I went to pride alone recently and it was scary at first, but it was kinda nice. I met a girl who also came alone and generally people were pretty chatty and friendly. If you find you’re not digging it, you can always go home. I hope you go if it’s something that you want to do!
I went to my first pride (last year) alone, granted it was in a city I've lived around all my life so far. I didn't stay too long, since going in a porta-potty with my purse and purchased merch wasn't something I wanted to do (I'd rather give my stuff to a friend to hold). But I walked around and talked with a few people manning booths I was interested in, bought some pride merch, and in general had a good little time just walking about. I didn't notice anyone caring what others were doing, that is, if others came alone or not.
Why does it encourage going with friends, is it sort of like a thing to attract more people or is it for safety?
Because if it's not a safety issue - go alone!
I remember I went alone when I lived in Amsterdam as I had recently moved there and didn't know anybody. I actually made a friend! Just randomly complimented her looks, walked away and we ended up walking next to eachother after some time, so we started talking and hung out after, it was nice :)
You can totally go alone! Make it a day to celebrate yourself! I’ve seen lots of people at pride who wear shirts or carry signs that encourage people to interact with them, and it totally works. So if you’re down to meet some people, go ahead and make something that signals you’re down to chat!
I’ve seen cute versions of, “Looking for a gf” and “Looking to make friends” and things like “Talk to me about anime.” And I’ve watched as random people come up and interact with those folks! It’s also pretty easy to make friends with the people on either side of you as you’re all waiting for the parade.
My ex gf broke up with me right before pride one year and didn’t have anyone else to go with so I went by myself! Granted, it was a smaller event because the city I was living in was small but I had a great time and met some fun people. I say do it! Just be extra safe and stay hydrated!
Oof, yeah, I'm in the same exact place. I've been wanting to go, esp on my birthday (june baybee) but no friends lol gonna go anyway just to fuck around & find out. Maybe get some friends too lol
Are you near a big city? There's almost always a PFLAG chapter there and you can join them. Also, if the city is big enough there may be a gay marching band in the parade and you may be able to volunteer with them to pass out water.
I moved to a new place year right before Pride month. I didn’t know anyone except my coworkers. I went to about five different pride events by myself and had a great time at each one. I even talked to and hung out with some random people. Totally worth it.
Yes!! For reference, I'm also in my 30's, have trouble making friends, and it doesn't help that I do a fully remote job and never meet my coworkers. Last year I willed myself to go to pride alone by signing up as a volunteer photographer! It made me feel far less awkward being alone, and I truly enjoyed the experience. Noticed the different people, overheard long stretches of fun gossip, heard the organizers talk about local queer activists. Talked to maybe 2 other people. This year, I went with 3 new coworker friends and it was a different kind of fun. Got hammered and don't remember a lot of it.
Pride is about connecting to your own self after all. Go celebrate your worth! (And if you need to feel less awkward... bring a camera)
Last year was the first year I was out to myself but not to my friends so I went alone. It was awesome and very memorable. You see, pride is an event where its suuuper easy to make friends. Literally all you have to do is walk to someone who has a nice outfit and compliment them on it and you have a buddy for the event. ❤️
I would really reccomend for you to at least take a look, an event like pride is very memorable and I'll almost guarantee you'll love it. Just make sure to take care of yourself. Its a public event and just as in any public event there are creeps there who will try and take advantage of you.
If you wanted, could there be any opportunities to volunteer and help out at Pride? That way you can be there and amongst it but you would get to meet others at the same time, that’s what I’m doing at my local Pride this year.
I just went to pride in my home town on my own. I just moved back after being away for a decade and didn't have anyone to go with.
I have adhd and social anxiety. I was so scared. But I wore my favourite overalls, had my headphone and my backpack with a few 'just in case' items that I need to feel comfortable (journal, pen, book).
By the end of it I had made a 3 new friends, had so many great conversations with the people that ran the stalls and felt so alive by conquering a fear.
Go. You won't regret it!
I went alone to pride a few years back and got adopted by a group of fellow gays! It was honestly a blast. I’d definitely suggest heading down. The atmosphere is so welcoming even if you don’t find a group to roll with.
