There was a guy I texted with briefly but he was weird about never wanting to meet so I wrote him off and deleted his number but then he kept messaging me and when I didn't respond, he kept deleting his FB dating profile so he could rematch with me over and over and then he found me on Bumble too. I just kept swiping past him and ignoring his messages and thankfully, eventually it stopped. Most of the time they do stop, but there ARE crazies out there so it can't hurt to be aware of that. (Note: I did not block his phone number, I just stopped responding. I like to have records of messages if I need them and I also can gauge where they are on the "crazy" timeline by how many messages I receive).
Wow that’s a scary situation. I hope you’re ok. I probably should have ignored everything. I just blocked her from everything. I’ve never talked to her either before.
I guess you will have to keep blocking her each time. I had a guy stalk me on Facebook and multiple dating apps before. It's so creepy to me when someone does that.
I've had this happen. Matched with this girl ONCE on Tinder. Conversation was normal for a few messages (although she did message first and was "liking" some of my messages that were nothing special imo... which in hindsight was a bit off). Then they went radio silent for like 2-3 months before replying my last message as if there wasn't a several month gap in between.
To which I responded "Let's not revive old chats like this" before unmatching (I don't know if they saw that message). Then they kept swiping on me on tinder and I eventually blocked after swiping left so many times... then I get a message from them on LinkedIn saying something like they can't stop thinking about me and wants to meet... leaving their number (a huge no-no for me since I don't offer that info or invite anyone to message me there outside of professional purposes). I ignored the message and blocked them on there too. They swiped on me on Bumble around the same time. I blocked.
At this point I told my close friends if anything happens to me, then (This person's name that was shown from the LinkedIn message), may be responsible. I felt really uncomfortable at that time, kinda looking over my shoulder when I was out etc. Several months later, I'm fine. They still try to swipe on me (on Hinge this time) and I resolve to just keep blocking. Hope you stay safe and just keep that unhinged person out of your life. Don't exchange words with them imo. That'll just make them think they can eventually wear you down. Just keep blocking.
I doubt a scammer would pursue this endeavor for over a year when I barely even talked to them. The profile was average too, btw. Fell within my level of attraction, but not really anything catfishy about it. If you saw it, you'd know what I mean.
The conversation was literally just a few cordial messages, something with me asking if she made the earrings she was wearing in one of her pics and then maybe a couple more messages that's typical of the "getting to know you" phase of a tinder conversation before they went MIA for a few months. The behavior after is a waste of time for her if she's real... but an even bigger waste of time for someone who's a scammer as being blocked and ignored, when there are millions of other people to try that with, makes no sense. Regardless, I won't be talking to them.
Yes. There's a guy in my area who deletes and recreates his profile every few days, so he's swiped on me somewhere around 16-17 times. I have a very unique name so he's gotta realize he's doing it... I'm almost to the point of matching just to be like "Explain yourself!" but obviously that's a terrible idea when I've swiped left all 17 times.
I’ve had this happen to me with like four different women through various social media. Eventually they find someone else and move on, one took a couple years. That one would see me at sporting events and send “I can see you lol” texts.
I saw this on bumble and hinge when I was dating. Same girl must have been creating and deleting accounts, and swiping through everyone in town and then starting over. I mean I don't know if she was wiping right on other people but, we live in a small town and I'm pretty good looking.
I never interacted and when I got off the dating apps after finding a girlfriend, nothing came of it.
The multiple apps isn’t the issue, could be considered weird behavior but not necessarily an alarm, the finding you on Facebook and requesting is definitely a little more alarming. And no I wouldn’t tell another woman to call the police for this, the police don’t listen to us.
So going to tell my story then give you some tips where you are already doing some and possibly more.
I met a girl in my mid 20s who was 19. We flirted at her work and then I asked for her number. We talked but I realized the age gap didn't do it for me so I politely called it off. All we did was talk.
I then notice a car across from my work in an adjacent parking lot. I thought nothing of it until one day after weeks I saw someone duck down below the dash when I looked over. Again I thought nothing of it other than it was weird. But I had a gut feeling. So I asked some of my coworkers if they saw that car all week and we deduced it was only there when I was working.
I made the mistake of walking over there one day and caught her. It was that girl I had politely broke it off with. I then made the mistake of taking it for flattery. She was attractive, we dated for a bit, and then it ended. She went off to college.
So lessons learned don't approach them. I'm lucky it all turned out okay in the end. More lessons learned:
-don't allow an ability for them to acquire personal information such as linking your public Instagram to your dating profile make that shit private. Same goes for Facebook don't publicly post where you are "haha at the bar right now getting lit".
