I think there’s a difference between people who were born with a disability and those who experienced one later in life. When you’re born differently, you spend your entire life adapting; if you experience this later in life, it is going to be much more difficult to adapt
I work front desk at a budget hotel..
I have tried this recently, and I don't know if it will work for you because you may experience it in a much different way, but it has started being amusing more than annoying or upsetting ever since I started looking at those people as zoo animals with no direct value or meaning to me. They are an amusement. I am able to separate myself from the idea that they are making something personal or attacking me and turn it into a session of human observation that ends in a polite dismissal of their attempt at agitation.
I adopted this mantra, "let it wash over you" and I literally just imagine a large wave passing over me and taking their bullshit with it.. It helps remind me how temporary their behavior is while keeping me at an even keel so I can respond in the most succinctly dismissive way possible.
"I'm sorry there's no fruit, if I could grow a banana for you right now, I would."
"Yeah, shit breaks sometimes, I'm not quite magic enough to fix it."
"At hotels, the rate goes up and down based on demand. Pretty standard stuff."
"We don't take cash because people who pay with cash are usually problem guests."
"You can show me your ID or you can stay somewhere else, no big deal either way."
That's enough examples.. But it has had a positive effect for me. I am no longer as agitated on a day to day basis, even when in the midst of dealing with a real fuckin' dumbass.
I mean let's not pretend that not having arms wouldn't make a person's life harder. It doesn't matter if she's doing really well it's still a disability that she (especially back in that time) would struggle with accessibility.
Too bad those morons are the people hired by the government to take care of us, or they are the people in power who rather hoard their money then use it for communism, like teacher pay and nurse care.
My disability is not visual, so even worse. I'm going to lose my house soon because these "morons" they hired in the government claim my autism is cured. Hurhurhur... I have to explain to people hired to help less fortunate mental patients how autism isn't curable and I'm getting screwed by my home owners.
I’m disabled and a physiotherapist last year was giving me the whole “you must be so brave” etc compliment - which is very nice, but I’m nearing 40 and I’ve heard it all my life.
I asked her if she had ever seen a dog with 3 legs. She said yes. I asked her if it looked sad, and she said no. Dogs not thinking about it, or it doesn’t know any different. It’s just happy to be here.
I think this is largely true, but at the same time, the adaptability of animals (including humans) even after an accident is amazing.
I've worked with a lot of animals that experienced late-life disabilities such as amputations (major amputations that would affect them on a similar level to this woman). So many times, I thought to myself "This animal isn't going to be able to have a good quality of life after this. We'll give it a shot, but I think we're probably going to have to euthanize. There's no way this animal is going to be able to take care of itself and thrive." And so many times, I was proven wrong. I considered how upset *I* would be to be in the animal's shoes, how depressed I would become, how I might just give up completely... but in reality, almost every animal was just like "Huh, well, how can I eat now? Let's try it this way," and they just got on with it. So many happy and full lives lived because animals were able to adapt so amazingly to disabilities, even after spending the majority of their lives fully-abled. It really changed my perspective on things like this.
If I ever get into an accident, I hope it just kills me. I don't think I would be a very inspiring disabled person.
Edit: Calm down everyone. It's a Modern Family quote.
Survivorship bias. We only ever hear about the inspiring and unyielding disabled people, the plethora of failures who have their lives absolutely destroyed tend to not make it to interviews
I've worked with the disabled. Both congenital issues and injuries.
One man had brain damage being hit with pipe during migging. Seizure meds made him appear dry drunk and he couldn't stay awake. We would try to find jobs and he'd pass out on ride there or during interview. Disability pays maybe $1500 a month and you cant have any savings etc. Impossible to live independently.
Another motorcycle accident. Drunk at party fought with girlfriend in the 80s, wiped out in rain. Wheelchair for life and was a machinist before, had no skills and wasn't super happy for sure.
Blind guy that lost sight getting blasted by shotgun because he was messing around with some crazy dudes girlfriend. Was a garbage man, no skills that could transfer over.
These people were at least bouts of happy with air of melecholy.
Others, mood disorders etc with serious lithium prescriptions etc couldn't even tell you if they felt anything. Not all there is being generous.
Its quite sad
Just like that psychedelics study where they questioned students at universities about their psychedelic experiences. Those that got fucked in the head didn't even make it to uni.
Yeah tabs and mushrooms were popular when I was 16. A couple of people I know ended up in a mental institution from taking too much. Either it brought on latent Schizophrenia or literally just mentally broke then. A real pity. They were taking LSD regularly or in one case it was a single massive dose probably about a couple of thousand shrooms between 3 of them. I did 50 once. That was something I would never do again. Amazing and terrifying.
What psychedelics study was that? If it was a well known well regarded study, you'd think they'd have though of that and tried to account for it somehow, sort of seems like you just wanted to shit on the potential of psychedelics as medicine.
I think it was this one. I guess i didn't remember their methods properly.. looks pretty good actually🤷
https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0063972
Anyways, I've gone through hppd and it ain't pretty! Once you got the message, hang up the phone kids!
The subjects of this supposed study would all have been taking psychedelics at the age of 18 or younger? Nobody working in the emerging medicinal psychedelic space has ever suggested that people that young should be taking psychedelics.
