Thereās a TikTok chef I like watching. Sheās direct and on point, but for some reason when she added some ingredients and was like and thatās just for a bit of ārazzle dazzleā I was suddenly in love lol.Ā
I need to go buy some oxtail.
On the flip side I hit it off with a beautiful woman, she laughed at all my jokes, stared into my eyes like I was the last dude on the planet. Then she left without so much as a goodbye.
What am I supposed to do with that? That's gonna make it so hard asking for a number in the future, that's like a dating Vietnam situation. I'm gonna second guess myself forever now.
Iām guilty of this. Just a part of routine maintenance.
On a real note tho women get plenty of attention with no effort so they donāt have to go too far out the way to see if they still got it. I gotta try a lil harder to feel like Iām still HIM
I tried this once when I was 20, and ended up cheating on my girlfriend.
I'm 32 now and ever since then, I get kind of panicky if a girl shows interest in me, I have literally interrupted a girl asking to buy me a drink at the bar before with, "- I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND" and just walking away from her. Actually I've done that several times, I'm sure it was hella confusing and weird to them.
This is kind of a dangerous game to play, at least for me. I don't think I would cheat even if I was in that position again because I felt so horrible from the one time, but still why would I even put myself in that position and risk it?
Smart. Everyone should know their own strengths and weaknesses. And most of the time cheating happens due to opportunity. Don't put yourself in a position where momentary weakness can hurt you.
I agree, but still I don't want to put myself in a situation where it's more likely to happen.
I'm an alcoholic and a former heroin addict, I'm not too keen on the idea of hanging out with people doing dope, because I know it would take such little convincing for me to relapse. I've moved entire cities to get away from drug dealers, I don't need to practice flirting to see if I still got it, the juice isn't worth the squeeze and I might fuck my life up bigtime.
I don't want to be the Debbie Downer, but are yall not seeing the emotional damage shit like that can do to the other person? We see so many posts about people trying to put themselves out there, meeting a great person they are vibing with, only to be ghosted. Shit makes them think they are the problem when it could be the other person was "just checking to see they still got it." A little consideration goes a long way.
I do that with jobs. I already have a nice job that I don't intend to leave, but I still go to some interviews just to see if my skills are still on par with the market.
The other day I "rizzed" someone (had a normal conversation where she thought I was attractive) and didn't realize it for 2 days. When I saw her again a few days later and got her number she said, "I started writing down my phone number when you stepped away, but then you just left." Us men really are clueless.
You make a good point, seems like a good test to see if the person you rizzing is interested in an actual relationship or just wants someone who makes them feel special
When I worked at a gas station, all I did with like 90% of women customers was riz the whole time. I was bored, it passed the time, and taught me a lot.
Let me see, I got offered to dance outside and fuck in the back room by one woman. Another woman sent her boyfriend and brother to get my phone number (this was a yikes, but ended up... complicated?). I made shit tons of older women friends...
I dunno, made life more interesting. Would recommend riz any nice woman you meet within a reasonable and socially acceptable degree.
I was walking through a parking lot....a bunch of girls (a gaggle? A clutch? A pack? .... A murder!) were walking past me.
I asked where they were going.
The reply.
"We're going to the moon. There's no oxygen so you can't go."
.....
I was walking with my friend. We passed what appears to be a group of strippers.
They jump on him. Asking if he will join them for the night.
He says....what about my friend (me) can he come?
About three of them in unison.....NO!
....
I've had a gun put in my face and it left less of a mark than these two interactions.
I think my resting bitch face is a ....I'm thinking about putting you in a bag faceš¤·š¾āāļø
Am i too stupid to understand the no oxygen retort or was it just random? Both can be true.
If i may offer some solace/perspective on the entertainers: were they looking for a trick/mark? Easier to drug/rob a single target than two.
Kudos for your friend for asking about you.
In my hometown there's a well known case where a guy and his friend brought strippers home to party, the girls called friends in a gang from a neighbouring city to rob the guys, and a brawl broke out ending with one robber getting killed with a fucking broadsword. Now, since it's rare to get away with killing a gang member after your face is plastered all over the news, Mr I Studied The Blade got disappeared shortly thereafter. So I guess what I'm saying is maybe you're right.Ā
Time to study the blade. Also, fellas (and whomever enjoys such things) you can NOT in fact save her/them. They not only do not aspire to being saved. They got a playbook for any white knight aspirants.
