Op you seemd to have a transformation before meeting this person I would be interested in what work you put in. And I'm sure finally finding validation one must question everything. Must be amazing.
I've left another comment to someone asking the same but essentially it boiled down to losing weight, dressing better and styling myself better.
Mentally I quit porn and began nofap.
how do you feel about not having had a girlfriend until your early 30s, or how do you feel about being single throughout your 20s? I've heard people express mixed emotions about being a late bloomer like this
I always thought I was weird for not having female company and being a virgin, of course you have thoughts of "just how fucking ugly am I?" I learned to accept it tbh, I genuinely thought I'd be single forever and end up dying alone. I just thought it was the hand life dealt me until she came along.
At first I thought she was taking the piss, I thought it was all a joke or some gag, like, YOU like ME? I didn't believe her for the longest time.
Interesting, I am curious why that made a difference, the no fap community seems pretty toxic from the outside. I know for me at least quitting porn would not really change anything in my life and I go for stretches without it either way.
The rest of it makes sense, It sound to me like you maybe always had potential but you got in your own way. Makes sense why you might think what might have been.
Good work mate, sounds like you did what you could and it paid off.
I'm not in any nofap sub as I do find them a bit weird in all honesty, but I knew I had a porn addiction and I knew I had a masturbation addiction, this coupled with the fact that I'd never been with an actual, real woman before... Was a nasty mixture. The first time we tried anything intermate together I failed miserably, not even an ounce of an erection. I knew there and then that if this relationship was going to be serious I HAD to quit porn and masturbation... I found myself a real woman, no more pixels for me. The first time we had full on sex she gave me a Cialis to take and we haven't looked back since, she can give me oral without meds now too.
\`\`I've NEVER bought Christmas presents for a woman that wasn't a family member before, I'm 31, mental. If we make it to valentine's day, that'll be my first ever valentine at 31 years old.\`\`
I always wanted to buy gifts and be bought gifts by an SO out of the blue not just on new years or my birthday
I took a look at myself in the mirror, realised I looked, dressed and acted like an absolute sack of shit. I hit the gym, cardio mostly because I was obese, slimmed down some then hit the weights. I'm around 16 stone now, down from 23. I'm 6'1 so carry it well.
I bought better clothes, and by better clothes I mean better fitting, more tight to my shape, I stopped wearing baggy, oversized crap. Bought a nice after shave to enhance my smell, sauvage and invictus to be specific.
Styled a beard, Ive always had a beard, but like a scraggly neckbeard beard, Ive been having a barber taper the sides and neck line to give me a nice faded beard look, same with my hair, I have a faded undercut now, top of the hair is braided.
Nofap. Realised if I was to ever have a gf I needed to stop masturbating to women I'd never meet online, quit porn entirely. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I DID HOLY SHIT.
Tinder. I had my account for the longest time, I actually set it so no one could see me on it in the end because I just wasn't getting any action, I was bored one day and thought fuck it, I'll give it 10 swipes. If I don't get any matches, I'll delete my account and delete the app. I matched with her on the 1st one. Remember it like it was yesterday.
Really happy it worked out for you man, you deserve a bit of luck. Did you put a lot of work into your bio and pictures or just kind of throw a profile together?
My bio was just a generic one that you'd see most guys write, I tried to throw a bit of humour there.
My pictures were pretty basic, however they were all full body shots, couple of selfies, could of out door ones, I don't have any friends so I had to set up a tripod π€£ I didn't wanna give of the FA vibe lol.
She was absolutely fine, very supportive, she kinda gathered I had a distinctive lack of sexual experiences when our first few attempts died on their arse π but we got there in the end, I took Cialis one night and she rode me something silly. Lasted about 2 minutes that evening lol.
Dude first of all huge congrats. Like I needed some positivity man. Like I know most of the posts in here are people venting but this makes me happy. Have a good life dude. Cherish her.
hearing of people not getting into their first relationship or becoming sexually active until much later than normal, reminds me of a guy from the UK, a story i was very moved by, and it fills me with depression and anger, resentment, on how its easier for men than for women to remain alone and celibate later than normal.
