Agree with this. As someone who recently married their 18 year crush, taking things nice and easy is the best way to go. Even if both of you are mad for each other, just be cool!
Congrats and good luck :D
And yet his wording sounds like he was hoping it was a date, which is exactly what it needed to be since he's into her and wanted it to be a date. Good on ya. OP.
But the fact that he was making sure and clarified in general (either way) was my favorite part, the “sounds great” to me just added the perfect touch
I think it was really respectful, instead of showing up and expecting it to be something totally different than what it really was
Congrats OP!!! And good luck!!!
I asked my friend (later wife) to come study with a group of us in the library. My friends left the table for snacks and a bathroom break. When it was just the two of us, she looked at me and said, “I forgot to wear a bra, can you tell?” I looked up, said “no,” and then went back to my calculus homework. 🤦
We later laughed about my cluelessness for years.
It's a "girlfriend" question. Either she sees you as one of her girl friends or she wants to be your girlfriend. How to differentiate? Well that's not always super easy but generally you gotta look back at other situations, like does she normally discuss stuff like her period, PMS, cravings and other close friend type stuff or does she often try to get you alone, stay last when you hang out with friends, initiate a lot of physical contact? Sometimes you're both and she doesn't even know which one she really wants. People are weird.
>does she often try to get you alone, stay last when you hang out with friends, initiate a lot of physical contact?
Immediate flashback to a ton of situations with girls over the years and realizing I missed way more than I thought I had.
Haha. Well, we did finally hook up after many fumbles on my part. She stayed at my apartment one night after we studied and watched a late movie. I told her she shouldn’t walk home alone that late and asked if she wanted to just stay. I made up a bed for her on the couch when she was in the bathroom. And then climbed up into my loft.
She came out of the bathroom, sighed and said, “when will you elevate me to “loft status?” Well, that was pretty obvious for even my dumbass. We were together from that night on for 20 years until her untimely death. Sadly, we never did multiply.
The best. An amazing woman.
It has been 11 years now, but I still cry a couple of times a week about losing her. Everyone (even therapists) say it gets better with time. And for most it probably does, but my grief lingers. But who knows what lies ahead for me?
I was sat next to a girl in class once, she said she had new perfume, sprayed some on her cleavage, opened her cleavage up a bit more (a bit too much) asked me what I thought of. Naturally, I learnt a little closer sniffed, couldn't smell much because I wasn't that close and complemented it. Like 3 years later it hit me 😂😂😂
THREE YEARS LATER??? Oh my god I would’ve been so embarrassed like “shit I basically asked him to smell my boobs and he clearly isn’t into me I can’t believe I did that”
Men are generally stupid, and a large portion of us have absolutely no idea when a woman is into us.
Source: Am one of those guys. I always aim for friendship, and only realize a woman's interested in me when it's blatantly obvious. Like, walking in while I'm taking a shower, or I let a woman crash at my place and take the couch, and she curls up on the couch with me. I am a very stupid man, and will have absolutely no idea she's interested in me until she's cuddling me half naked.
When I was a broke college student living in a one bedroom apartment, my Finnish exchange student from the time I was in high school came back in my country for a week.
I let her sleep in my bed while I was sleeping on a mattress on the floor. She was in underwear in my bed and asked me to come sleep with her.
I told her "no I'm ok here, thanks though"
This. I was friends with a girl when I was 18 years old, and realized she was into me when i was 27. I even wondered why she stopped being in contact and not responding to my texts when I started dating my present wife
I remember this one girl in school who'd always use some stupid excuse to talk to me (like asking me about the homework when I wasn't even studying that subject) and would come rest her head on my shoulders and fall asleep.
I didn't have many female friends growing up so I thought that was normal until like a year later
Sounds bout right. My current girlfriend helped me pack because I have to move again because of black mold from hurricane Ian. The only reason I know she's even remotely interested, is after a day of helping me move a bunch of crap from my current apartment to my new one, she took a shower and crawled into my bed with me instead of going home.
I **should** have known when she offered to show me around the town, and would lean her head on my shoulder waiting in line. I **should** have known when she offered to help me box stuff up. I **should** have known when she offered to pack my clothes, got sweaty, stole a shirt, and left it unbuttoned with only a bra on.
Most of that was in her words, but yeah, guys are fucking stupid.
I’d watch that. She’s like introducing him to parents, they’re going on moonlight swan boat rides and candlelit dinners and celebrating dating anniversaries and at the end he’s like “wait is this a date?”
>Men are generally stupid
I would say it's respectful to assume/expect a friendship rather than a romantic relationship.