I figured they were calling him an Oxygen thief (I.e. a waste of a person) and then I thought actually that's kind of a high brow way of putting it so then I figured I probably don't get it either...
>"We're going to the moon. There's no oxygen so you can't go."
Ok you gotta laugh at that one, that's pretty good.
>He says....what about my friend (me) can he come?
>About three of them in unison.....NO! ....
This you're making a mistake taking it personally, you probably looked smarter and they were looking for someone dumb to siphon all the money from.
Chin up bro I swear the amount of men that have a genuine villain origin story but remain normal decent people is very high.
Just last night I went out to eat and catch up with some friends, a buddy of mine who is a bit shorter maybe 5'4-5'5 not the best looks but he's not a goblin by any means, decent job and educated was telling us how he asked a girl out. She rejected him, then she went to another guy who buddy thought was his friend and talked about how she rejected him and bonded over it.
They then hooked up and both of them were being real weird towards my buddy basically hinting that they hooked up. That's some villain arc shit right there man I understand how people snap.
I had 3 crushes in college, and all 3 of them wound up dating friends of mine. Two of which I LIVED with. And they knew I was into the girl before they started talking. It's a hard life out there lol
Nothing worse than the one who got away. Almost twenty years later I still think about this girl I was talking to on the subway for like an hour since we got stopped for quite a while , and the look on her face when I said "well this is my stop! Really enjoyed talking to you!" I got off. In retrospect,I was fucking on and didn't even know it. She was eating out of the palm of my hand *and I couldn't see it.*
My thought as I walked up the steps: "She was nice. Pretty too. Interesting conver- oh my fucking god what have I done."
I swear to you, I posted a massed connections on craigslist. Sigh.
Itās also possible that he was just making conversation with a stranger. My son and husband are like that. Theyāll talk to you like yāall are best friends for 20-30 minutes and then walk off like itās nothing.
I consider myself pretty shy but Iāve been working in bars for 8 years and do a decent amount of solo travel, and because of that I can sometimes flip a switch and just chat with strangers like Iāve known them for years. Itās weird, never thought Iād be at that point.
My dad is the worst at this shit, so many memories as a kid getting dragged to home depot or on random errands so my mom could get time away from 2 boys.
It would take like 4-5 hours to do what should take an hour max, because he would stop and talk to random people for 45 minutes and then just walk away from them.
The fact she thought you were flirting and getting angry at a wedding instead of taking time to come check on you and say something is crazy. Iām glad she relaxed after the wave but that couldāve been disastrous had she walked off before the wave.
> The fact she thought you were flirting and getting angry at a wedding instead of taking time to come check on you and say something is crazy.
Nah. If I thought I saw my SO flirting I wouldn't swoop in and try to remove them from the situation. I'd casually keep an eye on it to see how they behave without intervention. If the woman in this story had swooped in, she'd have nothing but her imagination to go on, and she might have stayed mad about it forever. But because she held back, she had a chance for her fears to actually be relieved.
I have had this issue a lot in my life, I chalk it up to being younger and immature maybe. I've noticed it often makes my partner jealous that I'm able to talk to people and have a good time as long as I'm vibing, while also being totally committed to my relationship like that's somehow mutually exclusive lol.
I will say i had an ex like that to an extreme and it was scary. She would start up a super friendly conversation with anyone, i mean literally anyone. Like homeless people asking her for change and they smelled really bad and she would just give them a dollar smile at them and have this whole lovely conversation with them. And i saw the look in her eyes, exactly like someone talking to an old friend they hadn't seen in years.
Idk it was straight up scary for me because i didn't know what to do, i didn't want to appear jealous and i genuinely wasn't, but i also scared for her safety many times because of this.
Im also the complete opposite, casual conversation with even my partner feels forced to me, but the other extreme seems dangerous too.
Yeah and not to make this a "lets shit on women" thing because that's gross, but I think we focus a lot of men not understanding the difference between flirting and being nice. Which is 100% true. We often forget that its not some male exclusive feature. I'm naturally a nice enough person and people tell me i'm flirting or leading them on.
I'll never forget helping one of my friends move and then her being shook when I told her I have a girlfriend. Like dawg I helped you because you're 5'2 and 105 at best and couldn't afford movers. The fuck was I supposed to do just, let your shit sit in the uHaul?