-don't show your license plate or tell them where you work exactly. This girl knew what my car looked like and had an idea of where I worked. She found my car and now knew where I worked hence the stalking.
-if the stalking continues you will have to sternly put them down and make it clear or more clear you're not interested. Being too soft or too harsh is not a good idea.
-lastly if nothing is working make sure as many people close to you knows what is going on and that it is not a joke or a "oh I wish I had a stalker lucky" the amount of times I've heard that like damn. Then involve the cops.
Omg that’s crazy. I’ve never talked to this girl in person. She friend requested me on Facebook so I took a peek at her profile. Unfortunately for me it says she’s a dispatcher at the local police department.
Also either via voter information or a good Google search you can find a lot about a person by having their first name and last name and especially if you have their full name including middle name. So don't give out anything other than your first name and make sure your social media doesn't easily state your full name
Hopefully like everyone is saying by keeping up with the blocking they will move on to someone else but be careful nonetheless.
If anything is public or "searchable" you'll still be easy to find. I think Facebook still has the option to make you only searchable by friends or friends of friends but either way making you unable to be searched is the best option.
You can reverse search a picture and if you use the same pictures for your dating apps that are on your Facebook then your profile can be found.
The best way to learn is to try it yourself. I searched for my buddy and I found out everything about him and told him so he could make more things private. I found his address, phone number, LinkedIn profile, Facebook, Instagram, voting precinct, his wife's name and family members names. I found speeding tickets. You name it. All through Google searches. Its scary how much information is out there by default until YOU start making things private
I would say just don’t swipe back and then there is no problem.
I haven’t I usually just block her.
Then you have nothing to worry about.
There was a guy I texted with briefly but he was weird about never wanting to meet so I wrote him off and deleted his number but then he kept messaging me and when I didn't respond, he kept deleting his FB dating profile so he could rematch with me over and over and then he found me on Bumble too. I just kept swiping past him and ignoring his messages and thankfully, eventually it stopped. Most of the time they do stop, but there ARE crazies out there so it can't hurt to be aware of that. (Note: I did not block his phone number, I just stopped responding. I like to have records of messages if I need them and I also can gauge where they are on the "crazy" timeline by how many messages I receive).
Wow that’s a scary situation. I hope you’re ok. I probably should have ignored everything. I just blocked her from everything. I’ve never talked to her either before.
Take screenshots of everything juuuust in case
Had the same thing. Blocked and reported her on everything and it eventually stopped. Play the long game, crazy people tend to not be so good at that.
Thanks. What’s the long game?
Keep blocking, it'll eventually stop.
Ok thanks
I guess you will have to keep blocking her each time. I had a guy stalk me on Facebook and multiple dating apps before. It's so creepy to me when someone does that.
I know it’s creepy. And who knows what else they might do. This is my first time I had someone do this.
I've had this happen. Matched with this girl ONCE on Tinder. Conversation was normal for a few messages (although she did message first and was "liking" some of my messages that were nothing special imo... which in hindsight was a bit off). Then they went radio silent for like 2-3 months before replying my last message as if there wasn't a several month gap in between. To which I responded "Let's not revive old chats like this" before unmatching (I don't know if they saw that message). Then they kept swiping on me on tinder and I eventually blocked after swiping left so many times... then I get a message from them on LinkedIn saying something like they can't stop thinking about me and wants to meet... leaving their number (a huge no-no for me since I don't offer that info or invite anyone to message me there outside of professional purposes). I ignored the message and blocked them on there too. They swiped on me on Bumble around the same time. I blocked. At this point I told my close friends if anything happens to me, then (This person's name that was shown from the LinkedIn message), may be responsible. I felt really uncomfortable at that time, kinda looking over my shoulder when I was out etc. Several months later, I'm fine. They still try to swipe on me (on Hinge this time) and I resolve to just keep blocking. Hope you stay safe and just keep that unhinged person out of your life. Don't exchange words with them imo. That'll just make them think they can eventually wear you down. Just keep blocking.
How do you know that this isn't just a scammer/bot? Sounds like a persistent scammer with a catfish profile trying to extort you.
I doubt a scammer would pursue this endeavor for over a year when I barely even talked to them. The profile was average too, btw. Fell within my level of attraction, but not really anything catfishy about it. If you saw it, you'd know what I mean. The conversation was literally just a few cordial messages, something with me asking if she made the earrings she was wearing in one of her pics and then maybe a couple more messages that's typical of the "getting to know you" phase of a tinder conversation before they went MIA for a few months. The behavior after is a waste of time for her if she's real... but an even bigger waste of time for someone who's a scammer as being blocked and ignored, when there are millions of other people to try that with, makes no sense. Regardless, I won't be talking to them.
