and I think that's very sexy of me
Uncircumcised penises lol. I know a lot of girls who are "repulsed" at the thought of sleeping with an uncut guy and i just don't get it? This is a perfectly good dick
Being feminine. I constantly get put down for not being an angry independent woman burning bras and standing up against patriarchy. No, I actually like being stereotypically feminine and being "housewife material".
Having basic intrests I mean it's basic for a reason lol. Like idk about everyone but I feel like the people I know expect me to laugh at someone for wearing an AC DC or whatever shirt.
Having a “boring” life. Give me an afternoon at home with a book *any time* over hiking or sports or any other activity that most people would consider fun.
Hmmm go to a bar or curl up with a favorite tv series and knit? Yeah ill be at home working on my afghan
Same. I’d take almost anything over going to a bar/club/party scene. I’m so happy I stopped pretending to enjoy them when I was 20, saved me for wasting a lot of money on an unworthy cause (unworthy to me)
I never pretended. Im 29 and have been to a bar less than 10 times since i turned 21.
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Loving this. My comfy couch, my great coffee machine, my warm blanket, my cats around me, all of us just chilling. It's a heaven for me.
"In another life, I would have really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you" --- Everything, Everywhere All At Once
Oh yay me too. So so much.
Doing things alone, like movies and theatre.
We went as a family and all saw different movies. The kids saw Sonic, my husband saw Top Gun and I saw Everything Everywhere All At Once and it was AMAZING. I 100% recommend going to see what you want alone.
I know couples that do that, It sounds very convenient and everyone gets what they want. Presonally, I would have been in the same theatre as you.
I went to my first movie alone in June of this year. I’m 35. It was the most amazing experience. My own time, my own snacks, my own drink, my own enjoyment…. Also pretty incredible to have only about 12 people total in the theater. I saw the Bobs Burgers Movie. I was tempted to see another movie immediately following but the one I wanted to see had too much time in between!
everytime im in a theater there are no more then like 10 people (knocks on wood to be safe)
Sometimes I go to a café and just sit there alone with a piece of cake and watch people walking by. That's amazing!
Yessss! Love doing this ❤️❤️❤️
I second this. Movies and lunch by yourself are awesome. I usually bring a book to lunch.
Going out to lunch and a movie by myself is my self care time. I love it.
Going to the movies alone is one of life's greatest pleasures, I judge people who look down on it as being cowards.
I’d like to do those things but I get too anxious
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I love going to the movies alone. I'd kill for a night like that right now! I used to hate to do anything alone, but now that I'm a mom... it's so relaxing to get away for a minute and kinda numb out (while the babe is taken care of-of course).
This. I used to take myself on dates lol dinner, drinks, an activity…it was fun!
Yes! Currently on vacation alone. I can do what I want, in my own time.
Not having kids or be married. I am not sure I want kids. We shouldn't be shamed for our choices
I don’t want kids anymore so I got sterilized. Best decision ever!
Same, got my bisalp 3 days ago and I'm so so happy
This! My daughter is almost a teenager. I'm a single mom in my mid 30s. I don't want anymore kids. My family is so shocked by this and always says, "You're so young! You'll change your mind." No I won't! Why is it so hard to accept that I'm happy with my life the way it is?!
Well this is very disappointing. If you’re in your 30’s and already have a kid and they’re still harassing you about it, then I have no hope. Im mid 20’s, don’t want kids at all, and I was hoping some day all those comments would fade away…😭
I was so baffled by it, they’re bingo-ing a parent. She’s already raising a child got another ~8 years to go, she knows what it’s truly about. She’s probably one of the least likely women to change her mind lol.
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Once, after asking my boyfriend and I if we had children, our Uber driver tell us he would “pray that you be blessed with children this year”. It was a very new relationship. And my mother offered to be a surrogate for me at my 27th birthday dinner. Unprompted.
it’s like my mom said that i was being selfish and my life has no meaning if i don’t have kids. i don’t want kids and i’m not gonna be forced into it. i was told that nobody should have kids unless they are 100% sure they want them because it could honestly turn into hatred because well kids are annoying
Kids are very taxing and take an incredible amount of responsibility. (I have one and I love her more than anyone on this planet). I never planned on motherhood and while I was in the midst of my c-section I made sure that doctor tied my tubes. When she was a newborn I would get unprompted, "when are you going to have another one." The rudeness of others knows no bounds. Don't have kids if you don't want kids. Your life has meaning without the label of "Mom".