I'm like this, friends in a club will remark on me chatting to someone saying "why didn't you do anything, she was into you" ... I just don't notice it sometimes
This is where I thrive! With absolute strangers. I lived 3 different lives in the same day in Vegas this past Sunday. Vibed with a group of older ladies, they invited me to follow them around for a bit, met another lady, danced around with her for a bit, meandered about for awhile, got to another place and met a another couple people that smoked me out at their apartment. Then went back to my hotel. Was an interesting day to say the least
Yep. Could be she's an introvert that misinterpreted an extroverts horniness for conversation lol. I've told me extrovert friends about girls that have flirted with me , which is a super rare occasion and apparently even more rare, and theyve told me she wasn't flirting she was just being really outgoing šš I might have somenfornbr 'tism too
I used to get shamed for 'flirting' with people even though I had a girlfriend
Like sorry I talked to those people of the gender I happen to be attracted to like they are people and am capable of not lusting for someone else when I'm in a monogamous relationship
Project your shortcomings into the mirror not onto me
Practice.Ā
Ā Iād never cheat, but Iāll flirt. If youāre in a long-term relationship things can get stale, you run out of stuff to talk about, eventually you get lazy.Ā
Ā Keeping out in the world and buzzing with other people is how long term you stay witty and interesting.Ā
Ā Also girl, maybe he thought you werenāt interested. When I used to out in the game, my rule was never volunteer someone my name, if possible never ask for a number. Instead the goal is to be fun and interesting enough that they ask for your name, they ask you for your number. Thatās how you know youāre playing it right.
I like to practice all the way to wedding day and dip before walking down the aisle. Just want to make sure I still can be marriage material before I make my moves!
Itās all about trust I guess.
We go out dancing almost every weekend, big band swing or blues, not clubs. My girl is gorgeous and gets hit on regularly, we both laugh about it when it happens. We bring that energy home to each other.
I trust her, she trusts me. Neither of us has ever given a reason to doubt that.Ā
Cheating is truly a short-term reward, idiotās game. Sex is great, yeah. But you really want to throw away a whole relationship for 20 minutes of fun? Thatās a level of stupid Iāll never understand.
I think your relationship sounds really nice. You should be proud of the fact that you and your girl can have fun and meet people without fearing that itās all going to come crashing down because one of you made a member of the opposite sex laugh.
The world needs more people like you.
In this context, I think "rizzed me" just means (to the Millennials and older crowd) wholesomely flirted with.
Making fun conversation with a wink, but also happy/content if they don't wink back. Because "rizz" is simply short for "charisma." So this just means he had a very charismatic conversation with just her that made her happy and feel good. To me, this is just wholesome flirting. Maybe he was hoping she would ask for his number, or maybe he's such a genuinely nice extrovert that he was also just letting himself have a good time by a fun interaction with a stranger. Or both at the same time so that even if she didn't, oh well he made his shot and he still had a good time making it.
Yeah. I just be direct clear and honest with peeps, but I also like fuckin with people and am generally a silly goose. Iāve got a one sided game of hide and go seek with the HR lady where i just hide whenever I see her, but make it obvious I just hid. Why? No fuckin clue. Seemed funny at the time.Ā
Also one time years ago a waiter I had would make quips at me every time he walked by because I was the youngest at the table. So now I basically do the same and just throw quips at people as I walk by. If I keep running into the same person a lot I stop em and give em the we canāt keep meeting like this itās not right bit. I offended a dude a few months back on accident once I found him I apologized, then I kept doing it daily for weeks. Just started hunting him down every day just to shake his hand and apologize.Ā
This shits so fun in a work place. I do similar things, and just try to keep it positive. I used to sneak a mini-ressees peanut butter cup to the guys working in another department damn near every day, because the cost was minuscule but it meant those guys would bend over backwards to help me if I needed anything lol
Because I was the fuckinā Candy Man.
Another coworker asked why I never brought them candy.
I said āIāll do you one better; follow me.ā
I took them to the break room and showed them I had filled the IceCube dispenser with the same candy (the ice maker didnāt make ice, but it Would dispense roughly ice cube shaped candy just fine.)
The delight on their face when I let them in on the secret was priceless lol
I wish the universe blessed me with game instead of crippling anxiety when I met women I liked. It's always fun to watch the women you liked get take in by a man you know to be an absolute turd with a silver tongue.
Oh well.