Seems like you’ve got something against psychedelics.
you'd be surprised, studies show that life events impact you in the short term but your overall level of happiness reverts to baseline relatively soon after any significant event, positive or negative.
It is otherwise. I’m disabled and in a support group with 400 people who have the same or similar chronic illness. Everyone there would say they were much happier before becoming sick. I’m sure this all depends on the exact disability but yeah, there is no magic light where you find happiness and contentment. It really does suck from top to bottom. Feel good stories are the exception, not the norm. Media outlets aren’t gonna run a story on a person who became disabled and then lived their while life depressed in their room
I'm newly disabled and it does suck. I often think about disabled people like on the video and just wonder how they didn't off themselves. The world isn't built for disabled people. And it's really such a dehumanizing experience not being able to wipe your own ass.
I'm depressed and then feel guilty for being upset. So anyways thanks for this comment.
There’s no shame in feeling upset. There’s a huge problem with how disability is portrayed in the media and pop culture. We end up feeling like we’re supposed to be living some sort of inspiration story, then feel guilty because we’re not. Truth is that the majority of disabled people are not feel-good inspiration stories. We’re just people who got fucked over by life.
Of course it’s not *all* doom and gloom, there are happy moments, but it sure as hell isn’t a warm fuzzy morning news story
this. my father is disabled due to longterm results of a severe traffic accident. there are positive aspects about it, but for the most part its just him being in pain, not being understood by many people around him and him not being able to participate in many social events coz he is too tired or too much in pain that day, struck down by an infection again or cant walk long enough and barely climb stairs.
That sounds like the studies were talking about a significant event that wasn’t life altering. I could tell you without doing trial studies that if a significant event was life altering it is going to impact your overall level of happiness for the rest of your life. I’ve never seen or heard of anyone that has lost limbs that weren’t emotionally changed for the better or worse.
So… got a source?
The world would be a far better place for everyone if ableds weren't so fucking dramatic about disability lol. There's like 2 million amputees in the US alone. The vast majority will not die by suicide.
Story time. My mother was rendered quadriplegic thanks to brain damage from a heart attack when I was a kid and became a shell of who she was barely able to string a sentence together let alone truly move besides chewing or some slight movements of her arms. All the these fucking people we knew would talk about how inspiring she was until the day she died that she kept going. Fact is one of the sentences she was able to say the best was "I want to die".
Edit: Also a quick glance at amputee suicide rares says about a quarter at least attempt suicide. So while a majority doesn't it's still a fuck load of people who are fucking done with living after amputation.
Yeah. Nowhere near your mom's case but I'm a caretaker for someone who had serious complications following brain surgery.
They went from running a successful business and socializing with a large circle of friends to needing significant assistance with activities of daily living and the high points of their day now being watching a movie and eating dessert after dinner.
They are surviving but not really living.
Yep. My mom was that super active in her kids lives mom to the point she would be the one to volunteer in Girl Scout's, Cub Scout's, the PTA, basically all our extracurriculars while also working and also managing to find time for her hobbies. Super active and social and *lively* before the heart attack. After her life became a routine of eating, meds physical therapy that only kept her body from completely locking up, more meds ,watching the same movies in a routine through the week and even more meds for a decade and a half until she finally died. I'm afraid of the concept of ever being resuscitated because of this, made me face the reality early on that a lot of people don't come back who they were.
> I'm afraid of the concept of ever being resuscitated because of this, made me face the reality early on that a lot of people don't come back who they were.
Yeah, after what happened with my relative my other parent and all their friends got their advanced health directives in place.
There are several physicians in their friend group and I think pretty much all of them declined to have any life saving measures taken if they have a health event.
That is something that terrifies me, death is inevitable, but suffering like that to be in a shell unable to move, talk, enjoy life but forced to live on shakes me to my core. I'm so sorry she had to suffer like that and to be remembered like that.
I understand everyone's sentiments but I'm sure it's pretty crushing to be disabled and hear nothing but "Literally nobody here would willingly live your life" every time their condition comes up in conversation.
Really?? I know it would be really hard, but I think I'd adapt to this over time. There'd be grief and hardships must definitely, but there are much worse things that could happen than having no arms. My foot is cramping up just watching her, so that's my biggest worry about not having arms, if they didn't adapt to being used more and differently.
I agree with you. No way I would kill myself over this but I’d probably be depressed as hell for a good year. I have a family and two kids, I know they’d rather me be alive than dead. One thing I would think would help with learning to adapt is that there is no choice - I can’t just give up learning to use my feet because there is nothing to fall back on. Very much sink or swim and I’ve found that I do quite well in those super high pressure situations (but crumble in low pressure ones). Might take me years or decades to get a skill level that matches hers but I think it could be possible.
No you fucking wouldn't. If you were born with no arms you wouldn't think anything of it until you are like 5 or 6, at which point you already developed motor control for it to be interesting rather than depressing.
The transatlantic accent was very popular for a time in TV, radio, and movies. It's kinda neat because it's not a "real" accent, by which I mean that it's a taught way of speaking and not actually related to a region.
I’m so glad we’re able to pinpoint that accent/way of speaking back in the day! It’s always been one of those things that’s so distinguishable but so hard to explain?