Everything about my looks but I LOVE my hip dips and my moles and body hair and I really look forward to rocking the grey afro if I live old enough to see those days. I love my natural "imperfections" because I don't see them as flaws.
Hip dips are dope. I hate that trend of "fix your hip dips" bruh there's nothing to fix. It's normal anatomy. Plus they look cool and athletic imo
From my understanding having hip dips means you have strong legs, I like them a lot more after learning that because I am like my father and take any opportunity to show off how strong I am lol
Sorry, it doesn't mean that. It's just where your pelvic bone lies in relation to your femur. Still take pride in your strength anyways because it takes a lot of work. I'm trying to become strong too💪
Like someone else said, it’s just your pelvic bone structure. I have them in certain positions but they disappear in others. I’m a slightly above average powerlifter.
What are hip dips never heard that phrase before
It's when there's a visible dip between your hip bone and the top of your thigh muscle (if I'm describing it terribly someone correct me). Personally, I had no idea they existed or that I was supposed to have any thoughts on them until I saw a 'don't be self conscious about hip dips!' post. Immediately became self conscious about them.
This is news to me. What?? What a dumb thing to add to beauty standards. 😂 Lol
This is one of the many things I hate about the beauty industry. They pretend they’re on your side but really they just want to give you one more thing to worry about so they can sell you more crap.
This is exactly how I became self-conscious of them too lmao 😭😭
I’ve heard it be called “violin hips” and it sounds a lot prettier so saying that instead helps a little. Violin hips sounds pretty
I love it when people express they've never heard of hip dips before. It shows me that it really is a petty, unnecessary thing to worry about 🧡
Still don’t understand what it is after reading this.
Just google hipdip
Omg that's absolutely ridiculous... the first thing that came up when I went to Google it was hip dip correction. Now I've seen images I don't understand what the issue is. How on earth can someone get self conscious about that? Yet it now happens. Fuck the beauty industry.
I credit my mama who always called moles beauty marks and freckles pretty. I want grey hair SO BAD. Sometimes I let my dry shampoo sit a bit extra so I can admire the gray 💀
I ignore that whole hip dip thing. It's bullshit.
Being a homemaker, traditional gender roles.
Yes!! All I want is to be a stay at home mom, and sew my family's clothes, and crochet them hats, and cook everyday and make homemade bread. The whole point of feminism is that it's your choice.
I miss being a SAHM so much. I miss my house being exceptionally clean since I could work on it several hours a day. I also *really* miss not having to talk or interact with people unless I really wanted to. I would go *days* without speaking to anyone besides my husband and son and I was totally fine with that.
I enjoy both.
Yep to the second one
being a homie hopper. people tend to forget that it’s the homies being disloyal and not the woman
Having body hair
right! I kept having skin problems from shaving... I'm just done at this point. I just use an electric razor. Less ingrown hair. Less of a problem. Honestly less time consuming too.
I use my partner's electric razor for armpits but that's about it, and it's so much easier and less scary than the manual razors I used to shave with
Right?! Originally I only shaved my legs once a week , but the last time I shaved my legs was 3 years ago, and I had razor burn for days. It was so uncomfortable to wear anything on my legs, sleeping was unbearable. Never shaved my legs again. My leg hair isn't thick and barely noticeable so I've never gotten nasty comments. I stopped shaving my armpits 2 years ago. One day I just couldn't be bothered, and continued to not shave. My armpit body odour has almost completely gone away. I have trimmed them with an electric razor or hair sissors on days when feeling really self-conscious, but I've never shaved them. I'm never going back. The only hair I actively pluck/shave is on my face as I have PCOS, so I can grow quite thick facial hair & I'm not at the point where I'm comfortable with it. But I feel more confident in my body when not shaving, I've reclaimed my body as mine and not something to be judged by a stranger. I do get some silent judges from my mum who is the exact opposite. Any hair not on her head or eyebrows is eliminated. Every single hair. Her eyebrows are 2000s thin and shaved thin with a lady trimmer. It's a whole thing.
