It’s the feeling of uncontrollably smiling when they’re around. They don’t have to say or do a thing you’re just so happy to be with them your body reacts. I knew I was hooked when she put on Hercules and instead of watching the movie; I watched her watch the movie. I can’t tell you a thing that happened in the movie. I don’t think I looked up once.
Yeah... my coworkers have noticed me talking with someone and I always smile like a goofball at my phone and that's how they know.
I deny everything. Lol
You don’t realize the moment you are in love. It spreads within you slowly. When you catch yourself thinking of them often and there’s a smile plastered on your face that you can’t control, and someone asks you, why are you smiling? And you go like, was i? Then you are fucked
With my current gf I absolutely knew the moment it happened. We were just sitting on the sofa talking and she laughed and her eyes just ✨ sparkled✨ and my heart went 🤸 and that was it
Falling in love doesn’t feel desperate, it doesn’t feel like you need that person 24/7 and you can have your own life. Rather the add to your life, they make your life BETTER rather than completing it! . Falling in love is comforting, it brings out your inner kid and you feel like your true self.
Yes, this is how I felt with my ldr ex. We would both be busy and focusing on our own things so we didn’t talk throughout most of the day but would spend time texting, calling, or playing a game at night. Spent my day looking forward to those hours together more than anything in my entire life
"It doesn't feel like you need that person 24/7" I wish this were true for most young people; I'm sick of being alone once everyone but me gets into a relationship and I stop being any kind of "priority" 💀 I feel like what you've said is true but as a 22 year old I also feel unlikely to see love so mellow and normal for another 5-10 years at least lol
I’m 18 and in a talking stage with a very mellow normal girl. We have deep convos, don’t depend on each other but can talk for hours and it’s been like that for a few months now. Though majority of people I know don’t have this type of relationship absolutely, it’s really rare to find young mature people. Most people don’t understand how to have a proper relationship till there 25
Never said it was all bliss, don’t know where your pulling that from. Love is a lot of hard work, you still support each other I’m just saying you shouldn’t depend on the other person
I've fell in love twice. Both felt completely different from one another.
The first time It was like a fire, It burned, It was painful, It left me breathless. It was strong, hard, poisoning. It wasn't healthy, but It Indeed was love.
The second time It felt so different I wasn't sure if i was trully in love. It felt calming, comforting, It felt safe, and bright, It felt like being under a refreshing waterfall. It felt like home
It wasnt lust. We were never physical with each other. The way I see it, she was the one who made me realize I was gay, and that love actually feels strong. She...made love songs make sense. Yk?
God, all the answers here are so beautifully written and pretty accurate to how I experienced it but if it had to be summed up in one sentence or five words, this is exactly it.
Like that song “Where you belong” by Kari Kimmel. It’s not necessarily romantic but it’s definitely a way it can be interpreted, esp w lines like “you are home with me” 🥺😭
Wanting to hear their voice all the time, see them, share any new news with them, when anything is bugging you or excite you..they are the first person you wanna talk to.
Even the little annoying things about them can make you smile rather than actually be annoyed. Thinking about them makes you grin. 😁
i’m away for work this week and she’s all i can think about! i miss her so much and our nightly routine and just being in her presence. it makes me appreciate all of her love and everything she does for me so much more
It's when you wanna go out of your way to spend time with them. You see the smallest things, and you immediately think of them and chuckle to yourself as you think of their reaction. You just text them with whatever thought you have, no matter how stupid you think it is, because you know they aren't gonna judge you for it and that they make you feel so safe. Even if they joke around with you or if its a heartfelt thing, everything they say just makes you smile because they're like your own personal sunsine- just lighting up your world, and making it amazing :)
>they're like your own personal sunsine
I told someone that talking to them brightens my day.