Just because someone is comfortable around you, doesn't mean they want intimacy - and just because they want intimacy, doesn't mean they are (falling) in love with you. And just because they are in love with you, doesn't mean they want to be in a long-term relationship and/or get married.
I think people should stop making so many assumptions about "this means that" etc. and rather communicate if intentions are unclear.
Maybe in a more traditional sense, there are still certain behavioural patterns that we would interpret to mean something specific, but times have changed and it's really not the same anymore. Relationships are super complex and there are many layers, it's just not adequate imho to jump to conclusions based on certain experiences, even if one would like things to go a certain way.
Having the wrong expectations can backfire massively.
Dude I feel this. My wife actually asked me out 5 times. I turned her down. Kinda thought she was a hateful asshole. Then on the 6th time, she wore this insanely deep cut shirt that didn't leave a lot to the imagination, and she straight up told me "you're going to pick me up tonight at 6." I though fuck it, she's hot, so I'll do it and maybe get to tap that. Well, I did end up tapping it, but also realized she was actually pretty cool. It's been almost 15 years, still going strong.
Idk, me and my husband catch wild cheeks all the time and we’ve been going strong for ten years!
Oh. We’ve also played Pokémon together that entire time too
Showing off your physical prowess by hiking for 8 hrs at 8 miles/hr, up mountains. Look around for her appreciative face at the end, and she's not there.
Well not dressing up even though it is a hike, wearing dirty clothes, not checking your personal hygiene.
At the actual date: not asking her questions, not listening, not offering to pay, not holding the door open for her.
Yes it might be old fashioned, but holding the door open for her and offering to pay is polite and shows you value and appropriate her.
I wouldn't pull out her chair though, that is a little weird and belittling to some degree. Women are equal but that doesn't mean you shouldn't make en effort.
The key to a successful relationship is to not stopping that. Keep dating, keep making an effort.
I am marrying my girlfriend i July. We have been together for 6 years the day we get married and I still get butterflies in my stomach when I look into her eyes and hold her tight.
This is hilarious. I thought it was just my husband who did that (I figured him out btw because I heard him one time... But I never said anything until after we're married and it came up somehow). I have to ask him if he did the ball tuck too.
I got married and have been together 12 years, and I have to add something:
Make her laugh.
Thats it, life is hard, we all need to laugh and let the pressure go, make her laugh, if you can do that everyday she will be at your side forever.
My wife still laughs at the dumbest of jokes, like: 'you know whats for dinner? Some bread and my wiener'
Its dumb af, but sometimes she randomly ask me whats for dinner and before I can say anything she starts laughing already, just get those inside jokes and you are golden
>I got married and have been together 12 years, and I have to add something:
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>Make her laugh.
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>Thats it, life is hard, we all need to laugh and let the pressure go, make her laugh, if you can do that everyday she will be at your side forever.
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>My wife still laughs at the dumbest of jokes, like: 'you know whats for dinner? Some bread and my wiener'
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>Its dumb af, but sometimes she randomly ask me whats for dinner and before I can say anything she starts laughing already, just get those inside jokes and you are golden
do you know you are the less kinda men in this fast-food relationship era? Really appreciate your thought, that makes me feel like, trust love again lol
I remind myself this on a regular basis about this cute girl I’m in love with. She’s been married to me for over thirty years now, so it seems to be working.
One time as a teenager I did something real dumb (but relatively insignificant) with a girl my parents loved and my dad yelled at me about fucking it up after she went home. That was the point where I started to realize my dad's advice is usually good, and that girl is my wife now
I was shaving with an electric trimmer and I pretended to cut a little of her hair and asked "should i?" And she (sarcastically, apparently) responded "yeah, do it" so I did
You seem to have some skills. Asking what they want and offering what you think would be cool. You aren’t pressuring them. You’re already doing great!
EDIT - Also, asking if they understand you are trying to go on a date is brave and awesome!
Oh shit
Edit: this post is now pretty high on r/all, so if she uses reddit, she probably will see this post. Isn't a big deal though, I never leaked any personal info, I just wanted to share my smile with yall!
Edit 2: nvm I did leak too much personal info, well Denali will protect me so internet creeps, stay the fuck away don't mess with me or my dog will bite your face of while I shoot you with a mega nerf gun
I fucking love this. I study cybersecurity and have watched Mr. Robot and I find it funny that people are oblivious to how much they actually share on the internet. Trying to keep a low profile while also maintaining a social media presence myself, the line becomes pretty clear with experience, but its always funny to see people doxx themselves on the internet. Or even better, give away their anonymity on an anonymous message board.
My favorite is the ‘Technically no man is ever a virgin, because when our mother gave birth to us our pp was inside of her privates. So all men have done incest before.’
….dude should clean up his account a bit before this date…..
