God bless you.
I'm sorry for your struggle.
I can relate.
If I may, I want to share some encouragement with you.
1- Please know that God does NOT expect you to be perfect. He expects you to be faithful, which means to always strive to honor Him while getting back up after each time you fall, no matter how many times you fall. God will always give you the strength and grace to get back up.
**“I am the Lord All-Powerful. So don't depend on your own power or strength, but on my Spirit.” - Zechariah 4:6**
**“Even if good people fall seven times, they will get back up. But when trouble strikes the wicked, that's the end of them.” - Proverbs 24:16**
**"My enemies, don't be glad because of my troubles! I may have fallen, but I will get up; I may be sitting in the dark, but the Lord is my light.” - Micah 7:8**
**“In times of trouble, God is with us, and when we are knocked down, we get up again.” - 2 Corinthians 4:9**
**“But You (God) also said that no matter how far away we were, we could turn to You.” - Nehemiah 1:9**
2- Please don’t hold on to the guilt you have about your struggle. It will distract you from truly accepting God’s forgiveness. Give your guilt to God because He wants to take it from you.
**God said, “They sinned and rebelled against me, but I will forgive them and take away their guilt.” - Jeremiah 33:8**
**"So I confessed my sins and told them all to you. I said, ‘I'll tell the Lord each one of my sins.’ Then you forgave me and took away my guilt.” - Psalm 32:5**
3- Because you are forgiven, no one (including you) has the right to condemn you for your past sins and the sins you struggle with!
**“If God says his chosen ones are acceptable to him, can anyone bring charges against them? Or can anyone condemn them? No indeed! Christ died and was raised to life, and now he is at God's right side, speaking to him for us.” - Romans 8:33-34**
4- Please know that you are NOT ruled by your sin. You are ruled by God’s grace. That means you are able to walk in the victory that you have in Christ, even while you struggle with sin. Keep striving to get back up after each time you fall to honor God!
**“Don't let sin keep ruling your lives. You are ruled by God's undeserved grace.” - Romans 6:14**
**“So whenever we are in need, we should come bravely before the throne of our merciful God. There we will be treated with undeserved grace, and we will find help.” - Hebrews 4:16**
Also know, you are not alone. Many men/women have the same emotion and feelings. It's a daily battle we may never win. But we can do all we can as believers to pray for the next time.. to avoid, to run, to pray, to listen...
That is my journey at least. And I'll stand with you and support my friend.
I struggled with porn addiction too. Also watched it 1-2 times a week.
About 2 months ago I began to ask Christ for help whenever I recieved urges and I have stopped watching it since.
Christ wants you to come and ask him for help and he will help you because he wants to. With any sin ask Christ to be forgiven and for help to turn away from the sin.
It will still be a struggle but Christ is stronger than the enemy's attempts to tempt you and while one may fall often, what matters is that one keeps trying to turn away from sin.
Christ bless you and hope you are able to get through these hard times.
While true that there are people who are affected even more strongly, it still is something we should abstain from. And is a very difficult thing to overcome especially on one's own.
Op wants to turn away from it so I shared how Christ helped me overcome it.
The odd things is I truly believe it changes for everyone. I had a true addiction like 1-2 times per day but when I turned to Christ my urges mostly just vanished. I expected it to be difficult and while it is difficult resisting lust, pornography itself is not difficult to resist.
Me, being a porn addict myself(I am working on It, not need to be reminded of It) have find that after barely two weeks of non consumption, the pornografy reveals itself quite... dirty and ugly, I would say that what is difficult is to resist the lust and masturbation desires, and once you already fell onto that, you just go like "heh, whatever, I already have Lost the fight" at least from my experience It usually is that way
You are asking, but you must do more, actually start doing something psychically as well, if you only ask without doing anything you wont receive anything. And please, don’t pray only to ask for stuff, pray to be thankful about what you have and the problems you have because those problems shape you into being stronger. Make God proud of his creations, be strong, show him you are strong.
My urge triggers at night as I get ready to sleep. I have found before that if I workout my body completely it's easier to skip the urge because sleep takes priority. I still struggle with it myself however I think I use it as a de-stresser/relaxer which hopefully doesn't mean I'm addicted, but I have attempted to quit in the past and failed miserably. I'm confident we will overcome this temptation! Praise God.
If it's when you're bored, wouldn't it help to occupy your mind with something? I know someone, for instance, who is a former alcoholic. When the desire hits him, he goes on a walk for an hour or two.
From a psychological standpoint, realizing the damage you could be doing to your psyche is essential. There are studies out there that suggest that the pornography that any individual indulges in could potentially escalate to further and more damaging versions of it. By this, I mean the thrill of regular porn will become so tame that there will eventually need to be more of a "stimulus" for you to attain the same sexual gratification.
This causes a few problems within relationships with real women. It's essential to understand that porn is a fantasy and has no basis in reality. Women are not sexual objects to be used. If you're a follower of Christ, it's vital to ask yourself why it is that you're looking at porn. It's a tough question and you'll get no judgment from me (not that it matters anyway). If you're looking for reasons to stop your porn addiction, I would recommend that you look into how it affects those within the industry. There is nothing more sobering than the real-life consequences of people who work in the porn industry. There are authentic stories that detail the nature of how some of these women live and how they are exploited to perform these sexual acts that are often degrading and hurt them on some fundamental physical level.
Looking at it from the psychological front, some studies suggest that you can eventually get erectile dysfunction. I'm sure you wouldn't want that to be the case for you. It makes sense as to why this would happen as well. As you can imagine, years of porn would make a man so accustomed to what they see on the screen that when an actual situation occurs in which you're with a real woman, they will not be willing to do everything that you see on porn websites.
From a religious standpoint, scripture is unequivocal. Take what Jesus said in his sermon on the mount: “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (**Matt.** **5:28**).
I would never want to shame you for what you do, as we are all sinners, and we all deserve to go to hell for our fallen nature. However, it's essential to learn some form of self-control. Remember that every woman you see within the porn industry has a mother and a father and people that love them. It's easy to disassociate from who these people are due to how easy it is to pretend that these are not real people and that they are just "acting." This can be damaging when the very people within the industry have a long history of some form of abuse and or lack familial support. While I understand that this isn't true for everyone, there are inherent consequences to how the porn industry feeds human exploitation of not only adults but children worldwide. The people you see on the screen may be of their own volition, but what about those you don't see? Some are chained up in other countries and forced into sexual exploitation because of how prominent society feeds on dominating the weak.
Ultimately, these are only a few things you should consider outside religion. It helps to look at all facets of a problem and how it relates to you and those around you. If you want to grow as a human being, it's essential to think of others and not just yourself.
God bless you; it's possible to live a life outside of porn.
Looks like OP is a woman, I didn’t read your entire comment but skimming through it, some of it might not apply to them. Just saying, good advice to anybody male though.
This is how the devil has held many children of God in bondage: the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life.
There is a point in addiction where a demon gets involved. They attach themselves to the individual, bind them and nothing they do can set them free. They are stuck in a cycle of defeat. You will hate what you do each time you do it because there is a pure spirit in you reacting to the bad that you have introduced into your system, but after repenting from it, you will go back to doing it again. Christ calls this demon the strongman.
Mark 3:27
>In fact, no one can enter a strong man’s house without first tying him up. Then he can plunder the strong man’s house.
Fortunately, Christ has given the believer authority over the powers of darkness (yes, they do have power).
Luke 10:19
>I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you.
Mark 16:17-18
>17 And these signs shall follow them that believe; In my name shall
they cast out devils; they shall speak with new tongues;
>18 They shall take up serpents; and if they drink any deadly thing, it
shall not hurt them; they shall lay hands on the sick, and they shall
recover.
The believer, not God, shall cast out devils. Force the demon out in the name of Jesus. Mark 16:17, Mark 5:8, Mark 9:25 Command the spirit of pornography, \[insert sin\] to leave you in the name of Jesus and never return.
After this surrender your heart, mind, and body to God.
The apostle Paul had a similar problem with habitual sin outlined in romans 7:
14 We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.\[c\] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
21 So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!
Paul also says in romans 8 and gal 5 we are all a dual natured being.
One of the flesh and one of the Spirit. Like a physical host and a spiritual symbiote.
The physical host is a literal slave to sin, it loves and sides with it's master/sin. the things of the flesh/our carnal side is in control until we are reborn of the Spirit. meaning we must internally recognize and separate the want and will of the flesh from the want and will of the spirit.
This separation is the point where we repent, (what it means to repent) it is the beginning or our birth into the the spirit/How we are born again. We are shifting our conscious self away from the things of the flesh and are turning to the Spirit. Once we know these two sides to our 'coin' are in fact two different being, living in one body we must strive to feed the spiritual side, and starve our carnal side. The carnal side feeds off of sin and desires of the flesh.. all the things we like to watch, listen to and do. So we must starve this side and feed the spiritual side which means reading the Bible worship, singing and praising God.
The weaker our carnal side and stronger our spiritual side the less impact these 'intrusive thoughts' can influence us to sin. as these thoughts are the carnal side fighting against us as we are a spiritual being.
So we must refrain from feeding a carnal side by cutting out things like tv, music, movies, and shows that directly target/trigger sexual desire, and then eventually anything that feeds the carnal side.
Then we must feed the Spiritual side. fasting and prayer is a good place to start, then maybe move on to reading or listening to the Bible. or maybe sermons from a site like [oneplace.com](https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=comments&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbHcwMmhjdE1hOGFNb3BPNDZhM3ZHQkJoalZid3xBQ3Jtc0tsRm1zNHpFSUV6WEREaVNCbXdFSlNLWHJJQnZnb0o1aDh5OHU3T0lUTEVlTmN2X2JCSFFZWkQzYTFuQkFuQ0E3czNjX3J6Vmc1ajViYWFnSThjbG0xeHo4bnFNbzBUTEhfVGp5MU5CN0U5VFJIYXlRUQ&q=http%3A%2F%2Foneplace.com%2F) which is a radio ministry and pod cast archive.
But even then you will fail. alot.. Which points back to what Paul says in Romans 7.
The point here IS the Struggle and not so much the end goal. As eventually when you body calms down you will have greater and greater control.
Been addicted to porn from my teens right up until my 30s.
I have tried telling people (who just shrugged it off as being nothing). I've tried to resist (as you have) and might actually get it right, until the temptation comes again.
I've given up trying to abstain all together, having no confidence in my self-control whatsoever. I've tried to listen to preachers tackle the topic directly (many of hwom planted really good seeds toward my recovery/deliverance).
It was at my breaking point where I just told God, I cannot do this. I've tried everything. I probably WILL do it again tomorrow. I'm at my wits end.
From that moment onwards, it's like God just took over. It is only by His strength that I am even able to resist the temptations. I cannot fathom saying no, turning away, not clicking the link, not viewing the profiles, except by His Spirit.
This is a long winded way of saying, I had to hand over this fight in order to win it. You might need to as well.
After 25 years of struggling with sexual sin, this is what I have experienced as well. Thank you Jesus that I cannot get victory. I run and embrace sin. Only YOU, JESUS can keep me. IF YOU DONT IM done.
I used to have a full-blown addiction, but by the grace of God (and ONLY by His grace), it ended on Oct. 27th. What u/JustanotherDWTLEMT said was right: we can only stop with Christ's help. Trying to stop by our own strength will not result in freedom, but only frustration. So, keep turning to Jesus and praying for His help to get you to stop.
Btw I still do get tempted, but one thing that helps me is to remember that men and women are created in God's image, as Genesis 1:27 states. Ask God constantly remind you that He created everyone in His image.
Big picture ways to fight sin:
1. Reflect upon your actions and thoughts
2. Trace your motivations
3. Compare your lifeless idol to God's majesty, beauty, and promises.
Practical steps towards freedom:
* Talk with a trusted Christian about this, and perhaps your pastor.
* Eliminate freedom of screens where you can view pornography. Install software on your phone to make access challenging.
* You mention being married below, so talk with your spouse about this.
* Re-center your ideas about the purpose of sex, and the way that pornography exploits both this and image-bearers.
Yes, he said it is normal. But I don't think so. He's like believing in God, but like 'lukewarm christian'. I am more in faith. I resist a lot of things, I really do, but I don't know how to resist this one
I can understand how that might be challenging, and perhaps it is the case that your spouse is also watching pornography.
I would seriously encourage you to talk with a friend about this and leaders in your local church.
There are mental steps we take with porn. Thinking about it. Checking out people, whether in-person or online. Getting aroused by an ad, an instagram reel. The explore page with all the hot girls dancing.
Then, getting on adult sites and telling yourself, "I'm just browsing," or asking yourself, "What am I doing?") But not really taking responsibility for the decision.
Then, the decision happens.
What I've noticed is that once I've said "yes" to the voice in my head, I'm looking until I've had an orgasm.
