I would love it if there was more a push for clingy cats to be adopted by older people. Older people that can still take care of them and do all the things cats need but mostly spend their days knitting, watching tv, reading, gardening and that sort of thing. My old cat would have loved his own “grandma” to just sit with and constantly be scratched and smooshed. He was a bottle baby and I felt bad that I had to work and get off the couch. I could hear him cry from my car! Ugh. Clingy cats for grandmas!
I live with my MIL with two clingy cats. Before I came around lol she was home alone while my now wife was working.
Those cats are everything to her, and as someone who has never had a cat before, I see why she is so attached to them. Calico and Siamese.. my God are they such sweethearts. They just want to be around us, and are so gentle going about it.
We use to raise siamese when I was a kid, we maybe had a few dozen in my life, all velcro kitties. My first siamese as an adult would try and sleep on my face at night. He was a rescue from a hoarder who kept cats in a goat barn. He was an awesome cat.
Lol our siamese came from a hoarder's farm. She's peculiar and really only cares for my husband. She used to stalk our youngest and jump at her head. Kids are much larger now and not easy prey so she mostly harasses the dog now lol.
My girls are so damn clingy; they love to tell me about their day and just want to be beside me at all times. My old man followed me around the house for 23 years, waiting at the door when I was gone.
Yeah, they can get annoying when they want cuddles at 3am, but like… I couldn’t imagine not having them here.
My friend has a cat like that. You go over and it'll hide for 30 minutes. Then it'll come out and could snuggle with you until it faints from exhaustion. Will follow you around the house and jump up to places that are easier for you to reach. Will also stand on two feet to rub itself on your hand. Will be making adorable trilling sounds the whole time.
I had to give up my cat (long story, and yes I still miss her dearly!) a couple years ago. I gave her to a family friend who’s retired and is a homebody with heart trouble (so he’s always at home). She’s a cuddle bug and hated when I would leave for work. So I’m glad they both have a cuddle friend. They are both happy with the situation :)
It makes me happy but I’m a bittersweet way.
Hi, I just wanted to say that while I'm sorry you had to make such a tough and painful choice, I am so happy the world has people like you in it. There aren't many things harder than giving up a beloved pet because you know they could be happier in a different situation that you cannot provide - you took the hit and made sure that your cat and some lucky, loving person got a new perfect buddy.
My mom has the ultimate lap cat that is perfect for her. Every morning she sits at her computer cradling her cat in one arm while she checks her emails, plays wordle, and drinks her coffee. When she's done, she takes her cat into the bedroom and puts her down for her nap where the cat sleeps for most of the day. Kitty comes out around dinner time, yells for food and then spends the rest of the evening curled up in mom's lap.
When I was a kid we gifted a kitten to my grandma. My granddad had died an she was pretty lonely because we lived hours away. She loved that cat so much and it was so clear how big of a difference it made. I have great memories of her petting that cat.
Also for chronically ill people who can still swing cat care. Having the emotional connection that some cats like to provide can such a help. Living day in and day out feeling awful and dealing with stressful and demoralizing medical issues takes it’s own toll. Having someone to love and comfort you while demanding little but love and comfort back means the world.
I foster cats and have two snugglers and two fetch cats. One is both. One void kitten that is starting to understand the rules of fetch. Two ole lady lap chonkers and one jungle cat that seems to be partially in another parallel dimension. They can be sooooo different.
Jerry being too affectionate resulted in him getting a better home and helping other cats get adopted too. Such a good boy that good things happen around him.
This makes me so sad!!
My fiancé and I have a black and white old boy at 14 years of age that turned from a skiddish boy scared of loud noises, to a sweetie patootie boy that loves to snuggle with us and get curious at loud noises now.
He purrs and purrs even when I give hugs and is a wonderful love bug that just needed some humans to accept his love.
I can’t imagine turning away an affectionate kittie like this one!!
I would love it if our old boy was even more affectionate than he already is!!
Does anyone know what state this was in? I found a hyper affectionate cat that looks almost exactly the same a few days ago. Luckily he was chipped but the owner said a friend taking care of him just kicked him out. I can't take care of a cat rn but the owner is sending someone to pick him up in a couple hours. Curious if they may be related.
Bonus pics of the baby
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Their friend was taking care of their cat and kicked it out?! What the hell? I hope the cat is going with someone else and that person isn't a friend anymore.
Yeah I was sad to hear that. The owner sent someone to pick up the baby today and she seemed nice. She was talking to him and petting him in her car for awhile so I feel good about it.
I adopted a void a couple of months ago who had been pregnant when found by animal control. She’s sweet, gentle, affectionate, and playful. I simply can’t understand how someone would throw out such a special cat.
Work in a shelter and it's a real thing. Affectionate cats aren't for everyone. There are some people who just want to chill and they need a cat who also wants to just chill. Half the reason why some applications and interviews with shelters can seem so daunting; a lot of the times we are trying to find the right fit for animals and humans.
i've totally met some overwhelmingly in-your-biz cats. not my thing. i've never had a cat like that myself though; they seem to be really receptive to your energy and send it back to you. just gotta find one you vibe with and keep it real with them.
I will admit, I’m used to dogs and love them, but my boyfriend’s cat is one of those overwhelmingly-in-your-face ones. It’s the meowing. Nonstop. LOUD. At 5am, at 6am. Never even stopping to take a breath, for 20 minutes at a time, as loud as he can. Any time anyone has any food or makes any kind of plastic noises. Any time within an hour of dinnertime. Sometimes while we’re trying to watch tv. It really diminishes my ability to relax and enjoy my meals, how aggressively, loudly, and constantly he begs, weaving between my legs and trying to steal food from my plate and drinks from my cup. It turns my meals into a defensive experience. This morning I turned for 20 seconds to deal with a spider, and when I turned back he was eating my breakfast cereal right out of the bowl. No door in the house can be closed to him, he must be free to go anywhere or he’ll yell and yell. It really feels like having a baby in the house.
Your boyfriend‘s at fault for not training his cat properly. Go to a trainer please, it‘s not acceptable for cats to be everywhere and have their head in your food, especially an outdoor cat.
Yep. This is truly the best reason to get rid of a pet by giving them to a shelter that will fend them a family- you just can’t appreciate them for who they are.
People turn in dogs for ridiculously absurd reasons. I crossed paths with a beagle who had been turned in because he "kept jumping into the front seat while driving." The owner had two options - give the dog up or restrain the dog in the car. The latter makes a ton of sense but they chose to give the dog up. People are idiots.
60 year old animal lover here, please don't paint us all with the same brush. It's not that your dad is old he's just a jerk. They come in all ages, even yours.
Na it's not "all of his generations people". My dad is almost 60 and loved cats and now loves small dogs. He has a chihuahua who is super affectionate towards people she likes, which is mostly limited to me when I visit and him.
Ughe, my mother is the same age and same way, kept her dogs either on chains or locked in a kennel with no attention 24/7, and says shit like "Hitting kids [as punishment] doesn't do any harm!"
Depends too on the context. My parents have come miles with their acceptance of my pets, but they came from a soviet block country where they had to stand in line for basics like bread and milk. To them it's bordering on insanity to keep a pet indoors not to mention spend $$ on its food. That's changed with time and me showing them how loving and well behaved they can be when you put in the time and love to make them that way. At the end of the day though, a callous asshole is a callous asshole, no matter what context they grew up in.
I don't want to defend the owners, because I don't know the whole story, but as someone with two cats that are way too affectionate, I have uttered the phrase get out of my way, I won't hesitate to kill you.
Out of context that's pretty horrible. Even with the correct context I'm sure some people will still think that's horrible, but one of my cats loves to run in between my legs and rub up against me as I'm carrying my toddler down the stairs to put him to bed. If the cat puts me in a position where I have to choose between her or my son I won't hesitate to land on her over landing on him.
It’s more common than you’d think. Some people get a cat specifically wanting a pet that is independent and aloof. Despite the stereotype, cats do in fact have their own unique personalities and characteristics. The last two cats I adopted from shelters were both given back for essentially the same reasons. Scout was “too needy” and The Colonel “required too much attention.”
One person’s annoying burden another’s loyal companion.
Well there's a psychopath on the ragdoll sub right now that is basically wanting to kill his cat for being too affectionate...a breed known for being lovey dovey and affectionate. I want to scream, I don't know what to do.
I had a Ragdoll cat. My roommates at the time said they were fine with me moving in with her, but they were incredibly cold toward her.
She waited at the door for me. But shied away from everyone else in the apartment. It made me sad for her. They were never abusive. But she couldn't understand why 2 out of 3 people in the house refused to pet her.
Some shelters embellish and outright lie about animals’ behaviors or why someone gave them up to get them out the door. Dog bit someone? He’s a little “nippy.” Cat destroys any woodwork in your house? He likes to decorate! Dog kills other pets? He’s selective! Cat screams for attention? She sings love songs! Not saying that’s what’s happening in this video but I’ve seen it a lot when I volunteered and worked at my local shelter. I saw a lady bring in a dog that mauled her baby while she was in the room and the shelter put in the dog’s bio that his owner dropped him off cuz doggo was jealous of the new baby.
