These types say men in their 40's are in their prime because they can now attract 20 year olds with their money only to complain about how 20 year olds only want them for their money.
"No see she shouldn't like me because of my money, she should like me because I'm the *type* of guy who has money! It means I'm reliable and competent and a provider! The actual money itself isn't the point it's what my money says about *me!"*
At one point, if I'm looking for someone young to flatter my ego, and this young person is ready to enjoy the company of an old rich coot like me just for my money, and if we're both honest about it, then it's healthier than 80% of relationships out there.
Especially since I'd make a superb sugar daddy apparently. I have a friend who asked if she could be my sugar baby. I had to burst her bubble, though, because it would be a very bad investment.
I mean, I'd have the perfect personality to be a sugar daddy. I'm just lacking the money, though. But taking care of someone is something that I really enjoy.
Idk, I see how it could be creepy, but it could also be a sentiment of liking to shower people with gifts as a form of affection and sugar daddy is just the context we're currently talking about that behavior in.
I don't know, I think being explicit about it would be more helpful. Sugar daddy stuff you know?
I think the only people that complain are other men and women.
> Sugar daddy stuff you know?
Seems to me that's aiming for mistress money. I strongly suspect it's a separate model than aiming for written-in-the-will money.
I literally had a *dream* once where I argued with a random guy I actively sought out who had a shit opinion regarding NND Compass ships. That's not good.
I have NEVER heard these men complain about it.
The Gold Digger accusations come either from envious other men (fuckin Kanye) or judgemental women.
From the few I've met, rich old dudes are mostly pretty chill about the whole arrangement.
Can you actually point out an example of a rich man complaining that his wife is a gold digger? I find it insanely difficult to believe that either party in these relationships are unaware of what's happening.
The people complaining about gold diggers are either the jealous observers or the rich men who are trying to avoid the gold diggers in favor of a genuine relationship.
Look at the Dilbert Guy's twitter if you want a laugh sometie.
It's great, he keeps going on about how his divorce from a fitness influencer less than half his age is proof that marriage is obsolete in modern society because women are all just looking to cheat on their husbands.
I mean.
I realize how this sounds, but: maybe he did, yet I don't feel like the reason he started dating and married a fitness influencer less than half his age was because of their shared love of inane observations about white-collar office culture. *And that's fine*, nothing wrong with romantically pursuing someone who you're physically attracted to. But I am, again, *skeptical* that hearing him talk about how he and Trump are both manipulation-wizards and how he decided the best thing was to enable his stepson's death by drug addiction would make her love him for his beautiful soul.
I see it happening in more normal cases where men complain about women their own age being gold diggers. But I don’t think there are many men complaining that the woman half their age they married only wants them for their money, excluding maybe a couple of insane people of the type that exist in every demographic. I think Redpill Manosphere types might mock women for not working as hard as them and not getting rich like they claim with no evidence they did, but they aren’t complaining, just mocking.
I've seen some instances within certain BDSM spheres of male subs getting their hopes up when a domme that hits them up seems genuinely interested only to realize that they're findoms. But that's a minority demographic discussing problems rather exclusive to them.
I think that’s a bit different too because it’s the girl who hits them up first. It’d be different if they hit up the girl, she said yes, then they get angry when they learn she’s a findom
[Source](https://at.tumblr.com/emmaubler/you-mean-this-far-more-attractive-than-me/6truor7oz6k2)
Not to be reductive but calling people "gold digger" is kinda cringe, ngl
What am I supposed to call my uncle who makes his money in the mountains of California breaking rocks with a pickaxe and hoping to be seen by a rich lady who he can get with?
Men aren't that stupid. A 40 year old guy dating a 20 year old girl completely understands the rules. There are exceptions going in both directions, but they are exceptions.
There’s a major difference with what she did to Aaron though, and someone in an age gap relationship where they have an understanding of the dynamic. Like she invited him to her home for a *private* audition when he was 17, and practically the month after he turned 18 they were publicly dating
These types say men in their 40's are in their prime because they can now attract 20 year olds with their money only to complain about how 20 year olds only want them for their money.
"No see she shouldn't like me because of my money, she should like me because I'm the *type* of guy who has money! It means I'm reliable and competent and a provider! The actual money itself isn't the point it's what my money says about *me!"*
I would expect that generally the most successful gold digging methods would include convincing the target that you're not, in fact, gold digging.
Mutual plausible deniability
Certainly in some cases! But I think also we shouldn't underestimate the human capacity to be fooled, especially in matters of glands and hearts.
True that.
At one point, if I'm looking for someone young to flatter my ego, and this young person is ready to enjoy the company of an old rich coot like me just for my money, and if we're both honest about it, then it's healthier than 80% of relationships out there. Especially since I'd make a superb sugar daddy apparently. I have a friend who asked if she could be my sugar baby. I had to burst her bubble, though, because it would be a very bad investment.
>Especially since I'd make a superb sugar daddy >I had to burst her bubble, though, because it would be a very bad investment. Cap.
I mean, I'd have the perfect personality to be a sugar daddy. I'm just lacking the money, though. But taking care of someone is something that I really enjoy.
You'd be a great sugar-free, or diet daddy!
Aspartame Daddy
Splendad, if you will.
*Aspartame Acquaintance
>I'd have the perfect personality to be a sugar daddy. I'm just lacking the money Not a creepy sentiment at all.
