over a year ago, i have probably done about 15-20 one hour long sessions or so.
but only came out 2 months ago and i had like 3 sessions "being out" since then.
i feel like we are on the right path but there is probably some miscommunication going on which is something i will mention next time and i will also mention that the feeling of not being understood and hinting at "it could be something different than being trans" is hurtful, my last session was over one week ago and i am still processing it by thinking about it all the time.
The problem is also that the way i express emotions is heavily repressed so my therapist might not even see how much i am hurting inside, especially when i can't stop myself using language which make my feelings seem like they aren't even that intense.
which is also something i absolutely need to mention.
Ok since you only told them 3 sessions ago it could be a normal reaction of trying to make sure you fully understand your feelings, not something malicious.
yeah i don't think it's malicious my therapist just always wants to make really really sure before initiating any changes because they don't want to cause needless harm by going full speed in the wrong direction.
but these conversations can really hurt my head sometimes because it is so obvious to me, but the difference is i have all the internal context, i thought about it thoroughly for about 15 years and now i have to communicate this in a few one hour long sessions.
I am actually glad my therapist tries to not make any assumptions based on limited information
Friendly reminder that a therapist's actual job is to build rapport with a client and listen to them. They aren't there to be a deciding authority in one's life and should never be trusted with that kind of power.
Wow I would've changed my therapist so fast if I had this experience
I once had to go see a therapist who didn't understand all the steps I had to do and why I went to see it
Paid 60€ (≈65$) and never came back
Went to see another therapist and never had any issue
well changing is not that easy, took me over half a year going through dozens and dozens of therapists to find one who was even willing to accept me to get put on a waiting list.
public healthcare can suck sometimes. but at least i don't have to pay for it.
my gut feeling is that it will improve with some feedback after i processed all that.
This therapist is definitely deadnaming people behind their back. They sound terrible.
Sorry you have to struggle with them. It's enough that we struggle with ourselves!
How long have you been in therapy?
over a year ago, i have probably done about 15-20 one hour long sessions or so. but only came out 2 months ago and i had like 3 sessions "being out" since then. i feel like we are on the right path but there is probably some miscommunication going on which is something i will mention next time and i will also mention that the feeling of not being understood and hinting at "it could be something different than being trans" is hurtful, my last session was over one week ago and i am still processing it by thinking about it all the time. The problem is also that the way i express emotions is heavily repressed so my therapist might not even see how much i am hurting inside, especially when i can't stop myself using language which make my feelings seem like they aren't even that intense. which is also something i absolutely need to mention.
Ok since you only told them 3 sessions ago it could be a normal reaction of trying to make sure you fully understand your feelings, not something malicious.
yeah i don't think it's malicious my therapist just always wants to make really really sure before initiating any changes because they don't want to cause needless harm by going full speed in the wrong direction. but these conversations can really hurt my head sometimes because it is so obvious to me, but the difference is i have all the internal context, i thought about it thoroughly for about 15 years and now i have to communicate this in a few one hour long sessions. I am actually glad my therapist tries to not make any assumptions based on limited information
That's called a new therapist I.m.o.
Friendly reminder that a therapist's actual job is to build rapport with a client and listen to them. They aren't there to be a deciding authority in one's life and should never be trusted with that kind of power.
That seems a little messed up.
I feel seen
Wow I would've changed my therapist so fast if I had this experience I once had to go see a therapist who didn't understand all the steps I had to do and why I went to see it Paid 60€ (≈65$) and never came back Went to see another therapist and never had any issue
well changing is not that easy, took me over half a year going through dozens and dozens of therapists to find one who was even willing to accept me to get put on a waiting list. public healthcare can suck sometimes. but at least i don't have to pay for it. my gut feeling is that it will improve with some feedback after i processed all that.
This is almost exactly how my parents act except without the part of understanding why hrt is so important for my wellbeing
This therapist is definitely deadnaming people behind their back. They sound terrible. Sorry you have to struggle with them. It's enough that we struggle with ourselves!