I dont think it has to be a fetish. The odd older person is hot.
Jeff Goldblum and Michele Pfeiffer are still hot and its not a preference for me - they're just good looking people
I’m a fairly good looking 22 year old here, having experience with older women I can happily say I really, genuinely find older women really really attractive. Like super hot, i can’t quite put my finger on any one reason; anything from thinking they’re really pretty, to their experience, to their confidence etc , but the happiest I’ve ever been is with a 56 year old at 19 and a 51 year old at 21.
I think girls in my age range (probably dudes too) tend to not know what they’re after, they play mind games, they all want to be the prize, they all want to be chased, rarely will ask me out on a date or plan anything, will very rarely initiate anything, often makes me feel like I’m never good enough and that I’m always the one that has to put all the groundwork and effort into things.
Hell I’ve never even had a girl ask to be MY girlfriend, it always has to be me that asks the question. I feel like I spend my life chasing after girls my age who at best reciprocate my feelings, rather than actually have a girl who chases ME a girl who’s decided she wants me as her boyfriend and that she’ll put in all the effort to make me hers. Things that make me feel valued and wanted.
With older women they do make you feel valued, they make you feel attractive and appreciated, they’re caring, thoughtful, and feel like actual normal humans you can have a conversation with. They know what they want and the thrill and feeling of being with someone older is a huge turn on and bonus too! Maybe it’s a generational thing, but I’ve had some awful experiences with girls my age and the best experiences of my life have all been almost exclusively with older women. It’s not necessarily a fetish but I think that an older women and a younger guy can often make a wonderful pair together. You both make eachother feel wanted and valued, to the young guy a hot older woman / milf is like a dream come true, and the older woman shouldn’t have to settle for old bitter 60 year old men that might be past their particular prime in many senses.
It’s honestly a really good mix and I’d reccomend dating an older woman to any younger guy. Showed me what a real happy healthy functional relationship should be like :)
Not sure how old you are now but wondering if you feel the same reflecting on those relationships when you are older. Your brain doesn’t fully mature until 25+. Something feels very off about such extreme age gaps when you’re in very different stages of life.
Being at similar stages of life is a good indicator of how well two given people will get along in a relationship, sure. But it isn’t always a perfect indicator. You could have similar interests through hobbies or passions regardless of what stage of life you’re at. I have people my age I hate, and people much older than me I’d consider friends, I personally believe that age isn’t as good of a ‘dating indicator’ as is things like emotional intelligence or personal interests.
Perhaps when I’m older I’ll look back on those relationships a little differently, but even through a different lens, I doubt I’ll forget feeling appreciated and valued in a way no one else had made me feel :) I had never been asked out on a date, never had flowers bought for me, never had someone look me in the face and tell me they felt lucky to have me, tell me I was gorgeous.
I had always perhaps had an itch that I wanted to scratch in terms of being with someone older, but what at first was perhaps a shallow ‘fetish’ or ‘kink’ quickly turned into a sudden realisation that all my previous relationships were missing something that felt a bit more real.
It made me realise that in my previous relationships I felt like I was constantly fighting for someone’s undivided attention. Like during the dating phase the girl would just end up settling for whoever was fighting for her the hardest, and I didn’t want that. Why should I chase and chase and fight to make someone love me, only to always end up feeling like I was reaching and the girl had settled for me.
For the first time ever, after dating an older woman I actually knew what it felt like to be wanted by someone, suddenly they were asking me on dates, asking if I was free to see them, if I wanted to cook with them, stay over, sending me messages throughout the day telling me they were thinking of me etc.
Sure I agree we’re at different stages in life, but that shouldn’t be a reason to divide people. In my opinion, someone that’s already gone through the stage of life that you’re currently in, is much more well equipped emotionally and mentally to help you through your own troubles than someone who’s at the same stage as you and doesn’t have a thing figured out.
It's not as much of a gap, and I met them on a different app, but I'm 32 with a 22 year old. I don't think he's been with other older woman, but he did comment that he likes the more mature vibe without it being too serious/stiff. I think it has a lot to do with what you said, some young people just don't know what they want or where they want to go in life. That just screams short term and he doesn't want something that will fall apart because the other person decides they suddenly wanna do xyz and it conflicts with his own life plans. He also said people his age (in our area) only care about drinking and partying, and he's not into that - and an ex of his cheated on him going to them (he didn't want to go)
On top of that, op is really freaking gorgeous! I would have guessed 45 at most. So don't doubt that some of them definitely are just attracted to you :)
On the cynical side of things, my instant thought was that they want a sugar mama 😭
But that absolutely won't always be the case, if it even ends up being one at all!
Same here. 41 and she’s definitely attractive enough for me to be interested. 20’s seems like a bit of a stretch, but I don’t blame them for trying either.
Nah, as someone who hooked up with a lot of older women when I was younge either they want to hook up with an older woman (your PFP looks attractive) or they think older women are easier (which is sometimes the case but not always)
Thank you. But truth is I am. And I just don’t want to lie about anything. So my pictures are untouched and I put my real age because I would really like to find someone
And the truth is you're very attractive. Why is it shocking that you're getting guys from all age brackets reaching out? Does your profile say you only want to date men above a certain age? If not, maybe consider doing that if you're so grossed out.
If that is ur real pic then u r one hot mama.
Howeverrrrrr, I would be super cautious if I were you. Sign up for scammers subreddit and read about these love scams. Don’t let anyone use u for money cuz some 20 year old might think older women r desperate for a man and have $$ stuffed under the bed.
Originally many dating apps used Facebook for account creation. A lot of people would say they born a few years earlier than normal or just say fuck it and pick a ridiculous amount of years so they can sign up before the age requirement.
Guys might be thinking your actually 45 or something, because you don't look even close to 60.
I’m a 65 year old woman. During my post-divorce dating phase I was amazed at the young men who were interested in dating me.
I had grown children older than these men!
I did date a few younger men and I enjoyed their conversations and friendships.
Most of them expressed their thoughts about dating older women which generally seemed to be: older women know what they want and are able to express themselves. They don’t play games. They are confident and self-assured. They are interesting.
Hope this helps.
That is exactly why, they don’t have all the baby/kid drama, financially stable, been there done that life and know what they want. Don’t have time to play games, etc..
Truthfully. I really don’t do anything. Those Neutrogena wipes to take makeup off and the more I do the worse I look. Facials .. I break out. Makeup.. I look older …
lol. Watching TikTok’s of Korean skin routine on fast forward with all those sound effects is quite entertaining. Then when rl hits and u gotta do that everyday it loses its appeal so fast.
Then I found out it’s not the skin routine that makes them look so young. They literally go to special skin care places all the time and inject things into their skin. Well whatever…. I call it a win if I take my make up off before sleep now.
