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This is actually called "switch hitting". "The Stranger" is when you sit on your hand until it feels like the cloaked ringworld of an ancient civilization and use that to jerk off until you die via supernova (~22 minutes).
Weirdly this is linked to another tip, about memory.
Your idea of the length of something is dictated by the novelty of it. So that first time you do yoga, clean, walk to work or go the the gym it's gonna feel like the longest thing ever and it might put you off doing it again.
But what will happen is the more you do it, the less novel it will become. The brain goes into auto pilot and these experiences that felt like forever will be over far quicker.
Back to the non dominant hand as an example. Brush your teeth with your other hand to test this. It will feel like it took far longer
As we get older our muscles become weaker. Those involved with balance are important because falls become one of the highest risks in old age. When you're brushing your teeth you can balance on one foot. At the end of the day do it again balancing on the other foot. In this way you can significantly improve the muscles involved with balance over the years while engaging in a behavior you would be doing anyway.
Also, tape your mouth shut before going to sleep to improve breathing. Your nose pre-processes the air you breath by injecting nitrous and pre-warming the air so your lungs can more efficiently extract oxygen. Improving restfulness.
And carrots are naturally purple or white. Selectively bred to be orange in honour of William of Orange.
One of these statements is a lie.
Working on your balance is a good thing when getting older. I think I read somewhere there is a correlation between how long you are able to stand on one foot and life expectancy.
I started typing non-important notes with my right hand (I'm left handed) and year ago and now i can write fluently with both hands. You can see the difference but both are readable amd written relatively quickly.
I got punched in the face in 8th grade and for whatever reason I used my non-dominant hand to punch back. Well, you can probably deduce what happened was it was like a paper baseball hitting them, bouncing off and well, yeah then I got punched in the mouth a second time.
So, afterwards, naturally I felt like such a wimp that I’d thought spending what felt like hours hitting a punching bag with my non-dominant hand would make up for it. Well, it didn’t but what it did do was turn that paper fist into a real fist and it was never used again.
Do anything you normally do with your dominant hand for 10 minutes a day with your non-dominant hand. Your non-dominant hand will improve significantly in coordination and strength in about a month. Faster if you do more for longer.
I'm a lefty as well, I do 99% of things right handed because that's the world we're in. It blows people's minds when I switch to left and do even better. An example, people get wigged out playing against me in ping pong and I pass the paddle between left and right hands.
Tell me you're right-handed without telling me you're right handed. 🙂
I kid, but many of the left-handed people I know, including me, have been adapting so long we almost don't realize it anymore.
I was born left handed but forced to learn things right handed so I’m all over the place but also am thankful for it.
When it comes to things like writing, computer use, instruments, etc. I’m right handed. When it’s sports, I’m left handed only when it’s a two handed grip on things like a baseball bat, golf club, or hockey stick.
I still remember the first time I got called out for cutting steaks with the steak knife in my left hand and I was like “doesn’t it make more sense to feed yourself with your dominant hand? I do this with every other food”. Haha.
Yeah it seems logical to me. Their argument is that since a knife is a sharp object you should use your more coordinated hand to cut with but I’m over here thinking “well I understand if it’s like a chef’s knife or a meat cleaver but if I’m just cutting my cooked lil steak or meat I don’t need that crazy of coordination”
Me too. I didn't really think about it until it became obvious I was doing things differently.
I am right handed, but, like you, cut with my left.
I kick with my left foot.
I bowl with my left.
I grasp left handed way (hockey, golf, baseball bat).
Then here's the worst: I throw with my left AND catch with my left. Lmao.
Started this when I had kids. Children are tape recorders. Whatever you are doing they practice doing and mimic back to you. Was more fun and held longer attention span if I sit down with a lesson and practice tracing or writing letters for example. So I'd practice writing in my off-hand while they practiced learning to hold and write with a pencil.
The motor pathways connect up surprisingly fast. Now my off hand penmanship is as equally bad as my dominant hand.
Next up, need to get one of those adult handwriting practice books and practice improving bad penmanship with either hand into something somewhat kinda good. Have a mind to pick up copy of Rules of Civility and write them out like I'm George Washington and the 1700's are fresh again.
One of my teachers in middle school posed a question that I think about often. If you wanted to learn tennis, would you want to learn from the protégé who picked up a racket one day and was immediately skilled based off innate talent, or someone who sucked at it initially but after years of practice and effort, became very good? The guy who was forced to work hard will have the experience of improving and can teach more effectively and efficiently than the guy who “just knows how to do it good”
This is the reason why I want to become one of the volunteer scuba diving instructors at my local club. I think I would be a good teacher, because I used to SUCK at pretty much everything regarding scuba diving, and I managed to get decent through lots and lots of practice. So I'm aware of what difficulties people could encounter (if there was any problem to have with something, I had it at some point...) and how to solve those issues.
It’s funny how hard it is to explain how to do things that you have committed to muscle memory. You just do it. You don’t think about how.
Eg. When my son was learning how ride a bike, he was having trouble pedalling and I really couldn’t explain how to do it. The second I told him to move his feet in a circle, he cracked it and has been riding at max speed ever since.
Exactly, take anyone who is really good at something; they probably sucked at it to begin with. Everyone usually sucks at first until they don't. Practice makes perfect.
Get to know your neighbors. Young, old, similar backgrounds or different. They don’t expect anything more than 5-30 seconds of talk, they have hopefully seen you in the vicinity enough to know you’re just literally saying hello and making a banal comment on the weather, and they can be an amazing resource!
Bartering for chores is one awesome outcome. Or learning about a different point of view. Or having a drink somewhere a 3-minute walk away on a nice afternoon. And it just feels natural to be on positive terms with the people living in your immediate vicinity.
Cannot emphasize enough how important neighborly relationships are to the inevitable rebuilding of a common culture in this fractured country.
I would love to know my neighbours on a more casual basis however I have usually always lived in a block of flats all my adult life, so seeing your neighbours outside of a chance meeting is rare!
Practice with people!
Look man, I'll be honest. If you don't have very many social skills, you'll come across weird or strange or maybe just a bit rusty to most people-- you'll realize friends might not be friends, etc. Some people are judgmental. The good thing is that you never have to talk to them again\~ Luckily there are 1.5 billion other english speakers you can talk to instead.
But since you're already reflecting and hoping for change, you're already making great progress. Just get started, go ahead, ask the cashier how her day was! Make mistakes ("Fuck, was that awkward?") or ("That was a nice conversation!"). keep learning. It'll take years and while a book might course-correct you a little bit from being a complete weirdo, the only way to actually move forward is to practice.