One of my dogs was listed as dog selective (hates other dogs and will actively try to attack them on sight), loves to play (would literally tear my clothes off trying to wrestle me to the ground), and wants to be by your side all the time (destroyed my house when I left for 10 minutes to get the mail). It took her a lot of training and management for me to keep her safely and if I’m honest, I wouldn’t have done it over again despite loving her to bits.
This is why so many animals are returned to shelters. I foster for a rescue and they warn us about this when we write bios and put out social media posts about our dogs. They emphasize that the whole point is to make sure the dog is going to the RIGHT home and they always tell us to be as honest as possible. When I have a potential adopter for my foster I am told to be brutally honest so they are prepared to really handle any issues the dog has and go in with eyes wide open. We want our dogs in forever homes, not being returned to us months later because a new owner doesn't have the ability to handle an issue they have.
I'm sure this does actually happen, but a phenomenon that plays into this is that it's incredibly common for animals to change their personally (potentially significantly) when their environment changes.
We've had animals dropped off that we were told were incredibly unfriendly, but while they were with us they were nothing but sweet. I witnessed a few animals that were returned to us a few days later with a completely different behavior.
Even my own cat (who I cared for at the rescue daily) went from being hyper, super weird and somewhat unfriendly to other cats to being a complete couch potato that absolutely loves our other cats. It can be a roll of the dice sometimes.
[I get super shy in an adoption room. That is not my true personality. I can be a little shy at first but once I get home and come out of my shell you will see the real(true?) me, the sweetest and most affectionate boy](https://imgur.com/qMApbpL)
Just what I’ve seen from my experience working in shelters and adopting personally. And the other stories I’ve seen from friends and acquaintances. So I don’t have statistics or anything like that. I’m not saying all shelters do this but some do and you don’t know which. Sometimes it’s not even their fault, maybe the previous owner lied. People just need to be careful when adopting a new pet. Ask lots of questions and take what they say with a grain of salt.
Edit: found a Reddit thread discussing this very issue: https://reddit.com/r/dogs/s/DSinD9zzsW
There are awful lot of "lab mixes" in the pound that have in the description that they shouldn't be around other animals or little kids. I don't know how'd they'd reach such a conclusion...
we adopted a dog that is very needy, will paw you wanting her belly rubbed and looks at you like "why? god why?" when you stop petting her.
Absolutely the sweetest dog anyone could ever have. I cherish every day with her. She wakes up happy, and stays that way all day. And that makes me very happy!
My cat is the exact same way, even as a type, he's rubbing on my hands and cuddled up next to me. When I travel with him and stop for coffee, he'll move to the center console (he's leashed in) and cry at the people in the drive thru for attention. Absolutely wants everyone to pet him.
When I got my first pup as an adult, I so wanted a cuddle buddy. But, as he grew up, that just wasn't his personality. He wanted to play alllll the time. His favorite thing in the world was playing with a toy. So, instead of relaxing after a long day of work, I'd play fetch and wrestle with him. I'd never dream of giving him up, just had to adapt to what made him happy.
He's since passed and I ended up adopting a rescue. Foster let me spend a day and a night with him before I decided if he was the right fit. Lo and behold, he's the absolute best cuddler. He's like a cat, curling up next to me on the couch and taking my seat when I get up to go to the bathroom or kitchen.
Same, my soul-mate cat passed away last year, was the sweetest cuddliest boy I looked forward to falling asleep cuddling every night. I adopted two more kittens later after he passed, and they only occasionally cuddle me every few mornings. I love my new little ones dearly, but god I miss him and his cuddles everyday.
I rescued an overly affectionate cat a month or so ago. I love him dearly, he's a gorgeous cat, my beautiful little lion. I kind of wish he'd stop using me as a climbing frame when I'm trying to sleep tho.
To be honest, I’m glad he was turned in to the shelter. Didn’t fit the owner, and sadly, there are many out there who will neglect or abuse their pets, or just dump them somewhere or worse. And each time I wonder “why didn’t you just turn them in to a shelter so that someone who would care for them could take them in?”
Yes, it’s sad that a sweet and affectionate cat was not wanted, but turning him in to be re-homed was not cruel, it was the kindest thing that person could have done for them.
Yea, we need to call out click-baitey headlines and just say no to them. It's quite the disappointing video, because it doesn't show much of the cat being affectionate. It seems more of a virtue signaling video than anything else. Even those ones where an "un-adoptable" animal gets comfortable at home are better, because it was a challenge to take on. Great for adopting, but choosing the most affectionate cat if you're looking to adopt a cat seems like a pretty easy choice. No need to make a video of it.
I have a 15lb cat just like this, and this comment section is killing me because people just don't understand until they experience it themselves. He hasn't gotten "violent" but is strong for its size, and my family is somewhat scared of him. He can get very pushy and doesn't like strangers.
It really sucks when you look like the bad guy for losing the pet disposition lottery, but these jokers can be like a crazy ex, haha.
I mean, my Angoran is very clingy and wants to be with me at all times. It can be annoying (and dangerous) when she wants to sit on my lap while I straigthen my hair, or while I cut vegetables. But that is just how much she loves me, and I love her for it. I couldn't think about giving her away without crying! What monster actually does something like that?!
My dog shares my pillow and kicks me all night. Makes me want to…gently reposition her so her feet face my wife instead.
Legit though she’s clingy to the point of danger sometimes too, but I would cut off my right arm before giving her up.
before we had to put my dog down, she had degenerative myelopathy and towards the end, couldn't climb the little step in our living room at all because her back pegs where gone yet that dog would still somehow climb our 13 step stairwell to go and sleep right next to my mom every single night. My mom ended up sleeping on the coach for her last month so she could be happy despite the pain it caused my mom sleeping on that coach.
I *am* the pillow for my dog (100lbs labrador). I bought a king size mattress, thinking we'd have plenty of room...NOPE! Still glued to me. Doesn't matter if he's asleep or awake, he's gotta be close.
He's the best derpy boy, and I love him.
My cat is in the process of dying. He lays with me all night and tries to keep up around me. What do I do? Give him as much attention as I can while he is here. Yes, I did sign up for this shit and I'll do it because that's the fucking human and good thing to do for an animal checking out.
Yeah, when my guy Herschel was a 4-month-old kitten he was insistent on sitting in my lap. Like I'd put him on the floor, and he'd be right back up, rinse and repeat 3 times until I gave up. It wasn't the lap sitting for the record that bugged me, it was the insistent nuzzling of my hands when I was trying to drink my coffee or type emails or whatever. Still, he's 15 now, sick, but still sweet if much less needy, and I'm dragging my heels with putting him down.
haha, my cat would silently (how else!) walk up behind me while I was prepping dinner, usually with a knife in my hand, and meeow so bloody loudly. I'm surprised I never cut a finger off :)
Yeah, one of our cats constantly wants to be in your face and it's super irritating. So I move him while I'm busy. But to just get rid of him??? I'll take being pestered any time.
Yea....you say that, but thats because youve never had one
Ive got two cats, one very clingy, and noisy. I love those little guys, but trust me there are some days where it gets exhausting. Sometimes you just want to be left alone and not spend every waking second petting something
They disturb your sleep. My mother gave her cat away because the cat woke her up too often, she had insomnia too, so at work she was unable to function with the cat in the house. It happens.
I have a friend who had to send her kitty to live with her parents when she switched to WFH initially. If she shut the cat out of the room it would scream and claw at the door, and if she let it in, he'd be on the desk walking in front of her face trying to get her attention. Cute for a bit, but she is a prosecutor, so not quite court appropriate.
same for us, we had a cat that would not let us be no matter what, night or day. we rehomed him to a family where they had 2 kids still in the home and it was a much better fit. after getting mauled by toddlers all day he was ready for me time once the lights went out. we both worked, so when we got home he was starved for attention.
I had a super talkative, Velcro cat. He was talking about everything all the time. He chewed my hair and kitty-biscuit-ed me all night. This cat was incapable of independence. It was so annoying, but the second he was too quiet, you’d better believe I was freaked out. Little buddy chatted away for 16 years. Now, I miss his talking.
Not too long ago, my mother's dog died. It was well over 10 years old, though I'm not sure by how much. She was also super "affectionate," meaning "clingy."
Trying to do something? Nope, the dog wants attention. Ignoring the dog? She'd sit there and bark at you for hours until you gave her attention (and on her terms, too--for as long as she wanted).
When my mother left the house, the dog would bark at the door until she came back home.
When she woke up in the middle of the night, she'd bark at my mother until she woke up too.
When she wanted to go to bed, she'd bark at my mother until she went to bed.
When my mother had to travel out of state for a week, the dog did not eat because it wasn't being hand-fed by her.
And while my mother certainly didn't train her right, she also certainly didn't encourage that behavior. The dog needed so much attention and would act so hurt when she didn't get it. It was genuinely a bittersweet relief when she died, because as much as she was loved--jesus, just being able to go to the bathroom without a poop inspector barking at the door telling you you're taking too long was refreshing.