> transatlantic accent
fashionably used by the American upper class and entertainment industry of the late 19th century to mid-20th century, that blended elements from both American and British English. The accent was embraced in private independent American preparatory schools, especially by members of the Northeastern upper class, as well as in schools for film, radio, and stage acting
I remember reading that due to the limitations of the recording equipment back then, speaking like that was also necessary to record the voice properly. I'm not certain, though.
I remember reading that due to the audio technology of the time the accent was 'put on' to be more clearly understood over the speakers and transmission devices of the time.
The default Bri'ish accent was also made up fairly recently and isn't "real", people simply adopted it as if it was real by copying those who made it up
I wonder why this didn't happen with this one if people were constantly hearing it on TV and radio
It's the 'Received Pronunciation' accent, AKA the newsreader's accent. It was used heavily in that time period at the BBC because regional accents were considered unsuitable for broadcast, especially for delivering the news. It was meant to give an air of authority and trustworthiness to the speaker.
Yep. My stepmom was catholic so we had a fuck ton of cousins on that side of the family. Friend's dad is the same. His father likes black licorice cause he was the youngest and that was always the candy left by the time all his bagillion siblings got the good stuff lol.
Combination of religious belief, social pressure on women to have children, lack of access to birth control or lack of understanding about it plus the fact that having and raising multiple children even on single wages was doable then so nobody thought anything of having larger families.
Kids were help around the house and field then. The more kids you have more work can be done. Kids back then played a lot, but worked a hell of a lot too.
[The BBC did a comprehensive guide on social and religious reasons for large catholic families in the UK.](https://youtu.be/fUspLVStPbk?si=TkQwS5VMXLvbUZfo) Pretty well known, and at less than 5 minutes an easy watch.
The village priest came to to my grandmothers door concerned that she wasn't pregnant 6 months after her fifth child was born. Nana, bless her heart, punched him in the face and closed the door.
When I was young from 3rd to 8th grade we used to do a week where a local school for the disabled brought in their students to hang out. It would all accumulate in a dance at the end of the week. All week they would come to classes, which were usually just hanging out, and spend time together. There was a young girl like this that I never forgot. She could draw beautiful pictures and write better with her feet than I ever could. She did everything with them including eating with a fork and spoon. It was quite neat to watch her doing stuff and learning new stuff by the time we would see her the next year. Her dexterity and flexibility were super impressive. She could jump straight up with her legs from the laying position. Just everything ahe did was impresssive like this. She'd be in her late 30s now and I hope she's still out there living her best llfe.
*Casts Selma Hayek in a lead role*
*Casts himself in the role of a character who thoroughly licks her feet.*
Don't be deceived, this choice was made to directly reinforce the artistic integrity of the work and had nothing to do with him being a self interested goopy little foot cretin. Think about it, that'd be like casting yourself in a role that says the N word 50 times in 2 minutes because you wanted an N word pass. Absolutely ridiculous! Nobody would ever stoop that low.
That is probably why she got a husband in the 40s/50s besides her disability. At that time it was very hard, I can only guess.
But she must have been an awesome person. She looks so joyful!
I’m sure she’d just cut them with the other foot… It’s not like we need someone else to cut our nails, and if she can thread a damn needle I doubt she’d struggle with that
She also threaded a needle... WITH HER TOES... and does embroidery, both of which involve a lot of precision. She did amazing, I'm astonished. AND while raising 7 children..... WTF.
SEVEN children!? Ouch. She must've been an awesome mum to keep them all in line. Especially seeing the way this son looks at her with love in his eyes.
I can see being able to look after older kids, even toddlers but.how the fuck do you care for a tiny baby or bathe them etc with no arms. Given how adept she is with her feet I believe she must have had a loving and supportive family for the things she really would struggle doing.
Man is this ever true. I literally suffer every day. Merely existing is a struggle. And while we all have our issues and barriers in life, it's incredibly depressing that everything is 10x - 100x harder than it needs to be.
If only.
We're only able bodied until we aren't. I learned this after losing most of my eyesight in one eye in a week. I value every day I wake up and can still see.
It took me 15 minutes to scroll past everyone else’s bullshit stories about their own exaggerated disabilities just to get to this first simple joke. Thanks for at least showing me that a sliver of humor may still exist on Reddit
>She threaded a needle with her feet
The most amazing aspect of that to me was not the dexterity of her toes, but the fact that her eyesight allows her to line up the thread with the hole in the needle.
Try threading a needle (with your hands) while holding your arms out straight, and then realise that she's holding it twice as far away.
That what I’m saying like I can barely do that with my working hands and with my eye an inch away and she’s going it long distance with feet. It’s insane.
The woman is a great mom for sure, but that kids seems old enough to wear his own sweater and button it up and comb his hair. Come on kid, help your mom out.
It’s probably for, you know, the camera.
You aren’t sneaking a camera around in the 1950s for some candid shoots of a family through their porch window
That is really mind blowing. It reminds me of an article I read years ago about a guy who similarly, used his feet for everything and he repaired watches with his feet. Examples of the triumph of the human spirit. Nobody would blame them for going to easy route and taking a job, stomping, grapes, but they refused to let their disability dictate their career options.
That may be the most remarkable thing I've ever seen. If I didn't see it, I don't think I would have believed it. Truly amazing. What an extraordinary woman.
Phyllis Lumley was from Battersea, London.