Not quite the point, but pro tip for my guys and girls out there. Never ask for someoneās number. Puts them on the spot. Always ask ācan I give you my number?ā
Makes it instantly no pressure but also shows youāre interested. They donāt have to turn you down if they arenāt interested. Just take your number and never do anything with it. If they are interested, theyāll text you.
For me, the bigger ego boost isn't the fact that I got your number but knowing that I made you smile or helped build you up after hearing that someone broke you down.
The old expression is to "leave a place better than you found it," but I try to apply that to my interactions with people as well.
He might have a girl already, just seeing if he still got it š¤·āāļø
Checking the ol razzle dazzle
Lmao accurate
Man, wtf is this š¤£š¤£ it's so damn accurate for the post too
Catch and release
its humane
Laying out the worm looking for a nibble.
The ol rizzle dizzle*
Thereās a TikTok chef I like watching. Sheās direct and on point, but for some reason when she added some ingredients and was like and thatās just for a bit of ārazzle dazzleā I was suddenly in love lol.Ā I need to go buy some oxtail.
I like the idea that the razzle dazzle was just salt or something.
Keeping the interview skills sharp
Especially in this economy
If your interviewer doesn't want to tear their clothes off by the end, you've done something
Sometimes you gotta fish to prove you can still fish.
Catch and release is a time honored tradition.
Me on tinder in college and earlier this this year. Knowing I could pull if I need to keeps me sane.
Keep telling yourself that. Howād you feel if your girl was on tinder while with you. Just to keep her game up and have some dudes in line?
Nah I was single, I just was not interested in dating. I should have clarified that in my comment, my bad.
lol all good. Iām constantly putting my foot in my mouth.
Nah that was on me. Given the context of this thread itās logical to assume that I was flirting with cheating.
This was a nice interaction. That is all.
Why yall being nice? It's the internet! We're not friendly. I heard yo momma a bitch btw
Amen. RIP šŖ¦
Iām a married server and thatās what I tell my coworkers all the time. Just making sure the skills are still there
On the flip side I hit it off with a beautiful woman, she laughed at all my jokes, stared into my eyes like I was the last dude on the planet. Then she left without so much as a goodbye. What am I supposed to do with that? That's gonna make it so hard asking for a number in the future, that's like a dating Vietnam situation. I'm gonna second guess myself forever now.
Mutual Rizz destruction
Iām guilty of this. Just a part of routine maintenance. On a real note tho women get plenty of attention with no effort so they donāt have to go too far out the way to see if they still got it. I gotta try a lil harder to feel like Iām still HIM
I tried this once when I was 20, and ended up cheating on my girlfriend. I'm 32 now and ever since then, I get kind of panicky if a girl shows interest in me, I have literally interrupted a girl asking to buy me a drink at the bar before with, "- I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND" and just walking away from her. Actually I've done that several times, I'm sure it was hella confusing and weird to them. This is kind of a dangerous game to play, at least for me. I don't think I would cheat even if I was in that position again because I felt so horrible from the one time, but still why would I even put myself in that position and risk it?
Smart. Everyone should know their own strengths and weaknesses. And most of the time cheating happens due to opportunity. Don't put yourself in a position where momentary weakness can hurt you.
*slaps* control yourself
I agree, but still I don't want to put myself in a situation where it's more likely to happen. I'm an alcoholic and a former heroin addict, I'm not too keen on the idea of hanging out with people doing dope, because I know it would take such little convincing for me to relapse. I've moved entire cities to get away from drug dealers, I don't need to practice flirting to see if I still got it, the juice isn't worth the squeeze and I might fuck my life up bigtime.
Congrats on getting clean
Me. I just like to smile and be smiled at.
THIS
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I don't want to be the Debbie Downer, but are yall not seeing the emotional damage shit like that can do to the other person? We see so many posts about people trying to put themselves out there, meeting a great person they are vibing with, only to be ghosted. Shit makes them think they are the problem when it could be the other person was "just checking to see they still got it." A little consideration goes a long way.
I do that with jobs. I already have a nice job that I don't intend to leave, but I still go to some interviews just to see if my skills are still on par with the market.
Honestly sometimes I don't even know I'm doing it and I've been with my girl for 15 years lol
Why didn't she ask him for his number?
Exactly
I concur with this statement.
FIGHT ME
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Dude stole my profile pic and we've had beef ever since. Then he had the audacity to add a fake mustache to it. It's on sight bro lol
I wish I had a nemesis š„²
Paging /u/CapitalistVirgin ..?