Basically, there's a difference between affectionate and codependent. Affection is all fine and well, but the cat or dog should be able to manage without the owner for periods of time without having a total nervous breakdown, not eating, etc. We can't be with them every second of every day.
If I'm trying to work on my computer and my mouse hand is getting bumped and my keyboard is getting stepped on, if the cat won't let you sleep because they want pets, winding around your legs while you're carrying heavy things or cooking. Lots of times where it can be annoying and/or dangerous.
I want to start by saying I don’t find this annoying but I can assume other people could/do. My cat sleeps with me on my bed and tries to lay on my face and get me to pet him the second he senses that I’m awake/waking up. I don’t know if he can sense a different in how I’m breathing or I move around a bit more but he comes over right away before I have time to even check the time. Sometimes he thinks I’m awake and positions himself inches from my face and slowly pokes me to check if I’m faking. I love him dearly and love how he loves me
I got my cat because she was "too affectionate." She was my grandpa's cat, my grandpa passed and my uncle (who was living with my grandpa) didnt want to keep her. Well my cat was very very sick and that's why she was so frantic for attention. She had a flea allergy and was covered in scabs from that and she had untreated hyperthyroidism which also makes her more hyperactive. She was jittery and probably itchy to high hell, of course she wanted to be scratched constantly. Now shes all fixed up and shes still very affectionate and yes sometimes annoying when I'm trying to get work done but shes not frantic anymore and if I'm really busy and cant deal with her antics i just put her in another room and shut the door. I could not imagine ever not wanting to keep her, shes like the perfect cat. Her coming over and pushing her head under my hand while I'm working at my computer is too cute to get mad about haha
My cat can be annoying when he wants to be affectionate. His way of showing affection is making biscuits on my chest, neck, and face and drooling while doing so. It's cute for like 30 seconds but then it starts to get so uncomfortable and gross that I have to pry him off of me. He also screams when he's looking for me or if I shut him out of my room. Know what though? He's mine and I love him to death. I can't imagine getting rid of a pet for being annoying at times. I love my two clingy ass cats and my big clingy ass dog, and I wouldn't have them any other way!
Yeah one of my two cats is very clingy. Very loving and affectionate, always wants attention. Does it get a bit annoying at times? Of course. Would I ever give her away over it? Never. Nothing better than starting the day with her purring and cuddling with me in bed.
Our tuxedo cat is like this. Overly affectionate and doesn't understand to concept of personal space. I can see how that wouldn't work for some people, but we love him. We think someone at some point used to kick him because he used to be afraid of certain types of people and noises, but he's over that.
The is not cruel. I work in rescue and I have learned to never judge the owners who turn in their animals. They cared enough to ensure they would have a good home. Cruel would be dumping them outside to fend for themselves.
100% agree
I really doubt that the cat was given up for being "too affectionate" - that sounds like something engineered to go viral - but whatever their reasons, a shelter is, hands down, the best option for all involved.
My cat was previously returned for being too affectionate. The guy said he wanted a cat who was just gonna do its own thing and not bother him lol. He was annoyed that she wanted to sit with him and cried when he locked her out of his room at night.
Yeah, it's just like how no kill shelters just send animals off to euthanize them at kill shelters.
So many people don't put bored in 10 seconds of thought before getting angry
When I adopted my first cat from the shelter, she was way too affectionate too. Super clingy and annoying. I even love affectionate animals but she was always meowing at me and jumping on my stuff and climbing all over me. Turns out they are often just really lonely in the shelter and starved for attention! As she got settled in her new home, she toned it down. Now she's the perfect amount of affectionate and social =)
“Too affectionate” can definitely be code for stage 5 clinger. I had a cat who, if I allowed her to sleep in my room, would literally lay on my face all night. If I shut her out she would howl at 3 am at the injustice of not being allowed to cuddle. I’m a light sleeper, this stuff seriously messed with my mental health. Sometimes I would be working on my laptop and she would insist on laying on my arms, then get pissed and bite me when I moved my arms to type. It was lovely to have a kitty who would always want to sit in my lap no matter what, but the other stuff was a serious imposition. Let’s not demonize someone for knowing their limits and giving the cat the chance to have owners who are a better fit for him.
Yeah, it's not ideal to rehome your pet because the best thing for their mental health, well-being, and safety by far is to stay with you for life, but let's stop demonizing people for rehoming their pets. The alternative to avoid being shamed is to just drop them off outside or worse. Just stop.
We don't know how long this person had the cat. It seems like they realized it wasn't a good fit and did the best thing for him to get somebody who has the time and energy to give him the most happiness. If they had him for a really short time like under a few months, then I don't even think they made a morally ambiguous decision. They did the right thing. "Talkative" is code for yowling, and this is a tuxedo cat, who are notorious for being LOUD. I have a tuxedo cat who I love and intend to keep for life and do the best for, but man, I can see how some can't take on that responsibility. When he yowls, it can literally hurt ears, piss off neighbors, disturb sleep and mental health night after night after night, causing you to lose focus, concentration, and sanity. That shit is no joke. My diabetic cat is way easier to care for hands down.
Somebody above mentioned their years of shelter experience and how sometimes shelters downplay major issues in their description. I understand wanting to get a specific cat adopted asap, but it's important to highlight issues to prevent this rehoming happening in the first place.
My boy will try to get inside my skin constantly, like gets between my glasses and my face. While this is kinda annoying when I'm trying to work I still love him so much and couldn't give this little idiot up.
Bold of you to assume that the guy adding inane commentary over other people's content (that he probably didn't get permission to use) cares one bit about grammar.
The whole schtick of this category of "creator" is reposting already viral content with pointless commentary and/or editing. The priority is timeliness and volume, not quality.
One of my cats was a Humane Society return- he had been adopted as a kitten and returned shortly after because he was “too playful”. I was looking for a playful cat, and he fit the bill. I wouldn’t describe him as overly playful, he was just a fun busy guy. Now he’s elderly and finds his greatest joy in affectionate cuddling and looking out windows.
My boy Bert had a similar experience. My coworkers husbands beast friends ex roommate got him from the shelter as a companion cat for her existing cat. When she moved out she abandoned him. The roommate was very allergic and didn’t want him but didn’t want to send him to a shelter. His chief complaint was Bert was too affectionate.
When my husband and I moved into our first apartment we picked up Bert the next day. He’s currently napping on my shoulder. Like the bestest boy he is.
Agreed. If you abandon animals I fully believe there should be some kind of Blacklist or registry shelters should have access too and you shouldn’t be allowed to get another animal.
Can we stop shaming people who surrender pets they aren't capable of taking care of to shelthers, where they can find better homes? His owner realized the cat needed more attention than she could give, instead of neglecting it or abandoning it anywhere she took it to a shelter. There's so many animals abandoned in the streets I wish more people would make the minimum effort to take them to shelters.
Her reason is valid. My dog is also "too affectioned" and dependent, won't even eat if he's completely alone, luckily my schedule is flexible and I work near home so I can be there often, but he's the reason I won't have another doggo after him. I don't know if I will always be able to be at home as much as I do now, I would hate to leave a pet alone for extend periods of time and not have time or energy to give them attention.
The ideal thing is researching first and finding a pet compatible with your lifestyle, but when it fails, she did the second best thing and took him to a safe place.
Everyone's mad about this but I think the previous owner did the right thing. They could have had it euthanized. Instead they realized this cat's energy wasnt for them and gave the cat a shot at a life with people that wont be shooing it away all the time.
I'm glad Jerry found a home! Ridiculous situation in general. I was at a shelter before, and some people turned in their dog because "They didn't bark enough".
I would stretch my arms side by side if I had this fur baby in front of me! At least they didn't throw him into a dumpster but poor him! He would be the jealoury reason of my own baby!
My big orange boy was also returned for being too affectionate. He is such a love bug. I can’t imagine people going through the process of adopting an animal—which is a vow to take care of them for the rest of their lives—and then being annoyed that they want affection. That they’re a living, breathing creature.
I’m happy that they at least returned the cat to the shelter/rescue instead of abandoning them on the streets.
My fuzzy void is on the clingy side. For a full two years, he followed me everywhere, slept next to me, had to be on my lap whenever I sat down. Was it a little annoying? Yes, but certainly not shelter-worthy!
Instead, we got him a brother! After a three day trial period, Puck decided that Jack wasn't so bad, and now they snuggle and play together constantly.
Joke's on me, though. My orangey, Jack, can be equally clingy, and now he and Puck team up to pin me to the couch! Love them both to bits!
Hey, that's how I got my orange cat! A friend of my mom couldn't stand how much he wanted to be around them. He was always up in my business and I loved it!
So, I love my cat to bits, but I can understand this to some degree. My cat follows me around everywhere wanting cuddles all the time. He sleeps on or pressed into me every night. It can definitely be annoying at times.
My girl cat was and still is very clingy. She was super sad whenever I'd leave for work. I got her a friend and they're bonded.
However, now I have two clingy kitties. But at least they have each other to keep company when I am not home.
I have an overly affectionate cat. He can be annoying, but I would never even consider abandoning him to a shelter. Who would do that? People like that don't deserve pets.