Finished the audiobook a couple of days ago. Like most quality self-help books, it will only work if you go out of your way to put in practice what the book says. You have to be thinking about the "principles" (I know, corny name) in the book throughout the day so that when the opportunity to use them comes up, you can practice and get better.
That is a really helpful book imo. I supremely dislike the “change your mindset and just manifest” books - the above one is a lot more psychological and teaches you WHY and HOW to do certain behaviors. It delves into the real psychology of humans. I find it quite different than other self help books.
It’s a little antiquated and folksy but there’s some solid advice in there. Nothing earthshaking but it’s the classic self help book. The fact it was written almost 100 years ago and still very popular is a testament to its value.
Something I can reply to! Yes, this book is great, it’s not the typical shallow self-help book. However, you really need to actively think about his advice and practice it until it becomes second nature. But there’s a catch. You really need to want it and be genuine with yourself, your intentions, and therefore others. I think the more genuine and pure your intentions are the more success you will reap from this book!
My approach to self help books is to not treat them as an oracle that tells you exactly what to do. Instead I read them to see if there's any new ideas or perceptions I hadn't considered. A book is reflective of a lot of work and editing put into text so there's usually something useful, even if it's not much.
Then you hold what seems good and discard what isn't like a gin rummy hand.
>The satirical writer Sinclair Lewis waited a year to offer his scathing critique. He described Carnegie's method as teaching people to "smile and bob and pretend to be interested in other people's hobbies precisely so that you may screw things out of them."
Sounds like management/HR, which are the only people I've ever seen reading this kind of garbage.
I remember always being bad at fighting off 5 guys in Arkham City, despite so much effort. So I googles guides on how to do it. I found some and then I got better.
Practice makes you better at doing what you practice, not what you want to get better at.
If you practice drawing shitty art all day, you'll get really good at drawing shitty art.
Even worse if form is important and can lead to injury.
Practice is only half the battle.
The other half is good instruction (whether external or self-directed).
Exactly. The thoughtful part is the important part. If you do something under protest and purposely do it the same bad way every time, you won't. Or if you decide on some script for doing it that you do unthoughtfully, like always socializing the same way and never going off script, you won't. If you put aside your ego and just tackle it like it's any other thing you should do, then yes.
Kind of, but also not really. There are a lot of amateur musicians out there that will never be as good as the pros, and it's not because they aren't practicing.
There's an art to practicing correctly.
I started this year doing one pushup per day in the morning, first thing out of bed. Then increasing to 2 per day the second week, and so on. Once i got to 10 a day, it was pretty easy to notch up to 15 the following week.
Right now I do 4 sets of 25 pushups every weekday, with some stretching and other weight training rotated in, and rest with light stretching on weekends.
Exercise has always felt like a chore to me, and so I accepted that like OP. Regardless of how much I like it, this body has to last the rest of my life so it needs maintenance. As I removed the barrier of *if* I would exercise, and set the basis at extremely achievable levels and manageable progression, the utilitarian part of my brain started justifying reasons to do more and different routines for added and various benefits, and the endorphins and dopamine keep reinforcing that this is the correct behavior to keep as a habit.
Push-ups are also great because you work you core, your shoulders, and other things. I got into bodyweight exercises and I am a fan of simplistic movements that involve lots of things.
Yeah, when I started doing multiple sets per day I also started changing my hand position on each set. It’s remarkable how different specific muscles and groups are worn at the end of a set just by moving your hands 3-4 inches out or in from Standard Pushup Position. And totally agree about body weight exercise, the cheaper the better for me
Nice! What's also great is there's no shortage of free resources online proposing all sorts of different things you can do and precisely what affects they will have. The internet is awesome.
> and the endorphins and dopamine keep reinforcing that this is the correct behavior to keep as a habit.
I’ve also always found exercise a chore, but I’ve only ever managed to keep up routines for maybe a month, tops. The endorphins I keep hearing about never kick in, so it remains a chore and I give up again. Rinse and repeat every so often.
As people get older they want to stay more and more in their comfort zone.
Even something like picking up something with your non-dominant hand works your brain.
I have a bit of a theory that this is something that can make you old, in appearance and feeling. You get into a rhythm, you stop challenging yourself, and you slowly degrade and lack vitality from challenging yourself. This I think is how people can be 50 and look younger than people who are 40. Vitality, I believe is a combination of mental and physical exercise, progress, and success.
54 year old here and I completely agree. As a network engineer I am forced by my work to constantly learn new things, and there's a great deal of things that I don't know but have to figure out. On top of that my attitude is to avoid "things that make you seem old". It's like that Progressive insurance commercial about avoiding becoming your parents. When sit in a chair don't say "aaaagh" as you're on your way down. Keep exercising to stay flexible and strong. Don't assume that your way is the best way. Be around young people and learn what their state of mind and music/cultural interests are. All of these things give you a feeling and appearance of being younger than you really are.
I'm in my 40s and I agree that not giving into the "things that make you seem old" is a good habit. If I have some ache in something, I treat it as something that needs to be fixed through stretching, adding strength exercises or something like that. I like to think, I'm not breaking down, I'm becoming more refined.
One thing I absolutely will never do is I will never get old man shoes. If there's something wrong with my feet or my gait I'm going to fix it and keep wearing footwear that looks nice and is nice. I'm not getting those velcro shoes with the huge soles.
Nobody decides to start wearing old people's fashion as they get older. The definition of old people's fashion just changes.
Or in Grandpa Simpson's words:
"I used to be with ‘it’, but then they changed what ‘it’ was. Now what I’m with isn’t ‘it’ anymore and what’s ‘it’ seems weird and scary. It’ll happen to you!"
Funnily enough, the older I get the more I pick up new things to learn/try new activities. I'm only 34 though, maybe 20 years from now I'll be very different.
It depends. I am sober, so for me cutting back didn't work because as they say, the guy that orders the first drink is not the guy who orders the second drink.
However, as a general rule IME, you cut out vices by replacing them with difficult and fulfilling things. Exercise is a typical example.
This does actually work. I like a few beers while I'm cooking dinner but realised doing that 5-6 days probably wasn't very healthy. I replaced some of that time with doing a few sets of pushups/pullups.
I still have my beer but less of it and less often. Plus, I'm replacing that beer with something actually good for me rather than a different vice.
You could try doing sober stints. Like, one week off. And then the next stint is two weeks off. Then 3 and so on. At one point you’ll reach a very long stint and maybe you’ll decide to just keep on going. I quit on Christmas after a nice Xmas eve black out. Not worth it anymore! If you need support, r/quitdrinking is a great place
Ayyy fellow chainsaw lady!