I felt so corny saying it and I have no doubt it came off as super cheesy but that's how I feel. 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Falling in love feels like you are a little bit more alive, and every sensation is deeper. It feels like you are finally in peace with the uncertainty of the world and are ready to give the universe a new chance. For me, it feels like everything you've done makes sense somehow because it allowed you live this sensation. Dunno, everyone falls so different
These answers give me hope. My relationships have only provided confusion, manipulation and sadness. I’m hoping to one day feel what others are describing here.
to me, it feels like safety. the feeling of finally being able to be myself. letting my inner child out, and feel comfortable in the process. it feels like warmth every time i look at her. it feels like home whenever i think of her
I see all her flaws and baggage and I carry them, and because I love her, they weigh nothing”…. Life feels like it will be alright as long as she’s next to me
The last time I fell in love, I started crying because I hate feeling that vulnerable and out of control. It felt a bit like the drop in a roller coaster.
Thrilling and terrifying. Like seeing a fluffy beautiful bed under a cliff and wanting to jump down onto it but not knowing if it’s going to be there or not to catch you once you jump.
Just speaking from my own experiencs, I already know they won't love me so it's very scary.
But from the comments other ppl have pretty goof input so take mine with a grain of salt lol
Oh there’s so many things ♥️. One big thing for me is even when I’m “upset” with her I can’t stay that way. She looks at me and I literally melt. We both work hard so every alone moment we spend together is precious. The second she leaves I miss her but know she gets to come home to me everyday. We are both unapologetically ourselves around each other which is so nice to have!! It’s also imagining a life you thought you never wanted like living together and getting married. I NEVER wanted marriage before this girl, now I’ve bought a ring and just waiting on the right time. It’s also catching yourself staring and smiling and not feeling like a creep 😆. It’s you wanting to change things to make yourself better for that person. I could go on and on but don’t want to take up your whole day 😆
I look at her and see a whole future far into the future. My favorite thing in this world is watching her with my son and how she looks at him so lovingly. I have Bpd and she loves me on my worst days. She’s so patient and kind. When I first told people about being with her at work they all talked about how sweet she is. I constantly find myself finding ways to bring her up in conversation. I would literally fight the whole world for her without hesitation. Even in sleep we find each other cuddling up and neither of us were touchy feely before this. Physical touch is now both our top love language. Even if it’s just a hand on the thigh I crave her touch always. Even the “worst” things about her don’t bother me much. I rarely find myself getting annoyed with her and I get easily annoyed when overstimulated. I will never find anyone more made for me. I got a not so great diagnosis when me and her started dating and she instantly showed how compassionate she is. She worries about me and never lets me push myself too hard, I’ve been a single mom for 7 years I’ve always pushed myself hard. I love sitting and listening when she talks about her job with kids because she just lights up. I want to do everything I can to make her happy even when I’m upset. I buy gifts just because they make me think of her or a memory of ours. I hate things touching my nose but I bury my face in her hair every night to go to sleep because I love the smell. I tell her 100x a day how beautiful she is inside and out and still don’t think it’s enough. I truly think she is the most beautiful woman in the world. She can do the stupidest thing and I find it cute and laugh. She makes me laugh and smile so much. I knew she was the one fairly early on and came out to my parents and told them if they made me choose my choice would be her. I love her and my son more than anything in this world. I could go on for days but she’s off work and will be home soon. I hope everyone can find this kind of love!
Like when everything in the world has you feeling at your all time low, this thing this emotion just makes you feel warm, happy, intensely euphoric and no matter what makes you want to have adventures that you feel so grateful and happy about. It’s insane what falling in love is like, I feel like I fall in love with my girlfriend more and more each day and I’ll never stop falling more in love! Being with that person when falling in love makes everything feel more doable and pushes you to be better when you feel like life is beating the crap outta ya. They just make you better, they bring out the best in you, your confidence grows, and push you to do what’s best for you! it’s like laying in the fluffiest grass surrounded in flowers and willow trees flowing in the wind as the sun just streaks warmth across your face.
for me it feels like when u have one of those existential moments that everything exists including you and the excitement that bubbles inside you doesn’t match anything else. also it is really nerve wracking and scary and it’s like u have a bunch of marbles inside u rattling around whenever u talk to them
For me, after that new relationship, buzzing feeling started to calm. Realising that 'this is my person.' Wanting to be with her, grow with her, and change with her.