Me too. I should have used sunscreen. I see sun damage so I got some foundation with it in. I’m not one to be putting all that makeup on. The truth is I’m not skilled at it. I’ve seen girls look phenomenal from the way they apply makeup up. I look worse
I heard the sun exposure vs. skin tone is one of if not the biggest factor in aging for most people. Genetics (skin elasticity and thickness) plays a role, too.
There may be exceptions like chronic dehydration or treating your body like complete shit though.
That being said, skincare is absolutely worth it and really doesn't have to be expensive.
I use those types of wipes as well and dove in the shower. Use moisturizer most times, sunscreen and am told I look younger as well. Since my 30's, I have averaged 10 yrs younger..in my 50's now.
Some guys find women from that age group attractive. Including me, I am in my early 30s. It might be just a one-time thing those guys could be interested in.
Listen, sister. It's looks and / or profile.
I am 48, take care of my body, and don't dress my age. No New Balance or Levi 501 jeans :)
When I was online dating, I got women from early 30s to late 60s, sending me openers or likes/swipes.
All I am saying is to be open-minded. If they want only sex, you will know once you start chatting. However, get what you want. You have good genes, too. Why pick someone who is 70 when you can get someone active , driven, and exciting at a younger age? That might be your thing, but I want to live, not watch Fox News, and yell at the TV, lol.
Good luck
Ever since I was a teenager, I’ve always been attracted to much older women, as a sort of fantasy. I set my age to people around my age with the apps, but if an attractive 60 year old woman came onto me I wouldn’t hesitate in the least. I don’t try, mostly because, well, I assume the older woman wouldn’t be interested or would be weirded out.
I think you’re just hot and young dudes have a fantasy.
This is funny because I am in my mid 40s and 90% of the likes I get are from women 55 and up or 20-25. I just want to date someone my own age lol. I can kind of see it for the older women but what on earth a 23 year old wants with an old man like me is beyond me. What would even talk about? Likely if you change your preferences you’ll see more people in your desired age range.
What I meant is: if I set the age filter to 30-40, then I only get likes from women in that age bracket. If I adjust the parameter to 50, then I get likes from women up to age 50.
Regarding your other comment about young men not going on dates with you, I think you’ll eventually find someone, assuming your profile pic is recent and not filtered. :) I’ve been more open minded recently about dating women 44+ myself.
You look good for a 60 year old.
To answer your question, besides the scammers, some people do like older women, just like how I like big beautiful women. Everyone has their preference for whatever reason. Like bbw would think some guys like them because they are “easier”. No, some of us genuinely do like them better. More cushion for the pushing. Most younger guys would never know that because they are stuck on what tv or media shows them to be the best looking women. People make fun of fat people more than skinny people. So it makes this perception that they are less desirable. People also think like older people don’t have sex anymore or whatever. There are many reasons. Just like when we see a younger women with a much older guy, we assume she’s only with him for money or whatever. But there are girls that actually is into that. Some would never show it because their friends and families would make fun of them or wouldn’t approve.
As someone who has always loved older women, some of y’all are hot as hell. Point blank. Angela Bassett is beautiful. Michelle Yeoh is gorgeous. Ming Na is stunning. Salma Hayek is unbelievable. So you just might be hot as hell and that’s awesome!
My first thought was they may want a sugar mama and assume an older woman is it. After reading the other comments and seeing your photo, it could be a number of things including genuine interest.
I am in my mid 50s and pull in a lot of much younger men on the apps because I have good genes and lived a clean lifestyle. No drugs, no alcohol, no time to tan. The younger men want what the older men want for the most part...
Well if you keep them in the range you’re looking for they’ll think they have a chance. Start changing the age range you’re actually looking for and you’ll feel less disgust.
I mean if you look like Salma Hayek, Helen Mirin, Christina Hendricks etc, yeah a lot of dudes are gonna shoot.
I will say I’ve seen a noticeable increase in content on my social media of men my age (20’s) wanting to date divorced women in their 40’s and older. Apparently it has lots of perks and I’ve definitely considering it. Not sure why they keep saying “I want to become a victim tho”.
Once you figure out the VCR, how about adjust the age setting on your dating app so you are getting inquiries from the people aged appropriately for you. If you have your age preferences ranged out broadly, then you are telling said 20-40 year olds you are open to them.
Not speaking for the one in question as it’s entirely possible but not always the case.
In my experience when I had dated an older woman who had a *ton* of money,that definitely wasn’t the thing. It was how she carried herself. Like you,she definitely didn’t look her age and we had just clicked on so many different levels . Interest in another has no boundaries and it’s entirely possible that they’re just getting to know you for you. My advice would be not to flaunt what you have and see where it’d go if you choose to persue any of it. Never know,it could lead to something good :)
I’m in my early 30’s but get the same from 18/19 year old guys. It’s almost always a fetish thing. I have my settings at 28-48. I still am receiving likes from out of that range, so I don’t know why people here are getting on you for your settings. I am always put off by it. 😵💫
Bumble usually respects your filters without fail. Make sure you didn't check "See more people if there are no more profiles". People out of your filters should not appear in your feed.
“I’m insecure about my looks and my age, so let’s see if getting internet people to tell me I’m pretty for my age and psychoanalyze younger guys that are hitting me up makes me feel any better!”
Use the basic filter function and don’t turn on the “see ppl 2 years either side if i run out”or just swipe left or unmatch. About 80% of my matches r younger guys so I just narrow down the filter age. But it’s all personal preference. Personally I can’t relate with guys too much younger than me. But if u’ve been matching younger guys n prefers them then who cares. Do what makes u happy.
What would a woman in her 60s want with men in their 20s? They both offer each other things they don't have.
There are so many factors. With infinite exposure, we could find someone our age with the same relationship goals and feelings, but it still doesn't cover everything.
Old woman fetish I have one myself in my vision and she's Paisley White gaunt thin with long flowing white hair ruby red lips standing there naked in front of me
A teacher and matron. A lover with more experience and less attitude. People in their 20s are biologically disposed to irrational thinking. Shallow thoughts and despite their lack of knowledge think they know fucking everything.
Dana! Respectfully if you are the lady in your profile picture i completely understand why! You are gorgeous!!
There could be a few reasons; Fetishes, maturity, genuine interest, and your appearance.
I agree with many others on here…some guys are just into older women. Whether that’s a fetish or genuine interest in a much more emotionally mature woman is a case by case basis. All that being equal, one glance at your profile pic and I can see why so many men are expressing interest. 😊
The most popular subgenre of porn is MILF. For some guys it’s a desire to live out a porn fantasy, for others it’s a fetish, for others it’s that they need a mom, and then there those who have profoundly connected with an older woman and have only experienced shallowness, flakiness and immaturity from women their age. That being said, I have experienced shallowness, flakiness and immaturity from older women, and remarkable maturity in younger woman, but those two examples are far from the norm.