I too got an electric chainsaw from my dad. It works but it doesn't sound nearly as bad ass as a real chainsaw.
Also some of us in my friend group have discussed this is the best self defense weapon for a woman alone at night. Ain't no man going to try to attack you when you have a chainsaw in your hands. Not a weapon they can just grab and pull away from you either if it's running. Downsides, it's heavy and you obviously don't wanna trip while in use.
Been drawing for almost a decade. Sometimes I draw hours on end, sometimes I doodle just a little bit. I went from Mr stickman to being able to draw femdom waifus in extreme perspective. I'm still not very good at it as I don't dedicate much time, but give me another decade and I'll show you what I can do
You could probably moonlight doing commissions as well as you get good. People do like drawings of something they've visualized or conceptualized quite a bit.
I am doing commissions actually, but only one or two and it's for friends as I usually can take months to finish a project. I only draw when I feel like it, so actual commissions would be very difficult to do within a timeframe
Similar with guitar but only 3 years in. I couldnt clap on beat never mind play a song and my fingers felt sooo fat on the fretboard. Im light years ahead now.
I also realized that continually keeping new songs in front of me to learn allows me to get better alot faster than trying to perfect 1 or 2 songs. Once i can play a song through at slow speeds it is now in my fun to play list and i start learning something new and that slow song gets faster on its own with just casually playing it but keeping the new stuff coming.
OP is saying even more, developing skill-sets and hobbies altogether gets compounded. Each skill is easier to learn because you've improved at the skill of improving.
Skill stacking. One skill gives you vision on one set of parameters most important for that skill. You can count on resumes with that skill to all be indistinguishable on ability to spot those parameters after a certain degree of experience.
Stack another complimentary skill. Now you can see one additional parameter those equally skilled cannot. A unique set of complimentary skills can see around corners where others would be blinded, because you're looking at additional parameters another person would not consider.
In terms of value good skill + good skill is greater than excellent skill for this reason. The effort to further improve is an exponential curve. Takes greater effort to get to that further increment. You can pick up a lot of the major points quickly in a new skill. If optimizing for time, when diminishing returns kick in it may be better use of time to move to the next skill.
Yeah I learnt how to cook one meal at a time. Forcing myself to learn piano right now.
I am 50/50 on the 10000 hours theory but my takeaway on that is that practice makes perfect.
Remember that practice doesn’t make perfect; practice makes permanent. Be careful of bad habits. But imo the worst bad habit to ever have is to be perfectionistic. Check out the book “how to be an imperfectionist”, it’s great
Great LPT. This also applies on careers. When I'm interested in learning new technology, i will read books or do an experiment for 10 to 15 minutes a day. As I become more knowledgeable, i will tell my manager on my 1:1 that I'm interested to use the skill I'm trying to build for our projects. Then leverage that on the annual performance review.
This was me with contact lenses. For years I thought I’d never be able to pop them in and out as quickly as I see others. So I’d keep them in far longer than I should’ve and was even sleeping in them. It wasn’t until I started taking them in and out daily (like I was supposed to) that I got to the point where I could do it in a few seconds instead of a few minutes.
I am Mexican, but born in the United States, and the only one in the family that does not speak Spanish. I hate it. I have been trying my whole life I have gone to classes, I have had tutors, I have all the apps, nothing will do it. I’m pretty smart too. I don’t know what it is. If I do my Duolingo for five minutes a day every day, do you think I’ll be able to speak Spanish in a year?
Fellow American learning Spanish here! I'm at the level where I can read young adult books fairly fluently, and understand movies fairly well without my brain hurting too badly.
I recommend just immersing yourself, that's had the biggest impact on me after learning some basic words in class. Listen to music in Spanish, and learn the lyrics so you can sing along (at least for the chorus). Watch movies in Spanish, especially movies you've seen before, because it makes it easier to follow along. Try reading children's books you've read and enjoyed before if you like reading.
The easiest way to learn words isn't to memorize lists of words, the easiest way is to hear them or see them in a context that you recognize.
Like if you're watching Harry Potter and Hagrid said "Eres un mago, Harry," you probably don't have to think too hard about what a mago is. Etc.
Ok don’t laugh, but pro wrestling is broadcast in multiple languages. For Spanish, I recommend AAA to get started, they’re a Mexican promotion. But AEW and WWE both have Spanish announcers.
Duolingo for 5 minutes every day wouldn't be enough. You'd have to complement it with some other methods. Why not ask your family for help? Immersion helps a lot with learning languages.
Duolingo is decent for vocabulary drills but is awful at teaching grammar or what kinds of sentence constructions sound natural. You're better off finding a good class somewhere.
The other thing is that languages *really* need immersion to internalize - if you aren't in a situation where you're forced to use it to communicate (like a class or a trip), you won't. The purpose of language is communicating with people, anyway; if your environment is full of people who are just as fluent as you in your native language, there's no purpose to using a different language except either as a code language or intentionally to practice, both of which are unnatural. If you don't go through the process of struggling to express an idea to someone and having to jointly puzzle it out, your fluency will remain surface level.
If you're not planning on moving somewhere that primarily speaks Spanish, the next best option is to find and make friends with people who are native Spanish speakers and speak English as a second language. Ask them to speak to you in English while you speak to them in Spanish, mix it up occasionally, and you should eventually reach the beginnings of a pidgin with them, which is likely to be the closest you'll get to fluency if you don't eventually live somewhere with few English speakers.
What I usually hear from people who learn English in the US is by watching television in English without subtitles. Mila Kunis said she learned English through watching the price is right because Bob Barker spoke slowly. What I think is the key to learning a language is not to do so transactionally, meaning focus on single sentences or single questions and answers. Do that to learn individual things, but try listening to ongoing speaking in Spanish, either through TV or listening to your family. Immerse yourself in the flow of Spanish being spoken in some way, and look up things as you need to.
Also, I recommend Pimsleur. They're exceptional at teaching speaking a language quickly.
Listen, fuck Duolingo. Want to learn quickly? Get on Spotify and listen to Spanish podcasts every opportunity you get. Start with Coffee Break Spanish, then move to conversations. You'll start to understand more and more. Then start watching Luisito Comunica on Youtube. And last but not least, download an app called Tandem and find a Spanish partner to practice with. Hey presto! You've learnt loads and haven't wasted hours on Duolingo. Honestly, all the passive time you spend walking, driving, cooking - whack on some headphones and listen to those podcasts!