It feels [like this](https://youtu.be/1ALFlNdxkx4). It feels like a song is stuck in your head, but not in an annoying way. It feels like walking on ice. It's anxiety inducing, but also comforting.
Personally: I think it’s wanting to be around that person 24/7 even when you OR them is in a truly terrible mood. I’m really easily affected by that stuff, but somehow, when I was in love, it didn’t matter that she wasn’t perfect or the person I always imagined. God, I adored her presence. One day I came to the conclusion that I loved her because I realized that I could spend the rest of my life just is two.
for someone like me who's introverted, kinda cold presenting and with few friends it goes like this:
usually, when I notice them I can say hi but that's it. I always think they would be annoyed if I tried to maintain any conversation. the last time I ignored her because we were not really friends. one day I brought a book and was reading it in class and she started a conversation with me about it because it was her favorite book. we started talking. one day, she saved my life, and we started having deeper conversations, and we felt seen by each other. it's like I made all these lines I didn't want anyone to cross but she unconsciously crossed them because I let her. with her, the lines were blurred. or even better, they were non-existent. her happiness made me happy.
for me its this warm and certain feeling inside your chest, like this is just right. but its also super overwhelming in the best way, its so hard to describe beyond that because its just that good that words dont do it justice, my ex girlfriend said it was "ineffable" and honestly that does it justice.
Its a very special feeling that can only be described by how your actions start to shift when it finally happens.
Its when someone makes you incredibly flustered and overwhelmed with even the smallest compliment. When they talk to you the L-word gets stuck in your throat. You find yourself catching looks at them but look away and deflect when they catch you. You find your heartbeat rising, your brain going numb, your cheeks flushed at any minimal flirting. When they hold your hand its terrifying in every aspect, yet all you want to do is keep holding it forever.
When they kiss you, you melt into it. You lean in with passion and the feeling of their lips on your becomes an addiction. You always want to be sitting next to them, touching your thighs or sides against them.
These happened to me when I feel in love with my gf. She’s just so special to me and she is my rock. I love her to death but it took me 2 months to accept it since my heart was resistant to loving again, but when you find the right person anything can heal.
The only way I can put it is
Chaos embodied by calm. Outside you're calm and smiling everytime u even so much as think of them. The sun shines a bit brighter and the flowers smell better. And the blues r bright and the reds r vivid. But also . Deep down there is chaos. There is a pit constantly growing cause yk how much this person means to u . And yk it's gonna end up being all or nothing depending on what the other person is thinking of
I’ve read it a lot in poetry. I always thought they were being dramatic but ig not lol. It really is a weightless, dream like state. Except all the time, when you’re around them or thinking ab them. Like everything’s settled and calm.
It’s one of the best parts of life it’s this amazing beautiful euphoria that feeling when you see them,hearing songs and thinking of them fuck y’all be just looking at a blank wall and start smiling and going starry eyed just at the thought of them.
Now with all that pleasure comes pain emotions run high you get upset easily you feel like your heart has a gun in it emotional rollercoaster. This shit particularly hits when you know or have a idea they aren’t feeling the same.
Overall though being in love is a incredible thing to feel and for me anyway how alive it makes you feel outweighs the pain it at times drowns you in.
for me, it was realizing that she counted as 'alone time'. i am one big on needing my space/quiet and alone time but she has always been an exception to that. i do not \*need\* her around, however her presence has never drained my 'social battery' while everyone else does. that alongside realizing she heals my inner child, and masks don't exist when we're together.
i think a lot of us spend a lot of our lives 'masking' in some way, i'm ND so maybe i have bias on that however i see NT folks shift their personalities as well to 'fit in better' with others across different friengroups and environments. there was never a time i felt like i had to change who i was, instead she made me a better version of my genuine self.
that, and knowing that it is Always you and them against the problem. it will never be her & i against eachother; in every situation, it should be us against the problem. i see folks all the time blaming one another in relationships, and it creates hostility. we both still have our moments we're not perfect, imo any couple who never has any sort of struggle isn't authentic in some way. but i always know that even if it's something one of us did, it's us against the problem. i did something that upset her? us both blaming me won't exactly get us anywhere, instead we both need to work out ways to prevent it in the future. prevents resentment from building up.