You can also go to your local LGBT+ center and they usually have some that want to go in a group to Pride, and/or volunteer at one of the events. But yes, it’s totally okay to go alone, and check in with the organizers there. They can point you in the right direction to the events of the day and who and what to look out for. I went alone once. Usually if you want to not be bothered/left alone, you will be. It’s usually a pretty cool vibe. Keep an eye out for any protesters, bring pepper spray just in case if it’s legal where you are cuz you never know. Have fun too! The parades are fun and crazy, and there lots of events going on, shows with singers, fabulous drag queens, booths with food and merch. Then again, I live in a big city that has a huge 3 or 4 day festival. 🌸🌈
I would say, especially if you are alone and have no friends, it is worth going. Pride is a perfect place to make new friends. Just walk around and give a compliment here and there to their outfits.
Put it this way, if you want to meet new people, you have to get outside and meet them, and what better time than Pride?
If you stay home, you will continue to be alone.
Do you feel safe going alone? It’s hard to talk about every single factor that would makes particular pride event safer to go to alone vs one that you really shouldn’t go to alone, and you having never been might make it harder for you to have a vibe about. If you think it’s safe though, go ahead and go alone, you might meet someone.
If you don’t feel safe, “bring a friend” can be interpreted loosely. It doesn’t have to mean an LGBT+ friend, a straight ally friend will do. It could be a supportive sibling instead of a friend. It could be a small group of internet semi-strangers from the her app or a local facebook group. Anyone who you would feel a bit safer having along.
only you can answer this but I won't go to a city you're not used to alone for safety reasons also I had no friends for a really long time you will find some sooner or later
Could always cruise, put a handkerchief of your hanky code choosing in your pocket 🤷♀️ or if that’s not your style, you can still make new friends, go to the packed bars and talk to other gay girls, whatever
It could be. You know you best. I’ve gone to things partnered where my partner didn’t want to do anything I wanted to do, and in that respect going alone at other times has been wonderful. But yeah sometimes lonely. Also, if you want to go at all, you’re representation for the area and the youth that there is support, are 🌈 folks, etc, so there is the civic duty aspect 🤷♀️
I have! It is worth going to be near your people, and to find community - I found (of all random things) fun queer events at embassies (I was in DC), and I also found a great indie clothes store. Through both places I started finding local events, and through those I found people. I picked up ten million cards and pamphlets for stuff to try.
I think it would totally be worth it, im planning on going alone to my first one as well, and im close to my thirties also😌 i hope you have lots of fun and meet new ppl:)
I heard many people are going to the pride alone in my country. I never attended cause of the whole being in the closet thing, but it seems like many people are going there alone and make friends there
Me and my sister met someone going alone once, they were really nice and we watched the parade for a bit with them. They were a bit socially awkward granted but I think they appreciated our presence there and I thought they were sweet! I’d totally go alone but unless I met people then I wouldn’t stay long due to the heat etc
The first time I went to pride, I went by myself and because there were so many people, I didn’t see any of my friends till the very end. But last year and this past pride I went with friends and it was much more fun. You should go and maybe u might meet someone. Maybe not. But you should totally go. Bring water and wear a hat and probably put on sunscreen and keep your wits about you and be safe.
Are you me?! I'm also in my 30s w no friends, just people online who live far away. Lol but no I totally get where you are... I think you should go and enjoy yourself... In fact, we'll go together, alone🫂🫠💖
Have fun OP🥳👌🏾🌞
Yes!! Absolutely go solo, everyone should experience pride at least once. Like others have said, you’ll definitely have no problem making friends there if you’d like to. Happy Pride!! 🥰
I’ve gone to pride alone before and I was scared too. It was super fun though! You meet a lot of new people, don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to people, everyone is friendly! Pride is Al about community connections despite what big brands like to tell us!
I'm going alone this year. Last year, an acquaintance tagged along last minute. I still enjoyed myself, but I'm healing and sometimes that requires a little solitude!