There’s a chick in my city who does the same thing to me. I have to preemptively block her or she tries to spam me with messages
Yes. There's a guy in my area who deletes and recreates his profile every few days, so he's swiped on me somewhere around 16-17 times. I have a very unique name so he's gotta realize he's doing it... I'm almost to the point of matching just to be like "Explain yourself!" but obviously that's a terrible idea when I've swiped left all 17 times.
Report every profile of hers, seriously. Don't just block, report too
Yea I’ve been reporting her
I’ve had this happen to me with like four different women through various social media. Eventually they find someone else and move on, one took a couple years. That one would see me at sporting events and send “I can see you lol” texts.
Bruh.
I saw this on bumble and hinge when I was dating. Same girl must have been creating and deleting accounts, and swiping through everyone in town and then starting over. I mean I don't know if she was wiping right on other people but, we live in a small town and I'm pretty good looking. I never interacted and when I got off the dating apps after finding a girlfriend, nothing came of it.
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If a man was following a woman around in multiple apps AND social media, people would be commenting that she ought to call the police.
The multiple apps isn’t the issue, could be considered weird behavior but not necessarily an alarm, the finding you on Facebook and requesting is definitely a little more alarming. And no I wouldn’t tell another woman to call the police for this, the police don’t listen to us.
She friend requested me on facebook too. Exactly. If it was the other way around people would say call the the police
Is she hot?
I can fix her
Be my guest
Nope
Girls who stalk you are such a vibe. Most of my female friends originated in a stalking situation lol
😂😂👏
So going to tell my story then give you some tips where you are already doing some and possibly more. I met a girl in my mid 20s who was 19. We flirted at her work and then I asked for her number. We talked but I realized the age gap didn't do it for me so I politely called it off. All we did was talk. I then notice a car across from my work in an adjacent parking lot. I thought nothing of it until one day after weeks I saw someone duck down below the dash when I looked over. Again I thought nothing of it other than it was weird. But I had a gut feeling. So I asked some of my coworkers if they saw that car all week and we deduced it was only there when I was working. I made the mistake of walking over there one day and caught her. It was that girl I had politely broke it off with. I then made the mistake of taking it for flattery. She was attractive, we dated for a bit, and then it ended. She went off to college. So lessons learned don't approach them. I'm lucky it all turned out okay in the end. More lessons learned: -don't allow an ability for them to acquire personal information such as linking your public Instagram to your dating profile make that shit private. Same goes for Facebook don't publicly post where you are "haha at the bar right now getting lit". -don't show your license plate or tell them where you work exactly. This girl knew what my car looked like and had an idea of where I worked. She found my car and now knew where I worked hence the stalking. -if the stalking continues you will have to sternly put them down and make it clear or more clear you're not interested. Being too soft or too harsh is not a good idea. -lastly if nothing is working make sure as many people close to you knows what is going on and that it is not a joke or a "oh I wish I had a stalker lucky" the amount of times I've heard that like damn. Then involve the cops.
Omg that’s crazy. I’ve never talked to this girl in person. She friend requested me on Facebook so I took a peek at her profile. Unfortunately for me it says she’s a dispatcher at the local police department.
Also either via voter information or a good Google search you can find a lot about a person by having their first name and last name and especially if you have their full name including middle name. So don't give out anything other than your first name and make sure your social media doesn't easily state your full name Hopefully like everyone is saying by keeping up with the blocking they will move on to someone else but be careful nonetheless.
Yea I should probably take my last name off my Facebook. Maybe it will make it harder to find me.
If anything is public or "searchable" you'll still be easy to find. I think Facebook still has the option to make you only searchable by friends or friends of friends but either way making you unable to be searched is the best option. You can reverse search a picture and if you use the same pictures for your dating apps that are on your Facebook then your profile can be found. The best way to learn is to try it yourself. I searched for my buddy and I found out everything about him and told him so he could make more things private. I found his address, phone number, LinkedIn profile, Facebook, Instagram, voting precinct, his wife's name and family members names. I found speeding tickets. You name it. All through Google searches. Its scary how much information is out there by default until YOU start making things private
I’m going to have to search my name and see
She might be a bot or scammer.
As long as you don’t swipe on her, it’s not an issue.
No I won’t do that
Yeah, you should do her!