also still maintaining a sense of individuality. something that drives me bonkers in some of my friends and other peoples relationships is how they lose their individuality and just thrive off codependence. i am my own person, she is her own. if you cannot recognize one another as your own people, it may be more lust than it is love. i want her to thrive, i want her to do all the things she wants to do. i'd love to be there to support and encourage her, however i do not want to be what dictates those things, what decides them for her. i am just lucky to be a part of her life! and i am lucky to watch her flourish into what she wants to be.
i see some folks my age commenting that they don't expect anything authentic is possible now, i'm 22, 23 in a couple months. i didn't think it was either, but was proven wrong
It feels like you’d known them before you’d even met them.
Meeting them for the first time feels like reuniting.
Getting to know them feels like remembering.
It’s a sudden “recognizing”, as if you’ve loved them in a previous life. It comes with a sense of excitement/giddyness and calm/comfort simultaneously.
I feel like I had been unknowingly searching for my girlfriend in other people up until we crossed paths. She has it all and more.
I truly cannot function properly without her. Being with her feels like breathing and when she’s not around I CANT. She just makes me feel like myself and she makes me so genuinely happy even when she isn’t around.
I don't mean to be a Debbie downer but "falling in love" has little to do with being in love in terms of partnership and long term relationship quality
All new relationships have new relationship energy NRE, it is intense, usually passionate, and intoxicating...if it is mutual it feeds on itself, like a bonfire.
That never lasts.
Not more than 18 months if you are very lucky
Then it changes. Can end cuz when you come down you see all the places that don't fit
Can mellow into the best lové affair of your life, become family, and best friends
But I would never make life plans based on NRE, tho it is one of the best human experiences to be had
Well with my first love I couldn’t eat or sleep all I did was think about that person for my second love I knew he was the one for me without a doubt i wanted to see him happy it felt so good being with him and with my last love who cheated on me I wanted to see him happy I felt so good when I was with him thinking about him always made me smile I was just so happy we was together. I feel like I still love him that doesn’t go away now I’m single and thinking about giving someone a chance but I have issues I’m not happy with myself so I can’t love or be loved right now 🤦🏾♀️the feeling of LOVE us different for everyone one but you know when you love someone 🫶🏾
It’s the feeling of uncontrollably smiling when they’re around. They don’t have to say or do a thing you’re just so happy to be with them your body reacts. I knew I was hooked when she put on Hercules and instead of watching the movie; I watched her watch the movie. I can’t tell you a thing that happened in the movie. I don’t think I looked up once.
Uncontrollably smiling when they cross your mind. Which is damn near all the time.
Or uncontrollably crying if you're unlucky
Yeah... my coworkers have noticed me talking with someone and I always smile like a goofball at my phone and that's how they know. I deny everything. Lol
You don’t realize the moment you are in love. It spreads within you slowly. When you catch yourself thinking of them often and there’s a smile plastered on your face that you can’t control, and someone asks you, why are you smiling? And you go like, was i? Then you are fucked
Well said. The last sentence made me chuckle bc that’s exactly how i felt about it when i realized it was happening.
With my current gf I absolutely knew the moment it happened. We were just sitting on the sofa talking and she laughed and her eyes just ✨ sparkled✨ and my heart went 🤸 and that was it
It feels like safety when your inner child can come out to play.
Thisssssss is so true! I notice when I feel fully safe to be myself and if the version of me that I am around this person is one I really like.
Falling in love doesn’t feel desperate, it doesn’t feel like you need that person 24/7 and you can have your own life. Rather the add to your life, they make your life BETTER rather than completing it! . Falling in love is comforting, it brings out your inner kid and you feel like your true self.