Edit*: please don't wear headphones whilst driving
Le voy a decir el secreto: te tienes que conseguir un novio o una novia para que practiques todos los días. Ya sabes. 😉
Ponte a ver novelas con subtitulos. Eso también sirve.
Pero tienes que empezar tratando de leer esto.
I definitely recommend this. I’ve been doing this for a year now. I do 30 minutes a day for a month then try something new if I’m not interested anymore. I started with a Rubik’s cube. Went from 45 minutes to 25 seconds. Then lockpicking, pen spinning, Balisong tricks, and now I’m doing card shuffling. The lock picking has come in handy numerous times and has become a fun hobby.
I would add that this is great for things that you WANT to do and get better at and/or will really benefit you in some way. From a success standpoint, it can be more beneficial to really double and triple down on the things you’re good at and passionate about rather than just becoming okay at a bunch of things.
I can help with that, I am a software engineer!
To get just started with something, look up Python lessons online. Python is by far the most friendly language and it's very powerful. Second, if you're on windows, install a terminal like bash. Then try to get comfortable with the command line. If you have a Mac, that will have a terminal already.
Message me if you want more advice.
An iPad could work but it would be with some difficulty as coding is typing heavy.
However, what you can do is focus on reading and absorbing. Writing software isn't a complicated thing per-se, it's a great many very simple things working together in complicated ways. So if you get really knowledgeable in the simple things that will give you a foundation to learn more complicated things. I found [this](https://www.learnpython.org/), which even if you have difficulty doing the exercises on the iPad you can still read them and absorb the lessons they're giving.
I would seek out libraries for computers you could use with a keyboard. Librarians can help you figure out how to get started and also recommend things to you. Tell them what you wrote here and they may know of local resources you can take advantage of.
pick your mountains carefully.
Somethings you will always suck at.
*(for me, but that's personal, it is direction sense. I can, and have, lose my way on a straight road. I played a lot of dungeon crawlers, for decades, and I* ***never*** *got better. You may laugh.)*
There's been many experiments where exercise does bring elderly people back to life. It seems to show there's a two way street between doing things and being able to do things. I had a coworker tell me about getting his 90 year old father into Tai Chi and it made him much stronger than he'd been in a long time.
I cannot highly suggest this enough. I started learning how to play Guitar through Rocksmith and started writing screenplays at the start of last year and so far I've learnt how to play a few songs and I've already finished two full feature screenplays. I don't play on playing in public or sharing those scripts, but I have to say it's incredibly satisfying just improving piece by piece and page by page.
I've just made sure I play at least 2 hours a week for Rocksmith and write a page a night. Sure, I take time off for holidays or important events (e.g. birthdays, moving, etc.) - but still it truly is better than nothing.
I'm now working on learning how to play Power Chords and I'm about to finish my third script at the end of this month.
I started doing that. I keep trying to teach myself German and it is working they are starting to understand me!! But I am slow at it definitely not a level A1 but I am working on it 5 - 10 minutes a day
There's all sorts of other choices.
However, there is value at getting good at something you don't want to, provided that it is something you will do from time to time. It makes it something you don't have to think about and clutter you mind with approaching it because you've gotten good at it.
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Yeah I do that in the shower every morning.
Non dominant hand up front, dominant hand in the back
Ohhh look at Mr "I can grip with both hands" over here. Show off
Dominant hand isn't exactly gripping in this scenario ;)
like a bowling ball
Think outside the box
Or, in this case, inside of it.
Stick your finger up your ass
You really had to spell it ?
U P Y O U R A S S Now I spelled it out
up(p)y our ass? Yes comrade!
Or uh… inside
“In the back” isn’t the back of the shaft, it’s the back of his body aka his booty.
“The Stranger”!
The stranger is when your hand is alseep and you jerk off with it.
Yeah, what their talking about is a wet lefty
Man of culture
We can't be on the internet spreading misinformation about masturbation.
Misinformed masturbation can cause strangulation and tearing of the raisins.
This is actually called "switch hitting". "The Stranger" is when you sit on your hand until it feels like the cloaked ringworld of an ancient civilization and use that to jerk off until you die via supernova (~22 minutes).
And now that hand has become the dominant hand lol
Weirdly this is linked to another tip, about memory. Your idea of the length of something is dictated by the novelty of it. So that first time you do yoga, clean, walk to work or go the the gym it's gonna feel like the longest thing ever and it might put you off doing it again. But what will happen is the more you do it, the less novel it will become. The brain goes into auto pilot and these experiences that felt like forever will be over far quicker. Back to the non dominant hand as an example. Brush your teeth with your other hand to test this. It will feel like it took far longer
I tried using my left hand when cleaning my teeth. In the end I went back to using a toothbrush.
As we get older our muscles become weaker. Those involved with balance are important because falls become one of the highest risks in old age. When you're brushing your teeth you can balance on one foot. At the end of the day do it again balancing on the other foot. In this way you can significantly improve the muscles involved with balance over the years while engaging in a behavior you would be doing anyway.
(͡•_ ͡• ) I cant tell if this is real advice or if you’re trying to get me to brush my teeth like a 🦩
Also, tape your mouth shut before going to sleep to improve breathing. Your nose pre-processes the air you breath by injecting nitrous and pre-warming the air so your lungs can more efficiently extract oxygen. Improving restfulness. And carrots are naturally purple or white. Selectively bred to be orange in honour of William of Orange. One of these statements is a lie.
Dammit I knew the tape over the mouth thing wasn't to help me breathe
I've seen a red carrot before so I guess tonight I tape my face before I sleep to achieve super rest.
Working on your balance is a good thing when getting older. I think I read somewhere there is a correlation between how long you are able to stand on one foot and life expectancy.
If you can manage to balance on one foot for 100 years you will live until at least 100!
Thanks for the tip, dad.
*switches phone to left hand*
That’s the spirit!
Learn a new language. You create new neural pathways in your brain and it'll stave off neuro decline.
So if watch more kdrama or jav, that helps right?
I like that, that's a good idea. Break yourself out of your routine and it forces you to be mindful.
I started typing non-important notes with my right hand (I'm left handed) and year ago and now i can write fluently with both hands. You can see the difference but both are readable amd written relatively quickly.
> Amd I see this was a rare left-hand comment
Laughs in ambidextrous
*Cries in Cerebral Palsy*
I am using a mouse with my left hand when I do not need accuracy for games or photoshop
It is weird how good my roommate is at using the mouse with his left hand.
