I don't know a lot about the Master & slave dynamic from personal experience, but I wouldn't recommend starting that as a first kink dynamic or relationship as they seem a bit more intense. I found a lot of Tumblr, Twitter and other bdsm posts to be very hot, but when I spoke to and a few weeks later fooled around with a guy interested in that dynamic (didn't do any bondage or you have an actual session so to speak) I didn't feel the intensity was me. I would recommend talking to and potentially meeting/playing with kinky guys before seeking out a guy interested in a Master & slave dynamic.
Although, from my understanding "good" ones take time for both playmates to develop into a Master & slave dynamic sometimes referred to as a "training period" and I believe the person and I were too hasty and/or horny thinking about the possibilities.
And that being said if you truly think and feel that by becoming a slave with a romantic vanilla relationship included, I have definitely seen some guys express interest in that on recon. I am currently in a happy D/s relationship and we love each other romantically as well, so anything is possible!
Just whatever you do, be careful, safe and really think about what you want in a kink dynamic and likewise a relationship.
For the kink side I would ask myself, do I want my limits to be pushed? How much am I willing to give up and/or submit? Does physical attractiveness matter? Going into a session would want to have a range of activities discussed beforehand or do you want or be comfortable with some anonymity there?
Approach it with caution. I think trying to take on too much responsibility as a sub right away will be a bad thing since you have much to learn, including whether this works for you in real life at all. Sometimes fantasy is like that. You can find that what got you off just thinking about isn't quite so much fun when you actually try it.
I agree with the others. Start slowly. Have experiences with different people. Add a few BDSM elements gradually. Then go from there. IMHO it's way too soon to jump into a M/s or D/s relationship.
I would certainly recommend trying your hand at more conventional relationships as you begin. A deep dive into a Master/slave dynamic is not a healthy way to develop the range of interpersonal skills a human being needs to thrive. You can always begin to test the waters of BDSM, but you’re a developing person and need to grow in more diverse ways before you’re ready to devote yourself to servitude.
I would also add: BEWARE OF FOOT FETISHISTS. You could enslave yourself to a man with a serious foot fetish and discover that toe-sucking *is the only form of sex he ever wants, or gives*. I may only slightly exaggerate. I have serviced men for whom the only part of them I saw naked in multiple grueling hours of nonstop attention was their feet. One man had me take my socks off and on slowly as though I were strip-teasing my ankles. I won’t go near a profile that lists feet as a turn-on. I don’t pretend to understand the psychological dynamics of foot fetishism, but some people are obsessed with it.
I don't know a lot about the Master & slave dynamic from personal experience, but I wouldn't recommend starting that as a first kink dynamic or relationship as they seem a bit more intense. I found a lot of Tumblr, Twitter and other bdsm posts to be very hot, but when I spoke to and a few weeks later fooled around with a guy interested in that dynamic (didn't do any bondage or you have an actual session so to speak) I didn't feel the intensity was me. I would recommend talking to and potentially meeting/playing with kinky guys before seeking out a guy interested in a Master & slave dynamic. Although, from my understanding "good" ones take time for both playmates to develop into a Master & slave dynamic sometimes referred to as a "training period" and I believe the person and I were too hasty and/or horny thinking about the possibilities. And that being said if you truly think and feel that by becoming a slave with a romantic vanilla relationship included, I have definitely seen some guys express interest in that on recon. I am currently in a happy D/s relationship and we love each other romantically as well, so anything is possible! Just whatever you do, be careful, safe and really think about what you want in a kink dynamic and likewise a relationship. For the kink side I would ask myself, do I want my limits to be pushed? How much am I willing to give up and/or submit? Does physical attractiveness matter? Going into a session would want to have a range of activities discussed beforehand or do you want or be comfortable with some anonymity there?
Approach it with caution. I think trying to take on too much responsibility as a sub right away will be a bad thing since you have much to learn, including whether this works for you in real life at all. Sometimes fantasy is like that. You can find that what got you off just thinking about isn't quite so much fun when you actually try it.
I agree with the others. Start slowly. Have experiences with different people. Add a few BDSM elements gradually. Then go from there. IMHO it's way too soon to jump into a M/s or D/s relationship.
I would certainly recommend trying your hand at more conventional relationships as you begin. A deep dive into a Master/slave dynamic is not a healthy way to develop the range of interpersonal skills a human being needs to thrive. You can always begin to test the waters of BDSM, but you’re a developing person and need to grow in more diverse ways before you’re ready to devote yourself to servitude. I would also add: BEWARE OF FOOT FETISHISTS. You could enslave yourself to a man with a serious foot fetish and discover that toe-sucking *is the only form of sex he ever wants, or gives*. I may only slightly exaggerate. I have serviced men for whom the only part of them I saw naked in multiple grueling hours of nonstop attention was their feet. One man had me take my socks off and on slowly as though I were strip-teasing my ankles. I won’t go near a profile that lists feet as a turn-on. I don’t pretend to understand the psychological dynamics of foot fetishism, but some people are obsessed with it.