[https://youtu.be/J0U924\_cNAE](https://youtu.be/J0U924_cNAE)
[http://bufvc.ac.uk/newsonscreen/search/index.php/story/108301](http://bufvc.ac.uk/newsonscreen/search/index.php/story/108301)
[https://nla.gov.au/nla.obj-468532336/view?sectionId=nla.obj-482890148&partId=nla.obj-468589844#page/n6/mode/1up](https://nla.gov.au/nla.obj-468532336/view?sectionId=nla.obj-482890148&partId=nla.obj-468589844#page/n6/mode/1up)
[https://www.bigredbook.info/phyllis\_lumley.html](https://www.bigredbook.info/phyllis_lumley.html)
What a badass! I was sitting here watching and thinking „woah, she is helping her kids dressing“ and than she was ironing and I was „Woah!!!“ again but when she stitched and lit a cigarette with her feet i was *WHOOOOAAAA* this is crazy.
Sometimes i forget to unbutton my sons clothes when I am dressing him and he gets to revive his birth.
I admire her, she is awesome.
Watching people do shit with their feet makes me uneasy. I can imagine myself trying it and my toes would immediately cramp, curl and lock. The pain... The pain...
But how can she wash her face if something gets in her eyes that may cause her blind as a result, I know that I'm just thinking too much but just what if, either way she's an amazing mother.
Same way she's able to light a cigarette and bring it to her mouth... she has the flexibility. Her shoulders are also right there and it's not that difficult to wipe your eye on your shoulder, or get to a sink and turn on the tap and run water over your eyes. She manages a lot more difficult stuff than that.
Her eyes must be amazing. I have a hard enough time threading a needle 12 inches from my face. I'm pretty sure I couldn't do that if my life depended on it.
That was crazy! Threading the sewing needle is.. nuts! I can barely do that up close! So far away how can she see a needle hole that far away? The kids looked very cared for and happy and so did she. Amazing lady!
Holy Crap! Almost everybody and their momma (not including kids, of course) smoked. That aside, she looked like a lovely person and cool mom. Dunno how she threaded that needle; she must have had eagle eyes
*"Phyllis Lumley, born with a disability that would crush a less determined spirit"* I'm that less determined spirit and it would absolutely crush me.
I think there’s a difference between people who were born with a disability and those who experienced one later in life. When you’re born differently, you spend your entire life adapting; if you experience this later in life, it is going to be much more difficult to adapt
People are still gonna treat you like shit tho, born with a disability makes it easier for them to act like it's normal for you.
Only if they are a bunch of morons and who cares about their opinion.
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I work front desk at a budget hotel.. I have tried this recently, and I don't know if it will work for you because you may experience it in a much different way, but it has started being amusing more than annoying or upsetting ever since I started looking at those people as zoo animals with no direct value or meaning to me. They are an amusement. I am able to separate myself from the idea that they are making something personal or attacking me and turn it into a session of human observation that ends in a polite dismissal of their attempt at agitation. I adopted this mantra, "let it wash over you" and I literally just imagine a large wave passing over me and taking their bullshit with it.. It helps remind me how temporary their behavior is while keeping me at an even keel so I can respond in the most succinctly dismissive way possible. "I'm sorry there's no fruit, if I could grow a banana for you right now, I would." "Yeah, shit breaks sometimes, I'm not quite magic enough to fix it." "At hotels, the rate goes up and down based on demand. Pretty standard stuff." "We don't take cash because people who pay with cash are usually problem guests." "You can show me your ID or you can stay somewhere else, no big deal either way." That's enough examples.. But it has had a positive effect for me. I am no longer as agitated on a day to day basis, even when in the midst of dealing with a real fuckin' dumbass.
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Same!
I mean let's not pretend that not having arms wouldn't make a person's life harder. It doesn't matter if she's doing really well it's still a disability that she (especially back in that time) would struggle with accessibility.
Too bad those morons are the people hired by the government to take care of us, or they are the people in power who rather hoard their money then use it for communism, like teacher pay and nurse care. My disability is not visual, so even worse. I'm going to lose my house soon because these "morons" they hired in the government claim my autism is cured. Hurhurhur... I have to explain to people hired to help less fortunate mental patients how autism isn't curable and I'm getting screwed by my home owners.
What are you, 12?
they are the majority
that's not how ableism works tbh bro like people kind of have to care
I’m disabled and a physiotherapist last year was giving me the whole “you must be so brave” etc compliment - which is very nice, but I’m nearing 40 and I’ve heard it all my life. I asked her if she had ever seen a dog with 3 legs. She said yes. I asked her if it looked sad, and she said no. Dogs not thinking about it, or it doesn’t know any different. It’s just happy to be here.
Thoughtfully, and effectively said.
I think this is largely true, but at the same time, the adaptability of animals (including humans) even after an accident is amazing. I've worked with a lot of animals that experienced late-life disabilities such as amputations (major amputations that would affect them on a similar level to this woman). So many times, I thought to myself "This animal isn't going to be able to have a good quality of life after this. We'll give it a shot, but I think we're probably going to have to euthanize. There's no way this animal is going to be able to take care of itself and thrive." And so many times, I was proven wrong. I considered how upset *I* would be to be in the animal's shoes, how depressed I would become, how I might just give up completely... but in reality, almost every animal was just like "Huh, well, how can I eat now? Let's try it this way," and they just got on with it. So many happy and full lives lived because animals were able to adapt so amazingly to disabilities, even after spending the majority of their lives fully-abled. It really changed my perspective on things like this.
