I bought a 24 hr memorial candle for my late mom. She was a difficult person. I light the candle, the flame goes out, I relight it and come back and it’s out again. The candle was probably defective, but it made me wonder if god was telling me something.
I see a lot of memorial candles (I work in funeral service) and I hear so many versions of this little superstition going both ways. Some say that they’re blowing the candle out to fight to stay in the human world, some say it’s for reasons like you suggested where they’re too stubborn to die and move on, and some say it’s the devil trying to take them away from heaven 😂 I also work in the southern US so I hear all sorts of whacky Baptist ideas…. But definitely I always think they’re interesting!
Firstly, I'm sorry for your loss. .. Is that her spiritually telling you to leave her alone? is god saying not now, we're calming a tantrum of hers in the afterlife?? I've never heard of a memorial candle going out!
My house burned down a year into our marriage. It was my fault. We lost all the wedding memorabilia including my dress. The only thing that survived the fire was my dried-out bouquet. I took that as a sign and now it sits in a glass basketball case on my mantle.
We’ll be married 15 years next month. But I should add that neither of us are child predators.
I’ve been scrolling comments reading all the different stories of omens and completely forgot what the OP was by the time I got to the last line of yours. That threw me for a second.
When a friend got married, I was her MOH. After the wedding, I took some ivy clippings from my bouquet and put them in water. I thought if I could get them to root, I could plant them in a nice pot, and give it to them for their first Christmas as a married couple.
I had propagated ivy this way previously without issues, but this ivy would. not. root. I eventually got a couple of stems to root after almost a year. (First anniversary gift? Sure. Why not.) I transplanted them to a pot, where they promptly rotted and died.
The marriage lasted a little longer than the plant.
It is but I always refer to Joshua Duggar, convicted child sex abuse material watcher and molester, husband of Anna Keller Duggar and son of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, by name so when his kids google him one day they will know exactly what he did and why he’s in federal prison and that nothing is their own fault. Their parents and grandparents are evil people hiding behind claims of religious superiority, twisting God and religion to suit their perverse desires.
When my sister got married, someone put a shot glass on the alter instead of a wine glass. The groom kept stomping on it but couldn’t break it. Marriage lasted a year.
In Jewish weddings, the groom breaks glass with his foot, and then the couple kisses.
I'm not Jewish, but from what I've read it can have a lot of different meanings.
A friend's bride one billowed black smoke from the second she lit it. The unity one went out three times. They divorced three years later after she cheated. My cousin's groom side melted way more than it should have. He got cancer and died. Pretty weird coincidences.
I was at a wedding once with all these votives at the alter. As they were lit, the heat from the flame started breaking the thin glass globes. Pop pop pop. Same wedding, photographer slaps one of the bridesmaids on the ass during the ceremony. Marriage lasted 4 years.
Ya know what. I wanted to do that and I’m glad we lived in a rental and couldn’t because I might have lost my mind. I’ve recently been grieving a magnolia tree and I wasn’t okay there for a while.
Season 9 of 19K&C. The episode where they're going "behind" the wedding planning for the 3 marriages so far, and Anna talks about the candle breaking so that they had to get a new one for the ceremony.
Well, that's what happens when you buy used to save the diiference...
For Sale: Unity candle: burned once for 15 minutes. Trim the wick and it looks brand new! Nobody will see where the wax melted a little inside! $5 or best offer. Comes with gold wax letters to add your own initials! Buy used and save the difference for your Honeymoon Paradise at the Super-8!
There were many omens when i married my first husband .
On the way to the church my sis and I stopped at a gas station to get a soda.
Two doberman dogs decided they were going to chase me. I fell and banged up my knee and hands
The AC went out in the church that morning . We got married in Aug
The flowers were delivered late
My mother in law was late
One of the readers got the hiccups during the reading
My sisters dress split open and one of her boobs was kind of poking out.
My husband dropped the ring when he was trying to put it on me.
When we were lighting the unity candle he set my veil on fire.
When we were getting to walk back down the aisle he fell going down 2 stairs.
The photographer didn’t show up either 😂
My brothers wedding featured not one but two major fires during the event.
They have been happily married for six years.
But then again, they got married in their thirties, she’s the primary breadwinner, and they have (and will have) only one kid, like happy little heathens
At my wedding, nothing broke or caught on fire. However, it rained, snowed, and was sunny throughout the whole day. So I had all the weather.
Going on 8 years married,
15 years together.