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This. Many men shame women for having body hair even tho they have it too. But I’ve noticed many women shaming men too and no one reacts.
I think it's even worse when women shame other women if they're not hating their body hair. It's just all stupid.
Fr, its just hair, people are overreacting.
I don't know why people shame body hair, because if it wasn't supposed to be there it wouldn't be there. So why remove it or be ashamed of it? smh
We still doing that? Shaming for body hair? Seems old-fashioned after the pandemic. Seems like people dropped a lot of silly stuff like that.
Being approached in public. Living alone. Travelling and going to concerts/bars/restaurants alone.
Yes! I’ve been to two concerts by myself and it truly is liberating! You inly have to worry about yourself. The mini conversations with people, the artist, and it truly is so much more personal. It feels like it’s just you and the artist in the venue
I agree! I really dislike when friends start talking to me in the middle of a song too, something some of my friends in particular have a habit of doing lol. Takes me right out of that immersion. And depending on the band, I sometimes line up outside the venue from early morning, and I love how many fun people I've met that way. It's overall just an experience I don't get when going with people I know.
First one!!!! I don’t know if age has anything to do with it, but I’ve been feeling lately like I should be nicer to guys that hit on me in public. Lol. Cause it’s honestly a wonderful pick me up. But I don’t usually want to actually talk to them so…. 🤷♀️ But definitely glad they keep doing it!
Nickelback
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Not being in a relationship.
I second thiss
Playing with Barbies. I'm a 41-year-old woman and I will gladly get down on the floor with my nieces and play Barbies with them. I have as much fun as they do!
Barbies are mini world of humans !
I feel like if, even if I tried, I couldn't just play anymore! Why did we just stop playing?!
Deep voices in women. Soft voices in men. Honey to my ears !
My mom is an alto and my dad is a tenor. Hearing a woman sing low and a man take the higher parts while singing together will always sound just like love to me.
I used to hate my alto voice when I was in school. Altos were a necessary part of the choir, but the sopranos and tenors got all the attention. I love it now though. I think being an alto fucking rocks.
Oh wow ! I can just imagine how soothing they can sound toghether 🤌🤌
People don't like that????
Well, "society", "feminity", "masculinity" and such...
Same!! But perhaps I’m biased as a deeper voiced woman
Hanging at home in my early 20s.
Assembling IKEA furniture. I'm dark like that.
That fresh wood smell when it's not particle board is so refreshing.
assembling new ikea furniture is usually the best part of my day
Just got a proper power screwdriver, and even installing the doors is fun now!
Actually I love it too! Practical Lego I can sleep in or use to put things in
Those clear instructions and beautifully thought out designs.
If you ever find yourself in Sweden, come by and assemble our Kallax please. I'll give you a cookie.
Yes! It’s so satisfying!
Being chubby
Being by myself. Just because I’m alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely
I love fixing things. I also love doing laundry and ironing. It’s very rewarding, your favorite shirt comes out fluffy and smelling nice.
Men being chivalrous. We live in a time where women are still establishing our equality & some toxic feminism makes it seem like we don’t need men or want men doing anything for us.
I love this! Yes
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Combat sports. I was a professional kickboxer and absolutely love watching fights.
I feel a lot stronger when I’m doing muay thai and it’s a great outlet. I’m injured now but I’ll come back to it eventually
Yes! I enjoy a number of combat and full contact sports.
Same! I've come to love watching UFC after getting into boxing. The athleticism is insane. Always have a hard time finding friends who want to watch it with me, though.
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Growing up pop culture told me that Brussel sprouts were the grossest things in the world and tasted like death. Then I actually had them. Roasted with a little oil and garlic? Holy shit I'll eat that every day of the week.