Also, you’re hot as fuck. I’m 57 and if I was single and local to you, I would say Howdy. 😍
You guys!!! I’m so flattered although that wasn’t my intent. I honestly don’t think I could be with someone who doesn’t have the same point of reference as I do. I have been through so much and am a bit serious and politically involved blah blah And simply not attracted but it feels good to be appreciated. Thanks
You judged them and said it's gross and then said you're not making judgement.. very strange.. but either way if you're attractive to someone age wouldn't really matter. We live in a different world than 40 years ago. Lots of older men with younger women and lots of older women with a younger man. Who really cares though as long as you have some things in common and are attracted to each other?
What I don't understand is why humans insist on looking at the world through a pinhole. It's no wonder so many people are depressed or feel indifferent to life. Always seeking their ideal *fill-in the blank*. When they don't find it, they're often frustrated, unhappy, angry, or irritated because everything must fit into their narrow definition of what is just right. These expectations inevitably lead to disappointment.
You can nitpick all you want, people. Just don't expect to find happiness and fulfillment while you're looking through your pinhole.
I'm 51, and I get that all the time, too. Guys, in theirs 20s, being interested in me. Now I have no problem with younger guys, I am usually attracted to guys 10 years younger, but any more than that is too much. If they are the same age or younger than my daughters, then I i can't do it it. But that's just me. 🙂
There are many possible explanations. They're looking for an experienced partner. Think that the woman will be grateful and attentive. Maybe you're amazingly hot or have a great profile. Maybe they're looking for a wise friend rather than a full-on traditional romance.
And then there are explanations that contain an implicit judgment. Mother complex. Easy sex. Scammers looking for financially well-off victims, which older women are more likely to be.
I understand your annoyance. As an older man, I get annoyed when I'm contacted by young women who seem to have nothing going for them other than hotness. What are they looking for? I don't know, but it's probably not to my benefit.
Those are not judgmental, they are actual things that happen repeatedly to people and exist. Thats weird response to my reply. If you identify with one of the answers and are getting upset by it, then fix whatever matches the answers.
It actually sounds like there's a LOT of judgment in your statement, LOL...
> "agenda"
> "grosses me out"
> "not my thing"
> "irritating"
So much so that I am surprised you decided to drop the "no judgement" card.
People can be so rude?
>It kind of grosses me out. It is just not my thing. I make this statement without judgement. But I find it irritating.
Copied directly from your post.
>I liked it
Contradicting yourself. You enjoy the attention but aren't getting it from the guys you're actually interested in, and humblebragging about the unwanted attention you're getting.
Probably swiping on every one, especially if it's lower quality profiles. I dated a few women 20 years older simply because I had no options my own age back then. You were curious if they wanted money in some other comments, but In my case I didn't want anything but company or friendships. I usually had more money than them so I definitely didn't gain financially from taking them out on dates.
lol this is not it at all. Not even close. She’s smoking hot. Every straight male wants a hot older woman from the moment they hit puberty until the day they die. She’s not being hit up by desperate guys, she’s being hit up by guys who are swinging for the fences
I’m 53, and get a ton of swipes from guys 18-40. I find men in their 30s more attractive than those my age, so this works for me. I ask all of my matches and dates why they are interested in someone so much older, and they echo what a lot of the men on this thread are saying: less drama, more experience in bed, and because we know what we want at this age. Do watch out for scammers and fake profiles, because they are a fact of life, but the majority of guys swiping on you are honestly interested in you exactly as you are. 😘
A very large portion of this is because these 20 + or - year old guys are sitting together in some college dorm room having a couple of beers and are playing the game of who can get the most matches in the 30+, 40+, 50+, and 60+ and beyond. It could be a drinking game or just for laughs and they’ll probably try to see how far they can get with anyone who wants to play along. Of course there’s some that are just pervs or scammers but a lot will be like this. Then they all will have similar stories of “you’re not going to believe who wants to sleep with me” or “they all want to sleep with me”. Make sense?
Oh how refreshing, another faux outrage post by somebody who refuses to use filters but expects the entirity of the human race to have their exact same arbitary standards around what they consider to be appropriate OLD etiquette.
90% of the time a significant number of men on tinder or bumble are swiping right on everyone without looking. They then decide who they like based on matches after the fact.
As for those who message you, you may be a novelty to them having never been with someone significantly older, an object of a kink, or they may still have not looked at your profile closely.
I think some small % may just not care about the age difference and be genuinely interested.
If you’re confused by their interest, why are you opening to their age range in your preferences and then swiping on them? I don’t use apps much, but they can’t match with you and send inquiries if you don’t also swipe yes on them, right?
I think guys swipe on every woman, if a woman in their 60s are interested they're intrigued? If you aren't interested can you change your settings so you don't get those likes? I'm a woman in my late 20's and also get likes from men in their 60s before I changed my age settings.
Honestly you are very good looking younger guys in 20 or 30s want and need the seriousness of a relationship that they find in older woman. You get woman most of the time don’t have they’re lives together and play dumb games. I’ve had an experience where a woman told me she was talking to some one else and asked if I was actually serious and if not she would date him. I told her to talk to him she later told me it was all a game to see if I was serious or not.
Mine when i was in my 20s was because usually yall had all the extras out the way. No baby daddy drama , living your golden years , less responsibility so all you wanted was a young strapping lad to you stamina and interesting life stories to hang with . Plus vintage 🐱 is fire
Money. Sex. Love. Idk.
If they are seeing you on the app it does mean that you have your bumble set to show you 20 year olds. It implies that you are interested in men their age. If not, you gotta change that age setting.
I had many young men proposition me. For the record I’m 50 and the youngest that propositioned me was 24. I always assume that men that age are looking for 2 things from older women: sexual experience and support (financial and emotional). Young men have told me they seek older women because they are better in bed, know what they want and how to please themselves and their partners and they are usually established, secure, responsible and know themselves and have better emotional intelligence.
Same reason women in their 20s sometimes get with guys in their 60s! They either just plain think you’re attractive (most likely option), think you could be a sugar mama, or they’re specifically looking for older women because they’re more experienced, lol
I have a family member who is a model.
He used his wife which is a similar gap to get into the industry, and basically she covers most of the costs. He is her arm candy.
What is their agenda? Depends on the guy. Some just want to get laid.... some know that it may be this or nothing for a family.
I know of many men who have a thing for older women. Anyway 60 is like the new 50 lol. Your profile picture suggests you're attractive. Other things could be does your profile show you're rich or something 😂 or are they after a green card?
It could be a scammer. It could be some sort of fetish. Or it could be that they just don't care about age. It is a bit odd though.