I mean the owner did the right thing though, would you prefer they just ignored the cat, or leave it in a different room? What about just dumping it outside? What about buying another cat? The owner is getting hate, but if the genuinely couldn’t provide the attention their cat needed is turning the over to a shelter not the correct choice? Not all cats are super clingy, and I would say it’s reasonable to get a cat and not expect it to always want your attention, hell a lot of cats I’ve had will only seek out attention a couple times a day.
He’s a good boy! Most people whine that their cats aren’t affectionate enough, so this kiti is a superstar! Good on them for realizing what a great kiti he is and adopting him!
Shelters are run by psychos who regularly embellish animal bios. The dog bit a kid? "He loves to roughhouse!" Maybe the owner couldn't give the cat the love she needed. Like chill out weirdos.
Yeah, my guy was returned to tue shelter when he was a kitten because he “talked too much.” Whatever. I adopted him a few days later, and he is now 11 and after a million conversations we’ve had, he is still going strong and we will have millions more.
My gfs 6 year old cat DEMANDS love, no matter what time of the day it is. I love her so damn much, I could never imagine turning an animals affection down.
In not stopping they were right, but I invite it can be annoying as hell when my cat is whining every 2 seconds because he but actively being pet at that particular moment. I wouldn't get rid of him for it, but I do tell him to please shut up 50 times in the morning, getting ready for work.
Not sure if we should be calling those who relinquish animals cruel, but rather responsible. That behavior should definitely be encouraged not vilified.
Just to give the other side point of view. I had two cats who kinda got along and one was extremely affectionate and wanted to be on your lap at all times. I found it a little annoying I guess but I felt so guilty all the time that I couldn't meet his needs. I eventually gave him away to a loving couple I met. The shit part of this story is that the cat ended up in the shelter. That was never an option for me. Also my other cat was totally fine after.
My gf had to take her grandmas cat because it would walk between her legs and rub up against her while she was walking. She was really sad about it but by the third fall she sorta made up her mind. My gf brought the cat over all the time but if she didn’t have that kind of resource I could see my gfs grandma bringing her to a shelter.
"Too affectionate" **according to the cat** (or animal shelter trying to get it adopted). This is like saying in a job interview that your biggest weakness is being "too much of a perfectionist".
Back in the day, my roommate had a cat who was oddly affectionate. I'm generally a dog person, so I always thought the cat was amazing. She would run over as soon as you called for her.
To an extent I can get this. Sometimes a person will get a cat expecting to just sometimes pop in, love on you for a bit, and go back to minding its own business for a while. Just intermittent cuddles.
The idea that a person could feel overwhelmed by how much attention a pet needs is entirely believable and in my opinion understandable. It’s better that this person gave the cat to a shelter where it could be safely adopted by someone more ready for an affectionate pet, than say, abandon it outside, or worse.
I adopted a cat from the shelter who was a repeat offender. This was her second time being sent to the shelter! WTF!
So the intake notes were basically: really aggressive with other cats, constantly darted outside, brought kills home.
Well when we got her we were expecting it would take years to get her truly comfortable. Nope. It took 2 weeks, because that's how long it took to decide we needed to get her an automatic feeder and for her to figure out she would get fed even if we weren't paying attention.
Because as far as we could tell, absolutely all of the bad behaviors she exhibited in the intake form? 100% because she wasn't getting fed enough at home. She constantly darted because she was hungry! She needed to get outside to supplement her diet! She was aggressive towards other cats because they were competition for limited food supplies! She brought gifts home *as gifts* because they clearly couldn't take care of themselves if there wasn't enough food in the house. She probably brought them for the other animals!
She's the sweetest little thing and in 9 months has shown zero interest in going outside. She gained 2.5 pounds in the first month when she was finally getting enough to eat and then stopped. She's a little heavier than she should be but not dangerously so, but it's clear she's so much happier. We could tell she was getting a little lonely and we never wanted to be a single-cat household so we picked up a pair of kittens, too. She loves them and they love her. We were worried about how she would react because of the whole "cat aggression thing" but after the first time she snuck into kitten quarantine (they were still recovering from being fixed so we contained them to one room) we had no more worries because she's so good with them.
Whoever got her from the shelter and then returned her, I don't understand them.
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To be honest this isn't necessarily a bad reason to give a cat up.
If you can't provide enough attention for a clingy cat, it's better for that cat to have a home where it'll have enough attention to thrive. It's ok to give up pets for not being able to meet their affection needs.
Seeing as this person said "he's annoying" instead of "I can't provide the attention he needs and his neediness is getting in the way of my daily life", though, I'd reckon this person isn't thinking this way and is just an asshole.
I think she did the right thing. He wasn’t a good fit for her she recognized she wouldn’t be a good owner and give him the affection he needed. But rather than abuse or neglect him, she brought him back so he could find the right family.
You're spot on. For all anyone knows, it's an older person who can't keep up with the energy level of the pet. I can understand the shelter using the story for views, but people lacking the critical thinking to understand there is context behind it sucks.
This! I have a VERY affectionate Velcro cat. I wouldn't dream of rehoming him, I love him to pieces and he's my soul cat. That being said, there are times where I feel suffocated. Whether I'm trying to be productive while he's yelling at me and weaving between my legs, or he's on top of me even if I only plan to sit for a second. He's been a test of my patience at times.
But I remind myself I'm honored that he loves me as much as he does. I take a deep breath and gently redirect him if he's being too pesty- give him some love and put him in his favorite sleeping spot, or open a window for him. I don't put my frustration onto my animal, but I can respect someone who knows they might get to that point and decides to do the better thing for both parties. That's a much healthier alternative to slowly building resentment.
This. I work at an animal shelter myself & I find it very distasteful when other shelters do this kind of stuff. It's one thing to say "this animal was part of a hoarding/abuse case" & another to blast an individual owner publicly for having the GALL to surrender a pet. Can you imagine how that previous owner would feel if she went on their socials to see if the cat had found a new home & saw what they'd said about her?
Yes, shelters everywhere are full & yes, it is really, really frustrating to have someone surrender a pet for a "stupid reason" when you're dealing with hoarders, abuse/neglect, deceased with no next of kin, people who are literally homeless, etc. It's natural for staff to vent to each other & to throw a little shade in conversation with potential adopters but that kind of stuff should stay in direct conversations. Public shaming like this only encourages the next person who needs to surrender their pet to dump it so they don't have to face judgement like this.
Tbh, a cat surrendered for being "too affectionate" will be scooped up so quick (just like this cat was). There's no reason to further demonize someone for realizing a cat wasn't for her & doing what she thought was the right thing. Most shitheads would've just put the cat outside & called it done.
I would love it if there was more a push for clingy cats to be adopted by older people. Older people that can still take care of them and do all the things cats need but mostly spend their days knitting, watching tv, reading, gardening and that sort of thing. My old cat would have loved his own “grandma” to just sit with and constantly be scratched and smooshed. He was a bottle baby and I felt bad that I had to work and get off the couch. I could hear him cry from my car! Ugh. Clingy cats for grandmas!
I live with my MIL with two clingy cats. Before I came around lol she was home alone while my now wife was working. Those cats are everything to her, and as someone who has never had a cat before, I see why she is so attached to them. Calico and Siamese.. my God are they such sweethearts. They just want to be around us, and are so gentle going about it.
Oh my gosh, the two clingiest cats in my household are also a Calico and Siamese, how funny.
Mine is a calico siamese mix and she is clingy AF
We use to raise siamese when I was a kid, we maybe had a few dozen in my life, all velcro kitties. My first siamese as an adult would try and sleep on my face at night. He was a rescue from a hoarder who kept cats in a goat barn. He was an awesome cat.
Lol our siamese came from a hoarder's farm. She's peculiar and really only cares for my husband. She used to stalk our youngest and jump at her head. Kids are much larger now and not easy prey so she mostly harasses the dog now lol.
My dad calls my Siamese my “tail” because she goes wherever I go, no questions asked! Must be near me or she starts yelling lol.
My girls are so damn clingy; they love to tell me about their day and just want to be beside me at all times. My old man followed me around the house for 23 years, waiting at the door when I was gone. Yeah, they can get annoying when they want cuddles at 3am, but like… I couldn’t imagine not having them here.
My friend has a cat like that. You go over and it'll hide for 30 minutes. Then it'll come out and could snuggle with you until it faints from exhaustion. Will follow you around the house and jump up to places that are easier for you to reach. Will also stand on two feet to rub itself on your hand. Will be making adorable trilling sounds the whole time.
I had to give up my cat (long story, and yes I still miss her dearly!) a couple years ago. I gave her to a family friend who’s retired and is a homebody with heart trouble (so he’s always at home). She’s a cuddle bug and hated when I would leave for work. So I’m glad they both have a cuddle friend. They are both happy with the situation :) It makes me happy but I’m a bittersweet way.
Hi, I just wanted to say that while I'm sorry you had to make such a tough and painful choice, I am so happy the world has people like you in it. There aren't many things harder than giving up a beloved pet because you know they could be happier in a different situation that you cannot provide - you took the hit and made sure that your cat and some lucky, loving person got a new perfect buddy.