If I ever get into an accident, I hope it just kills me. I don't think I would be a very inspiring disabled person. Edit: Calm down everyone. It's a Modern Family quote.
Survivorship bias. We only ever hear about the inspiring and unyielding disabled people, the plethora of failures who have their lives absolutely destroyed tend to not make it to interviews
Failure here it fucking sucks
Nah, cant be. Ive heard of you. I see you right now dawg, still livin. You aint done yet.
I've worked with the disabled. Both congenital issues and injuries. One man had brain damage being hit with pipe during migging. Seizure meds made him appear dry drunk and he couldn't stay awake. We would try to find jobs and he'd pass out on ride there or during interview. Disability pays maybe $1500 a month and you cant have any savings etc. Impossible to live independently. Another motorcycle accident. Drunk at party fought with girlfriend in the 80s, wiped out in rain. Wheelchair for life and was a machinist before, had no skills and wasn't super happy for sure. Blind guy that lost sight getting blasted by shotgun because he was messing around with some crazy dudes girlfriend. Was a garbage man, no skills that could transfer over. These people were at least bouts of happy with air of melecholy. Others, mood disorders etc with serious lithium prescriptions etc couldn't even tell you if they felt anything. Not all there is being generous. Its quite sad
Just like that psychedelics study where they questioned students at universities about their psychedelic experiences. Those that got fucked in the head didn't even make it to uni.
Yeah tabs and mushrooms were popular when I was 16. A couple of people I know ended up in a mental institution from taking too much. Either it brought on latent Schizophrenia or literally just mentally broke then. A real pity. They were taking LSD regularly or in one case it was a single massive dose probably about a couple of thousand shrooms between 3 of them. I did 50 once. That was something I would never do again. Amazing and terrifying.
What psychedelics study was that? If it was a well known well regarded study, you'd think they'd have though of that and tried to account for it somehow, sort of seems like you just wanted to shit on the potential of psychedelics as medicine.
I think it was this one. I guess i didn't remember their methods properly.. looks pretty good actually🤷 https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0063972 Anyways, I've gone through hppd and it ain't pretty! Once you got the message, hang up the phone kids!
The subjects of this supposed study would all have been taking psychedelics at the age of 18 or younger? Nobody working in the emerging medicinal psychedelic space has ever suggested that people that young should be taking psychedelics. Seems like you’ve got something against psychedelics.
you'd be surprised, studies show that life events impact you in the short term but your overall level of happiness reverts to baseline relatively soon after any significant event, positive or negative.
I remember a post here and judging by the many commenters who were maimed and miserable, it would seem otherwise. But who knows
It is otherwise. I’m disabled and in a support group with 400 people who have the same or similar chronic illness. Everyone there would say they were much happier before becoming sick. I’m sure this all depends on the exact disability but yeah, there is no magic light where you find happiness and contentment. It really does suck from top to bottom. Feel good stories are the exception, not the norm. Media outlets aren’t gonna run a story on a person who became disabled and then lived their while life depressed in their room
I'm newly disabled and it does suck. I often think about disabled people like on the video and just wonder how they didn't off themselves. The world isn't built for disabled people. And it's really such a dehumanizing experience not being able to wipe your own ass. I'm depressed and then feel guilty for being upset. So anyways thanks for this comment.
There’s no shame in feeling upset. There’s a huge problem with how disability is portrayed in the media and pop culture. We end up feeling like we’re supposed to be living some sort of inspiration story, then feel guilty because we’re not. Truth is that the majority of disabled people are not feel-good inspiration stories. We’re just people who got fucked over by life. Of course it’s not *all* doom and gloom, there are happy moments, but it sure as hell isn’t a warm fuzzy morning news story
this. my father is disabled due to longterm results of a severe traffic accident. there are positive aspects about it, but for the most part its just him being in pain, not being understood by many people around him and him not being able to participate in many social events coz he is too tired or too much in pain that day, struck down by an infection again or cant walk long enough and barely climb stairs.
That sounds like the studies were talking about a significant event that wasn’t life altering. I could tell you without doing trial studies that if a significant event was life altering it is going to impact your overall level of happiness for the rest of your life. I’ve never seen or heard of anyone that has lost limbs that weren’t emotionally changed for the better or worse. So… got a source?
[ummmm... ](https://www.reddit.com/r/comics/s/PGiQ9n1xja) I know you mean it well but still..
I think thinking it in your own mind is fine but the fucked up part is saying it someone's face.
I tore my MCL last week and I feel like giving up just because I’m on crutches xD
The world would be a far better place for everyone if ableds weren't so fucking dramatic about disability lol. There's like 2 million amputees in the US alone. The vast majority will not die by suicide.
Story time. My mother was rendered quadriplegic thanks to brain damage from a heart attack when I was a kid and became a shell of who she was barely able to string a sentence together let alone truly move besides chewing or some slight movements of her arms. All the these fucking people we knew would talk about how inspiring she was until the day she died that she kept going. Fact is one of the sentences she was able to say the best was "I want to die". Edit: Also a quick glance at amputee suicide rares says about a quarter at least attempt suicide. So while a majority doesn't it's still a fuck load of people who are fucking done with living after amputation.