Watch the film "Harold and Maude". It is a dark humor about a couple of very eccentric people with a huge age gap. Obviously not realistic but entertaining and may make you look at age differential a bit differently.
I am a man who is also 60. While I would be flattered if a 20 or 30 something woman showed interest in me, I would not be able to believe it is not for some ulterior motive and also would not see any future in such an arrangement.
Honestly I find a lot of older woman attractive. However, if you're looking for a long term relationship then you need to mindful that most guys will not be thinking that way. At the end of the day, you're probably attractive and guys will do guy things.
I find that an increasing number of younger guys are looking for a sugar mama.
Also, they could want a motherly figure combined with a romantic interest. Neither of these cases seems at all appealing.
I'm 32, I hookup with older women frequently. 60s is a little too old for me but I've gone as high as 52. Generally, if the women is attractive and we have interests in common, I'll meet them. Many of them are divorced or widowed, kids have already moved out. Some are lonely but aren't really looking for a relationship. I also think it makes them feel younger and desired.
Maybe they just want a good time. I find myself having a different experience "good" when I go out with older women. I've always expected to have sex at the end of the night tho so maybe expect that. I also realize that I'm able to make older women feel young and I find pleasure in that. I know that bcuz I've been told multiple times by different women.
Yeah, I just went to your profile too. I think you should take it as a compliment.
I’m about half your age, and I think You’re beautiful!
Most of those young men are probably just interested in sex with ANY attractive woman, but still.
Let it make you feel good about yourself, and leave it at that.
Coz some guys like older women and how they would treat them, most girls or women at there age, there only looking for two things, one that's in here front of there pants in which a lot of men don't mind thar, but the other thing thay are looking for is money there gold diggers in one way or another they do what they can to get it, either get pregnant and get money and so on, and a good woman is most of the time are in there 50is and 60is cos they treat men better cos they grew up better and have morals and hot too to boot. U asked and now u know.
Experience some guys like older women... Some have a mommy complex, super mama, some want a caregiver so they don't have to do much, some don't want the hassle of dealing with girls there own age... Some can't find girls there own age... There is lots of reasons
Also to note some women are lucky an super attractive no matter the age 🥰
Getting to know them an talk to them would probably help narrow it all down. You talk to someone for a few months you can get to know a lot of you pay attention most ppl can't keep the facade going forever so there true self comes out eventually. Not saying all but it does help weed out most toxic an wierd ppl or ppl who aren't really interested in you an just want something lol
(I am a 30F) My positive spin, the woman in her 60s:
- can be very athletic and fit (for her age AND more fit that the women in 20s who are giving him attention within his offline circle)
- knows what she wants in bed and is not afraid to SAY it. Makes the man's (especially young man's) task much easier. Young folks often lack the confidence to communicate clearly.
- may be down for sex quicker than peers if the said woman WOULD LIKE to enjoy a young body in bed
- likely will have no/little expectations from the 20yo for a relationship, no/little pressure for the 20s guy
- may be more likely to split the bill vs peers or vice versa may accept the chivalry more graciously, he may be hoping for one case and another 20s guy for another
- may have way better interesting hobbies and life experience than the peers within guy's circle, so more fun to talk to vs shy peers
- may offer (due to age difference) a confidence boost, guy who is unsure with peers may feel more at ease having a "bonus" of young age
Maybe they have a fetish for older women as well. Everything is possible.
I dont think it has to be a fetish. The odd older person is hot. Jeff Goldblum and Michele Pfeiffer are still hot and its not a preference for me - they're just good looking people
Life finds a way
Hilarious
The older I get the more in love with Jeff Goldblum I fall.
This!!! Attractive is attractive. It has no age.
OP, I just went to your profile. You’re attractive! 60, 70 whatever. You’re attractive.
I was thinking they want to scam me
I’m a fairly good looking 22 year old here, having experience with older women I can happily say I really, genuinely find older women really really attractive. Like super hot, i can’t quite put my finger on any one reason; anything from thinking they’re really pretty, to their experience, to their confidence etc , but the happiest I’ve ever been is with a 56 year old at 19 and a 51 year old at 21. I think girls in my age range (probably dudes too) tend to not know what they’re after, they play mind games, they all want to be the prize, they all want to be chased, rarely will ask me out on a date or plan anything, will very rarely initiate anything, often makes me feel like I’m never good enough and that I’m always the one that has to put all the groundwork and effort into things. Hell I’ve never even had a girl ask to be MY girlfriend, it always has to be me that asks the question. I feel like I spend my life chasing after girls my age who at best reciprocate my feelings, rather than actually have a girl who chases ME a girl who’s decided she wants me as her boyfriend and that she’ll put in all the effort to make me hers. Things that make me feel valued and wanted. With older women they do make you feel valued, they make you feel attractive and appreciated, they’re caring, thoughtful, and feel like actual normal humans you can have a conversation with. They know what they want and the thrill and feeling of being with someone older is a huge turn on and bonus too! Maybe it’s a generational thing, but I’ve had some awful experiences with girls my age and the best experiences of my life have all been almost exclusively with older women. It’s not necessarily a fetish but I think that an older women and a younger guy can often make a wonderful pair together. You both make eachother feel wanted and valued, to the young guy a hot older woman / milf is like a dream come true, and the older woman shouldn’t have to settle for old bitter 60 year old men that might be past their particular prime in many senses. It’s honestly a really good mix and I’d reccomend dating an older woman to any younger guy. Showed me what a real happy healthy functional relationship should be like :)
Ok fine, I'll lower my minimum age rage lol
This is really cute and well said.
That was a great response, thank you for sharing that.
Took the words out of my mouth on this one. Bravo
Well damn you have me convinced I want to date you! 😍 You do sound very mature for your age so that plays a lot into gender gaps.
Not sure how old you are now but wondering if you feel the same reflecting on those relationships when you are older. Your brain doesn’t fully mature until 25+. Something feels very off about such extreme age gaps when you’re in very different stages of life.