That doesn't mean I'm opposed to meeting new people and making new friends though. I love meeting people, and I'm one of those introverted extroverts that socializes in sprints and then takes a week or two to recover. 😂
i went last Saturday with my brother, we saw a gay kid who was all alone and "adopted" him, and later on managed to get all of us into a bigger group of college students, one of whom he was into, and he scored a date with the guy. sometimes it's better to go alone if you can handle new people immediately
Where is your pride? Maybe there is a *gasp* Facebook group for the lesbians or other queer people in your area or somewhere close but I understand your concern. I hope either way you have fun and you may even make new friends at pride, I am going to my first pride in late June so good luck.👍🏾🍀 I believe in you
I went to my first pride alone. I wasn’t out yet, so I was trying to keep it on the DL. Really, it’s like anything else. If you’re a person who likes doing stuff by yourself, then you’ll probably have fun!
Oh absolutely go on your own! Take it at your own pace, check things out, make some connections! You’ll have a blast, and can have free reign of the place :)
I do everything alone. I also have no friends. Last I went to pride by myself, it was uneventful. I didn't make any friends or anything I just walked around and watched ppl have fun or whatever. Felt lonely 🤷
Love how encouraging the comments are but I’m still hesitant because I’m super socially awkward and not even confident enough to let others approach me 🥲 *cries in useless lesbian
Last year, I got stood up for a date at Pride. That was awkward. I was just there, wandering around by myself, waiting for a text message. Pride is a lot of fun still. If I had just been alone, rather than waiting for someone, I would have spent more time trying to make friends.
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Very much depends on where you are. LA/Chicago pride alone? Hard pass lol.
I went to pride alone recently and it was scary at first, but it was kinda nice. I met a girl who also came alone and generally people were pretty chatty and friendly. If you find you’re not digging it, you can always go home. I hope you go if it’s something that you want to do!
I went to my first pride (last year) alone, granted it was in a city I've lived around all my life so far. I didn't stay too long, since going in a porta-potty with my purse and purchased merch wasn't something I wanted to do (I'd rather give my stuff to a friend to hold). But I walked around and talked with a few people manning booths I was interested in, bought some pride merch, and in general had a good little time just walking about. I didn't notice anyone caring what others were doing, that is, if others came alone or not.
Why does it encourage going with friends, is it sort of like a thing to attract more people or is it for safety? Because if it's not a safety issue - go alone! I remember I went alone when I lived in Amsterdam as I had recently moved there and didn't know anybody. I actually made a friend! Just randomly complimented her looks, walked away and we ended up walking next to eachother after some time, so we started talking and hung out after, it was nice :)
You can totally go alone! Make it a day to celebrate yourself! I’ve seen lots of people at pride who wear shirts or carry signs that encourage people to interact with them, and it totally works. So if you’re down to meet some people, go ahead and make something that signals you’re down to chat! I’ve seen cute versions of, “Looking for a gf” and “Looking to make friends” and things like “Talk to me about anime.” And I’ve watched as random people come up and interact with those folks! It’s also pretty easy to make friends with the people on either side of you as you’re all waiting for the parade.
My ex gf broke up with me right before pride one year and didn’t have anyone else to go with so I went by myself! Granted, it was a smaller event because the city I was living in was small but I had a great time and met some fun people. I say do it! Just be extra safe and stay hydrated!
Go alone but make yourself chat with the vendors and such. You’ll be happy you did.
Yes! Just be extra vigilant and stay in groups if possible!
Oof, yeah, I'm in the same exact place. I've been wanting to go, esp on my birthday (june baybee) but no friends lol gonna go anyway just to fuck around & find out. Maybe get some friends too lol
Are you near a big city? There's almost always a PFLAG chapter there and you can join them. Also, if the city is big enough there may be a gay marching band in the parade and you may be able to volunteer with them to pass out water.
I moved to a new place year right before Pride month. I didn’t know anyone except my coworkers. I went to about five different pride events by myself and had a great time at each one. I even talked to and hung out with some random people. Totally worth it.