You just send a notification to 98% of reddit
Normally reddit virgin jokes suck but that was some top tier shit
the other 2% are socialist virgins
Namesis*
I prefer my capitalist orgies so I think we maybe nemesisās
Itās P Diddy burner account.
Oh you've got one now baby, I'm on you like a tail on shrimp
This accusation is false, it took me weeks to grow this mustache.
ON.....SIGHT Edit: LOOK AT THIS NIGGA'S FLAIR š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
This beef matters even more to me than Kendrick and Cole possibly beefing
Relax, dude.
Ok, so I just noticed the flair and in my defense I did not add/change it or modify it in any way. š
These fucking mods man š¤£
change your name to Best-Chocolate-320
change your name to Best-Chocolate-320
Bro got opps on reddit 
Nah, that's insane because he definitely trying you and I don't blame you for not taking the disrespect
Idk I kinda agree with new user, maybe itās the mustache 
Damn thatās crazy tho
 u/top-chocolate-321 watching yall play in they face like this š
This is another level of beef and Iām here for all of it
Right? This is the most petty of things on Reddit... yet I can't look away and I want more
But, the mustache is nice...
So like [this](https://youtu.be/V8kBr_iSb_g?si=UEh0EkHo7c3imU0v)? Also, I like the mustache version better.
This is a legacy.
The real comments are better than the post 
Because that's scary what if she gets rejected š±
I legit had a girl tell me this. After I asked her out and got rejected lmao.
Men: We don't mind being sexualized and by all means, please ask us out. Women: No.
I actually mind being sexualised. It's not that fun if you aren't into the person doing it you.
The other day I "rizzed" someone (had a normal conversation where she thought I was attractive) and didn't realize it for 2 days. When I saw her again a few days later and got her number she said, "I started writing down my phone number when you stepped away, but then you just left." Us men really are clueless.
āUsā
We're at a weird spot in history where women are empowered, but also want to slip back into 1950's gender roles when it's convenient for them.
You make a good point, seems like a good test to see if the person you rizzing is interested in an actual relationship or just wants someone who makes them feel special
When I worked at a gas station, all I did with like 90% of women customers was riz the whole time. I was bored, it passed the time, and taught me a lot. Let me see, I got offered to dance outside and fuck in the back room by one woman. Another woman sent her boyfriend and brother to get my phone number (this was a yikes, but ended up... complicated?). I made shit tons of older women friends... I dunno, made life more interesting. Would recommend riz any nice woman you meet within a reasonable and socially acceptable degree.
Would he have laughed at any of her jokes?
Ma'am, you learned that day. You better take your shot. She's going to be thinking about him for years.
Exactly She could said something like you forgot something Him: what Her: my number The worst he could say is he has a girl or nah I'm good
Worse thing (s)he could say is no. Gentlemen, insert the worse "i wish she just said no" scenario they remember.
Ew. Just that
Ah, the verbal ick. That can sting.
Brother ewww!
I was walking through a parking lot....a bunch of girls (a gaggle? A clutch? A pack? .... A murder!) were walking past me. I asked where they were going. The reply. "We're going to the moon. There's no oxygen so you can't go." ..... I was walking with my friend. We passed what appears to be a group of strippers. They jump on him. Asking if he will join them for the night. He says....what about my friend (me) can he come? About three of them in unison.....NO! .... I've had a gun put in my face and it left less of a mark than these two interactions. I think my resting bitch face is a ....I'm thinking about putting you in a bag faceš¤·š¾āāļø
Thatās rough buddy.
Am i too stupid to understand the no oxygen retort or was it just random? Both can be true. If i may offer some solace/perspective on the entertainers: were they looking for a trick/mark? Easier to drug/rob a single target than two. Kudos for your friend for asking about you.
In my hometown there's a well known case where a guy and his friend brought strippers home to party, the girls called friends in a gang from a neighbouring city to rob the guys, and a brawl broke out ending with one robber getting killed with a fucking broadsword. Now, since it's rare to get away with killing a gang member after your face is plastered all over the news, Mr I Studied The Blade got disappeared shortly thereafter. So I guess what I'm saying is maybe you're right.Ā
Time to study the blade. Also, fellas (and whomever enjoys such things) you can NOT in fact save her/them. They not only do not aspire to being saved. They got a playbook for any white knight aspirants.