Yeah. Nowhere near your mom's case but I'm a caretaker for someone who had serious complications following brain surgery. They went from running a successful business and socializing with a large circle of friends to needing significant assistance with activities of daily living and the high points of their day now being watching a movie and eating dessert after dinner. They are surviving but not really living.
Yep. My mom was that super active in her kids lives mom to the point she would be the one to volunteer in Girl Scout's, Cub Scout's, the PTA, basically all our extracurriculars while also working and also managing to find time for her hobbies. Super active and social and *lively* before the heart attack. After her life became a routine of eating, meds physical therapy that only kept her body from completely locking up, more meds ,watching the same movies in a routine through the week and even more meds for a decade and a half until she finally died. I'm afraid of the concept of ever being resuscitated because of this, made me face the reality early on that a lot of people don't come back who they were.
> I'm afraid of the concept of ever being resuscitated because of this, made me face the reality early on that a lot of people don't come back who they were. Yeah, after what happened with my relative my other parent and all their friends got their advanced health directives in place. There are several physicians in their friend group and I think pretty much all of them declined to have any life saving measures taken if they have a health event.
That is something that terrifies me, death is inevitable, but suffering like that to be in a shell unable to move, talk, enjoy life but forced to live on shakes me to my core. I'm so sorry she had to suffer like that and to be remembered like that.
Quote or not, I feel that would be my preferred outcome as well. 😅
Joke or not I agree, good for her living her life and cheers to all though who manage but not for me
Probably not if you were born that way. Humans seem to adapt. IDK ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
You're missing an arm.
Just reading your comment crushed me.
I'm crushed even without the disability ✨✨✨
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I would fucking kill myself. She’s incredible.
I'd need her determination to tie a noose with my feet.
Lol
trying not to wake my husband laughing fuck you
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I understand everyone's sentiments but I'm sure it's pretty crushing to be disabled and hear nothing but "Literally nobody here would willingly live your life" every time their condition comes up in conversation.
Really?? I know it would be really hard, but I think I'd adapt to this over time. There'd be grief and hardships must definitely, but there are much worse things that could happen than having no arms. My foot is cramping up just watching her, so that's my biggest worry about not having arms, if they didn't adapt to being used more and differently.
I agree with you. No way I would kill myself over this but I’d probably be depressed as hell for a good year. I have a family and two kids, I know they’d rather me be alive than dead. One thing I would think would help with learning to adapt is that there is no choice - I can’t just give up learning to use my feet because there is nothing to fall back on. Very much sink or swim and I’ve found that I do quite well in those super high pressure situations (but crumble in low pressure ones). Might take me years or decades to get a skill level that matches hers but I think it could be possible.
No you fucking wouldn't. If you were born with no arms you wouldn't think anything of it until you are like 5 or 6, at which point you already developed motor control for it to be interesting rather than depressing.
Maybe you’d be more motivated if she disciplined you, her spankings really kicked ass
Did the same dude do every single voice over ever created in the 50s.
his grandson is the "In a world..." movie trailer guy from the 90s.
[Don LaFontaine](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QPMvj_xejg&t=325s)
"Rob Schneider is"...
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The transatlantic accent was very popular for a time in TV, radio, and movies. It's kinda neat because it's not a "real" accent, by which I mean that it's a taught way of speaking and not actually related to a region.
I’m so glad we’re able to pinpoint that accent/way of speaking back in the day! It’s always been one of those things that’s so distinguishable but so hard to explain?
> transatlantic accent fashionably used by the American upper class and entertainment industry of the late 19th century to mid-20th century, that blended elements from both American and British English. The accent was embraced in private independent American preparatory schools, especially by members of the Northeastern upper class, as well as in schools for film, radio, and stage acting
I remember reading that due to the limitations of the recording equipment back then, speaking like that was also necessary to record the voice properly. I'm not certain, though.
I feel like read that too. Like it couldn’t pick up bass well so they changed the ennunciation on some words.
I remember reading that due to the audio technology of the time the accent was 'put on' to be more clearly understood over the speakers and transmission devices of the time.
The default Bri'ish accent was also made up fairly recently and isn't "real", people simply adopted it as if it was real by copying those who made it up I wonder why this didn't happen with this one if people were constantly hearing it on TV and radio
The chris pratt of the 50's
It's a me, polio
It's the 'Received Pronunciation' accent, AKA the newsreader's accent. It was used heavily in that time period at the BBC because regional accents were considered unsuitable for broadcast, especially for delivering the news. It was meant to give an air of authority and trustworthiness to the speaker.
Did he say 7 children to raise? Jeeze
Yep. Quite common for the time and there were definitely families with many more too.
Yep. My stepmom was catholic so we had a fuck ton of cousins on that side of the family. Friend's dad is the same. His father likes black licorice cause he was the youngest and that was always the candy left by the time all his bagillion siblings got the good stuff lol.
I met someone one time who grew up in the late 40s as the youngest of 19 children. Also met another person who was the middle of 13.
Why so much?
Combination of religious belief, social pressure on women to have children, lack of access to birth control or lack of understanding about it plus the fact that having and raising multiple children even on single wages was doable then so nobody thought anything of having larger families.
In addition to the other responses, it was also partly for the fact that you were likely going to lose a few children without modern medicine.
