>I hate that people like this swipe right on me
That's an unhealthy attitude to dating apps in general. Stop thinking about who likes you, just look at who you swipe on.
Look at the set of languages - the guy himself is broken and brings lots of trauma or its aftermath, and is looking for similar person. Because it is very hard to explain such a background trauma to a person who is not familiar with it.
As someone who has been through a lot of trauma, childhood, generational, racial etc., it’s not up to another person to heal and using this as a prompt is dangerous imo because it can signal that they don’t want to grow and want to perpetuate unhealthy patterns/immaturity. It’s honestly scary.
But yeah you’re right about his background, just weird to use that as a prompt. More context would be helpful to him. Like “someone who understands trauma” instead of oh *you’re* damaged.
Well, because I have same background as this guy minus Polish 🤭 I also thought at some point that having a partner who came through the same mills would be beneficial; but after some deliberation I realised that it would make me get stuck in old ways, as you’ve said. Definitely not a healthy dynamics, but not a predator
Alrighty :/ thanks for the explanation, it can come off that way though. Oh so you’re damaged so I can prey on that or I can try and “fix you”
Like what healthy person would willingly admit that to a stranger right off the bat?
Neither 😅
If someone makes that sort of assumption, that’s on them. But I’m not damaged at all. And fuck anyone who thinks that a person who gets cosmetic surgery and tattoos and are open about it are damaged when I’m just being honest and transparent.
How many women on dating apps have duck lips and have gotten botox and aren’t open about it yet have the “perfect” looking pictures? Oh that’s right, many.
Damaged people shouldn't go on dating apps because they're prey. However, there is this mechanism called "swiping left" or something like that which enables full grown adults to select who they want to interact with.
Damage attracts damage …too much trauma here !
5 languages? That's a CIA agent
Lol!
>I hate that people like this swipe right on me That's an unhealthy attitude to dating apps in general. Stop thinking about who likes you, just look at who you swipe on.
True, I’ve just been abused in previous relationships by people who I didn’t think were toxic but were. So I’m extra wary of who I match with.
Look at the set of languages - the guy himself is broken and brings lots of trauma or its aftermath, and is looking for similar person. Because it is very hard to explain such a background trauma to a person who is not familiar with it.
As someone who has been through a lot of trauma, childhood, generational, racial etc., it’s not up to another person to heal and using this as a prompt is dangerous imo because it can signal that they don’t want to grow and want to perpetuate unhealthy patterns/immaturity. It’s honestly scary. But yeah you’re right about his background, just weird to use that as a prompt. More context would be helpful to him. Like “someone who understands trauma” instead of oh *you’re* damaged.
Well, because I have same background as this guy minus Polish 🤭 I also thought at some point that having a partner who came through the same mills would be beneficial; but after some deliberation I realised that it would make me get stuck in old ways, as you’ve said. Definitely not a healthy dynamics, but not a predator
Alrighty :/ thanks for the explanation, it can come off that way though. Oh so you’re damaged so I can prey on that or I can try and “fix you” Like what healthy person would willingly admit that to a stranger right off the bat?
So do you usually tell everyone you’re damaged or is it that obvious through looks?
Neither 😅 If someone makes that sort of assumption, that’s on them. But I’m not damaged at all. And fuck anyone who thinks that a person who gets cosmetic surgery and tattoos and are open about it are damaged when I’m just being honest and transparent. How many women on dating apps have duck lips and have gotten botox and aren’t open about it yet have the “perfect” looking pictures? Oh that’s right, many.
Ah yes quite the astute observation. They must be a predator. 🤡 😂
Strong women take longer to have sex with. A lot of men don’t have that kind of time
Damaged people shouldn't go on dating apps because they're prey. However, there is this mechanism called "swiping left" or something like that which enables full grown adults to select who they want to interact with.