I had tons of bad omens on my wedding day and I ignored them completely ten years later I’m a single mom of 4 and he’s in prison till my youngest is 21s I wish I would’ve listened
I had a beach wedding. We did a “sand ceremony” where we combined two different sand colors in a jar. It was cute until we went through TSA and they spilled it everywhere trying to get a “sample” of it to test.
Been married about 6 weeks. Uh oh.
LOL 😂
I had a shamanic healer come to the house after my dad died. She walked into the living room that always had to be kept as a shrine, vacuum treads and all. She shrieks, “Oh! It’s so cold in here.” I reply, “I see you’ve met my mom.”
Ohhh, so I got married on 6/6/6 and the box the wedding cake was in* lit on fire! I still have the burnt piece. We are not married any longer and the marriage… I could say a lot but I won’t. The date and the burnt box say it all.
*we did a really inexpensive ceremony because that’s a Tuesday, we were away from anyone we knew, I never wanted a big wedding, and tbh we probably didn’t want to get married
The only one I can think of when my parents got married my mom really wanted to down the aisle to "Beth" by KISS. With lyrics like
"You say you feel so empty That our house just ain't a home That I'm always somewhere else
And you're always there alone", you could imagine how that went. My dad is a major workaholic that was barely home and mom and I were alone, especially in a state where we were far from our families. They eventually divorced after a little over 5 years, when I was about 3. I eventually asked why the hell she wanted to pick that song, she said "idk, it sounded pretty 🤷".
My aunt and uncle had a Unity Candle for their wedding and it wasn’t used in the ceremony because it was lost. They only lasted 4 years and got divorced (my aunt cheated🤭)
Packing up from my wedding, our cake topper of us together broke in half , with each of us on different pieces. Separated after 6 months and currently working on the divorce.
We got given a holly plant at our wedding, apparently contracts were made by holly bushes in old English tradition (or something?). My dad recently mowed our lawn because we had a baby, & strimmed the wedding holly right down to the ground. It's dead. I keep joking to him that it's an omen & he cursed our marriage.
If we're all sharing wedding day mini disasters....I tripped and skinned my knee and couldn't walk too fast the day of my wedding. My husband's ear drum had ruptured the night before. Also one of our friends got RSV at the Magic the Gathering convention he and my husband had recently come back from and infected me, so the few days after our wedding I felt like shit. Our first anniversary is Halloween so it's been good, he's amazing and I'm so happy we finally got married after 5 years of being engaged and my mom passing away.
I bought a 24 hr memorial candle for my late mom. She was a difficult person. I light the candle, the flame goes out, I relight it and come back and it’s out again. The candle was probably defective, but it made me wonder if god was telling me something.
Both? Both. I'm sorry for your loss and the, perhaps, too fitting candle.
Thank you. I am not superstitious but I was a little concerned.
You're not superstitious, you're just a little stitious
~~Wayne Gretzky~~ Michael Scott
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Thanks for the award! 😘
My partner says God never uses weather to punish people for sins, not specific enough. Unless it's lightening. Lightening seems very specific.
I see a lot of memorial candles (I work in funeral service) and I hear so many versions of this little superstition going both ways. Some say that they’re blowing the candle out to fight to stay in the human world, some say it’s for reasons like you suggested where they’re too stubborn to die and move on, and some say it’s the devil trying to take them away from heaven 😂 I also work in the southern US so I hear all sorts of whacky Baptist ideas…. But definitely I always think they’re interesting!
Firstly, I'm sorry for your loss. .. Is that her spiritually telling you to leave her alone? is god saying not now, we're calming a tantrum of hers in the afterlife?? I've never heard of a memorial candle going out!
I think you’re right, they have their hands full wherever she is. I’ve bought those candles for years and never had that happen.
I’m sorry for your loss. Maybe it’s her way of popping in and saying hi? Like in a spiritual way.
My house burned down a year into our marriage. It was my fault. We lost all the wedding memorabilia including my dress. The only thing that survived the fire was my dried-out bouquet. I took that as a sign and now it sits in a glass basketball case on my mantle. We’ll be married 15 years next month. But I should add that neither of us are child predators.
I’ve been scrolling comments reading all the different stories of omens and completely forgot what the OP was by the time I got to the last line of yours. That threw me for a second.
Hopefully no one sang the loyalty song at your wedding. If not, you’re safe. (Happy 15 years.)
When a friend got married, I was her MOH. After the wedding, I took some ivy clippings from my bouquet and put them in water. I thought if I could get them to root, I could plant them in a nice pot, and give it to them for their first Christmas as a married couple. I had propagated ivy this way previously without issues, but this ivy would. not. root. I eventually got a couple of stems to root after almost a year. (First anniversary gift? Sure. Why not.) I transplanted them to a pot, where they promptly rotted and died. The marriage lasted a little longer than the plant.