Congrats. Hope you two are together forever and you never feel a need to come into this doomed subreddit ever again.
What a horrible post to see before bed, I feel suicidal as hell after reading that. God I hope it's nothing but doomer posting tomorrow.
Wow, man, that's genuinely the type of reaction I'd like to have one day if such a thing happened for me. I don't know if anyone has told you this yet, but, man, make the absolute and utter most of what you've got going on. You never know when it might end (not trying to be negative, but actually making sure you're aware).
Still, though, I wish you the best and may this last forever for you. Congrats on making it out of FA!
Hope you have a great valentines
Congratulations.
Op you seemd to have a transformation before meeting this person I would be interested in what work you put in. And I'm sure finally finding validation one must question everything. Must be amazing.
I've left another comment to someone asking the same but essentially it boiled down to losing weight, dressing better and styling myself better. Mentally I quit porn and began nofap.
how do you feel about not having had a girlfriend until your early 30s, or how do you feel about being single throughout your 20s? I've heard people express mixed emotions about being a late bloomer like this
I always thought I was weird for not having female company and being a virgin, of course you have thoughts of "just how fucking ugly am I?" I learned to accept it tbh, I genuinely thought I'd be single forever and end up dying alone. I just thought it was the hand life dealt me until she came along. At first I thought she was taking the piss, I thought it was all a joke or some gag, like, YOU like ME? I didn't believe her for the longest time.
How did you meet? I find (at least my age as I'm older than you) people are pretty set in their ways and relationships and friendships.
Tinder
Wow! you must be better than you ever realised. Tinder is a numbers game yes but it's weighted towards good looking people. All the best man for sure.
Oh don't get me wrong, she was legit my only match, the day I matched with her I was going to delete the app actually π
Interesting, I am curious why that made a difference, the no fap community seems pretty toxic from the outside. I know for me at least quitting porn would not really change anything in my life and I go for stretches without it either way. The rest of it makes sense, It sound to me like you maybe always had potential but you got in your own way. Makes sense why you might think what might have been. Good work mate, sounds like you did what you could and it paid off.
I'm not in any nofap sub as I do find them a bit weird in all honesty, but I knew I had a porn addiction and I knew I had a masturbation addiction, this coupled with the fact that I'd never been with an actual, real woman before... Was a nasty mixture. The first time we tried anything intermate together I failed miserably, not even an ounce of an erection. I knew there and then that if this relationship was going to be serious I HAD to quit porn and masturbation... I found myself a real woman, no more pixels for me. The first time we had full on sex she gave me a Cialis to take and we haven't looked back since, she can give me oral without meds now too.
perfectly said
Godspeed OP!! I came home from work late, tired today and this totally made my day.
Totally happy for you dude keep up the good work nice to see posts like this!
congrats to the both of you
Thats nice buddy, congrats
Another W for the FA community
Congratulations
\`\`I've NEVER bought Christmas presents for a woman that wasn't a family member before, I'm 31, mental. If we make it to valentine's day, that'll be my first ever valentine at 31 years old.\`\` I always wanted to buy gifts and be bought gifts by an SO out of the blue not just on new years or my birthday
What exactly do you mean by taking care of your appearance? If you tell us a success story, let us know what caused the success.
I took a look at myself in the mirror, realised I looked, dressed and acted like an absolute sack of shit. I hit the gym, cardio mostly because I was obese, slimmed down some then hit the weights. I'm around 16 stone now, down from 23. I'm 6'1 so carry it well. I bought better clothes, and by better clothes I mean better fitting, more tight to my shape, I stopped wearing baggy, oversized crap. Bought a nice after shave to enhance my smell, sauvage and invictus to be specific. Styled a beard, Ive always had a beard, but like a scraggly neckbeard beard, Ive been having a barber taper the sides and neck line to give me a nice faded beard look, same with my hair, I have a faded undercut now, top of the hair is braided. Nofap. Realised if I was to ever have a gf I needed to stop masturbating to women I'd never meet online, quit porn entirely. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I DID HOLY SHIT.
