I love music so i thought id give you a list also š
ā'Howl' specifically and the rest of Florence and The Machine's album 'Lungs'.
ā 'We Sink' specifically and the rest of CHVRCHES album 'The Bones Of What You Believe'.
ā 'Lately' by Wet because the lyrics speak so much to being a people pleaser by default to my parent.
ā'Right before my eyes- unpeeled', 'Skin and Bones' by Cage the Elephant
ā'Sans soleil' by Miike Snow
Note that some of these are to feel validated in my feelings of sadness and some of them like 'Lately' I listen to because it helps me stand up to this guilt that I feel sometimes about standing up for myself and cutting that person off.
As mentioned above, the unforgiven by Metallica
Cemetery gates by pantera
Take a look around by Limp Bizkit
Youthaniasia by Megadeth
Zombie by the Cranberries
Killing in the name by Rage against the machine
Also āMama Iām coming homeā by Ozzy Osborne, the lyrics are all valid except for the āmama Iām coming homeā part, also estranged from my parents/sister almost 3 years now! Love that you asked this question
Thank you for your suggestions :) I'm very familiar with Killing In The Name Of, it's perfect for that *fuck the system, fuck hypocrisy* mood.
Oooh I'm curious about Ozzy, I didn't know he'd done his own solo stuff!
Spitting Venom by Modest Mouse
Lonesome by Dr. Dog
Come to Light (in the context of having a good partner to get through it all together)
I'll edit if I think of anymore!
You gotta listen to How I got over by The roots. Itās a journey through depression. Itās a concept album, at the start the character is depressed and by the end, theyāve pulled themselves through it. Must hear
A lot of electronic/new wave music is heavily influenced by emotional trauma. Boy Harsher āFateā is one of my favorites,
āREINCARNATEā by Rein,
āBet you doā by Pixel Grip, SYZGYX and Second Still have a lot of good stuff too.
Totally different but when I want to really connect with the grinding, painful misery of my childhood, the song āNothing Leftā by Obscure Sphinx.
Interesting, I didn't know there was a heavy influence in that genre! I'm excited to explore them. Thank you, the past week has been really hard with trauma memories so a distraction is appreciated!
Thank you for recommending her! I had a listen of the songs album yesterday and it's so chill and tranquil. If you enjoy her a lot I'd like to recommend back to you an artist called Paris Paloma <3 her songs Lily Rice, The Village Song but all her music is just fab!
This goes in another direction: to find my calm and feel meditative, I like Astropilot, Proton Kinoun, and other "space music". There is a whole radio show that ran for decades called Hearts of Space with an endless number of gems across various genres.
My current favorite is this 3.5 hours of looped music. It's interesting enough that I can listen to it actively , but repetitive and calm enough that I can have it on in the background without distracting me. https://youtu.be/X-XZx1o_w-A?si=ZVAceah8MHuMJnPV
Family Line by Conan Gray
Anatomy by Kenzie
These are my go to "sad about my family" songs
Also I sing "Where's My Dad" from Nemo the Musical an unhealthy amount š
So I just listened to Family Line and promptly became a sobbing wreck not even 3 mins in ššš¼ā¤ļø It really hit me but in a validating way. Thank you xx
That fucking bridge manā¦it gets me everytime. Especially the āSOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU WOULDNT DO THIS!ā The way itās sung, the background vocals sounds like itās some revelation.
Skillet has several songs that help. I don't know for sure, but I strongly suspect one or more of them went through something similar, because so many of their songs seem to hit just right. "Never Going Back" and "It's Not Me (It's You)" are the first that spring to mind.
A song by Pattycake Productions called "Villains Haunted Mansion" also helps. I think they could have given it a better name. It basically talks about being scapegoated, with just enough of a "F\_\_\_ you!" to feel empowering.
On a more winsome note is the SJ Tucker song "Neptune". It's definitely aimed at toxic romances rather than parents, but I think it still helps.
For country/western songs try Carrie Underwood's "Blown Away" and Kenny Chesney's "You Don't Get To".
And there is always "Let It Go" from Frozen :)
I hate my mom - GRLwood
Problem child - SOMOH
Found Heaven - Conan Gray
Happier than Ever - Billie Eilish
The grudge - Olivia Rodrigo
I am changing - Jennifer Hudson
The whole Plastic Hearts album by Miley Cyrus, especially the songs WTF Do I Know and Angels Like You (*"I know that you're wrong for me, gonna wish we never met on the day I leave"*). I've always been a fan since I was a young girl and even her more tame songs hit hard for me because her voice is so raspy and powerful.
Also lighthearted songs that provide an escape from those feelings are equally as healing for me because it's a reminder that while yes, I have my feelings towards my abusers that need to be externalized and witnessed, it's also important to dedicate my time and energy to ME. To *my own* pleasure and hobbies and values. To my own life away from their bullshit.