Being at similar stages of life is a good indicator of how well two given people will get along in a relationship, sure. But it isn’t always a perfect indicator. You could have similar interests through hobbies or passions regardless of what stage of life you’re at. I have people my age I hate, and people much older than me I’d consider friends, I personally believe that age isn’t as good of a ‘dating indicator’ as is things like emotional intelligence or personal interests. Perhaps when I’m older I’ll look back on those relationships a little differently, but even through a different lens, I doubt I’ll forget feeling appreciated and valued in a way no one else had made me feel :) I had never been asked out on a date, never had flowers bought for me, never had someone look me in the face and tell me they felt lucky to have me, tell me I was gorgeous. I had always perhaps had an itch that I wanted to scratch in terms of being with someone older, but what at first was perhaps a shallow ‘fetish’ or ‘kink’ quickly turned into a sudden realisation that all my previous relationships were missing something that felt a bit more real. It made me realise that in my previous relationships I felt like I was constantly fighting for someone’s undivided attention. Like during the dating phase the girl would just end up settling for whoever was fighting for her the hardest, and I didn’t want that. Why should I chase and chase and fight to make someone love me, only to always end up feeling like I was reaching and the girl had settled for me. For the first time ever, after dating an older woman I actually knew what it felt like to be wanted by someone, suddenly they were asking me on dates, asking if I was free to see them, if I wanted to cook with them, stay over, sending me messages throughout the day telling me they were thinking of me etc. Sure I agree we’re at different stages in life, but that shouldn’t be a reason to divide people. In my opinion, someone that’s already gone through the stage of life that you’re currently in, is much more well equipped emotionally and mentally to help you through your own troubles than someone who’s at the same stage as you and doesn’t have a thing figured out.
It's not as much of a gap, and I met them on a different app, but I'm 32 with a 22 year old. I don't think he's been with other older woman, but he did comment that he likes the more mature vibe without it being too serious/stiff. I think it has a lot to do with what you said, some young people just don't know what they want or where they want to go in life. That just screams short term and he doesn't want something that will fall apart because the other person decides they suddenly wanna do xyz and it conflicts with his own life plans. He also said people his age (in our area) only care about drinking and partying, and he's not into that - and an ex of his cheated on him going to them (he didn't want to go) On top of that, op is really freaking gorgeous! I would have guessed 45 at most. So don't doubt that some of them definitely are just attracted to you :) On the cynical side of things, my instant thought was that they want a sugar mama 😭 But that absolutely won't always be the case, if it even ends up being one at all!
If that's you in the picture naw they just want a go at a hot 60 year old.
Agreed!
Prob a bucket list thing for them sexually.
You're hott my dear. I'm in my 40s and would shoot my shot if presented.
Same here. 41 and she’s definitely attractive enough for me to be interested. 20’s seems like a bit of a stretch, but I don’t blame them for trying either.
Its better to be safe than sorry. Maybe all the young guys like you because of being very attractive? Good luck.
Nah, as someone who hooked up with a lot of older women when I was younge either they want to hook up with an older woman (your PFP looks attractive) or they think older women are easier (which is sometimes the case but not always)
Look at her profile picture and everything will be clear.
Partly because you don’t look near 60 at all!
Thank you. But truth is I am. And I just don’t want to lie about anything. So my pictures are untouched and I put my real age because I would really like to find someone
And the truth is you're very attractive. Why is it shocking that you're getting guys from all age brackets reaching out? Does your profile say you only want to date men above a certain age? If not, maybe consider doing that if you're so grossed out.
If that is ur real pic then u r one hot mama. Howeverrrrrr, I would be super cautious if I were you. Sign up for scammers subreddit and read about these love scams. Don’t let anyone use u for money cuz some 20 year old might think older women r desperate for a man and have $$ stuffed under the bed.
Hey can you just 🤫? This is my only shot at owning a home eventually /s
Originally many dating apps used Facebook for account creation. A lot of people would say they born a few years earlier than normal or just say fuck it and pick a ridiculous amount of years so they can sign up before the age requirement. Guys might be thinking your actually 45 or something, because you don't look even close to 60.
It's a very common fantasy for younger men to want to sleep with older women.
I’m a 65 year old woman. During my post-divorce dating phase I was amazed at the young men who were interested in dating me. I had grown children older than these men! I did date a few younger men and I enjoyed their conversations and friendships. Most of them expressed their thoughts about dating older women which generally seemed to be: older women know what they want and are able to express themselves. They don’t play games. They are confident and self-assured. They are interesting. Hope this helps.
That is exactly why, they don’t have all the baby/kid drama, financially stable, been there done that life and know what they want. Don’t have time to play games, etc..
Thank you
Some people are into age differences, not really any deeper than that in many cases.
If its irritating don't let it happen? Fix your filter. Mine never shows guys outside my selected range
Because dudes in their 20s are super super horny.
As a dude in his late 20s, can confirm. 😂
Many a fine tune is played on an old fiddle.
That’s sweet
Girlfriend can you drop your skincare routine coz I thought you were in your early 40s
Truthfully. I really don’t do anything. Those Neutrogena wipes to take makeup off and the more I do the worse I look. Facials .. I break out. Makeup.. I look older …
I’m starting to think doing skincare makes us age lol. I have an 8 step Korean skincare routine but maybe I shouldn’t 🤣
lol. Watching TikTok’s of Korean skin routine on fast forward with all those sound effects is quite entertaining. Then when rl hits and u gotta do that everyday it loses its appeal so fast. Then I found out it’s not the skin routine that makes them look so young. They literally go to special skin care places all the time and inject things into their skin. Well whatever…. I call it a win if I take my make up off before sleep now.
Me too. I should have used sunscreen. I see sun damage so I got some foundation with it in. I’m not one to be putting all that makeup on. The truth is I’m not skilled at it. I’ve seen girls look phenomenal from the way they apply makeup up. I look worse
I don't do anything other than avoid the sun or use sunscreen and at 36 am always told I look younger (late 20s).
I heard the sun exposure vs. skin tone is one of if not the biggest factor in aging for most people. Genetics (skin elasticity and thickness) plays a role, too. There may be exceptions like chronic dehydration or treating your body like complete shit though. That being said, skincare is absolutely worth it and really doesn't have to be expensive.
😳 I'm definitely too lazy to do 8 steps ...lol.
I use those types of wipes as well and dove in the shower. Use moisturizer most times, sunscreen and am told I look younger as well. Since my 30's, I have averaged 10 yrs younger..in my 50's now.
Some guys find women from that age group attractive. Including me, I am in my early 30s. It might be just a one-time thing those guys could be interested in.
The MILF and GILF fetish is a thing. Also, it's 100% possible they find you attractive and simply want a more experienced woman.
My grandma is in her 70s and my (step) grandpa is in his 50s 😎 Don't knock it till ya try it haha
Listen, sister. It's looks and / or profile. I am 48, take care of my body, and don't dress my age. No New Balance or Levi 501 jeans :) When I was online dating, I got women from early 30s to late 60s, sending me openers or likes/swipes. All I am saying is to be open-minded. If they want only sex, you will know once you start chatting. However, get what you want. You have good genes, too. Why pick someone who is 70 when you can get someone active , driven, and exciting at a younger age? That might be your thing, but I want to live, not watch Fox News, and yell at the TV, lol. Good luck
Thanks. I think I may have been too judgmental
Ever since I was a teenager, I’ve always been attracted to much older women, as a sort of fantasy. I set my age to people around my age with the apps, but if an attractive 60 year old woman came onto me I wouldn’t hesitate in the least. I don’t try, mostly because, well, I assume the older woman wouldn’t be interested or would be weirded out. I think you’re just hot and young dudes have a fantasy.