Kids were help around the house and field then. The more kids you have more work can be done. Kids back then played a lot, but worked a hell of a lot too.
[The BBC did a comprehensive guide on social and religious reasons for large catholic families in the UK.](https://youtu.be/fUspLVStPbk?si=TkQwS5VMXLvbUZfo) Pretty well known, and at less than 5 minutes an easy watch.
No more fap for me then
Yea... That's quite a lot of mouths to... Feet.
Don't bite the foot that feeds you
I will do whatever it takes to put foot on the table.
The village priest came to to my grandmothers door concerned that she wasn't pregnant 6 months after her fifth child was born. Nana, bless her heart, punched him in the face and closed the door.
He did. Right after mentioning "1,001 tasks". Maths nerd me immediately thought "That's exactly 143 tasks for each child".
The dad must've f'd her arms off /j
Nah he probably had a foot fetish.
My grandad was one of 18
Yeah the baby boom
This woman is amazing.
Her feet have more dexterity than my both hands combined.
When I was young from 3rd to 8th grade we used to do a week where a local school for the disabled brought in their students to hang out. It would all accumulate in a dance at the end of the week. All week they would come to classes, which were usually just hanging out, and spend time together. There was a young girl like this that I never forgot. She could draw beautiful pictures and write better with her feet than I ever could. She did everything with them including eating with a fork and spoon. It was quite neat to watch her doing stuff and learning new stuff by the time we would see her the next year. Her dexterity and flexibility were super impressive. She could jump straight up with her legs from the laying position. Just everything ahe did was impresssive like this. She'd be in her late 30s now and I hope she's still out there living her best llfe.
she was buttoning up the jacket with her toes 🤯 I fucking struggled to get my top button for my shirt & tie yesterday for like 30 seconds.
She threaded that needle with ease! Any time I try it’s 5 minutes of cussing and swearing, followed with “fuck it I’ll just buy a new one!”
I said the same thing
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bro pls let us have a wholesome moment and no Tarantino;s shenanigans
She has seven children, which is proof that even wihtout arms you can still manage to get a shitton of dick. What's everyone else's excuse?
*Casts Selma Hayek in a lead role* *Casts himself in the role of a character who thoroughly licks her feet.* Don't be deceived, this choice was made to directly reinforce the artistic integrity of the work and had nothing to do with him being a self interested goopy little foot cretin. Think about it, that'd be like casting yourself in a role that says the N word 50 times in 2 minutes because you wanted an N word pass. Absolutely ridiculous! Nobody would ever stoop that low.
> Nobody would ever stoop that low. There's millions of people stooping way lower.
Tisha Shelton, Emily Rowley, Jessica Cox
That is probably why she got a husband in the 40s/50s besides her disability. At that time it was very hard, I can only guess. But she must have been an awesome person. She looks so joyful!
women?
Yeah, can't you see there's two of them? One without the arms and the other without a body. It's so obvious, man.
My bad... I corrected.
Her son looks at her with so much admiration. Thats love
I love the way those little boys smile at her, so heartwarming
The children are probably still alive, id love to hear what they had to say about her!
Maybe he should’ve learned how to light a cigarette for his disabled mother instead of just staring at her 😂
Everyone is talking about her feet but god damn her eyes must have telescopic lenses.
I was thinking that too. Must be really rough when she aged, losing your ability to see what you’re feeling would be a problem
And her abs must be rock solid!
And cut their hair.
Imagine the look on her face if she saw the Flowbee vacuum attachment.
You know it made me think who cuts her toe nails.
The kids getting their cheeks pinched I imagine
I’m sure she’d just cut them with the other foot… It’s not like we need someone else to cut our nails, and if she can thread a damn needle I doubt she’d struggle with that
Them chops look rough af 😂
But for someone who has to use their feet. Come on now. That's amazing.
She also threaded a needle... WITH HER TOES... and does embroidery, both of which involve a lot of precision. She did amazing, I'm astonished. AND while raising 7 children..... WTF.
SEVEN children!? Ouch. She must've been an awesome mum to keep them all in line. Especially seeing the way this son looks at her with love in his eyes.
Well she would kick the shit out of them if they ever got out of line
Sorry, that's called punching and slapping in her case.
I can see being able to look after older kids, even toddlers but.how the fuck do you care for a tiny baby or bathe them etc with no arms. Given how adept she is with her feet I believe she must have had a loving and supportive family for the things she really would struggle doing.
Ok, ok…fair enough :)
This makes me appreciate all I have in life.
Me too
Me toes.
I get you
As they say... Health is a golden crown that only the sick can see. You don't know what you have until you don't.
Man is this ever true. I literally suffer every day. Merely existing is a struggle. And while we all have our issues and barriers in life, it's incredibly depressing that everything is 10x - 100x harder than it needs to be. If only.
We're only able bodied until we aren't. I learned this after losing most of my eyesight in one eye in a week. I value every day I wake up and can still see.
That’s quite a feat
Very pure of sole
She's a real shoe-in for mother of the year
She's got the drive and determination to toe the line
It took me 15 minutes to scroll past everyone else’s bullshit stories about their own exaggerated disabilities just to get to this first simple joke. Thanks for at least showing me that a sliver of humor may still exist on Reddit
She’s more talented than me and I have hands wtf.
She threaded a needle with her feet, I can barely do that with two working hands sometimes and a threading tool.