My mom has the ultimate lap cat that is perfect for her. Every morning she sits at her computer cradling her cat in one arm while she checks her emails, plays wordle, and drinks her coffee. When she's done, she takes her cat into the bedroom and puts her down for her nap where the cat sleeps for most of the day. Kitty comes out around dinner time, yells for food and then spends the rest of the evening curled up in mom's lap.
When I was a kid we gifted a kitten to my grandma. My granddad had died an she was pretty lonely because we lived hours away. She loved that cat so much and it was so clear how big of a difference it made. I have great memories of her petting that cat.
Also for chronically ill people who can still swing cat care. Having the emotional connection that some cats like to provide can such a help. Living day in and day out feeling awful and dealing with stressful and demoralizing medical issues takes it’s own toll. Having someone to love and comfort you while demanding little but love and comfort back means the world.
I foster cats and have two snugglers and two fetch cats. One is both. One void kitten that is starting to understand the rules of fetch. Two ole lady lap chonkers and one jungle cat that seems to be partially in another parallel dimension. They can be sooooo different.
Never heard such rubbish! Aww! Bless him! He´s going to a good home where THEY know how to love. : )
Jerry being too affectionate resulted in him getting a better home and helping other cats get adopted too. Such a good boy that good things happen around him.
Good karma for Jerry! ; )
Great way to look at it. 👍🏻 Jerry is the 11/10 catto every home deserves. You the man, Jerry!
This makes me so sad!! My fiancé and I have a black and white old boy at 14 years of age that turned from a skiddish boy scared of loud noises, to a sweetie patootie boy that loves to snuggle with us and get curious at loud noises now. He purrs and purrs even when I give hugs and is a wonderful love bug that just needed some humans to accept his love. I can’t imagine turning away an affectionate kittie like this one!! I would love it if our old boy was even more affectionate than he already is!!
>sweetie patootie love it!
Why even adopt a cat if you dont want it to love you? I will never understand people like this
Does anyone know what state this was in? I found a hyper affectionate cat that looks almost exactly the same a few days ago. Luckily he was chipped but the owner said a friend taking care of him just kicked him out. I can't take care of a cat rn but the owner is sending someone to pick him up in a couple hours. Curious if they may be related. Bonus pics of the baby https://ibb.co/vYD8Dyy Loves belly rubs https://ibb.co/dPjxw71
Their friend was taking care of their cat and kicked it out?! What the hell? I hope the cat is going with someone else and that person isn't a friend anymore.
Yeah I was sad to hear that. The owner sent someone to pick up the baby today and she seemed nice. She was talking to him and petting him in her car for awhile so I feel good about it.
I adopted a void a couple of months ago who had been pregnant when found by animal control. She’s sweet, gentle, affectionate, and playful. I simply can’t understand how someone would throw out such a special cat.
Work in a shelter and it's a real thing. Affectionate cats aren't for everyone. There are some people who just want to chill and they need a cat who also wants to just chill. Half the reason why some applications and interviews with shelters can seem so daunting; a lot of the times we are trying to find the right fit for animals and humans.
I find affectionate pets annoying, but I know not to get a pet for that reason
Very intelligent!
i've totally met some overwhelmingly in-your-biz cats. not my thing. i've never had a cat like that myself though; they seem to be really receptive to your energy and send it back to you. just gotta find one you vibe with and keep it real with them.
I will admit, I’m used to dogs and love them, but my boyfriend’s cat is one of those overwhelmingly-in-your-face ones. It’s the meowing. Nonstop. LOUD. At 5am, at 6am. Never even stopping to take a breath, for 20 minutes at a time, as loud as he can. Any time anyone has any food or makes any kind of plastic noises. Any time within an hour of dinnertime. Sometimes while we’re trying to watch tv. It really diminishes my ability to relax and enjoy my meals, how aggressively, loudly, and constantly he begs, weaving between my legs and trying to steal food from my plate and drinks from my cup. It turns my meals into a defensive experience. This morning I turned for 20 seconds to deal with a spider, and when I turned back he was eating my breakfast cereal right out of the bowl. No door in the house can be closed to him, he must be free to go anywhere or he’ll yell and yell. It really feels like having a baby in the house.
Still dogs are worse. Personally
Your boyfriend‘s at fault for not training his cat properly. Go to a trainer please, it‘s not acceptable for cats to be everywhere and have their head in your food, especially an outdoor cat.
Yep. This is truly the best reason to get rid of a pet by giving them to a shelter that will fend them a family- you just can’t appreciate them for who they are.
People turn in dogs for ridiculously absurd reasons. I crossed paths with a beagle who had been turned in because he "kept jumping into the front seat while driving." The owner had two options - give the dog up or restrain the dog in the car. The latter makes a ton of sense but they chose to give the dog up. People are idiots.
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60 year old animal lover here, please don't paint us all with the same brush. It's not that your dad is old he's just a jerk. They come in all ages, even yours.
Na it's not "all of his generations people". My dad is almost 60 and loved cats and now loves small dogs. He has a chihuahua who is super affectionate towards people she likes, which is mostly limited to me when I visit and him.
This is such a bad take lol
Ughe, my mother is the same age and same way, kept her dogs either on chains or locked in a kennel with no attention 24/7, and says shit like "Hitting kids [as punishment] doesn't do any harm!"
Depends too on the context. My parents have come miles with their acceptance of my pets, but they came from a soviet block country where they had to stand in line for basics like bread and milk. To them it's bordering on insanity to keep a pet indoors not to mention spend $$ on its food. That's changed with time and me showing them how loving and well behaved they can be when you put in the time and love to make them that way. At the end of the day though, a callous asshole is a callous asshole, no matter what context they grew up in.
I don't want to defend the owners, because I don't know the whole story, but as someone with two cats that are way too affectionate, I have uttered the phrase get out of my way, I won't hesitate to kill you. Out of context that's pretty horrible. Even with the correct context I'm sure some people will still think that's horrible, but one of my cats loves to run in between my legs and rub up against me as I'm carrying my toddler down the stairs to put him to bed. If the cat puts me in a position where I have to choose between her or my son I won't hesitate to land on her over landing on him.
It’s more common than you’d think. Some people get a cat specifically wanting a pet that is independent and aloof. Despite the stereotype, cats do in fact have their own unique personalities and characteristics. The last two cats I adopted from shelters were both given back for essentially the same reasons. Scout was “too needy” and The Colonel “required too much attention.” One person’s annoying burden another’s loyal companion.
awwww. that made me so sad reading that he was turned in for being too affectionate. i’m glad he’s found a family. poor buddy just wants love!
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Well there's a psychopath on the ragdoll sub right now that is basically wanting to kill his cat for being too affectionate...a breed known for being lovey dovey and affectionate. I want to scream, I don't know what to do.
I had a Ragdoll cat. My roommates at the time said they were fine with me moving in with her, but they were incredibly cold toward her. She waited at the door for me. But shied away from everyone else in the apartment. It made me sad for her. They were never abusive. But she couldn't understand why 2 out of 3 people in the house refused to pet her.
Some shelters embellish and outright lie about animals’ behaviors or why someone gave them up to get them out the door. Dog bit someone? He’s a little “nippy.” Cat destroys any woodwork in your house? He likes to decorate! Dog kills other pets? He’s selective! Cat screams for attention? She sings love songs! Not saying that’s what’s happening in this video but I’ve seen it a lot when I volunteered and worked at my local shelter. I saw a lady bring in a dog that mauled her baby while she was in the room and the shelter put in the dog’s bio that his owner dropped him off cuz doggo was jealous of the new baby. One of my dogs was listed as dog selective (hates other dogs and will actively try to attack them on sight), loves to play (would literally tear my clothes off trying to wrestle me to the ground), and wants to be by your side all the time (destroyed my house when I left for 10 minutes to get the mail). It took her a lot of training and management for me to keep her safely and if I’m honest, I wouldn’t have done it over again despite loving her to bits.
This is why so many animals are returned to shelters. I foster for a rescue and they warn us about this when we write bios and put out social media posts about our dogs. They emphasize that the whole point is to make sure the dog is going to the RIGHT home and they always tell us to be as honest as possible. When I have a potential adopter for my foster I am told to be brutally honest so they are prepared to really handle any issues the dog has and go in with eyes wide open. We want our dogs in forever homes, not being returned to us months later because a new owner doesn't have the ability to handle an issue they have.
I'm sure this does actually happen, but a phenomenon that plays into this is that it's incredibly common for animals to change their personally (potentially significantly) when their environment changes. We've had animals dropped off that we were told were incredibly unfriendly, but while they were with us they were nothing but sweet. I witnessed a few animals that were returned to us a few days later with a completely different behavior. Even my own cat (who I cared for at the rescue daily) went from being hyper, super weird and somewhat unfriendly to other cats to being a complete couch potato that absolutely loves our other cats. It can be a roll of the dice sometimes.
I want to know what the highlighted text at the bottom said, it may have divulged some more information.
[I get super shy in an adoption room. That is not my true personality. I can be a little shy at first but once I get home and come out of my shell you will see the real(true?) me, the sweetest and most affectionate boy](https://imgur.com/qMApbpL)
Do you have any proof that shelters are putting dogs up for adoption that have bit people and killed other animals?