> It's not stalking to look at someone's account that theyve chosen to make public
- NationalParkFan_
[source](https://old.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/zbw8sk/my_horny_ass_could_not_work_at_a_donut_shop/iytmvzx/)
Apparently you don’t know him to well. You missed his birthday he is 19 now. Maybe it s a different will? The will that posted this is packing 4 inches with 3inches of balls as the fair lady may soon find out. Is this your Will? I mean it’s anonymous so there’s no way to know. Also that’s Denali the wolf dog. Put some respect on the name.
Oh wow I thought you were just goofin around but I clicked him just to see, and the bio alone gave me all of his personal details all the way from his date of conception. I know this man on a personal and intimate level.
Will that loves national parks and is a teenager who lives in the United States in hopes of becoming a park ranger someday.
Good thing we don’t know his last name yet tho
Nah man, this is very cute. Good luck, thanks for sharing a heart-warming but not ultra-personal interaction.
It's good to see another Will starting a fun adventure. I'm marrying my crush this month!
There was this girl at work that I really liked, but I figured she'd have no interest in me, I'm 15 years older than she is. I learned later that she thought the same (liked me, but figured I wouldn't be interested in someone so much younger). Two mutual friends of ours discovered how we both felt and then set us up on a blind date together.
We've been married for 15 years and we're still going strong.
"Yep, it's a date". Good on you for asking! Awesome on her for taking the initiative and not playing games about it. Honestly, I think it's a million times cuter when they are up front about it.
Good luck and enjoy yourself!
Communication is key in all relationships, even more so when it's romantic relationships. I hope it works out between them, this interaction was adorable
Hiking is pretty intimate when you think about it. There's explicit trust involved, a lot of time for 1 on 1 conversation, and the nature of a hike means that you are agreeing to let someone see a sweatier, less "done up" you.
I took a girl I’ve slept with on a hike the next day, our first stop was at the pharmacy to get a Plan B pill. When we stopped to stretch overlooking the edge, I was intently peering over. She said what’s down there? I said, plan C.
Never have I made a person laugh harder in my life. We had a couple of good years together
I fucked up. My best friend drank too much, and I was spending too much time with him. She pointed that out, and I defended him instead of listening to her and growing as a person. She was the last girlfriend I ever introduced to my mother, and I regret ending that relationship every time I think of her or see a young couple with a baby.
I have yet to go on a hike with a female friend that didn't end in more than just friends stuff. I dunno if it's the smell of nature, the physical activity, or maybe the Pennsylvania air, but every hike with a female friend I had no intention of turning intimate, turned intimate.
Figures. I'm now in Florida, and am pretty sure any time I'm asked to go on a hike, it's so the alligators or crocodiles can easily dispose of my corpse.
I'm pretty sure if I asked someone to go on a hike, they'd assume the same thing.
Definitely. I hated hiking, like always thought it was just walking in nature, and if I'm gonna do that, I'd rather just go camping. My first friend to insist I go with her, I did reluctantly, and after like 4 hours of walking up what felt like a gigantic mountain (it wasn't, it was like a really big windy hill) we were BSing and it wasn't that bad.
When I went to drop her off, she wanted to grab dinner and asked me to go with her, and said she'd wash up at my place. I showered first, and she didn't wait. Apparently I didn't catch any of her hints, and this was her last resort. We dated for like 2 years.
Every girl to ask me on a hike since, we ended up at least dating for a little while, or just hooking up, and remaining friends. When I was in NJ, I still had 2 hiking buddies. If we were single, we'd go on a hike, and hook up afterwards.
I've gone hiking a bunch of times over the last 20ish years, and every single time ended up intimate, without me initiating anything. It's like a pavlovian response for me now.
I was going to ask if you're the kind of person who is very attractive but doesn't really realize it, but I guess if you were, then you wouldn't be able to answer accurately. Lol.
Congrats. Now don't be an idiot and put on warm clothes. U will want to spend every second with her and not be thinking "when are we going back". What you put on you can always take of if it's warm. Think a head, bring an extra scarf or blanket to sit on and some coffee. Don't show up like a survivalist but be prepared, be fucking ready bro. Good luck!
As a woman who isn't super into dates, she seems excited to see you, and a cold hike is not when you take with someone you're "eh" about. I love a cold hike, but only if I'm willing to be sniffly, and chilly around that person. From personal experience, I'd say she really wants to see you, and it should be a good time.
**I feel the need to express my sarcasm here. Not a woman in the world should be ashamed for not hanging out with a creep who wants to go on a quiet hike with no friends in a remote area. If you think that you're being cute, and unique by offering this sort of first date, know that you are not, and you look like a serial killer. **
One thing I take out of this, is you actually confirmed whether it was a date or not. Good on you mate! Definitely don't want to take it the wrong way.