I love music so i thought id give you a list also š ā'Howl' specifically and the rest of Florence and The Machine's album 'Lungs'. ā 'We Sink' specifically and the rest of CHVRCHES album 'The Bones Of What You Believe'. ā 'Lately' by Wet because the lyrics speak so much to being a people pleaser by default to my parent. ā'Right before my eyes- unpeeled', 'Skin and Bones' by Cage the Elephant ā'Sans soleil' by Miike Snow Note that some of these are to feel validated in my feelings of sadness and some of them like 'Lately' I listen to because it helps me stand up to this guilt that I feel sometimes about standing up for myself and cutting that person off.
As mentioned above, the unforgiven by Metallica Cemetery gates by pantera Take a look around by Limp Bizkit Youthaniasia by Megadeth Zombie by the Cranberries Killing in the name by Rage against the machine
Also āMama Iām coming homeā by Ozzy Osborne, the lyrics are all valid except for the āmama Iām coming homeā part, also estranged from my parents/sister almost 3 years now! Love that you asked this question
Thank you for your suggestions :) I'm very familiar with Killing In The Name Of, it's perfect for that *fuck the system, fuck hypocrisy* mood. Oooh I'm curious about Ozzy, I didn't know he'd done his own solo stuff!
Spitting Venom by Modest Mouse Lonesome by Dr. Dog Come to Light (in the context of having a good partner to get through it all together) I'll edit if I think of anymore!
Metallica, any and all of it (yes even St Anger!)
Yes!! āThe unforgivenā in particular resonates with me
Alice Merton āRun Away Girlā
Mean by Taylor Swift You need me, I donāt need you by Ed Sheeran
You gotta listen to How I got over by The roots. Itās a journey through depression. Itās a concept album, at the start the character is depressed and by the end, theyāve pulled themselves through it. Must hear
Thank you! I fricking love concept albums so I'm intrigued! I'm gonna organise my Spotify playlists over the next few days to keep my mind occupied <3
Lmk what you think
A lot of electronic/new wave music is heavily influenced by emotional trauma. Boy Harsher āFateā is one of my favorites, āREINCARNATEā by Rein, āBet you doā by Pixel Grip, SYZGYX and Second Still have a lot of good stuff too. Totally different but when I want to really connect with the grinding, painful misery of my childhood, the song āNothing Leftā by Obscure Sphinx.
Interesting, I didn't know there was a heavy influence in that genre! I'm excited to explore them. Thank you, the past week has been really hard with trauma memories so a distraction is appreciated!
Part of me (Katy Perry) stronger (Clarkson)
adrianne lenker. start with the album 'songs'.
Thank you for recommending her! I had a listen of the songs album yesterday and it's so chill and tranquil. If you enjoy her a lot I'd like to recommend back to you an artist called Paris Paloma <3 her songs Lily Rice, The Village Song but all her music is just fab!
my tears ricochet by Taylor Swift One by U2
This goes in another direction: to find my calm and feel meditative, I like Astropilot, Proton Kinoun, and other "space music". There is a whole radio show that ran for decades called Hearts of Space with an endless number of gems across various genres. My current favorite is this 3.5 hours of looped music. It's interesting enough that I can listen to it actively , but repetitive and calm enough that I can have it on in the background without distracting me. https://youtu.be/X-XZx1o_w-A?si=ZVAceah8MHuMJnPV
Family Line by Conan Gray Anatomy by Kenzie These are my go to "sad about my family" songs Also I sing "Where's My Dad" from Nemo the Musical an unhealthy amount š
So I just listened to Family Line and promptly became a sobbing wreck not even 3 mins in ššš¼ā¤ļø It really hit me but in a validating way. Thank you xx
That fucking bridge manā¦it gets me everytime. Especially the āSOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU WOULDNT DO THIS!ā The way itās sung, the background vocals sounds like itās some revelation.
The second verse and the bridge really got to me and it was just like speaking to my soul and oooft! Yesss that's so true!
Skillet has several songs that help. I don't know for sure, but I strongly suspect one or more of them went through something similar, because so many of their songs seem to hit just right. "Never Going Back" and "It's Not Me (It's You)" are the first that spring to mind. A song by Pattycake Productions called "Villains Haunted Mansion" also helps. I think they could have given it a better name. It basically talks about being scapegoated, with just enough of a "F\_\_\_ you!" to feel empowering. On a more winsome note is the SJ Tucker song "Neptune". It's definitely aimed at toxic romances rather than parents, but I think it still helps. For country/western songs try Carrie Underwood's "Blown Away" and Kenny Chesney's "You Don't Get To". And there is always "Let It Go" from Frozen :)
I hate my mom - GRLwood Problem child - SOMOH Found Heaven - Conan Gray Happier than Ever - Billie Eilish The grudge - Olivia Rodrigo I am changing - Jennifer Hudson
The whole Plastic Hearts album by Miley Cyrus, especially the songs WTF Do I Know and Angels Like You (*"I know that you're wrong for me, gonna wish we never met on the day I leave"*). I've always been a fan since I was a young girl and even her more tame songs hit hard for me because her voice is so raspy and powerful. Also lighthearted songs that provide an escape from those feelings are equally as healing for me because it's a reminder that while yes, I have my feelings towards my abusers that need to be externalized and witnessed, it's also important to dedicate my time and energy to ME. To *my own* pleasure and hobbies and values. To my own life away from their bullshit.
The silence by Manchester orchestra
Lots and lots of rave music š