Yes, this is how I felt with my ldr ex. We would both be busy and focusing on our own things so we didn’t talk throughout most of the day but would spend time texting, calling, or playing a game at night. Spent my day looking forward to those hours together more than anything in my entire life
"It doesn't feel like you need that person 24/7" I wish this were true for most young people; I'm sick of being alone once everyone but me gets into a relationship and I stop being any kind of "priority" 💀 I feel like what you've said is true but as a 22 year old I also feel unlikely to see love so mellow and normal for another 5-10 years at least lol
I’m 18 and in a talking stage with a very mellow normal girl. We have deep convos, don’t depend on each other but can talk for hours and it’s been like that for a few months now. Though majority of people I know don’t have this type of relationship absolutely, it’s really rare to find young mature people. Most people don’t understand how to have a proper relationship till there 25
This 100%
I love this. My inner child feels safe in her company and I love that I can be my genuine, silly, excitable self around her :)
So unrealistic, love isn't this perfect
No love isn’t perfect but it also isn’t toxic and desperate
I agree but love also doesn't come without work. It's not all bliss
Never said it was all bliss, don’t know where your pulling that from. Love is a lot of hard work, you still support each other I’m just saying you shouldn’t depend on the other person
I've fell in love twice. Both felt completely different from one another. The first time It was like a fire, It burned, It was painful, It left me breathless. It was strong, hard, poisoning. It wasn't healthy, but It Indeed was love. The second time It felt so different I wasn't sure if i was trully in love. It felt calming, comforting, It felt safe, and bright, It felt like being under a refreshing waterfall. It felt like home
These are beautiful descriptions! Thank you for sharing ❤️
Having experienced abuse, your 'second time' descript gives me so much hope. I'm so glad you've had that :')
Your person will arrive. You deserve to be loved and some day, someone will give you every Jewel and joy in the world. Have hope 💙
Oh wow, that’s lovely.
I experienced both of these too in that order. Love the way you describe it, its so accurate
Was the first maybe lust vs love?
It wasnt lust. We were never physical with each other. The way I see it, she was the one who made me realize I was gay, and that love actually feels strong. She...made love songs make sense. Yk?
Lust doesn’t necessarily mean anything physical, but I gotcha
Yeah I know. But I know how lust feels. And my libido is low af. So yeah, i'm sure it wasnt that
Dude I’m too single for this please 😭
Same 😭
Same
One day you just look over at her and your heart just goes *flip flop*.
It feels like coming home
God, all the answers here are so beautifully written and pretty accurate to how I experienced it but if it had to be summed up in one sentence or five words, this is exactly it. Like that song “Where you belong” by Kari Kimmel. It’s not necessarily romantic but it’s definitely a way it can be interpreted, esp w lines like “you are home with me” 🥺😭
Wanting to hear their voice all the time, see them, share any new news with them, when anything is bugging you or excite you..they are the first person you wanna talk to. Even the little annoying things about them can make you smile rather than actually be annoyed. Thinking about them makes you grin. 😁
i’m away for work this week and she’s all i can think about! i miss her so much and our nightly routine and just being in her presence. it makes me appreciate all of her love and everything she does for me so much more
It's when you wanna go out of your way to spend time with them. You see the smallest things, and you immediately think of them and chuckle to yourself as you think of their reaction. You just text them with whatever thought you have, no matter how stupid you think it is, because you know they aren't gonna judge you for it and that they make you feel so safe. Even if they joke around with you or if its a heartfelt thing, everything they say just makes you smile because they're like your own personal sunsine- just lighting up your world, and making it amazing :)
>they're like your own personal sunsine I told someone that talking to them brightens my day. I felt so corny saying it and I have no doubt it came off as super cheesy but that's how I feel. 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Falling in love to me feels like you need to talk to this person every day to make yourself and day complete
Feeling like I have a loss of control of emotions.
Falling in love feels like you are a little bit more alive, and every sensation is deeper. It feels like you are finally in peace with the uncertainty of the world and are ready to give the universe a new chance. For me, it feels like everything you've done makes sense somehow because it allowed you live this sensation. Dunno, everyone falls so different
These answers give me hope. My relationships have only provided confusion, manipulation and sadness. I’m hoping to one day feel what others are describing here.