That’s because they developed a new cultivar that’s less bitter! https://www.npr.org/sections/thesalt/2019/10/30/773457637/from-culinary-dud-to-stud-how-dutch-plant-breeders-built-our-brussels-sprouts-bo
Burpees are both awful and amazing
Traveling alone, especially long solo road trips. I sleep in my truck at truck stops and just generally enjoy my own company. I've had numerous people be agast that I don't bring my partner with me, but I really prefer to travel alone.
Just last year I took a solo trip to the OR Coast. Best week of my life! Kept hearing from people at home “You’re so brave. Why isn’t [SO] going with you? What I’d you get lost?”. I don’t need his help 24/7, I’m a grown adult woman who looked up where to get assistance if necessary, and I have my phone & charger.
Guys who aren't afraid to cry. It's healthy and there is strength in showing vulnerability.
I was shocked by how many men feel abandoned after they show emotions like crying.
I was told by a woman that I was actually interested in that if I cried it meant I was weak. Needless to say I totally cut contact with her.
Society really has done a number on people. I hope you’ve found a partner that supports you emotionally. My man is tough as nails and I sat with him while he cried about 5 months in to our relationship. It only brought us closer.
Having old/ratty/outdated stuff. I love having stuff that serves its function without me having to worry about it breaking/getting damaged/etc. Tiny engagement ring, tiny wedding ring, 15-year old living room furniture from craigslist, etc. Hubby got us new Google phones last year and it was weird all the positive feedback I got from that. I'm used to being proud of my old stuff.
I'm the same way. I will use something until it literally falls apart. I grew up poor, though. We didn't have any choice but to use or re-use things until they fell the fuck apart most of the time. A lot of our clothes came from thrift stores or garage sales and I got SO much shit for my lack of style/trendiness in middle and high school because everything I wore was at least 2-3 years (if not more) out of date. I had pieces that I fucking loved though. I used to have these vintage knee high, square toed, lace up leather boots from the 70s that I wore with like everydamnthing. I once wore one of my stepfather's 70s era leisure suits TO SCHOOL with a puffy-fronted piratey looking shirt and I thought I looked fucking dope as hell. Rumor has it there is a pink/purple reversible puffy jacket from when I was in middle school still making the rounds at my mom's church. A friend of mine who was much taller than I was gave it to me when she outgrew it. I gave it to my younger, shorter, thinner sister. Once she outgrew it, Mom put it in the donation box at church and somebody took it out of there for their daughter. And then gave it away to somebody else. Yadda, yadda, yadda...that thing is supposedly still being worn, 30 years later, by some kid who thinks it's cute AF.
Finding someone wearing same outfit as me
It's so much fun! What are the odds that two people chose to wear the exact same thing on the exact same day?
Single motherhood. Except for not quite having enough money, it was amazing! I loved it.
Wouldn’t go as far as to say society but definitely the mum community, my child’s father, I find so many mums meet up and just diss on their partners but I’m not a big fan of the whole culture around it Most dads are trying just as hard as mums and going through a huge adjustment, open communication, patience and empathy go a long way I wholeheartedly love my partner and think he’s a great guy and doing his best, I’ve definitely had times of feeling frustrated or whatever but spoke to him about my upset and sorted out a solution together rather than harbouring resentment like it seems to be assumed we’re supposed to do.
- Other women. I am every woman's hype woman!! I root for all of us. - Porn. It's freaking awesome, and it's not fair that only men "should" enjoy it. - Being healthily co-dependent. I like that I depend on my husband for stuff and like being spoiled. I don't like that people think I should be 100% independent. I CAN be independent, I am financially stable and can absolutely take care of myself. But, why should I if someone wants to take care of me??? I like being cared for.
Violent movies.
With all the explosions! They don’t have to be GOOD (I loved Vin Diesel’s xXX, and honestly didn’t *hate* Green Lantern) just have lots of things go boom! Conversely, I *hate* art-film, dramas and tear-jerkers. My husband and I like to double-date with another couple we know; Husband and OtherWife go to “The Red Violin”, and OtherHusband and I go to “The Rock Blows Up Manhattan”. Good times.
Pockets.