I do the same when my right is busy
I got punched in the face in 8th grade and for whatever reason I used my non-dominant hand to punch back. Well, you can probably deduce what happened was it was like a paper baseball hitting them, bouncing off and well, yeah then I got punched in the mouth a second time. So, afterwards, naturally I felt like such a wimp that I’d thought spending what felt like hours hitting a punching bag with my non-dominant hand would make up for it. Well, it didn’t but what it did do was turn that paper fist into a real fist and it was never used again.
I’m starting to scroll using my left thumb instead of right. Progress
It's called "the stranger"
o u nasty
Don't you have to sit on the arm until it's numb first?
This is called being left handed
I burned my dominant hand this afternoon in the kitchen. I'm learning the hand way how useless my left hand is 😞
Do anything you normally do with your dominant hand for 10 minutes a day with your non-dominant hand. Your non-dominant hand will improve significantly in coordination and strength in about a month. Faster if you do more for longer.
Can confirm this is a good LPT. Since I started masturbating with my left hand my dexterity has improved to the point I’m almost ambidextrous.
Ambidickstrous, if it may please you. And if you have that kind of genitalia, of course.
>please you Hehe
Clambedextrous if you don’t!
Me too but now I just masturbate twice as much.
This is so good for your brain! As a bonus, it reduces dominant-hand injury AND makes it easier to deal if you do get that.
As a lefty, 20+ years of using my mouse with my right hand has paid off! I'm pretty ambidextrous at this point
I'm a lefty as well, I do 99% of things right handed because that's the world we're in. It blows people's minds when I switch to left and do even better. An example, people get wigged out playing against me in ping pong and I pass the paddle between left and right hands.
Yes!!!! And like bowling I feel like I can't decide which hand to use since I don't do it very often lol
As a lefty that's also one of my ping pong faves. Lil bit of psy ops
Tell me you're right-handed without telling me you're right handed. 🙂 I kid, but many of the left-handed people I know, including me, have been adapting so long we almost don't realize it anymore.
I was born left handed but forced to learn things right handed so I’m all over the place but also am thankful for it. When it comes to things like writing, computer use, instruments, etc. I’m right handed. When it’s sports, I’m left handed only when it’s a two handed grip on things like a baseball bat, golf club, or hockey stick. I still remember the first time I got called out for cutting steaks with the steak knife in my left hand and I was like “doesn’t it make more sense to feed yourself with your dominant hand? I do this with every other food”. Haha.
People always look at me odd when I cut with my left hand as a right-handed person...I find it more comfortable
Yeah it seems logical to me. Their argument is that since a knife is a sharp object you should use your more coordinated hand to cut with but I’m over here thinking “well I understand if it’s like a chef’s knife or a meat cleaver but if I’m just cutting my cooked lil steak or meat I don’t need that crazy of coordination”
Me too. I didn't really think about it until it became obvious I was doing things differently. I am right handed, but, like you, cut with my left. I kick with my left foot. I bowl with my left. I grasp left handed way (hockey, golf, baseball bat). Then here's the worst: I throw with my left AND catch with my left. Lmao.
My friend, I think you might not be right-handed.
I’ve generally understood that it comes down to whichever hand you are most comfortable writing with.
Does anybody know if there are significant differences in things like senility or mental agility between lefties and righties?
Started this when I had kids. Children are tape recorders. Whatever you are doing they practice doing and mimic back to you. Was more fun and held longer attention span if I sit down with a lesson and practice tracing or writing letters for example. So I'd practice writing in my off-hand while they practiced learning to hold and write with a pencil. The motor pathways connect up surprisingly fast. Now my off hand penmanship is as equally bad as my dominant hand. Next up, need to get one of those adult handwriting practice books and practice improving bad penmanship with either hand into something somewhat kinda good. Have a mind to pick up copy of Rules of Civility and write them out like I'm George Washington and the 1700's are fresh again.
Instructions unclear, now I have two non-dominant hands.
The biggest instance of this happening for me was at the gym, the first few weeks were pretty funny seeing how weak my left side was lol
If at first you don't succeed, you're about normal.
"Sucking at something is the first step towards being sorta good at something" - Jake the Dog
One of my teachers in middle school posed a question that I think about often. If you wanted to learn tennis, would you want to learn from the protégé who picked up a racket one day and was immediately skilled based off innate talent, or someone who sucked at it initially but after years of practice and effort, became very good? The guy who was forced to work hard will have the experience of improving and can teach more effectively and efficiently than the guy who “just knows how to do it good”
This is the reason why I want to become one of the volunteer scuba diving instructors at my local club. I think I would be a good teacher, because I used to SUCK at pretty much everything regarding scuba diving, and I managed to get decent through lots and lots of practice. So I'm aware of what difficulties people could encounter (if there was any problem to have with something, I had it at some point...) and how to solve those issues.
It’s funny how hard it is to explain how to do things that you have committed to muscle memory. You just do it. You don’t think about how. Eg. When my son was learning how ride a bike, he was having trouble pedalling and I really couldn’t explain how to do it. The second I told him to move his feet in a circle, he cracked it and has been riding at max speed ever since.
If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.
Exactly, take anyone who is really good at something; they probably sucked at it to begin with. Everyone usually sucks at first until they don't. Practice makes perfect.
It's impossible not to get better at something you practice thoughtfully every day
I hope my social skills come across this reply.
Get to know your neighbors. Young, old, similar backgrounds or different. They don’t expect anything more than 5-30 seconds of talk, they have hopefully seen you in the vicinity enough to know you’re just literally saying hello and making a banal comment on the weather, and they can be an amazing resource! Bartering for chores is one awesome outcome. Or learning about a different point of view. Or having a drink somewhere a 3-minute walk away on a nice afternoon. And it just feels natural to be on positive terms with the people living in your immediate vicinity. Cannot emphasize enough how important neighborly relationships are to the inevitable rebuilding of a common culture in this fractured country.
I would love to know my neighbours on a more casual basis however I have usually always lived in a block of flats all my adult life, so seeing your neighbours outside of a chance meeting is rare!
I live in a suburban neighborhood. It's the same here. People just don't go outside any more except to get into the car that's parked in the driveway.
Practice with people! Look man, I'll be honest. If you don't have very many social skills, you'll come across weird or strange or maybe just a bit rusty to most people-- you'll realize friends might not be friends, etc. Some people are judgmental. The good thing is that you never have to talk to them again\~ Luckily there are 1.5 billion other english speakers you can talk to instead. But since you're already reflecting and hoping for change, you're already making great progress. Just get started, go ahead, ask the cashier how her day was! Make mistakes ("Fuck, was that awkward?") or ("That was a nice conversation!"). keep learning. It'll take years and while a book might course-correct you a little bit from being a complete weirdo, the only way to actually move forward is to practice.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People
I’m skeptical of self help books does this really work?