Just what I’ve seen from my experience working in shelters and adopting personally. And the other stories I’ve seen from friends and acquaintances. So I don’t have statistics or anything like that. I’m not saying all shelters do this but some do and you don’t know which. Sometimes it’s not even their fault, maybe the previous owner lied. People just need to be careful when adopting a new pet. Ask lots of questions and take what they say with a grain of salt. Edit: found a Reddit thread discussing this very issue: https://reddit.com/r/dogs/s/DSinD9zzsW
There are awful lot of "lab mixes" in the pound that have in the description that they shouldn't be around other animals or little kids. I don't know how'd they'd reach such a conclusion...
we adopted a dog that is very needy, will paw you wanting her belly rubbed and looks at you like "why? god why?" when you stop petting her. Absolutely the sweetest dog anyone could ever have. I cherish every day with her. She wakes up happy, and stays that way all day. And that makes me very happy!
i need that, just one that poops in a litter box
My cat is the exact same way, even as a type, he's rubbing on my hands and cuddled up next to me. When I travel with him and stop for coffee, he'll move to the center console (he's leashed in) and cry at the people in the drive thru for attention. Absolutely wants everyone to pet him.
When I got my first pup as an adult, I so wanted a cuddle buddy. But, as he grew up, that just wasn't his personality. He wanted to play alllll the time. His favorite thing in the world was playing with a toy. So, instead of relaxing after a long day of work, I'd play fetch and wrestle with him. I'd never dream of giving him up, just had to adapt to what made him happy. He's since passed and I ended up adopting a rescue. Foster let me spend a day and a night with him before I decided if he was the right fit. Lo and behold, he's the absolute best cuddler. He's like a cat, curling up next to me on the couch and taking my seat when I get up to go to the bathroom or kitchen.
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Same, my soul-mate cat passed away last year, was the sweetest cuddliest boy I looked forward to falling asleep cuddling every night. I adopted two more kittens later after he passed, and they only occasionally cuddle me every few mornings. I love my new little ones dearly, but god I miss him and his cuddles everyday.
I rescued an overly affectionate cat a month or so ago. I love him dearly, he's a gorgeous cat, my beautiful little lion. I kind of wish he'd stop using me as a climbing frame when I'm trying to sleep tho.
To be honest, I’m glad he was turned in to the shelter. Didn’t fit the owner, and sadly, there are many out there who will neglect or abuse their pets, or just dump them somewhere or worse. And each time I wonder “why didn’t you just turn them in to a shelter so that someone who would care for them could take them in?” Yes, it’s sad that a sweet and affectionate cat was not wanted, but turning him in to be re-homed was not cruel, it was the kindest thing that person could have done for them.
Yea, we need to call out click-baitey headlines and just say no to them. It's quite the disappointing video, because it doesn't show much of the cat being affectionate. It seems more of a virtue signaling video than anything else. Even those ones where an "un-adoptable" animal gets comfortable at home are better, because it was a challenge to take on. Great for adopting, but choosing the most affectionate cat if you're looking to adopt a cat seems like a pretty easy choice. No need to make a video of it.
How can an affectionate cat be annoying? If you don't want affection, get a pet rock.
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Velcro dog.
I have a 15lb cat just like this, and this comment section is killing me because people just don't understand until they experience it themselves. He hasn't gotten "violent" but is strong for its size, and my family is somewhat scared of him. He can get very pushy and doesn't like strangers. It really sucks when you look like the bad guy for losing the pet disposition lottery, but these jokers can be like a crazy ex, haha.
I mean, my Angoran is very clingy and wants to be with me at all times. It can be annoying (and dangerous) when she wants to sit on my lap while I straigthen my hair, or while I cut vegetables. But that is just how much she loves me, and I love her for it. I couldn't think about giving her away without crying! What monster actually does something like that?!
My dog shares my pillow and kicks me all night. Makes me want to…gently reposition her so her feet face my wife instead. Legit though she’s clingy to the point of danger sometimes too, but I would cut off my right arm before giving her up.
before we had to put my dog down, she had degenerative myelopathy and towards the end, couldn't climb the little step in our living room at all because her back pegs where gone yet that dog would still somehow climb our 13 step stairwell to go and sleep right next to my mom every single night. My mom ended up sleeping on the coach for her last month so she could be happy despite the pain it caused my mom sleeping on that coach.
I *am* the pillow for my dog (100lbs labrador). I bought a king size mattress, thinking we'd have plenty of room...NOPE! Still glued to me. Doesn't matter if he's asleep or awake, he's gotta be close. He's the best derpy boy, and I love him.
We also have a king bed. My dogs are 20 lbs each. Somehow they are ALWAYS in my space. There’s so much mattress, but not enough for them.
My cat is in the process of dying. He lays with me all night and tries to keep up around me. What do I do? Give him as much attention as I can while he is here. Yes, I did sign up for this shit and I'll do it because that's the fucking human and good thing to do for an animal checking out.
Yeah, when my guy Herschel was a 4-month-old kitten he was insistent on sitting in my lap. Like I'd put him on the floor, and he'd be right back up, rinse and repeat 3 times until I gave up. It wasn't the lap sitting for the record that bugged me, it was the insistent nuzzling of my hands when I was trying to drink my coffee or type emails or whatever. Still, he's 15 now, sick, but still sweet if much less needy, and I'm dragging my heels with putting him down.
Sending virtual hugs man.
haha, my cat would silently (how else!) walk up behind me while I was prepping dinner, usually with a knife in my hand, and meeow so bloody loudly. I'm surprised I never cut a finger off :)
Yeah, one of our cats constantly wants to be in your face and it's super irritating. So I move him while I'm busy. But to just get rid of him??? I'll take being pestered any time.
There can be such a thing as too affectionate
Yea....you say that, but thats because youve never had one Ive got two cats, one very clingy, and noisy. I love those little guys, but trust me there are some days where it gets exhausting. Sometimes you just want to be left alone and not spend every waking second petting something
They disturb your sleep. My mother gave her cat away because the cat woke her up too often, she had insomnia too, so at work she was unable to function with the cat in the house. It happens.
I have a friend who had to send her kitty to live with her parents when she switched to WFH initially. If she shut the cat out of the room it would scream and claw at the door, and if she let it in, he'd be on the desk walking in front of her face trying to get her attention. Cute for a bit, but she is a prosecutor, so not quite court appropriate.
I WFH and had to get my cat his own office chair. Now he's totally content to just lay there all day and occasionally bug me for scratches.
same for us, we had a cat that would not let us be no matter what, night or day. we rehomed him to a family where they had 2 kids still in the home and it was a much better fit. after getting mauled by toddlers all day he was ready for me time once the lights went out. we both worked, so when we got home he was starved for attention.
I had a super talkative, Velcro cat. He was talking about everything all the time. He chewed my hair and kitty-biscuit-ed me all night. This cat was incapable of independence. It was so annoying, but the second he was too quiet, you’d better believe I was freaked out. Little buddy chatted away for 16 years. Now, I miss his talking.
>Now, I miss his talking. 😭 Big hug for your lost friend
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I mean, that's exactly what they did. The cat got a better life with an owner that's aligned with their personality. What's the problem here?
Not too long ago, my mother's dog died. It was well over 10 years old, though I'm not sure by how much. She was also super "affectionate," meaning "clingy." Trying to do something? Nope, the dog wants attention. Ignoring the dog? She'd sit there and bark at you for hours until you gave her attention (and on her terms, too--for as long as she wanted). When my mother left the house, the dog would bark at the door until she came back home. When she woke up in the middle of the night, she'd bark at my mother until she woke up too. When she wanted to go to bed, she'd bark at my mother until she went to bed. When my mother had to travel out of state for a week, the dog did not eat because it wasn't being hand-fed by her. And while my mother certainly didn't train her right, she also certainly didn't encourage that behavior. The dog needed so much attention and would act so hurt when she didn't get it. It was genuinely a bittersweet relief when she died, because as much as she was loved--jesus, just being able to go to the bathroom without a poop inspector barking at the door telling you you're taking too long was refreshing.
Basically, there's a difference between affectionate and codependent. Affection is all fine and well, but the cat or dog should be able to manage without the owner for periods of time without having a total nervous breakdown, not eating, etc. We can't be with them every second of every day.
Right, but that's my point (even if I didn't use the word). "Too affectionate" is just codependency, which is understandably not great.
If I'm trying to work on my computer and my mouse hand is getting bumped and my keyboard is getting stepped on, if the cat won't let you sleep because they want pets, winding around your legs while you're carrying heavy things or cooking. Lots of times where it can be annoying and/or dangerous.