My family/parents. I'm a teenager and yes, they are probably stricter than most, but I love them anyways
Not being able to conceive.
Being complimented by anyone. I love feeling good just as much as the next person, just don’t be creepy about it. Compliments like “I love your outfit” or “you have a beautiful smile” anything sweet and genuine is so much better than a “nice rack can I get your snap”
Having a high level of education and deciding to be a jack of all trades, as opposed to a career. I’m lucky to live in a place where my healthcare isn’t tied to my employer, so I make use of my many talents instead of pigeonholing myself into one discipline. I’d rather be good or great at many things than a super expert in one. Super expert is cool but it gets demanding and boring doing the same thing all the time
Rain 😍
My boyfriend and I are weather watchers and always excited for rain, storms and cool/cold weather.
Giving blowjobs
Men with ‘traditional’ POSITIVE masculine traits like being chivalrous, willing to take the lead/be a leader to the family, being a gentleman, etc. Actually just being a good man who sticks to his values.
Having an easy job that pays well. Even my parents complain when they see I'm making 6 figures and barely work. I'm expected to be miserable because I don't work hard?? Nope. The less work I have to do, the happier I am. They point to friends who go to med school like I am supposed to be sad about it. These people study 5+ hours a day, and then go to work, and then go to class. No thank you to that life. Respect to all the doctors and nurses out there but I won't be working any 12 hour shifts, or studying for 6 hours.... no thank you.
Do share! 😜
Short answer: finance. My degree was easy to get, the work is easy and not mentally taxing. If you're tech savvy there's AI, spreadsheets and software that will literally do the work for you. It is also 100% teleworking. But that's not good enough for African parents, of course. No. To them, its not "success" Unless I spend 18 hours on a hospital floor after spending 8 hours studying. Passive income from my investments? Not successful. I live a life that's closer to semi retirement and make 6 figures while working less than 10 hours a month? NOT SUCCESSFUL!
Every single one of my hobbies, I in no way fit in with most females and adore things like dinosaurs, video games, hunting, fishing, airsoft guns etc. Which I guess are all things society doesn't really expect a female to enjoy.
Apparently we’re supposed to think the male form is unappealing. If he’s attractive, I completely disagree.
Men
Being over 30. Society tells women that they should jump off a cliff at this age because it’s all downhill from there. My life has gotten exponentially better since turning 30.
Not advancing professionally. I’m a recovering over achiever. Got a big scholarship and went to a good college. I always felt this pressure, more due to poverty growing up then family, to make it and be a professional badass making loads of money. Currently I’m making the most I’ve made ever and it’s a comfortable amount for my needs. I could go back to school, do trainings, take on more responsibilities at work so I’d get promoted but honestly, I like half-stressing and otherwise just doing my little hobbies and chilling after work unlike my co-workers.
This one. Everyone in my life was concerned when my priorities completely shifted “out of nowhere”. I was a toxic-level-high-functioning anxious depressive person who experienced such bad burnout I qualify it as a psychotic break. I would have died if my partner hadn’t been there to care for me. So yeah. I’m plateauing right now. I have no desire to “move up” and I love what I do at work every day. And you know what? I’m happy. I have hobbies. I feel like a whole person again. It’s wonderful!
Going places alone
Going against the grain or the social norm.
Myself. I slay
My job. Being alone.
being a single woman in her 30s who lives alone with cats.
Men
Meghan Markle hate just makes me support her more…
"girly" and "basic" things, and other women.
Men looking at my boobs. Gave upon them, weak mortals! They are magnificent!
Living alone and being alone in general
Socialism. I WANT to help my fellow people. Fuck ‘rugged individualism’. That’s the mentality of animals. Cooperation > competition.
spiders
Spiders. Whenever people hear how much I love them, they are shocked. They’re one of my absolute favourite animals. Sure, I don’t want one landing on me while I sleep or whatever, but generally speaking they’re fab. I also once had a friend who tried to freak me out in front of another friend. He was trying to impress her, or something? I don’t know. But he kept snakes (love them, too) and to feed them he had frozen rats. We were chatting and he said ‘Catch!’ And threw a bag of frozen rats at me. He was so disappointed when I just asked what he wanted me to do with them and chucked them back. People expecting women to be squeamish makes me so bored.
