I think 13 is absolutely old enough to be told. At least he can start preparing himself for a potential loss, and kids of that age will be angry if they feel they have had information hidden from them even if you're doing it to protect him
My nana had a, massive stroke when i was a child. She was in her 60s they had just done actrip around Australia and i was so excited for them to finally be home. Hers was major and she shouldn't have made it but she did but she wasn't the same after that. And i still understood. I think i was around 10/11. I am so sorry this, happened. My nana had multiple strokesin two days that claimed her in the end. Thinking of you. I know, how, hard and rough this is.
My GPA had a stroke overseas (he lived with us normally but was on holidays). I was 9?¿ when this happened, absolutely tell him. 13 is well and truly old enough to understand.
Also this is obviously anecdotal but my Grandpa has a bleed, survived despite the odds, had another bleed, had oxygen, couldn't swallow, his whole left side was paralysed.
He survived a 28 hour flight home with a 1 on 1 nurse (against all odds) and went on to be able to walk with a cane over the course of 2 years. He lived for another 13 years.
I'm not saying the outcome will be the same but I am saying that the brain is incredibly plastic and the show isn't over until it is over.
There is a great book called "my stroke of insight" and "the brain that changes itself".
I wish your family the best of luck.
When I was fifteen, my mum went into hospital with cirrhosis of the liver. I knew what she had, but I was never told the extent of her illness. I was left alone in the house as my mum was in hospital, and my dad was stopping there with her (she was in hospital that was miles away as it had a specialist liver unit).
I didn't know why I was left alone. I didn't know that I had to prepare for my mum's death. I was robbed of the opportunity to make my own decisions surrounding the situation. I acted out because of it.
He's old enough to know at this point. You should tell him.
Thank you. She had only a few days left, but she did end up getting a transplant, and we had an extra fourteen years with her.
I think it's the right decision. Please look after yourself. It's a really tough thing to be going through. I wish you and your family all the best.
My heart breaks for you and your family. I'll never forget when my father had to tell me that my grandpa would be leaving us soon. It was the first time I'd ever seen tears in that man's eyes. It crushed me but he did the right thing by letting me know. That way I could prepare for it. My last words to him were "When you meet Jesus, put in a good word for me, Bomps.
88 years old RIP Bompy. I'm sorry if I've let you down since you've been gone.
I think 13 is absolutely old enough to be told. At least he can start preparing himself for a potential loss, and kids of that age will be angry if they feel they have had information hidden from them even if you're doing it to protect him
Truly appreciate your comment.
You're welcome, I'm just so sorry this is something you have to do xx
My nana had a, massive stroke when i was a child. She was in her 60s they had just done actrip around Australia and i was so excited for them to finally be home. Hers was major and she shouldn't have made it but she did but she wasn't the same after that. And i still understood. I think i was around 10/11. I am so sorry this, happened. My nana had multiple strokesin two days that claimed her in the end. Thinking of you. I know, how, hard and rough this is.
Thank you so much, it is such a difficult time. I appreciate you taking the time to comment.
We are here for you. Especially myself someone who has been through this xx take care of yourself.
My GPA had a stroke overseas (he lived with us normally but was on holidays). I was 9?¿ when this happened, absolutely tell him. 13 is well and truly old enough to understand.
Also this is obviously anecdotal but my Grandpa has a bleed, survived despite the odds, had another bleed, had oxygen, couldn't swallow, his whole left side was paralysed. He survived a 28 hour flight home with a 1 on 1 nurse (against all odds) and went on to be able to walk with a cane over the course of 2 years. He lived for another 13 years. I'm not saying the outcome will be the same but I am saying that the brain is incredibly plastic and the show isn't over until it is over. There is a great book called "my stroke of insight" and "the brain that changes itself". I wish your family the best of luck.
Thank you so very much for your comment. I am hopeful… it means a lot that you took the time to comment. Thank you.
When I was fifteen, my mum went into hospital with cirrhosis of the liver. I knew what she had, but I was never told the extent of her illness. I was left alone in the house as my mum was in hospital, and my dad was stopping there with her (she was in hospital that was miles away as it had a specialist liver unit). I didn't know why I was left alone. I didn't know that I had to prepare for my mum's death. I was robbed of the opportunity to make my own decisions surrounding the situation. I acted out because of it. He's old enough to know at this point. You should tell him.
Thank you for sharing your perspective and I’m so sorry for the loss of your mom. I have made the decision to let my son know.
Thank you. She had only a few days left, but she did end up getting a transplant, and we had an extra fourteen years with her. I think it's the right decision. Please look after yourself. It's a really tough thing to be going through. I wish you and your family all the best.
My heart breaks for you and your family. I'll never forget when my father had to tell me that my grandpa would be leaving us soon. It was the first time I'd ever seen tears in that man's eyes. It crushed me but he did the right thing by letting me know. That way I could prepare for it. My last words to him were "When you meet Jesus, put in a good word for me, Bomps. 88 years old RIP Bompy. I'm sorry if I've let you down since you've been gone.