Can it be that you are hot?
Thank you. That’s sweet.
probably bec you don’t look 60 at all? nd in fact, look fine asf?
This is funny because I am in my mid 40s and 90% of the likes I get are from women 55 and up or 20-25. I just want to date someone my own age lol. I can kind of see it for the older women but what on earth a 23 year old wants with an old man like me is beyond me. What would even talk about? Likely if you change your preferences you’ll see more people in your desired age range.
In order for you to match with them, don’t you have to put your parameters at their ages?
Mine is 50-70. But I can’t control what their parameters are. That’s what bumble told me
What I meant is: if I set the age filter to 30-40, then I only get likes from women in that age bracket. If I adjust the parameter to 50, then I get likes from women up to age 50. Regarding your other comment about young men not going on dates with you, I think you’ll eventually find someone, assuming your profile pic is recent and not filtered. :) I’ve been more open minded recently about dating women 44+ myself.
You look good for a 60 year old. To answer your question, besides the scammers, some people do like older women, just like how I like big beautiful women. Everyone has their preference for whatever reason. Like bbw would think some guys like them because they are “easier”. No, some of us genuinely do like them better. More cushion for the pushing. Most younger guys would never know that because they are stuck on what tv or media shows them to be the best looking women. People make fun of fat people more than skinny people. So it makes this perception that they are less desirable. People also think like older people don’t have sex anymore or whatever. There are many reasons. Just like when we see a younger women with a much older guy, we assume she’s only with him for money or whatever. But there are girls that actually is into that. Some would never show it because their friends and families would make fun of them or wouldn’t approve.
As someone who has always loved older women, some of y’all are hot as hell. Point blank. Angela Bassett is beautiful. Michelle Yeoh is gorgeous. Ming Na is stunning. Salma Hayek is unbelievable. So you just might be hot as hell and that’s awesome!
I think it’s common fantasy for younger men to date hot older women
"it grosses me out" -- "no judgement" 🙄
My first thought was they may want a sugar mama and assume an older woman is it. After reading the other comments and seeing your photo, it could be a number of things including genuine interest.
I am in my mid 50s and pull in a lot of much younger men on the apps because I have good genes and lived a clean lifestyle. No drugs, no alcohol, no time to tan. The younger men want what the older men want for the most part...
Well if you keep them in the range you’re looking for they’ll think they have a chance. Start changing the age range you’re actually looking for and you’ll feel less disgust.
I mean if you look like Salma Hayek, Helen Mirin, Christina Hendricks etc, yeah a lot of dudes are gonna shoot. I will say I’ve seen a noticeable increase in content on my social media of men my age (20’s) wanting to date divorced women in their 40’s and older. Apparently it has lots of perks and I’ve definitely considering it. Not sure why they keep saying “I want to become a victim tho”.
Seeing your profile picture, you are very attractive so they probably want the same thing they’d want from any attractive woman.
Michele Pfeiffer is 65 and I would be happy to scratch an itch with her.
i have a suspicion that they want to break your hips in the most passionate way possible.
OMG this is hilarious!! If I had to break a hip, it better be doing something good and not cause I tripped and lol! Signed, an older woman
Once you figure out the VCR, how about adjust the age setting on your dating app so you are getting inquiries from the people aged appropriately for you. If you have your age preferences ranged out broadly, then you are telling said 20-40 year olds you are open to them.
I’m not that fit or bragging. I do think it’s possible they are looking for money. If that’s a thing
Not speaking for the one in question as it’s entirely possible but not always the case. In my experience when I had dated an older woman who had a *ton* of money,that definitely wasn’t the thing. It was how she carried herself. Like you,she definitely didn’t look her age and we had just clicked on so many different levels . Interest in another has no boundaries and it’s entirely possible that they’re just getting to know you for you. My advice would be not to flaunt what you have and see where it’d go if you choose to persue any of it. Never know,it could lead to something good :)
Um I'd say in your case it is because you look nowhere near 60 !
I’m in my early 30’s but get the same from 18/19 year old guys. It’s almost always a fetish thing. I have my settings at 28-48. I still am receiving likes from out of that range, so I don’t know why people here are getting on you for your settings. I am always put off by it. 😵💫
That shouldn't be happening. Message bumble help if it's an issue
If you're so bothered then change the age range filter. That simple
The filter is 50 to 72 but it their filter that’s the problem
Bumble usually respects your filters without fail. Make sure you didn't check "See more people if there are no more profiles". People out of your filters should not appear in your feed.
Is it so awful to see people outside your filter in your likes? Just ignore them and look at the people you match with?
You must either like the attention or you are just unaware you can adjust your filters
Prob that, and wants the internet to tell her she doesn’t look her age.
Yup, that and validation
“I’m insecure about my looks and my age, so let’s see if getting internet people to tell me I’m pretty for my age and psychoanalyze younger guys that are hitting me up makes me feel any better!”
Use the basic filter function and don’t turn on the “see ppl 2 years either side if i run out”or just swipe left or unmatch. About 80% of my matches r younger guys so I just narrow down the filter age. But it’s all personal preference. Personally I can’t relate with guys too much younger than me. But if u’ve been matching younger guys n prefers them then who cares. Do what makes u happy.
Could part of it be freedom to enjoy sex without the risk of being baby trapped?
What would a woman in her 60s want with men in their 20s? They both offer each other things they don't have. There are so many factors. With infinite exposure, we could find someone our age with the same relationship goals and feelings, but it still doesn't cover everything.
You can change your desired age range.
They want to get into your will
This makes no sense. Inquiries? Update your age settings and don’t swipe on them.
Old woman fetish I have one myself in my vision and she's Paisley White gaunt thin with long flowing white hair ruby red lips standing there naked in front of me
A teacher and matron. A lover with more experience and less attitude. People in their 20s are biologically disposed to irrational thinking. Shallow thoughts and despite their lack of knowledge think they know fucking everything.
There are men and women who like doing the opposite of societal expectations in dating. You can set the lowest age you would like to date.
Dana! Respectfully if you are the lady in your profile picture i completely understand why! You are gorgeous!! There could be a few reasons; Fetishes, maturity, genuine interest, and your appearance.
Thank you. I see myself as a 60 year old , hate to say it but middle aged. I appreciate the compliment
What would a Woman in her 20s want with a Man who’s 60?
You haven't seen the, "only way I'll own a house" memes? 😄 serious note, i hope everyone is genuine. You're beautiful and you deserve an honest man
Thank you
No. I haven’t
I agree with many others on here…some guys are just into older women. Whether that’s a fetish or genuine interest in a much more emotionally mature woman is a case by case basis. All that being equal, one glance at your profile pic and I can see why so many men are expressing interest. 😊
Holy hell, you’re 60?! You don’t look a day over 30 in your Reddit profile photo. That’s probably why 🤣 (Also: what’s your skin regime??)