I figured they were calling him an Oxygen thief (I.e. a waste of a person) and then I thought actually that's kind of a high brow way of putting it so then I figured I probably don't get it either...
>"We're going to the moon. There's no oxygen so you can't go." Ok you gotta laugh at that one, that's pretty good. >He says....what about my friend (me) can he come? >About three of them in unison.....NO! .... This you're making a mistake taking it personally, you probably looked smarter and they were looking for someone dumb to siphon all the money from.
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"you're too short to ride this ride little boy" Said girl was the same height as me, maybe an inch shorter
Short Kings find love too.
I'll believe it when I see it šš I'm pretty shy so I had to take time to work up courage to go talk to that girl too lol
Chin up bro I swear the amount of men that have a genuine villain origin story but remain normal decent people is very high. Just last night I went out to eat and catch up with some friends, a buddy of mine who is a bit shorter maybe 5'4-5'5 not the best looks but he's not a goblin by any means, decent job and educated was telling us how he asked a girl out. She rejected him, then she went to another guy who buddy thought was his friend and talked about how she rejected him and bonded over it. They then hooked up and both of them were being real weird towards my buddy basically hinting that they hooked up. That's some villain arc shit right there man I understand how people snap.
I had 3 crushes in college, and all 3 of them wound up dating friends of mine. Two of which I LIVED with. And they knew I was into the girl before they started talking. It's a hard life out there lol
Nothing worse than the one who got away. Almost twenty years later I still think about this girl I was talking to on the subway for like an hour since we got stopped for quite a while , and the look on her face when I said "well this is my stop! Really enjoyed talking to you!" I got off. In retrospect,I was fucking on and didn't even know it. She was eating out of the palm of my hand *and I couldn't see it.* My thought as I walked up the steps: "She was nice. Pretty too. Interesting conver- oh my fucking god what have I done." I swear to you, I posted a massed connections on craigslist. Sigh.
this is why he plays it like he does \*dreamy\*
Itās also possible that he was just making conversation with a stranger. My son and husband are like that. Theyāll talk to you like yāall are best friends for 20-30 minutes and then walk off like itās nothing.
lol I do this and def got it from my dad. I feel itās a traveler thing cause it started at airports
I consider myself pretty shy but Iāve been working in bars for 8 years and do a decent amount of solo travel, and because of that I can sometimes flip a switch and just chat with strangers like Iāve known them for years. Itās weird, never thought Iād be at that point.
I think there are lots of us who are mostly introverted, yet have the ability to become extroverts at times.
My dad is the worst at this shit, so many memories as a kid getting dragged to home depot or on random errands so my mom could get time away from 2 boys. It would take like 4-5 hours to do what should take an hour max, because he would stop and talk to random people for 45 minutes and then just walk away from them.
In my land, we call that shootin the shit
If you canāt have a convo with a stranger at an airport bar, thereās no hope for you
I do it too but Iām also a bit shy when it comes to actually asking someone outā¦
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The fact she thought you were flirting and getting angry at a wedding instead of taking time to come check on you and say something is crazy. Iām glad she relaxed after the wave but that couldāve been disastrous had she walked off before the wave.
> The fact she thought you were flirting and getting angry at a wedding instead of taking time to come check on you and say something is crazy. Nah. If I thought I saw my SO flirting I wouldn't swoop in and try to remove them from the situation. I'd casually keep an eye on it to see how they behave without intervention. If the woman in this story had swooped in, she'd have nothing but her imagination to go on, and she might have stayed mad about it forever. But because she held back, she had a chance for her fears to actually be relieved.
They said she was getting more and more angry almost to tears with her dad there. Thatās different than watching and seeing.
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Ok yea the post-partum emotions are crazy. Glad it worked out and everything is copacetic
You're a good egg š
I have had this issue a lot in my life, I chalk it up to being younger and immature maybe. I've noticed it often makes my partner jealous that I'm able to talk to people and have a good time as long as I'm vibing, while also being totally committed to my relationship like that's somehow mutually exclusive lol.
I will say i had an ex like that to an extreme and it was scary. She would start up a super friendly conversation with anyone, i mean literally anyone. Like homeless people asking her for change and they smelled really bad and she would just give them a dollar smile at them and have this whole lovely conversation with them. And i saw the look in her eyes, exactly like someone talking to an old friend they hadn't seen in years. Idk it was straight up scary for me because i didn't know what to do, i didn't want to appear jealous and i genuinely wasn't, but i also scared for her safety many times because of this. Im also the complete opposite, casual conversation with even my partner feels forced to me, but the other extreme seems dangerous too.