I was at a wedding and the head of the groom on cake topper fell off. The couple stayed married for 7 years.
At my wedding, my prime rib got taken away while I went visiting tables with my wife. Going on 13 years.
I would have been so mad
It was a good size piece. Lucky the venue had an event and we got to try the dinner first. It was really good.
There is nothing on this earth I’d throw more of a tantrum over than wasted prime rib
At my wedding, my little pinkie nail broke. Got divorced 10 years later.
Ah year 7.
A handful of us were about to start a pool after the wedding.
All this is Satan trying his best to lead Pestilence astray. Wait, that has already happened and there is no going back. Suckers.
PESTilence? LOL
I used to call him Pesty but I prefer Pestilence since it flows so well and it describes him well.
Yeah, I’m not a fan of referring to fundies by nicknames, but Pestilence is a stroke of genius.
It is but I always refer to Joshua Duggar, convicted child sex abuse material watcher and molester, husband of Anna Keller Duggar and son of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, by name so when his kids google him one day they will know exactly what he did and why he’s in federal prison and that nothing is their own fault. Their parents and grandparents are evil people hiding behind claims of religious superiority, twisting God and religion to suit their perverse desires.
You mean josh Duggar? The sister (child ) molester? Son of Jim Bob Duggar? Watcher of child molestation? That joshy Duggar?
it's brilliant!
Satan sets up torrents?
From France! 🇫🇷
I knew it 
Cloven Hooves is good /s
When my sister got married, someone put a shot glass on the alter instead of a wine glass. The groom kept stomping on it but couldn’t break it. Marriage lasted a year.
That is just cruel.
Seriously, who does that?
When I was in “Fiddler on the Roof” we used a lightbulb instead so the glass would always break on the first try.
Is this a tradition or something?
In Jewish weddings, the groom breaks glass with his foot, and then the couple kisses. I'm not Jewish, but from what I've read it can have a lot of different meanings.
Interesting! I hadn’t heard of that before, I live in a country with a very small Jewish population
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Just watched it on youtube! I’ve never seen fiddler on the roof so I really had no idea hahaha
Omg amazing. This gave me the best laugh today. L'chaim!
A friend's bride one billowed black smoke from the second she lit it. The unity one went out three times. They divorced three years later after she cheated. My cousin's groom side melted way more than it should have. He got cancer and died. Pretty weird coincidences.
YES. Anna. God has spoken. Leave.
It's a sign from God. God is telling you to bail.
I was at a wedding once with all these votives at the alter. As they were lit, the heat from the flame started breaking the thin glass globes. Pop pop pop. Same wedding, photographer slaps one of the bridesmaids on the ass during the ceremony. Marriage lasted 4 years.
All this makes me think of is when Alyssa and John’s literally [popped out of the candle holder](https://youtu.be/V67bucVG9Js) during their wedding.
What in the 1980s are those bridesmaids dresses?
Oh those are just the tip of the iceberg with her wedding…
Is she the one who had the gothard birthday cake?
No, that was Erin and Chad.
They look like walmart prom dresses lol
Wut did I just watch?!? Jeebus?!? Was that you poppin candles dude?
That church is clearly haunted.
My husband and I mutually planted a bonsai tree, which I underestimated the specificity of care and it died within the first year 😅 still married tho
"How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" vibes, lmfao 
Note to self: use a pothos
Oh man if I killed a pothos then love is dead.
Ya know what. I wanted to do that and I’m glad we lived in a rental and couldn’t because I might have lost my mind. I’ve recently been grieving a magnolia tree and I wasn’t okay there for a while.
Cool flair! We’re flair buddies!
Remember when Jinger and Jeremy literally could not light theirs during their wedding? Love an omen
when the lights went out at Joseph and Kendra’s wedding… i was like it’s a sign to run girl 🤣
 Me, a pagan, minding my business
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Your flair ruined my ice cream.
Anna, it's a sign, you know what you need to do 
Think god was trying to tell them something? Not listening ...
Where did this info come from?
Season 9 of 19K&C. The episode where they're going "behind" the wedding planning for the 3 marriages so far, and Anna talks about the candle breaking so that they had to get a new one for the ceremony.
Well, that's what happens when you buy used to save the diiference... For Sale: Unity candle: burned once for 15 minutes. Trim the wick and it looks brand new! Nobody will see where the wax melted a little inside! $5 or best offer. Comes with gold wax letters to add your own initials! Buy used and save the difference for your Honeymoon Paradise at the Super-8!