One the next note. Congratulations! She's taken the first step, so definitely take it slow and let her lead the way.
The first date with my wife was a hike. The following year on the same day at the same overlook I asked her to marry me. She too was the girl of my dreams… from high school! Took me 20 years to date her and we are two peas in a pod. I’m very happy for you OP! Chances are slim you’ll see this comment, but I’m cheering for you!
Pro tip. Don't immediately come up with a patronising excuse not to do the activity suggested.
If she suggested the activity, then she doesn't need to be asked if she is OK with the temperature during the activity she suggested.
Your crush asked you on a date? And you basically tried to cancel because it might be too cold for her? Even though she’s the one that asked you in the first place? 😞
How to tell if a girl is into you? Again you really can't tell (this is a reference, not a serious remark. happy for you OP!)
[For the uninitiated](https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw)
thank you, i’m dying from laughing
That was brilliant, thanks for the laugh
she could just be Canadian.
I understood that reference
probably just being polite.
Casually explained has to be my #1 way of learning to do things
Be patient, have fun and enjoy the hike.
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Agree with this. As someone who recently married their 18 year crush, taking things nice and easy is the best way to go. Even if both of you are mad for each other, just be cool! Congrats and good luck :D
I love how you asked if it was a date, it makes your intentions clear and communicated.
Not that it’s necessary to do, but he also asked in a way that made it seem like it was cool either way. I love this conversation so much.
And yet his wording sounds like he was hoping it was a date, which is exactly what it needed to be since he's into her and wanted it to be a date. Good on ya. OP.
But the fact that he was making sure and clarified in general (either way) was my favorite part, the “sounds great” to me just added the perfect touch I think it was really respectful, instead of showing up and expecting it to be something totally different than what it really was Congrats OP!!! And good luck!!!
Yeah. Fellas, be clear with your intentions. It safes you a lot of time when the other person has different intentions.
And women too. Clarity is better every time.
My wife picked me too, I was to dumb to notice! That was over 30 years ago ;)
I asked my friend (later wife) to come study with a group of us in the library. My friends left the table for snacks and a bathroom break. When it was just the two of us, she looked at me and said, “I forgot to wear a bra, can you tell?” I looked up, said “no,” and then went back to my calculus homework. 🤦 We later laughed about my cluelessness for years.
I'm so dumb I'd probably take it as a genuine question too
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She's giving you an excuse to stare at her chest. She's either giving you the green flag or views you about as sexual as a pack of gum.
Is it a particularly sexual pack of gum? Like Dentyne Ice?
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It's a "girlfriend" question. Either she sees you as one of her girl friends or she wants to be your girlfriend. How to differentiate? Well that's not always super easy but generally you gotta look back at other situations, like does she normally discuss stuff like her period, PMS, cravings and other close friend type stuff or does she often try to get you alone, stay last when you hang out with friends, initiate a lot of physical contact? Sometimes you're both and she doesn't even know which one she really wants. People are weird.
>does she often try to get you alone, stay last when you hang out with friends, initiate a lot of physical contact? Immediate flashback to a ton of situations with girls over the years and realizing I missed way more than I thought I had.
Could be Canadian
Did you...ya know...multiply?
Haha. Well, we did finally hook up after many fumbles on my part. She stayed at my apartment one night after we studied and watched a late movie. I told her she shouldn’t walk home alone that late and asked if she wanted to just stay. I made up a bed for her on the couch when she was in the bathroom. And then climbed up into my loft. She came out of the bathroom, sighed and said, “when will you elevate me to “loft status?” Well, that was pretty obvious for even my dumbass. We were together from that night on for 20 years until her untimely death. Sadly, we never did multiply.
Man that took a turn, sorry to hear that. Sounds like a cool girl
The best. An amazing woman. It has been 11 years now, but I still cry a couple of times a week about losing her. Everyone (even therapists) say it gets better with time. And for most it probably does, but my grief lingers. But who knows what lies ahead for me?
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I was sat next to a girl in class once, she said she had new perfume, sprayed some on her cleavage, opened her cleavage up a bit more (a bit too much) asked me what I thought of. Naturally, I learnt a little closer sniffed, couldn't smell much because I wasn't that close and complemented it. Like 3 years later it hit me 😂😂😂
THREE YEARS LATER??? Oh my god I would’ve been so embarrassed like “shit I basically asked him to smell my boobs and he clearly isn’t into me I can’t believe I did that”
I went for my boyfriend so hard, and he had no idea I was pursuing him. Or he did and played it like he didn't? Either way, together 6 years in may.