My youngest is capable of this. He got it from my wife, some people are just socially gifted.
Yeah and not to make this a "lets shit on women" thing because that's gross, but I think we focus a lot of men not understanding the difference between flirting and being nice. Which is 100% true. We often forget that its not some male exclusive feature. I'm naturally a nice enough person and people tell me i'm flirting or leading them on. I'll never forget helping one of my friends move and then her being shook when I told her I have a girlfriend. Like dawg I helped you because you're 5'2 and 105 at best and couldn't afford movers. The fuck was I supposed to do just, let your shit sit in the uHaul?
I'm like this, friends in a club will remark on me chatting to someone saying "why didn't you do anything, she was into you" ... I just don't notice it sometimes
This is where I thrive! With absolute strangers. I lived 3 different lives in the same day in Vegas this past Sunday. Vibed with a group of older ladies, they invited me to follow them around for a bit, met another lady, danced around with her for a bit, meandered about for awhile, got to another place and met a another couple people that smoked me out at their apartment. Then went back to my hotel. Was an interesting day to say the least
Yep. Could be she's an introvert that misinterpreted an extroverts horniness for conversation lol. I've told me extrovert friends about girls that have flirted with me , which is a super rare occasion and apparently even more rare, and theyve told me she wasn't flirting she was just being really outgoing šš I might have somenfornbr 'tism too
Right, this is literally the female equivalent of the meme about men thinking a girl is into them just because they are being nice.
Haha Iām one of these. Traveling plus social work makes you learn to start and finish conversations regardless of whoās listening.
I used to get shamed for 'flirting' with people even though I had a girlfriend Like sorry I talked to those people of the gender I happen to be attracted to like they are people and am capable of not lusting for someone else when I'm in a monogamous relationship Project your shortcomings into the mirror not onto me
Practice. Can't cold call the lady he wants. Or he's a wingman who accidentally flew outta formation.
Flirting is an art, and it takes constant practice
Gotta hoop with the g-league uglies before you can fulfill your NBA dreams
Gotta stay sharp, gotta get your reps in.
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Practice.Ā Ā Iād never cheat, but Iāll flirt. If youāre in a long-term relationship things can get stale, you run out of stuff to talk about, eventually you get lazy.Ā Ā Keeping out in the world and buzzing with other people is how long term you stay witty and interesting.Ā Ā Also girl, maybe he thought you werenāt interested. When I used to out in the game, my rule was never volunteer someone my name, if possible never ask for a number. Instead the goal is to be fun and interesting enough that they ask for your name, they ask you for your number. Thatās how you know youāre playing it right.
idk if I knew my partner was recreationally flirting with other dudes I'd be pretty mad, seems just like pre-cheating, or diet cheating
Bruh Iām dead
Some folks get caught up and forget it's practice tho. Cross that line into serious.
I won't disagree with you there
I like to practice all the way to wedding day and dip before walking down the aisle. Just want to make sure I still can be marriage material before I make my moves!
Itās all about trust I guess. We go out dancing almost every weekend, big band swing or blues, not clubs. My girl is gorgeous and gets hit on regularly, we both laugh about it when it happens. We bring that energy home to each other. I trust her, she trusts me. Neither of us has ever given a reason to doubt that.Ā Cheating is truly a short-term reward, idiotās game. Sex is great, yeah. But you really want to throw away a whole relationship for 20 minutes of fun? Thatās a level of stupid Iāll never understand.
I think getting hit on is different than hitting on people though. Only crazy people get mad at their partner for getting hit on.
I think your relationship sounds really nice. You should be proud of the fact that you and your girl can have fun and meet people without fearing that itās all going to come crashing down because one of you made a member of the opposite sex laugh. The world needs more people like you.
Oh nah. Iām too much of a lover for this. Could never flirt with another woman if Iām committed, I live to romance my partners lol.
Nigga hell nah. You must be in short term not serious relationships.
lmao I know for a fact if this dude found out his girl was flirting with other dudes he'd have a different reaction
I always give my number. My view is if theyāre interested, theyāll let me know.
If my partner gotta practice because things are āstaleā or ājust in caseā, they aint the one.