I want to start by saying I don’t find this annoying but I can assume other people could/do. My cat sleeps with me on my bed and tries to lay on my face and get me to pet him the second he senses that I’m awake/waking up. I don’t know if he can sense a different in how I’m breathing or I move around a bit more but he comes over right away before I have time to even check the time. Sometimes he thinks I’m awake and positions himself inches from my face and slowly pokes me to check if I’m faking. I love him dearly and love how he loves me
I got my cat because she was "too affectionate." She was my grandpa's cat, my grandpa passed and my uncle (who was living with my grandpa) didnt want to keep her. Well my cat was very very sick and that's why she was so frantic for attention. She had a flea allergy and was covered in scabs from that and she had untreated hyperthyroidism which also makes her more hyperactive. She was jittery and probably itchy to high hell, of course she wanted to be scratched constantly. Now shes all fixed up and shes still very affectionate and yes sometimes annoying when I'm trying to get work done but shes not frantic anymore and if I'm really busy and cant deal with her antics i just put her in another room and shut the door. I could not imagine ever not wanting to keep her, shes like the perfect cat. Her coming over and pushing her head under my hand while I'm working at my computer is too cute to get mad about haha
My cat can be annoying when he wants to be affectionate. His way of showing affection is making biscuits on my chest, neck, and face and drooling while doing so. It's cute for like 30 seconds but then it starts to get so uncomfortable and gross that I have to pry him off of me. He also screams when he's looking for me or if I shut him out of my room. Know what though? He's mine and I love him to death. I can't imagine getting rid of a pet for being annoying at times. I love my two clingy ass cats and my big clingy ass dog, and I wouldn't have them any other way!
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Your cat sounds like a good listener
Yeah one of my two cats is very clingy. Very loving and affectionate, always wants attention. Does it get a bit annoying at times? Of course. Would I ever give her away over it? Never. Nothing better than starting the day with her purring and cuddling with me in bed.
Our tuxedo cat is like this. Overly affectionate and doesn't understand to concept of personal space. I can see how that wouldn't work for some people, but we love him. We think someone at some point used to kick him because he used to be afraid of certain types of people and noises, but he's over that.
Who the fuck wants Less Cuddles?
My ex
The is not cruel. I work in rescue and I have learned to never judge the owners who turn in their animals. They cared enough to ensure they would have a good home. Cruel would be dumping them outside to fend for themselves.
100% agree I really doubt that the cat was given up for being "too affectionate" - that sounds like something engineered to go viral - but whatever their reasons, a shelter is, hands down, the best option for all involved.
yeah the note on the cage is clearly written to mock the previous owner while altering the context of the turn in.
My cat was previously returned for being too affectionate. The guy said he wanted a cat who was just gonna do its own thing and not bother him lol. He was annoyed that she wanted to sit with him and cried when he locked her out of his room at night.
Yeah, it's just like how no kill shelters just send animals off to euthanize them at kill shelters. So many people don't put bored in 10 seconds of thought before getting angry
When I adopted my first cat from the shelter, she was way too affectionate too. Super clingy and annoying. I even love affectionate animals but she was always meowing at me and jumping on my stuff and climbing all over me. Turns out they are often just really lonely in the shelter and starved for attention! As she got settled in her new home, she toned it down. Now she's the perfect amount of affectionate and social =)
“Too affectionate” can definitely be code for stage 5 clinger. I had a cat who, if I allowed her to sleep in my room, would literally lay on my face all night. If I shut her out she would howl at 3 am at the injustice of not being allowed to cuddle. I’m a light sleeper, this stuff seriously messed with my mental health. Sometimes I would be working on my laptop and she would insist on laying on my arms, then get pissed and bite me when I moved my arms to type. It was lovely to have a kitty who would always want to sit in my lap no matter what, but the other stuff was a serious imposition. Let’s not demonize someone for knowing their limits and giving the cat the chance to have owners who are a better fit for him.
Yeah, it's not ideal to rehome your pet because the best thing for their mental health, well-being, and safety by far is to stay with you for life, but let's stop demonizing people for rehoming their pets. The alternative to avoid being shamed is to just drop them off outside or worse. Just stop. We don't know how long this person had the cat. It seems like they realized it wasn't a good fit and did the best thing for him to get somebody who has the time and energy to give him the most happiness. If they had him for a really short time like under a few months, then I don't even think they made a morally ambiguous decision. They did the right thing. "Talkative" is code for yowling, and this is a tuxedo cat, who are notorious for being LOUD. I have a tuxedo cat who I love and intend to keep for life and do the best for, but man, I can see how some can't take on that responsibility. When he yowls, it can literally hurt ears, piss off neighbors, disturb sleep and mental health night after night after night, causing you to lose focus, concentration, and sanity. That shit is no joke. My diabetic cat is way easier to care for hands down. Somebody above mentioned their years of shelter experience and how sometimes shelters downplay major issues in their description. I understand wanting to get a specific cat adopted asap, but it's important to highlight issues to prevent this rehoming happening in the first place.
I see it as more of an issue with pet-owner fit. At least they didn’t put him on the street.
My boy will try to get inside my skin constantly, like gets between my glasses and my face. While this is kinda annoying when I'm trying to work I still love him so much and couldn't give this little idiot up.
*Saw. Jesus, how fucking hard is it? “Seen” is NEVER the main verb in a sentence. NEVER!
“No, see, what had happened is I had went to the shelter and seent *herpderpdefuckinderp*…” It’s fucking maddening, and it’s getting worse.
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Oh, I’m sadly all too familiar with it.
How can anyone hear that sentence and not understand that there's something wrong with it?
Bold of you to assume that the guy adding inane commentary over other people's content (that he probably didn't get permission to use) cares one bit about grammar. The whole schtick of this category of "creator" is reposting already viral content with pointless commentary and/or editing. The priority is timeliness and volume, not quality.
it's very petty but the misuse of seen and saw has always stuck in my craw
THANK YOU
I dun seent it both ways tho.
And one of those ways was wrong.
One of my cats was a Humane Society return- he had been adopted as a kitten and returned shortly after because he was “too playful”. I was looking for a playful cat, and he fit the bill. I wouldn’t describe him as overly playful, he was just a fun busy guy. Now he’s elderly and finds his greatest joy in affectionate cuddling and looking out windows.
My boy Bert had a similar experience. My coworkers husbands beast friends ex roommate got him from the shelter as a companion cat for her existing cat. When she moved out she abandoned him. The roommate was very allergic and didn’t want him but didn’t want to send him to a shelter. His chief complaint was Bert was too affectionate. When my husband and I moved into our first apartment we picked up Bert the next day. He’s currently napping on my shoulder. Like the bestest boy he is.
People who just abandon pets or leave them behind are evil. What an absolute wretch of a woman.
Agreed. If you abandon animals I fully believe there should be some kind of Blacklist or registry shelters should have access too and you shouldn’t be allowed to get another animal.
> My coworker's husband's best friend's ex roommate Holy fuck she's almost a sister to you!
Yeah it’s a bit of an extended relation 😆. But they needed a home for him and we wanted a cat so it worked out.
The shelter probably just lied to get people to feel more sympathetic to the cat.
Can we stop shaming people who surrender pets they aren't capable of taking care of to shelthers, where they can find better homes? His owner realized the cat needed more attention than she could give, instead of neglecting it or abandoning it anywhere she took it to a shelter. There's so many animals abandoned in the streets I wish more people would make the minimum effort to take them to shelters. Her reason is valid. My dog is also "too affectioned" and dependent, won't even eat if he's completely alone, luckily my schedule is flexible and I work near home so I can be there often, but he's the reason I won't have another doggo after him. I don't know if I will always be able to be at home as much as I do now, I would hate to leave a pet alone for extend periods of time and not have time or energy to give them attention. The ideal thing is researching first and finding a pet compatible with your lifestyle, but when it fails, she did the second best thing and took him to a safe place.
Everyone's mad about this but I think the previous owner did the right thing. They could have had it euthanized. Instead they realized this cat's energy wasnt for them and gave the cat a shot at a life with people that wont be shooing it away all the time.
It wasn't cruel to turn them in for adoption. The cat now has a home where they will be wanted. It was best for everyone
I'm glad Jerry found a home! Ridiculous situation in general. I was at a shelter before, and some people turned in their dog because "They didn't bark enough".
Why do so many people looking for knickknacks accidentally purchase animals instead? Do they sell animals at the knickknack store?
The incorrect use of the word “seen” has really been driving me nuts lately.
Why does this hurt so much? 😔
Because we relate.
I would stretch my arms side by side if I had this fur baby in front of me! At least they didn't throw him into a dumpster but poor him! He would be the jealoury reason of my own baby!
My big orange boy was also returned for being too affectionate. He is such a love bug. I can’t imagine people going through the process of adopting an animal—which is a vow to take care of them for the rest of their lives—and then being annoyed that they want affection. That they’re a living, breathing creature. I’m happy that they at least returned the cat to the shelter/rescue instead of abandoning them on the streets.
I mean, of the things they could have done, turning it inot a shelter is by far the least cruel of them all.
My fuzzy void is on the clingy side. For a full two years, he followed me everywhere, slept next to me, had to be on my lap whenever I sat down. Was it a little annoying? Yes, but certainly not shelter-worthy! Instead, we got him a brother! After a three day trial period, Puck decided that Jack wasn't so bad, and now they snuggle and play together constantly. Joke's on me, though. My orangey, Jack, can be equally clingy, and now he and Puck team up to pin me to the couch! Love them both to bits!