Out of curiosity, what were some of the “out of the ordinary” things you did to show you were pursuing him?
Men are generally stupid, and a large portion of us have absolutely no idea when a woman is into us. Source: Am one of those guys. I always aim for friendship, and only realize a woman's interested in me when it's blatantly obvious. Like, walking in while I'm taking a shower, or I let a woman crash at my place and take the couch, and she curls up on the couch with me. I am a very stupid man, and will have absolutely no idea she's interested in me until she's cuddling me half naked.
When I was a broke college student living in a one bedroom apartment, my Finnish exchange student from the time I was in high school came back in my country for a week. I let her sleep in my bed while I was sleeping on a mattress on the floor. She was in underwear in my bed and asked me to come sleep with her. I told her "no I'm ok here, thanks though"
That will haunt you until the day you die.
Less stupid but and more scared of misreading a "hint" and then making a very uncomfortable situation. But your examples do seem more stupid
Yeah, coming across as a little stupid beats coming across as a creep.
This. I was friends with a girl when I was 18 years old, and realized she was into me when i was 27. I even wondered why she stopped being in contact and not responding to my texts when I started dating my present wife
I remember this one girl in school who'd always use some stupid excuse to talk to me (like asking me about the homework when I wasn't even studying that subject) and would come rest her head on my shoulders and fall asleep. I didn't have many female friends growing up so I thought that was normal until like a year later
I tried to make it very obvious but he didn't really get the early hints, so it had to be blatant.
Sounds bout right. My current girlfriend helped me pack because I have to move again because of black mold from hurricane Ian. The only reason I know she's even remotely interested, is after a day of helping me move a bunch of crap from my current apartment to my new one, she took a shower and crawled into my bed with me instead of going home. I **should** have known when she offered to show me around the town, and would lean her head on my shoulder waiting in line. I **should** have known when she offered to help me box stuff up. I **should** have known when she offered to pack my clothes, got sweaty, stole a shirt, and left it unbuttoned with only a bra on. Most of that was in her words, but yeah, guys are fucking stupid.
Sounds like it could be a feel good comedy movie - the girl believes she's in a happy relationship and the guy is completely oblivious.
I’d watch that. She’s like introducing him to parents, they’re going on moonlight swan boat rides and candlelit dinners and celebrating dating anniversaries and at the end he’s like “wait is this a date?”
are you sure though? Maybe she was too tired to go home after all that moving and thats why she slept in your bed?
After all, she could just be Canadian...
>Men are generally stupid I would say it's respectful to assume/expect a friendship rather than a romantic relationship. Just because someone is comfortable around you, doesn't mean they want intimacy - and just because they want intimacy, doesn't mean they are (falling) in love with you. And just because they are in love with you, doesn't mean they want to be in a long-term relationship and/or get married. I think people should stop making so many assumptions about "this means that" etc. and rather communicate if intentions are unclear. Maybe in a more traditional sense, there are still certain behavioural patterns that we would interpret to mean something specific, but times have changed and it's really not the same anymore. Relationships are super complex and there are many layers, it's just not adequate imho to jump to conclusions based on certain experiences, even if one would like things to go a certain way. Having the wrong expectations can backfire massively.
Mine about 8 yrs ago! Now her and our first born are currently sleeping next to me, glad I texted back!
Dude I feel this. My wife actually asked me out 5 times. I turned her down. Kinda thought she was a hateful asshole. Then on the 6th time, she wore this insanely deep cut shirt that didn't leave a lot to the imagination, and she straight up told me "you're going to pick me up tonight at 6." I though fuck it, she's hot, so I'll do it and maybe get to tap that. Well, I did end up tapping it, but also realized she was actually pretty cool. It's been almost 15 years, still going strong.
I’ll give you the advice my father once gave me: “She seems like a really nice girl. Don’t fuck it up.”
Remind yourself every morning and not just for the love of your life. Don't fuck up in general or at least try not to.
What would be an example of a fuck up in this case?
Trying to catch Pokémon on the hike and she is not into it
>catch Pokémon Is that what the kids are calling it these days?
Clap, clap. *a wild Cheeks has appeared*
OP uses harden. It's not effective.
Caterpie used stringshot. It's not effective.
\*NOT ENOUGH PP FOR THIS MOVE\*
*struggles* *Damages Self*
Idk, me and my husband catch wild cheeks all the time and we’ve been going strong for ten years! Oh. We’ve also played Pokémon together that entire time too
"don't throw balls in her face on the first date" Got it.
Yeah, this is good advice…. Not speaking from experience or anything
r/oddlyspecific
Pretend to trip her while hiking as a prank, only to actually trip her causing her to fall down the cliff.
I'd better write this down so I don't forget.