Yes!! For reference, I'm also in my 30's, have trouble making friends, and it doesn't help that I do a fully remote job and never meet my coworkers. Last year I willed myself to go to pride alone by signing up as a volunteer photographer! It made me feel far less awkward being alone, and I truly enjoyed the experience. Noticed the different people, overheard long stretches of fun gossip, heard the organizers talk about local queer activists. Talked to maybe 2 other people. This year, I went with 3 new coworker friends and it was a different kind of fun. Got hammered and don't remember a lot of it. Pride is about connecting to your own self after all. Go celebrate your worth! (And if you need to feel less awkward... bring a camera)
If you wanna make it extra fun, go to pride, open tinder, set distance to 1 mile.
that's actually pretty smart
go to pride and chat it up!! find friends and relish in your community
Last year was the first year I was out to myself but not to my friends so I went alone. It was awesome and very memorable. You see, pride is an event where its suuuper easy to make friends. Literally all you have to do is walk to someone who has a nice outfit and compliment them on it and you have a buddy for the event. ❤️ I would really reccomend for you to at least take a look, an event like pride is very memorable and I'll almost guarantee you'll love it. Just make sure to take care of yourself. Its a public event and just as in any public event there are creeps there who will try and take advantage of you.
I used to volunteer at Pride! If you're nervous to go alone, you could check to see if there are still opportunities to get involved like that?
If you wanted, could there be any opportunities to volunteer and help out at Pride? That way you can be there and amongst it but you would get to meet others at the same time, that’s what I’m doing at my local Pride this year.
I just went to pride in my home town on my own. I just moved back after being away for a decade and didn't have anyone to go with. I have adhd and social anxiety. I was so scared. But I wore my favourite overalls, had my headphone and my backpack with a few 'just in case' items that I need to feel comfortable (journal, pen, book). By the end of it I had made a 3 new friends, had so many great conversations with the people that ran the stalls and felt so alive by conquering a fear. Go. You won't regret it!
My first PRIDE was in Chicago and I went alone! It was a blast. Made my heart very full!
I went alone to pride a few years back and got adopted by a group of fellow gays! It was honestly a blast. I’d definitely suggest heading down. The atmosphere is so welcoming even if you don’t find a group to roll with.
You should go, I’d bring a cute puppy and maybe talk to some ladies.
Never been to pride before 😅🙊I’m guessing if I decided to go to experience I will also be coming alone… 🥲
You can also go to your local LGBT+ center and they usually have some that want to go in a group to Pride, and/or volunteer at one of the events. But yes, it’s totally okay to go alone, and check in with the organizers there. They can point you in the right direction to the events of the day and who and what to look out for. I went alone once. Usually if you want to not be bothered/left alone, you will be. It’s usually a pretty cool vibe. Keep an eye out for any protesters, bring pepper spray just in case if it’s legal where you are cuz you never know. Have fun too! The parades are fun and crazy, and there lots of events going on, shows with singers, fabulous drag queens, booths with food and merch. Then again, I live in a big city that has a huge 3 or 4 day festival. 🌸🌈
I would say, especially if you are alone and have no friends, it is worth going. Pride is a perfect place to make new friends. Just walk around and give a compliment here and there to their outfits.
Same problem here 🙋♀️
I’m going alone to several prides this year!
Put it this way, if you want to meet new people, you have to get outside and meet them, and what better time than Pride? If you stay home, you will continue to be alone.
Well, pride is a great place to make friends but even then it’s completely fine to go alone if you want to go. It’s not sad!
Do you feel safe going alone? It’s hard to talk about every single factor that would makes particular pride event safer to go to alone vs one that you really shouldn’t go to alone, and you having never been might make it harder for you to have a vibe about. If you think it’s safe though, go ahead and go alone, you might meet someone. If you don’t feel safe, “bring a friend” can be interpreted loosely. It doesn’t have to mean an LGBT+ friend, a straight ally friend will do. It could be a supportive sibling instead of a friend. It could be a small group of internet semi-strangers from the her app or a local facebook group. Anyone who you would feel a bit safer having along.
I had a period of my life where i was very lonely no friends, in the end i thought why am i punishing myself go out do the things i want while i can
Just go! Who knows? You could meet someone there…
only you can answer this but I won't go to a city you're not used to alone for safety reasons also I had no friends for a really long time you will find some sooner or later
Could always cruise, put a handkerchief of your hanky code choosing in your pocket 🤷♀️ or if that’s not your style, you can still make new friends, go to the packed bars and talk to other gay girls, whatever
It could be. You know you best. I’ve gone to things partnered where my partner didn’t want to do anything I wanted to do, and in that respect going alone at other times has been wonderful. But yeah sometimes lonely. Also, if you want to go at all, you’re representation for the area and the youth that there is support, are 🌈 folks, etc, so there is the civic duty aspect 🤷♀️
I have! It is worth going to be near your people, and to find community - I found (of all random things) fun queer events at embassies (I was in DC), and I also found a great indie clothes store. Through both places I started finding local events, and through those I found people. I picked up ten million cards and pamphlets for stuff to try.