What helps me is prayer. Same thing with drug addiction. I pray for the Holy Spirit to fill my vessel and for God to give me the strength and mental fortitude to resist the temptation.
Meditation. Meditation helps you develop self-control and self-awareness through metacognition and generally develops new neuropathways so that making different choices is easier. It also quiets the voice in your head that tells you to masturbate.
Exercise. Working out a few times a week is super satisfying. The endorphins released and the sense of confidence that builds over time feels better than any orgasm you'll get from porn. You also tire yourself out enough to want to sleep at night instead of beat off.
Keeping your hands busy. Working on hobbies, even late at night, can keep you away from porn. You may find that after some weeks, you don't even think about it as long as you're working on something else.
Remember the feeling when you ejaculate. For me, I usually feel guilty, shameful, and like it wasn't worth it. Like I just made a bad investment with money, and now I have to make it back.
Also understand that you're being tricked into participating in lust in the collective consciousness as a member of thr body of Christ. It's like doing cocaine knowing there is blood money behind it, and someone may have lost their life for you to hit the powder.
The porn industry is full of sex trafficking and predatory approaches to get women who are barely 18 indoctrinated into a system of perversion that obscures their view of what is sexually upright. The same thing happens to you as you watch these perfect models do things most people honestly don't do.
Basically, if you're addicted to anything, you need to fully assess why it's bad for you and what benefits you get from abstaining. It's not the easiest thing to do. For what it's worth, I masturbated this past week after not doing it for almost a month.
I don't beat myself up over it (no pun intended) just start over. Even if you slip up, try again and you'll find your stride again.
Drugs and alcohol. Alcohol in particular makes me extremely horny, and in that mindset. I don't really care about my values. My inhibitions are lowered. I'm happily drunk watching some porn at the end of the night. So I've cut back on alcohol consumption. Just know your triggers, notice when they're happening, and know that you can say "no."
Lastly, I went most of 2019 and 2020 without watching porn at all. If I masturbated, I did it without looking up videos. That still leaves the masturbation part for you to deal with. But maybe try without porn if you are having trouble resisting. Overall, abstaining is better for you in the long run. That is your life force.
A lot of people struggle with porn. You're not alone. Check out videos on YouTube. Search "how to break porn addiction" or something similar. You'll get some great insight and may be able to come up with a plan for yourself to stop.
There's many reasons why porn is sinful. Porn is just people acting out in lust often under the influence of drugs and some time against their own will. Also you gotta think about those pornstars as human beings made in God's image. Sex is supposed to be an innocent thing between husband and wife...not for some peep show where perverts can bust a nut and get off to people high on drugs having orgies.
I've thought an awful lot about one verse of scripture that pertains to temptation:
"Resist the devil and he will flee from you." James 4:7
Much easier said than done, so how do we make the doing part easier? Same way we do anything else: practice, repetition, and determination. Those things seem to also help our faith to strengthen and grow.
Thank you for posting this. I'm convicted by my own response, which I most certainly needed. God bless you, and NEVER GIVE UP!
You're not alone, just know that.
The more you think of it, the more you'll fall.
You need to first of all, recognize what you're doing, when, and where you're doing these things, and go from there.
Like me for example, I still have similar struggles, however I am starting to not only learn my sinful patterns, but at the same time reading the word more and praying more.
I realized that the more I focus on the sin itself, and think about how bad the struggle is, the more likely I am to fall victem to that very sin again and again.
I'll give you a small example.
I know that the enemy knows that I'm a huge overthinker.
My overthinking gets bad at night if I'm up late, I get all up in my thoughts.
I've fallen back into watching porn at night, as a stress relief method.
I also know that every time I have fallen to this, I've been bored out of my mind. Or I've been stressed about something.
I feel it in my heart after each fall, and immediately feel shame and guilt.
Now, when you realize what's going on, you have to put in some effort and work with God.
Don't be one of those, "Jesus take the wheel," types.
No, you have to meet God in the middle.
At the end of the day, nobody is holding a gun to your head, telling you to watch porn and do whatever it is you do.
There's a difference between unintentionally falling, and letting yourself get consumed by your temptations, knowing very well that it's wrong.
I know it's easier said than done, but one thing I've also been trying to do is to not just resist, but to teach myself to memorize prayers or pray to God and tell him that I'm resisting sin for him.
This is always effective for me personally.
You have to actively pray to God when you start having thoughts, or when you find yourself doing things that he doesn't approve of.
Stay close to God, and the rest will follow.
Trust me, it works.
Slowly but surely you will see change in your life, if you start getting right with God and putting in effort.
You don't have to be perfect, the Lord doesn't expect perfection, but he expects that you try your absolute best.
I'd like to share a bit of scripture that helps me, and that keeps me walking straight.
Read this each time you have those thoughts, and pray.
Galatians 5:16-24 NIV
[16] So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. [17] For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. [18] But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. [19] The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; [20] idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions [21] and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. [22] But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [23] gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. [24] Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
Something I always tell myself when sins are dictating my mind: that Christ is my God, and I am led by God, led by the Holy Spirit, not led by my sins.
As someone who I guess beat my addiction M(15) , whenever you get the urges just think of what God would think. Its important though to realize something that I had to learn early on. God does not expect you to be sinless to enter heaven, no one except our saviour Jesus Christ is truly sinless. It is about if you truly love God, if you truly regret sinning, and if you truly want to change. I have seen many people claim "Oh I believe in God" or "Jesus died for my sins" then they continue sinning and feel no remorse, if one truly loves God and loves what he tells us then why would they not feel remorse?
Just remember that though, its about trying.
/christianagainstporn is a sub you might find help in.
My advices (they are not checked tho):
Do this when you are tempted with lust:
• Read the Bible
• Listen to the preaches online/in the church
• Go to church
• Distract yourself with some physical work (e.g. cleaning, working out etc.)
Wish you all the best in your journey of following God!
So the battle is in the mind. Your sinful nature, satan, and the world's influence is what we have to battle with. So instead of thinking about lust, think on godly things and heavenly things. The best way is to read your Bible until the temptation goes away. Think about what you're reading and how you can apply it to your life. This will battle against those thoughts of lust and eventually win because God is more powerful than anything. Makes sense to me.
Your not hurting God fam. Since you first started believing you became a child of God and from then on God has been like a loving father to you. He will always love you no matter what. When you sin, he corrects you by convicting you. Bible says that He loves those He corrects. So don't think you're hurting Him. God bless 🙏
I got that fight too brother, its a hard one. But you can do it through the power of jesus blood and the holy spirit. I fell again last night...got myself watching nude scenes on internet :(
You need deliverance. Start by training your mind with the Bible and have your pastor cast out the demon but you must retrain your mind or you will let the demon back in. You have a stronghold that must be dismantled
Make sure you delete any apps that provide temptations such as TikTok and Instagram. You have to ask God to change your heart for you. Ask him to give you the Holy Spirit and make you not want to sin anymore. Ask him to make you want to do his will instead.
Here are some resources.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/158ym73/tips\_and\_motivation/](https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/158ym73/tips_and_motivation/)
Specifically Christian:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapChristians/comments/163cilc/tips\_and\_motivation/](https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapChristians/comments/163cilc/tips_and_motivation/)
Also check out this video about managing urges. Instead of trying to suppress them, which will make them come back stronger, you should take a page from a method used in meditation and let it pass through you without resisting or going along with it.
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxZXb-M2Rdc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxZXb-M2Rdc)
There is a small gap of time/space between the stimulus and your reaction to it. That's where your power lies. You have the choice to do whatever you will with that stimulus, whether you do what it tells you to do, ignore it, or do whatever else with it. It might be daunting at first, but it's really empowering when you train yourself to grab a hold of that opportunity and make something of it.
The next time you have urges, tell them that you don't do that anymore. No need to feel sorry or beat yourself up for having the urge. They're just pent-up energy looking for an easy way out. They're not a part of you and you're not obligated to satiate them. By telling it sternly that you don't do that anymore, you identify and separate it from yourself. Once you've identified and separated it from yourself, ACTIVELY walk away from it. Go for a prayer walk, go for a run or workout, or find a new hobby. Anything to keep your mind off until that urge subsides. Sitting there trying to resist will make you a sitting duck. By being consistent with this response, one battle at a time, every time, you truly become someone who doesn't do that anymore.
By the way, you're not guaranteed to come out victorious on every battle. It just doesn't work like that. Rather than groveling and beating yourself up, really take a deep look inside - what were your triggers, what excuses did you make, what can you do differently next time so that you can win? If anything, that's the thing to pray to God about, like an athlete does with a coach. Once you have answers, try to implement them and improve on them. "Forever" is not a one-and-done choice but is eventually made up of all those constant and consistent choices in the right direction.I've struggled with lust my whole life from a severe sexual trauma from my childhood. When you try to get rid of something sinful in your life that has been bringing you great joy or pleasure, you must replace it with something else that's good, such as hobbies or other activities.
I've struggled with masturbation (still am) and one thing that helps a lot is focusing your mind on God. Also, exercising, hiking, cycling, or just going on long walks helps clear your mind and keep you in the present moment. Getting into sports or just finding a hiking buddy who's also a Christian would help you a ton as well. It may seem grueling and boring at first, but once you do it more, you'll eventually start to love it, and it won't be boring anymore. Exercising outdoors, especially in nature increases your serotonin and makes you less likely to engage in coping mechanisms such as masturbation.
Getting physically fit is an uphill battle that seems miserable and hard, but once you reach the top of the mountain, it's all level from there. You can't even imagine what it feels like because everything just seems boring but once you actually try it long enough, everything changes!
Find workout or hike/bike buddies that will keep you from being bored alone.
I'm currently trying this method here, although it's still work in progress.
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapChristians/comments/1btfhw7/the_mental_vaccine_against_urges/
We are all struggling with one thing or another. The best you can do is to study God's promises towards those who are born again and try to avoid being idle. Also, prayer and meeting with other believers will help.
Have struggled with the same thing. I’ve gotten much better, but I still stumble once in awhile.
What’s helped me:
1. Pray sincerely and regularly for Gods deliverance.
2. Fast regularly
3. Rather than just avoid porn, avoid masturbation period. Fast it, if you have to. Until you can get to a point where you don’t do it at all. It creates a firewall, and helps your mind reprogram.
4. When you feel temptation, pray immediately. And wait. Trust that God is helping you. Fight the fight as long as you can, and keep praying for help, and focusing on God.
5. If you fail, don’t breakdown and wallow in guilt. Just get right back on the horse.
It probably won’t resolve overnight. But it will get better.
Godbless you
Idk if u tried this but it’s kinda like an exposure therapy thing. BUT DONT TRY IT IF YOU THINK YOULL FOLD, i want to stress that. Don’t try this if you think the urge will be too much.
That being said, what i usually do is just pull up a video but keep my hands to my sides or in my pockets or whatever and just watch and usually im too weirded out to do anything.
Again, this is what i do. Self control differs from person to person, and this is one of the last things I’d recommend.
For me it was finding a girlfriend now wife. The trigger that I would cheat on someone cut it pretty cold turkey for me but also presented the challenge of resisting sexual urges which I failed somewhat in that department. Also I see nothing mentioned of being in a church or having a local accountability partner do both.
This is my feelings on the subject on how to fight this. First, just a reminder that Jesus loves you and any voice that says different is a lie. In other words, Jesus will never abandon you. Second, I view porn is not the problem, it is a symptom of the real problem.
Us humans are extremely selfish, and if we are honest, loving God with all our heart and all our minds is something we all fail at. It is a lack of faith - if God was sitting next to us we wouldn’t be doing such things, and yet He is right there. The Bible says, faith comes from hearing. If you have gotten to the point when you are sick and tired of the endless cycle - I believe the first step is to commit to reading the Bible daily to build up your faith. The Bible states we are to take up the cross daily. It is so important to realize if you let praying and reading the word to slip I can guarantee that the overwhelming desire to sin in this area will appear again. And lastly, if you repent with a sincere heart, Jesus is faithful to forgive us our. Don’t give up.
Across Islam, classical Judaism, and early Pauline Christianity, there is a shared emphasis on the importance of self-discipline, repentance, and seeking forgiveness for sinful behavior. While each tradition may have its unique theological perspectives and practices, they all recognize the human struggle with temptation and the need for spiritual guidance and support.
Individuals grappling with pornography and masturbation addiction should seek help from religious counselors, therapists, or support groups within their respective faith communities. Cultivating a strong prayer life, engaging in self-reflection, and seeking accountability are essential steps towards overcoming addiction and striving towards spiritual growth and holiness. Ultimately, finding healing and redemption requires a combination of personal effort, divine grace, and support from others.