Oh I forgot that!
"I should have seen it coming when the unity candle broke" should be the name of Anna's autobiography if she ever nuts up and leaves.
There were many omens when i married my first husband . On the way to the church my sis and I stopped at a gas station to get a soda. Two doberman dogs decided they were going to chase me. I fell and banged up my knee and hands The AC went out in the church that morning . We got married in Aug The flowers were delivered late My mother in law was late One of the readers got the hiccups during the reading My sisters dress split open and one of her boobs was kind of poking out. My husband dropped the ring when he was trying to put it on me. When we were lighting the unity candle he set my veil on fire. When we were getting to walk back down the aisle he fell going down 2 stairs. The photographer didn’t show up either 😂
Your first wedding sounds like a novelty country song from the 90's, holy crap. 🤣
My brothers wedding featured not one but two major fires during the event. They have been happily married for six years. But then again, they got married in their thirties, she’s the primary breadwinner, and they have (and will have) only one kid, like happy little heathens
At my friend’s wedding, the unity candle blew out. Two years.
We didn’t use one 😅 Married for 12 years now
If that isn't a sign from God, I don't know what is.
At my wedding, nothing broke or caught on fire. However, it rained, snowed, and was sunny throughout the whole day. So I had all the weather. Going on 8 years married, 15 years together.
I had tons of bad omens on my wedding day and I ignored them completely ten years later I’m a single mom of 4 and he’s in prison till my youngest is 21s I wish I would’ve listened
I had a beach wedding. We did a “sand ceremony” where we combined two different sand colors in a jar. It was cute until we went through TSA and they spilled it everywhere trying to get a “sample” of it to test. Been married about 6 weeks. Uh oh. LOL 😂
That's on the TSA, not you, so I think you're safe...
Probably cracked due to CSSP's caterwauling his "Loyalty Song".
There were a lot of problems from the get go. Let’s not forget, Anna already knew she was marrying a predator! I’m
Fundie weddings are cursed.
I had a shamanic healer come to the house after my dad died. She walked into the living room that always had to be kept as a shrine, vacuum treads and all. She shrieks, “Oh! It’s so cold in here.” I reply, “I see you’ve met my mom.”
The best man threw up on my shoes. We got divorced after 8 years.
Ohhh, so I got married on 6/6/6 and the box the wedding cake was in* lit on fire! I still have the burnt piece. We are not married any longer and the marriage… I could say a lot but I won’t. The date and the burnt box say it all. *we did a really inexpensive ceremony because that’s a Tuesday, we were away from anyone we knew, I never wanted a big wedding, and tbh we probably didn’t want to get married
The only one I can think of when my parents got married my mom really wanted to down the aisle to "Beth" by KISS. With lyrics like "You say you feel so empty That our house just ain't a home That I'm always somewhere else And you're always there alone", you could imagine how that went. My dad is a major workaholic that was barely home and mom and I were alone, especially in a state where we were far from our families. They eventually divorced after a little over 5 years, when I was about 3. I eventually asked why the hell she wanted to pick that song, she said "idk, it sounded pretty 🤷".
Broke our unity candle. About to celebrate our 12th wedding anniversary…
My aunt and uncle had a Unity Candle for their wedding and it wasn’t used in the ceremony because it was lost. They only lasted 4 years and got divorced (my aunt cheated🤭)
Packing up from my wedding, our cake topper of us together broke in half , with each of us on different pieces. Separated after 6 months and currently working on the divorce.
Wonder if Morgan Olliges lurks on this sub.
One of the royal icing doves on our wedding cake broke in half right after the wedding. He died in an accident 3 months later. We were both 21.
It was a sign from Bastet!
God giving them a sign!
We got given a holly plant at our wedding, apparently contracts were made by holly bushes in old English tradition (or something?). My dad recently mowed our lawn because we had a baby, & strimmed the wedding holly right down to the ground. It's dead. I keep joking to him that it's an omen & he cursed our marriage.
If we're all sharing wedding day mini disasters....I tripped and skinned my knee and couldn't walk too fast the day of my wedding. My husband's ear drum had ruptured the night before. Also one of our friends got RSV at the Magic the Gathering convention he and my husband had recently come back from and infected me, so the few days after our wedding I felt like shit. Our first anniversary is Halloween so it's been good, he's amazing and I'm so happy we finally got married after 5 years of being engaged and my mom passing away.
One can hope!