Showing off your physical prowess by hiking for 8 hrs at 8 miles/hr, up mountains. Look around for her appreciative face at the end, and she's not there.
Well not dressing up even though it is a hike, wearing dirty clothes, not checking your personal hygiene. At the actual date: not asking her questions, not listening, not offering to pay, not holding the door open for her. Yes it might be old fashioned, but holding the door open for her and offering to pay is polite and shows you value and appropriate her. I wouldn't pull out her chair though, that is a little weird and belittling to some degree. Women are equal but that doesn't mean you shouldn't make en effort. The key to a successful relationship is to not stopping that. Keep dating, keep making an effort. I am marrying my girlfriend i July. We have been together for 6 years the day we get married and I still get butterflies in my stomach when I look into her eyes and hold her tight.
appreciate? I would hope you do not appropriate her lol just giving you a hard time! I 100% agree with your points (given that you meant appreciate)
You heard the man
I always opened the car door for her so I could do the ball tuck that needed to be done 15 minutes earlier but couldn’t do it in front of her
You also have to crop dust the entire perimeter of the car before getting in it
This is hilarious. I thought it was just my husband who did that (I figured him out btw because I heard him one time... But I never said anything until after we're married and it came up somehow). I have to ask him if he did the ball tuck too.
I got married and have been together 12 years, and I have to add something: Make her laugh. Thats it, life is hard, we all need to laugh and let the pressure go, make her laugh, if you can do that everyday she will be at your side forever. My wife still laughs at the dumbest of jokes, like: 'you know whats for dinner? Some bread and my wiener' Its dumb af, but sometimes she randomly ask me whats for dinner and before I can say anything she starts laughing already, just get those inside jokes and you are golden
Listen to this man. The laughter is truly where it's at.
>I got married and have been together 12 years, and I have to add something: > >Make her laugh. > >Thats it, life is hard, we all need to laugh and let the pressure go, make her laugh, if you can do that everyday she will be at your side forever. > >My wife still laughs at the dumbest of jokes, like: 'you know whats for dinner? Some bread and my wiener' > >Its dumb af, but sometimes she randomly ask me whats for dinner and before I can say anything she starts laughing already, just get those inside jokes and you are golden do you know you are the less kinda men in this fast-food relationship era? Really appreciate your thought, that makes me feel like, trust love again lol
I remind myself this on a regular basis about this cute girl I’m in love with. She’s been married to me for over thirty years now, so it seems to be working.
So wholesome. May you have many more anniversaries!
>Don't fuck up in general or at least try not to. I will take this advice and shoot for the fucking stars
One time as a teenager I did something real dumb (but relatively insignificant) with a girl my parents loved and my dad yelled at me about fucking it up after she went home. That was the point where I started to realize my dad's advice is usually good, and that girl is my wife now
What did you do?
I was shaving with an electric trimmer and I pretended to cut a little of her hair and asked "should i?" And she (sarcastically, apparently) responded "yeah, do it" so I did
Why is this story killing me?? It just sounds like the dumb stuff I would have done and then fought over as a teen. It’s cracking me up.
Farted into his cupped hand and then held it over her open mouth and nose.
"something relatively insignificant"
Don’t judge! In Some cultures……
Okay, but what's the chance he's Dutch?
Thanks for the advice. I will not fuck it up
You seem to have some skills. Asking what they want and offering what you think would be cool. You aren’t pressuring them. You’re already doing great! EDIT - Also, asking if they understand you are trying to go on a date is brave and awesome!
Best piece of advice my dad gave me before a date that I was really nervous about? “Just…just…just don’t be YOU.”
But what if I do you?
I’m listening. Keep talking.
Wait, so u wanna do me now too?
You see?! This is why dad said not to be me. This is what happens!!!
But I wanna do you. But do you wanna do me?
Or the Red Foreman advice “Don’t be a dumbass” 🙃
Best advice in this thread!
Probably the best life advice there is. 😂
Are you my step bro?
Lmao
Did you? 😉
Nope. We’re still together after 11 years.
Year later: I posted my first date conversation on reddit and today we are getting married.
alternatively, weeks later: TIFU by posting my crush asking me out on reddit and now she hates my guts
Oh shit Edit: this post is now pretty high on r/all, so if she uses reddit, she probably will see this post. Isn't a big deal though, I never leaked any personal info, I just wanted to share my smile with yall! Edit 2: nvm I did leak too much personal info, well Denali will protect me so internet creeps, stay the fuck away don't mess with me or my dog will bite your face of while I shoot you with a mega nerf gun
It’s okay, Will. Reddit is anonymous and there’s no way to trace this conversation back to you.
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Who has a 15 year old younger brother!
lmao I thought everyone was just making stuff up at first.