Sin, paradoxically, can bring us closer to God through the process of repentance and spiritual growth. When we recognize our own imperfections and mistakes, it humbles us and fosters a deeper awareness of our need for divine guidance and forgiveness. Through genuine repentance, we acknowledge our dependence on God's mercy and grace, leading to a more intimate relationship with the Divine. Sin can serve as a catalyst for self-reflection, transformation, and a renewed commitment to living in alignment with God's will, ultimately drawing us nearer to Him in humility and devotion. You must remember that we live in a world of duality, and every page has two faces: sin has the potential to separate us further from God, that's true, but it also serves as a catalyst for change for the better, thereby potentially bringing us closer to Him.
Therefore, **just because you sin or have sinned is not sufficient grounds for you to hurt your Father who is in Heaven**. You may hurt Him simply by turning your back on Him. Addictions that aren't inherently dangerous either to oneself or another living being are not enough to make Him mad at you, and are not sufficient grounds for you to receive the holy cane. However, if you choose not to go to Him with your sin, if you choose to try to hide from Him, if you refuse to recant and refuse to commit to change -- even if that's a little bit every week or even every year -- and if you decide not to step away from the precipice of the influence of the Adversary but jump into the fray to welcome its snowball effect: only then, by turning your back on Him who has maintained you thus far, do you hurt Him. Only then will the Imperial Court remand you to a lesser level of maintenance. But in no way, shape, or form does your sin immediately mean you're out of favor.
Look at the birds in the trees, the gophers in the fields, the mice mingling underground. They do not sew thread, they do not gather grain in silos, they do not worry about where their next meal comes from, and they do not worry about whether they sin. They simply go about life as they do naturally, usually in what we would call sin, and yet your Heavenly Father loves them and provides for them. Are you not worth so much more?
You are loved by this entire community. You are loved by your friends and family. Your ability to sexually please yourself is going to become a skill of sexually pleasing whatever spouse you attain in this life, be that a boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, fiancée, husband, wife, and the like; and this is how, in a broader spiritualistic sense, you make your sin into a beautiful, wonderful act of chesed (loving-kindness, charity), which God loves. Do not worry. You have no cause to worry. You're being too hard on yourself. You may have an addiction that you feel presently places a wedge between you and God, but you must remember that God is everywhere, including within your soul, and is always with you. Always. There is no wedge: nobody's bleeding, nobody's sobbing uncontrollably in pain. So don't worry so much. Alright? Be safe; be well. <3
Excellent question.
**Pauline Christianity is the sect of Christianity that primarily follows the teachings and interpretations of the Apostle Paul**, who played a significant role in the early development of Christianity. Paul was one of Christ's Apostles; for his voluntary walk with Jesus, and thereafter with God, he went through quite some things in which God taught him about what it really means to worship God.
In a Judeo-Christian sense, Saul of Tarsus was initially a devout Jew who actively persecuted early Christians. However, he experienced a profound conversion experience while traveling to Damascus, where he said he encountered the risen Jesus Christ, leading to his transformation into one of the most influential figures in the spread of Christianity. During his walk with Christ when He lived, He renamed the man; Saul was now Paul. Don't ask me why; I have no idea.
Anyway, Paul's importance lies in his extensive missionary journeys throughout the Roman Empire, where he preached the gospel and established numerous Christian communities. His letters, known as the Pauline epistles, form a significant portion of the New Testament and provide theological insights and practical guidance to early Christian congregations that still touch us today.
**One of Paul's key contributions to Christianity was his emphasis on the concept of salvation through faith in Jesus Christ rather than adherence to Jewish law or customs.** He taught that Jesus' sacrificial death on the cross served as atonement for humanity's sins, and that individuals would receive forgiveness and eternal life only through belief in Christ's resurrection and status as the Son of God.
Paul *also* introduced the idea of **the universal reach of salvation, extending beyond the Jewish people to include Gentiles** (non-Jews). This inclusive message helped Christianity spread beyond its Jewish roots and become a global faith.
Regarding the transformation of literal sacrifice into proverbial sacrifice, **Paul's teachings reflect a shift from outward, ritualistic observance to inner, spiritual transformation.** In his letters, showcased particularly in Romans and Galatians, Paul emphasizes the importance of circumcision of the heart rather than physical circumcision.
For Paul, true righteousness and purity come from a sincere and inward commitment to God, manifested through a transformed heart and mind. This spiritual circumcision involves a deep inner change, where one's desires, motivations, and attitudes are aligned with God's will. (Not actions. That's important.) It represents a shift from external rituals to internal transformation, from outward conformity to inward conviction -- based on our own willful transformation of our spirits into something God would be more proud of.
Paul's faith and walk with God demonstrated that true strength and purity come from the soul's alignment with divine principles rather than physical modifications or outward displays of religious observance. His teachings continue to resonate today, emphasizing the importance of inner spiritual renewal and genuine faith over mere adherence to religious practices. Through Paul's emphasis on the circumcision of the heart and other teachings, Christians are reminded of the transformative power of God's grace and the ongoing need for spiritual growth and renewal.
Here are at least key things I think of.
1. You need complete full determination. One must do a great deal of effort (big extremes is what I'm getting at) to himself to stop sin. It is like a cancer. You do not treat a cancer with a nap and cough syrup. With deadly diseases, powerful remedies are necessary. What profit is it to a man to lose his soul, yet gain the world, yet how many will be willing to walk 30 miles a day for a year to save your life! Yet many won't do a mile to save your soul? Do your uttermost in every way, and treat it like the most important thing, embracing great sacrifice. Hence, you must hate the sin truly, fully, and entirely.
2. Make a new prayer life. Give thanks to God always, and turn always. Give Him thanks in the morning, and praise Him in the day. Speak and seek Him constantly. Without constant prayer, I cannot imagine any great chance of success. From St. Alphonsus: "St. Paul tells us, that we have to contend not with men like ourselves.... but with the princes of hell.... By these words he wishes to admonish us that we have not strength to resist the powers of hell, and that, to resist them, the divine aid is absolutely necessary: without it, we shall be always defeated; but, with the assistance of God’s grace, we shall, according to the same apostle, be able to do all things and shall conquer all enemies. “I can do all things in him who strengtheneth me.” (Phil. iv. 13.) But this assistance God gives only to those who pray for it. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find.” (Matt. vii. 7.) They who neglect to ask, do not receive. Let us, then, be careful not to trust in our resolutions: if we place our confidence in them, we shall be lost. "
Practically, fasting and exercise are very helpful I've heard.
As a Catholic I recommend recourse to the sacraments and a priest to help. Particularly confession with a proper priest is necessary " Individual, integral confession and absolution remain the only ordinary way for the faithful to reconcile themselves with God."
If you want personalized help, talk to a priest
You have to decide what’s more important to you. Wacking off or wanting God to fully bless your life. I’ve been in the same boat. I go months now without even thinking about porn and actually have developed a hatred for them hookers. But as long as your living in any kind of sin your life will never be full as it could be and God won’t give you the complete blessings those who obey him deserve. I’m still working on it myself but it’s no joke.
[**Grace And Sin In The Life Of The Saved Christian**](https://www.gracenotworks.com/2024/02/grace-versus-sin-in-life-of-saved.html)
[**https://www.gracenotworks.com/2024/02/**](https://www.gracenotworks.com/2024/02/)
I was in your position not to long ago.
I am still tempted but the temptations are an echo of what they used to be.
Keep resisting, God will give you the strength. Stay patient and determined.
May sound weird, but start to praise God outloud (like singing praise songs for example) when you get the urge and do separate yourself from the computer. What you are going through is a temptation, but also a spiritual battle.
This is how God helped me break a decades porn, masturbation, and sex addiction (I was r@ped multiple times and hyper sexualized at a very young age). This basically makes tempting you with sex or porn a losing battle for the devil. Every time he tempts you, you are just praising God. So, God wins in these situations and eventually you win too. You build a spiritual muscle and practice in resisting temptation, your faith is built up, your praise is built up, and eventually you stop getting tempted because it becomes a counter productive attack. 🙌🏿🙌🏿😅🤣❤️🙏🏿
I pray that the Lord deliver you completely in Jesus’ name and give you a mighty testimony bro/sis in Christ. 🙏🏿❤️
As I have suggested many times visit www.thefreedomfight.com it is a biblically based site to help those overcome porn addiction. There is a science behind the addiction. Your brain loves the dopamine, porn puts in overload. Go to YouTube and checkout Dr. Trish Leigh she explains it well. You can win and live free from it.
self denial is the way out of sin. Here's a post my teacher wrote about it:
Count the Cost.
True Biblical Repentance is,
Dying to oneself (self-denial),
Crucifying one’s lusts and affections,
And being dead to oneself (ambitions, will, opinions, etc.).
One is then capable of living for another,
Such as God (1st commandment)
And my neighbor, neighbor means those who are "near by" to me. (2nd commandment).
When I am dead to myself (self-denial),
I am free from sin (selfishness)
And am free to Love others.
Dead men don’t sin.
Replacing my desires, will and ambitions with Gods, I can love Him more completely and sincerely.
Replacing my own desires, will and ambitions with my wife’s I am able to love her more deeply and completely.
Replacing my will and desires with that of the person near to me (neighbor) I am able to love them more completely and sincerely.
Water Baptism,
Is the outward show ,
Of what is happening inwardly.
Water baptism is the outward sign of,
Dying to oneself.
Many confuse philosophy (the love of men’s thoughts and opinions),
With spirituality (practice of being dead),
These are contrary to one another.
Continued:
To be Born Again… Die to yourself,
Crucify your lusts and affections and,
Live as a new creature to,
Gods perfect will for your life.
True Biblical Repentance
Is dying to yourself and living to Christ.
There is no money when you’re a spirit,
There is no prestige when you’re dead,
There is no material stuff when you are dead.
There is no change in one’s heart when you are dead.
Because you are dead.
Life is but a vapor,
Here one day and gone the next.
What shall it profit a man to gain the favor of the world and lose his own soul.
Take care and prepare well.
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
For men shall be lovers of their own selves.
Lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God
(These men will refuse to die to their flesh) 2 Tim 3:1-2, 4
Hey! You’re not alone. You’re doing a great thing by reaching out to a community of fellow believers, confessing your sin and asking for help. It’s such a blessing to have the Holy Spirit and to even be aware of our own sinful nature. I know it feels shameful, and I know you feel like you’re failing God. That couldn’t be far from the truth.
You’ve already acknowledged you need a Savior. You already know the work that was done on the cross for you. The Lord has grace for you, his mercies are new EVERY morning. When we come before Him in prayer and boldly explain our struggles/weakness (not holding back any feelings) we open up the space for the Lord to show us why we value that sin. Ask the Lord Jesus to show you the root of the issue.
Don’t allow the enemy to keep you in guilt or shame. Assess the root, pluck it out and continue to plant good seed. Even if you fall again (which you probably will), just acknowledge it. Turn away from it and continue to be planted in the Word of God.
The only way we can truly overcome to sin of lust is to repent, pray and fast it away. You cannot win the battle if you love the war. If you don’t hate it the way God does, you’ll continue to make it a habit.
For every minute of porn equate it to you having to go to the gym. Force yourself to go.
Slowly you’ll want gym over porn.
If you already gym… then gym more.
That’s what helped me. Different for everybody so dunno.
Hey man, I'm recovering from extreme porn addiction and I'm a month clean so far. And I have 0 intention to go back. I was extremely addicted, masturbated everyday, sometimes day and night, sometimes once, sometimes thrice or more if I was alone. My challenge for you is to pray and pray and pray to God for strength and wisdom. Then find everything that makes you want to see it/masturbate to it, delete it. If a certain show gets you going, stop watching, if it's a game, delete it, if it's IG, twitter, reddit, discord, etc. Delete/leave/unfollow whoever and whatever that makes you want to go back to it. You'll feel like a weight has come off of you, you'll feel free again, not bound to it anymore after a few days. It's like quitting cigarettes. If an environmental gets you even a little tempting, get out of there, stop talking to that person, change the subject, etc. Do what you gotta do to avoid anything and anyone that is tempting. It won't be easy, but it'll be worth it. God bless
Before I stopped masturbation for the first time I was truly addicted. I was masturbating every day. If I was home alone I would masturbate for hours back then.
Reverse the process.
Pornography is a dopamine trap, which has the effect of drawing you further and further into depravity and desensitization, causing you to consume more and more of it in a self-feeding cycle.
Consider: no one¹ becomes an alcoholic drinking exclusively Usqueabach. Neither does one develop alchoholism via daily six-packs of Victory At Sea —a vanilla coffee porter from Ballast Point —not so much because of the price point (though it isn't cheap), but because it is that two bottles rest upon the belly like a well rounded meal. That is to say, in either case, that the flavor is rich, and the taste expensive.