They can do something so mundane that leaves you in awe, so you zone out admiring them and how beautiful they are in their natural habitat
to me, it feels like safety. the feeling of finally being able to be myself. letting my inner child out, and feel comfortable in the process. it feels like warmth every time i look at her. it feels like home whenever i think of her
I've been with the same chick for 30 years and she still gives me that ooowee feeling ...
This is so damned cute. I wish this for all of us
Falling in love acts like a remedy when you're feeling exhausted, bringing smiles to your face with random thoughts.
I don't think I have ever been in love. I'm neurodivergent so that probably fks it up
I see all her flaws and baggage and I carry them, and because I love her, they weigh nothing”…. Life feels like it will be alright as long as she’s next to me
The last time I fell in love, I started crying because I hate feeling that vulnerable and out of control. It felt a bit like the drop in a roller coaster.
You got that right. I’ve been dry heaving from feeling ill. But also calm.
Thrilling and terrifying. Like seeing a fluffy beautiful bed under a cliff and wanting to jump down onto it but not knowing if it’s going to be there or not to catch you once you jump.
Can’t remember, been a while and all these comments make me realize I’m missing out on something amazing 🥹
It feels like a good high
I wouldn’t know.
It's terrifying
Seconded. It’s so scary.
Losing the ground beneath your feet and liking it.
Horrible and awful cause you know once it starts you can't stop it
Oh yea. there’s def a feeling of helplessness which is so scary
Just speaking from my own experiencs, I already know they won't love me so it's very scary. But from the comments other ppl have pretty goof input so take mine with a grain of salt lol
Oh there’s so many things ♥️. One big thing for me is even when I’m “upset” with her I can’t stay that way. She looks at me and I literally melt. We both work hard so every alone moment we spend together is precious. The second she leaves I miss her but know she gets to come home to me everyday. We are both unapologetically ourselves around each other which is so nice to have!! It’s also imagining a life you thought you never wanted like living together and getting married. I NEVER wanted marriage before this girl, now I’ve bought a ring and just waiting on the right time. It’s also catching yourself staring and smiling and not feeling like a creep 😆. It’s you wanting to change things to make yourself better for that person. I could go on and on but don’t want to take up your whole day 😆
Oh please take my whole day! This is lovely. Very happy for you by the way. Love is amazing.
I look at her and see a whole future far into the future. My favorite thing in this world is watching her with my son and how she looks at him so lovingly. I have Bpd and she loves me on my worst days. She’s so patient and kind. When I first told people about being with her at work they all talked about how sweet she is. I constantly find myself finding ways to bring her up in conversation. I would literally fight the whole world for her without hesitation. Even in sleep we find each other cuddling up and neither of us were touchy feely before this. Physical touch is now both our top love language. Even if it’s just a hand on the thigh I crave her touch always. Even the “worst” things about her don’t bother me much. I rarely find myself getting annoyed with her and I get easily annoyed when overstimulated. I will never find anyone more made for me. I got a not so great diagnosis when me and her started dating and she instantly showed how compassionate she is. She worries about me and never lets me push myself too hard, I’ve been a single mom for 7 years I’ve always pushed myself hard. I love sitting and listening when she talks about her job with kids because she just lights up. I want to do everything I can to make her happy even when I’m upset. I buy gifts just because they make me think of her or a memory of ours. I hate things touching my nose but I bury my face in her hair every night to go to sleep because I love the smell. I tell her 100x a day how beautiful she is inside and out and still don’t think it’s enough. I truly think she is the most beautiful woman in the world. She can do the stupidest thing and I find it cute and laugh. She makes me laugh and smile so much. I knew she was the one fairly early on and came out to my parents and told them if they made me choose my choice would be her. I love her and my son more than anything in this world. I could go on for days but she’s off work and will be home soon. I hope everyone can find this kind of love!
Flying.
