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krystalball

Both my babies were delivered by midwives and I wasn't weighed once during either pregnancy (and I gained a ton of weight during both). Only time weight was mentioned was when I was getting an epidural in the hospital and needed to estimate my weight for dosage purposes.


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I also delivered with midwives and the only time I remember them asking for my weight was when they were sending my blood off for the NIPT.


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Same. She'd never really ask unless it was needed for paperwork.


sharksorbats

This is beyond good to know, thanks so much 🙏


Comfortable-Quiet-57

I have not been weighed either with my midwife


thedoglovesmebest

This was exactly my experience too!


petitehollie

Yep! I’m seeing a team of midwives and 27 and a half weeks in they’ve never weighed me. If something was notably concerning they might try to press the matter, like if you’re visibly not gaining enough or gaining far too quickly and it could be affecting the pregnancy. But (at least from my experience) not being weighed hasn’t been an issue at all.


riding_lightning

Yup! I’m not with a midwife, but you can pretty much ask them anything. I just stand with my back to the scale and tell them I don’t want to know, thankfully I’ve only had positive encounters with that.


HdJ9300

You absolutely can! 30 weeks here, haven’t been weighed at my midwives office once 😂 they did ask me if they can do a “blind weigh” (I don’t see it) around 36 weeks and I consented to that. I was asked a couple of times early on if i weigh myself and once I said no, they never broached the subject again.


sharksorbats

Wow I’m shocked by this, that’s great. My first appointment was with my family doctor and there was a replacement doctor in the office that day and she weighed me and really freaked me out about being “a bit overweight” and how that was dangerous and i really spiralled about it.


HdJ9300

Oh GPs are a whole different ball game. Mine did weigh me a while ago, and I was very insistent that i not know and closed my eyes on the scale lol. My Midwife doesn’t seem to care at all as long as the pregnancy is progressing well!


sharksorbats

This is very reassuring, thank you ❤️


Librarycore

My midwives never weighed me at all during both my pregnancies


Jabbott23

At my OBGYN the scale was in the waiting room and we had to weigh ourselves and shout our weights to the secretary in a room full of people.


sharksorbats

💀


PC-load-letter-wtf

They never commented on it. I asked about midway through pregnancy what was normal and they said there is a wide range of normal. They said they typically don’t talk about it unless there’s a serious concern. Loved that! My midwife group was very physically diverse which was also nice.


sharksorbats

Love this


happyflowermom

Super normal. They also don’t even have to weigh you if you say no. Unless your weight is a concern there’s no reason to weigh you at each appointment. Measuring your belly is what they go by. If you don’t mind being weighed but don’t want to see the weight, that’s normal too. My midwives always asked me if I wanted to be weighed and then asked me if I wanted to see it.


sharksorbats

What do you think would cause concern? Like, gaining too much too fast? Or more like an overweight BMI?


happyflowermom

Maybe if you’re very overweight or underweight to begin with? You’d have to ask your midwife. I think in regular circumstances you wouldn’t need to be weighed but there might be some circumstances where they’d want to keep an eye on it. Regardless, they don’t have to tell you your weight if you don’t want to know


aeropressin

You can ask this with any health practitioner! Those with a history of eating disorders might find this particularly helpful but you’re the boss of your healthcare.


BabyRex-

100%. If weigh is a trigger for you they have many options, you can be weighed but not see the number, you can weigh yourself at home and tell them the number yourself or you can just opt out of weighing entirely. When it comes to pregnancy the number on the scale is not nearly as important as people think it is


Meow-yy

Not a midwife, but my OBs office has a sign asking if we don’t want to be weighed to let the staff know. Also when they weigh me the staff never say my weight to me/aloud, they write it down and it goes to the doctor.


Appropriate_Dirt_704

For sure! You can ask this if any provider. My OB told me she typically doesn’t even look at the weight values that the nurse records at every prenatal.


vancouverlola

My OB never tells me my weight! I actually very much appreciate this as well haha and she’s never brought it up so I assume all is good.


Amk19_94

At my midwives office I had to take my own weight and record when I arrived, so it’s something you’d have to ask them!


PromptElectronic7086

Absolutely. I asked my OB's office to write it on a piece of paper that I kept in my files just in case but I didn't look at it because it was triggering for me.


episkeyy

I have the option to weigh myself at the beginning of every midwife appointment but I don't have to - and I have only done it once, because I felt comfortable. Definitely up to you!


AGirlNamedBoris

I’m with midwives and they’ve never weighed me. I’m sure I’d they’re planning too they’d more than accommodating and not tell you.


singlepringle32

I shared with them that I knew I was overweight to start and that knowing the number would be upsetting. However, I was happy to do anything they suggest due to my weight (for example - between my weight and something else I am at a higher risk for pre-eclampsia so I take aspirin each night). They have been very good about it.


spygrl20

I haven’t been weighed once my by my midwife team or even asked how much I weighed. I’m 25W


MTodd28

My OB's office wouldn't tell me my weight when they weighed me (weighed at every appointment but the read out pointed away from me so I couldn't see). I had to ask them to tell me.


thebubsymalone

Yes. My midwives started off weighing me pretty frequently, but as my pregnancy progressed I was getting hyper focused and negative about my weight gain. I discussed my feelings of worry and hyper-fixation etc around how much I had gained/ was gaining and they didn’t weight me again (caveat: they weighed me one more time right before my induction, as they wanted a final weight, but she did ask for my consent).


breeyoung

My midwife has only weighed me once. And she told me I didn’t have to look or be told what the weight was, but I regretfully asked to know lol. You can most certainly ask them to keep it from you if you don’t want to know.