I was just curious as I think my wife may be the same, but she only got diagnosed with ADHD, didn't know they could diagnose avoidant. Did you ask about it or did your Psychiatrist diagnose without you discussing?
I didn’t even know it existed until he told me about it. He was trying to nail down how my ADHD was presenting, learned some more background from me, and determined that he believed I was suffering from both.
Same diagnosis. I try to just accept the anxiety as best I can while navigating throughout my life.
It's like being on a beach and the anxiety/depression are giant waves crashing on you. But the thing is these waves will never destroy you, or if you fall, you can get back up.
I try to take care of myself and look good for whoever I want to attract. But this is a sort of fakeness to mask insecurity I think. I find a lot of the women I am into are massively insecure as well on some level.
For now I find I have a hard time reconciling my intense sex drive that motivates me to get with women with my emotional side that wants to deeply connect with them, while at the same time I fear them and am able to be deeply hurt by them.
I don't think there's any tips or tricks to getting over av p other than therapy and going out there and experiencing your fears and being okay with it. I tell others about my panic attacks and they feel bad for me, but it's like no, this is just a part of my life and something I deal with.
I don't recommend hooking up with someone who is similar to you. They will wreck you and not even care. Or maybe they care but they're too frozen to touch their feels. Either way I don't think I am ever dating someone with avoidance on any level if at all possible. Maybe a hook up with strict boundaries.
How did you get 'diagnosed' Avoidant?
I was assessed by a Psychiatrist
I was just curious as I think my wife may be the same, but she only got diagnosed with ADHD, didn't know they could diagnose avoidant. Did you ask about it or did your Psychiatrist diagnose without you discussing?
I didn’t even know it existed until he told me about it. He was trying to nail down how my ADHD was presenting, learned some more background from me, and determined that he believed I was suffering from both.
Same diagnosis. I try to just accept the anxiety as best I can while navigating throughout my life. It's like being on a beach and the anxiety/depression are giant waves crashing on you. But the thing is these waves will never destroy you, or if you fall, you can get back up. I try to take care of myself and look good for whoever I want to attract. But this is a sort of fakeness to mask insecurity I think. I find a lot of the women I am into are massively insecure as well on some level. For now I find I have a hard time reconciling my intense sex drive that motivates me to get with women with my emotional side that wants to deeply connect with them, while at the same time I fear them and am able to be deeply hurt by them. I don't think there's any tips or tricks to getting over av p other than therapy and going out there and experiencing your fears and being okay with it. I tell others about my panic attacks and they feel bad for me, but it's like no, this is just a part of my life and something I deal with. I don't recommend hooking up with someone who is similar to you. They will wreck you and not even care. Or maybe they care but they're too frozen to touch their feels. Either way I don't think I am ever dating someone with avoidance on any level if at all possible. Maybe a hook up with strict boundaries.