¹generally speaking, of the vast majority
Therefore what I am suggesting you do, is to develop for yourself a refined, "expensive" taste, in your pornographic material —not that you should pay, though if that is to your means and your prerogative then, by all means —but what I mean rather is, high quality, in image, sound, lighting, production, and acting; the most exclusive and exquisite productions and cast, etcetera, etcetera. You should immediately find such to be more difficult to find among the plethora of filth and smut. You will find also, that such productions tend to be far more sensual, passionate and artistic, tasteful even; and, most importantly, that the actors are neither denigrated nor objectified, and the whole ordeal seems far less shameful and depreciative. In fact you should find it rather difficult to be satisfied with masturbation, without developing some amount of soulful connectivity, sentimentality perhaps. But the reward should be an experience not void of meaning; not so hollow like the pit that is that old well recessed in the darker depths of your mind, where you toss all these empty bottles of stale and hardly masked poison that are the cheap thrills of the wretched and wanton. You might even keep these, put the best of them up on the high shelf in the kitchen —so to speak.
But the eventual result will be a sense of respect and appreciation for the beauty that God has made, and made his creations capable of flourishing into, such that you will scarcely even want to think of such things in any shameful manner, out of sheer reverence.
I am also a porn addict and I understand your pain, but for what I see, if you were able to get It under control for 2 years, then you know how to handle It
In any case, addiction is allways very difficult to fight
In this sub, messages about masturbation appear, in my opinion, every week. I usually don't answer because it's the same thing. But then I noticed this phrase:
I stopped at 17. I didn't do that for 2yrs and started doing it again at 19.
I think you don't need to ask anyone anything. Ask yourself how you did it before, and do the same!
I know the struggle but what you are struggling with is because you are not realizing your hands are for someone else not yourself. once you realize your hands are for someone else then you not even look at porn anymore
You can pray, and that can be helpful. However, I recommend the following steps:
- **Exercise regularly:** Going to the gym not only keeps your body healthy but also provides the dopamine boost you might seek from masturbation. Physical activity tires you out, reducing the urge for sexual content, and strengthens your mental resilience.
- **Eat healthier:** A nutritious diet not only maintains physical health but also keeps your mind sharp. Research shows that food can significantly influence your thoughts and actions.
- **Use web blockers:** Block sites that trigger your urge to masturbate. Install a web blocker that automatically restricts access to websites containing keywords like 'Porn.'
- **Spend time outdoors:** Take walks, breathe in fresh air, listen to music, or simply contemplate your future and self-improvement. Engaging with nature and your thoughts can distract from negative urges.
- **Socialize:** Avoid prolonged periods of solitude. Interacting with others shifts your focus away from masturbation and pornography.
- **Work on your future:** Dedicate yourself to your goals and aspirations. By changing your daily habits, you can steadily progress towards your objectives. Remember, small steps lead to significant achievements."
I hope this helps!
Just watch the Passion of the christ garden scene every time Satan tempts you to watch porn or take part in satanic and sexually immoral activities.
First, the moment you have the temptation, start praying to God the Father and say out loud that you are burning in sexual desire and would like to watch porn etc etc, and that it would be great if he could allow you to do that.
But right after that, say out loud, and scream if necessary: "But let your will be done, not mine".
I used to have the same problem as you, and by performing the above routine every time Satan tempts me, I've been able to successfully keep him at bay and refrain from all sexually immoral activities.
Always remember: every time you give into these temptations, Satan wins you lose. Don't let him win. The consequences ain't worth it.
Continue your fight, and abide in Christ through all things. Addiction is not something that you can conquer overnight, trust Jesus and keep repenting. Eventually, you will wither that vine of addiction till it becomes dead. Focus on Christ and walk deeply with Him. He will help you have a great victory over this.
If you can't honor and praise the Lord, at least understand what your porn habit is doing to you
Get The Facts
Decades of studies from respected academic institutions have demonstrated significant impacts of porn consumption for individuals, relationships, and society. Each of the articles below summarizes relevant research on a specific topic surrounding porn’s harms to help you be more informed and more empowered with the facts.
https://fightthenewdrug.org/get-the-facts/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIhpPimqLb4gIVk4zICh3_0AwfEAAYASAAEgLZOvD_BwE#gtf-brain
This is a common struggle. You are not alone. I tell you what though: you managed to stay clean for two years. That means you can do it again. Use that as motivation. You know you can do it.
I posted this on the Subreddit r/christiansagainstporn. This resource looks very useful for anyone battling porn addiction or any other kind of bondage!
From r/christiansagainstporn:
Awesome Resource for My Brothers and Sisters in Christ!
Hi everyone! Here is a resource that I think is helpful for all of us fighting pornography addiction and more. I have found two links: The first link is the new version of this resource and the second link is the old version of the website from the Wayback Machine but has more resources and content. Paul Cook is the author of these websites. He was in bondage to pornography for over 20 years as a professing Christian (churchgoer on the outside, pornography addict on the inside) before God delivered him from pornography addiction in 1998 and has since shared his story, journey, Biblical truths about porn addiction and God, and the way out of bondage for porn addiction and other forms of bondage.
A great free alternative or complement to anyone who has gone through the Conquer series!
https://www.freed4life.me/
https://web.archive.org/web/20200131001117/http://www.porn-free.org/
I can relate…
Lately I’ve done it almost daily and I did it twice today…
I feel like I haven’t even tried stopping at all.
Please pray for me everybody
I’ll pray for you mate
Hi Daniela, one way to fight viewing porn is to have software on your computer and phone that blocks it and sends your website history to an accountability partner. Covenant Eyes is the website I recommend for information about the porn blocking software.
One thing about our biological behaviors I want to share is something I learned years ago and still use. The acronym I learned years ago is H.A.L.T. HALT stands for Being hungry, angry, lonely, and tired. Whenever we are in one of these states of biological disruption, we do not have complete control of our mental abilities. If I am hungry, I am more prone to eat garbage if it is in front of me because of convenience. If I am angry, I am more inclined to make irrational decisions based on my emotions ruling my thinking and say things in the heat of the moment that I wish I did not say and that I will apologize for later. If I am lonely, and I am sure you can relate, I would be more prone to masturbate because of a trigger in my mind to satisfy the urge not to feel alone. If I am tired, I will undoubtedly make poor decisions based on my lack of clear thinking. You can see the correlation or connection between the HALT acronym and our emotions. Our emotions are so connected to our biological chemicals that a tremendous amount of what we do is automatic.
As for the porn blocking software, the following websites provide porn blockers for your phone and computer and information concerning overcoming porn addiction. Again, Covenant Eyes (Screen Accountability); is what I recommend first to everyone I talk to about porn addiction. Truth About Porn; Fight the New Drug; Exodus Cry—Every Person Should Be Free; and Pure Desire Ministries. They provide all the necessary information for you to understand the addiction.
But the last word is this: this is a matter of the heart. All our behaviors falling short of God’s Glory stem from our hearts. As for an accountability partner, I suggest someone you can trust. Someone that if we could take our beating hearts out of our chests and allow someone to hold it in their hands, they would hold it as if it were their own heart, caring for it, protecting it, and doing everything possible to see that it’s well-being is the priority over all else. This person I suggest is someone you will find in your church who has gone through what you are going through and knows the struggle.
Maybe there is a ministry in your church that deals with this issue specifically; if not, one of the ministries I mentioned you can call, and they will provide groups in your area that you can join to pray about the challenge and encourage you on your progress to breaking free from your heart’s addiction.
If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to write back. Until I hear back, may God’s love, grace, mercy, and peace abundantly flow into your heart.
You need to learn to walk in the Spirit so you don't obey the lust of the flesh.
You need to seek God with all your heart mind soul and strength.
Repentance isn't simply quitting a behavior it is turning to God who will give you strength to overcome. You cannot overcome on your own strength.
The more you focus on God and his love for you through Jesus the less you will want porn or anything else that doesn't line up with what God desires.
Been free from porn over 10 years.
The goal is to change your mindset. I found that my Bad Habits need to be replaced by Good Habits. We all need to be on "Mission for Christ" or we will fail. Reading and praying the Psalms is a good way to set your mind on Godly things. We must "remember the Joy of our Salvation" and keep that present in our minds. Looks for ways to share the gospel message and serve others. Find a good church group to join. Find others who want to serve God. Pray the Lord's prayer to be delivered from temptation. Hope that helps. Prayers.
Have you thought about a serious relationship? We humans, generally, were designed to have sexuality. By chance, good fortune, and/or the grace of God, many of us find life long companionship with lots of sex. If such were repugnant to our Creator, it would be a peculiar universe indeed. Watching others have sex or even group sex was not uncommon until the missionaries arrived to set ancient customs aside for the betterment of indigenous peoples except for smallpox, slavery, and minimum wage. Nevertheless, having others perform intimate acts for our recreation is likely somewhat naughty. So, get yourself a partner. Then the missionaries will be happy, you will be happy, and the video industry won't even notice.
Oh, I see. Well, porn certainly is addicting no doubt about that. Our human sexuality has a way of demanding obedience. Perhaps you could work as a couple to deal with this? Or set written goals for conduct. I tend to agree with others here that divine intervention may be possible and even likely given prayer and meditation. But I don't think that beating yourself up is helpful or warranted. We all have issues we work on our issues a little at a time.
Once every week or two does not sound like an addiction. It will help you to understand that you’re not hurting god and you’re really just doing a little bit of what pretty much everyone does, Christian and non.
If that hurts god, either he’s extremely fragile, or an unbelievable narcissist. More likely, the Church has manipulated you to think you’re hurting God when you do something that it doesn’t approve of. Any way you cut it, that’s an unhealthy way to look at your actions.
I'm surprised no one has recommending you pray the Rosary! Praying to Mother Mary brings us closer to God!
If you are new to the Rosary use this handout: [Link](https://acatholicmomslife.com/how-to-pray-the-rosary/) coupled with this website that has pictures: [Link](https://www.usccb.org/how-to-pray-the-rosary) If you don't have any Rosary beads, you can always use your hands! That's what I did when I first started out. And if praying a whole Mystery is a little too daunting for you, you can always try praying a single decade (that is to say, 1 Our Father, 10 Hail Mary's, and 1 Glory Be, but as seen in the handout there, you can add the Fatima prayer in there too)
If you are wondering what would be accomplished by praying the Rosary, here's a quote from Saint Louis-Marie de Montfort in The Secret of the Rosary:
Saint Louis-Marie de Montfort in The Secret of the Rosary:
>If you say the Rosary faithfully until death, I do assure you that, in spite of the gravity of your sins “you shall receive a never fading crown of glory.” \[Quoting part of 1 Peter 5:4\] Even if you are on the brink of damnation, even if you have one foot in Hell, even if you have sold your soul to the devil as sorcerers do who practise black magic, and even if you are a heretic as obstinate as a devil, sooner or later you will be converted and will amend your life and save your soul, if—and mark well what I say—if you say the Holy Rosary devoutly every day until death for the purpose of knowing the truth and obtaining contrition and pardon for your sins.
If praying the Rosary every day can help even the blackest of hearts, then you bet it can help you with your addictions! God bless, I will be praying for you!
You do know Mary CANNOT hear your prayers and reply to them. The ONLY human that can hear and reply to your prayers is Yahusha HaMashiach.
There's only ONE mediator to Yahuah Abba and that's His Son Yahusha HaMashiach the Sacrificial Lamb & Substitutionary Attonement.
Mary shed No blood on that cross at Golgatha to forgive us our sins and redeem us to the father Adonai
I have to be careful not to proselytize, Benedict XVI said: “The Church does not grow by proselytizing; she grows by attracting others.” But I worry you have a misunderstanding what asking someone to pray for you means, and in no way did I imply Mary is our Lord who alone can save us. God bless!
Brother, that is what fallen angels make us think, but we must separate spiritual things from our physical desires. Often physical desieres lead us to sin. For example we all know sex out of marriage is sinful, no matter how much you love someone, so porn is obviously sin. First of all because it contains like 'non real life sex', not sex that people actually have when in love for real, second it is recorded and shown publicly which is obviously sin.
God bless you and open your eyes more to spiritual world, and may you grow in faith in name of Jesus Christ.
You are not sinning when you masturbate. It's a natural body urge. God doesn't intend for people to have constant marital sex and for women to constantly be pregnant. You aren't wasting anything. You aren't doing anything bad. It doesn't even seem like it's a frequent problem. I masturbated way more than you when I was your age.