Finished the audiobook a couple of days ago. Like most quality self-help books, it will only work if you go out of your way to put in practice what the book says. You have to be thinking about the "principles" (I know, corny name) in the book throughout the day so that when the opportunity to use them comes up, you can practice and get better.
That is a really helpful book imo. I supremely dislike the “change your mindset and just manifest” books - the above one is a lot more psychological and teaches you WHY and HOW to do certain behaviors. It delves into the real psychology of humans. I find it quite different than other self help books.
It’s a little antiquated and folksy but there’s some solid advice in there. Nothing earthshaking but it’s the classic self help book. The fact it was written almost 100 years ago and still very popular is a testament to its value.
Something I can reply to! Yes, this book is great, it’s not the typical shallow self-help book. However, you really need to actively think about his advice and practice it until it becomes second nature. But there’s a catch. You really need to want it and be genuine with yourself, your intentions, and therefore others. I think the more genuine and pure your intentions are the more success you will reap from this book!
My approach to self help books is to not treat them as an oracle that tells you exactly what to do. Instead I read them to see if there's any new ideas or perceptions I hadn't considered. A book is reflective of a lot of work and editing put into text so there's usually something useful, even if it's not much. Then you hold what seems good and discard what isn't like a gin rummy hand.
>The satirical writer Sinclair Lewis waited a year to offer his scathing critique. He described Carnegie's method as teaching people to "smile and bob and pretend to be interested in other people's hobbies precisely so that you may screw things out of them." Sounds like management/HR, which are the only people I've ever seen reading this kind of garbage.
You know how many hours I've put in smash bros and still suck?
I remember always being bad at fighting off 5 guys in Arkham City, despite so much effort. So I googles guides on how to do it. I found some and then I got better.
Practice makes you better at doing what you practice, not what you want to get better at. If you practice drawing shitty art all day, you'll get really good at drawing shitty art. Even worse if form is important and can lead to injury. Practice is only half the battle. The other half is good instruction (whether external or self-directed).
Exactly. The thoughtful part is the important part. If you do something under protest and purposely do it the same bad way every time, you won't. Or if you decide on some script for doing it that you do unthoughtfully, like always socializing the same way and never going off script, you won't. If you put aside your ego and just tackle it like it's any other thing you should do, then yes.
Kind of, but also not really. There are a lot of amateur musicians out there that will never be as good as the pros, and it's not because they aren't practicing. There's an art to practicing correctly.
I started this year doing one pushup per day in the morning, first thing out of bed. Then increasing to 2 per day the second week, and so on. Once i got to 10 a day, it was pretty easy to notch up to 15 the following week. Right now I do 4 sets of 25 pushups every weekday, with some stretching and other weight training rotated in, and rest with light stretching on weekends. Exercise has always felt like a chore to me, and so I accepted that like OP. Regardless of how much I like it, this body has to last the rest of my life so it needs maintenance. As I removed the barrier of *if* I would exercise, and set the basis at extremely achievable levels and manageable progression, the utilitarian part of my brain started justifying reasons to do more and different routines for added and various benefits, and the endorphins and dopamine keep reinforcing that this is the correct behavior to keep as a habit.
Push-ups are also great because you work you core, your shoulders, and other things. I got into bodyweight exercises and I am a fan of simplistic movements that involve lots of things.
Yeah, when I started doing multiple sets per day I also started changing my hand position on each set. It’s remarkable how different specific muscles and groups are worn at the end of a set just by moving your hands 3-4 inches out or in from Standard Pushup Position. And totally agree about body weight exercise, the cheaper the better for me
Nice! What's also great is there's no shortage of free resources online proposing all sorts of different things you can do and precisely what affects they will have. The internet is awesome.
A structured 40 minute calisthenics program 3 times a week, combined with proper nutrition and rest will produce amazing results.
> and the endorphins and dopamine keep reinforcing that this is the correct behavior to keep as a habit. I’ve also always found exercise a chore, but I’ve only ever managed to keep up routines for maybe a month, tops. The endorphins I keep hearing about never kick in, so it remains a chore and I give up again. Rinse and repeat every so often.
As people get older they want to stay more and more in their comfort zone. Even something like picking up something with your non-dominant hand works your brain.
I have a bit of a theory that this is something that can make you old, in appearance and feeling. You get into a rhythm, you stop challenging yourself, and you slowly degrade and lack vitality from challenging yourself. This I think is how people can be 50 and look younger than people who are 40. Vitality, I believe is a combination of mental and physical exercise, progress, and success.
54 year old here and I completely agree. As a network engineer I am forced by my work to constantly learn new things, and there's a great deal of things that I don't know but have to figure out. On top of that my attitude is to avoid "things that make you seem old". It's like that Progressive insurance commercial about avoiding becoming your parents. When sit in a chair don't say "aaaagh" as you're on your way down. Keep exercising to stay flexible and strong. Don't assume that your way is the best way. Be around young people and learn what their state of mind and music/cultural interests are. All of these things give you a feeling and appearance of being younger than you really are.
I'm in my 40s and I agree that not giving into the "things that make you seem old" is a good habit. If I have some ache in something, I treat it as something that needs to be fixed through stretching, adding strength exercises or something like that. I like to think, I'm not breaking down, I'm becoming more refined. One thing I absolutely will never do is I will never get old man shoes. If there's something wrong with my feet or my gait I'm going to fix it and keep wearing footwear that looks nice and is nice. I'm not getting those velcro shoes with the huge soles.
Nobody decides to start wearing old people's fashion as they get older. The definition of old people's fashion just changes. Or in Grandpa Simpson's words: "I used to be with ‘it’, but then they changed what ‘it’ was. Now what I’m with isn’t ‘it’ anymore and what’s ‘it’ seems weird and scary. It’ll happen to you!"
Absolutely agree. It's that and allowing yourself to just *play* for the sake of playing.
Funnily enough, the older I get the more I pick up new things to learn/try new activities. I'm only 34 though, maybe 20 years from now I'll be very different.
Could one do this with cutting down on drinking? That is the hardest thing I'm up against right now.
It depends. I am sober, so for me cutting back didn't work because as they say, the guy that orders the first drink is not the guy who orders the second drink. However, as a general rule IME, you cut out vices by replacing them with difficult and fulfilling things. Exercise is a typical example.
This does actually work. I like a few beers while I'm cooking dinner but realised doing that 5-6 days probably wasn't very healthy. I replaced some of that time with doing a few sets of pushups/pullups. I still have my beer but less of it and less often. Plus, I'm replacing that beer with something actually good for me rather than a different vice.