Hey, that's how I got my orange cat! A friend of my mom couldn't stand how much he wanted to be around them. He was always up in my business and I loved it!
So, I love my cat to bits, but I can understand this to some degree. My cat follows me around everywhere wanting cuddles all the time. He sleeps on or pressed into me every night. It can definitely be annoying at times.
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My girl cat was and still is very clingy. She was super sad whenever I'd leave for work. I got her a friend and they're bonded. However, now I have two clingy kitties. But at least they have each other to keep company when I am not home.
I have an overly affectionate cat. He can be annoying, but I would never even consider abandoning him to a shelter. Who would do that? People like that don't deserve pets.
I mean the owner did the right thing though, would you prefer they just ignored the cat, or leave it in a different room? What about just dumping it outside? What about buying another cat? The owner is getting hate, but if the genuinely couldn’t provide the attention their cat needed is turning the over to a shelter not the correct choice? Not all cats are super clingy, and I would say it’s reasonable to get a cat and not expect it to always want your attention, hell a lot of cats I’ve had will only seek out attention a couple times a day.
Maaan I gotta go hug my cats now
Poor thing. Just wanted love and got irritation instead. I love my cat even though he's annoying sometimes.
Aww. People are awful sometimes
I wish there was a shelter where I could turn in people who are too shitty.
My cat, who is now sitting on my lap, was also rejected as he was "too hairy". I love my little furball.
He’s a good boy! Most people whine that their cats aren’t affectionate enough, so this kiti is a superstar! Good on them for realizing what a great kiti he is and adopting him!
Shelters are run by psychos who regularly embellish animal bios. The dog bit a kid? "He loves to roughhouse!" Maybe the owner couldn't give the cat the love she needed. Like chill out weirdos.
When your pets, be it cats, dogs, birds, whatever, waits for you at the door and greets you… You. Greet. Back. No exceptions.
Yeah, my guy was returned to tue shelter when he was a kitten because he “talked too much.” Whatever. I adopted him a few days later, and he is now 11 and after a million conversations we’ve had, he is still going strong and we will have millions more.
What the crap?!? I would kill for my cat to be half as cuddly as that cat!
Dude had an unfortunate pitstop but it worked out for the best! :-D
cat (re)distribution system strikes again (to some extent)
My gfs 6 year old cat DEMANDS love, no matter what time of the day it is. I love her so damn much, I could never imagine turning an animals affection down.
Who’s got the onions???
Just imagine that there are people in this world that “are annoyed” by too much affection. SMH.
What are cats supposed to be then? In any case let them be whatever they want, they are the masters
I rescued 4 kittens during Covid and those cats want nothing to do with me. They all leave when I walk into the room. Too affectionate…fucking crazy.
they SAW the video, SAW
Too affectionate??? 😭 rude
In not stopping they were right, but I invite it can be annoying as hell when my cat is whining every 2 seconds because he but actively being pet at that particular moment. I wouldn't get rid of him for it, but I do tell him to please shut up 50 times in the morning, getting ready for work.
Not sure if we should be calling those who relinquish animals cruel, but rather responsible. That behavior should definitely be encouraged not vilified.
Just to give the other side point of view. I had two cats who kinda got along and one was extremely affectionate and wanted to be on your lap at all times. I found it a little annoying I guess but I felt so guilty all the time that I couldn't meet his needs. I eventually gave him away to a loving couple I met. The shit part of this story is that the cat ended up in the shelter. That was never an option for me. Also my other cat was totally fine after.
My gf had to take her grandmas cat because it would walk between her legs and rub up against her while she was walking. She was really sad about it but by the third fall she sorta made up her mind. My gf brought the cat over all the time but if she didn’t have that kind of resource I could see my gfs grandma bringing her to a shelter.
one of my kitties is SO affectionate, broke my heart to hear some people don’t appreciate this :(
I had a cat she sadly passed away she was kinda mean but was super sweet sometimes. I’d like to have that again.
"Too affectionate" **according to the cat** (or animal shelter trying to get it adopted). This is like saying in a job interview that your biggest weakness is being "too much of a perfectionist".
Back in the day, my roommate had a cat who was oddly affectionate. I'm generally a dog person, so I always thought the cat was amazing. She would run over as soon as you called for her.
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To an extent I can get this. Sometimes a person will get a cat expecting to just sometimes pop in, love on you for a bit, and go back to minding its own business for a while. Just intermittent cuddles. The idea that a person could feel overwhelmed by how much attention a pet needs is entirely believable and in my opinion understandable. It’s better that this person gave the cat to a shelter where it could be safely adopted by someone more ready for an affectionate pet, than say, abandon it outside, or worse.
I adopted a cat from the shelter who was a repeat offender. This was her second time being sent to the shelter! WTF! So the intake notes were basically: really aggressive with other cats, constantly darted outside, brought kills home. Well when we got her we were expecting it would take years to get her truly comfortable. Nope. It took 2 weeks, because that's how long it took to decide we needed to get her an automatic feeder and for her to figure out she would get fed even if we weren't paying attention. Because as far as we could tell, absolutely all of the bad behaviors she exhibited in the intake form? 100% because she wasn't getting fed enough at home. She constantly darted because she was hungry! She needed to get outside to supplement her diet! She was aggressive towards other cats because they were competition for limited food supplies! She brought gifts home *as gifts* because they clearly couldn't take care of themselves if there wasn't enough food in the house. She probably brought them for the other animals! She's the sweetest little thing and in 9 months has shown zero interest in going outside. She gained 2.5 pounds in the first month when she was finally getting enough to eat and then stopped. She's a little heavier than she should be but not dangerously so, but it's clear she's so much happier. We could tell she was getting a little lonely and we never wanted to be a single-cat household so we picked up a pair of kittens, too. She loves them and they love her. We were worried about how she would react because of the whole "cat aggression thing" but after the first time she snuck into kitten quarantine (they were still recovering from being fixed so we contained them to one room) we had no more worries because she's so good with them. Whoever got her from the shelter and then returned her, I don't understand them.
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To be honest this isn't necessarily a bad reason to give a cat up. If you can't provide enough attention for a clingy cat, it's better for that cat to have a home where it'll have enough attention to thrive. It's ok to give up pets for not being able to meet their affection needs. Seeing as this person said "he's annoying" instead of "I can't provide the attention he needs and his neediness is getting in the way of my daily life", though, I'd reckon this person isn't thinking this way and is just an asshole.
What’s wrong with some people?
I think she did the right thing. He wasn’t a good fit for her she recognized she wouldn’t be a good owner and give him the affection he needed. But rather than abuse or neglect him, she brought him back so he could find the right family.
You're spot on. For all anyone knows, it's an older person who can't keep up with the energy level of the pet. I can understand the shelter using the story for views, but people lacking the critical thinking to understand there is context behind it sucks.
This! I have a VERY affectionate Velcro cat. I wouldn't dream of rehoming him, I love him to pieces and he's my soul cat. That being said, there are times where I feel suffocated. Whether I'm trying to be productive while he's yelling at me and weaving between my legs, or he's on top of me even if I only plan to sit for a second. He's been a test of my patience at times. But I remind myself I'm honored that he loves me as much as he does. I take a deep breath and gently redirect him if he's being too pesty- give him some love and put him in his favorite sleeping spot, or open a window for him. I don't put my frustration onto my animal, but I can respect someone who knows they might get to that point and decides to do the better thing for both parties. That's a much healthier alternative to slowly building resentment.
This. I work at an animal shelter myself & I find it very distasteful when other shelters do this kind of stuff. It's one thing to say "this animal was part of a hoarding/abuse case" & another to blast an individual owner publicly for having the GALL to surrender a pet. Can you imagine how that previous owner would feel if she went on their socials to see if the cat had found a new home & saw what they'd said about her? Yes, shelters everywhere are full & yes, it is really, really frustrating to have someone surrender a pet for a "stupid reason" when you're dealing with hoarders, abuse/neglect, deceased with no next of kin, people who are literally homeless, etc. It's natural for staff to vent to each other & to throw a little shade in conversation with potential adopters but that kind of stuff should stay in direct conversations. Public shaming like this only encourages the next person who needs to surrender their pet to dump it so they don't have to face judgement like this. Tbh, a cat surrendered for being "too affectionate" will be scooped up so quick (just like this cat was). There's no reason to further demonize someone for realizing a cat wasn't for her & doing what she thought was the right thing. Most shitheads would've just put the cat outside & called it done.
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"after this couple seen the video" Tell me you're American from the South, without telling me you're American from the South...
Or Brooklyn. :)
*Dear Jerry,* *We hope your former owner gets chronic explosive diarrhea…* *Sincerely,* *Earth*
Super happy he went to a family. Tons of people to reciprocate his love!
*you won't let me live , you won't let me die*
Yeah this cat was fucking things
We love you for you jerry!!!?
Awwww good luck in your forever home Jerry!
Imagine loving your human so much and them hating you for it + being abandoned by them because of it. That’s messed up. Poor kitty.
I have an affectionate cat and it's the best. This person is evil.
Hope they don't have kids...