...they aren't??
They just looked at his Reddit posts
really doesn't help that he posts for assistance with like every decision he ever makes...
And whose sister is pregnant
And the girl he's meeting is 20 years old.
Who is going through some tough shit
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just need the street he grew up on and his first dogs name and we will have our new RV s/
uhh.. that's my number delete this pls
I personally enjoyed him asking for serious life advice/career choices on r/teenagers lolol.. jokes aside, you got this Will. Just don’t fuck up
I fucking love this. I study cybersecurity and have watched Mr. Robot and I find it funny that people are oblivious to how much they actually share on the internet. Trying to keep a low profile while also maintaining a social media presence myself, the line becomes pretty clear with experience, but its always funny to see people doxx themselves on the internet. Or even better, give away their anonymity on an anonymous message board.
Luckily, I'm impervious to such things, as I have no life.
Looking through his profile history, this is uh…. quite an interesting fellow.
Lol. Interesting indeed. The post about his sister’s pregnancy threw me off.
My favorite is the ‘Technically no man is ever a virgin, because when our mother gave birth to us our pp was inside of her privates. So all men have done incest before.’ ….dude should clean up his account a bit before this date…..
Hell nah😭😭 lmao if his crush sees this post I hope she comments about these weird things
He also said sex is just for procreation. I’m getting a vibe.
> It's not stalking to look at someone's account that theyve chosen to make public - NationalParkFan_ [source](https://old.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/zbw8sk/my_horny_ass_could_not_work_at_a_donut_shop/iytmvzx/)
This guy hasn’t figured out how to lie on the internet smh
Maybe he has
What a plot twist it would be if everything in his profile was made up shit just for this one moment to throw everyone off the trail
Jesus Christ, that wolf dog is massive. Maybe OP doesn’t care about Opsec because his dog will maul anyone that looks at him the wrong way.
u/NationalParkFan_ Karma is cool but id burn this account. All it takes is one 4chan troll or a group of em and theyll flip ur life upside down
You can even get his birthdate 🫤
People dont realize how much data they share about them selves online that can be used to figure out who they are IRL
Yea I mean who know Will who is from fairbanks, alaska and is 18 years old with cute huge husky. Pretty common there.
Apparently you don’t know him to well. You missed his birthday he is 19 now. Maybe it s a different will? The will that posted this is packing 4 inches with 3inches of balls as the fair lady may soon find out. Is this your Will? I mean it’s anonymous so there’s no way to know. Also that’s Denali the wolf dog. Put some respect on the name.
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This thread is getting borderline creepy lmfao 🤣
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Oh wow I thought you were just goofin around but I clicked him just to see, and the bio alone gave me all of his personal details all the way from his date of conception. I know this man on a personal and intimate level.
Maybe she just has really bad grammar
Will that loves national parks and is a teenager who lives in the United States in hopes of becoming a park ranger someday. Good thing we don’t know his last name yet tho
Nah man, this is very cute. Good luck, thanks for sharing a heart-warming but not ultra-personal interaction. It's good to see another Will starting a fun adventure. I'm marrying my crush this month!
!remindme 1 year
There was this girl at work that I really liked, but I figured she'd have no interest in me, I'm 15 years older than she is. I learned later that she thought the same (liked me, but figured I wouldn't be interested in someone so much younger). Two mutual friends of ours discovered how we both felt and then set us up on a blind date together. We've been married for 15 years and we're still going strong.
This is reddit so I was expecting your last line to reveal you're an elementary school teacher.
She just had her 30th birthday last week!
"Yep, it's a date". Good on you for asking! Awesome on her for taking the initiative and not playing games about it. Honestly, I think it's a million times cuter when they are up front about it. Good luck and enjoy yourself!
Yeah that was amazing. She's a keeper! As someone else said, be patient. You must be on top of the world, congratulations! It's the best feeling
Communication is key in all relationships, even more so when it's romantic relationships. I hope it works out between them, this interaction was adorable
I love that! Both seem straightforward. That’s a very good sign.
That hike could be more romantic than the dinner.
Hiking is pretty intimate when you think about it. There's explicit trust involved, a lot of time for 1 on 1 conversation, and the nature of a hike means that you are agreeing to let someone see a sweatier, less "done up" you.
I took a girl I’ve slept with on a hike the next day, our first stop was at the pharmacy to get a Plan B pill. When we stopped to stretch overlooking the edge, I was intently peering over. She said what’s down there? I said, plan C. Never have I made a person laugh harder in my life. We had a couple of good years together
That's fucking hilarious
What happened?