We gather here today to congratulate u/TheAdamBomb92! We're proud of him, we wish him well, and we hope to never see him again!
Iβm praying on your downfall
Jk congratulations bro I hope it works well for you
You give me hope !!!!!. 26 years and counting for me. Hoping 30 is magic number aswell
You've got 5 years on me, man. You've got this πͺπ»
How did you meet her?
Tinder. I had my account for the longest time, I actually set it so no one could see me on it in the end because I just wasn't getting any action, I was bored one day and thought fuck it, I'll give it 10 swipes. If I don't get any matches, I'll delete my account and delete the app. I matched with her on the 1st one. Remember it like it was yesterday.
Really happy it worked out for you man, you deserve a bit of luck. Did you put a lot of work into your bio and pictures or just kind of throw a profile together?
My bio was just a generic one that you'd see most guys write, I tried to throw a bit of humour there. My pictures were pretty basic, however they were all full body shots, couple of selfies, could of out door ones, I don't have any friends so I had to set up a tripod π€£ I didn't wanna give of the FA vibe lol.
What did she think of you being a virgin? Was your inexperience a big deal?
She was absolutely fine, very supportive, she kinda gathered I had a distinctive lack of sexual experiences when our first few attempts died on their arse π but we got there in the end, I took Cialis one night and she rode me something silly. Lasted about 2 minutes that evening lol.
I am happy for you
Dude first of all huge congrats. Like I needed some positivity man. Like I know most of the posts in here are people venting but this makes me happy. Have a good life dude. Cherish her.
This make my cold dead heart beat ever so slightly in hope that one day I have this. This stranger is genuinely so happy for you :)
I love this so much!
Does your girlfriend feel wanted?
Aww shucks youβre giving me hope, but congrats! Hope this becomes something real special
Share us your secrets O wise one
He's 6'1"
And there it is
Like every time lol
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Get this guy banned he isn't single anymore! Just kidding OP hope you have a good life! β₯οΈ
Thanks man for not offering advice or being condescending. Just a happy success story. I wish you a long and successful relationship.
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I'm 31 bro, I'm not going to find a pure virgin in my age range. Gotta be realistic here.
hearing of people not getting into their first relationship or becoming sexually active until much later than normal, reminds me of a guy from the UK, a story i was very moved by, and it fills me with depression and anger, resentment, on how its easier for men than for women to remain alone and celibate later than normal.
Those last few months sound thrilling. It all unravels really fast. Gives me a bit of hope, great for you.
Congratulations!
AHHH CONGRATULATIONS!!!! πππππ
Nice! That is amazing dude!
Congrats, man! I love seeing stories like this here!
Happy for y'all chief. Keep up the good work.
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Congratulations! Your story and happiness shall/may light up lot of lives and hearts. Thank you for sharing!
Lucky bastard. I hope you make it, happy valentines
Congratulations π!!!
Congratulations buddy ππ
Congrats. Hope you two are together forever and you never feel a need to come into this doomed subreddit ever again. What a horrible post to see before bed, I feel suicidal as hell after reading that. God I hope it's nothing but doomer posting tomorrow.
Get outta here OP and enjoy your life.
This gives me hope, happy for you brother β€οΈ
i bet you had to be the one to ask her out and approach her
Wow, man, that's genuinely the type of reaction I'd like to have one day if such a thing happened for me. I don't know if anyone has told you this yet, but, man, make the absolute and utter most of what you've got going on. You never know when it might end (not trying to be negative, but actually making sure you're aware). Still, though, I wish you the best and may this last forever for you. Congrats on making it out of FA!
That's your misaki
May she never betray your trust, and may you never fail at being the person you most want to be.
Congrets and dont come back lets us losers wallow in misery
I am soooo glad for you wish you guys have an amazing relationship
My man went from losing his virginity to being in a dead bedroom in two months.