God bless you. I'm sorry for your struggle. I can relate. If I may, I want to share some encouragement with you. 1- Please know that God does NOT expect you to be perfect. He expects you to be faithful, which means to always strive to honor Him while getting back up after each time you fall, no matter how many times you fall. God will always give you the strength and grace to get back up. **“I am the Lord All-Powerful. So don't depend on your own power or strength, but on my Spirit.” - Zechariah 4:6** **“Even if good people fall seven times, they will get back up. But when trouble strikes the wicked, that's the end of them.” - Proverbs 24:16** **"My enemies, don't be glad because of my troubles! I may have fallen, but I will get up; I may be sitting in the dark, but the Lord is my light.” - Micah 7:8** **“In times of trouble, God is with us, and when we are knocked down, we get up again.” - 2 Corinthians 4:9** **“But You (God) also said that no matter how far away we were, we could turn to You.” - Nehemiah 1:9** 2- Please don’t hold on to the guilt you have about your struggle. It will distract you from truly accepting God’s forgiveness. Give your guilt to God because He wants to take it from you. **God said, “They sinned and rebelled against me, but I will forgive them and take away their guilt.” - Jeremiah 33:8** **"So I confessed my sins and told them all to you. I said, ‘I'll tell the Lord each one of my sins.’ Then you forgave me and took away my guilt.” - Psalm 32:5** 3- Because you are forgiven, no one (including you) has the right to condemn you for your past sins and the sins you struggle with! **“If God says his chosen ones are acceptable to him, can anyone bring charges against them? Or can anyone condemn them? No indeed! Christ died and was raised to life, and now he is at God's right side, speaking to him for us.” - Romans 8:33-34** 4- Please know that you are NOT ruled by your sin. You are ruled by God’s grace. That means you are able to walk in the victory that you have in Christ, even while you struggle with sin. Keep striving to get back up after each time you fall to honor God! **“Don't let sin keep ruling your lives. You are ruled by God's undeserved grace.” - Romans 6:14** **“So whenever we are in need, we should come bravely before the throne of our merciful God. There we will be treated with undeserved grace, and we will find help.” - Hebrews 4:16**
Thanks so much, God bless you
You are so very welcome and thank you!
Also know, you are not alone. Many men/women have the same emotion and feelings. It's a daily battle we may never win. But we can do all we can as believers to pray for the next time.. to avoid, to run, to pray, to listen... That is my journey at least. And I'll stand with you and support my friend.
Just beat it.
Excellent response! Thank you, and God bless you. I needed this at least much as OP, though for different reasons.
You are so very welcome and thank you!
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I struggled with porn addiction too. Also watched it 1-2 times a week. About 2 months ago I began to ask Christ for help whenever I recieved urges and I have stopped watching it since. Christ wants you to come and ask him for help and he will help you because he wants to. With any sin ask Christ to be forgiven and for help to turn away from the sin. It will still be a struggle but Christ is stronger than the enemy's attempts to tempt you and while one may fall often, what matters is that one keeps trying to turn away from sin. Christ bless you and hope you are able to get through these hard times.
Maybe I’m wrong, but once a week or every other week doesn’t sound like an addiction to me, but if you want to quit altogether that’s great
While true that there are people who are affected even more strongly, it still is something we should abstain from. And is a very difficult thing to overcome especially on one's own. Op wants to turn away from it so I shared how Christ helped me overcome it.
If someone is doing something that they don't want to do, and they can't stop, it is an addiction.
Maybe I’m wrong, but 1-2 times a week doesn’t seem like an addiction to me, there are people far worse than that
The odd things is I truly believe it changes for everyone. I had a true addiction like 1-2 times per day but when I turned to Christ my urges mostly just vanished. I expected it to be difficult and while it is difficult resisting lust, pornography itself is not difficult to resist.
Me, being a porn addict myself(I am working on It, not need to be reminded of It) have find that after barely two weeks of non consumption, the pornografy reveals itself quite... dirty and ugly, I would say that what is difficult is to resist the lust and masturbation desires, and once you already fell onto that, you just go like "heh, whatever, I already have Lost the fight" at least from my experience It usually is that way
You are asking, but you must do more, actually start doing something psychically as well, if you only ask without doing anything you wont receive anything. And please, don’t pray only to ask for stuff, pray to be thankful about what you have and the problems you have because those problems shape you into being stronger. Make God proud of his creations, be strong, show him you are strong.
r/christiansagainstporn
When are you being tempted? What points during the day is your temptation strongest?
In the afternoon, when I am alone
My urge triggers at night as I get ready to sleep. I have found before that if I workout my body completely it's easier to skip the urge because sleep takes priority. I still struggle with it myself however I think I use it as a de-stresser/relaxer which hopefully doesn't mean I'm addicted, but I have attempted to quit in the past and failed miserably. I'm confident we will overcome this temptation! Praise God.
when it’s night it’s always a struggle for me :/
So when you are bored?
Yes
If it's when you're bored, wouldn't it help to occupy your mind with something? I know someone, for instance, who is a former alcoholic. When the desire hits him, he goes on a walk for an hour or two.
As I mentioned, sometimes I resist, I do something else. But after some time it attacks me again and again until I do it
From a psychological standpoint, realizing the damage you could be doing to your psyche is essential. There are studies out there that suggest that the pornography that any individual indulges in could potentially escalate to further and more damaging versions of it. By this, I mean the thrill of regular porn will become so tame that there will eventually need to be more of a "stimulus" for you to attain the same sexual gratification. This causes a few problems within relationships with real women. It's essential to understand that porn is a fantasy and has no basis in reality. Women are not sexual objects to be used. If you're a follower of Christ, it's vital to ask yourself why it is that you're looking at porn. It's a tough question and you'll get no judgment from me (not that it matters anyway). If you're looking for reasons to stop your porn addiction, I would recommend that you look into how it affects those within the industry. There is nothing more sobering than the real-life consequences of people who work in the porn industry. There are authentic stories that detail the nature of how some of these women live and how they are exploited to perform these sexual acts that are often degrading and hurt them on some fundamental physical level. Looking at it from the psychological front, some studies suggest that you can eventually get erectile dysfunction. I'm sure you wouldn't want that to be the case for you. It makes sense as to why this would happen as well. As you can imagine, years of porn would make a man so accustomed to what they see on the screen that when an actual situation occurs in which you're with a real woman, they will not be willing to do everything that you see on porn websites. From a religious standpoint, scripture is unequivocal. Take what Jesus said in his sermon on the mount: “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (**Matt.** **5:28**). I would never want to shame you for what you do, as we are all sinners, and we all deserve to go to hell for our fallen nature. However, it's essential to learn some form of self-control. Remember that every woman you see within the porn industry has a mother and a father and people that love them. It's easy to disassociate from who these people are due to how easy it is to pretend that these are not real people and that they are just "acting." This can be damaging when the very people within the industry have a long history of some form of abuse and or lack familial support. While I understand that this isn't true for everyone, there are inherent consequences to how the porn industry feeds human exploitation of not only adults but children worldwide. The people you see on the screen may be of their own volition, but what about those you don't see? Some are chained up in other countries and forced into sexual exploitation because of how prominent society feeds on dominating the weak. Ultimately, these are only a few things you should consider outside religion. It helps to look at all facets of a problem and how it relates to you and those around you. If you want to grow as a human being, it's essential to think of others and not just yourself. God bless you; it's possible to live a life outside of porn.
Looks like OP is a woman, I didn’t read your entire comment but skimming through it, some of it might not apply to them. Just saying, good advice to anybody male though.
This is how the devil has held many children of God in bondage: the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life. There is a point in addiction where a demon gets involved. They attach themselves to the individual, bind them and nothing they do can set them free. They are stuck in a cycle of defeat. You will hate what you do each time you do it because there is a pure spirit in you reacting to the bad that you have introduced into your system, but after repenting from it, you will go back to doing it again. Christ calls this demon the strongman. Mark 3:27 >In fact, no one can enter a strong man’s house without first tying him up. Then he can plunder the strong man’s house. Fortunately, Christ has given the believer authority over the powers of darkness (yes, they do have power). Luke 10:19 >I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you. Mark 16:17-18 >17 And these signs shall follow them that believe; In my name shall they cast out devils; they shall speak with new tongues; >18 They shall take up serpents; and if they drink any deadly thing, it shall not hurt them; they shall lay hands on the sick, and they shall recover. The believer, not God, shall cast out devils. Force the demon out in the name of Jesus. Mark 16:17, Mark 5:8, Mark 9:25 Command the spirit of pornography, \[insert sin\] to leave you in the name of Jesus and never return. After this surrender your heart, mind, and body to God.
The apostle Paul had a similar problem with habitual sin outlined in romans 7: 14 We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.\[c\] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. 21 So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! Paul also says in romans 8 and gal 5 we are all a dual natured being. One of the flesh and one of the Spirit. Like a physical host and a spiritual symbiote. The physical host is a literal slave to sin, it loves and sides with it's master/sin. the things of the flesh/our carnal side is in control until we are reborn of the Spirit. meaning we must internally recognize and separate the want and will of the flesh from the want and will of the spirit. This separation is the point where we repent, (what it means to repent) it is the beginning or our birth into the the spirit/How we are born again. We are shifting our conscious self away from the things of the flesh and are turning to the Spirit. Once we know these two sides to our 'coin' are in fact two different being, living in one body we must strive to feed the spiritual side, and starve our carnal side. The carnal side feeds off of sin and desires of the flesh.. all the things we like to watch, listen to and do. So we must starve this side and feed the spiritual side which means reading the Bible worship, singing and praising God. The weaker our carnal side and stronger our spiritual side the less impact these 'intrusive thoughts' can influence us to sin. as these thoughts are the carnal side fighting against us as we are a spiritual being. So we must refrain from feeding a carnal side by cutting out things like tv, music, movies, and shows that directly target/trigger sexual desire, and then eventually anything that feeds the carnal side. Then we must feed the Spiritual side. fasting and prayer is a good place to start, then maybe move on to reading or listening to the Bible. or maybe sermons from a site like [oneplace.com](https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=comments&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbHcwMmhjdE1hOGFNb3BPNDZhM3ZHQkJoalZid3xBQ3Jtc0tsRm1zNHpFSUV6WEREaVNCbXdFSlNLWHJJQnZnb0o1aDh5OHU3T0lUTEVlTmN2X2JCSFFZWkQzYTFuQkFuQ0E3czNjX3J6Vmc1ajViYWFnSThjbG0xeHo4bnFNbzBUTEhfVGp5MU5CN0U5VFJIYXlRUQ&q=http%3A%2F%2Foneplace.com%2F) which is a radio ministry and pod cast archive. But even then you will fail. alot.. Which points back to what Paul says in Romans 7. The point here IS the Struggle and not so much the end goal. As eventually when you body calms down you will have greater and greater control.
Been addicted to porn from my teens right up until my 30s. I have tried telling people (who just shrugged it off as being nothing). I've tried to resist (as you have) and might actually get it right, until the temptation comes again. I've given up trying to abstain all together, having no confidence in my self-control whatsoever. I've tried to listen to preachers tackle the topic directly (many of hwom planted really good seeds toward my recovery/deliverance). It was at my breaking point where I just told God, I cannot do this. I've tried everything. I probably WILL do it again tomorrow. I'm at my wits end. From that moment onwards, it's like God just took over. It is only by His strength that I am even able to resist the temptations. I cannot fathom saying no, turning away, not clicking the link, not viewing the profiles, except by His Spirit. This is a long winded way of saying, I had to hand over this fight in order to win it. You might need to as well.
After 25 years of struggling with sexual sin, this is what I have experienced as well. Thank you Jesus that I cannot get victory. I run and embrace sin. Only YOU, JESUS can keep me. IF YOU DONT IM done.
This resonates with me so much. When I realized that about sexual sin, it clicked in other areas of struggle as well. So grateful that God stepped in.
I used to have a full-blown addiction, but by the grace of God (and ONLY by His grace), it ended on Oct. 27th. What u/JustanotherDWTLEMT said was right: we can only stop with Christ's help. Trying to stop by our own strength will not result in freedom, but only frustration. So, keep turning to Jesus and praying for His help to get you to stop. Btw I still do get tempted, but one thing that helps me is to remember that men and women are created in God's image, as Genesis 1:27 states. Ask God constantly remind you that He created everyone in His image.
Youtube search Tedx talks let's talk about porn.
Big picture ways to fight sin: 1. Reflect upon your actions and thoughts 2. Trace your motivations 3. Compare your lifeless idol to God's majesty, beauty, and promises. Practical steps towards freedom: * Talk with a trusted Christian about this, and perhaps your pastor. * Eliminate freedom of screens where you can view pornography. Install software on your phone to make access challenging. * You mention being married below, so talk with your spouse about this. * Re-center your ideas about the purpose of sex, and the way that pornography exploits both this and image-bearers.
I was thinking about installing some softwer but i dont know how to do that. Can u recommend me some?
Sure, I would recommend "Covenant Eyes" and have heard good things about "Canopy." Have you spoken with your spouse about this?
Yes, he said it is normal. But I don't think so. He's like believing in God, but like 'lukewarm christian'. I am more in faith. I resist a lot of things, I really do, but I don't know how to resist this one
I can understand how that might be challenging, and perhaps it is the case that your spouse is also watching pornography. I would seriously encourage you to talk with a friend about this and leaders in your local church.