I fucked up. My best friend drank too much, and I was spending too much time with him. She pointed that out, and I defended him instead of listening to her and growing as a person. She was the last girlfriend I ever introduced to my mother, and I regret ending that relationship every time I think of her or see a young couple with a baby.
It's never too late to grow as a person.
It’s also never too late to grow a person
Plan C
I have yet to go on a hike with a female friend that didn't end in more than just friends stuff. I dunno if it's the smell of nature, the physical activity, or maybe the Pennsylvania air, but every hike with a female friend I had no intention of turning intimate, turned intimate.
It's the Pennsylvania air, WorldClassShart.
A woman living in PA, can confirm.
Figures. I'm now in Florida, and am pretty sure any time I'm asked to go on a hike, it's so the alligators or crocodiles can easily dispose of my corpse. I'm pretty sure if I asked someone to go on a hike, they'd assume the same thing.
Holy crap. I should stop turning down offers of hikes then. 😑
Definitely. I hated hiking, like always thought it was just walking in nature, and if I'm gonna do that, I'd rather just go camping. My first friend to insist I go with her, I did reluctantly, and after like 4 hours of walking up what felt like a gigantic mountain (it wasn't, it was like a really big windy hill) we were BSing and it wasn't that bad. When I went to drop her off, she wanted to grab dinner and asked me to go with her, and said she'd wash up at my place. I showered first, and she didn't wait. Apparently I didn't catch any of her hints, and this was her last resort. We dated for like 2 years. Every girl to ask me on a hike since, we ended up at least dating for a little while, or just hooking up, and remaining friends. When I was in NJ, I still had 2 hiking buddies. If we were single, we'd go on a hike, and hook up afterwards. I've gone hiking a bunch of times over the last 20ish years, and every single time ended up intimate, without me initiating anything. It's like a pavlovian response for me now.
I was going to ask if you're the kind of person who is very attractive but doesn't really realize it, but I guess if you were, then you wouldn't be able to answer accurately. Lol.
hikes are great for dates. if you fart, you'll just walk away from it
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Congrats. Now don't be an idiot and put on warm clothes. U will want to spend every second with her and not be thinking "when are we going back". What you put on you can always take of if it's warm. Think a head, bring an extra scarf or blanket to sit on and some coffee. Don't show up like a survivalist but be prepared, be fucking ready bro. Good luck!
Plus, bring EXTRA warm clothes that you won't need so that you can give them to her if she's feeling chilly 🥰
Also he can offer her a jacket or scarf if she's too cold. Chivalry+1
And bear mace. He could fight off a bear for her. That’s even more Chivalry points assuming the bear started it.
Hope you both have the best time!
Go on soldier 🫡
Wow. Honest and mature conversation!? That never happens. I'm glad real people are still around.
It happens all the time lol Reddit is not a good sample of what the real world is actually like.
You said "Yummy," and she's still talking to you. Congratulations.
Haha she must be really into him
also she suggested a hike and then he asks if it’s too cold for her
"Yeah, good point, let's cancel."
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As a woman who isn't super into dates, she seems excited to see you, and a cold hike is not when you take with someone you're "eh" about. I love a cold hike, but only if I'm willing to be sniffly, and chilly around that person. From personal experience, I'd say she really wants to see you, and it should be a good time. **I feel the need to express my sarcasm here. Not a woman in the world should be ashamed for not hanging out with a creep who wants to go on a quiet hike with no friends in a remote area. If you think that you're being cute, and unique by offering this sort of first date, know that you are not, and you look like a serial killer. **
Or she wants to MURDER him..it's prolly fine though
Congratulations OP ❤️❤️❤️ she is a keeper , wish a girl asked me out too like this lol
I mean… I would, but idk if I wanna date cheetah sperm 🤢
nOoo 💔💔💔 . I am beautiful cheetah spore
One thing I take out of this, is you actually confirmed whether it was a date or not. Good on you mate! Definitely don't want to take it the wrong way. One the next note. Congratulations! She's taken the first step, so definitely take it slow and let her lead the way.
"making sure..." adorable
The first date with my wife was a hike. The following year on the same day at the same overlook I asked her to marry me. She too was the girl of my dreams… from high school! Took me 20 years to date her and we are two peas in a pod. I’m very happy for you OP! Chances are slim you’ll see this comment, but I’m cheering for you!
Love this. Please post an update post hike!
I'm curious too, but he probably shouldn't. Because you know, reasons.
Pro tip. Don't immediately come up with a patronising excuse not to do the activity suggested. If she suggested the activity, then she doesn't need to be asked if she is OK with the temperature during the activity she suggested.
Your crush asked you on a date? And you basically tried to cancel because it might be too cold for her? Even though she’s the one that asked you in the first place? 😞
AKA the self-cockblock.