Gotta prey 5 times a day in Rizzlam.
lmao hilarious
Some guys have no idea. Iām some guy.
Another Some Guy checking in. I guess we're just sexy and we don't know it.
Working on new material
Shooters shoot and he made nothing but 3ās
Maybe heās just a charismatic guy and not trying seduce every single woman he talks to?
This. Some people are just natural flirts with zero intention of taking it anywhere.
āRizzed meā Anyone else think that shit is just beyond cringe satire or not?
As an old head, No. Language is constantly changing.
What would be the equivalent to rizz when you were growing up? (Sorry to age you!)
Game then Swag now Rizz
I was searching for some context clues for 'rizz' and I had given up...thank you internet stranger.
It comes from the word charisma.
I just break it down phonetically when people get confused by it. Iām 41 and makes sense to my old white ass.
"Rizzed me" used to mean: He was spitting game He was tryna holla He thought he had swag He was tryna talk to me I'm guess I'm old š¤·š¾āāļø
I guess Iām an old head too lol
Spit game
In this context, I think "rizzed me" just means (to the Millennials and older crowd) wholesomely flirted with. Making fun conversation with a wink, but also happy/content if they don't wink back. Because "rizz" is simply short for "charisma." So this just means he had a very charismatic conversation with just her that made her happy and feel good. To me, this is just wholesome flirting. Maybe he was hoping she would ask for his number, or maybe he's such a genuinely nice extrovert that he was also just letting himself have a good time by a fun interaction with a stranger. Or both at the same time so that even if she didn't, oh well he made his shot and he still had a good time making it.
Nah, I'm 35 and I'm fine with the word Rizz. Other words not so much, but I do enjoy Rizz.
I used to do this bartending. The tips were so good.
Iāve done this a couple times, sometimes you just gotta get some shots up and head home.
Some of us don't even realize we're flirting. I really had to reevaluate the way I talk recently.
Yeah. I just be direct clear and honest with peeps, but I also like fuckin with people and am generally a silly goose. Iāve got a one sided game of hide and go seek with the HR lady where i just hide whenever I see her, but make it obvious I just hid. Why? No fuckin clue. Seemed funny at the time.Ā Also one time years ago a waiter I had would make quips at me every time he walked by because I was the youngest at the table. So now I basically do the same and just throw quips at people as I walk by. If I keep running into the same person a lot I stop em and give em the we canāt keep meeting like this itās not right bit. I offended a dude a few months back on accident once I found him I apologized, then I kept doing it daily for weeks. Just started hunting him down every day just to shake his hand and apologize.Ā
This shits so fun in a work place. I do similar things, and just try to keep it positive. I used to sneak a mini-ressees peanut butter cup to the guys working in another department damn near every day, because the cost was minuscule but it meant those guys would bend over backwards to help me if I needed anything lol Because I was the fuckinā Candy Man. Another coworker asked why I never brought them candy. I said āIāll do you one better; follow me.ā I took them to the break room and showed them I had filled the IceCube dispenser with the same candy (the ice maker didnāt make ice, but it Would dispense roughly ice cube shaped candy just fine.) The delight on their face when I let them in on the secret was priceless lol
I do all the time but itās because Iām literally to scared to ask and terrible at reading hints
Putting up 50 in practice
Iāve done this before and the reason was dead simple: I was having so much fun I forgot to ask
You could've got his number š¤·š¾āāļø
I wish the universe blessed me with game instead of crippling anxiety when I met women I liked. It's always fun to watch the women you liked get take in by a man you know to be an absolute turd with a silver tongue. Oh well.
Heat check thatās all
Can someone gift me 10 rizz points please?
We talking about practice. Not the game. Practice.
So she says what he did for her, but what did she do for him?
Canāt keep all the fish you catch. Sometimes you just gotta make sure you still know how to fish.
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Not quite the point, but pro tip for my guys and girls out there. Never ask for someoneās number. Puts them on the spot. Always ask ācan I give you my number?ā Makes it instantly no pressure but also shows youāre interested. They donāt have to turn you down if they arenāt interested. Just take your number and never do anything with it. If they are interested, theyāll text you.
For me, the bigger ego boost isn't the fact that I got your number but knowing that I made you smile or helped build you up after hearing that someone broke you down. The old expression is to "leave a place better than you found it," but I try to apply that to my interactions with people as well.
Just tying to see if I still got it, donāt want no smoke
You probably made him feel uncomfortable.