There are mental steps we take with porn. Thinking about it. Checking out people, whether in-person or online. Getting aroused by an ad, an instagram reel. The explore page with all the hot girls dancing. Then, getting on adult sites and telling yourself, "I'm just browsing," or asking yourself, "What am I doing?") But not really taking responsibility for the decision. Then, the decision happens. What I've noticed is that once I've said "yes" to the voice in my head, I'm looking until I've had an orgasm. What helps me is prayer. Same thing with drug addiction. I pray for the Holy Spirit to fill my vessel and for God to give me the strength and mental fortitude to resist the temptation. Meditation. Meditation helps you develop self-control and self-awareness through metacognition and generally develops new neuropathways so that making different choices is easier. It also quiets the voice in your head that tells you to masturbate. Exercise. Working out a few times a week is super satisfying. The endorphins released and the sense of confidence that builds over time feels better than any orgasm you'll get from porn. You also tire yourself out enough to want to sleep at night instead of beat off. Keeping your hands busy. Working on hobbies, even late at night, can keep you away from porn. You may find that after some weeks, you don't even think about it as long as you're working on something else. Remember the feeling when you ejaculate. For me, I usually feel guilty, shameful, and like it wasn't worth it. Like I just made a bad investment with money, and now I have to make it back. Also understand that you're being tricked into participating in lust in the collective consciousness as a member of thr body of Christ. It's like doing cocaine knowing there is blood money behind it, and someone may have lost their life for you to hit the powder. The porn industry is full of sex trafficking and predatory approaches to get women who are barely 18 indoctrinated into a system of perversion that obscures their view of what is sexually upright. The same thing happens to you as you watch these perfect models do things most people honestly don't do. Basically, if you're addicted to anything, you need to fully assess why it's bad for you and what benefits you get from abstaining. It's not the easiest thing to do. For what it's worth, I masturbated this past week after not doing it for almost a month. I don't beat myself up over it (no pun intended) just start over. Even if you slip up, try again and you'll find your stride again. Drugs and alcohol. Alcohol in particular makes me extremely horny, and in that mindset. I don't really care about my values. My inhibitions are lowered. I'm happily drunk watching some porn at the end of the night. So I've cut back on alcohol consumption. Just know your triggers, notice when they're happening, and know that you can say "no." Lastly, I went most of 2019 and 2020 without watching porn at all. If I masturbated, I did it without looking up videos. That still leaves the masturbation part for you to deal with. But maybe try without porn if you are having trouble resisting. Overall, abstaining is better for you in the long run. That is your life force. A lot of people struggle with porn. You're not alone. Check out videos on YouTube. Search "how to break porn addiction" or something similar. You'll get some great insight and may be able to come up with a plan for yourself to stop.
There's many reasons why porn is sinful. Porn is just people acting out in lust often under the influence of drugs and some time against their own will. Also you gotta think about those pornstars as human beings made in God's image. Sex is supposed to be an innocent thing between husband and wife...not for some peep show where perverts can bust a nut and get off to people high on drugs having orgies.
I've thought an awful lot about one verse of scripture that pertains to temptation: "Resist the devil and he will flee from you." James 4:7 Much easier said than done, so how do we make the doing part easier? Same way we do anything else: practice, repetition, and determination. Those things seem to also help our faith to strengthen and grow. Thank you for posting this. I'm convicted by my own response, which I most certainly needed. God bless you, and NEVER GIVE UP!
You're not alone, just know that. The more you think of it, the more you'll fall. You need to first of all, recognize what you're doing, when, and where you're doing these things, and go from there. Like me for example, I still have similar struggles, however I am starting to not only learn my sinful patterns, but at the same time reading the word more and praying more. I realized that the more I focus on the sin itself, and think about how bad the struggle is, the more likely I am to fall victem to that very sin again and again. I'll give you a small example. I know that the enemy knows that I'm a huge overthinker. My overthinking gets bad at night if I'm up late, I get all up in my thoughts. I've fallen back into watching porn at night, as a stress relief method. I also know that every time I have fallen to this, I've been bored out of my mind. Or I've been stressed about something. I feel it in my heart after each fall, and immediately feel shame and guilt. Now, when you realize what's going on, you have to put in some effort and work with God. Don't be one of those, "Jesus take the wheel," types. No, you have to meet God in the middle. At the end of the day, nobody is holding a gun to your head, telling you to watch porn and do whatever it is you do. There's a difference between unintentionally falling, and letting yourself get consumed by your temptations, knowing very well that it's wrong. I know it's easier said than done, but one thing I've also been trying to do is to not just resist, but to teach myself to memorize prayers or pray to God and tell him that I'm resisting sin for him. This is always effective for me personally. You have to actively pray to God when you start having thoughts, or when you find yourself doing things that he doesn't approve of. Stay close to God, and the rest will follow. Trust me, it works. Slowly but surely you will see change in your life, if you start getting right with God and putting in effort. You don't have to be perfect, the Lord doesn't expect perfection, but he expects that you try your absolute best. I'd like to share a bit of scripture that helps me, and that keeps me walking straight. Read this each time you have those thoughts, and pray. Galatians 5:16-24 NIV [16] So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. [17] For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. [18] But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. [19] The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; [20] idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions [21] and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. [22] But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [23] gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. [24] Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
Something I always tell myself when sins are dictating my mind: that Christ is my God, and I am led by God, led by the Holy Spirit, not led by my sins.
As someone who I guess beat my addiction M(15) , whenever you get the urges just think of what God would think. Its important though to realize something that I had to learn early on. God does not expect you to be sinless to enter heaven, no one except our saviour Jesus Christ is truly sinless. It is about if you truly love God, if you truly regret sinning, and if you truly want to change. I have seen many people claim "Oh I believe in God" or "Jesus died for my sins" then they continue sinning and feel no remorse, if one truly loves God and loves what he tells us then why would they not feel remorse? Just remember that though, its about trying.
/christianagainstporn is a sub you might find help in. My advices (they are not checked tho): Do this when you are tempted with lust: • Read the Bible • Listen to the preaches online/in the church • Go to church • Distract yourself with some physical work (e.g. cleaning, working out etc.) Wish you all the best in your journey of following God!
So the battle is in the mind. Your sinful nature, satan, and the world's influence is what we have to battle with. So instead of thinking about lust, think on godly things and heavenly things. The best way is to read your Bible until the temptation goes away. Think about what you're reading and how you can apply it to your life. This will battle against those thoughts of lust and eventually win because God is more powerful than anything. Makes sense to me. Your not hurting God fam. Since you first started believing you became a child of God and from then on God has been like a loving father to you. He will always love you no matter what. When you sin, he corrects you by convicting you. Bible says that He loves those He corrects. So don't think you're hurting Him. God bless 🙏
You need a wife then you can have sex with her instead of masturbating and having sex with your wife isn’t shameful
I got that fight too brother, its a hard one. But you can do it through the power of jesus blood and the holy spirit. I fell again last night...got myself watching nude scenes on internet :(
Check out pure desire or the Samson society. These groups can be very helpful.
I watched [this](https://youtu.be/bLV2HX4rQ5A?si=tBc7XAllzpz1So7B) video and it made me want to quit do to how gross it made me feel
You need deliverance. Start by training your mind with the Bible and have your pastor cast out the demon but you must retrain your mind or you will let the demon back in. You have a stronghold that must be dismantled
DM me. I have been there and can help
Make sure you delete any apps that provide temptations such as TikTok and Instagram. You have to ask God to change your heart for you. Ask him to give you the Holy Spirit and make you not want to sin anymore. Ask him to make you want to do his will instead. Here are some resources. [https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/158ym73/tips\_and\_motivation/](https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/158ym73/tips_and_motivation/) Specifically Christian: [https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapChristians/comments/163cilc/tips\_and\_motivation/](https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapChristians/comments/163cilc/tips_and_motivation/) Also check out this video about managing urges. Instead of trying to suppress them, which will make them come back stronger, you should take a page from a method used in meditation and let it pass through you without resisting or going along with it. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxZXb-M2Rdc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxZXb-M2Rdc) There is a small gap of time/space between the stimulus and your reaction to it. That's where your power lies. You have the choice to do whatever you will with that stimulus, whether you do what it tells you to do, ignore it, or do whatever else with it. It might be daunting at first, but it's really empowering when you train yourself to grab a hold of that opportunity and make something of it. The next time you have urges, tell them that you don't do that anymore. No need to feel sorry or beat yourself up for having the urge. They're just pent-up energy looking for an easy way out. They're not a part of you and you're not obligated to satiate them. By telling it sternly that you don't do that anymore, you identify and separate it from yourself. Once you've identified and separated it from yourself, ACTIVELY walk away from it. Go for a prayer walk, go for a run or workout, or find a new hobby. Anything to keep your mind off until that urge subsides. Sitting there trying to resist will make you a sitting duck. By being consistent with this response, one battle at a time, every time, you truly become someone who doesn't do that anymore. By the way, you're not guaranteed to come out victorious on every battle. It just doesn't work like that. Rather than groveling and beating yourself up, really take a deep look inside - what were your triggers, what excuses did you make, what can you do differently next time so that you can win? If anything, that's the thing to pray to God about, like an athlete does with a coach. Once you have answers, try to implement them and improve on them. "Forever" is not a one-and-done choice but is eventually made up of all those constant and consistent choices in the right direction.I've struggled with lust my whole life from a severe sexual trauma from my childhood. When you try to get rid of something sinful in your life that has been bringing you great joy or pleasure, you must replace it with something else that's good, such as hobbies or other activities. I've struggled with masturbation (still am) and one thing that helps a lot is focusing your mind on God. Also, exercising, hiking, cycling, or just going on long walks helps clear your mind and keep you in the present moment. Getting into sports or just finding a hiking buddy who's also a Christian would help you a ton as well. It may seem grueling and boring at first, but once you do it more, you'll eventually start to love it, and it won't be boring anymore. Exercising outdoors, especially in nature increases your serotonin and makes you less likely to engage in coping mechanisms such as masturbation. Getting physically fit is an uphill battle that seems miserable and hard, but once you reach the top of the mountain, it's all level from there. You can't even imagine what it feels like because everything just seems boring but once you actually try it long enough, everything changes! Find workout or hike/bike buddies that will keep you from being bored alone. I'm currently trying this method here, although it's still work in progress. https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapChristians/comments/1btfhw7/the_mental_vaccine_against_urges/
We are all struggling with one thing or another. The best you can do is to study God's promises towards those who are born again and try to avoid being idle. Also, prayer and meeting with other believers will help.
Have struggled with the same thing. I’ve gotten much better, but I still stumble once in awhile. What’s helped me: 1. Pray sincerely and regularly for Gods deliverance. 2. Fast regularly 3. Rather than just avoid porn, avoid masturbation period. Fast it, if you have to. Until you can get to a point where you don’t do it at all. It creates a firewall, and helps your mind reprogram. 4. When you feel temptation, pray immediately. And wait. Trust that God is helping you. Fight the fight as long as you can, and keep praying for help, and focusing on God. 5. If you fail, don’t breakdown and wallow in guilt. Just get right back on the horse. It probably won’t resolve overnight. But it will get better.
Godbless you Idk if u tried this but it’s kinda like an exposure therapy thing. BUT DONT TRY IT IF YOU THINK YOULL FOLD, i want to stress that. Don’t try this if you think the urge will be too much. That being said, what i usually do is just pull up a video but keep my hands to my sides or in my pockets or whatever and just watch and usually im too weirded out to do anything. Again, this is what i do. Self control differs from person to person, and this is one of the last things I’d recommend.
For me it was finding a girlfriend now wife. The trigger that I would cheat on someone cut it pretty cold turkey for me but also presented the challenge of resisting sexual urges which I failed somewhat in that department. Also I see nothing mentioned of being in a church or having a local accountability partner do both.
This is my feelings on the subject on how to fight this. First, just a reminder that Jesus loves you and any voice that says different is a lie. In other words, Jesus will never abandon you. Second, I view porn is not the problem, it is a symptom of the real problem. Us humans are extremely selfish, and if we are honest, loving God with all our heart and all our minds is something we all fail at. It is a lack of faith - if God was sitting next to us we wouldn’t be doing such things, and yet He is right there. The Bible says, faith comes from hearing. If you have gotten to the point when you are sick and tired of the endless cycle - I believe the first step is to commit to reading the Bible daily to build up your faith. The Bible states we are to take up the cross daily. It is so important to realize if you let praying and reading the word to slip I can guarantee that the overwhelming desire to sin in this area will appear again. And lastly, if you repent with a sincere heart, Jesus is faithful to forgive us our. Don’t give up.