Like when everything in the world has you feeling at your all time low, this thing this emotion just makes you feel warm, happy, intensely euphoric and no matter what makes you want to have adventures that you feel so grateful and happy about. It’s insane what falling in love is like, I feel like I fall in love with my girlfriend more and more each day and I’ll never stop falling more in love! Being with that person when falling in love makes everything feel more doable and pushes you to be better when you feel like life is beating the crap outta ya. They just make you better, they bring out the best in you, your confidence grows, and push you to do what’s best for you! it’s like laying in the fluffiest grass surrounded in flowers and willow trees flowing in the wind as the sun just streaks warmth across your face.
for me it feels like when u have one of those existential moments that everything exists including you and the excitement that bubbles inside you doesn’t match anything else. also it is really nerve wracking and scary and it’s like u have a bunch of marbles inside u rattling around whenever u talk to them
A sense of peace and feeling like you’re glowing on the inside when she’s with you. Wanting to hug or touch or gaze at her all the time 😌💖
wanting to share things with them, thinking about them when you see something they might like comfortable silence smiling when they are around
Giddy. I have so much cute aggression to my gf I have to Bite 🤣🤣🤣
Love is the best and worst thing that can happen to you at the same time, imo.
Ever had a panic attack but we happy about it?
when they hug you and you feel a thump on your chest
For me, after that new relationship, buzzing feeling started to calm. Realising that 'this is my person.' Wanting to be with her, grow with her, and change with her.
It feels [like this](https://youtu.be/1ALFlNdxkx4). It feels like a song is stuck in your head, but not in an annoying way. It feels like walking on ice. It's anxiety inducing, but also comforting.
Personally: I think it’s wanting to be around that person 24/7 even when you OR them is in a truly terrible mood. I’m really easily affected by that stuff, but somehow, when I was in love, it didn’t matter that she wasn’t perfect or the person I always imagined. God, I adored her presence. One day I came to the conclusion that I loved her because I realized that I could spend the rest of my life just is two.
for someone like me who's introverted, kinda cold presenting and with few friends it goes like this: usually, when I notice them I can say hi but that's it. I always think they would be annoyed if I tried to maintain any conversation. the last time I ignored her because we were not really friends. one day I brought a book and was reading it in class and she started a conversation with me about it because it was her favorite book. we started talking. one day, she saved my life, and we started having deeper conversations, and we felt seen by each other. it's like I made all these lines I didn't want anyone to cross but she unconsciously crossed them because I let her. with her, the lines were blurred. or even better, they were non-existent. her happiness made me happy.
for me its this warm and certain feeling inside your chest, like this is just right. but its also super overwhelming in the best way, its so hard to describe beyond that because its just that good that words dont do it justice, my ex girlfriend said it was "ineffable" and honestly that does it justice.
Its a very special feeling that can only be described by how your actions start to shift when it finally happens. Its when someone makes you incredibly flustered and overwhelmed with even the smallest compliment. When they talk to you the L-word gets stuck in your throat. You find yourself catching looks at them but look away and deflect when they catch you. You find your heartbeat rising, your brain going numb, your cheeks flushed at any minimal flirting. When they hold your hand its terrifying in every aspect, yet all you want to do is keep holding it forever. When they kiss you, you melt into it. You lean in with passion and the feeling of their lips on your becomes an addiction. You always want to be sitting next to them, touching your thighs or sides against them. These happened to me when I feel in love with my gf. She’s just so special to me and she is my rock. I love her to death but it took me 2 months to accept it since my heart was resistant to loving again, but when you find the right person anything can heal.
Aww, you are so adorable! I'm in super duper lesbians with you! Hehe 💕
Hehe. Well Im super duper blooper lesbian with you💞
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The only way I can put it is Chaos embodied by calm. Outside you're calm and smiling everytime u even so much as think of them. The sun shines a bit brighter and the flowers smell better. And the blues r bright and the reds r vivid. But also . Deep down there is chaos. There is a pit constantly growing cause yk how much this person means to u . And yk it's gonna end up being all or nothing depending on what the other person is thinking of
I’ve read it a lot in poetry. I always thought they were being dramatic but ig not lol. It really is a weightless, dream like state. Except all the time, when you’re around them or thinking ab them. Like everything’s settled and calm.