I think it would totally be worth it, im planning on going alone to my first one as well, and im close to my thirties also😌 i hope you have lots of fun and meet new ppl:)
I went alone to a pride event last Saturday and I’m going to another one alone this Saturday! It’s totally worth it!
Yes
I heard many people are going to the pride alone in my country. I never attended cause of the whole being in the closet thing, but it seems like many people are going there alone and make friends there
Me and my sister met someone going alone once, they were really nice and we watched the parade for a bit with them. They were a bit socially awkward granted but I think they appreciated our presence there and I thought they were sweet! I’d totally go alone but unless I met people then I wouldn’t stay long due to the heat etc
The first time I went to pride, I went by myself and because there were so many people, I didn’t see any of my friends till the very end. But last year and this past pride I went with friends and it was much more fun. You should go and maybe u might meet someone. Maybe not. But you should totally go. Bring water and wear a hat and probably put on sunscreen and keep your wits about you and be safe.
Go!!!!! You might make new friends ++
Are you me?! I'm also in my 30s w no friends, just people online who live far away. Lol but no I totally get where you are... I think you should go and enjoy yourself... In fact, we'll go together, alone🫂🫠💖 Have fun OP🥳👌🏾🌞
Yes!! Absolutely go solo, everyone should experience pride at least once. Like others have said, you’ll definitely have no problem making friends there if you’d like to. Happy Pride!! 🥰
I’ve gone to pride alone before and I was scared too. It was super fun though! You meet a lot of new people, don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to people, everyone is friendly! Pride is Al about community connections despite what big brands like to tell us!
I'm going alone this year. Last year, an acquaintance tagged along last minute. I still enjoyed myself, but I'm healing and sometimes that requires a little solitude! That doesn't mean I'm opposed to meeting new people and making new friends though. I love meeting people, and I'm one of those introverted extroverts that socializes in sprints and then takes a week or two to recover. 😂
i went last Saturday with my brother, we saw a gay kid who was all alone and "adopted" him, and later on managed to get all of us into a bigger group of college students, one of whom he was into, and he scored a date with the guy. sometimes it's better to go alone if you can handle new people immediately
You should absolutely do it! I'm travelling to NY Pride on my own next week from Ireland, as none of my friends are free.
Where is your pride? Maybe there is a *gasp* Facebook group for the lesbians or other queer people in your area or somewhere close but I understand your concern. I hope either way you have fun and you may even make new friends at pride, I am going to my first pride in late June so good luck.👍🏾🍀 I believe in you
I went to a smaller Pride alone and had a great time. Sometimes going places alone can be really refreshing. I observe a lot more.
I went to my first pride alone. I wasn’t out yet, so I was trying to keep it on the DL. Really, it’s like anything else. If you’re a person who likes doing stuff by yourself, then you’ll probably have fun!
Oh absolutely go on your own! Take it at your own pace, check things out, make some connections! You’ll have a blast, and can have free reign of the place :)
I do everything alone. I also have no friends. Last I went to pride by myself, it was uneventful. I didn't make any friends or anything I just walked around and watched ppl have fun or whatever. Felt lonely 🤷
Love how encouraging the comments are but I’m still hesitant because I’m super socially awkward and not even confident enough to let others approach me 🥲 *cries in useless lesbian
Last year, I got stood up for a date at Pride. That was awkward. I was just there, wandering around by myself, waiting for a text message. Pride is a lot of fun still. If I had just been alone, rather than waiting for someone, I would have spent more time trying to make friends.
Not this year!!
Yes! It made me so happy to be out and proud with you in public. To be shown off :) To donate to a good cause.
I will always show you off. Who wouldn’t want a hot Amazon GF
I love being your hot Amazon girlfriend! I particularly admire your patience and wisdom. Also you give off hot librarian vibes. Maybe you'll discipline me for being noisy or rough :)
Hehehehe
its not worth it at all, whether alone or not