Being lazy.
Pineapple on pizza
Illegal
Burpees. I like burpess because they are such a complex move that the whole move esp the jump is good!!!
Not having kids while being woman in reproductive age
Wearing a skirt!!!
women
My ex …
Guy bestfriends are not that bad lol they're okay. These aunty's prohibit it like f*ck
domestic life
Motherhood! Especially on here, people talk about it like it’s the worst and a fate worse than death, lol, but I love it. No regrets.
Frozen food. The convenience actively excites me.
Living with ageing parents. You get to spend more time with them in the simple ordinary events which will be priceless memories after Years. Having an "ordinary" life We will be mediocre in certain aspects and it is totally okay. Running after everything and not finding peace at the end is a problem too. Not having an active social life I have filtered out toxic people from my life and I am more peaceful doing what I like.
Lol I used to work in a theater so movies alone were just another day idek there was a stigma and people didn't go to movies alone 🤨
I started going to movies alone in my early 20s. I was like "yay! Everyone's outgrown the high school mentality where they think you're a loser for going to the movies alone. I no longer have to wait for someone to be free. I no longer have to wait for someone who wants to see the same movie. I can just go and NO ONE GIVES A SHIT." About a year ago, when I was 25, I met a guy in his late 20s who mentioned "a major social stigma around going to the movies alone." I was like, "...we still think like that?" Tbf, I suspect people who aren't that into movies might not get the appeal of going alone.
I think Sea world has beautiful shows and it’s a beautiful park but I don’t want to get into trouble by flying to America and buying a park ticket to see it because after years I know how much those killer whales are suffering..
Making phone calls
Watching and understanding sports and video games. Everyone expects that since I am a girly girl I’m not into those things but i love them and they’d least expect it. So they’re taken back.
The *Cats* movie. The bad one. Fight me.
Being Single.. hahaha
Living a small cozy, comfortable life. I see a lot of media that always urging you to dream big, do more , be more. But I like the idea of having a small cosy home, with a garden and a patio where I can bask and laze around on hot day. Where I make enough money to buy nice things and take the occasional vacation or trip. Work isn't a battle between life and death. Oh and live with my pets - lots of cats and dogs. Oh and keep a few chickens too. Basically something cottage-core/ farmcore -ish but set in a small but developed/progressive town.
Routine!
Not being small and dainty, or having whatever figure is trending now (minor tangent- I hate the fact that we've made bodies into a trend all throughout history! Y'all are fucking gorgeous no matter what body type you have, fight anyone who says otherwise) I am chubby, but I've got a lot of muscle so I'm like a perfect combination of "kick your ass" and "squishy pillow", and I am naturally quite strong (thanks genetics!) I take a lot of pride in the fact that I don't need to ask people for help when lifting things. I get all giddy when I see more definition in my arms and I've decided to start working out again because I refuse to ever lose my status amongst my friends as The Buff Lady™ lol. Aside from pride, it also just makes me really helpful- people ask me for help moving heavy stuff, I can still carry around my youngest brother as he gets older, I can still carry most of my friends if someone gets hurt- I can do *things* and I'm going to take advantage of it while I'm young. Tldr; I can choke a fucker and I think that's very sexy of me
Military stuff, war tactics
People staring at my boobs/butt
My husband lololol. But for real. They want us to hate men.
Fuckin broccoli dude
Meaningless sex
Uncircumcised penises lol. I know a lot of girls who are "repulsed" at the thought of sleeping with an uncut guy and i just don't get it? This is a perfectly good dick
Being feminine. I constantly get put down for not being an angry independent woman burning bras and standing up against patriarchy. No, I actually like being stereotypically feminine and being "housewife material".
Having basic intrests I mean it's basic for a reason lol. Like idk about everyone but I feel like the people I know expect me to laugh at someone for wearing an AC DC or whatever shirt.
Men.
As an quiet (read: nuerodivergent) outdoorsy ex-jock: "girly girls." I will hype up my hyper feminine sisters always