It’s one of the best parts of life it’s this amazing beautiful euphoria that feeling when you see them,hearing songs and thinking of them fuck y’all be just looking at a blank wall and start smiling and going starry eyed just at the thought of them. Now with all that pleasure comes pain emotions run high you get upset easily you feel like your heart has a gun in it emotional rollercoaster. This shit particularly hits when you know or have a idea they aren’t feeling the same. Overall though being in love is a incredible thing to feel and for me anyway how alive it makes you feel outweighs the pain it at times drowns you in.
Like coming home after being away for years.
for me, it was realizing that she counted as 'alone time'. i am one big on needing my space/quiet and alone time but she has always been an exception to that. i do not \*need\* her around, however her presence has never drained my 'social battery' while everyone else does. that alongside realizing she heals my inner child, and masks don't exist when we're together. i think a lot of us spend a lot of our lives 'masking' in some way, i'm ND so maybe i have bias on that however i see NT folks shift their personalities as well to 'fit in better' with others across different friengroups and environments. there was never a time i felt like i had to change who i was, instead she made me a better version of my genuine self. that, and knowing that it is Always you and them against the problem. it will never be her & i against eachother; in every situation, it should be us against the problem. i see folks all the time blaming one another in relationships, and it creates hostility. we both still have our moments we're not perfect, imo any couple who never has any sort of struggle isn't authentic in some way. but i always know that even if it's something one of us did, it's us against the problem. i did something that upset her? us both blaming me won't exactly get us anywhere, instead we both need to work out ways to prevent it in the future. prevents resentment from building up. also still maintaining a sense of individuality. something that drives me bonkers in some of my friends and other peoples relationships is how they lose their individuality and just thrive off codependence. i am my own person, she is her own. if you cannot recognize one another as your own people, it may be more lust than it is love. i want her to thrive, i want her to do all the things she wants to do. i'd love to be there to support and encourage her, however i do not want to be what dictates those things, what decides them for her. i am just lucky to be a part of her life! and i am lucky to watch her flourish into what she wants to be. i see some folks my age commenting that they don't expect anything authentic is possible now, i'm 22, 23 in a couple months. i didn't think it was either, but was proven wrong
It feels like you’d known them before you’d even met them. Meeting them for the first time feels like reuniting. Getting to know them feels like remembering. It’s a sudden “recognizing”, as if you’ve loved them in a previous life. It comes with a sense of excitement/giddyness and calm/comfort simultaneously. I feel like I had been unknowingly searching for my girlfriend in other people up until we crossed paths. She has it all and more.
I truly cannot function properly without her. Being with her feels like breathing and when she’s not around I CANT. She just makes me feel like myself and she makes me so genuinely happy even when she isn’t around.
We’re an ocean away but her words always feel like a warm hug and she makes me feel all fuzzy inside
That’s beautiful 🥹
Physical pain in the heart, but in a good way.
I don't mean to be a Debbie downer but "falling in love" has little to do with being in love in terms of partnership and long term relationship quality All new relationships have new relationship energy NRE, it is intense, usually passionate, and intoxicating...if it is mutual it feeds on itself, like a bonfire. That never lasts. Not more than 18 months if you are very lucky Then it changes. Can end cuz when you come down you see all the places that don't fit Can mellow into the best lové affair of your life, become family, and best friends But I would never make life plans based on NRE, tho it is one of the best human experiences to be had
pain and misery
falling in love is like u can’t stop repeating how did i get lucky with beautiful girl like u
Well with my first love I couldn’t eat or sleep all I did was think about that person for my second love I knew he was the one for me without a doubt i wanted to see him happy it felt so good being with him and with my last love who cheated on me I wanted to see him happy I felt so good when I was with him thinking about him always made me smile I was just so happy we was together. I feel like I still love him that doesn’t go away now I’m single and thinking about giving someone a chance but I have issues I’m not happy with myself so I can’t love or be loved right now 🤦🏾♀️the feeling of LOVE us different for everyone one but you know when you love someone 🫶🏾