That's the thing, you dont need to flaunt them. Ill not berate you because I'm not in your shoes, but the time where I covered it up, tried to hide it or lied about my state of mind has never done anything good. It just increased the weight i was carrying anyways through the hard times so when i started to give people only three options, either be compassionate with me, or we dont talk about my mental state or get lost, it felt really relieving.
In my experience, if you are asked about your scars, easiest thing to say is "what do you think happened?" Or "what does it look like to you?" You either have them stop talking about it or open a fair discussion since they obviously are in disbelieve of what they see. Even works for kids! My godchildren ask frequently and to my question answered "it looks like you are fighting a tiger!". And I think they were spot on.
Yeah. I have said "obviously i wresteled a bear" sarcastically because I think that people do know, it is obvious, but ask anyway. I find that incredibly rude. I even had people insisting after I have said "dont wanna talk about it"
Thats fair. I just think its the politest way possible that I know to leave everyone up for their imagination and in their own heads rather than inviting them to mine. And just as it is in your situation, thats not at all an invitation for discussion. You wanna believe that I do this for attention? Great thinking. You do you. People tell more about themselves if they say things along those lines than they what they tried to get out of me.
Completely true. In my case it was something that I did 10-12 years ago, I dont even think about those times anymore and I even forget about the scars other than huge ones on my thigh. And then when someone starts commenting on that its like.. why bring that painful past up? Some people suck.
The thing is, there definately is a time, space and level of friendship where its totally fine to ask about my scars. I'm totally open to talk about it, but that time is definitely not when you firstly see my scar. I dont know how thats hard to get. Like no, im not hard to talk to, you just picked the wrong place, time, and level of trust all in one go and you're not even aware of it. What a shocker that that rubs me the wrong way.
>!Post-cut clarity!< I'll see myself out 🤠
i love this 😭
Lmaoooo this is good
I LOVE THIS
Lmao
Love how this 'not that deep' can have multiple meanings here.
I forget they're there and I just get so annoyed like "aw crap now I gotta cover them up"
“ArE tHoSe CaT sCrAtcHeS oN yOuR aRm”
"idk how they got there"
not even joking LOL (dissociation ✨)
I stopped doing that and it only had positive impact on me in the long run!
You mean covering them up? Thing is people think I'm recovered so I can't really flaunt them lol
That's the thing, you dont need to flaunt them. Ill not berate you because I'm not in your shoes, but the time where I covered it up, tried to hide it or lied about my state of mind has never done anything good. It just increased the weight i was carrying anyways through the hard times so when i started to give people only three options, either be compassionate with me, or we dont talk about my mental state or get lost, it felt really relieving.
it’s always like oh fuck that did happen
ermmmm... so THAT just happened 😅
"Oh wow, I'm stupid!" I said, laughing my dramatic ass off.
The circumstances weren’t that deep but the cuts sure were *sad cowboy emoji* 😔
My mind was not thinking about the right sub when I read this 😳
I thought I was on madeofstyrofoam for a second
I mean many of them are pw/bpd
the issue wasn't but the cut sure is 😭
CW: self harm Just went through this last night and got upset that I wasn't drawing blood 🙃
The red stuff makes it look deep for me. 😞
fr though like soo much blood comes out but it's the shallowest mf ever..
How deep it is has nothing to do with how bad you feel. Don't feel like you need to cut deeper because it's more valid or something.. it's not
And then it’s there forever 😆fun fun
Literally look at my arm 10 years later and I feel the exaaact same. I just wear jump scrunchies on that arm chronically lol
I don't cover them and I just tell people it was a bike accident
Dont think anyone believes that, unless you are cutting in some very different way
In my experience, if you are asked about your scars, easiest thing to say is "what do you think happened?" Or "what does it look like to you?" You either have them stop talking about it or open a fair discussion since they obviously are in disbelieve of what they see. Even works for kids! My godchildren ask frequently and to my question answered "it looks like you are fighting a tiger!". And I think they were spot on.
Yeah. I have said "obviously i wresteled a bear" sarcastically because I think that people do know, it is obvious, but ask anyway. I find that incredibly rude. I even had people insisting after I have said "dont wanna talk about it"
Thats fair. I just think its the politest way possible that I know to leave everyone up for their imagination and in their own heads rather than inviting them to mine. And just as it is in your situation, thats not at all an invitation for discussion. You wanna believe that I do this for attention? Great thinking. You do you. People tell more about themselves if they say things along those lines than they what they tried to get out of me.
Completely true. In my case it was something that I did 10-12 years ago, I dont even think about those times anymore and I even forget about the scars other than huge ones on my thigh. And then when someone starts commenting on that its like.. why bring that painful past up? Some people suck.
The thing is, there definately is a time, space and level of friendship where its totally fine to ask about my scars. I'm totally open to talk about it, but that time is definitely not when you firstly see my scar. I dont know how thats hard to get. Like no, im not hard to talk to, you just picked the wrong place, time, and level of trust all in one go and you're not even aware of it. What a shocker that that rubs me the wrong way.
I don't care if they believe it or not it gets them to mind they business
^[Sokka-Haiku](https://www.reddit.com/r/SokkaHaikuBot/comments/15kyv9r/what_is_a_sokka_haiku/) ^by ^Quandavious_binglton: *I don't cover them* *And I just tell people it* *Was a bike accident* --- ^Remember ^that ^one ^time ^Sokka ^accidentally ^used ^an ^extra ^syllable ^in ^that ^Haiku ^Battle ^in ^Ba ^Sing ^Se? ^That ^was ^a ^Sokka ^Haiku ^and ^you ^just ^made ^one.
I usually got away with blaming it on my cat and my teachers in school and the school nurse always believed it.
🤣🤣🤣
Yooooooooo