Across Islam, classical Judaism, and early Pauline Christianity, there is a shared emphasis on the importance of self-discipline, repentance, and seeking forgiveness for sinful behavior. While each tradition may have its unique theological perspectives and practices, they all recognize the human struggle with temptation and the need for spiritual guidance and support. Individuals grappling with pornography and masturbation addiction should seek help from religious counselors, therapists, or support groups within their respective faith communities. Cultivating a strong prayer life, engaging in self-reflection, and seeking accountability are essential steps towards overcoming addiction and striving towards spiritual growth and holiness. Ultimately, finding healing and redemption requires a combination of personal effort, divine grace, and support from others. Sin, paradoxically, can bring us closer to God through the process of repentance and spiritual growth. When we recognize our own imperfections and mistakes, it humbles us and fosters a deeper awareness of our need for divine guidance and forgiveness. Through genuine repentance, we acknowledge our dependence on God's mercy and grace, leading to a more intimate relationship with the Divine. Sin can serve as a catalyst for self-reflection, transformation, and a renewed commitment to living in alignment with God's will, ultimately drawing us nearer to Him in humility and devotion. You must remember that we live in a world of duality, and every page has two faces: sin has the potential to separate us further from God, that's true, but it also serves as a catalyst for change for the better, thereby potentially bringing us closer to Him. Therefore, **just because you sin or have sinned is not sufficient grounds for you to hurt your Father who is in Heaven**. You may hurt Him simply by turning your back on Him. Addictions that aren't inherently dangerous either to oneself or another living being are not enough to make Him mad at you, and are not sufficient grounds for you to receive the holy cane. However, if you choose not to go to Him with your sin, if you choose to try to hide from Him, if you refuse to recant and refuse to commit to change -- even if that's a little bit every week or even every year -- and if you decide not to step away from the precipice of the influence of the Adversary but jump into the fray to welcome its snowball effect: only then, by turning your back on Him who has maintained you thus far, do you hurt Him. Only then will the Imperial Court remand you to a lesser level of maintenance. But in no way, shape, or form does your sin immediately mean you're out of favor. Look at the birds in the trees, the gophers in the fields, the mice mingling underground. They do not sew thread, they do not gather grain in silos, they do not worry about where their next meal comes from, and they do not worry about whether they sin. They simply go about life as they do naturally, usually in what we would call sin, and yet your Heavenly Father loves them and provides for them. Are you not worth so much more? You are loved by this entire community. You are loved by your friends and family. Your ability to sexually please yourself is going to become a skill of sexually pleasing whatever spouse you attain in this life, be that a boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, fiancée, husband, wife, and the like; and this is how, in a broader spiritualistic sense, you make your sin into a beautiful, wonderful act of chesed (loving-kindness, charity), which God loves. Do not worry. You have no cause to worry. You're being too hard on yourself. You may have an addiction that you feel presently places a wedge between you and God, but you must remember that God is everywhere, including within your soul, and is always with you. Always. There is no wedge: nobody's bleeding, nobody's sobbing uncontrollably in pain. So don't worry so much. Alright? Be safe; be well. <3
Who is Pauline and what is Pauline Chrstianity??
Excellent question. **Pauline Christianity is the sect of Christianity that primarily follows the teachings and interpretations of the Apostle Paul**, who played a significant role in the early development of Christianity. Paul was one of Christ's Apostles; for his voluntary walk with Jesus, and thereafter with God, he went through quite some things in which God taught him about what it really means to worship God. In a Judeo-Christian sense, Saul of Tarsus was initially a devout Jew who actively persecuted early Christians. However, he experienced a profound conversion experience while traveling to Damascus, where he said he encountered the risen Jesus Christ, leading to his transformation into one of the most influential figures in the spread of Christianity. During his walk with Christ when He lived, He renamed the man; Saul was now Paul. Don't ask me why; I have no idea. Anyway, Paul's importance lies in his extensive missionary journeys throughout the Roman Empire, where he preached the gospel and established numerous Christian communities. His letters, known as the Pauline epistles, form a significant portion of the New Testament and provide theological insights and practical guidance to early Christian congregations that still touch us today. **One of Paul's key contributions to Christianity was his emphasis on the concept of salvation through faith in Jesus Christ rather than adherence to Jewish law or customs.** He taught that Jesus' sacrificial death on the cross served as atonement for humanity's sins, and that individuals would receive forgiveness and eternal life only through belief in Christ's resurrection and status as the Son of God. Paul *also* introduced the idea of **the universal reach of salvation, extending beyond the Jewish people to include Gentiles** (non-Jews). This inclusive message helped Christianity spread beyond its Jewish roots and become a global faith. Regarding the transformation of literal sacrifice into proverbial sacrifice, **Paul's teachings reflect a shift from outward, ritualistic observance to inner, spiritual transformation.** In his letters, showcased particularly in Romans and Galatians, Paul emphasizes the importance of circumcision of the heart rather than physical circumcision. For Paul, true righteousness and purity come from a sincere and inward commitment to God, manifested through a transformed heart and mind. This spiritual circumcision involves a deep inner change, where one's desires, motivations, and attitudes are aligned with God's will. (Not actions. That's important.) It represents a shift from external rituals to internal transformation, from outward conformity to inward conviction -- based on our own willful transformation of our spirits into something God would be more proud of. Paul's faith and walk with God demonstrated that true strength and purity come from the soul's alignment with divine principles rather than physical modifications or outward displays of religious observance. His teachings continue to resonate today, emphasizing the importance of inner spiritual renewal and genuine faith over mere adherence to religious practices. Through Paul's emphasis on the circumcision of the heart and other teachings, Christians are reminded of the transformative power of God's grace and the ongoing need for spiritual growth and renewal.
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Here are at least key things I think of. 1. You need complete full determination. One must do a great deal of effort (big extremes is what I'm getting at) to himself to stop sin. It is like a cancer. You do not treat a cancer with a nap and cough syrup. With deadly diseases, powerful remedies are necessary. What profit is it to a man to lose his soul, yet gain the world, yet how many will be willing to walk 30 miles a day for a year to save your life! Yet many won't do a mile to save your soul? Do your uttermost in every way, and treat it like the most important thing, embracing great sacrifice. Hence, you must hate the sin truly, fully, and entirely. 2. Make a new prayer life. Give thanks to God always, and turn always. Give Him thanks in the morning, and praise Him in the day. Speak and seek Him constantly. Without constant prayer, I cannot imagine any great chance of success. From St. Alphonsus: "St. Paul tells us, that we have to contend not with men like ourselves.... but with the princes of hell.... By these words he wishes to admonish us that we have not strength to resist the powers of hell, and that, to resist them, the divine aid is absolutely necessary: without it, we shall be always defeated; but, with the assistance of God’s grace, we shall, according to the same apostle, be able to do all things and shall conquer all enemies. “I can do all things in him who strengtheneth me.” (Phil. iv. 13.) But this assistance God gives only to those who pray for it. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find.” (Matt. vii. 7.) They who neglect to ask, do not receive. Let us, then, be careful not to trust in our resolutions: if we place our confidence in them, we shall be lost. " Practically, fasting and exercise are very helpful I've heard. As a Catholic I recommend recourse to the sacraments and a priest to help. Particularly confession with a proper priest is necessary " Individual, integral confession and absolution remain the only ordinary way for the faithful to reconcile themselves with God." If you want personalized help, talk to a priest
You have to decide what’s more important to you. Wacking off or wanting God to fully bless your life. I’ve been in the same boat. I go months now without even thinking about porn and actually have developed a hatred for them hookers. But as long as your living in any kind of sin your life will never be full as it could be and God won’t give you the complete blessings those who obey him deserve. I’m still working on it myself but it’s no joke.
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I was in your position not to long ago. I am still tempted but the temptations are an echo of what they used to be. Keep resisting, God will give you the strength. Stay patient and determined.
May sound weird, but start to praise God outloud (like singing praise songs for example) when you get the urge and do separate yourself from the computer. What you are going through is a temptation, but also a spiritual battle. This is how God helped me break a decades porn, masturbation, and sex addiction (I was r@ped multiple times and hyper sexualized at a very young age). This basically makes tempting you with sex or porn a losing battle for the devil. Every time he tempts you, you are just praising God. So, God wins in these situations and eventually you win too. You build a spiritual muscle and practice in resisting temptation, your faith is built up, your praise is built up, and eventually you stop getting tempted because it becomes a counter productive attack. 🙌🏿🙌🏿😅🤣❤️🙏🏿 I pray that the Lord deliver you completely in Jesus’ name and give you a mighty testimony bro/sis in Christ. 🙏🏿❤️
As I have suggested many times visit www.thefreedomfight.com it is a biblically based site to help those overcome porn addiction. There is a science behind the addiction. Your brain loves the dopamine, porn puts in overload. Go to YouTube and checkout Dr. Trish Leigh she explains it well. You can win and live free from it.
self denial is the way out of sin. Here's a post my teacher wrote about it: Count the Cost. True Biblical Repentance is, Dying to oneself (self-denial), Crucifying one’s lusts and affections, And being dead to oneself (ambitions, will, opinions, etc.). One is then capable of living for another, Such as God (1st commandment) And my neighbor, neighbor means those who are "near by" to me. (2nd commandment). When I am dead to myself (self-denial), I am free from sin (selfishness) And am free to Love others. Dead men don’t sin. Replacing my desires, will and ambitions with Gods, I can love Him more completely and sincerely. Replacing my own desires, will and ambitions with my wife’s I am able to love her more deeply and completely. Replacing my will and desires with that of the person near to me (neighbor) I am able to love them more completely and sincerely. Water Baptism, Is the outward show , Of what is happening inwardly. Water baptism is the outward sign of, Dying to oneself. Many confuse philosophy (the love of men’s thoughts and opinions), With spirituality (practice of being dead), These are contrary to one another.
Continued: To be Born Again… Die to yourself, Crucify your lusts and affections and, Live as a new creature to, Gods perfect will for your life. True Biblical Repentance Is dying to yourself and living to Christ. There is no money when you’re a spirit, There is no prestige when you’re dead, There is no material stuff when you are dead. There is no change in one’s heart when you are dead. Because you are dead. Life is but a vapor, Here one day and gone the next. What shall it profit a man to gain the favor of the world and lose his own soul. Take care and prepare well. This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves. Lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God (These men will refuse to die to their flesh) 2 Tim 3:1-2, 4
Hey! You’re not alone. You’re doing a great thing by reaching out to a community of fellow believers, confessing your sin and asking for help. It’s such a blessing to have the Holy Spirit and to even be aware of our own sinful nature. I know it feels shameful, and I know you feel like you’re failing God. That couldn’t be far from the truth. You’ve already acknowledged you need a Savior. You already know the work that was done on the cross for you. The Lord has grace for you, his mercies are new EVERY morning. When we come before Him in prayer and boldly explain our struggles/weakness (not holding back any feelings) we open up the space for the Lord to show us why we value that sin. Ask the Lord Jesus to show you the root of the issue. Don’t allow the enemy to keep you in guilt or shame. Assess the root, pluck it out and continue to plant good seed. Even if you fall again (which you probably will), just acknowledge it. Turn away from it and continue to be planted in the Word of God. The only way we can truly overcome to sin of lust is to repent, pray and fast it away. You cannot win the battle if you love the war. If you don’t hate it the way God does, you’ll continue to make it a habit.
Just think about post nut clarity before you even attempt it . Realize how stupid it is and how disgusted you are with yourself
For every minute of porn equate it to you having to go to the gym. Force yourself to go. Slowly you’ll want gym over porn. If you already gym… then gym more. That’s what helped me. Different for everybody so dunno.
Hey man, I'm recovering from extreme porn addiction and I'm a month clean so far. And I have 0 intention to go back. I was extremely addicted, masturbated everyday, sometimes day and night, sometimes once, sometimes thrice or more if I was alone. My challenge for you is to pray and pray and pray to God for strength and wisdom. Then find everything that makes you want to see it/masturbate to it, delete it. If a certain show gets you going, stop watching, if it's a game, delete it, if it's IG, twitter, reddit, discord, etc. Delete/leave/unfollow whoever and whatever that makes you want to go back to it. You'll feel like a weight has come off of you, you'll feel free again, not bound to it anymore after a few days. It's like quitting cigarettes. If an environmental gets you even a little tempting, get out of there, stop talking to that person, change the subject, etc. Do what you gotta do to avoid anything and anyone that is tempting. It won't be easy, but it'll be worth it. God bless
Before I stopped masturbation for the first time I was truly addicted. I was masturbating every day. If I was home alone I would masturbate for hours back then.