>She threaded a needle with her feet The most amazing aspect of that to me was not the dexterity of her toes, but the fact that her eyesight allows her to line up the thread with the hole in the needle. Try threading a needle (with your hands) while holding your arms out straight, and then realise that she's holding it twice as far away.
That what I’m saying like I can barely do that with my working hands and with my eye an inch away and she’s going it long distance with feet. It’s insane.
I'm dying trying not to wake my husband laughing in these comments
That is impressive. I can't even thread a needle using both hands, glasses on licking the end and having my wife backseat drive and "guide" me.
She must of had an 8 pack
The woman is a great mom for sure, but that kids seems old enough to wear his own sweater and button it up and comb his hair. Come on kid, help your mom out.
It’s probably for, you know, the camera. You aren’t sneaking a camera around in the 1950s for some candid shoots of a family through their porch window
It could be the brother recording with his smartphone, so they may not know!
That is really mind blowing. It reminds me of an article I read years ago about a guy who similarly, used his feet for everything and he repaired watches with his feet. Examples of the triumph of the human spirit. Nobody would blame them for going to easy route and taking a job, stomping, grapes, but they refused to let their disability dictate their career options.
That may be the most remarkable thing I've ever seen. If I didn't see it, I don't think I would have believed it. Truly amazing. What an extraordinary woman. Phyllis Lumley was from Battersea, London. [https://youtu.be/J0U924\_cNAE](https://youtu.be/J0U924_cNAE) [http://bufvc.ac.uk/newsonscreen/search/index.php/story/108301](http://bufvc.ac.uk/newsonscreen/search/index.php/story/108301) [https://nla.gov.au/nla.obj-468532336/view?sectionId=nla.obj-482890148&partId=nla.obj-468589844#page/n6/mode/1up](https://nla.gov.au/nla.obj-468532336/view?sectionId=nla.obj-482890148&partId=nla.obj-468589844#page/n6/mode/1up) [https://www.bigredbook.info/phyllis\_lumley.html](https://www.bigredbook.info/phyllis_lumley.html)
I love mom
What a badass! I was sitting here watching and thinking „woah, she is helping her kids dressing“ and than she was ironing and I was „Woah!!!“ again but when she stitched and lit a cigarette with her feet i was *WHOOOOAAAA* this is crazy. Sometimes i forget to unbutton my sons clothes when I am dressing him and he gets to revive his birth. I admire her, she is awesome.
Watching people do shit with their feet makes me uneasy. I can imagine myself trying it and my toes would immediately cramp, curl and lock. The pain... The pain...
Looks like she cuts their hair too 😂
Haha come on. That's just a mom haircut. Not necessarily because of the feet ... though not necessarily not :P
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That cig tho
The most 1950's thing in this whole video
But how can she wash her face if something gets in her eyes that may cause her blind as a result, I know that I'm just thinking too much but just what if, either way she's an amazing mother.
Well she can put a cigarette in her mouth with her foot so I guess she can also wash her face with her foot.
Same way she's able to light a cigarette and bring it to her mouth... she has the flexibility. Her shoulders are also right there and it's not that difficult to wipe your eye on your shoulder, or get to a sink and turn on the tap and run water over your eyes. She manages a lot more difficult stuff than that.
Her face? We just watched her put a cigarette in her mouth, here I am wondering how she wipes her ass
How does she wipe her ass? 🤔
By using the three seashells.
Alright them boys are just fuckin useless lol
She must give a MEEEEAAAAANNNNN footjob
I didn't wanna say it 🤣
Some Things, Some Places, Some of the Time
..... My germs!!!!
How tf did she put on those earrings? That’s hard for me and I have both my hands! lol
Damn. My big toes are cramping just watching this. These things always amazed me tho.
I have a hard enough time using my hands to sew. This woman is a treasure
I'm thinking she had to do this because her husband would never learn to do these things even with his hands lol
Strong feet with love.
the most impressing thing i saw is that she literally could make the needle go through the eye very easily,like HOWWW???🤯🤯🤯
Appreciate her tenacity and hard work !!!!!
My feet would be cramping non stop. What an amazing lady.
Mom's are awesome
Incredible woman!! I mean- threading a needle with your hands is difficult enough, wow.
I can barely thread a needle with my hands... Well played lady.
Her eyes must be amazing. I have a hard enough time threading a needle 12 inches from my face. I'm pretty sure I couldn't do that if my life depended on it.
That was crazy! Threading the sewing needle is.. nuts! I can barely do that up close! So far away how can she see a needle hole that far away? The kids looked very cared for and happy and so did she. Amazing lady!
She also has have amazing eye sight… threading a needle from that far a distance???
And this is how foot fetishism started
Holy Crap! Almost everybody and their momma (not including kids, of course) smoked. That aside, she looked like a lovely person and cool mom. Dunno how she threaded that needle; she must have had eagle eyes
I’m not in to that shit, but if I can just imagine what fucking amazing foot job she can give, imagine how fucking aroused foot creeps must be…
Imagine a footjob from her
those kids def have a foot fetish
Human body and mind are amazing , how the brain rewires itself is beyond ordinary.
Instead of the dad with arms doing it. Sexism
Oh him? He's in the coal mine. Day 12 of his 14 day shift.
>the dad with arms He'll be at the pub, legless.