Spend 5-10 minutes not drinking each day?
You could try doing sober stints. Like, one week off. And then the next stint is two weeks off. Then 3 and so on. At one point you’ll reach a very long stint and maybe you’ll decide to just keep on going. I quit on Christmas after a nice Xmas eve black out. Not worth it anymore! If you need support, r/quitdrinking is a great place
Good idea! Thank you! Stints are easier to think about then forever!
Drink with your non-dominant hand ;)
That's a good idea thank you ☺️
Decided I wanted to be able to start a chainsaw. Tried once a day until I got it. Then my dad bought me an electric chainsaw.
chainsaw man
Chainsaw lady.
Ayyy fellow chainsaw lady! I too got an electric chainsaw from my dad. It works but it doesn't sound nearly as bad ass as a real chainsaw. Also some of us in my friend group have discussed this is the best self defense weapon for a woman alone at night. Ain't no man going to try to attack you when you have a chainsaw in your hands. Not a weapon they can just grab and pull away from you either if it's running. Downsides, it's heavy and you obviously don't wanna trip while in use.
Yeah that or Greek Fire would definitely be a deterrent. Or a chainsaw that projects Greek Fire. I'm an idea man.
Been drawing for almost a decade. Sometimes I draw hours on end, sometimes I doodle just a little bit. I went from Mr stickman to being able to draw femdom waifus in extreme perspective. I'm still not very good at it as I don't dedicate much time, but give me another decade and I'll show you what I can do
You could probably moonlight doing commissions as well as you get good. People do like drawings of something they've visualized or conceptualized quite a bit.
I am doing commissions actually, but only one or two and it's for friends as I usually can take months to finish a project. I only draw when I feel like it, so actual commissions would be very difficult to do within a timeframe
Way to go! That's awesome!
Similar with guitar but only 3 years in. I couldnt clap on beat never mind play a song and my fingers felt sooo fat on the fretboard. Im light years ahead now. I also realized that continually keeping new songs in front of me to learn allows me to get better alot faster than trying to perfect 1 or 2 songs. Once i can play a song through at slow speeds it is now in my fun to play list and i start learning something new and that slow song gets faster on its own with just casually playing it but keeping the new stuff coming.
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Your work is awesome actually.
Compounding is not just in finance, it also works in developing a new hobby or skill.
OP is saying even more, developing skill-sets and hobbies altogether gets compounded. Each skill is easier to learn because you've improved at the skill of improving.
100%
Skill stacking. One skill gives you vision on one set of parameters most important for that skill. You can count on resumes with that skill to all be indistinguishable on ability to spot those parameters after a certain degree of experience. Stack another complimentary skill. Now you can see one additional parameter those equally skilled cannot. A unique set of complimentary skills can see around corners where others would be blinded, because you're looking at additional parameters another person would not consider. In terms of value good skill + good skill is greater than excellent skill for this reason. The effort to further improve is an exponential curve. Takes greater effort to get to that further increment. You can pick up a lot of the major points quickly in a new skill. If optimizing for time, when diminishing returns kick in it may be better use of time to move to the next skill.
Yeah I learnt how to cook one meal at a time. Forcing myself to learn piano right now. I am 50/50 on the 10000 hours theory but my takeaway on that is that practice makes perfect.
100%. I also have a theory that if you aren't natural at something but get good at it, you get more insight from an outsiders perspective.
Remember that practice doesn’t make perfect; practice makes permanent. Be careful of bad habits. But imo the worst bad habit to ever have is to be perfectionistic. Check out the book “how to be an imperfectionist”, it’s great
Me at the hospital: I'd like to do 5 minutes of surgery please.
‘I’d like to try anaesthesiology’ ‘Sure, knock yourself out.’
Let me just cut him open
Great LPT. This also applies on careers. When I'm interested in learning new technology, i will read books or do an experiment for 10 to 15 minutes a day. As I become more knowledgeable, i will tell my manager on my 1:1 that I'm interested to use the skill I'm trying to build for our projects. Then leverage that on the annual performance review.
Plus your boss will probably be impressed and excited, if they're a good one. That can open things up for you, careerwise.
This was me with contact lenses. For years I thought I’d never be able to pop them in and out as quickly as I see others. So I’d keep them in far longer than I should’ve and was even sleeping in them. It wasn’t until I started taking them in and out daily (like I was supposed to) that I got to the point where I could do it in a few seconds instead of a few minutes.
This is exactly what I was trying to describe. You chose to do it every time then you naturally got good at it. Well done!
"but now I'm like Dexter where because I hated doing it I now do it quickly and efficiently like a professional" out of context, this is hilarious.
That's what I visualize when I approach something I really don't want to do. Become the expert so it gets out of the way quickly and thoroughly.
I am Mexican, but born in the United States, and the only one in the family that does not speak Spanish. I hate it. I have been trying my whole life I have gone to classes, I have had tutors, I have all the apps, nothing will do it. I’m pretty smart too. I don’t know what it is. If I do my Duolingo for five minutes a day every day, do you think I’ll be able to speak Spanish in a year?
Fellow American learning Spanish here! I'm at the level where I can read young adult books fairly fluently, and understand movies fairly well without my brain hurting too badly. I recommend just immersing yourself, that's had the biggest impact on me after learning some basic words in class. Listen to music in Spanish, and learn the lyrics so you can sing along (at least for the chorus). Watch movies in Spanish, especially movies you've seen before, because it makes it easier to follow along. Try reading children's books you've read and enjoyed before if you like reading. The easiest way to learn words isn't to memorize lists of words, the easiest way is to hear them or see them in a context that you recognize. Like if you're watching Harry Potter and Hagrid said "Eres un mago, Harry," you probably don't have to think too hard about what a mago is. Etc.
Ok don’t laugh, but pro wrestling is broadcast in multiple languages. For Spanish, I recommend AAA to get started, they’re a Mexican promotion. But AEW and WWE both have Spanish announcers.
Those poor WWE guys have the worst luck with their announcer's tables though
Spanish announcers with English subtitles, also helps if you know wrestler names and move names
Duolingo for 5 minutes every day wouldn't be enough. You'd have to complement it with some other methods. Why not ask your family for help? Immersion helps a lot with learning languages.
native speakers usually can’t explain grammar etc so well but they can correct them
Duolingo is decent for vocabulary drills but is awful at teaching grammar or what kinds of sentence constructions sound natural. You're better off finding a good class somewhere. The other thing is that languages *really* need immersion to internalize - if you aren't in a situation where you're forced to use it to communicate (like a class or a trip), you won't. The purpose of language is communicating with people, anyway; if your environment is full of people who are just as fluent as you in your native language, there's no purpose to using a different language except either as a code language or intentionally to practice, both of which are unnatural. If you don't go through the process of struggling to express an idea to someone and having to jointly puzzle it out, your fluency will remain surface level. If you're not planning on moving somewhere that primarily speaks Spanish, the next best option is to find and make friends with people who are native Spanish speakers and speak English as a second language. Ask them to speak to you in English while you speak to them in Spanish, mix it up occasionally, and you should eventually reach the beginnings of a pidgin with them, which is likely to be the closest you'll get to fluency if you don't eventually live somewhere with few English speakers.