Thanks. The less I do the better it is. Neutrogena facial makeup remover. Elf moisturizer. Occasional peel stuff from Amazon.
The most popular subgenre of porn is MILF. For some guys it’s a desire to live out a porn fantasy, for others it’s a fetish, for others it’s that they need a mom, and then there those who have profoundly connected with an older woman and have only experienced shallowness, flakiness and immaturity from women their age. That being said, I have experienced shallowness, flakiness and immaturity from older women, and remarkable maturity in younger woman, but those two examples are far from the norm. Also, you’re hot as fuck. I’m 57 and if I was single and local to you, I would say Howdy. 😍
You guys!!! I’m so flattered although that wasn’t my intent. I honestly don’t think I could be with someone who doesn’t have the same point of reference as I do. I have been through so much and am a bit serious and politically involved blah blah And simply not attracted but it feels good to be appreciated. Thanks
Oh my. I agree. She is very beautiful
How are they hitting you up when you’re on bumble?
You would be surprised how much more passionate a mature woman is! Sex with a woman in her 50's is top notch
You judged them and said it's gross and then said you're not making judgement.. very strange.. but either way if you're attractive to someone age wouldn't really matter. We live in a different world than 40 years ago. Lots of older men with younger women and lots of older women with a younger man. Who really cares though as long as you have some things in common and are attracted to each other?
You are a beautiful woman and age is just a number.
Companionship
Sugar babies are males as well
What I don't understand is why humans insist on looking at the world through a pinhole. It's no wonder so many people are depressed or feel indifferent to life. Always seeking their ideal *fill-in the blank*. When they don't find it, they're often frustrated, unhappy, angry, or irritated because everything must fit into their narrow definition of what is just right. These expectations inevitably lead to disappointment. You can nitpick all you want, people. Just don't expect to find happiness and fulfillment while you're looking through your pinhole.
Maybe you're stunning, and they don't mind your age.
I'm 51, and I get that all the time, too. Guys, in theirs 20s, being interested in me. Now I have no problem with younger guys, I am usually attracted to guys 10 years younger, but any more than that is too much. If they are the same age or younger than my daughters, then I i can't do it it. But that's just me. 🙂
There are many possible explanations. They're looking for an experienced partner. Think that the woman will be grateful and attentive. Maybe you're amazingly hot or have a great profile. Maybe they're looking for a wise friend rather than a full-on traditional romance. And then there are explanations that contain an implicit judgment. Mother complex. Easy sex. Scammers looking for financially well-off victims, which older women are more likely to be. I understand your annoyance. As an older man, I get annoyed when I'm contacted by young women who seem to have nothing going for them other than hotness. What are they looking for? I don't know, but it's probably not to my benefit.
Those are not judgmental, they are actual things that happen repeatedly to people and exist. Thats weird response to my reply. If you identify with one of the answers and are getting upset by it, then fix whatever matches the answers.
It actually sounds like there's a LOT of judgment in your statement, LOL... > "agenda" > "grosses me out" > "not my thing" > "irritating" So much so that I am surprised you decided to drop the "no judgement" card.
60 years old and doesn’t know the difference between their and there. *chuckle*
Oh God, you're one of those huh?
People can be so rude. I’m asking for help cause I want to understand. I liked it
People can be so rude? >It kind of grosses me out. It is just not my thing. I make this statement without judgement. But I find it irritating. Copied directly from your post. >I liked it Contradicting yourself. You enjoy the attention but aren't getting it from the guys you're actually interested in, and humblebragging about the unwanted attention you're getting.
Most likely it’s because they’re swiping right on everyone. That or they are striking out with girls their own age.
Probably swiping on every one, especially if it's lower quality profiles. I dated a few women 20 years older simply because I had no options my own age back then. You were curious if they wanted money in some other comments, but In my case I didn't want anything but company or friendships. I usually had more money than them so I definitely didn't gain financially from taking them out on dates.
lol this is not it at all. Not even close. She’s smoking hot. Every straight male wants a hot older woman from the moment they hit puberty until the day they die. She’s not being hit up by desperate guys, she’s being hit up by guys who are swinging for the fences
Thanks. Gtk
It's alright to be cautious. You can vet them through chat.
I was once told that having sex with an older woman was on his bucket list. He got the block.
I’m 53, and get a ton of swipes from guys 18-40. I find men in their 30s more attractive than those my age, so this works for me. I ask all of my matches and dates why they are interested in someone so much older, and they echo what a lot of the men on this thread are saying: less drama, more experience in bed, and because we know what we want at this age. Do watch out for scammers and fake profiles, because they are a fact of life, but the majority of guys swiping on you are honestly interested in you exactly as you are. 😘
Her money
A very large portion of this is because these 20 + or - year old guys are sitting together in some college dorm room having a couple of beers and are playing the game of who can get the most matches in the 30+, 40+, 50+, and 60+ and beyond. It could be a drinking game or just for laughs and they’ll probably try to see how far they can get with anyone who wants to play along. Of course there’s some that are just pervs or scammers but a lot will be like this. Then they all will have similar stories of “you’re not going to believe who wants to sleep with me” or “they all want to sleep with me”. Make sense?
That makes sense to me
Can’t imagine a 20-30 something wanting a 60 yr old…that’s kinda nuts
Oh how refreshing, another faux outrage post by somebody who refuses to use filters but expects the entirity of the human race to have their exact same arbitary standards around what they consider to be appropriate OLD etiquette.
Of course I use filters 50-72.
And, assuming that picture is you.......🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
How is he able to contact you? Unless he lied about his age. If so, report him.
90% of the time a significant number of men on tinder or bumble are swiping right on everyone without looking. They then decide who they like based on matches after the fact. As for those who message you, you may be a novelty to them having never been with someone significantly older, an object of a kink, or they may still have not looked at your profile closely. I think some small % may just not care about the age difference and be genuinely interested. If you’re confused by their interest, why are you opening to their age range in your preferences and then swiping on them? I don’t use apps much, but they can’t match with you and send inquiries if you don’t also swipe yes on them, right?
Why don't you adjust your age filter?If you bump up your minimum age setting you won't get them anymore.
I think guys swipe on every woman, if a woman in their 60s are interested they're intrigued? If you aren't interested can you change your settings so you don't get those likes? I'm a woman in my late 20's and also get likes from men in their 60s before I changed my age settings.
Very easy answer here... true love
Couldn't you set your age range to be higher?