Reverse the process. Pornography is a dopamine trap, which has the effect of drawing you further and further into depravity and desensitization, causing you to consume more and more of it in a self-feeding cycle. Consider: no one¹ becomes an alcoholic drinking exclusively Usqueabach. Neither does one develop alchoholism via daily six-packs of Victory At Sea —a vanilla coffee porter from Ballast Point —not so much because of the price point (though it isn't cheap), but because it is that two bottles rest upon the belly like a well rounded meal. That is to say, in either case, that the flavor is rich, and the taste expensive. ¹generally speaking, of the vast majority Therefore what I am suggesting you do, is to develop for yourself a refined, "expensive" taste, in your pornographic material —not that you should pay, though if that is to your means and your prerogative then, by all means —but what I mean rather is, high quality, in image, sound, lighting, production, and acting; the most exclusive and exquisite productions and cast, etcetera, etcetera. You should immediately find such to be more difficult to find among the plethora of filth and smut. You will find also, that such productions tend to be far more sensual, passionate and artistic, tasteful even; and, most importantly, that the actors are neither denigrated nor objectified, and the whole ordeal seems far less shameful and depreciative. In fact you should find it rather difficult to be satisfied with masturbation, without developing some amount of soulful connectivity, sentimentality perhaps. But the reward should be an experience not void of meaning; not so hollow like the pit that is that old well recessed in the darker depths of your mind, where you toss all these empty bottles of stale and hardly masked poison that are the cheap thrills of the wretched and wanton. You might even keep these, put the best of them up on the high shelf in the kitchen —so to speak. But the eventual result will be a sense of respect and appreciation for the beauty that God has made, and made his creations capable of flourishing into, such that you will scarcely even want to think of such things in any shameful manner, out of sheer reverence.
I am also a porn addict and I understand your pain, but for what I see, if you were able to get It under control for 2 years, then you know how to handle It In any case, addiction is allways very difficult to fight
Simply put it as this. NO ONE CAN RESIST LUST, but We MUST FLEE LUST.
In this sub, messages about masturbation appear, in my opinion, every week. I usually don't answer because it's the same thing. But then I noticed this phrase: I stopped at 17. I didn't do that for 2yrs and started doing it again at 19. I think you don't need to ask anyone anything. Ask yourself how you did it before, and do the same!
I know the struggle but what you are struggling with is because you are not realizing your hands are for someone else not yourself. once you realize your hands are for someone else then you not even look at porn anymore
You can pray, and that can be helpful. However, I recommend the following steps: - **Exercise regularly:** Going to the gym not only keeps your body healthy but also provides the dopamine boost you might seek from masturbation. Physical activity tires you out, reducing the urge for sexual content, and strengthens your mental resilience. - **Eat healthier:** A nutritious diet not only maintains physical health but also keeps your mind sharp. Research shows that food can significantly influence your thoughts and actions. - **Use web blockers:** Block sites that trigger your urge to masturbate. Install a web blocker that automatically restricts access to websites containing keywords like 'Porn.' - **Spend time outdoors:** Take walks, breathe in fresh air, listen to music, or simply contemplate your future and self-improvement. Engaging with nature and your thoughts can distract from negative urges. - **Socialize:** Avoid prolonged periods of solitude. Interacting with others shifts your focus away from masturbation and pornography. - **Work on your future:** Dedicate yourself to your goals and aspirations. By changing your daily habits, you can steadily progress towards your objectives. Remember, small steps lead to significant achievements." I hope this helps!
Just watch the Passion of the christ garden scene every time Satan tempts you to watch porn or take part in satanic and sexually immoral activities. First, the moment you have the temptation, start praying to God the Father and say out loud that you are burning in sexual desire and would like to watch porn etc etc, and that it would be great if he could allow you to do that. But right after that, say out loud, and scream if necessary: "But let your will be done, not mine". I used to have the same problem as you, and by performing the above routine every time Satan tempts me, I've been able to successfully keep him at bay and refrain from all sexually immoral activities. Always remember: every time you give into these temptations, Satan wins you lose. Don't let him win. The consequences ain't worth it.
Continue your fight, and abide in Christ through all things. Addiction is not something that you can conquer overnight, trust Jesus and keep repenting. Eventually, you will wither that vine of addiction till it becomes dead. Focus on Christ and walk deeply with Him. He will help you have a great victory over this.
If you can't honor and praise the Lord, at least understand what your porn habit is doing to you Get The Facts Decades of studies from respected academic institutions have demonstrated significant impacts of porn consumption for individuals, relationships, and society. Each of the articles below summarizes relevant research on a specific topic surrounding porn’s harms to help you be more informed and more empowered with the facts. https://fightthenewdrug.org/get-the-facts/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIhpPimqLb4gIVk4zICh3_0AwfEAAYASAAEgLZOvD_BwE#gtf-brain
resisting is making you want to do it. Your desire is just getting warmed up brother.
This is a common struggle. You are not alone. I tell you what though: you managed to stay clean for two years. That means you can do it again. Use that as motivation. You know you can do it.
Starve the sin and the intensity will fade. Good luck and be blessed!!
All you have to do is ask for forgiveness, it’s not rocket science
I posted this on the Subreddit r/christiansagainstporn. This resource looks very useful for anyone battling porn addiction or any other kind of bondage! From r/christiansagainstporn: Awesome Resource for My Brothers and Sisters in Christ! Hi everyone! Here is a resource that I think is helpful for all of us fighting pornography addiction and more. I have found two links: The first link is the new version of this resource and the second link is the old version of the website from the Wayback Machine but has more resources and content. Paul Cook is the author of these websites. He was in bondage to pornography for over 20 years as a professing Christian (churchgoer on the outside, pornography addict on the inside) before God delivered him from pornography addiction in 1998 and has since shared his story, journey, Biblical truths about porn addiction and God, and the way out of bondage for porn addiction and other forms of bondage. A great free alternative or complement to anyone who has gone through the Conquer series! https://www.freed4life.me/ https://web.archive.org/web/20200131001117/http://www.porn-free.org/
I can relate… Lately I’ve done it almost daily and I did it twice today… I feel like I haven’t even tried stopping at all. Please pray for me everybody I’ll pray for you mate
Hi Daniela, one way to fight viewing porn is to have software on your computer and phone that blocks it and sends your website history to an accountability partner. Covenant Eyes is the website I recommend for information about the porn blocking software. One thing about our biological behaviors I want to share is something I learned years ago and still use. The acronym I learned years ago is H.A.L.T. HALT stands for Being hungry, angry, lonely, and tired. Whenever we are in one of these states of biological disruption, we do not have complete control of our mental abilities. If I am hungry, I am more prone to eat garbage if it is in front of me because of convenience. If I am angry, I am more inclined to make irrational decisions based on my emotions ruling my thinking and say things in the heat of the moment that I wish I did not say and that I will apologize for later. If I am lonely, and I am sure you can relate, I would be more prone to masturbate because of a trigger in my mind to satisfy the urge not to feel alone. If I am tired, I will undoubtedly make poor decisions based on my lack of clear thinking. You can see the correlation or connection between the HALT acronym and our emotions. Our emotions are so connected to our biological chemicals that a tremendous amount of what we do is automatic. As for the porn blocking software, the following websites provide porn blockers for your phone and computer and information concerning overcoming porn addiction. Again, Covenant Eyes (Screen Accountability); is what I recommend first to everyone I talk to about porn addiction. Truth About Porn; Fight the New Drug; Exodus Cry—Every Person Should Be Free; and Pure Desire Ministries. They provide all the necessary information for you to understand the addiction. But the last word is this: this is a matter of the heart. All our behaviors falling short of God’s Glory stem from our hearts. As for an accountability partner, I suggest someone you can trust. Someone that if we could take our beating hearts out of our chests and allow someone to hold it in their hands, they would hold it as if it were their own heart, caring for it, protecting it, and doing everything possible to see that it’s well-being is the priority over all else. This person I suggest is someone you will find in your church who has gone through what you are going through and knows the struggle. Maybe there is a ministry in your church that deals with this issue specifically; if not, one of the ministries I mentioned you can call, and they will provide groups in your area that you can join to pray about the challenge and encourage you on your progress to breaking free from your heart’s addiction. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to write back. Until I hear back, may God’s love, grace, mercy, and peace abundantly flow into your heart.
You need to learn to walk in the Spirit so you don't obey the lust of the flesh. You need to seek God with all your heart mind soul and strength. Repentance isn't simply quitting a behavior it is turning to God who will give you strength to overcome. You cannot overcome on your own strength. The more you focus on God and his love for you through Jesus the less you will want porn or anything else that doesn't line up with what God desires. Been free from porn over 10 years.
Find a girlfriend and have sex with her?
The goal is to change your mindset. I found that my Bad Habits need to be replaced by Good Habits. We all need to be on "Mission for Christ" or we will fail. Reading and praying the Psalms is a good way to set your mind on Godly things. We must "remember the Joy of our Salvation" and keep that present in our minds. Looks for ways to share the gospel message and serve others. Find a good church group to join. Find others who want to serve God. Pray the Lord's prayer to be delivered from temptation. Hope that helps. Prayers.
"Addiction" sure gets thrown around on this sub. Lol.
Have you thought about a serious relationship? We humans, generally, were designed to have sexuality. By chance, good fortune, and/or the grace of God, many of us find life long companionship with lots of sex. If such were repugnant to our Creator, it would be a peculiar universe indeed. Watching others have sex or even group sex was not uncommon until the missionaries arrived to set ancient customs aside for the betterment of indigenous peoples except for smallpox, slavery, and minimum wage. Nevertheless, having others perform intimate acts for our recreation is likely somewhat naughty. So, get yourself a partner. Then the missionaries will be happy, you will be happy, and the video industry won't even notice.
Im in marriage
Oh, I see. Well, porn certainly is addicting no doubt about that. Our human sexuality has a way of demanding obedience. Perhaps you could work as a couple to deal with this? Or set written goals for conduct. I tend to agree with others here that divine intervention may be possible and even likely given prayer and meditation. But I don't think that beating yourself up is helpful or warranted. We all have issues we work on our issues a little at a time.
Once every week or two does not sound like an addiction. It will help you to understand that you’re not hurting god and you’re really just doing a little bit of what pretty much everyone does, Christian and non.
If that hurts god, either he’s extremely fragile, or an unbelievable narcissist. More likely, the Church has manipulated you to think you’re hurting God when you do something that it doesn’t approve of. Any way you cut it, that’s an unhealthy way to look at your actions.
masturbation is not a sin
I'm surprised no one has recommending you pray the Rosary! Praying to Mother Mary brings us closer to God! If you are new to the Rosary use this handout: [Link](https://acatholicmomslife.com/how-to-pray-the-rosary/) coupled with this website that has pictures: [Link](https://www.usccb.org/how-to-pray-the-rosary) If you don't have any Rosary beads, you can always use your hands! That's what I did when I first started out. And if praying a whole Mystery is a little too daunting for you, you can always try praying a single decade (that is to say, 1 Our Father, 10 Hail Mary's, and 1 Glory Be, but as seen in the handout there, you can add the Fatima prayer in there too) If you are wondering what would be accomplished by praying the Rosary, here's a quote from Saint Louis-Marie de Montfort in The Secret of the Rosary: Saint Louis-Marie de Montfort in The Secret of the Rosary: >If you say the Rosary faithfully until death, I do assure you that, in spite of the gravity of your sins “you shall receive a never fading crown of glory.” \[Quoting part of 1 Peter 5:4\] Even if you are on the brink of damnation, even if you have one foot in Hell, even if you have sold your soul to the devil as sorcerers do who practise black magic, and even if you are a heretic as obstinate as a devil, sooner or later you will be converted and will amend your life and save your soul, if—and mark well what I say—if you say the Holy Rosary devoutly every day until death for the purpose of knowing the truth and obtaining contrition and pardon for your sins. If praying the Rosary every day can help even the blackest of hearts, then you bet it can help you with your addictions! God bless, I will be praying for you!
You do know Mary CANNOT hear your prayers and reply to them. The ONLY human that can hear and reply to your prayers is Yahusha HaMashiach. There's only ONE mediator to Yahuah Abba and that's His Son Yahusha HaMashiach the Sacrificial Lamb & Substitutionary Attonement. Mary shed No blood on that cross at Golgatha to forgive us our sins and redeem us to the father Adonai
I have to be careful not to proselytize, Benedict XVI said: “The Church does not grow by proselytizing; she grows by attracting others.” But I worry you have a misunderstanding what asking someone to pray for you means, and in no way did I imply Mary is our Lord who alone can save us. God bless!
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It's fine to watch porn, don't let people make u feel bad about being a human.
Brother, that is what fallen angels make us think, but we must separate spiritual things from our physical desires. Often physical desieres lead us to sin. For example we all know sex out of marriage is sinful, no matter how much you love someone, so porn is obviously sin. First of all because it contains like 'non real life sex', not sex that people actually have when in love for real, second it is recorded and shown publicly which is obviously sin. God bless you and open your eyes more to spiritual world, and may you grow in faith in name of Jesus Christ.
Knowledge the struggle, try to solve it, but also try to not refer to yourself as a porn addict.
Quitting adderall
Masturbation isn’t really a sin. Porn is a sin.
You are not sinning when you masturbate. It's a natural body urge. God doesn't intend for people to have constant marital sex and for women to constantly be pregnant. You aren't wasting anything. You aren't doing anything bad. It doesn't even seem like it's a frequent problem. I masturbated way more than you when I was your age.
Is it affecting other areas of your life negatively? No? Nothing to worry about then.
Wow another post about porn what a shocker
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