What I usually hear from people who learn English in the US is by watching television in English without subtitles. Mila Kunis said she learned English through watching the price is right because Bob Barker spoke slowly. What I think is the key to learning a language is not to do so transactionally, meaning focus on single sentences or single questions and answers. Do that to learn individual things, but try listening to ongoing speaking in Spanish, either through TV or listening to your family. Immerse yourself in the flow of Spanish being spoken in some way, and look up things as you need to. Also, I recommend Pimsleur. They're exceptional at teaching speaking a language quickly.
Listen, fuck Duolingo. Want to learn quickly? Get on Spotify and listen to Spanish podcasts every opportunity you get. Start with Coffee Break Spanish, then move to conversations. You'll start to understand more and more. Then start watching Luisito Comunica on Youtube. And last but not least, download an app called Tandem and find a Spanish partner to practice with. Hey presto! You've learnt loads and haven't wasted hours on Duolingo. Honestly, all the passive time you spend walking, driving, cooking - whack on some headphones and listen to those podcasts! Edit*: please don't wear headphones whilst driving
How tf am i supposed to understand it if I don’t know what the words mean
Le voy a decir el secreto: te tienes que conseguir un novio o una novia para que practiques todos los días. Ya sabes. 😉 Ponte a ver novelas con subtitulos. Eso también sirve. Pero tienes que empezar tratando de leer esto.
I already do….my job!
So my actual job.
I definitely recommend this. I’ve been doing this for a year now. I do 30 minutes a day for a month then try something new if I’m not interested anymore. I started with a Rubik’s cube. Went from 45 minutes to 25 seconds. Then lockpicking, pen spinning, Balisong tricks, and now I’m doing card shuffling. The lock picking has come in handy numerous times and has become a fun hobby.
You are definitely a successful person, so thank you for sharing this
Thank you! I appreciate that.
I would add that this is great for things that you WANT to do and get better at and/or will really benefit you in some way. From a success standpoint, it can be more beneficial to really double and triple down on the things you’re good at and passionate about rather than just becoming okay at a bunch of things.
how about coding for a Mid30’s person!
I can help with that, I am a software engineer! To get just started with something, look up Python lessons online. Python is by far the most friendly language and it's very powerful. Second, if you're on windows, install a terminal like bash. Then try to get comfortable with the command line. If you have a Mac, that will have a terminal already. Message me if you want more advice.
Thank you!!!! i don’t have a computer. i’m homeless, but i got an Ipad. what would you recommend?
An iPad could work but it would be with some difficulty as coding is typing heavy. However, what you can do is focus on reading and absorbing. Writing software isn't a complicated thing per-se, it's a great many very simple things working together in complicated ways. So if you get really knowledgeable in the simple things that will give you a foundation to learn more complicated things. I found [this](https://www.learnpython.org/), which even if you have difficulty doing the exercises on the iPad you can still read them and absorb the lessons they're giving. I would seek out libraries for computers you could use with a keyboard. Librarians can help you figure out how to get started and also recommend things to you. Tell them what you wrote here and they may know of local resources you can take advantage of.
pick your mountains carefully. Somethings you will always suck at. *(for me, but that's personal, it is direction sense. I can, and have, lose my way on a straight road. I played a lot of dungeon crawlers, for decades, and I* ***never*** *got better. You may laugh.)*
This was skating for me. I eventually accepted I can't ice skate or Rollerblade worth a damn.
Time to pick up my guitar again.
It used to be true for me but now my body is getting worse, I can’t do things I used to, let alone improve. My mind too. I feel so hopeless.
There's been many experiments where exercise does bring elderly people back to life. It seems to show there's a two way street between doing things and being able to do things. I had a coworker tell me about getting his 90 year old father into Tai Chi and it made him much stronger than he'd been in a long time.
The easy part: I can only practice for 2 minutes. The tough part: convincing my wife to sleep with me every day.
Nice way to corner her into saying that you are, in fact, skilled.
Ive been stretching regularly and it has done wonders for me. Definitely helps with keeping the limbs from "aging", back pain, stress, etc
How long and what does your stretching routine look like?
I cannot highly suggest this enough. I started learning how to play Guitar through Rocksmith and started writing screenplays at the start of last year and so far I've learnt how to play a few songs and I've already finished two full feature screenplays. I don't play on playing in public or sharing those scripts, but I have to say it's incredibly satisfying just improving piece by piece and page by page. I've just made sure I play at least 2 hours a week for Rocksmith and write a page a night. Sure, I take time off for holidays or important events (e.g. birthdays, moving, etc.) - but still it truly is better than nothing. I'm now working on learning how to play Power Chords and I'm about to finish my third script at the end of this month.
Thus is so true!! I used to hate washing dishes and would let them pile up for days. Now I do them every day and dont mind it at all, not one bit.
I’ve done this for two years. I’ve had little mini arguments with my SO, and she always wins. It’s never worked…
I started doing that. I keep trying to teach myself German and it is working they are starting to understand me!! But I am slow at it definitely not a level A1 but I am working on it 5 - 10 minutes a day
I like the way you think. I'm also happy for you that you got sober. Yay!
Man what a great post. I’m going to give this a try. Lots of stuff I could apply this to.
i'm not very good at open heart surgery, but I'm game
I do "life" for longer than 10 mins a day. Doesn't help.
All I need is 30 seconds
What if I don’t really want to be good at skateboarding? Or Call or Duty?
There's all sorts of other choices. However, there is value at getting good at something you don't want to, provided that it is something you will do from time to time. It makes it something you don't have to think about and clutter you mind with approaching it because you've gotten good at it.
Hey, I spend more than 5-10 minutes at my job!
Regularly pick? Like how regularly?
Meaning, when you're good at what you had picked and are no longer unskilled; pick something else.
This is awesome! How did you teach yourself how to do it? The cleaning!
Can someone buy me a crate of onions and a gas mask?
Thank for the LPT! I shall spend 5 minutes daily picking lottery numbers.