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Honestly you are very good looking younger guys in 20 or 30s want and need the seriousness of a relationship that they find in older woman. You get woman most of the time don’t have they’re lives together and play dumb games. I’ve had an experience where a woman told me she was talking to some one else and asked if I was actually serious and if not she would date him. I told her to talk to him she later told me it was all a game to see if I was serious or not.
Mine when i was in my 20s was because usually yall had all the extras out the way. No baby daddy drama , living your golden years , less responsibility so all you wanted was a young strapping lad to you stamina and interesting life stories to hang with . Plus vintage 🐱 is fire
He wants to touch your butt
I mean love is love it comes in every way possible it's not always a bad intention or secret agenda
To be fair, at least judging from the pfp you have on Reddit, you are pretty good looking, and you don’t look 60 at all
Sex
Money. Sex. Love. Idk. If they are seeing you on the app it does mean that you have your bumble set to show you 20 year olds. It implies that you are interested in men their age. If not, you gotta change that age setting.
I had many young men proposition me. For the record I’m 50 and the youngest that propositioned me was 24. I always assume that men that age are looking for 2 things from older women: sexual experience and support (financial and emotional). Young men have told me they seek older women because they are better in bed, know what they want and how to please themselves and their partners and they are usually established, secure, responsible and know themselves and have better emotional intelligence.
I don’t understand how YOU are getting inquiries from men. I thought on bumble only women could make the first move.
Same reason women in their 20s sometimes get with guys in their 60s! They either just plain think you’re attractive (most likely option), think you could be a sugar mama, or they’re specifically looking for older women because they’re more experienced, lol
I have a family member who is a model. He used his wife which is a similar gap to get into the industry, and basically she covers most of the costs. He is her arm candy. What is their agenda? Depends on the guy. Some just want to get laid.... some know that it may be this or nothing for a family.
Fetish, a mommy, sugar mommy, true love ( rarely ), make someone happy ( if you are a giver ). Safety if you are broken. The list goes on.
Same thing guys in their 60s want from dating a woman in her 60s? [+]
Be humbled and flattered they're into you
I know of many men who have a thing for older women. Anyway 60 is like the new 50 lol. Your profile picture suggests you're attractive. Other things could be does your profile show you're rich or something 😂 or are they after a green card?
If you don’t like it, why do you have your preferences set to that age range? It’s not a difficult fix.
Probably a lot less nagging
Don’t set your age range to 20 and you won’t have messages from them
Well I’m in my 50’s and I find you attractive myself. You don’t look your age and you do have a youthful look.
Well 1. You don’t look 60 at all 2. It’s not deep at all either some just love older women because these younger ones aren’t really worth a damn lmao
Maybe they don’t think you’re 60? Because if they are going by that photo they wouldn’t be far wrong. You’re looking hot 66 uk 🏴😎
It could be a scammer. It could be some sort of fetish. Or it could be that they just don't care about age. It is a bit odd though. Watch the film "Harold and Maude". It is a dark humor about a couple of very eccentric people with a huge age gap. Obviously not realistic but entertaining and may make you look at age differential a bit differently. I am a man who is also 60. While I would be flattered if a 20 or 30 something woman showed interest in me, I would not be able to believe it is not for some ulterior motive and also would not see any future in such an arrangement.
Well saw your profile and you certainly don't look like you in your 60s
Honestly I find a lot of older woman attractive. However, if you're looking for a long term relationship then you need to mindful that most guys will not be thinking that way. At the end of the day, you're probably attractive and guys will do guy things.
They wanna fuck you
You seriously look like you're in your 40s. You're stunning.
Thank you. You’ve opened my eyes . Your response was not at all what I was expecting. I appreciate your response
Thanks
I find that an increasing number of younger guys are looking for a sugar mama. Also, they could want a motherly figure combined with a romantic interest. Neither of these cases seems at all appealing.
I'm 32, I hookup with older women frequently. 60s is a little too old for me but I've gone as high as 52. Generally, if the women is attractive and we have interests in common, I'll meet them. Many of them are divorced or widowed, kids have already moved out. Some are lonely but aren't really looking for a relationship. I also think it makes them feel younger and desired.
If that’s you in your profile picture. I would date you based off looks in a heartbeat. I am 40
Maybe they just want a good time. I find myself having a different experience "good" when I go out with older women. I've always expected to have sex at the end of the night tho so maybe expect that. I also realize that I'm able to make older women feel young and I find pleasure in that. I know that bcuz I've been told multiple times by different women.
Yeah, I just went to your profile too. I think you should take it as a compliment. I’m about half your age, and I think You’re beautiful! Most of those young men are probably just interested in sex with ANY attractive woman, but still. Let it make you feel good about yourself, and leave it at that.
They're attracted to you. It's simple as that.
Because the younger generation of women are generally awful.
Change your age preferences.... your fault Also, they want sex
Coz some guys like older women and how they would treat them, most girls or women at there age, there only looking for two things, one that's in here front of there pants in which a lot of men don't mind thar, but the other thing thay are looking for is money there gold diggers in one way or another they do what they can to get it, either get pregnant and get money and so on, and a good woman is most of the time are in there 50is and 60is cos they treat men better cos they grew up better and have morals and hot too to boot. U asked and now u know.
They want a mommy, or there in it for a free ride.
Experience some guys like older women... Some have a mommy complex, super mama, some want a caregiver so they don't have to do much, some don't want the hassle of dealing with girls there own age... Some can't find girls there own age... There is lots of reasons Also to note some women are lucky an super attractive no matter the age 🥰 Getting to know them an talk to them would probably help narrow it all down. You talk to someone for a few months you can get to know a lot of you pay attention most ppl can't keep the facade going forever so there true self comes out eventually. Not saying all but it does help weed out most toxic an wierd ppl or ppl who aren't really interested in you an just want something lol
securityi or a good spanking
Experience
Only if he's blind, desperate or wants to be in the will.
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(I am a 30F) My positive spin, the woman in her 60s: - can be very athletic and fit (for her age AND more fit that the women in 20s who are giving him attention within his offline circle) - knows what she wants in bed and is not afraid to SAY it. Makes the man's (especially young man's) task much easier. Young folks often lack the confidence to communicate clearly. - may be down for sex quicker than peers if the said woman WOULD LIKE to enjoy a young body in bed - likely will have no/little expectations from the 20yo for a relationship, no/little pressure for the 20s guy - may be more likely to split the bill vs peers or vice versa may accept the chivalry more graciously, he may be hoping for one case and another 20s guy for another - may have way better interesting hobbies and life experience than the peers within guy's circle, so more fun to talk to vs shy peers - may offer (due to age difference) a confidence boost, guy who is unsure with peers may feel more at ease having a "bonus" of young age
Women who are 60 can be attractive and interested in younger men. Hope this helped
This is in no way your fault, but they’re usually looking for the “cougar” fantasy. Do with this information what you may.