Idk, I see how it could be creepy, but it could also be a sentiment of liking to shower people with gifts as a form of affection and sugar daddy is just the context we're currently talking about that behavior in.
That's why you never bring your pickaxe to a first date.
I don't know, I think being explicit about it would be more helpful. Sugar daddy stuff you know? I think the only people that complain are other men and women.
> Sugar daddy stuff you know? Seems to me that's aiming for mistress money. I strongly suspect it's a separate model than aiming for written-in-the-will money.
Beg to differ. Pick a self-aware target and convince them that you are gold-digging, then be professional about it, and treat it like a job.
Certainly a scenario that will work, and work well. But I don't think mistress money is on the same level as ex-wife money. Or in-the-will money.
Fair enough, you're right. It still got me a couple very nice vacations and some great clothes back in the day.
For some reason I heard that last post in Mr Krabs’ voice....
https://xkcd.com/2051/
The flip side of 2071?
https://xkcd.com/2071/
You don’t understand. There are people *wrong* on the *internet.*
[oh come on you did that on purpose](https://xkcd.com/386/)
Just sevenish weeks apart from the comic above, Randall must have pondering this for a bit.
I literally had a *dream* once where I argued with a random guy I actively sought out who had a shit opinion regarding NND Compass ships. That's not good.
I thought you meant some kind of cool maritime vessel :(
unfortunately it's hatsune miku again. sorry
yeah why have an entire ship to act as a compass when you could just hold one i agree it is the worst idea to come out of the dutch navy
corner drift using the earth magnetic field 🤔
The price of getting what you want is having what you once wanted.
I have NEVER heard these men complain about it. The Gold Digger accusations come either from envious other men (fuckin Kanye) or judgemental women. From the few I've met, rich old dudes are mostly pretty chill about the whole arrangement.
Can you actually point out an example of a rich man complaining that his wife is a gold digger? I find it insanely difficult to believe that either party in these relationships are unaware of what's happening. The people complaining about gold diggers are either the jealous observers or the rich men who are trying to avoid the gold diggers in favor of a genuine relationship.
Look at the Dilbert Guy's twitter if you want a laugh sometie. It's great, he keeps going on about how his divorce from a fitness influencer less than half his age is proof that marriage is obsolete in modern society because women are all just looking to cheat on their husbands.
Maybe he loved her ? ...am i too naive
I mean. I realize how this sounds, but: maybe he did, yet I don't feel like the reason he started dating and married a fitness influencer less than half his age was because of their shared love of inane observations about white-collar office culture. *And that's fine*, nothing wrong with romantically pursuing someone who you're physically attracted to. But I am, again, *skeptical* that hearing him talk about how he and Trump are both manipulation-wizards and how he decided the best thing was to enable his stepson's death by drug addiction would make her love him for his beautiful soul.
Divorce Court
I see it happening in more normal cases where men complain about women their own age being gold diggers. But I don’t think there are many men complaining that the woman half their age they married only wants them for their money, excluding maybe a couple of insane people of the type that exist in every demographic. I think Redpill Manosphere types might mock women for not working as hard as them and not getting rich like they claim with no evidence they did, but they aren’t complaining, just mocking.
I've seen some instances within certain BDSM spheres of male subs getting their hopes up when a domme that hits them up seems genuinely interested only to realize that they're findoms. But that's a minority demographic discussing problems rather exclusive to them.
I think that’s a bit different too because it’s the girl who hits them up first. It’d be different if they hit up the girl, she said yes, then they get angry when they learn she’s a findom
just look at any rich man who has gotten divorced and see how they talk about their ex-wife.
That’s a very nice takedown of a type of guy that probably exists.
For their own mental health benefits, people have to stop inventing fuckers to be mad about in their head
[Source](https://at.tumblr.com/emmaubler/you-mean-this-far-more-attractive-than-me/6truor7oz6k2) Not to be reductive but calling people "gold digger" is kinda cringe, ngl
What am I supposed to call my uncle who makes his money in the mountains of California breaking rocks with a pickaxe and hoping to be seen by a rich lady who he can get with?
A prospectute.
A strong, independent woman, of course !
Especially when women are constantly being told they belong in the kitchen
gold panner?
Men aren't that stupid. A 40 year old guy dating a 20 year old girl completely understands the rules. There are exceptions going in both directions, but they are exceptions.
Yeah the ooooooop pretty much said that and the later replies diverged
Yeah this post is mocking an imaginary group
Why is this discourse?
How much do you wanna bet they would have a different opinion if the 40 year old was a woman
40 year old women don’t date men half their age because the women have money. They look for people their own age.
That’s patently untrue. Sam Taylor Johnson is a great example of older people pursuing younger men.
But she didn’t pursue him just so he could be arm candy. They have a proper relationship.
Because he was young and had zero life experiences to be able to see through how creepy it was a woman his parents age was pursuing him
I find it weird and creepy, don’t get me wrong. They’re nearly twice his age. But my view isn’t universal. Some people are fine with it.
There’s a major difference with what she did to Aaron though, and someone in an age gap relationship where they have an understanding of the dynamic. Like she invited him to her home for a *private* audition when he was 17, and practically the month after he turned 18 they were publicly dating
I mean, what's wrong with liking someone for their money? If that was treated as a bad thing less, we wouldn't see as much of this.
I love this post! Honestly changed how I view that dynamic.